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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So...I suffer from anxiety and all that crap. Ive been medicated for as long as I remember.
Im now 3 weeks drug free and jeeeeeez emotions are mental eh? I appreciate people dont normally get the extreme swings I am just now but how on earth do you cope?
Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing  |
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By *eek12Man
over a year ago
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I'm coming off my meds now and can tell the difference just from lowering my dosage. Suddenly realized I've been a robot and now I almost get overwhelmed...just take deep breaths to stay calm but yes I feel your pain with this, so frustrating.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well done OP. Sounds like a hard slog to get where you are.
I'm pretty serene emotionally. However I like to absorb all the crap hands I'm dealt. I can stack it up for ages. Then boom! Mad Mac breaks out and breaks stuff up whilst screaming blue murder. It lasts maybe 10 minutes tops. Then the sky goes blue, the angels sing and all is good again for another awfully long time.
The kid calls it Schizomama. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm coming off my meds now and can tell the difference just from lowering my dosage. Suddenly realized I've been a robot and now I almost get overwhelmed...just take deep breaths to stay calm but yes I feel your pain with this, so frustrating. "
Yeah! Its been REALLY hard but so worth it. Keep going too. The alive feeling is incredible x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well done OP. Sounds like a hard slog to get where you are.
I'm pretty serene emotionally. However I like to absorb all the crap hands I'm dealt. I can stack it up for ages. Then boom! Mad Mac breaks out and breaks stuff up whilst screaming blue murder. It lasts maybe 10 minutes tops. Then the sky goes blue, the angels sing and all is good again for another awfully long time.
The kid calls it Schizomama. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone has some insecurity or something they're not 100% happy with, you learn to deal with it and focus on the positives.
Heard this once and it's true. If a negative thought comes along that causes you concern you will feel it and sometimes respond to it immediately with fear or concern or stress or ainilar. Coping mechanism is dislodge that initial feeling, because another thought about it will always be along in a minute and it might be completely different/more positive.
This happens more often that not. In short don't run away with your feelings. Acknowledge it, park it, another will be along in a minute.
Well donw for coming off the meds! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You are more normal than you probably give yourself credit for. Anxiety effects many in different ways and to some extend, actually makes you a stronger person because at some point you have to deal with the anxiety and carry on ... that little victory builds new pathways in the brain and can lead to strengthened resolve. My eldest son has it and it has upset me seeing how little things have got to him and controlled him.
I myself have my own little black bear to deal with and sometimes all I can do I shut myself from everything and everyone.
So, give yourself a pat on the back and when you have a bad day pat a little harder. I'm sure people with such afflictions are meant to show those that are weaker their own strength of mind. As for love, don't we all fall in and out of love at the drop of a hat |
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By *eek12Man
over a year ago
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"I'm coming off my meds now and can tell the difference just from lowering my dosage. Suddenly realized I've been a robot and now I almost get overwhelmed...just take deep breaths to stay calm but yes I feel your pain with this, so frustrating.
Yeah! Its been REALLY hard but so worth it. Keep going too. The alive feeling is incredible x"
As much as some would like us to function like robots after being one and coming back I appreciate the emotions so much more. I may get overwhelmed by them but I won't lose them again. They're what make me feel alive and appreciate so many things I took for granted before. |
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I've had a foul temper from being young took me years to finally be able to control it but thankfully after all the trouble it's landed me in over the years I've got it sorted now so much so other then people from work most ask me how I manage to stay so placid. That the only extreme of emission ive suffers with.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So...I suffer from anxiety and all that crap. Ive been medicated for as long as I remember.
Im now 3 weeks drug free and jeeeeeez emotions are mental eh? I appreciate people dont normally get the extreme swings I am just now but how on earth do you cope?
Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing "
the simple answer to that is no I just shut down when things bother me |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
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Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing "
Yes..
It's about finding your own way of dealing with them, be it breathing techniques, humming to yourself, removing yourself from situations, a friend that can talk to you.
Really hope you can find the ones that can help you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Everyone has some insecurity or something they're not 100% happy with, you learn to deal with it and focus on the positives.
Heard this once and it's true. If a negative thought comes along that causes you concern you will feel it and sometimes respond to it immediately with fear or concern or stress or ainilar. Coping mechanism is dislodge that initial feeling, because another thought about it will always be along in a minute and it might be completely different/more positive.
This happens more often that not. In short don't run away with your feelings. Acknowledge it, park it, another will be along in a minute.
Well donw for coming off the meds!"
Thats the thing, its about finding ways to deal with things without relying on medication. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You are more normal than you probably give yourself credit for. Anxiety effects many in different ways and to some extend, actually makes you a stronger person because at some point you have to deal with the anxiety and carry on ... that little victory builds new pathways in the brain and can lead to strengthened resolve. My eldest son has it and it has upset me seeing how little things have got to him and controlled him.
I myself have my own little black bear to deal with and sometimes all I can do I shut myself from everything and everyone.
So, give yourself a pat on the back and when you have a bad day pat a little harder. I'm sure people with such afflictions are meant to show those that are weaker their own strength of mind. As for love, don't we all fall in and out of love at the drop of a hat"
I AM normal, like highlander, there can be only one
I hope you and your son both find happy places too. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've had a foul temper from being young took me years to finally be able to control it but thankfully after all the trouble it's landed me in over the years I've got it sorted now so much so other then people from work most ask me how I manage to stay so placid. That the only extreme of emission ive suffers with...."
How did you find a way to control it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So...I suffer from anxiety and all that crap. Ive been medicated for as long as I remember.
Im now 3 weeks drug free and jeeeeeez emotions are mental eh? I appreciate people dont normally get the extreme swings I am just now but how on earth do you cope?
Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing the simple answer to that is no I just shut down when things bother me "
Haha that's a whole other issue  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing
Yes..
It's about finding your own way of dealing with them, be it breathing techniques, humming to yourself, removing yourself from situations, a friend that can talk to you.
Really hope you can find the ones that can help you. "
I know I will. Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No i'm now a very sensible stable person in reality i have to be i have my own section of lads to look after and i don't suffer fools.
In this job you have to make life and death decisions and that calls for a level head.
I also teach boxing here and that helps a huge amount lads with anger management issues its a great way to learn discipline and self control.
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By *eek12Man
over a year ago
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"No i'm now a very sensible stable person in reality i have to be i have my own section of lads to look after and i don't suffer fools.
In this job you have to make life and death decisions and that calls for a level head.
I also teach boxing here and that helps a huge amount lads with anger management issues its a great way to learn discipline and self control.
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Very true the gym is what keeps me sane most days.  |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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"Well done OP. Sounds like a hard slog to get where you are.
I'm pretty serene emotionally. However I like to absorb all the crap hands I'm dealt. I can stack it up for ages. Then boom! Mad Mac breaks out and breaks stuff up whilst screaming blue murder. It lasts maybe 10 minutes tops. Then the sky goes blue, the angels sing and all is good again for another awfully long time.
The kid calls it Schizomama. "
I have this too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The minds incredibly complex, but based purely on experience as opposed to any professional capacity, I've found how you live life influences it.
There is no greater therapy for me than quiet walks in woods or on the coast taking in simple sights and nature. The perfect unwind. Don't live in your head...keep busy and live in life.
Lovely to hear your path and realising who you are.
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I genuinely do not give a rats arse what others think of me. I'm polite, respectful and get on with life.
Though I work with men with similar problems. Especially newbies. We just get them out on the piss and bring them into the fold.
Pleased for you making progress and chin up chicken |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So...I suffer from anxiety and all that crap. Ive been medicated for as long as I remember.
Im now 3 weeks drug free and jeeeeeez emotions are mental eh? I appreciate people dont normally get the extreme swings I am just now but how on earth do you cope?
Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing the simple answer to that is no I just shut down when things bother me
Haha that's a whole other issue "
but it works you can't get stressed |
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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago
Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;) |
"So...I suffer from anxiety and all that crap. Ive been medicated for as long as I remember.
Im now 3 weeks drug free and jeeeeeez emotions are mental eh? I appreciate people dont normally get the extreme swings I am just now but how on earth do you cope?
Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing "
You go there Bunny.. Very brace step stopping and an even braver one openly airing it.
It's not an easy road, as with most chemicals we ingest for long periods, our own ability to produce them diminishes. Take dopamine, on average that's a 6-12 month bounce of ups and downs while the receptors flood and starve you
But taking the time to talk to someone really Helps. Even if it's paying for private therapy rather than the 6 sessions of CBT offered by the NHS it's totally worth it
Peers help massively too, Most good support groups should "buddy" you up in the sense of when your struggling you can pick the phone up and just spill.
Keep your chin up, stay smiling and I found "act as if" helped. The law of attraction focuses somewhat on this. Basically " act as if" "be as if" become "as if" x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thats the thing, its about finding ways to deal with things without relying on medication. "
Here's one, first thing is whatever you're struggling with acknowledge it. And write it down
Put them all down on a list but here's the bit where everyone fucks up, don't write it down as a wishlist of things you want to fix.
Instead write the first action that takes you a step closer to dealing with it.
Here's the second part where everyone fucks up, now do that first step.
The point? Success breeds confidence, and you only put things right by either meeting them head on or accepting them.
I had a fear of public speaking, attended something called toastmasters. Even though only went a few months massively improved to point am reasonable.
Had a fear of heights. Went to Switzerland worked on a mountain, now cured.
I'm guessing you're meaning more day to day emotions but that's a starter for ten.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No i'm now a very sensible stable person in reality i have to be i have my own section of lads to look after and i don't suffer fools.
In this job you have to make life and death decisions and that calls for a level head.
I also teach boxing here and that helps a huge amount lads with anger management issues its a great way to learn discipline and self control.
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Its funny I actually have a job with responsibilities which would unnerve some people yet I remain calm and level headed there.
Do you find there's a difference if you're on duty or not? |
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"I've had a foul temper from being young took me years to finally be able to control it but thankfully after all the trouble it's landed me in over the years I've got it sorted now so much so other then people from work most ask me how I manage to stay so placid. That the only extreme of emission ive suffers with....
How did you find a way to control it? "
I think a lot of it is down to maturity. If I said I was a bit of a lad in my younger days it would be putting it mildly. I did do a lot of boxing when I was younger to and I had an excellent coach he tort me a lot about controlling myself before that I'm ashamed to say I did hurt some people and the only reason I can find peace with that is if I hadn't they would have me. As I said they I'm far from proud of that but it's all made me who I am today and I really quite like me now.... |
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"No i'm now a very sensible stable person in reality i have to be i have my own section of lads to look after and i don't suffer fools.
In this job you have to make life and death decisions and that calls for a level head.
I also teach boxing here and that helps a huge amount lads with anger management issues its a great way to learn discipline and self control.
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Think that pretty much backs up my last post. Boxing helped me no end |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No i'm now a very sensible stable person in reality i have to be i have my own section of lads to look after and i don't suffer fools.
In this job you have to make life and death decisions and that calls for a level head.
I also teach boxing here and that helps a huge amount lads with anger management issues its a great way to learn discipline and self control.
Its funny I actually have a job with responsibilities which would unnerve some people yet I remain calm and level headed there.
Do you find there's a difference if you're on duty or not? "
Emotionally no not anymore i'm little older now and found my feet but i still know how to let my hair down - whats left of it ha - when not on duty .
We all need to at some point or we would become robots. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?"
That must suck, OP. I'm afraid I can relate to the latter two extremes, and have stumbled into them before now and it's affected people around me, on here too. I'm working on it, but bugger me it's so easy to fall into that behaviour sometimes and I apologise if you e ever been on the end of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" The minds incredibly complex, but based purely on experience as opposed to any professional capacity, I've found how you live life influences it.
There is no greater therapy for me than quiet walks in woods or on the coast taking in simple sights and nature. The perfect unwind. Don't live in your head...keep busy and live in life.
Lovely to hear your path and realising who you are.
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I quit my job |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So...I suffer from anxiety and all that crap. Ive been medicated for as long as I remember.
Im now 3 weeks drug free and jeeeeeez emotions are mental eh? I appreciate people dont normally get the extreme swings I am just now but how on earth do you cope?
Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing "
Massive respect for you sharing this OP.
I have had a lot of experience with this both professionally and personally.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I genuinely do not give a rats arse what others think of me. I'm polite, respectful and get on with life.
Though I work with men with similar problems. Especially newbies. We just get them out on the piss and bring them into the fold.
Pleased for you making progress and chin up chicken "
Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So...I suffer from anxiety and all that crap. Ive been medicated for as long as I remember.
Im now 3 weeks drug free and jeeeeeez emotions are mental eh? I appreciate people dont normally get the extreme swings I am just now but how on earth do you cope?
Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing
You go there Bunny.. Very brace step stopping and an even braver one openly airing it.
It's not an easy road, as with most chemicals we ingest for long periods, our own ability to produce them diminishes. Take dopamine, on average that's a 6-12 month bounce of ups and downs while the receptors flood and starve you
But taking the time to talk to someone really Helps. Even if it's paying for private therapy rather than the 6 sessions of CBT offered by the NHS it's totally worth it
Peers help massively too, Most good support groups should "buddy" you up in the sense of when your struggling you can pick the phone up and just spill.
Keep your chin up, stay smiling and I found "act as if" helped. The law of attraction focuses somewhat on this. Basically " act as if" "be as if" become "as if" x"
Thank you. Ive had a lot of support and I know its all there if I need it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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ive been on anti depressants years ago and i do everything i can do to not go back on them - even go through really low times but have found ways to cope and stay off them xx well done bunny |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've had a foul temper from being young took me years to finally be able to control it but thankfully after all the trouble it's landed me in over the years I've got it sorted now so much so other then people from work most ask me how I manage to stay so placid. That the only extreme of emission ive suffers with....
How did you find a way to control it?
I think a lot of it is down to maturity. If I said I was a bit of a lad in my younger days it would be putting it mildly. I did do a lot of boxing when I was younger to and I had an excellent coach he tort me a lot about controlling myself before that I'm ashamed to say I did hurt some people and the only reason I can find peace with that is if I hadn't they would have me. As I said they I'm far from proud of that but it's all made me who I am today and I really quite like me now...."
Liking yourself is on of the key points I think x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No i'm now a very sensible stable person in reality i have to be i have my own section of lads to look after and i don't suffer fools.
In this job you have to make life and death decisions and that calls for a level head.
I also teach boxing here and that helps a huge amount lads with anger management issues its a great way to learn discipline and self control.
Its funny I actually have a job with responsibilities which would unnerve some people yet I remain calm and level headed there.
Do you find there's a difference if you're on duty or not?
Emotionally no not anymore i'm little older now and found my feet but i still know how to let my hair down - whats left of it ha - when not on duty .
We all need to at some point or we would become robots. "
Beep beep beep (I'm not sure what noise robots make?!) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
That must suck, OP. I'm afraid I can relate to the latter two extremes, and have stumbled into them before now and it's affected people around me, on here too. I'm working on it, but bugger me it's so easy to fall into that behaviour sometimes and I apologise if you e ever been on the end of it. "
I'm sure those affected have understood. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So...I suffer from anxiety and all that crap. Ive been medicated for as long as I remember.
Im now 3 weeks drug free and jeeeeeez emotions are mental eh? I appreciate people dont normally get the extreme swings I am just now but how on earth do you cope?
Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing
Massive respect for you sharing this OP.
I have had a lot of experience with this both professionally and personally.
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Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"ive been on anti depressants years ago and i do everything i can do to not go back on them - even go through really low times but have found ways to cope and stay off them xx well done bunny "
Thank you and well done too! X |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Well done, OP. You have to learn to be you with all these new feelings.
I choose to not take antidepressants when I am feeling well as I want to experience all the feelings, including proper anger and sadness and joy. Oh, the joy is worth feeling even for a short while.
I don't ever become violent but people do know when I am cross with them.
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's probably worth pointing out (from my professional perspective which drives me to feel it is worth stating..) that medication is a life saver for many and in no way a 'bad thing', in that for all the talk of those coming off meds there will be plenty that this is not advisable for, and there should be no stigma for those that find meds a useful, productive, viable mechanism for managing ill-health or those that find it essential and life-saving. Everyone is in different situations and medication withdrawal should be clinically consulted in the same way it is on commencement (and should be throughout medication usage). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well done, OP. You have to learn to be you with all these new feelings.
I choose to not take antidepressants when I am feeling well as I want to experience all the feelings, including proper anger and sadness and joy. Oh, the joy is worth feeling even for a short while.
I don't ever become violent but people do know when I am cross with them.
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Haha anger is probably the one I'm most scared of. I'm notoriously easy going in situations anger would be justified! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No i'm now a very sensible stable person in reality i have to be i have my own section of lads to look after and i don't suffer fools.
In this job you have to make life and death decisions and that calls for a level head.
I also teach boxing here and that helps a huge amount lads with anger management issues its a great way to learn discipline and self control.
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The endomorphines released through energetic and tough exercise acts as a sedative - boxing is well proven to be a calmer of aggressive and over energetic minds. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's probably worth pointing out (from my professional perspective which drives me to feel it is worth stating..) that medication is a life saver for many and in no way a 'bad thing', in that for all the talk of those coming off meds there will be plenty that this is not advisable for, and there should be no stigma for those that find meds a useful, productive, viable mechanism for managing ill-health or those that find it essential and life-saving. Everyone is in different situations and medication withdrawal should be clinically consulted in the same way it is on commencement (and should be throughout medication usage). "
Oh I absolutely agree, I didn't mean my post to demean the importance of the medication in my life. I hate to think where I'd be without it and as a support mechanism it has 100% made my life more manageable.
I'm in a place in life now though where I feel ready to "go it alone" even if its not forever. Its been a long and fully controlled withdrawal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Look well into thyself; there is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou wilt always look there.
If you ever feel overwhelmed by any of your feelings then embrace them. They're there for a reason, just know youre strong even at your weakest moments.
Fight the good fight, laugh and love. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"It's probably worth pointing out (from my professional perspective which drives me to feel it is worth stating..) that medication is a life saver for many and in no way a 'bad thing', in that for all the talk of those coming off meds there will be plenty that this is not advisable for, and there should be no stigma for those that find meds a useful, productive, viable mechanism for managing ill-health or those that find it essential and life-saving. Everyone is in different situations and medication withdrawal should be clinically consulted in the same way it is on commencement (and should be throughout medication usage). "
Absolutely! I immediately go back on mine when I feel I am slipping into the abyss. Losing feeling means I don't lose life.
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"Yes. My whole life apart from the falling in love bit.
Do you find you've found ways to control your feelings now?"
I try and have a reasonable quality of life. I know all the things to do. But bipolar is a chronic illness its not going to go away i work round it best i can and try not to beat myself up.
Modern day medication is much better and while ive been on the combination im on now i havent been hospitalized. |
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"I've had a foul temper from being young took me years to finally be able to control it but thankfully after all the trouble it's landed me in over the years I've got it sorted now so much so other then people from work most ask me how I manage to stay so placid. That the only extreme of emission ive suffers with....
How did you find a way to control it?
I think a lot of it is down to maturity. If I said I was a bit of a lad in my younger days it would be putting it mildly. I did do a lot of boxing when I was younger to and I had an excellent coach he tort me a lot about controlling myself before that I'm ashamed to say I did hurt some people and the only reason I can find peace with that is if I hadn't they would have me. As I said they I'm far from proud of that but it's all made me who I am today and I really quite like me now....
Liking yourself is on of the key points I think x"
Yes your spot on there. Took me a long time to get here but it's worth it now and I'm sure you will to. |
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"Congrats.
I like being medicated, and I want more
Get back in your cage!! "
No!......i want more drugs, and float of into a medicated slumber.
After I've done that you can do what you want |
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My anxiety has evolved over the years but I've been fighting it drugfree since I was a kid. Rarely win
I wonder how different life might've been if I went down the meds route sometimes |
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"Look well into thyself; there is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou wilt always look there.
If you ever feel overwhelmed by any of your feelings then embrace them. They're there for a reason, just know youre strong even at your weakest moments.
Fight the good fight, laugh and love. "
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"It's probably worth pointing out (from my professional perspective which drives me to feel it is worth stating..) that medication is a life saver for many and in no way a 'bad thing', in that for all the talk of those coming off meds there will be plenty that this is not advisable for, and there should be no stigma for those that find meds a useful, productive, viable mechanism for managing ill-health or those that find it essential and life-saving. Everyone is in different situations and medication withdrawal should be clinically consulted in the same way it is on commencement (and should be throughout medication usage).
Absolutely! I immediately go back on mine when I feel I am slipping into the abyss. Losing feeling means I don't lose life.
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Its always right to take the best option rather than strive for perfection x |
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Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
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All perfectly normal. |
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"Yes. My whole life apart from the falling in love bit.
Do you find you've found ways to control your feelings now?I try and have a reasonable quality of life. I know all the things to do. But bipolar is a chronic illness its not going to go away i work round it best i can and try not to beat myself up.
Modern day medication is much better and while ive been on the combination im on now i havent been hospitalized. "
I hope it continues to work for you x |
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"Congrats.
I like being medicated, and I want more
Get back in your cage!!
No!......i want more drugs, and float of into a medicated slumber.
After I've done that you can do what you want"
Er.....its much more fun for me if youre fully awake |
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"I just pootle along with little ups and downs but nothing extreme. I'm quite a happy and contented fellow in the main. Some self doubts but nothing major. "
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"My anxiety has evolved over the years but I've been fighting it drugfree since I was a kid. Rarely win
I wonder how different life might've been if I went down the meds route sometimes"
What ifs are Assholes |
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Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
All perfectly normal."
Everything is x |
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Good for you bunny. Seems you've came a long way already.
Emotions can be hard to keep under control for everyone at the best of times.
I've had some tough times in my life where I've remained almost emotionless through them and then something small like a sad song on the radio can break me and reduce me to a heap of tears.
Seems you have support if you need it and are moving forward in a positive way which is awesome.
As someone above said, learn to like and love yourself.
Sending you good vibes x
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Hi Bunny!
Sorry to hear you're struggling. I've been on medication for around 12 years and I'm coming off it now. Are you doing it slowly? Sometimes it's not good to come off it abruptly.
I meditate, I talk, I cry and I exercise... it helps. Positive affirmations too! X |
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My feelings let me know I'm fully alive. I have learned lots of stuff that helps me to deal with my emotions and feelings pretty effectively, but I like to experience the full range of emotions.
We are much more powerful and strong than we allow ourselves to believe.
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"Good for you bunny. Seems you've came a long way already.
Emotions can be hard to keep under control for everyone at the best of times.
I've had some tough times in my life where I've remained almost emotionless through them and then something small like a sad song on the radio can break me and reduce me to a heap of tears.
Seems you have support if you need it and are moving forward in a positive way which is awesome.
As someone above said, learn to like and love yourself.
Sending you good vibes x
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I cried hysterically for 2 hours because one of my houseplants had a dried out leaf and I thought it was dying.
Thank you x |
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"I empathise with you 100%, one day I hope to be med free!
You've survived the worst of it, just remind yourself you're stronger than you think!"
I am Hulk!
Thank you for sharing too x |
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"Hi Bunny!
Sorry to hear you're struggling. I've been on medication for around 12 years and I'm coming off it now. Are you doing it slowly? Sometimes it's not good to come off it abruptly.
I meditate, I talk, I cry and I exercise... it helps. Positive affirmations too! X"
Yeah its been a very slow process. Its always good to have other things to rely on x |
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"Congrats.
I like being medicated, and I want more
Get back in your cage!!
No!......i want more drugs, and float of into a medicated slumber.
After I've done that you can do what you want
Er.....its much more fun for me if youre fully awake "
I thought you would just put me back in the cage. It's much easier when I cant fight back, true less fun...but easier |
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"My feelings let me know I'm fully alive. I have learned lots of stuff that helps me to deal with my emotions and feelings pretty effectively, but I like to experience the full range of emotions.
We are much more powerful and strong than we allow ourselves to believe.
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Thats the thing, my moods have been shifting drastically from one extreme to the other but its kinda exciting to feel everything, even the bad stuff, just to know I can deal with it. |
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"Congrats.
I like being medicated, and I want more
Get back in your cage!!
No!......i want more drugs, and float of into a medicated slumber.
After I've done that you can do what you want
Er.....its much more fun for me if youre fully awake
I thought you would just put me back in the cage. It's much easier when I cant fight back, true less fun...but easier"
Please, I laugh in the face of easy! |
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"So...I suffer from anxiety and all that crap. Ive been medicated for as long as I remember.
Im now 3 weeks drug free and jeeeeeez emotions are mental eh? I appreciate people dont normally get the extreme swings I am just now but how on earth do you cope?
Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing "
Boxing and martial arts helps me, anger has never really been a problem for me. But it helps frustration and helps with focus and self discipline, amongst other things. Also laughing at yourself works well too. Because if we don't laugh, we cry |
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"My feelings let me know I'm fully alive. I have learned lots of stuff that helps me to deal with my emotions and feelings pretty effectively, but I like to experience the full range of emotions.
We are much more powerful and strong than we allow ourselves to believe.
Thats the thing, my moods have been shifting drastically from one extreme to the other but its kinda exciting to feel everything, even the bad stuff, just to know I can deal with it. "
Developing your own set of tools to help you deal with them while experiencing the fullness and richness of your emotions and feelings seems a good way forward |
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"So...I suffer from anxiety and all that crap. Ive been medicated for as long as I remember.
Im now 3 weeks drug free and jeeeeeez emotions are mental eh? I appreciate people dont normally get the extreme swings I am just now but how on earth do you cope?
Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing
Boxing and martial arts helps me, anger has never really been a problem for me. But it helps frustration and helps with focus and self discipline, amongst other things. Also laughing at yourself works well too. Because if we don't laugh, we cry "
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"So...I suffer from anxiety and all that crap. Ive been medicated for as long as I remember.
Im now 3 weeks drug free and jeeeeeez emotions are mental eh? I appreciate people dont normally get the extreme swings I am just now but how on earth do you cope?
Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing "
I could write volumes here. The drugs help to give balance but do also numb you as you know have you tried mindfulness to deal with emotions and feelings. There is a lot of science in it to hopefully bring you peace xx |
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"No!......i want more drugs, and float of into a medicated slumber.
After I've done that you can do what you want
Er.....its much more fun for me if youre fully awake
I thought you would just put me back in the cage. It's much easier when I cant fight back, true less fun...but easier
Please, I laugh in the face of easy! "
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"So...I suffer from anxiety and all that crap. Ive been medicated for as long as I remember.
Im now 3 weeks drug free and jeeeeeez emotions are mental eh? I appreciate people dont normally get the extreme swings I am just now but how on earth do you cope?
Do you ever experience extremes of emotion? Do you have a short temper? Do you fall in love too easily? Does fear stop you doing things? Do you ever have to give yourself a shake and walk away from a situation?
Sorry if this is a bit too much sharing
I could write volumes here. The drugs help to give balance but do also numb you as you know have you tried mindfulness to deal with emotions and feelings. There is a lot of science in it to hopefully bring you peace xx"
Yeah I have a few different ways to deal with things but Im definitely going to explore more long term x |
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"No!......i want more drugs, and float of into a medicated slumber.
After I've done that you can do what you want
Er.....its much more fun for me if youre fully awake
I thought you would just put me back in the cage. It's much easier when I cant fight back, true less fun...but easier
Please, I laugh in the face of easy!
tough, medicated slumber is the way forward. Numbness is good "
Not for what i have in mind!! |
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We are much more powerful and strong than we allow ourselves to believe.
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Yes I world say understanding is the most powerful tool I have found in managing emotions. I feel very deeply and would not want it any other way because love and joy are the purpose of life I think. Pain is the downside, I'd like to avoid that as much as possible! I am pretty volatile, but maturity has tempered the anger I used to find 'flashed' more when I was young.  |
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I think you are all very brave and strong people. Stronger than you know.
I've faced many tough times in life. There's many hurts that sometimes come out and completely floor me.
I've developed some coping strategies I guess but mostly I just have to ride the Dragon.
I've never been on medication. In fact three years ago I went to my gp and they fobbed me off. I was possibly at my lowest point.
I decided that day and for every day since; that i get up and carry on because I just have to.
Falling apart for me isn't possible because there's no support network. Everyone relies on me. Thankfully, so far I've managed. Its become my coping tool. Having that purpose.
However sometimes you have to break in order to heal.
I have so many fears that there will come a day when my children are older and it will hit me even harder. I hope if that happens I'll have the courage to seek help.
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"No!......i want more drugs, and float of into a medicated slumber.
After I've done that you can do what you want
Er.....its much more fun for me if youre fully awake
I thought you would just put me back in the cage. It's much easier when I cant fight back, true less fun...but easier
Please, I laugh in the face of easy!
tough, medicated slumber is the way forward. Numbness is good
Not for what i have in mind!! "
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"My feelings let me know I'm fully alive. I have learned lots of stuff that helps me to deal with my emotions and feelings pretty effectively, but I like to experience the full range of emotions.
We are much more powerful and strong than we allow ourselves to believe.
Yes I world say understanding is the most powerful tool I have found in managing emotions. I feel very deeply and would not want it any other way because love and joy are the purpose of life I think. Pain is the downside, I'd like to avoid that as much as possible! I am pretty volatile, but maturity has tempered the anger I used to find 'flashed' more when I was young. "
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"I think you are all very brave and strong people. Stronger than you know.
I've faced many tough times in life. There's many hurts that sometimes come out and completely floor me.
I've developed some coping strategies I guess but mostly I just have to ride the Dragon.
I've never been on medication. In fact three years ago I went to my gp and they fobbed me off. I was possibly at my lowest point.
I decided that day and for every day since; that i get up and carry on because I just have to.
Falling apart for me isn't possible because there's no support network. Everyone relies on me. Thankfully, so far I've managed. Its become my coping tool. Having that purpose.
However sometimes you have to break in order to heal.
I have so many fears that there will come a day when my children are older and it will hit me even harder. I hope if that happens I'll have the courage to seek help.
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I really hope you do too. I mostly hope it doesn't happen though! X |
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"Ive never had non medicated emotions. Dont know what they feel like. This thread has just made me realize that"
Thats not necessarily a bad thing though is it? |
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"Ive never had non medicated emotions. Dont know what they feel like. This thread has just made me realize that
Thats not necessarily a bad thing though is it?"
i dont know its all i know but it has made me think about a couple of things |
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I was very depressed as a teenager and some may laugh at it but Eminem's music at the time got me through that period.
Then I had an anti social mood swing where I avoided making friends as much as posdible.
Now I'm more less 'sane' with the occasional don't talk to me days.
So you're probably more than normal OP. Hope you can finally be medication free and be happy about yourself and can get free of your fears. |
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"Ive never had non medicated emotions. Dont know what they feel like. This thread has just made me realize that
Thats not necessarily a bad thing though is it?i dont know its all i know but it has made me think about a couple of things"
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"I was very depressed as a teenager and some may laugh at it but Eminem's music at the time got me through that period.
Then I had an anti social mood swing where I avoided making friends as much as posdible.
Now I'm more less 'sane' with the occasional don't talk to me days.
So you're probably more than normal OP. Hope you can finally be medication free and be happy about yourself and can get free of your fears."
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We are much more powerful and strong than we allow ourselves to believe.
Yes I world say understanding is the most powerful tool I have found in managing emotions. I feel very deeply and would not want it any other way because love and joy are the purpose of life I think. Pain is the downside, I'd like to avoid that as much as possible! I am pretty volatile, but maturity has tempered the anger I used to find 'flashed' more when I was young.
Understanding is definitely the best thing for managing emotions. Do you think you made a conscious effort to control the anger? "
Not in my youth, I grew out of it at the time, and became self-employed, which removed the usual cause lol!. But I have since learned a lot consciously - as part of horse whispering techniques firstly (they can react explosively to even a sharp intake of breath). And as a way of avoiding conflict in relationships - I'm fascinated by relational psychology. |
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"Good for you bunny. Seems you've came a long way already.
Emotions can be hard to keep under control for everyone at the best of times.
I've had some tough times in my life where I've remained almost emotionless through them and then something small like a sad song on the radio can break me and reduce me to a heap of tears.
Seems you have support if you need it and are moving forward in a positive way which is awesome.
As someone above said, learn to like and love yourself.
Sending you good vibes x
I cried hysterically for 2 hours because one of my houseplants had a dried out leaf and I thought it was dying.
Thank you x"
Your welcome. Houseplants can be notoriously hard to look after ??
On a serious note, I'm sure there will be ups and downs along the way. You have shown a great amount of spirit to talk about it.
Maybe have somewhere you can go to escape and relax.
I had a little place by the river that's away from everything else. Used to go as a kid with my brother and gran for a picnic and throw stones. |
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"My feelings let me know I'm fully alive. I have learned lots of stuff that helps me to deal with my emotions and feelings pretty effectively, but I like to experience the full range of emotions.
We are much more powerful and strong than we allow ourselves to believe.
Yes I world say understanding is the most powerful tool I have found in managing emotions. I feel very deeply and would not want it any other way because love and joy are the purpose of life I think. Pain is the downside, I'd like to avoid that as much as possible! I am pretty volatile, but maturity has tempered the anger I used to find 'flashed' more when I was young. "
The same with me although I still have a short fuse the resulting expression is more grumpy than explosive (as it was in my teens).
Cathartic work helped release a lot of the repressed anger and sadness, so I feel less pain of my own. Though it has caused me to experience deeper empathy so I feel others pain more now. Although I was empathic when I was younger my emotions were mixed with those of others, so I acted more dysfunctionally. Now the feelings are cleaner because I'm carrying round less unresolved and unfinished business. |
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All the best with try without medication.
It's important to note that for some people managing with medication is a great thing, for others it not an option.
Over the years seen a lot of damage through people not taking medication or stopping medication when they really need to be taking it. But if it's done in conjunction to working with professionals, so for it.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to medication, it's just about what is right for you as a person at that time.
In regard to managing your mental health and emotions have a look at www.getselfhelp.co.uk a lot of CBT based resources on a wide variety of mental health related issues that I've heard a lot of positives about (from professionals and others). |
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"My feelings let me know I'm fully alive. I have learned lots of stuff that helps me to deal with my emotions and feelings pretty effectively, but I like to experience the full range of emotions.
We are much more powerful and strong than we allow ourselves to believe.
Yes I world say understanding is the most powerful tool I have found in managing emotions. I feel very deeply and would not want it any other way because love and joy are the purpose of life I think. Pain is the downside, I'd like to avoid that as much as possible! I am pretty volatile, but maturity has tempered the anger I used to find 'flashed' more when I was young.
Understanding is definitely the best thing for managing emotions. Do you think you made a conscious effort to control the anger?
Not in my youth, I grew out of it at the time, and became self-employed, which removed the usual cause lol!. But I have since learned a lot consciously - as part of horse whispering techniques firstly (they can react explosively to even a sharp intake of breath). And as a way of avoiding conflict in relationships - I'm fascinated by relational psychology. "
Haha thats the thing, no matter how much you remain in control of yourself you cant control others! |
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"Good for you bunny. Seems you've came a long way already.
Emotions can be hard to keep under control for everyone at the best of times.
I've had some tough times in my life where I've remained almost emotionless through them and then something small like a sad song on the radio can break me and reduce me to a heap of tears.
Seems you have support if you need it and are moving forward in a positive way which is awesome.
As someone above said, learn to like and love yourself.
Sending you good vibes x
I cried hysterically for 2 hours because one of my houseplants had a dried out leaf and I thought it was dying.
Thank you x
Your welcome. Houseplants can be notoriously hard to look after ??
On a serious note, I'm sure there will be ups and downs along the way. You have shown a great amount of spirit to talk about it.
Maybe have somewhere you can go to escape and relax.
I had a little place by the river that's away from everything else. Used to go as a kid with my brother and gran for a picnic and throw stones."
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Working on yourself to make things better for yourself OP is a great thing. Much stress etc. come from always trying to sort everyone else out. And then we lose ourselves.
It may be a long journey but well done for starting it.
I would also say don't underestimate the power of a healthy diet either. Some 'food' chemicals can affect mood drastically.
And also, as part of dealing with emotions, try to work out what you are actually feeling. For example we may get angry when really we are scared. If we can see the real emotion behind our 'moods' then we have a better chance of learning to deal with them |
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"All the best with try without medication.
It's important to note that for some people managing with medication is a great thing, for others it not an option.
Over the years seen a lot of damage through people not taking medication or stopping medication when they really need to be taking it. But if it's done in conjunction to working with professionals, so for it.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to medication, it's just about what is right for you as a person at that time.
In regard to managing your mental health and emotions have a look at www.getselfhelp.co.uk a lot of CBT based resources on a wide variety of mental health related issues that I've heard a lot of positives about (from professionals and others). "
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"Working on yourself to make things better for yourself OP is a great thing. Much stress etc. come from always trying to sort everyone else out. And then we lose ourselves.
It may be a long journey but well done for starting it.
I would also say don't underestimate the power of a healthy diet either. Some 'food' chemicals can affect mood drastically.
And also, as part of dealing with emotions, try to work out what you are actually feeling. For example we may get angry when really we are scared. If we can see the real emotion behind our 'moods' then we have a better chance of learning to deal with them "
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At the moment Im just trying not to analyze too much. My feeling are all over the place so there's no point in trying! |
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"Working on yourself to make things better for yourself OP is a great thing. Much stress etc. come from always trying to sort everyone else out. And then we lose ourselves.
It may be a long journey but well done for starting it.
I would also say don't underestimate the power of a healthy diet either. Some 'food' chemicals can affect mood drastically.
And also, as part of dealing with emotions, try to work out what you are actually feeling. For example we may get angry when really we are scared. If we can see the real emotion behind our 'moods' then we have a better chance of learning to deal with them
Thank you.
At the moment Im just trying not to analyze too much. My feeling are all over the place so there's no point in trying!"
Cognitive Behavior Therapy is especially good for emotional issues |
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"Working on yourself to make things better for yourself OP is a great thing. Much stress etc. come from always trying to sort everyone else out. And then we lose ourselves.
It may be a long journey but well done for starting it.
I would also say don't underestimate the power of a healthy diet either. Some 'food' chemicals can affect mood drastically.
And also, as part of dealing with emotions, try to work out what you are actually feeling. For example we may get angry when really we are scared. If we can see the real emotion behind our 'moods' then we have a better chance of learning to deal with them
Thank you.
At the moment Im just trying not to analyze too much. My feeling are all over the place so there's no point in trying!
Cognitive Behavior Therapy is especially good for emotional issues "
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"My feelings let me know I'm fully alive. I have learned lots of stuff that helps me to deal with my emotions and feelings pretty effectively, but I like to experience the full range of emotions.
We are much more powerful and strong than we allow ourselves to believe.
Yes I world say understanding is the most powerful tool I have found in managing emotions. I feel very deeply and would not want it any other way because love and joy are the purpose of life I think. Pain is the downside, I'd like to avoid that as much as possible! I am pretty volatile, but maturity has tempered the anger I used to find 'flashed' more when I was young.
The same with me although I still have a short fuse the resulting expression is more grumpy than explosive (as it was in my teens).
Cathartic work helped release a lot of the repressed anger and sadness, so I feel less pain of my own. Though it has caused me to experience deeper empathy so I feel others pain more now. Although I was empathic when I was younger my emotions were mixed with those of others, so I acted more dysfunctionally. Now the feelings are cleaner because I'm carrying round less unresolved and unfinished business."
Yes I am much more empathetic - I was shamefully self-centred when I was young, I actually needed to apologize to a couple of people, let them know how much I have come to appreciate them and what they did for me.
I can still go off like a hand grenade, but the fuse is much longer, it takes fairly extreme provocation nowadays!
Not having to work with morons helps lol..... |
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"Good for you bunny. Seems you've came a long way already.
Emotions can be hard to keep under control for everyone at the best of times.
I've had some tough times in my life where I've remained almost emotionless through them and then something small like a sad song on the radio can break me and reduce me to a heap of tears.
Seems you have support if you need it and are moving forward in a positive way which is awesome.
As someone above said, learn to like and love yourself.
Sending you good vibes x
I cried hysterically for 2 hours because one of my houseplants had a dried out leaf and I thought it was dying.
Thank you x
Your welcome. Houseplants can be notoriously hard to look after ??
On a serious note, I'm sure there will be ups and downs along the way. You have shown a great amount of spirit to talk about it.
Maybe have somewhere you can go to escape and relax.
I had a little place by the river that's away from everything else. Used to go as a kid with my brother and gran for a picnic and throw stones.
Yeah I stayed at my parents last night and went for a long walk along the beach today. It was so nice to not be around anyone "
A little alone time can help you process your own thoughts as there aren't any other people or their input.
Saying that having one person or a small group of people you can confide in and sound off too would also be a good thing. Everyone is different though.
Huge admiration for you though. Hope your feeling the love ?? |
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omg .. ive just started meds, bit scared if im honest, always managed my moods alone but recently it just got way too bad, crying lots and just staying in my room for hours n hours, I hope iv made the right decision ... |
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"omg .. ive just started meds, bit scared if im honest, always managed my moods alone but recently it just got way too bad, crying lots and just staying in my room for hours n hours, I hope iv made the right decision ..."
you totally have - i wouldnt have gotten out of the black pit without them |
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"omg .. ive just started meds, bit scared if im honest, always managed my moods alone but recently it just got way too bad, crying lots and just staying in my room for hours n hours, I hope iv made the right decision ...
you totally have - i wouldnt have gotten out of the black pit without them "
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Well done for going bed free
Fear is what keeps us in check ,if we had no fear how would we put the brakes on and make sure we didn't do something stupid
I learnt to embrace my fear and realise That glfear wasn't my friend not my enemy
I wish you the very best x |
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"Well done for going bed free
Fear is what keeps us in check ,if we had no fear how would we put the brakes on and make sure we didn't do something stupid
I learnt to embrace my fear and realise That glfear wasn't my friend not my enemy
I wish you the very best x"
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Thanks everyone. Its nice to see so many messages of support, not just for me but for everyone who needs it.
We're all different and embracing yourself isn't always easy but theres always gonna be someone to do it for you if you seek them out x |
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The problem I have, my feelings are my own and can't explain them. Also on a website/forum in the back of my mind I wonder what people would think of me if I opened up.
I have nobody I can talk to if I feel down, as my friends would normally lean on me for a shoulder to cry on. I rarely show my true feelings to family or friends. They're hidden behind humour or a smile for someone else. These deep intense emotions I have are bottled up and buried and god help anyone if they asked me how I'm feeling, and I answered truthfully. Hopefully one day, someone will ask that not only wants to know how I'm feeling but will be able to manage me when I tell them.
I understand a little how you feel Op.
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"The problem I have, my feelings are my own and can't explain them. Also on a website/forum in the back of my mind I wonder what people would think of me if I opened up.
I have nobody I can talk to if I feel down, as my friends would normally lean on me for a shoulder to cry on. I rarely show my true feelings to family or friends. They're hidden behind humour or a smile for someone else. These deep intense emotions I have are bottled up and buried and god help anyone if they asked me how I'm feeling, and I answered truthfully. Hopefully one day, someone will ask that not only wants to know how I'm feeling but will be able to manage me when I tell them.
I understand a little how you feel Op.
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I hear ya brother!
It's frustrating having nobody when you need to talk.
Never give up, you're stronger than you think! |
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