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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm naturally dom love the idea of having the control but lately tried the sub and really got turned on being on the other side of things what do you like to be and would you like to try various meets maybe introduce both in a way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love my sub side, I can switch and do if I'm bored as I top from the bottom anyway ( or try) but it bores me. I love a Dom you knows how to put me in my place... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either."
I am neither weak minded nor lacking in self confidence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Neither, 50 shades of grey has a lot to answer for in my humble opinion. "
even before that made things popular , I still had no interest in it...especially when its taken soooooooooooo seriously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either."
Clearly as it's not part of who you are you don't get it and that fine but very judgemental views on something you clearly have no idea about. You're so very wrong if that's how you think it all works. |
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
I am neither weak minded nor lacking in self confidence "
But a lot of us wish you was   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being dominant in the bedroom doesn't automatically have to involve paddles, ball gags, whips etc 
You can be dominant by just taking charge, and you can be submissive by allowing them to take charge. |
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
I am neither weak minded nor lacking in self confidence "
That makes 2 of us this woman knows her own mind ...dont be so offensive . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
Clearly as it's not part of who you are you don't get it and that fine but very judgemental views on something you clearly have no idea about. You're so very wrong if that's how you think it all works. "
I've met several dom sub couples over the last 15 years, even before I joined the swinging world...and I did say in my experience.
I should have added if thats what makes people happy , so be it...I just have no interest in the serious side of the dynamics of that scene. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
I am neither weak minded nor lacking in self confidence
That makes 2 of us this woman knows her own mind ...dont be so offensive ."
apologies if you took offence..I stated my opinion and experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Predominantly sub but I can act out if bored and I tend to take the lead if that happens. I'm yet to meet someone to put me in my place completely.
If I'm to put labels on it I'm a submissive masochist |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before I even knew about Doms and subs I knew I was a switch. I flirt between the two, I'm Dominant in the sense that I love to bath guys and toilet them and make them eat their own spunk out of my cunt but, I'm submissive in the sense that I like the guys full body weight on top of me with his hand round my throat or mouth whilst he's fucking.
So I'm a switch, neither one or the other, just fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love my sub side, I can switch and do if I'm bored as I top from the bottom anyway ( or try) but it bores me. I love a Dom you knows how to put me in my place..."
Exactly what I said without reading this.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Before I even knew about Doms and subs I knew I was a switch. I flirt between the two, I'm Dominant in the sense that I love to bath guys and toilet them and make them eat their own spunk out of my cunt but, I'm submissive in the sense that I like the guys full body weight on top of me with his hand round my throat or mouth whilst he's fucking.
So I'm a switch, neither one or the other, just fun!"
Do you use bath bombs or loofahs?
I'm genuinely interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
I am neither weak minded nor lacking in self confidence
That makes 2 of us this woman knows her own mind ...dont be so offensive ."
Indeed! I hate the misconception that a sub is, or has to be weak x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either."
That's such a terribly narrow minded thing to say! I'm very independent and head strong. To me being sub is not a preference it's a mindset that runs deeper than sex, it's a mental need that not many understand, obviously by your comment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Before I even knew about Doms and subs I knew I was a switch. I flirt between the two, I'm Dominant in the sense that I love to bath guys and toilet them and make them eat their own spunk out of my cunt but, I'm submissive in the sense that I like the guys full body weight on top of me with his hand round my throat or mouth whilst he's fucking.
So I'm a switch, neither one or the other, just fun!
Do you use bath bombs or loofahs?
I'm genuinely interested."
I use a sponge. I like them to have a whores bath, on all fours with bottom in the air then some keyhole surgery with the sponge on their bum hole, get all the clinkers off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Before I even knew about Doms and subs I knew I was a switch. I flirt between the two, I'm Dominant in the sense that I love to bath guys and toilet them and make them eat their own spunk out of my cunt but, I'm submissive in the sense that I like the guys full body weight on top of me with his hand round my throat or mouth whilst he's fucking.
So I'm a switch, neither one or the other, just fun!"
Yaaay your back (sorry off topic) x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"who needs a bossy man with an inferiority complex? not me"
The majority are very caring and gentleman and understand a woman's wants and needs. The diddly doms are as you describe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Before I even knew about Doms and subs I knew I was a switch. I flirt between the two, I'm Dominant in the sense that I love to bath guys and toilet them and make them eat their own spunk out of my cunt but, I'm submissive in the sense that I like the guys full body weight on top of me with his hand round my throat or mouth whilst he's fucking.
So I'm a switch, neither one or the other, just fun!
Yaaay your back (sorry off topic) x"
Should have hidden my profile! It's better coming back when people try and guess who it is! |
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"who needs a bossy man with an inferiority complex? not me
The majority are very caring and gentleman and understand a woman's wants and needs. The diddly doms are as you describe. "
Lmfao@diddly doms |
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"Before I even knew about Doms and subs I knew I was a switch. I flirt between the two, I'm Dominant in the sense that I love to bath guys and toilet them and make them eat their own spunk out of my cunt but, I'm submissive in the sense that I like the guys full body weight on top of me with his hand round my throat or mouth whilst he's fucking.
So I'm a switch, neither one or the other, just fun!
Yaaay your back (sorry off topic) x
Should have hidden my profile! It's better coming back when people try and guess who it is! "
Why did you go or shouldn't I ask... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Before I even knew about Doms and subs I knew I was a switch. I flirt between the two, I'm Dominant in the sense that I love to bath guys and toilet them and make them eat their own spunk out of my cunt but, I'm submissive in the sense that I like the guys full body weight on top of me with his hand round my throat or mouth whilst he's fucking.
So I'm a switch, neither one or the other, just fun!
Yaaay your back (sorry off topic) x
Should have hidden my profile! It's better coming back when people try and guess who it is! "
I knew, I fooking love your posts and glad you came back. Hope your ok x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"who needs a bossy man with an inferiority complex? not me
The majority are very caring and gentleman and understand a woman's wants and needs. The diddly doms are as you describe.
Lmfao@diddly doms "
True though! I've wrote a piece on f€t life about diddly doms actually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
That's such a terribly narrow minded thing to say! I'm very independent and head strong. To me being sub is not a preference it's a mindset that runs deeper than sex, it's a mental need that not many understand, obviously by your comment "
can I just add this little bit in?
"unless theres plenty of laughs etc"
I have met people in that scene...but on I cant say I've met many I've been with that I'd say it was a fun time to be with. I'm primarily on here for sex and fun times..from my experiences this hasnt been the case from a swinging perspective, where the 'master' directs and the sub follows direction( Doesnt feel particularly good when you know she never actually chose you at any point in time).
anyway thats MY experiences in most cases...and a reason contacting/meeting with those in that particular need to just not be interesting to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
That's such a terribly narrow minded thing to say! I'm very independent and head strong. To me being sub is not a preference it's a mindset that runs deeper than sex, it's a mental need that not many understand, obviously by your comment
can I just add this little bit in?
"unless theres plenty of laughs etc"
I have met people in that scene...but on I cant say I've met many I've been with that I'd say it was a fun time to be with. I'm primarily on here for sex and fun times..from my experiences this hasnt been the case from a swinging perspective, where the 'master' directs and the sub follows direction( Doesnt feel particularly good when you know she never actually chose you at any point in time).
anyway thats MY experiences in most cases...and a reason contacting/meeting with those in that particular need to just not be interesting to me."
Your totally misunderstanding as a true dominant would never allow his sub to be with anyone he knows she wouldn't enjoy, it's an equal thing even though most perceive it to be the DOM in control and makes all the descisions this shouldn't be the case, it's a trust that runs deep and hard for many to understand |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
That's such a terribly narrow minded thing to say! I'm very independent and head strong. To me being sub is not a preference it's a mindset that runs deeper than sex, it's a mental need that not many understand, obviously by your comment
can I just add this little bit in?
"unless theres plenty of laughs etc"
I have met people in that scene...but on I cant say I've met many I've been with that I'd say it was a fun time to be with. I'm primarily on here for sex and fun times..from my experiences this hasnt been the case from a swinging perspective, where the 'master' directs and the sub follows direction( Doesnt feel particularly good when you know she never actually chose you at any point in time).
anyway thats MY experiences in most cases...and a reason contacting/meeting with those in that particular need to just not be interesting to me."
The main issue that I have with it is that it's so fucking boring.
If you've ever been to D/S events, theres a very real "man in shed" element that I do find very amusing though.
".....Dave....I've just made a vibrator that hooks up to the three-phase...." |
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You can be dominant by just taking charge, and you can be submissive by allowing them to take charge."
Exactly. I am strong minded and confident but I love to be primal and sub let go - but only to someone who I can trust to take charge.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
That's such a terribly narrow minded thing to say! I'm very independent and head strong. To me being sub is not a preference it's a mindset that runs deeper than sex, it's a mental need that not many understand, obviously by your comment
can I just add this little bit in?
"unless theres plenty of laughs etc"
I have met people in that scene...but on I cant say I've met many I've been with that I'd say it was a fun time to be with. I'm primarily on here for sex and fun times..from my experiences this hasnt been the case from a swinging perspective, where the 'master' directs and the sub follows direction( Doesnt feel particularly good when you know she never actually chose you at any point in time).
anyway thats MY experiences in most cases...and a reason contacting/meeting with those in that particular need to just not be interesting to me.
The main issue that I have with it is that it's so fucking boring.
If you've ever been to D/S events, theres a very real "man in shed" element that I do find very amusing though.
".....Dave....I've just made a vibrator that hooks up to the three-phase....""
You have expressed previously that you don't have no interest in bdsm so that's understandable what you 'think' however that's your opinion |
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either."
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
That's such a terribly narrow minded thing to say! I'm very independent and head strong. To me being sub is not a preference it's a mindset that runs deeper than sex, it's a mental need that not many understand, obviously by your comment
can I just add this little bit in?
"unless theres plenty of laughs etc"
I have met people in that scene...but on I cant say I've met many I've been with that I'd say it was a fun time to be with. I'm primarily on here for sex and fun times..from my experiences this hasnt been the case from a swinging perspective, where the 'master' directs and the sub follows direction( Doesnt feel particularly good when you know she never actually chose you at any point in time).
anyway thats MY experiences in most cases...and a reason contacting/meeting with those in that particular need to just not be interesting to me.
The main issue that I have with it is that it's so fucking boring.
If you've ever been to D/S events, theres a very real "man in shed" element that I do find very amusing though.
".....Dave....I've just made a vibrator that hooks up to the three-phase...."
You have expressed previously that you don't have no interest in bdsm so that's understandable what you 'think' however that's your opinion "
It is, and I've seen nothing to change it. It's today's pseudo intellectual preference of choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
That's such a terribly narrow minded thing to say! I'm very independent and head strong. To me being sub is not a preference it's a mindset that runs deeper than sex, it's a mental need that not many understand, obviously by your comment
can I just add this little bit in?
"unless theres plenty of laughs etc"
I have met people in that scene...but on I cant say I've met many I've been with that I'd say it was a fun time to be with. I'm primarily on here for sex and fun times..from my experiences this hasnt been the case from a swinging perspective, where the 'master' directs and the sub follows direction( Doesnt feel particularly good when you know she never actually chose you at any point in time).
anyway thats MY experiences in most cases...and a reason contacting/meeting with those in that particular need to just not be interesting to me.
The main issue that I have with it is that it's so fucking boring.
If you've ever been to D/S events, theres a very real "man in shed" element that I do find very amusing though.
".....Dave....I've just made a vibrator that hooks up to the three-phase...."
You have expressed previously that you don't have no interest in bdsm so that's understandable what you 'think' however that's your opinion
It is, and I've seen nothing to change it. It's today's pseudo intellectual preference of choice."
You won't see anything to change it! As it's not something you can try and be or learn! It's a deep personality trait so therefore you don't understand it. But that's ok, just don't mock it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"who needs a bossy man with an inferiority complex? not me
The majority are very caring and gentleman and understand a woman's wants and needs. The diddly doms are as you describe.
Lmfao@diddly doms
True though! I've wrote a piece on f€t life about diddly doms actually. "
there re more diddy doms on here than actual ones |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Before I even knew about Doms and subs I knew I was a switch. I flirt between the two, I'm Dominant in the sense that I love to bath guys and toilet them and make them eat their own spunk out of my cunt but, I'm submissive in the sense that I like the guys full body weight on top of me with his hand round my throat or mouth whilst he's fucking.
So I'm a switch, neither one or the other, just fun!
Yaaay your back (sorry off topic) x
Should have hidden my profile! It's better coming back when people try and guess who it is! "
the number of days since you joined kinda gives it away |
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"who needs a bossy man with an inferiority complex? not me
The majority are very caring and gentleman and understand a woman's wants and needs. The diddly doms are as you describe.
Lmfao@diddly doms
True though! I've wrote a piece on f€t life about diddly doms actually. "
Ohhh there's a thought wonder if I still have an account on there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I just don't get why some men think it's ok to message me demanding respect giving me orders, and all because they say they are 'dom'
OK Mr big dick diddly Dom explain one thing to me what makes you dom? Do you pull hair smack spit like rough sex? Have 10 generic pictures off google resembling mr grey with a belt in his hand !! Oh fuck yes that will make me want you!! Heloooo for fuck sake are you really that dumb. I'm not your sub ! Your not my Dom so don't try to demand my submission.
And what's with the cock pictures !! How damn right rude and disrespectful, what happened to conversation, oh sorry I forgot I'm a 'sub' I should love being spoken to in a derogatory manner! No now fuck off and go be a Billy big balls diddly Dom to someone else who's interested in your attitude.
Its not your cock I'm interested in and if you don't get that your most certainly not going to get near my mind let alone my knickers. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
That's such a terribly narrow minded thing to say! I'm very independent and head strong. To me being sub is not a preference it's a mindset that runs deeper than sex, it's a mental need that not many understand, obviously by your comment
can I just add this little bit in?
"unless theres plenty of laughs etc"
I have met people in that scene...but on I cant say I've met many I've been with that I'd say it was a fun time to be with. I'm primarily on here for sex and fun times..from my experiences this hasnt been the case from a swinging perspective, where the 'master' directs and the sub follows direction( Doesnt feel particularly good when you know she never actually chose you at any point in time).
anyway thats MY experiences in most cases...and a reason contacting/meeting with those in that particular need to just not be interesting to me.
The main issue that I have with it is that it's so fucking boring.
If you've ever been to D/S events, theres a very real "man in shed" element that I do find very amusing though.
".....Dave....I've just made a vibrator that hooks up to the three-phase...."
You have expressed previously that you don't have no interest in bdsm so that's understandable what you 'think' however that's your opinion
It is, and I've seen nothing to change it. It's today's pseudo intellectual preference of choice.
You won't see anything to change it! As it's not something you can try and be or learn! It's a deep personality trait so therefore you don't understand it. But that's ok, just don't mock it "
This is part of what I mean... It's not so complicated that people "couldn't possibly understand it" it's just a series of cliches that susceptible people choose to believe defines them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" I just don't get why some men think it's ok to message me demanding respect giving me orders, and all because they say they are 'dom'
OK Mr big dick diddly Dom explain one thing to me what makes you dom? Do you pull hair smack spit like rough sex? Have 10 generic pictures off google resembling mr grey with a belt in his hand !! Oh fuck yes that will make me want you!! Heloooo for fuck sake are you really that dumb. I'm not your sub ! Your not my Dom so don't try to demand my submission.
And what's with the cock pictures !! How damn right rude and disrespectful, what happened to conversation, oh sorry I forgot I'm a 'sub' I should love being spoken to in a derogatory manner! No now fuck off and go be a Billy big balls diddly Dom to someone else who's interested in your attitude.
Its not your cock I'm interested in and if you don't get that your most certainly not going to get near my mind let alone my knickers."
That was copy and paste off my FL profile  |
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" I just don't get why some men think it's ok to message me demanding respect giving me orders, and all because they say they are 'dom'
OK Mr big dick diddly Dom explain one thing to me what makes you dom? Do you pull hair smack spit like rough sex? Have 10 generic pictures off google resembling mr grey with a belt in his hand !! Oh fuck yes that will make me want you!! Heloooo for fuck sake are you really that dumb. I'm not your sub ! Your not my Dom so don't try to demand my submission.
And what's with the cock pictures !! How damn right rude and disrespectful, what happened to conversation, oh sorry I forgot I'm a 'sub' I should love being spoken to in a derogatory manner! No now fuck off and go be a Billy big balls diddly Dom to someone else who's interested in your attitude.
Its not your cock I'm interested in and if you don't get that your most certainly not going to get near my mind let alone my knickers."
I so fucking like you |
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
That's such a terribly narrow minded thing to say! I'm very independent and head strong. To me being sub is not a preference it's a mindset that runs deeper than sex, it's a mental need that not many understand, obviously by your comment
can I just add this little bit in?
"unless theres plenty of laughs etc"
I have met people in that scene...but on I cant say I've met many I've been with that I'd say it was a fun time to be with. I'm primarily on here for sex and fun times..from my experiences this hasnt been the case from a swinging perspective, where the 'master' directs and the sub follows direction( Doesnt feel particularly good when you know she never actually chose you at any point in time).
anyway thats MY experiences in most cases...and a reason contacting/meeting with those in that particular need to just not be interesting to me.
The main issue that I have with it is that it's so fucking boring.
If you've ever been to D/S events, theres a very real "man in shed" element that I do find very amusing though.
".....Dave....I've just made a vibrator that hooks up to the three-phase...."
You have expressed previously that you don't have no interest in bdsm so that's understandable what you 'think' however that's your opinion
It is, and I've seen nothing to change it. It's today's pseudo intellectual preference of choice.
You won't see anything to change it! As it's not something you can try and be or learn! It's a deep personality trait so therefore you don't understand it. But that's ok, just don't mock it
This is part of what I mean... It's not so complicated that people "couldn't possibly understand it" it's just a series of cliches that susceptible people choose to believe defines them. "
Yes just like certain things define you as a person! It's something for me that has been part of me for so long and I've hid it way as I was ashamed and didn't understand these cravings needs I had. Until I finally decided to research and understand, eventually realising I wasn't weird or strange. I enjoy pain and control! It's not something I choose , believe me, it's who I am as much as your straight I'm this way ! |
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" I just don't get why some men think it's ok to message me demanding respect giving me orders, and all because they say they are 'dom'
OK Mr big dick diddly Dom explain one thing to me what makes you dom? Do you pull hair smack spit like rough sex? Have 10 generic pictures off google resembling mr grey with a belt in his hand !! Oh fuck yes that will make me want you!! Heloooo for fuck sake are you really that dumb. I'm not your sub ! Your not my Dom so don't try to demand my submission.
And what's with the cock pictures !! How damn right rude and disrespectful, what happened to conversation, oh sorry I forgot I'm a 'sub' I should love being spoken to in a derogatory manner! No now fuck off and go be a Billy big balls diddly Dom to someone else who's interested in your attitude.
Its not your cock I'm interested in and if you don't get that your most certainly not going to get near my mind let alone my knickers."
ALL of this! I think I love you x |
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" I just don't get why some men think it's ok to message me demanding respect giving me orders, and all because they say they are 'dom'
OK Mr big dick diddly Dom explain one thing to me what makes you dom? Do you pull hair smack spit like rough sex? Have 10 generic pictures off google resembling mr grey with a belt in his hand !! Oh fuck yes that will make me want you!! Heloooo for fuck sake are you really that dumb. I'm not your sub ! Your not my Dom so don't try to demand my submission.
And what's with the cock pictures !! How damn right rude and disrespectful, what happened to conversation, oh sorry I forgot I'm a 'sub' I should love being spoken to in a derogatory manner! No now fuck off and go be a Billy big balls diddly Dom to someone else who's interested in your attitude.
Its not your cock I'm interested in and if you don't get that your most certainly not going to get near my mind let alone my knickers.
ALL of this! I think I love you x"
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" I just don't get why some men think it's ok to message me demanding respect giving me orders, and all because they say they are 'dom'
OK Mr big dick diddly Dom explain one thing to me what makes you dom? Do you pull hair smack spit like rough sex? Have 10 generic pictures off google resembling mr grey with a belt in his hand !! Oh fuck yes that will make me want you!! Heloooo for fuck sake are you really that dumb. I'm not your sub ! Your not my Dom so don't try to demand my submission.
And what's with the cock pictures !! How damn right rude and disrespectful, what happened to conversation, oh sorry I forgot I'm a 'sub' I should love being spoken to in a derogatory manner! No now fuck off and go be a Billy big balls diddly Dom to someone else who's interested in your attitude.
Its not your cock I'm interested in and if you don't get that your most certainly not going to get near my mind let alone my knickers.
ALL of this! I think I love you x
Oh she's my bitch right I seen her 1st "
Can't we all share? |
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
That's such a terribly narrow minded thing to say! I'm very independent and head strong. To me being sub is not a preference it's a mindset that runs deeper than sex, it's a mental need that not many understand, obviously by your comment
can I just add this little bit in?
"unless theres plenty of laughs etc"
I have met people in that scene...but on I cant say I've met many I've been with that I'd say it was a fun time to be with. I'm primarily on here for sex and fun times..from my experiences this hasnt been the case from a swinging perspective, where the 'master' directs and the sub follows direction( Doesnt feel particularly good when you know she never actually chose you at any point in time).
anyway thats MY experiences in most cases...and a reason contacting/meeting with those in that particular need to just not be interesting to me.
Your totally misunderstanding as a true dominant would never allow his sub to be with anyone he knows she wouldn't enjoy, it's an equal thing even though most perceive it to be the DOM in control and makes all the descisions this shouldn't be the case, it's a trust that runs deep and hard for many to understand "
sounds almost paradoxical to me the way you have explained this, (true dom never allows-with someone he knows she wouldn't enjoy...)
and I still think a lot 'true' doms thinks they are THE true dom. It becomes pretty evident at clubs/parties when they try to control others(I've seen them being told to fuck off a few times by a less than sub woman lol), where they cant really have built up that level of trust you state is needed.
I think my point is I dont mind d/s play(as long as its not all taken seriously), and d/s relationships do happen and all are happy which is fine-
but it can be marred when its brought into swinging environments, based around fun-sex-laughs. |
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" I just don't get why some men think it's ok to message me demanding respect giving me orders, and all because they say they are 'dom'
OK Mr big dick diddly Dom explain one thing to me what makes you dom? Do you pull hair smack spit like rough sex? Have 10 generic pictures off google resembling mr grey with a belt in his hand !! Oh fuck yes that will make me want you!! Heloooo for fuck sake are you really that dumb. I'm not your sub ! Your not my Dom so don't try to demand my submission.
And what's with the cock pictures !! How damn right rude and disrespectful, what happened to conversation, oh sorry I forgot I'm a 'sub' I should love being spoken to in a derogatory manner! No now fuck off and go be a Billy big balls diddly Dom to someone else who's interested in your attitude.
Its not your cock I'm interested in and if you don't get that your most certainly not going to get near my mind let alone my knickers.
ALL of this! I think I love you x
Oh she's my bitch right I seen her 1st
Can't we all share? "
Well as they say sharing is caring so be rude not to and I'm well known for my manners
Should we ask her 1st or just get the furry cuffs out I'm sure she'll work it out |
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
That's such a terribly narrow minded thing to say! I'm very independent and head strong. To me being sub is not a preference it's a mindset that runs deeper than sex, it's a mental need that not many understand, obviously by your comment
can I just add this little bit in?
"unless theres plenty of laughs etc"
I have met people in that scene...but on I cant say I've met many I've been with that I'd say it was a fun time to be with. I'm primarily on here for sex and fun times..from my experiences this hasnt been the case from a swinging perspective, where the 'master' directs and the sub follows direction( Doesnt feel particularly good when you know she never actually chose you at any point in time).
anyway thats MY experiences in most cases...and a reason contacting/meeting with those in that particular need to just not be interesting to me.
Your totally misunderstanding as a true dominant would never allow his sub to be with anyone he knows she wouldn't enjoy, it's an equal thing even though most perceive it to be the DOM in control and makes all the descisions this shouldn't be the case, it's a trust that runs deep and hard for many to understand
sounds almost paradoxical to me the way you have explained this, (true dom never allows-with someone he knows she wouldn't enjoy...)
and I still think a lot 'true' doms thinks they are THE true dom. It becomes pretty evident at clubs/parties when they try to control others(I've seen them being told to fuck off a few times by a less than sub woman lol), where they cant really have built up that level of trust you state is needed.
I think my point is I dont mind d/s play(as long as its not all taken seriously), and d/s relationships do happen and all are happy which is fine-
but it can be marred when its brought into swinging environments, based around fun-sex-laughs."
Let's agree to disagree. I don't choose to be submissive as much as I don't choose to be a masoschist its not something I decided one day to become it's been part of me for a long long time, I've hid it away and been deeply embarrassed at the thought of enjoying pain , yet now I'm understanding that it's part of me and partly reasons why I've never been true to myself. I would go as far as saying it feels like I've been in the closet and there's lots of misunderstanding about being a masoschist and/or submissive.
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" I just don't get why some men think it's ok to message me demanding respect giving me orders, and all because they say they are 'dom'
OK Mr big dick diddly Dom explain one thing to me what makes you dom? Do you pull hair smack spit like rough sex? Have 10 generic pictures off google resembling mr grey with a belt in his hand !! Oh fuck yes that will make me want you!! Heloooo for fuck sake are you really that dumb. I'm not your sub ! Your not my Dom so don't try to demand my submission.
And what's with the cock pictures !! How damn right rude and disrespectful, what happened to conversation, oh sorry I forgot I'm a 'sub' I should love being spoken to in a derogatory manner! No now fuck off and go be a Billy big balls diddly Dom to someone else who's interested in your attitude.
Its not your cock I'm interested in and if you don't get that your most certainly not going to get near my mind let alone my knickers.
ALL of this! I think I love you x
Oh she's my bitch right I seen her 1st
Can't we all share?
Well as they say sharing is caring so be rude not to and I'm well known for my manners
Should we ask her 1st or just get the furry cuffs out I'm sure she'll work it out "
Ohh furry hand cuffs! Whips and chains also please , with a 'Dom' watching giving orders such a cliche |
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" I just don't get why some men think it's ok to message me demanding respect giving me orders, and all because they say they are 'dom'
OK Mr big dick diddly Dom explain one thing to me what makes you dom? Do you pull hair smack spit like rough sex? Have 10 generic pictures off google resembling mr grey with a belt in his hand !! Oh fuck yes that will make me want you!! Heloooo for fuck sake are you really that dumb. I'm not your sub ! Your not my Dom so don't try to demand my submission.
And what's with the cock pictures !! How damn right rude and disrespectful, what happened to conversation, oh sorry I forgot I'm a 'sub' I should love being spoken to in a derogatory manner! No now fuck off and go be a Billy big balls diddly Dom to someone else who's interested in your attitude.
Its not your cock I'm interested in and if you don't get that your most certainly not going to get near my mind let alone my knickers.
ALL of this! I think I love you x
Oh she's my bitch right I seen her 1st
Can't we all share?
Well as they say sharing is caring so be rude not to and I'm well known for my manners
Should we ask her 1st or just get the furry cuffs out I'm sure she'll work it out
Ohh furry hand cuffs! Whips and chains also please , with a 'Dom' watching giving orders such a cliche "
Bg get your coat on and your whips out we've pulled |
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Used to be very into this and a sub.
These days less into it as its kinda boring without a committed relationship behind it.
I do a bit if switch but when I'm dominant its more just physically restraining somoen with my body/rough sex. Not really all equipment and scenarios.
I lack the attention span |
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"no interest in such labels..I actually deplore the dom sub scene..unless theres plenty of laughs etc...however in my experience I've never seen much of that. Men who think they're gods and women that are too weak minded/lacking self confidence...and I'm not really into the reverse scene either.
That's such a terribly narrow minded thing to say! I'm very independent and head strong. To me being sub is not a preference it's a mindset that runs deeper than sex, it's a mental need that not many understand, obviously by your comment
can I just add this little bit in?
"unless theres plenty of laughs etc"
I have met people in that scene...but on I cant say I've met many I've been with that I'd say it was a fun time to be with. I'm primarily on here for sex and fun times..from my experiences this hasnt been the case from a swinging perspective, where the 'master' directs and the sub follows direction( Doesnt feel particularly good when you know she never actually chose you at any point in time).
anyway thats MY experiences in most cases...and a reason contacting/meeting with those in that particular need to just not be interesting to me.
Your totally misunderstanding as a true dominant would never allow his sub to be with anyone he knows she wouldn't enjoy, it's an equal thing even though most perceive it to be the DOM in control and makes all the descisions this shouldn't be the case, it's a trust that runs deep and hard for many to understand
sounds almost paradoxical to me the way you have explained this, (true dom never allows-with someone he knows she wouldn't enjoy...)
and I still think a lot 'true' doms thinks they are THE true dom. It becomes pretty evident at clubs/parties when they try to control others(I've seen them being told to fuck off a few times by a less than sub woman lol), where they cant really have built up that level of trust you state is needed.
I think my point is I dont mind d/s play(as long as its not all taken seriously), and d/s relationships do happen and all are happy which is fine-
but it can be marred when its brought into swinging environments, based around fun-sex-laughs."
To me that's like saying I don't mind being bisexual or gay as long as it's not taken seriously!!
you can have lots of fun and laughs on the bdsm scene. Is that so hard to understand, your vanilla that's cool, but don't put others down for being another way inclined , |
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"I'm sexually submissive. But I've been told I've a crap sub. It's a nice idea though  "
Yeah me too. And that I ask too many questions and am too analytical. Obvs it was all my fault - see my original post about con doms.
Loving Vodka Martinez' contributions to this thread. |
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I am a dom, I don't wander around like a fucking vampire all mysterious and shit, you will often see me laugh and joke, I don't put on a George at asda suit and go around telling people what to do, and anyone who knows me knows I'm mostly respectful unless riled.
I don't approach anyone to become my sub,because yes there are parts that I take seriously and no dom should have to assert his dominance it should ooze from him/her like the aura (joking lol)
One thing I do hate though is the term "true dom/sub" it's just another way of saying "I'm better than you" |
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"I am a dom, I don't wander around like a fucking vampire all mysterious and shit, you will often see me laugh and joke, I don't put on a George at asda suit and go around telling people what to do, and anyone who knows me knows I'm mostly respectful unless riled.
I don't approach anyone to become my sub,because yes there are parts that I take seriously and no dom should have to assert his dominance it should ooze from him/her like the aura (joking lol)
One thing I do hate though is the term "true dom/sub" it's just another way of saying "I'm better than you""
I interpret it as being someone that is genuinely understanding as opposed to just playing. |
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I think I'm a crap sub too.
I think it's because I have no clue what I want. I see things that I think "I NEED to try that, but as discussed these things need trust and a knowledge of the other person. These things come with time.
I need to eased gently gently into trying new things and I need a lot of reassurance.
I also burst into fits of giggles when I'm nervous or at a really inopportune moment.
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over a year ago
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Not really a fan of labels like that as I think they conjure up certain ideas and in reality for me its not at all like that for me.
I'm certainly not submissive but equally I'm not a dominatrix. When I get into that "zone" it is like a journey that we share. It comes from within. I chase his reactions. I get off on being in control of his pleasure. I love the mental stimulation as much as the physical.
I get a thrill from driving him crazy and seeing him become completely desperate for me. I do love that he gives himself to me. I definitely don't just take.
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"I get all kinds of frustrated when I'm not in control. Cliche I know but, Maybe with the right woman I could submit, and hopefully one day I'll try it. "
Oh really ?! Yeah I noticed few times you do like orders |
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