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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Played with a couple once where it quickly became apparent that was the case and it wasn't a pleasant experience at all - actually felt incredibly sorry for the lady in question, especially when it later became apparent that her other half regularly visited clubs on his own behind her back. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It seems that 6 out of ten couples we have met or spoken to do it for the other.
I can't see how it could work for long, and what enjoyment would they get out of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Played with a couple once where it quickly became apparent that was the case and it wasn't a pleasant experience at all - actually felt incredibly sorry for the lady in question, especially when it later became apparent that her other half regularly visited clubs on his own behind her
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Same here I stopped the play and we left. The look on the poor woman's face was heart breaking. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"chatted to people in the past - but never took it any further than the talk - no point "
This in particular couple we met very quickly.
When it came time to play and we all started I seen her face and new she was about to cry so we packed up and left. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was in this situation for a while, I felt like a piece of meat at times"
Going to sound nosey now lol how did you manage to keep the pretence up and actually play with people you didn't really want? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I was in this situation for a while, I felt like a piece of meat at times
Going to sound nosey now lol how did you manage to keep the pretence up and actually play with people you didn't really want?"
he used emotional black mail, ie if you don't please me you won't see me for a week etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was in a relationship like this. He was incredible selfish and just wanted his fantasy fulfilled. Now I did want to be on here as a couple but wanted to have more of a choice of who we met. He messaged this one lady and we all got talking. I wasn't keen but he persuaded me and made me feel like a didn't have any other choice.
Anyway I'm free now to make my own decisions.
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I've met a lot of couples like that and it's actually very sad to watch..I think it's boaderline abuse some of the situations I've seen and it's not just the men with the women I seen a lot where it's the woman with the man you can see he doesn't want to do it. I think people have to remember that swinging shouldn't replace your sex life it should only enhance it but sadly there are a lot of people that use it to replace their sex life. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I was in a relationship like this. He was incredible selfish and just wanted his fantasy fulfilled. Now I did want to be on here as a couple but wanted to have more of a choice of who we met. He messaged this one lady and we all got talking. I wasn't keen but he persuaded me and made me feel like a didn't have any other choice.
Anyway I'm free now to make my own decisions.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've met a lot of couples like that and it's actually very sad to watch..I think it's boaderline abuse some of the situations I've seen and it's not just the men with the women I seen a lot where it's the woman with the man you can see he doesn't want to do it. I think people have to remember that swinging shouldn't replace your sex life it should only enhance it but sadly there are a lot of people that use it to replace their sex life. "
Exactly, we spoke about doing this for nearly 2 years before we were brave enough to make a profile and actually meet.
Good communication always helps and having a good relationship and sex life to start with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That's Terrible chick at least you got out.
I believe it takes a strong trusting couple who are happy in their relationship for it to work. actually he dumped me lol"
Probably the best thing he ever did for you. |
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"I've met a lot of couples like that and it's actually very sad to watch..I think it's boaderline abuse some of the situations I've seen and it's not just the men with the women I seen a lot where it's the woman with the man you can see he doesn't want to do it. I think people have to remember that swinging shouldn't replace your sex life it should only enhance it but sadly there are a lot of people that use it to replace their sex life.
Exactly, we spoke about doing this for nearly 2 years before we were brave enough to make a profile and actually meet.
Good communication always helps and having a good relationship and sex life to start with."
I think it's good that you did! I've seen people meet through the scene and a week later have a couples profile (in the past I'm guilty of this and learnt my lesson) and they have established trust or whatever and it just dies a death. I'm all for people meeting through the scene but establish your own sex life and boundaries first..sorry I'll shut up now  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"That's Terrible chick at least you got out.
I believe it takes a strong trusting couple who are happy in their relationship for it to work. actually he dumped me lol
Probably the best thing he ever did for you."
lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met 2 ladies who clearly should not have been forced by their husbands to accompany them to a club. Both ladies were distressed at the attention from other guys, and were attending in the hope of keeping the marriage alive. One of the ladies downed a bottle of red in the hot tub in her underwear whilst hubby was off joining in the action wherever it was. I have only chatted to both ladies as playing was totally out of the question. The contempt I have for the husbands is beyond measure.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What about guys that don't want to do anything with other women but want to watch their partner do things with other guys and have things done to her. Is that equally as bad, like if you don't mind sucking someone off in the first place is it bad that your partner gets off on watching it or watching a guy eat your pussy or would it be a slippery slope. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not met anyone in that position. But have met a couple where the husband was very much the one that wanted to play with me (fem) and was pushing for the meet. That didn't happen after the social x |
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We've seen this a lot at the clubs.
You can just tell that one of the two in the couple is just there to please the other halfs desires.
It just doesn't work though because if we can see it so can others looking to play. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about guys that don't want to do anything with other women but want to watch their partner do things with other guys and have things done to her. Is that equally as bad, like if you don't mind sucking someone off in the first place is it bad that your partner gets off on watching it or watching a guy eat your pussy or would it be a slippery slope. "
we have met lots of couples like that but as long as they are enjoying it.. then no its not the same x
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