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"Ok so as a unicorn let me explain a few things about the site and my experiences. As it is I realised yesterday I've come to the point as to why I was here and why after 2 yrs of being ok with the casual side of life and swinging it may be time to hang up my shoes. Swinging from what I understood was to be the pushing of sexual boundaries with like minded people which with the balance of respect and honesty you can pursue. Well let's break it down. Couple 1 I'm a newbie with the prospect of a mf couple who seem sexy yet when they turn up he's 3 times his picture size, I felt like I was forcing her and asked them why they're here. She says if I don't he'll leave. I asked them to leave. Couple 2- great start, attracted to both, great social fun starts he can't get it up. He leaves in a rampage over no cigs comes back after she tells me he's abusive and he's broken her head open. He comes back loud n angry I kick him out. He's left with the keys n money she has to stay. Next day I'm in pub only to receive messages accusing me of drugging him. Not one illegal drug has passed these lips. He still messages on new profiles I block. Single male 1 social n see. Every possible chemistry indicative of a good sexual liason only to, gotta take a phone call meet you back in an hour message of sorry couldn't be direct didn't want to hurt feelings. Goes to quest 1st time he attends an hour later. Single male one or 2 has passed nsa never meet again the talk of it, texts in the interim Couple 3 wow, amazing we all like each other. Meet planned at quest. A run of messages about their sexy tines and how great the sofa is. Meet cancelled family emergency. The next week their sexy times kik'd whilst I'm watching emmerdale. Calls it for what it is gets called dranatic. They text some months later. Sorry no. I'm dramatic. Single male turns up. Talks to me like a hooker. Wanna see you ficked this way that way. Asked him to leave Single male, no chemistry leaves after an hour Couple number 4 social. Awesome, meet planned, cancelled she's on. See them in quest where the male is offered all the time. Laughs it off. Single male calls. Nice voice, persistent. I No reply on whatsapp as out with friends. Getting tagged why reading no reply. Phone calls will you do this this scenario, maybe, no I need to know. Blocked, phones me cause blocked. Bye bye Single male fwb so I think. 12 weeks introduces me to single female who wants to be instant friend. Quest with single female where I'm discouraged from talking or playing with any one while she's bitching over people due to her own insecurities. Night out results in me absconding due to her controlling nature. Single male fwb who introduced me we attend quest he goes in as couple lays claim on me as couple fucks single female I absconded from, friendship ends. Profile hidden 8 months. When return. Messages asking to meet to talk, no point respect ended. Christmas. Who doesn't like Christmas sex. Meets single male, chatted previously. Comes to house, constantly commenting on my size, let's do couple's profile he says. No. Thanks I say. 2nd meet. Fat jibes at me again. Me no meety again dumpy midget. Single male chatted a year. Meets me discuss history, not into cheats. 2 coffees later I find out he's married Coffee meet. Couple. Single fen turns up. You talk too much you'll make him angry. Taken aback but ok. Quest mff amazing. Know the guy a year. Arranges with fab girl he knows. Amazing. Meets one on one amazing, arranged to let's go out. 10pm comes no man. Car stolen from sales room, with police can't come. Many messages of no substance. Hi sexy thinking of you sexy wanna make it up to you. Another date request. No. Quest. Mmf amazing. Like one more than other Least favoured likes me, pursues me as single male then find out family back home with gf and small child, hers. Quest 1am. Bad date. Goes to quest. Bumps into couple 4, we'll get a private room. Goes in as a 3way only to be fucked by him only for her amusement and the closest I got to female sex was the odd squeeze of a boob. Tells them on kik. Oh we thought it was what yiu wanted. Oh really so why talk about my 3 way fantasy and playing with female? Hides profile. Back again. Heads to party which is a disguised brothel. Leaves thinking that's for my twilight years. Forum chat. Chats to nice man. Weekend arranged awesome No strings social with male chatted 3 months awesome Another 2 dates with above 2 males. Both aware. Date 2 with forum guy. Works out selfish with no respect. Ends. Perplexed I won't refer to him as friend yet when question truth. Am told pissed him off, he's selfish and owes me nothing leaves. Respect ends. So. This may be removed but I don't care. All those times I hid my profile never deleting I think I found why I was here and why I should leave. So when y'all asking who meets well I did. But after reaching dial a dickhead I realise what I expect from people in life is not here. True swingers say this is a hook up site. Yes it is and here's evidence of it. Male 2 from above knows about bad weekend wants to pursue as friend. But I probably won't be here to tell the tale. I'm resilient and believe everything happens for a reason. Weekend guy opened me up to the reasons I'm here so now I know what to do. I think what would my dad say. (He died) I know for sure he'd not want me as a sex toy for people who lack respect and lie. It was certainly an experience and the unicorn in me is forever extinct. I'm not even sure this will stay up. Perhaps this was supposed to be it for me here. I don't even know if this wil get reported and deleted. But I think as I'm hanging up my hoofs I really don't give any more fucks, pardon the pun. I'm sure there'll be an opinion or 2 on me but I guess the fucks are zero on that too. Knock yourself out "oh my look I'm never gonna ask you for 6 numbers between 1 and 49 xx | |||
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"Ok so as a unicorn let me explain a few things about the site and my experiences. As it is I realised yesterday I've come to the point as to why I was here and why after 2 yrs of being ok with the casual side of life and swinging it may be time to hang up my shoes. Swinging from what I understood was to be the pushing of sexual boundaries with like minded people which with the balance of respect and honesty you can pursue. Well let's break it down. Couple 1 I'm a newbie with the prospect of a mf couple who seem sexy yet when they turn up he's 3 times his picture size, I felt like I was forcing her and asked them why they're here. She says if I don't he'll leave. I asked them to leave. Couple 2- great start, attracted to both, great social fun starts he can't get it up. He leaves in a rampage over no cigs comes back after she tells me he's abusive and he's broken her head open. He comes back loud n angry I kick him out. He's left with the keys n money she has to stay. Next day I'm in pub only to receive messages accusing me of drugging him. Not one illegal drug has passed these lips. He still messages on new profiles I block. Single male 1 social n see. Every possible chemistry indicative of a good sexual liason only to, gotta take a phone call meet you back in an hour message of sorry couldn't be direct didn't want to hurt feelings. Goes to quest 1st time he attends an hour later. Single male one or 2 has passed nsa never meet again the talk of it, texts in the interim Couple 3 wow, amazing we all like each other. Meet planned at quest. A run of messages about their sexy tines and how great the sofa is. Meet cancelled family emergency. The next week their sexy times kik'd whilst I'm watching emmerdale. Calls it for what it is gets called dranatic. They text some months later. Sorry no. I'm dramatic. Single male turns up. Talks to me like a hooker. Wanna see you ficked this way that way. Asked him to leave Single male, no chemistry leaves after an hour Couple number 4 social. Awesome, meet planned, cancelled she's on. See them in quest where the male is offered all the time. Laughs it off. Single male calls. Nice voice, persistent. I No reply on whatsapp as out with friends. Getting tagged why reading no reply. Phone calls will you do this this scenario, maybe, no I need to know. Blocked, phones me cause blocked. Bye bye Single male fwb so I think. 12 weeks introduces me to single female who wants to be instant friend. Quest with single female where I'm discouraged from talking or playing with any one while she's bitching over people due to her own insecurities. Night out results in me absconding due to her controlling nature. Single male fwb who introduced me we attend quest he goes in as couple lays claim on me as couple fucks single female I absconded from, friendship ends. Profile hidden 8 months. When return. Messages asking to meet to talk, no point respect ended. Christmas. Who doesn't like Christmas sex. Meets single male, chatted previously. Comes to house, constantly commenting on my size, let's do couple's profile he says. No. Thanks I say. 2nd meet. Fat jibes at me again. Me no meety again dumpy midget. Single male chatted a year. Meets me discuss history, not into cheats. 2 coffees later I find out he's married Coffee meet. Couple. Single fen turns up. You talk too much you'll make him angry. Taken aback but ok. Quest mff amazing. Know the guy a year. Arranges with fab girl he knows. Amazing. Meets one on one amazing, arranged to let's go out. 10pm comes no man. Car stolen from sales room, with police can't come. Many messages of no substance. Hi sexy thinking of you sexy wanna make it up to you. Another date request. No. Quest. Mmf amazing. Like one more than other Least favoured likes me, pursues me as single male then find out family back home with gf and small child, hers. Quest 1am. Bad date. Goes to quest. Bumps into couple 4, we'll get a private room. Goes in as a 3way only to be fucked by him only for her amusement and the closest I got to female sex was the odd squeeze of a boob. Tells them on kik. Oh we thought it was what yiu wanted. Oh really so why talk about my 3 way fantasy and playing with female? Hides profile. Back again. Heads to party which is a disguised brothel. Leaves thinking that's for my twilight years. Forum chat. Chats to nice man. Weekend arranged awesome No strings social with male chatted 3 months awesome Another 2 dates with above 2 males. Both aware. Date 2 with forum guy. Works out selfish with no respect. Ends. Perplexed I won't refer to him as friend yet when question truth. Am told pissed him off, he's selfish and owes me nothing leaves. Respect ends. So. This may be removed but I don't care. All those times I hid my profile never deleting I think I found why I was here and why I should leave. So when y'all asking who meets well I did. But after reaching dial a dickhead I realise what I expect from people in life is not here. True swingers say this is a hook up site. Yes it is and here's evidence of it. Male 2 from above knows about bad weekend wants to pursue as friend. But I probably won't be here to tell the tale. I'm resilient and believe everything happens for a reason. Weekend guy opened me up to the reasons I'm here so now I know what to do. I think what would my dad say. (He died) I know for sure he'd not want me as a sex toy for people who lack respect and lie. It was certainly an experience and the unicorn in me is forever extinct. I'm not even sure this will stay up. Perhaps this was supposed to be it for me here. I don't even know if this wil get reported and deleted. But I think as I'm hanging up my hoofs I really don't give any more fucks, pardon the pun. I'm sure there'll be an opinion or 2 on me but I guess the fucks are zero on that too. Knock yourself out "hey youre gonna get a fair bit of this not that you care by now but you never met me x  | |||
"Ok so as a unicorn let me explain a few things about the site and my experiences. As it is I realised yesterday I've come to the point as to why I was here and why after 2 yrs of being ok with the casual side of life and swinging it may be time to hang up my shoes. Swinging from what I understood was to be the pushing of sexual boundaries with like minded people which with the balance of respect and honesty you can pursue. Well let's break it down. Couple 1 I'm a newbie with the prospect of a mf couple who seem sexy yet when they turn up he's 3 times his picture size, I felt like I was forcing her and asked them why they're here. She says if I don't he'll leave. I asked them to leave. Couple 2- great start, attracted to both, great social fun starts he can't get it up. He leaves in a rampage over no cigs comes back after she tells me he's abusive and he's broken her head open. He comes back loud n angry I kick him out. He's left with the keys n money she has to stay. Next day I'm in pub only to receive messages accusing me of drugging him. Not one illegal drug has passed these lips. He still messages on new profiles I block. Single male 1 social n see. Every possible chemistry indicative of a good sexual liason only to, gotta take a phone call meet you back in an hour message of sorry couldn't be direct didn't want to hurt feelings. Goes to quest 1st time he attends an hour later. Single male one or 2 has passed nsa never meet again the talk of it, texts in the interim Couple 3 wow, amazing we all like each other. Meet planned at quest. A run of messages about their sexy tines and how great the sofa is. Meet cancelled family emergency. The next week their sexy times kik'd whilst I'm watching emmerdale. Calls it for what it is gets called dranatic. They text some months later. Sorry no. I'm dramatic. Single male turns up. Talks to me like a hooker. Wanna see you ficked this way that way. Asked him to leave Single male, no chemistry leaves after an hour Couple number 4 social. Awesome, meet planned, cancelled she's on. See them in quest where the male is offered all the time. Laughs it off. Single male calls. Nice voice, persistent. I No reply on whatsapp as out with friends. Getting tagged why reading no reply. Phone calls will you do this this scenario, maybe, no I need to know. Blocked, phones me cause blocked. Bye bye Single male fwb so I think. 12 weeks introduces me to single female who wants to be instant friend. Quest with single female where I'm discouraged from talking or playing with any one while she's bitching over people due to her own insecurities. Night out results in me absconding due to her controlling nature. Single male fwb who introduced me we attend quest he goes in as couple lays claim on me as couple fucks single female I absconded from, friendship ends. Profile hidden 8 months. When return. Messages asking to meet to talk, no point respect ended. Christmas. Who doesn't like Christmas sex. Meets single male, chatted previously. Comes to house, constantly commenting on my size, let's do couple's profile he says. No. Thanks I say. 2nd meet. Fat jibes at me again. Me no meety again dumpy midget. Single male chatted a year. Meets me discuss history, not into cheats. 2 coffees later I find out he's married Coffee meet. Couple. Single fen turns up. You talk too much you'll make him angry. Taken aback but ok. Quest mff amazing. Know the guy a year. Arranges with fab girl he knows. Amazing. Meets one on one amazing, arranged to let's go out. 10pm comes no man. Car stolen from sales room, with police can't come. Many messages of no substance. Hi sexy thinking of you sexy wanna make it up to you. Another date request. No. Quest. Mmf amazing. Like one more than other Least favoured likes me, pursues me as single male then find out family back home with gf and small child, hers. Quest 1am. Bad date. Goes to quest. Bumps into couple 4, we'll get a private room. Goes in as a 3way only to be fucked by him only for her amusement and the closest I got to female sex was the odd squeeze of a boob. Tells them on kik. Oh we thought it was what yiu wanted. Oh really so why talk about my 3 way fantasy and playing with female? Hides profile. Back again. Heads to party which is a disguised brothel. Leaves thinking that's for my twilight years. Forum chat. Chats to nice man. Weekend arranged awesome No strings social with male chatted 3 months awesome Another 2 dates with above 2 males. Both aware. Date 2 with forum guy. Works out selfish with no respect. Ends. Perplexed I won't refer to him as friend yet when question truth. Am told pissed him off, he's selfish and owes me nothing leaves. Respect ends. So. This may be removed but I don't care. All those times I hid my profile never deleting I think I found why I was here and why I should leave. So when y'all asking who meets well I did. But after reaching dial a dickhead I realise what I expect from people in life is not here. True swingers say this is a hook up site. Yes it is and here's evidence of it. Male 2 from above knows about bad weekend wants to pursue as friend. But I probably won't be here to tell the tale. I'm resilient and believe everything happens for a reason. Weekend guy opened me up to the reasons I'm here so now I know what to do. I think what would my dad say. (He died) I know for sure he'd not want me as a sex toy for people who lack respect and lie. It was certainly an experience and the unicorn in me is forever extinct. I'm not even sure this will stay up. Perhaps this was supposed to be it for me here. I don't even know if this wil get reported and deleted. But I think as I'm hanging up my hoofs I really don't give any more fucks, pardon the pun. I'm sure there'll be an opinion or 2 on me but I guess the fucks are zero on that too. Knock yourself out "hey youre gonna get a fair bit of this not that you care by now but you never met me x | |||
"Ok so as a unicorn let me explain a few things about the site and my experiences. As it is I realised yesterday I've come to the point as to why I was here and why after 2 yrs of being ok with the casual side of life and swinging it may be time to hang up my shoes. Swinging from what I understood was to be the pushing of sexual boundaries with like minded people which with the balance of respect and honesty you can pursue. Well let's break it down. Couple 1 I'm a newbie with the prospect of a mf couple who seem sexy yet when they turn up he's 3 times his picture size, I felt like I was forcing her and asked them why they're here. She says if I don't he'll leave. I asked them to leave. Couple 2- great start, attracted to both, great social fun starts he can't get it up. He leaves in a rampage over no cigs comes back after she tells me he's abusive and he's broken her head open. He comes back loud n angry I kick him out. He's left with the keys n money she has to stay. Next day I'm in pub only to receive messages accusing me of drugging him. Not one illegal drug has passed these lips. He still messages on new profiles I block. Single male 1 social n see. Every possible chemistry indicative of a good sexual liason only to, gotta take a phone call meet you back in an hour message of sorry couldn't be direct didn't want to hurt feelings. Goes to quest 1st time he attends an hour later. Single male one or 2 has passed nsa never meet again the talk of it, texts in the interim Couple 3 wow, amazing we all like each other. Meet planned at quest. A run of messages about their sexy tines and how great the sofa is. Meet cancelled family emergency. The next week their sexy times kik'd whilst I'm watching emmerdale. Calls it for what it is gets called dranatic. They text some months later. Sorry no. I'm dramatic. Single male turns up. Talks to me like a hooker. Wanna see you ficked this way that way. Asked him to leave Single male, no chemistry leaves after an hour Couple number 4 social. Awesome, meet planned, cancelled she's on. See them in quest where the male is offered all the time. Laughs it off. Single male calls. Nice voice, persistent. I No reply on whatsapp as out with friends. Getting tagged why reading no reply. Phone calls will you do this this scenario, maybe, no I need to know. Blocked, phones me cause blocked. Bye bye Single male fwb so I think. 12 weeks introduces me to single female who wants to be instant friend. Quest with single female where I'm discouraged from talking or playing with any one while she's bitching over people due to her own insecurities. Night out results in me absconding due to her controlling nature. Single male fwb who introduced me we attend quest he goes in as couple lays claim on me as couple fucks single female I absconded from, friendship ends. Profile hidden 8 months. When return. Messages asking to meet to talk, no point respect ended. Christmas. Who doesn't like Christmas sex. Meets single male, chatted previously. Comes to house, constantly commenting on my size, let's do couple's profile he says. No. Thanks I say. 2nd meet. Fat jibes at me again. Me no meety again dumpy midget. Single male chatted a year. Meets me discuss history, not into cheats. 2 coffees later I find out he's married Coffee meet. Couple. Single fen turns up. You talk too much you'll make him angry. Taken aback but ok. Quest mff amazing. Know the guy a year. Arranges with fab girl he knows. Amazing. Meets one on one amazing, arranged to let's go out. 10pm comes no man. Car stolen from sales room, with police can't come. Many messages of no substance. Hi sexy thinking of you sexy wanna make it up to you. Another date request. No. Quest. Mmf amazing. Like one more than other Least favoured likes me, pursues me as single male then find out family back home with gf and small child, hers. Quest 1am. Bad date. Goes to quest. Bumps into couple 4, we'll get a private room. Goes in as a 3way only to be fucked by him only for her amusement and the closest I got to female sex was the odd squeeze of a boob. Tells them on kik. Oh we thought it was what yiu wanted. Oh really so why talk about my 3 way fantasy and playing with female? Hides profile. Back again. Heads to party which is a disguised brothel. Leaves thinking that's for my twilight years. Forum chat. Chats to nice man. Weekend arranged awesome No strings social with male chatted 3 months awesome Another 2 dates with above 2 males. Both aware. Date 2 with forum guy. Works out selfish with no respect. Ends. Perplexed I won't refer to him as friend yet when question truth. Am told pissed him off, he's selfish and owes me nothing leaves. Respect ends. So. This may be removed but I don't care. All those times I hid my profile never deleting I think I found why I was here and why I should leave. So when y'all asking who meets well I did. But after reaching dial a dickhead I realise what I expect from people in life is not here. True swingers say this is a hook up site. Yes it is and here's evidence of it. Male 2 from above knows about bad weekend wants to pursue as friend. But I probably won't be here to tell the tale. I'm resilient and believe everything happens for a reason. Weekend guy opened me up to the reasons I'm here so now I know what to do. I think what would my dad say. (He died) I know for sure he'd not want me as a sex toy for people who lack respect and lie. It was certainly an experience and the unicorn in me is forever extinct. I'm not even sure this will stay up. Perhaps this was supposed to be it for me here. I don't even know if this wil get reported and deleted. But I think as I'm hanging up my hoofs I really don't give any more fucks, pardon the pun. I'm sure there'll be an opinion or 2 on me but I guess the fucks are zero on that too. 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"Im posting just because im proud I read it all. It's a shame you've had so many bad experiences "i ended up reading it all, hard to know what to say really, i think we all have had some degree of the thread | |||
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"Ok so as a unicorn let me explain a few things about the site and my experiences. As it is I realised yesterday I've come to the point as to why I was here and why after 2 yrs of being ok with the casual side of life and swinging it may be time to hang up my shoes. Swinging from what I understood was to be the pushing of sexual boundaries with like minded people which with the balance of respect and honesty you can pursue. Well let's break it down. Couple 1 I'm a newbie with the prospect of a mf couple who seem sexy yet when they turn up he's 3 times his picture size, I felt like I was forcing her and asked them why they're here. She says if I don't he'll leave. I asked them to leave. Couple 2- great start, attracted to both, great social fun starts he can't get it up. He leaves in a rampage over no cigs comes back after she tells me he's abusive and he's broken her head open. He comes back loud n angry I kick him out. He's left with the keys n money she has to stay. Next day I'm in pub only to receive messages accusing me of drugging him. Not one illegal drug has passed these lips. He still messages on new profiles I block. Single male 1 social n see. Every possible chemistry indicative of a good sexual liason only to, gotta take a phone call meet you back in an hour message of sorry couldn't be direct didn't want to hurt feelings. Goes to quest 1st time he attends an hour later. Single male one or 2 has passed nsa never meet again the talk of it, texts in the interim Couple 3 wow, amazing we all like each other. Meet planned at quest. A run of messages about their sexy tines and how great the sofa is. Meet cancelled family emergency. The next week their sexy times kik'd whilst I'm watching emmerdale. Calls it for what it is gets called dranatic. They text some months later. Sorry no. I'm dramatic. Single male turns up. Talks to me like a hooker. Wanna see you ficked this way that way. Asked him to leave Single male, no chemistry leaves after an hour Couple number 4 social. Awesome, meet planned, cancelled she's on. See them in quest where the male is offered all the time. Laughs it off. Single male calls. Nice voice, persistent. I No reply on whatsapp as out with friends. Getting tagged why reading no reply. Phone calls will you do this this scenario, maybe, no I need to know. Blocked, phones me cause blocked. Bye bye Single male fwb so I think. 12 weeks introduces me to single female who wants to be instant friend. Quest with single female where I'm discouraged from talking or playing with any one while she's bitching over people due to her own insecurities. Night out results in me absconding due to her controlling nature. Single male fwb who introduced me we attend quest he goes in as couple lays claim on me as couple fucks single female I absconded from, friendship ends. Profile hidden 8 months. When return. Messages asking to meet to talk, no point respect ended. Christmas. Who doesn't like Christmas sex. Meets single male, chatted previously. Comes to house, constantly commenting on my size, let's do couple's profile he says. No. Thanks I say. 2nd meet. Fat jibes at me again. Me no meety again dumpy midget. Single male chatted a year. Meets me discuss history, not into cheats. 2 coffees later I find out he's married Coffee meet. Couple. Single fen turns up. You talk too much you'll make him angry. Taken aback but ok. Quest mff amazing. Know the guy a year. Arranges with fab girl he knows. Amazing. Meets one on one amazing, arranged to let's go out. 10pm comes no man. Car stolen from sales room, with police can't come. Many messages of no substance. Hi sexy thinking of you sexy wanna make it up to you. Another date request. No. Quest. Mmf amazing. Like one more than other Least favoured likes me, pursues me as single male then find out family back home with gf and small child, hers. Quest 1am. Bad date. Goes to quest. Bumps into couple 4, we'll get a private room. Goes in as a 3way only to be fucked by him only for her amusement and the closest I got to female sex was the odd squeeze of a boob. Tells them on kik. Oh we thought it was what yiu wanted. Oh really so why talk about my 3 way fantasy and playing with female? Hides profile. Back again. Heads to party which is a disguised brothel. Leaves thinking that's for my twilight years. Forum chat. Chats to nice man. Weekend arranged awesome No strings social with male chatted 3 months awesome Another 2 dates with above 2 males. Both aware. Date 2 with forum guy. Works out selfish with no respect. Ends. Perplexed I won't refer to him as friend yet when question truth. Am told pissed him off, he's selfish and owes me nothing leaves. Respect ends. So. This may be removed but I don't care. All those times I hid my profile never deleting I think I found why I was here and why I should leave. So when y'all asking who meets well I did. But after reaching dial a dickhead I realise what I expect from people in life is not here. True swingers say this is a hook up site. Yes it is and here's evidence of it. Male 2 from above knows about bad weekend wants to pursue as friend. But I probably won't be here to tell the tale. I'm resilient and believe everything happens for a reason. Weekend guy opened me up to the reasons I'm here so now I know what to do. I think what would my dad say. (He died) I know for sure he'd not want me as a sex toy for people who lack respect and lie. It was certainly an experience and the unicorn in me is forever extinct. I'm not even sure this will stay up. Perhaps this was supposed to be it for me here. I don't even know if this wil get reported and deleted. But I think as I'm hanging up my hoofs I really don't give any more fucks, pardon the pun. I'm sure there'll be an opinion or 2 on me but I guess the fucks are zero on that too. Knock yourself out "You need an editor... Should contact penguin books.. | |||
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"Ive skimmed. It's a fab log book. But I do not get your point.. Good meets, bad meets, deceit.. We've all had that on or off site. " its the life sex is a commodity and some things take president to it and as a result let you down ,its crap it really is ,some people have no manners but as the lady did you move on but a lot of bad luck if you ask me | |||
"Im posting just because im proud I read it all. It's a shame you've had so many bad experiences
i ended up reading it all, hard to know what to say really, i think we all have had some degree of the thread"Im still waiting for a good experience
Ive had bad and awful, kinda put me off looking again. | |||
"Ok so as a unicorn let me explain a few things about the site and my experiences. As it is I realised yesterday I've come to the point as to why I was here and why after 2 yrs of being ok with the casual side of life and swinging it may be time to hang up my shoes. Swinging from what I understood was to be the pushing of sexual boundaries with like minded people which with the balance of respect and honesty you can pursue. Well let's break it down. Couple 1 I'm a newbie with the prospect of a mf couple who seem sexy yet when they turn up he's 3 times his picture size, I felt like I was forcing her and asked them why they're here. She says if I don't he'll leave. I asked them to leave. Couple 2- great start, attracted to both, great social fun starts he can't get it up. He leaves in a rampage over no cigs comes back after she tells me he's abusive and he's broken her head open. He comes back loud n angry I kick him out. He's left with the keys n money she has to stay. Next day I'm in pub only to receive messages accusing me of drugging him. Not one illegal drug has passed these lips. He still messages on new profiles I block. Single male 1 social n see. Every possible chemistry indicative of a good sexual liason only to, gotta take a phone call meet you back in an hour message of sorry couldn't be direct didn't want to hurt feelings. Goes to quest 1st time he attends an hour later. Single male one or 2 has passed nsa never meet again the talk of it, texts in the interim Couple 3 wow, amazing we all like each other. Meet planned at quest. A run of messages about their sexy tines and how great the sofa is. Meet cancelled family emergency. The next week their sexy times kik'd whilst I'm watching emmerdale. Calls it for what it is gets called dranatic. They text some months later. Sorry no. I'm dramatic. Single male turns up. Talks to me like a hooker. Wanna see you ficked this way that way. Asked him to leave Single male, no chemistry leaves after an hour Couple number 4 social. Awesome, meet planned, cancelled she's on. See them in quest where the male is offered all the time. Laughs it off. Single male calls. Nice voice, persistent. I No reply on whatsapp as out with friends. Getting tagged why reading no reply. Phone calls will you do this this scenario, maybe, no I need to know. Blocked, phones me cause blocked. Bye bye Single male fwb so I think. 12 weeks introduces me to single female who wants to be instant friend. Quest with single female where I'm discouraged from talking or playing with any one while she's bitching over people due to her own insecurities. Night out results in me absconding due to her controlling nature. Single male fwb who introduced me we attend quest he goes in as couple lays claim on me as couple fucks single female I absconded from, friendship ends. Profile hidden 8 months. When return. Messages asking to meet to talk, no point respect ended. Christmas. Who doesn't like Christmas sex. Meets single male, chatted previously. Comes to house, constantly commenting on my size, let's do couple's profile he says. No. Thanks I say. 2nd meet. Fat jibes at me again. Me no meety again dumpy midget. Single male chatted a year. Meets me discuss history, not into cheats. 2 coffees later I find out he's married Coffee meet. Couple. Single fen turns up. You talk too much you'll make him angry. Taken aback but ok. Quest mff amazing. Know the guy a year. Arranges with fab girl he knows. Amazing. Meets one on one amazing, arranged to let's go out. 10pm comes no man. Car stolen from sales room, with police can't come. Many messages of no substance. Hi sexy thinking of you sexy wanna make it up to you. Another date request. No. Quest. Mmf amazing. Like one more than other Least favoured likes me, pursues me as single male then find out family back home with gf and small child, hers. Quest 1am. Bad date. Goes to quest. Bumps into couple 4, we'll get a private room. Goes in as a 3way only to be fucked by him only for her amusement and the closest I got to female sex was the odd squeeze of a boob. Tells them on kik. Oh we thought it was what yiu wanted. Oh really so why talk about my 3 way fantasy and playing with female? Hides profile. Back again. Heads to party which is a disguised brothel. Leaves thinking that's for my twilight years. Forum chat. Chats to nice man. Weekend arranged awesome No strings social with male chatted 3 months awesome Another 2 dates with above 2 males. Both aware. Date 2 with forum guy. Works out selfish with no respect. Ends. Perplexed I won't refer to him as friend yet when question truth. Am told pissed him off, he's selfish and owes me nothing leaves. Respect ends. So. This may be removed but I don't care. All those times I hid my profile never deleting I think I found why I was here and why I should leave. So when y'all asking who meets well I did. But after reaching dial a dickhead I realise what I expect from people in life is not here. True swingers say this is a hook up site. Yes it is and here's evidence of it. Male 2 from above knows about bad weekend wants to pursue as friend. But I probably won't be here to tell the tale. I'm resilient and believe everything happens for a reason. Weekend guy opened me up to the reasons I'm here so now I know what to do. I think what would my dad say. (He died) I know for sure he'd not want me as a sex toy for people who lack respect and lie. It was certainly an experience and the unicorn in me is forever extinct. I'm not even sure this will stay up. Perhaps this was supposed to be it for me here. I don't even know if this wil get reported and deleted. But I think as I'm hanging up my hoofs I really don't give any more fucks, pardon the pun. I'm sure there'll be an opinion or 2 on me but I guess the fucks are zero on that too. Knock yourself out oh my look I'm never gonna ask you for 6 numbers between 1 and 49 xx "Ha ha I didn't even include the reasons from normal dating. My friend tells me to put the numbers on x | |||
"Ok so as a unicorn let me explain a few things about the site and my experiences. As it is I realised yesterday I've come to the point as to why I was here and why after 2 yrs of being ok with the casual side of life and swinging it may be time to hang up my shoes. Swinging from what I understood was to be the pushing of sexual boundaries with like minded people which with the balance of respect and honesty you can pursue. Well let's break it down. Couple 1 I'm a newbie with the prospect of a mf couple who seem sexy yet when they turn up he's 3 times his picture size, I felt like I was forcing her and asked them why they're here. She says if I don't he'll leave. I asked them to leave. Couple 2- great start, attracted to both, great social fun starts he can't get it up. He leaves in a rampage over no cigs comes back after she tells me he's abusive and he's broken her head open. He comes back loud n angry I kick him out. He's left with the keys n money she has to stay. Next day I'm in pub only to receive messages accusing me of drugging him. Not one illegal drug has passed these lips. He still messages on new profiles I block. Single male 1 social n see. Every possible chemistry indicative of a good sexual liason only to, gotta take a phone call meet you back in an hour message of sorry couldn't be direct didn't want to hurt feelings. Goes to quest 1st time he attends an hour later. Single male one or 2 has passed nsa never meet again the talk of it, texts in the interim Couple 3 wow, amazing we all like each other. Meet planned at quest. A run of messages about their sexy tines and how great the sofa is. Meet cancelled family emergency. The next week their sexy times kik'd whilst I'm watching emmerdale. Calls it for what it is gets called dranatic. They text some months later. Sorry no. I'm dramatic. Single male turns up. Talks to me like a hooker. Wanna see you ficked this way that way. Asked him to leave Single male, no chemistry leaves after an hour Couple number 4 social. Awesome, meet planned, cancelled she's on. See them in quest where the male is offered all the time. Laughs it off. Single male calls. Nice voice, persistent. I No reply on whatsapp as out with friends. Getting tagged why reading no reply. Phone calls will you do this this scenario, maybe, no I need to know. Blocked, phones me cause blocked. Bye bye Single male fwb so I think. 12 weeks introduces me to single female who wants to be instant friend. Quest with single female where I'm discouraged from talking or playing with any one while she's bitching over people due to her own insecurities. Night out results in me absconding due to her controlling nature. Single male fwb who introduced me we attend quest he goes in as couple lays claim on me as couple fucks single female I absconded from, friendship ends. Profile hidden 8 months. When return. Messages asking to meet to talk, no point respect ended. Christmas. Who doesn't like Christmas sex. Meets single male, chatted previously. Comes to house, constantly commenting on my size, let's do couple's profile he says. No. Thanks I say. 2nd meet. Fat jibes at me again. Me no meety again dumpy midget. Single male chatted a year. Meets me discuss history, not into cheats. 2 coffees later I find out he's married Coffee meet. Couple. Single fen turns up. You talk too much you'll make him angry. Taken aback but ok. Quest mff amazing. Know the guy a year. Arranges with fab girl he knows. Amazing. Meets one on one amazing, arranged to let's go out. 10pm comes no man. Car stolen from sales room, with police can't come. Many messages of no substance. Hi sexy thinking of you sexy wanna make it up to you. Another date request. No. Quest. Mmf amazing. Like one more than other Least favoured likes me, pursues me as single male then find out family back home with gf and small child, hers. Quest 1am. Bad date. Goes to quest. Bumps into couple 4, we'll get a private room. Goes in as a 3way only to be fucked by him only for her amusement and the closest I got to female sex was the odd squeeze of a boob. Tells them on kik. Oh we thought it was what yiu wanted. Oh really so why talk about my 3 way fantasy and playing with female? Hides profile. Back again. Heads to party which is a disguised brothel. Leaves thinking that's for my twilight years. Forum chat. Chats to nice man. Weekend arranged awesome No strings social with male chatted 3 months awesome Another 2 dates with above 2 males. Both aware. Date 2 with forum guy. Works out selfish with no respect. Ends. Perplexed I won't refer to him as friend yet when question truth. Am told pissed him off, he's selfish and owes me nothing leaves. Respect ends. So. This may be removed but I don't care. All those times I hid my profile never deleting I think I found why I was here and why I should leave. So when y'all asking who meets well I did. But after reaching dial a dickhead I realise what I expect from people in life is not here. True swingers say this is a hook up site. Yes it is and here's evidence of it. Male 2 from above knows about bad weekend wants to pursue as friend. But I probably won't be here to tell the tale. I'm resilient and believe everything happens for a reason. Weekend guy opened me up to the reasons I'm here so now I know what to do. I think what would my dad say. (He died) I know for sure he'd not want me as a sex toy for people who lack respect and lie. It was certainly an experience and the unicorn in me is forever extinct. I'm not even sure this will stay up. Perhaps this was supposed to be it for me here. I don't even know if this wil get reported and deleted. But I think as I'm hanging up my hoofs I really don't give any more fucks, pardon the pun. I'm sure there'll be an opinion or 2 on me but I guess the fucks are zero on that too. Knock yourself out
You need an editor...
Should contact penguin books..
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"Well surprisingly some lovely messages x Thank you. I will miss the forums. But not the aggressive ones. Oooh no. " Why not stay and just occasionally look/post? I dont use the rest of the site, I wouldn't meet people. But the people from the forums are worth staying for, be it a giggle or a pick me up | |||
Holy fuck that's a lot to read.
I think everyone has good and bad experiences. Its a shame that your bad ones seem to outnumber your good ones. I do wonder a tad if your vetting has anything to do with your bad luck, though? I only ask because it seems you've had more negatives than is standard. I dunno.
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Holy fuck that's a lot to read.
I think everyone has good and bad experiences. Its a shame that your bad ones seem to outnumber your good ones. I do wonder a tad if your vetting has anything to do with your bad luck, though? I only ask because it seems you've had more negatives than is standard. I dunno.
If you're not having fun then you shouldn't stay. Its really that simple. "I edited and vetted as much as I could. To the point of few messages. You'll never find out if you'll never try. | |||
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And there may be sites which are better suited to queet sexuality broadly defined and real connection than here which is about erm swinging! | |||
Your experience of Fab (or any other swinging experiences for that matter) should be to fulfil your fantasies and desires, not to pander to others or to fit into a particular bracket or stereotype  | |||
"Don't be a unicorn. Be yourself. I've never seen myself as or wanted to be a unicorn. If anything I'm a pegasus.
Your experience of Fab (or any other swinging experiences for that matter) should be to fulfil your fantasies and desires, not to pander to others or to fit into a particular bracket or stereotype "Brilliant post. | |||
" I realised when mr weekend left, I could've not created the situation I caused and I knew when I went there it would end. " So, you deliberately sabotaged the weekend then! | |||
"Im still waiting for a good experience
Ive had bad and awful, kinda put me off looking again."I'm sure the people who verified you will be pleased to hear that | |||
"Im still waiting for a good experience
Ive had bad and awful, kinda put me off looking again.
I'm sure the people who verified you will be pleased to hear that "A) its only one verification B) they dont come on here C) they would know I wasn't referencing them, but even that was only a one time thing. | |||
"I really want to reply to this. I think I'll just have a little class and keep it buttoned. " Well you did reply so....... | |||
" I realised when mr weekend left, I could've not created the situation I caused and I knew when I went there it would end. So, you deliberately sabotaged the weekend then! " To a degree yes. However. Everyone and everything happens for a reason. It was a good weekend. Both reactions indicate it wasn't going to be the way it was again. Everyone teaches us something. | |||
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"You are persistent! Two thoughts. You've not met me yet so leaving is premature.
And there may be sites which are better suited to queet sexuality broadly defined and real connection than here which is about erm swinging!"That's generalising swingers for not treating people in a good way. I don't think all swingers are like that. If so it would be fabdoormats wouldn't it? | |||
"For autocarrot. Yes I learned and even after editing my profile of no cheats, bad messages, single males of couple's etc, it got to this. Personally I've been in love twice. Unfortunately my ex left a few scars which coming on here allowed me at least to apply butterfly stitches. But. It seems too many people wanna rip them off too. I know now I'm ready to look into looking after those scars and focusing on getting real stitches on them. I believe everything and everyone happens for a reason. So I think if I keep going on the merry go round and getting the horse that's stuck it's time to move on and find the right ride. My head and heart have a lot to say. Maybe I'll blog again. Who knows. I realised when mr weekend left, I could've not created the situation I caused and I knew when I went there it would end. Until I have reason to do otherwise I will treat anyone well. X " I think we sound quite similar. x Maybe stay for the forums. Sometimes I look but get discouraged quickly and give up. I'm happy with that. I'm not getting messed around by dickheads. | |||
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"For autocarrot. Yes I learned and even after editing my profile of no cheats, bad messages, single males of couple's etc, it got to this. Personally I've been in love twice. Unfortunately my ex left a few scars which coming on here allowed me at least to apply butterfly stitches. But. It seems too many people wanna rip them off too. I know now I'm ready to look into looking after those scars and focusing on getting real stitches on them. I believe everything and everyone happens for a reason. So I think if I keep going on the merry go round and getting the horse that's stuck it's time to move on and find the right ride. My head and heart have a lot to say. Maybe I'll blog again. Who knows. I realised when mr weekend left, I could've not created the situation I caused and I knew when I went there it would end. Until I have reason to do otherwise I will treat anyone well. X I think we sound quite similar. x Maybe stay for the forums. Sometimes I look but get discouraged quickly and give up. I'm happy with that. I'm not getting messed around by dickheads. "Seems there's a few of us. | |||
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"Could people stop quoting the original post please, I'm getting thumb ache from scrolling "Same OP it sounds very much as though you're having some sort of an awakening. The universe is telling you (it's pretty much shouting) to move on. If you choose not to listen and keep walking into these scenarios, that's akin to self harm. People can only treat us the way we allow them to. Love and respect yourself, first and foremost. Concentrate on what you know makes you truly happy. What you need can only come from you. When you have it, what you want will just come to you x | |||
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"I wonder how much of it is bad luck, and how much is that what fab means for some (most?) people doesn't jibe with what it means for others. It would seem to me that the majority see and use fab very differently how I saw and how I wanted to use fab. I don't think anyone's selection process is 'off' as much as anyone isn't psychic. And it's a shaming /blaming thing to say, or imply. Which just looks defensive. I hope the op sticks around. " Not a shaming/blaming thing at all. What am I supposed to be defensive of? Doing the same thing over and over, doesn't get different results, so if you want a different result, change the method. I got repeatedly stood up when I first joined, changed a few things and not had the same problem since. | |||
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"Ok so as a unicorn let me explain a few things about the site and my experiences. As it is I realised yesterday I've come to the point as to why I was here and why after 2 yrs of being ok with the casual side of life and swinging it may be time to hang up my shoes. Swinging from what I understood was to be the pushing of sexual boundaries with like minded people which with the balance of respect and honesty you can pursue. Well let's break it down. Couple 1 I'm a newbie with the prospect of a mf couple who seem sexy yet when they turn up he's 3 times his picture size, I felt like I was forcing her and asked them why they're here. She says if I don't he'll leave. I asked them to leave. Couple 2- great start, attracted to both, great social fun starts he can't get it up. He leaves in a rampage over no cigs comes back after she tells me he's abusive and he's broken her head open. He comes back loud n angry I kick him out. He's left with the keys n money she has to stay. Next day I'm in pub only to receive messages accusing me of drugging him. Not one illegal drug has passed these lips. He still messages on new profiles I block. Single male 1 social n see. Every possible chemistry indicative of a good sexual liason only to, gotta take a phone call meet you back in an hour message of sorry couldn't be direct didn't want to hurt feelings. Goes to quest 1st time he attends an hour later. Single male one or 2 has passed nsa never meet again the talk of it, texts in the interim Couple 3 wow, amazing we all like each other. Meet planned at quest. A run of messages about their sexy tines and how great the sofa is. Meet cancelled family emergency. The next week their sexy times kik'd whilst I'm watching emmerdale. Calls it for what it is gets called dranatic. They text some months later. Sorry no. I'm dramatic. Single male turns up. Talks to me like a hooker. Wanna see you ficked this way that way. Asked him to leave Single male, no chemistry leaves after an hour Couple number 4 social. Awesome, meet planned, cancelled she's on. See them in quest where the male is offered all the time. Laughs it off. Single male calls. Nice voice, persistent. I No reply on whatsapp as out with friends. Getting tagged why reading no reply. Phone calls will you do this this scenario, maybe, no I need to know. Blocked, phones me cause blocked. Bye bye Single male fwb so I think. 12 weeks introduces me to single female who wants to be instant friend. Quest with single female where I'm discouraged from talking or playing with any one while she's bitching over people due to her own insecurities. Night out results in me absconding due to her controlling nature. Single male fwb who introduced me we attend quest he goes in as couple lays claim on me as couple fucks single female I absconded from, friendship ends. Profile hidden 8 months. When return. Messages asking to meet to talk, no point respect ended. Christmas. Who doesn't like Christmas sex. Meets single male, chatted previously. Comes to house, constantly commenting on my size, let's do couple's profile he says. No. Thanks I say. 2nd meet. Fat jibes at me again. Me no meety again dumpy midget. Single male chatted a year. Meets me discuss history, not into cheats. 2 coffees later I find out he's married Coffee meet. Couple. Single fen turns up. You talk too much you'll make him angry. Taken aback but ok. Quest mff amazing. Know the guy a year. Arranges with fab girl he knows. Amazing. Meets one on one amazing, arranged to let's go out. 10pm comes no man. Car stolen from sales room, with police can't come. Many messages of no substance. Hi sexy thinking of you sexy wanna make it up to you. Another date request. No. Quest. Mmf amazing. Like one more than other Least favoured likes me, pursues me as single male then find out family back home with gf and small child, hers. Quest 1am. Bad date. Goes to quest. Bumps into couple 4, we'll get a private room. Goes in as a 3way only to be fucked by him only for her amusement and the closest I got to female sex was the odd squeeze of a boob. Tells them on kik. Oh we thought it was what yiu wanted. Oh really so why talk about my 3 way fantasy and playing with female? Hides profile. Back again. Heads to party which is a disguised brothel. Leaves thinking that's for my twilight years. Forum chat. Chats to nice man. Weekend arranged awesome No strings social with male chatted 3 months awesome Another 2 dates with above 2 males. Both aware. Date 2 with forum guy. Works out selfish with no respect. Ends. Perplexed I won't refer to him as friend yet when question truth. Am told pissed him off, he's selfish and owes me nothing leaves. Respect ends. So. This may be removed but I don't care. All those times I hid my profile never deleting I think I found why I was here and why I should leave. So when y'all asking who meets well I did. But after reaching dial a dickhead I realise what I expect from people in life is not here. True swingers say this is a hook up site. Yes it is and here's evidence of it. Male 2 from above knows about bad weekend wants to pursue as friend. But I probably won't be here to tell the tale. I'm resilient and believe everything happens for a reason. Weekend guy opened me up to the reasons I'm here so now I know what to do. I think what would my dad say. (He died) I know for sure he'd not want me as a sex toy for people who lack respect and lie. It was certainly an experience and the unicorn in me is forever extinct. I'm not even sure this will stay up. Perhaps this was supposed to be it for me here. I don't even know if this wil get reported and deleted. But I think as I'm hanging up my hoofs I really don't give any more fucks, pardon the pun. I'm sure there'll be an opinion or 2 on me but I guess the fucks are zero on that too. Knock yourself out "hugs.. look after you, whatever that is, well being should be a staple in life, you are worth it x | |||
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"Add the op had good meets, then her selection process can't be that off. Maybe not blaming. But defensive... Hmmm... Maybe they feel by you being selective makes them look at though they'll fuck anything? Just a thought. "
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"Add the op had good meets, then her selection process can't be that off. Maybe not blaming. But defensive... Hmmm... Maybe they feel by you being selective makes them look at though they'll fuck anything? Just a thought. " My comment wasn't defensive in the slightest...and I certainly don't feel the OP is more selective than me, far from it. By following your train of thought anyone who hasn't had a disappointing meet *might* just 'fuck anything', rather than actually carefully choosing the right partners | |||
" By following your train of thought anyone who hasn't had a disappointing meet *might* just 'fuck anything', rather than actually carefully choosing the right partners "That's very true. | |||
" By following your train of thought anyone who hasn't had a disappointing meet *might* just 'fuck anything', rather than actually carefully choosing the right partners
That's very true. "You come across as a bitter woman who allows her own disappointment in Fab to lead her to assumptions about others who get the site to work for them | |||
"I wonder how much of it is bad luck, and how much is that what fab means for some (most?) people doesn't jibe with what it means for others. It would seem to me that the majority see and use fab very differently how I saw and how I wanted to use fab. I don't think anyone's selection process is 'off' as much as anyone isn't psychic. And it's a shaming /blaming thing to say, or imply. Which just looks defensive. I hope the op sticks around. "
Agree with your later post too. If the OP was 'to blame' then all her meets would have been crap... but they weren't.
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"I'm glad it did stay up, as it will maybe explain to all the couples on here looking for a 'unicorn' to enhance their swinging experience.... certainly food for thought
My first thought was how can one woman have so many bad meets! The, what can only be described as a catastrophe of an experience with couples, followed on to the the men she has met also. "because, and this really is my opinion, swinging is just people using others for sex. it's nothing like the hippy version where it's free love, it's just using people. there's no love unless you're getting their rocks off and it's not long lasting, only until they find someone easier than yourself. when i was younger they used to call these people players. when people say this is not a fuck site i do wonder why they think it isn't coz that is pretty much the only reason why anyone is interested in you, sex. and why wouldn't they be? why would anyone whose main interest is sex bother with anyone they don't wanna fuck or be sexual with? if you're easy on here it's easy to get a fuck. but you'll also get slagged off for that too, coz if you enjoy sex you can guarantee nobody is gonna wanna give you enough of it so you have to go fuck basically the whole site or go without. i've done both and know which one is better for my self esteem. i don't think many guys deserve me to even acknowledge them, never mind shove their dick in me. i do talk to some men, really do prefer TV and women as neither have an agenda for chatting to me and those who might are totally respectful and friendly and i do class them as friends eventually after some time. i haven't even had as many bad experiences as the OP and that's coz i knew deep down i didn't wanna get to know anybody on a personal level so for me i can ignore the cheats, the bullshitters, and all the crap mostly coz if you don't ask you don't find out. but it's obvious anyway, once you start thinking about it. christ, even if you had an affair with a married guy he'd fuck you more than once a week, never mind once every couple of months. and that's fucking sad on it's own haha. so i do know #notallmen but mostly you are like this so go fuck yourselves. married my vibrator now and if you aren't any good for anything else than i don't want you. | |||
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My first thought was how can one woman have so many bad meets! The, what can only be described as a catastrophe of an experience with couples, followed on to the the men she has met also.
because, and this really is my opinion, swinging is just people using others for sex. it's nothing like the hippy version where it's free love, it's just using people. there's no love unless you're getting their rocks off and it's not long lasting, only until they find someone easier than yourself.
when i was younger they used to call these people players. when people say this is not a fuck site i do wonder why they think it isn't coz that is pretty much the only reason why anyone is interested in you, sex. and why wouldn't they be? why would anyone whose main interest is sex bother with anyone they don't wanna fuck or be sexual with?
if you're easy on here it's easy to get a fuck. but you'll also get slagged off for that too, coz if you enjoy sex you can guarantee nobody is gonna wanna give you enough of it so you have to go fuck basically the whole site or go without. i've done both and know which one is better for my self esteem.
i don't think many guys deserve me to even acknowledge them, never mind shove their dick in me. i do talk to some men, really do prefer TV and women as neither have an agenda for chatting to me and those who might are totally respectful and friendly and i do class them as friends eventually after some time.
i haven't even had as many bad experiences as the OP and that's coz i knew deep down i didn't wanna get to know anybody on a personal level so for me i can ignore the cheats, the bullshitters, and all the crap mostly coz if you don't ask you don't find out. but it's obvious anyway, once you start thinking about it.
christ, even if you had an affair with a married guy he'd fuck you more than once a week, never mind once every couple of months. and that's fucking sad on it's own haha.
so i do know #notallmen but mostly you are like this so go fuck yourselves. married my vibrator now and if you aren't any good for anything else than i don't want you."I love your comments | |||
"I'm glad it did stay up, as it will maybe explain to all the couples on here looking for a 'unicorn' to enhance their swinging experience.... certainly food for thought
My first thought was how can one woman have so many bad meets! The, what can only be described as a catastrophe of an experience with couples, followed on to the the men she has met also.
because, and this really is my opinion, swinging is just people using others for sex. it's nothing like the hippy version where it's free love, it's just using people. there's no love unless you're getting their rocks off and it's not long lasting, only until they find someone easier than yourself.
when i was younger they used to call these people players. when people say this is not a fuck site i do wonder why they think it isn't coz that is pretty much the only reason why anyone is interested in you, sex. and why wouldn't they be? why would anyone whose main interest is sex bother with anyone they don't wanna fuck or be sexual with?
if you're easy on here it's easy to get a fuck. but you'll also get slagged off for that too, coz if you enjoy sex you can guarantee nobody is gonna wanna give you enough of it so you have to go fuck basically the whole site or go without. i've done both and know which one is better for my self esteem.
i don't think many guys deserve me to even acknowledge them, never mind shove their dick in me. i do talk to some men, really do prefer TV and women as neither have an agenda for chatting to me and those who might are totally respectful and friendly and i do class them as friends eventually after some time.
i haven't even had as many bad experiences as the OP and that's coz i knew deep down i didn't wanna get to know anybody on a personal level so for me i can ignore the cheats, the bullshitters, and all the crap mostly coz if you don't ask you don't find out. but it's obvious anyway, once you start thinking about it.
christ, even if you had an affair with a married guy he'd fuck you more than once a week, never mind once every couple of months. and that's fucking sad on it's own haha.
so i do know #notallmen but mostly you are like this so go fuck yourselves. married my vibrator now and if you aren't any good for anything else than i don't want you.
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" By following your train of thought anyone who hasn't had a disappointing meet *might* just 'fuck anything', rather than actually carefully choosing the right partners
That's very true.
You come across as a bitter woman who allows her own disappointment in Fab to lead her to assumptions about others who get the site to work for them "I'm not sure I really care, to be honest. And im not sure you should either | |||
"I'm glad it did stay up, as it will maybe explain to all the couples on here looking for a 'unicorn' to enhance their swinging experience.... certainly food for thought
My first thought was how can one woman have so many bad meets! The, what can only be described as a catastrophe of an experience with couples, followed on to the the men she has met also.
because, and this really is my opinion, swinging is just people using others for sex. it's nothing like the hippy version where it's free love, it's just using people. there's no love unless you're getting their rocks off and it's not long lasting, only until they find someone easier than yourself.
when i was younger they used to call these people players. when people say this is not a fuck site i do wonder why they think it isn't coz that is pretty much the only reason why anyone is interested in you, sex. and why wouldn't they be? why would anyone whose main interest is sex bother with anyone they don't wanna fuck or be sexual with?
if you're easy on here it's easy to get a fuck. but you'll also get slagged off for that too, coz if you enjoy sex you can guarantee nobody is gonna wanna give you enough of it so you have to go fuck basically the whole site or go without. i've done both and know which one is better for my self esteem.
i don't think many guys deserve me to even acknowledge them, never mind shove their dick in me. i do talk to some men, really do prefer TV and women as neither have an agenda for chatting to me and those who might are totally respectful and friendly and i do class them as friends eventually after some time.
i haven't even had as many bad experiences as the OP and that's coz i knew deep down i didn't wanna get to know anybody on a personal level so for me i can ignore the cheats, the bullshitters, and all the crap mostly coz if you don't ask you don't find out. but it's obvious anyway, once you start thinking about it.
christ, even if you had an affair with a married guy he'd fuck you more than once a week, never mind once every couple of months. and that's fucking sad on it's own haha.
so i do know #notallmen but mostly you are like this so go fuck yourselves. married my vibrator now and if you aren't any good for anything else than i don't want you."I don't think I've read one of your posts that I didn't love | |||
" By following your train of thought anyone who hasn't had a disappointing meet *might* just 'fuck anything', rather than actually carefully choosing the right partners
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You come across as a bitter woman who allows her own disappointment in Fab to lead her to assumptions about others who get the site to work for them " | |||
" By following your train of thought anyone who hasn't had a disappointing meet *might* just 'fuck anything', rather than actually carefully choosing the right partners
That's very true.
You come across as a bitter woman who allows her own disappointment in Fab to lead her to assumptions about others who get the site to work for them
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That's very true.
You come across as a bitter woman who allows her own disappointment in Fab to lead her to assumptions about others who get the site to work for them
You need to find someone else to stalk "Again | |||
"Second lady to leave tonight that I know of Who else went?" It was a lady that had a guy that was rude about her on a forum thread which he posted specifically aimed at her, spoke to her briefly after she messaged me , seemed really nice. | |||
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"Well after reading all that.....I wonder if the OP (whoever it was) realised they were the common denominator in all those terrible meets
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"Well after reading all that.....I wonder if the OP (whoever it was) realised they were the common denominator in all those terrible meets
As they were with the good ones "Nooooooo! No sunshine on my black cloud please | |||
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"Well after reading all that.....I wonder if the OP (whoever it was) realised they were the common denominator in all those terrible meets
As they were with the good ones
Nooooooo! No sunshine on my black cloud please "the 'lifestyle' is the common denominator also. | |||
"Well after reading all that.....I wonder if the OP (whoever it was) realised they were the common denominator in all those terrible meets
As they were with the good ones
Nooooooo! No sunshine on my black cloud please
the 'lifestyle' is the common denominator also."Not for one person to have so much drama with every meet..... | |||
"Well after reading all that.....I wonder if the OP (whoever it was) realised they were the common denominator in all those terrible meets
As they were with the good ones
Nooooooo! No sunshine on my black cloud please
the 'lifestyle' is the common denominator also.
Not for one person to have so much drama with every meet....." | |||
"Well after reading all that.....I wonder if the OP (whoever it was) realised they were the common denominator in all those terrible meets
As they were with the good ones
Nooooooo! No sunshine on my black cloud please
the 'lifestyle' is the common denominator also.
Not for one person to have so much drama with every meet....."it's different for single women than couples on here. i got sick of being disrespected and one of the forum mods suggested it was because i was single. so i did put on my profile that i was part of a couple and my fella looked at all my messages to help me decide who i should meet. and my messages totally changed from that day. even now coz i put i was dating on my profile (which meant i was looking for dates on other sites) guys took that to mean i was in a relationship as well, and the messages stayed decent enough. i'm not interested in dating now so took that off, back to the same shitty messages already, with a few still respectful guys chucked in. everyone's a player. if you're not easy they stop playing. i'm not fussed and have little expectations on here anyway. i honestly think coz the OP invested herself she got let down. and that's the problem, she actually gave a shit when most do not. | |||
"Well after reading all that.....I wonder if the OP (whoever it was) realised they were the common denominator in all those terrible meets
As they were with the good ones
Nooooooo! No sunshine on my black cloud please
the 'lifestyle' is the common denominator also.
Not for one person to have so much drama with every meet.....
it's different for single women than couples on here.
i got sick of being disrespected and one of the forum mods suggested it was because i was single. so i did put on my profile that i was part of a couple and my fella looked at all my messages to help me decide who i should meet. and my messages totally changed from that day. even now coz i put i was dating on my profile (which meant i was looking for dates on other sites) guys took that to mean i was in a relationship as well, and the messages stayed decent enough.
i'm not interested in dating now so took that off, back to the same shitty messages already, with a few still respectful guys chucked in.
everyone's a player. if you're not easy they stop playing. i'm not fussed and have little expectations on here anyway.
i honestly think coz the OP invested herself she got let down. and that's the problem, she actually gave a shit when most do not."Yes, I know single women have lots of problems to contend with, fully understand and appreciate that, and have fab friends who've had to deal with plenty of crap, and don't have a partner for moral support. But surely most people have a mix of meets, some good, some bad, hopefully mostly good? Every encounter there went bad straight away or soon after, over a fair period of time. | |||
"Well after reading all that.....I wonder if the OP (whoever it was) realised they were the common denominator in all those terrible meets
As they were with the good ones
Nooooooo! No sunshine on my black cloud please
the 'lifestyle' is the common denominator also.
Not for one person to have so much drama with every meet.....
it's different for single women than couples on here.
i got sick of being disrespected and one of the forum mods suggested it was because i was single. so i did put on my profile that i was part of a couple and my fella looked at all my messages to help me decide who i should meet. and my messages totally changed from that day. even now coz i put i was dating on my profile (which meant i was looking for dates on other sites) guys took that to mean i was in a relationship as well, and the messages stayed decent enough.
i'm not interested in dating now so took that off, back to the same shitty messages already, with a few still respectful guys chucked in.
everyone's a player. if you're not easy they stop playing. i'm not fussed and have little expectations on here anyway.
i honestly think coz the OP invested herself she got let down. and that's the problem, she actually gave a shit when most do not."But why should you have to pretend there's a guy with you, politeness should be shown to everyone, not ignored because your single | |||
"Well after reading all that.....I wonder if the OP (whoever it was) realised they were the common denominator in all those terrible meets
As they were with the good ones
Nooooooo! No sunshine on my black cloud please
the 'lifestyle' is the common denominator also.
Not for one person to have so much drama with every meet.....
it's different for single women than couples on here.
i got sick of being disrespected and one of the forum mods suggested it was because i was single. so i did put on my profile that i was part of a couple and my fella looked at all my messages to help me decide who i should meet. and my messages totally changed from that day. even now coz i put i was dating on my profile (which meant i was looking for dates on other sites) guys took that to mean i was in a relationship as well, and the messages stayed decent enough.
i'm not interested in dating now so took that off, back to the same shitty messages already, with a few still respectful guys chucked in.
everyone's a player. if you're not easy they stop playing. i'm not fussed and have little expectations on here anyway.
i honestly think coz the OP invested herself she got let down. and that's the problem, she actually gave a shit when most do not.
Yes, I know single women have lots of problems to contend with, fully understand and appreciate that, and have fab friends who've had to deal with plenty of crap, and don't have a partner for moral support.
But surely most people have a mix of meets, some good, some bad, hopefully mostly good? Every encounter there went bad straight away or soon after, over a fair period of time."she didn't even have that many meets i think? so not much experience of who to avoid. i've said this before, multiple times, that there are a lot of predatory people in the swinging world. this lifestyle appeals to them i have noticed. and it appeals to people looking for nothing much more than sex. that's mostly what is on offer. she's probably a genuinely nice person as they are trusting and doesn't automatically presume others are devious, that's probably her only fault and it makes her susceptible to people like that. the only friends i have on here are people who don't wanna fuck me. that says a lot, to me. | |||
"Well after reading all that.....I wonder if the OP (whoever it was) realised they were the common denominator in all those terrible meets
As they were with the good ones
Nooooooo! No sunshine on my black cloud please
the 'lifestyle' is the common denominator also.
Not for one person to have so much drama with every meet.....
it's different for single women than couples on here.
i got sick of being disrespected and one of the forum mods suggested it was because i was single. so i did put on my profile that i was part of a couple and my fella looked at all my messages to help me decide who i should meet. and my messages totally changed from that day. even now coz i put i was dating on my profile (which meant i was looking for dates on other sites) guys took that to mean i was in a relationship as well, and the messages stayed decent enough.
i'm not interested in dating now so took that off, back to the same shitty messages already, with a few still respectful guys chucked in.
everyone's a player. if you're not easy they stop playing. i'm not fussed and have little expectations on here anyway.
i honestly think coz the OP invested herself she got let down. and that's the problem, she actually gave a shit when most do not.
But why should you have to pretend there's a guy with you, politeness should be shown to everyone, not ignored because your single"most people who approach me are just selfish douchebags full of shit. it got boring a long time ago. | |||
" Yes, I know single women have lots of problems to contend with, fully understand and appreciate that, and have fab friends who've had to deal with plenty of crap, and don't have a partner for moral support. But surely most people have a mix of meets, some good, some bad, hopefully mostly good? Every encounter there went bad straight away or soon after, over a fair period of time. she didn't even have that many meets i think? so not much experience of who to avoid. i've said this before, multiple times, that there are a lot of predatory people in the swinging world. this lifestyle appeals to them i have noticed. and it appeals to people looking for nothing much more than sex. that's mostly what is on offer. she's probably a genuinely nice person as they are trusting and doesn't automatically presume others are devious, that's probably her only fault and it makes her susceptible to people like that. the only friends i have on here are people who don't wanna fuck me. that says a lot, to me." She described about 20 in the OP. I'm not having a go at her or blaming her. My first post right up the top says she's met a shitty bunch. But, at the same time she seems to have attracted exclusively crap meets and also maybe been drawn to the drama type situations. Swinging can be tricky, and lots of people can't do it, for various reasons. I hope she finds a nice stable person in vanilla life, that will be the best outcome. | |||
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" Yes, I know single women have lots of problems to contend with, fully understand and appreciate that, and have fab friends who've had to deal with plenty of crap, and don't have a partner for moral support. But surely most people have a mix of meets, some good, some bad, hopefully mostly good? Every encounter there went bad straight away or soon after, over a fair period of time. she didn't even have that many meets i think? so not much experience of who to avoid. i've said this before, multiple times, that there are a lot of predatory people in the swinging world. this lifestyle appeals to them i have noticed. and it appeals to people looking for nothing much more than sex. that's mostly what is on offer. she's probably a genuinely nice person as they are trusting and doesn't automatically presume others are devious, that's probably her only fault and it makes her susceptible to people like that. the only friends i have on here are people who don't wanna fuck me. that says a lot, to me. She described about 20 in the OP. I'm not having a go at her or blaming her. My first post right up the top says she's met a shitty bunch. But, at the same time she seems to have attracted exclusively crap meets and also maybe been drawn to the drama type situations. Swinging can be tricky, and lots of people can't do it, for various reasons. I hope she finds a nice stable person in vanilla life, that will be the best outcome." i have noticed that most players tend to come across as confident and charming and that can be attractive.
but yeah good luck to her from me too.
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" Swinging can be tricky, and lots of people can't do it, for various reasons. I hope she finds a nice stable person in vanilla life, that will be the best outcome. i have noticed that most players tend to come across as confident and charming and that can be attractive.
but yeah good luck to her from me too.
need a thick skin for this place and an ice cold heart. "Being ice cold will protect, but we like to remain warm, but we don't look for anything beyond fun and friendship during the meet. But we are a couple, maybe as a single she was actually looking for more, who knows? Perhaps remembering 'NSA' would have helped her separate the worlds?? | |||
" Swinging can be tricky, and lots of people can't do it, for various reasons. I hope she finds a nice stable person in vanilla life, that will be the best outcome. i have noticed that most players tend to come across as confident and charming and that can be attractive.
but yeah good luck to her from me too.
need a thick skin for this place and an ice cold heart.
Being ice cold will protect, but we like to remain warm, but we don't look for anything beyond fun and friendship during the meet. But we are a couple, maybe as a single she was actually looking for more, who knows? Perhaps remembering 'NSA' would have helped her separate the worlds??"reading her OP she just seemed to want respect and not to be lied to. i want more than NSA, friendship would be nice but i'm crap at keeping in touch myself right now as i have a lot going on so can partly blame myself for that. also having a high sex drive really doesn't help, most of the attached guys can hardly meet (but can meet way more regularly than the single guys) but even the single ones are often busy trying to get more fucks with other people. so something more like a relationship would be better for me. i've had proper fuck buds before fab and will do again i'm sure. the 'fuck buds' i've found here are very lacking in anything other than being a regular NSA fuck, only available when they want to be. | |||
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"i dont have an ice cold heart, but i will say this, i only do what i want to do, with whom i want, when i want to. i am in control of whom i get involved with..i look after myself. im pretty observant and perceptive though and although i have had some shit, i know how to get up and shake it off because mentally i know i made the choices, took the risks myself..there's no one to blame and in that mind set, there are no regrets." | |||
"i dont have an ice cold heart, but i will say this, i only do what i want to do, with whom i want, when i want to. i am in control of whom i get involved with..i look after myself. im pretty observant and perceptive though and although i have had some shit, i know how to get up and shake it off because mentally i know i made the choices, took the risks myself..there's no one to blame and in that mind set, there are no regrets." I think the observant and perceptive bit is key. Knowing how much to involve yourself with certain people can be the difference between having fun and going unlos. | |||
"i dont have an ice cold heart, but i will say this, i only do what i want to do, with whom i want, when i want to. i am in control of whom i get involved with..i look after myself. im pretty observant and perceptive though and although i have had some shit, i know how to get up and shake it off because mentally i know i made the choices, took the risks myself..there's no one to blame and in that mind set, there are no regrets. I think the observant and perceptive bit is key. Knowing how much to involve yourself with certain people can be the difference between having fun and going unlos."i dont think you are seasoned until the madness has almost sunk you, you've gone away for a bit and then you've decided to return, knowing what you want and sticking to it helps a lot too imo x | |||
"i dont have an ice cold heart, but i will say this, i only do what i want to do, with whom i want, when i want to. i am in control of whom i get involved with..i look after myself. im pretty observant and perceptive though and although i have had some shit, i know how to get up and shake it off because mentally i know i made the choices, took the risks myself..there's no one to blame and in that mind set, there are no regrets. I think the observant and perceptive bit is key. Knowing how much to involve yourself with certain people can be the difference between having fun and going unlos. i dont think you are seasoned until the madness has almost sunk you, you've gone away for a bit and then you've decided to return, knowing what you want and sticking to it helps a lot too imo x"You are describing personality traits of a strong character. Perhaps the OP wasn't as strong and therefore also attracted worse characters?? Hope she learns to look after herself better and find someone who will look after her properly. | |||
"i dont have an ice cold heart, but i will say this, i only do what i want to do, with whom i want, when i want to. i am in control of whom i get involved with..i look after myself. im pretty observant and perceptive though and although i have had some shit, i know how to get up and shake it off because mentally i know i made the choices, took the risks myself..there's no one to blame and in that mind set, there are no regrets. I think the observant and perceptive bit is key. Knowing how much to involve yourself with certain people can be the difference between having fun and going unlos. i dont think you are seasoned until the madness has almost sunk you, you've gone away for a bit and then you've decided to return, knowing what you want and sticking to it helps a lot too imo x
You are describing personality traits of a strong character. Perhaps the OP wasn't as strong and therefore also attracted worse characters?? Hope she learns to look after herself better and find someone who will look after her properly."i hope she does what makes her happy, the lifestyle suits some and not others xx | |||
"i dont have an ice cold heart, but i will say this, i only do what i want to do, with whom i want, when i want to. i am in control of whom i get involved with..i look after myself. im pretty observant and perceptive though and although i have had some shit, i know how to get up and shake it off because mentally i know i made the choices, took the risks myself..there's no one to blame and in that mind set, there are no regrets. I think the observant and perceptive bit is key. Knowing how much to involve yourself with certain people can be the difference between having fun and going unlos. i dont think you are seasoned until the madness has almost sunk you, you've gone away for a bit and then you've decided to return, knowing what you want and sticking to it helps a lot too imo x"Totally agree, first time profile is usually a learning curve. Second time you kmow exactly what to expect and what suits you best. | |||
" Swinging can be tricky, and lots of people can't do it, for various reasons. I hope she finds a nice stable person in vanilla life, that will be the best outcome. i have noticed that most players tend to come across as confident and charming and that can be attractive.
but yeah good luck to her from me too.
need a thick skin for this place and an ice cold heart.
Being ice cold will protect, but we like to remain warm, but we don't look for anything beyond fun and friendship during the meet. But we are a couple, maybe as a single she was actually looking for more, who knows? Perhaps remembering 'NSA' would have helped her separate the worlds??
***** reading her OP she just seemed to want respect and not to be lied to. ********
i want more than NSA, friendship would be nice but i'm crap at keeping in touch myself right now as i have a lot going on so can partly blame myself for that.
also having a high sex drive really doesn't help, most of the attached guys can hardly meet (but can meet way more regularly than the single guys) but even the single ones are often busy trying to get more fucks with other people. so something more like a relationship would be better for me. i've had proper fuck buds before fab and will do again i'm sure.
the 'fuck buds' i've found here are very lacking in anything other than being a regular NSA fuck, only available when they want to be.
"***** ****** Exactly the bit I've highlighted.
Apparently this site is full of people just wanting NSA and NSA means use them for a fuck, get what they want and who cares what the other person wants. It's no strings, right? Just a fuck. If people want any kind of respect or mutual enjoyment they are shamed and called out for 'wanting a relationship' or 'not being cut out for this'.
I'm bloody glad I'm not cut out for this shit. This thread has been enlightening! | |||
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" Being ice cold will protect, but we like to remain warm, but we don't look for anything beyond fun and friendship during the meet. But we are a couple, maybe as a single she was actually looking for more, who knows? Perhaps remembering 'NSA' would have helped her separate the worlds?? reading her OP she just seemed to want respect and not to be lied to. " this 100%
I hate how people seem to confuse no strings with no respect on here (not meaning you personally _unandbuck)
I understand that couples often are coming at meets from a different angle ... busier family life and more often up for a "fuck and go" type of thing ... after all you get to go home with your partner and have them respect you as more than a sex toy so you maybe dont need that level of respect from a meet
But as a single person you sometimes need a little bit more back from potential meets to stop yoursef feeling like an unpaid escort ... that doesnt mean you have gotten feelings or want to be attached
... particularly meeting couples where there is always an uneven balance of power and its very easy to feel like a something the male/ female pulled out of the toy drawer to please their partner rather than everyone being there for equal and mutual enjoyment | |||
" ***** ****** Exactly the bit I've highlighted.
Apparently this site is full of people just wanting NSA and NSA means use them for a fuck, get what they want and who cares what the other person wants. It's no strings, right? Just a fuck. If people want any kind of respect or mutual enjoyment they are shamed and called out for 'wanting a relationship' or 'not being cut out for this'.
I'm bloody glad I'm not cut out for this shit. This thread has been enlightening!"Posted mine before i read yours 
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" Being ice cold will protect, but we like to remain warm, but we don't look for anything beyond fun and friendship during the meet. But we are a couple, maybe as a single she was actually looking for more, who knows? Perhaps remembering 'NSA' would have helped her separate the worlds?? reading her OP she just seemed to want respect and not to be lied to. this 100%
I hate how people seem to confuse no strings with no respect on here (not meaning you personally _unandbuck)
I understand that couples often are coming at meets from a different angle ... busier family life and more often up for a "fuck and go" type of thing ... after all you get to go home with your partner and have them respect you as more than a sex toy so you maybe dont need that level of respect from a meet
But as a single person you sometimes need a little bit more back from potential meets to stop yoursef feeling like an unpaid escort ... that doesnt mean you have gotten feelings or want to be attached
... particularly meeting couples where there is always an uneven balance of power and its very easy to feel like a something the male/ female pulled out of the toy drawer to please their partner rather than everyone being there for equal and mutual enjoyment " So much this! | |||
" Being ice cold will protect, but we like to remain warm, but we don't look for anything beyond fun and friendship during the meet. But we are a couple, maybe as a single she was actually looking for more, who knows? Perhaps remembering 'NSA' would have helped her separate the worlds?? reading her OP she just seemed to want respect and not to be lied to. this 100%
I hate how people seem to confuse no strings with no respect on here (not meaning you personally _unandbuck)
I understand that couples often are coming at meets from a different angle ... busier family life and more often up for a "fuck and go" type of thing ... after all you get to go home with your partner and have them respect you as more than a sex toy so you maybe dont need that level of respect from a meet
But as a single person you sometimes need a little bit more back from potential meets to stop yoursef feeling like an unpaid escort ... that doesnt mean you have gotten feelings or want to be attached
... particularly meeting couples where there is always an uneven balance of power and its very easy to feel like a something the male/ female pulled out of the toy drawer to please their partner rather than everyone being there for equal and mutual enjoyment "I want to clarify we don't think of nsa being fuck and go, that's not what I mean at all. We meet lots of single ladies and have a great relationship with them and mostly these meets are repeat meets, so I think we have the right attitude and as they like being with us and we are swinging friends. Everybody's feelings in meets need consideration for it to work right. The escort comment is way off how our meets are. We understand the dynamic of a three way meet, and all ours work great. What I mean is maybe the op was looking for much more, and a lot of her disappointments came from single guy meets too. The OP describes about 20 meets, and all turned sour for one reason or another, I don't think bad couples and single guys are the whole picture. I'm not blaming her, I simply think she was looking for something different and she attracted people who weren't empathetic to her. | |||
" Being ice cold will protect, but we like to remain warm, but we don't look for anything beyond fun and friendship during the meet. But we are a couple, maybe as a single she was actually looking for more, who knows? Perhaps remembering 'NSA' would have helped her separate the worlds?? reading her OP she just seemed to want respect and not to be lied to. this 100%
I hate how people seem to confuse no strings with no respect on here (not meaning you personally _unandbuck)
I understand that couples often are coming at meets from a different angle ... busier family life and more often up for a "fuck and go" type of thing ... after all you get to go home with your partner and have them respect you as more than a sex toy so you maybe dont need that level of respect from a meet
But as a single person you sometimes need a little bit more back from potential meets to stop yoursef feeling like an unpaid escort ... that doesnt mean you have gotten feelings or want to be attached
... particularly meeting couples where there is always an uneven balance of power and its very easy to feel like a something the male/ female pulled out of the toy drawer to please their partner rather than everyone being there for equal and mutual enjoyment
I want to clarify we don't think of nsa being fuck and go, that's not what I mean at all. We meet lots of single ladies and have a great relationship with them and mostly these meets are repeat meets, so I think we have the right attitude and as they like being with us and we are swinging friends. Everybody's feelings in meets need consideration for it to work right.
The escort comment is way off how our meets are. We understand the dynamic of a three way meet, and all ours work great. What I mean is maybe the op was looking for much more, and a lot of her disappointments came from single guy meets too. The OP describes about 20 meets, and all turned sour for one reason or another, I don't think bad couples and single guys are the whole picture. I'm not blaming her, I simply think she was looking for something different and she attracted people who weren't empathetic to her."I genuinely didnt mean you guys ... your posts dont come across that way ... its just what you posted helped make my point I also dont even mean fuck and go in a negative way necessarily ... you often see posts from couples or on profiles who say things like dont have alot of time to meet as family life is hectic or maybe they have to be home same night to let the baby sitter away etc Couples are obviously well within their rights to prioritise their fantasy too ... its their fab experience after all to do with what they wish ... just explaining why i think nsa can perhaps have different characteristics from a couple and single point of view but often this is confused as the single must have wanted more emotionally or they are too soft for nsa | |||
" But as a single person you sometimes need a little bit more back from potential meets to stop yoursef feeling like an unpaid escort ... that doesnt mean you have gotten feelings or want to be attached ... particularly meeting couples where there is always an uneven balance of power and its very easy to feel like a something the male/ female pulled out of the toy drawer to please their partner rather than everyone being there for equal and mutual enjoyment " First para in spades. I've started to avoid profiles saying NSA now as I've come to understand it on this site as meaning more or less 'one off fuck and go'. I like repeat meets, I like lots of sex. I like meeting bright, entertaining people and having social fun occasionally too. Unfortunately I think this is often read as 'wanting a relationship', or 'wanting to be exclusive'. Their fears projected onto me. | |||
" I want to clarify we don't think of nsa being fuck and go, that's not what I mean at all. We meet lots of single ladies and have a great relationship with them and mostly these meets are repeat meets, so I think we have the right attitude and as they like being with us and we are swinging friends. Everybody's feelings in meets need consideration for it to work right. The escort comment is way off how our meets are. We understand the dynamic of a three way meet, and all ours work great. What I mean is maybe the op was looking for much more, and a lot of her disappointments came from single guy meets too. The OP describes about 20 meets, and all turned sour for one reason or another, I don't think bad couples and single guys are the whole picture. I'm not blaming her, I simply think she was looking for something different and she attracted people who weren't empathetic to her. I genuinely didnt mean you guys ... your posts dont come across that way ... its just what you posted helped make my point I also dont even mean fuck and go in a negative way necessarily ... you often see posts from couples or on profiles who say things like dont have alot of time to meet as family life is hectic or maybe they have to be home same night to let the baby sitter away etc Couples are obviously well within their rights to prioritise their fantasy too ... its their fab experience after all to do with what they wish ... just explaining why i think nsa can perhaps have different characteristics from a couple and single point of view but often this is confused as the single must have wanted more emotionally or they are too soft for nsa " Sorry, I couldn't be sure which way you meant it, and it's important to us x I agree, if the nsa thing is pushed too far or done in the wrong way the single (guy or lady) could be felt to be a spare part. That should never be the case. For us nsa is having a great relationship, all on an equal footing, but we keep that relationship at the club / on fab. Nobody is second class to anyone else xx | |||
" I want to clarify we don't think of nsa being fuck and go, that's not what I mean at all. We meet lots of single ladies and have a great relationship with them and mostly these meets are repeat meets, so I think we have the right attitude and as they like being with us and we are swinging friends. Everybody's feelings in meets need consideration for it to work right. The escort comment is way off how our meets are. We understand the dynamic of a three way meet, and all ours work great. What I mean is maybe the op was looking for much more, and a lot of her disappointments came from single guy meets too. The OP describes about 20 meets, and all turned sour for one reason or another, I don't think bad couples and single guys are the whole picture. I'm not blaming her, I simply think she was looking for something different and she attracted people who weren't empathetic to her. I genuinely didnt mean you guys ... your posts dont come across that way ... its just what you posted helped make my point I also dont even mean fuck and go in a negative way necessarily ... you often see posts from couples or on profiles who say things like dont have alot of time to meet as family life is hectic or maybe they have to be home same night to let the baby sitter away etc Couples are obviously well within their rights to prioritise their fantasy too ... its their fab experience after all to do with what they wish ... just explaining why i think nsa can perhaps have different characteristics from a couple and single point of view but often this is confused as the single must have wanted more emotionally or they are too soft for nsa Sorry, I couldn't be sure which way you meant it, and it's important to us x I agree, if the nsa thing is pushed too far or done in the wrong way the single (guy or lady) could be felt to be a spare part. That should never be the case. For us nsa is having a great relationship, all on an equal footing, but we keep that relationship at the club / on fab. Nobody is second class to anyone else xx" sounds like the kind of couple the unicorns need to be meeting | |||
" Sorry, I couldn't be sure which way you meant it, and it's important to us x I agree, if the nsa thing is pushed too far or done in the wrong way the single (guy or lady) could be felt to be a spare part. That should never be the case. For us nsa is having a great relationship, all on an equal footing, but we keep that relationship at the club / on fab. Nobody is second class to anyone else xx sounds like the kind of couple the unicorns need to be meeting "  xx | |||
