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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have found that men get interogated by their wives or partner's if they want to go out for example 'the pub' or meaby to a mates house to watch footie. My question is. Does the same interogation happen when its the wife or partner who wants to go out or are men more trusting or meaby they darent say anything. |
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over a year ago
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We've never interrogated each other when one of us has wanted to go out, when I've witnessed or heard about couples doing this one or both are either insecure or drama queens.
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over a year ago
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I was only allowed out to my volunteer meetings and was taken to and from them yet I couldn't question what he was doing. One of the good reasons he's my ex x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That's a really odd scenario. The only thing I ever ask of Mrs N is where she's likely to be, in case of an emergency, nothing more. It's even easier for her as I don't have many real mates so they're usually found at our gaff anyway. |
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When ever I had a partner I encouraged them to have girls nights out and didn't dream of contacting them to check up other than asking to let me know when they were on the way home so I could wait up to know they were back safe.
A mates partner now is horrific and has gone to 3 or 4 pubs to check that he is out with the boys !
I've had a man to man chat with him but it's his life not mine |
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Never ever interrogated a partner. Other half often says "can I go and play with my friends?" to which I roll my eyes and say "you don't need my permission!"
We met on here, I know he meets his mates in the park hoping to meet a dogging couple...I could care less, yet he gets upset if I'm meeting my kids, grandkids, friends without telling him!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never ever interrogated a partner. Other half often says "can I go and play with my friends?" to which I roll my eyes and say "you don't need my permission!"
We met on here, I know he meets his mates in the park hoping to meet a dogging couple...I could care less, yet he gets upset if I'm meeting my kids, grandkids, friends without telling him! "
Why wouldn't you tell him? |
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We don't just up and go without a word. I might say "I'm meeting x next Friday for lunch"
Mr N might reply " oh, where are you going?"
And a discussion will follow about time, place etc. But that's because we're interested in each others lives not because either of us feel the need to interrogate the other.
I have known people who through either lack of self esteem, severe trust issues, control issues or due to bad experiences do interrogate their partner but I couldn't deal with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I was with my ex, I made them complete a checklist of who they were seeing and exactly where they were going if they went out without me.
And they had to swear an affidavit to prove that what they said was the truth.
I thought everyone did that  |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I have found that men get interogated by their wives or partner's if they want to go out for example 'the pub' or meaby to a mates house to watch footie. My question is. Does the same interogation happen when its the wife or partner who wants to go out or are men more trusting or meaby they darent say anything."
their relationship, their deal..doesnt happen to me, cos i dont allow it to, simple  |
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I never asked my ex what his plans were, cos he would most probably have lied anyway. Half the time I'd tell him my plans, then he'd forget. The other half I wouldn't tell him and get the 3rd degree until I did tell him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We don't just up and go without a word. I might say "I'm meeting x next Friday for lunch"
Mr N might reply " oh, where are you going?"
And a discussion will follow about time, place etc. But that's because we're interested in each others lives not because either of us feel the need to interrogate the other.
I have known people who through either lack of self esteem, severe trust issues, control issues or due to bad experiences do interrogate their partner but I couldn't deal with that."
It seems like relationships are supposed to be wars. Never talk to each other. Don't take an interest be told off for not caring. Do take an interest and be told off for prying.
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"We don't just up and go without a word. I might say "I'm meeting x next Friday for lunch"
Mr N might reply " oh, where are you going?"
And a discussion will follow about time, place etc. But that's because we're interested in each others lives not because either of us feel the need to interrogate the other.
I have known people who through either lack of self esteem, severe trust issues, control issues or due to bad experiences do interrogate their partner but I couldn't deal with that.
It seems like relationships are supposed to be wars. Never talk to each other. Don't take an interest be told off for not caring. Do take an interest and be told off for prying.
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I genuinely believe that some people view relationships as a war between partners. When you hear the way some people talk about their partner and the games they play I wonder why on earth they even want to be in a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We don't just up and go without a word. I might say "I'm meeting x next Friday for lunch"
Mr N might reply " oh, where are you going?"
And a discussion will follow about time, place etc. But that's because we're interested in each others lives not because either of us feel the need to interrogate the other.
I have known people who through either lack of self esteem, severe trust issues, control issues or due to bad experiences do interrogate their partner but I couldn't deal with that.
It seems like relationships are supposed to be wars. Never talk to each other. Don't take an interest be told off for not caring. Do take an interest and be told off for prying.
I genuinely believe that some people view relationships as a war between partners. When you hear the way some people talk about their partner and the games they play I wonder why on earth they even want to be in a relationship."
Most people I know seem to live like this. I don't understand it at all.  |
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