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Maybe it's my lack of vagina and boobs? | |||
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"I think I'm better at responding rather than starting. Most of my threads die on their arse
Maybe it's my lack of vagina and boobs?"So do most of mine but I'm a persistent bugger | |||
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"Not started a thread for ages my threads are never popular "Same | |||
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"I think I'm better at responding rather than starting. Most of my threads die on their arse
Maybe it's my lack of vagina and boobs?
So do most of mine but I'm a persistent bugger "How is this possible, you have 100% more boobs and vagina than me | |||
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"I don't really do threads anymore, now i pretty much only do wiggle Wednesday just to perv on ladies bums." Slacker!  | |||
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"I think I'm better at responding rather than starting. Most of my threads die on their arse
Maybe it's my lack of vagina and boobs?
So do most of mine but I'm a persistent bugger
How is this possible, you have 100% more boobs and vagina than me "Not in my public pics i don't | |||
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. Clique posts hmmmmm well unless I send a load of pms before posting not sure how that'd work. That's also assuming there is a clique and I belong to it . However my posts can relate to a particular person and providing both parties are happy about that then I'll post | |||
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"Not started one for ages now " Do it! Its fun!  | |||
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"everyone has their reasons.. I only post new threads occasionally, mainly as I cba, but I do comment on them when I do.. " Do you find it hard to keep up with commenting? Like do you miss some points or get distracted elsewhere? | |||
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"Enjoy the silly threads! I like the forumite humour! As well as that just to keep some interest when I'm fairly bored "Do you ever start your own threads? | |||
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"Usually I start a thread if I want to brag or get the ol' clique together "We know we know. Bitches love cake | |||
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"Enjoy the silly threads! I like the forumite humour! As well as that just to keep some interest when I'm fairly bored
Do you ever start your own threads? "I do! Or at least have! Not much on this profile... tried and failed on this profile | |||
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"I've started a couple lately. I think for me, its a case of I'll be happily chatting away in a thread and something will make me wonder. Instead of hijacking their thread and going off on a different tangent I'll create another to discuss my thoughts. "Yes! I forgot that one! Its a way of expanding a topic too! | |||
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"Not started a thread for ages my threads are never popular "Do it! I'll comment purely to have an excuse to come check you out | |||
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"I only started one about a problem i had and was looking for advice (which i got). I'm a bit shy about starting proper threads in case it dies a death. Plus i can never think of anything interesting to talk about. Other folk are better at it so i leave it to them." Aw im sure that's not the case but as long as you enjoy joining in that's cool too x | |||
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"I don't really do threads anymore, now i pretty much only do wiggle Wednesday just to perv on ladies bums. Slacker! "I know  | |||
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"If I post a thread, I usually do it to try and involve people. If it is one of those, I'll leave people to go about it. However, if it's a thought provoking one, or to make people happy, I try to reply to everyone I can because I'm genuinely interested in the way people think and such. " Yeah im the same. If its a general topic I let it go but if im asking for opinions then im genuinely interested in the answer and like to at least acknowledge people who have taken time to reply. | |||
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"I think I'm better at responding rather than starting. Most of my threads die on their arse
Maybe it's my lack of vagina and boobs?"Just pretend to be Mrs posting | |||
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"I don't really do threads anymore, now i pretty much only do wiggle Wednesday just to perv on ladies bums." Well you probably don't need anything more than that to be fair! | |||
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"We all want to be noticed, either by starting a thread or commenting on one, do it often enough and in good humour or promoting positivity and you will be noticed, I've tried a few times and fallen flat with the regulars in the forum, so only comment on threads that catch my eye now "Im glad this caught your eye | |||
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"I don't really do threads anymore, now i pretty much only do wiggle Wednesday just to perv on ladies bums." I just like to talk about music and Food.  | |||
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"Why do you post a new topic on here? I post for different reasons, sometimes just for fun with a silly thread, sometimes I like to ask questions to make people think and sometimes to make them feel happy. With all the talk of bragging or cliques or look at me does anyone actually post with those intentions? When you make a post do you go out of your way to be fully involved in it, ecouraging the conversation and involving everyone? " I can honestly say that I've never started a thread with that intention, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't post to other threads with those intentions. | |||
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All threads and comments are in essence look at me, aren't they? Or did you not want anyone to read or respond? What's so bad about it? We all crave a response from others here in the forum, why not support people with that rather than cut them down? | |||
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"I don't really do threads anymore, now i pretty much only do wiggle Wednesday just to perv on ladies bums. Well you probably don't need anything more than that to be fair! " True, I do enjoy Wednesdays. | |||
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"I don't really do threads anymore, now i pretty much only do wiggle Wednesday just to perv on ladies bums. I just like to talk about music and Food. "I haven't done a music thread in ages. | |||
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"I don't really do threads anymore, now i pretty much only do wiggle Wednesday just to perv on ladies bums. I just like to talk about music and Food.
I haven't done a music thread in ages. "We haven't sung for ages. | |||
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"I don't really do threads anymore, now i pretty much only do wiggle Wednesday just to perv on ladies bums. I just like to talk about music and Food.
I haven't done a music thread in ages.
We haven't sung for ages. "We haven't | |||
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"I post a new topic because I'm pondering something and like to "talk out" my thinking. It might be in relation to something I'm experiencing or useful for my work or just something I've read that I thought would interest me to filter through the posters of the forum to hone my personal response to it. Like everyone else I like to get attention and am still surprised and enchanted if I do, I always acknowledge each poster on a thread I start (or host, which is how I see it) as I like to try and make everyone welcome (which is ironic as I've been accused of being in the clique myself but you can't win on that score), hence I ensure I have time free to do so. For those that worry about a thread dying a death, if you respond to everyone it not only keeps it bumped up the forum pages and more likely to get a response but it also fills quicker too.
All threads and comments are in essence look at me, aren't they? Or did you not want anyone to read or respond? What's so bad about it? We all crave a response from others here in the forum, why not support people with that rather than cut them down? "Exactly, it's all about the interaction | |||
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" I posted one about reasons why your ex became your ex and got such an outpouring of grief, bitterness and resentment that I now try to keep to lighter subjects "Yes it can be a steep learning curve | |||
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"I don't really do threads anymore, now i pretty much only do wiggle Wednesday just to perv on ladies bums. I just like to talk about music and Food. "To be fair, two good topics | |||
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"Why do you post a new topic on here? I post for different reasons, sometimes just for fun with a silly thread, sometimes I like to ask questions to make people think and sometimes to make them feel happy. With all the talk of bragging or cliques or look at me does anyone actually post with those intentions? When you make a post do you go out of your way to be fully involved in it, ecouraging the conversation and involving everyone? " I hardly ever started one, but since I've been laid up with this broken leg I've spent a lot more time here and started first one in ages. You get to converse with people who you may not have gotten a reply from a PM, so that's always good  | |||
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"I won't start a thread if I can't watch over it. On the occasions where I've failed in that department I've actually apologised on the thread. I usually post because someone has made me think or I've discussed something with another Fabber and I get curious. Bragging no, excitement yes guilty a lot . Clique posts hmmmmm well unless I send a load of pms before posting not sure how that'd work. That's also assuming there is a clique and I belong to it . However my posts can relate to a particular person and providing both parties are happy about that then I'll post "Aw I like how you think about it in advance x | |||
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"I rarely start threads to be honest, I just look for fun ones to jump in on" Jump on here | |||
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"Occasionally I'll post a topic if I need advice or to chat with new people but sometimes I do it because I'm bored and there are a lot of funny people on here who's replies give me a chuckle x" Its the humour I love most too | |||
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"I tend to be more a contributor but sometimes post about films and music..." Films im not so big on but music is my first love! | |||
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"Occasionally I'll post a topic if I need advice or to chat with new people but sometimes I do it because I'm bored and there are a lot of funny people on here who's replies give me a chuckle x Its the humour I love most too "I see you're technique for bumping up the interest in this post! | |||
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"I post to threads that I find amusing or start new ones if I have an amusing though. Never been vain enough to post a look at me.... "Do it! Ill come look  | |||
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"Why do you post a new topic on here? I post for different reasons, sometimes just for fun with a silly thread, sometimes I like to ask questions to make people think and sometimes to make them feel happy. With all the talk of bragging or cliques or look at me does anyone actually post with those intentions? When you make a post do you go out of your way to be fully involved in it, ecouraging the conversation and involving everyone? I can honestly say that I've never started a thread with that intention, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't post to other threads with those intentions. " Sometimes they're fun though eh? | |||
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"I post a new topic because I'm pondering something and like to "talk out" my thinking. It might be in relation to something I'm experiencing or useful for my work or just something I've read that I thought would interest me to filter through the posters of the forum to hone my personal response to it. Like everyone else I like to get attention and am still surprised and enchanted if I do, I always acknowledge each poster on a thread I start (or host, which is how I see it) as I like to try and make everyone welcome (which is ironic as I've been accused of being in the clique myself but you can't win on that score), hence I ensure I have time free to do so. For those that worry about a thread dying a death, if you respond to everyone it not only keeps it bumped up the forum pages and more likely to get a response but it also fills quicker too.
All threads and comments are in essence look at me, aren't they? Or did you not want anyone to read or respond? What's so bad about it? We all crave a response from others here in the forum, why not support people with that rather than cut them down? "That's it though. You don't start a thread wishing it would be ignored. You also comment because you want to share your opinion or experience. | |||
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"I usually start a thread when I want to perv. I also like to inject the forum with a little positivity from time to time "Haha I hadn't thought of that angle! | |||
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" I posted one about reasons why your ex became your ex and got such an outpouring of grief, bitterness and resentment that I now try to keep to lighter subjects "Sometimes darker topics are good too though? To make people think? | |||
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"Lots of resouns Its related to a nother Thread It's just to parce the time and have a larf It's just for a fun chat It's to get noticed It's to sort out a debate on a nother thread. It's to try and find a meet Ect....
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"I,'ve started a few when I wanted to ask a sexual related question and I,'ve started a few whingeing ones about my ex FWB. XXX" Haha this is the place you can ask the questions you can't ask others! | |||
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"I post some silly threads or sometimes to get an opinion. Or use them to help work out stuff on my mind by getting other people's views. " Its always good to get other viewpoints. Especially if its something you need to see clearly all options. | |||
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"Why do you post a new topic on here? I post for different reasons, sometimes just for fun with a silly thread, sometimes I like to ask questions to make people think and sometimes to make them feel happy. With all the talk of bragging or cliques or look at me does anyone actually post with those intentions? When you make a post do you go out of your way to be fully involved in it, ecouraging the conversation and involving everyone? I hardly ever started one, but since I've been laid up with this broken leg I've spent a lot more time here and started first one in ages. You get to converse with people who you may not have gotten a reply from a PM, so that's always good "That's another point! Your audience is wider and you can engage with more people! Most of the people i talk to regularly have come from the forums because we've agreed or disagreed on something and taken it to PM. | |||
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"Me? I just post when I feel the want. Obviously it's nice when others interact and I'm not on my own like a lemon. I do love the blatant look at me's. The thinly veiled digs are a favourite too. We all can be guilty of an element of douchebaggery. " Nothing wrong with being a lemon though. There's plenty of people who love fresh lemonade | |||
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"Occasionally I'll post a topic if I need advice or to chat with new people but sometimes I do it because I'm bored and there are a lot of funny people on here who's replies give me a chuckle x Its the humour I love most too
I see you're technique for bumping up the interest in this post! "A post is like a baby. You want it to do the best it can. Encouragement is all I can give | |||
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"Why do you post a new topic on here? I post for different reasons, sometimes just for fun with a silly thread, sometimes I like to ask questions to make people think and sometimes to make them feel happy. With all the talk of bragging or cliques or look at me does anyone actually post with those intentions? When you make a post do you go out of your way to be fully involved in it, ecouraging the conversation and involving everyone? " I rarely start threads as they usually end up derailed by the same bunch of people messaging the same old chat to one another, I do comment in other threads often but do get annoyed as most threads turn into arguments and personal attacks on others | |||
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"I start threads about anything random. I come back to the thread but i dont reply to every person that has posted on it. Some threads get silly replies some good and some die a death. Im not precious about my threads" That's a good way to see it too. Live in the moment, post wgats on your mind and let it run it's course. | |||
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"I don't post topics, only the clique does "Would you like a bigger spoon  | |||
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"Usually spontaneous thoughts or random curiosities make me post a thread." I think I should keep my spontaneous thoughts to myself | |||
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"Why do you post a new topic on here? I post for different reasons, sometimes just for fun with a silly thread, sometimes I like to ask questions to make people think and sometimes to make them feel happy. With all the talk of bragging or cliques or look at me does anyone actually post with those intentions? When you make a post do you go out of your way to be fully involved in it, ecouraging the conversation and involving everyone? I rarely start threads as they usually end up derailed by the same bunch of people messaging the same old chat to one another, I do comment in other threads often but do get annoyed as most threads turn into arguments and personal attacks on others" Do you ever wonder why it happens? | |||
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"Me? I just post when I feel the want. Obviously it's nice when others interact and I'm not on my own like a lemon. I do love the blatant look at me's. The thinly veiled digs are a favourite too. We all can be guilty of an element of douchebaggery. " Some just have bigger bags | |||
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"Another positive OP is that with swingers clubs and people attending them from all over the country you can often engage with people who otherwise would not show up in your searches due to distance but in fact will end up being just around the corner on certain event nights thus meaning you've found people you connect with that you would've missed if not for forums. Also I have occasionally got a message through forums from someone who has single males blocked but found me through the thread. So all in all it's never a bad thing as long as you conduct yourself well and aren't too opinionated "That's the thing. Barely anyone would show up in my searches yet I get to interact with so many awesome people | |||
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"Usually spontaneous thoughts or random curiosities make me post a thread. I think I should keep my spontaneous thoughts to myself "My perspective is that as crazy as some thoughts are it only allows others to make a more informed decision about you. If it's a turn off for some then that's totally ok but as long as it's got some kind of relevance or point then why not! | |||
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"I don't post topics, only the clique does
Would you like a bigger spoon "I'm always the big spoon, don't try to contest that bunny | |||
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"Another positive OP is that with swingers clubs and people attending them from all over the country you can often engage with people who otherwise would not show up in your searches due to distance but in fact will end up being just around the corner on certain event nights thus meaning you've found people you connect with that you would've missed if not for forums. Also I have occasionally got a message through forums from someone who has single males blocked but found me through the thread. So all in all it's never a bad thing as long as you conduct yourself well and aren't too opinionated
That's the thing. Barely anyone would show up in my searches yet I get to interact with so many awesome people "I'm learning from you all the time. I've made threads where I've kind of left everyone else to it and read each one and posted if i felt i had a valid point BUT reading yours makes me think I should greet more people. You are really welcoming which is appreciated when you add to a post. Although i can't always stay on here which is tricky. | |||
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To wish someone good luck, or let them know they're appreciated and though about.
Other times it has been to share my own experiences I like to think that others can pull hope from it and transfer it into their own lives or situations they find themselves in.
And sometimes, sometimes it's just coz I'm a nob-head.
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"It has often amused me that those who moan about cliques are, in my opinion, often those who are less inclusive of everyone on the forum than those accused of being in the everchanging frequent poster cliques. "I got accused of being clicky. It comes with age. Bloody knees!! | |||
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"Usually I start a thread if I want to brag or get the ol' clique together "And to get lots of people looking at your profile surely | |||
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"I post, but I'd never create one...the cliques scare me
I'm more of a lurker "But a post is open to everyone to comment?! | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. " Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in?" Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few. | |||
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"I think I've only started two threads. The first one was to say hello. I didn't have a clue what I was as doing! The second one was a morning thread because PP and Bladey had gone awol. Both times it scared the pants off me! I think I will continue to dip in and out and comment on other people's threads when I feel comfortable to do so "Youre always more than welcome x | |||
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"Another positive OP is that with swingers clubs and people attending them from all over the country you can often engage with people who otherwise would not show up in your searches due to distance but in fact will end up being just around the corner on certain event nights thus meaning you've found people you connect with that you would've missed if not for forums. Also I have occasionally got a message through forums from someone who has single males blocked but found me through the thread. So all in all it's never a bad thing as long as you conduct yourself well and aren't too opinionated
That's the thing. Barely anyone would show up in my searches yet I get to interact with so many awesome people
I'm learning from you all the time. I've made threads where I've kind of left everyone else to it and read each one and posted if i felt i had a valid point BUT reading yours makes me think I should greet more people.
You are really welcoming which is appreciated when you add to a post.
Although i can't always stay on here which is tricky.
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"It has often amused me that those who moan about cliques are, in my opinion, often those who are less inclusive of everyone on the forum than those accused of being in the everchanging frequent poster cliques. "I could never work out who "the clique" were. Its definitely not the same one as when I started! | |||
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"Why? Sometimes to share my dismay (normally at technology failures in my house) Mostly it's to make people smile. Whether it be a cheeky click bait like I did to Rachael once (ha! New penguin breed found )
To wish someone good luck, or let them know they're appreciated and though about.
Other times it has been to share my own experiences I like to think that others can pull hope from it and transfer it into their own lives or situations they find themselves in.
And sometimes, sometimes it's just coz I'm a nob-head.
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"I start threads because I want to ask something. I'm quite nosey to say the least and I find it interesting to see how people respond and interact with each other. Or if someone posts something that's a bit wanky on a thread but it's a tangent I start a new thread. I guess I want attention as in so far as I want to nose at others? But do I care if they view my profile or photos or pay attention to more than my initial post? Nah. Just tell me your crap people! I think some people get their backs up about more obvious 'look at me' threads and that can lead to nastiness - not everyone will agree with such blatant attention seeking. I don't mind it - I mock it but it's no skin off my nose. " That's another point too really. I tend to compartmentalise fab so when im in the forums im not thinking about my profile or who is in chat or any other part of the site. I actually love the responses to the more blatant threads. The level of sarcasm overwhelms me at times | |||
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"It has often amused me that those who moan about cliques are, in my opinion, often those who are less inclusive of everyone on the forum than those accused of being in the everchanging frequent poster cliques.
I could never work out who "the clique" were. Its definitely not the same one as when I started! "There's the we like each other clique, the we moan about the clique clique, and the we are invisible clique and gosh, ever so many different ones -- then add on to that the different cohorts of posters over time, it's such amorphous thing. As you already said, nobody prevents anyone else from posting, the individual makes their own interpretations and own decisions.  | |||
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"Ive started a couple, usually when I want to ask a question. I don't have time to 'host' one "Maybe its a case of everyone having a "role"? Some people enjoy a higher level of interaction where others are question setters? Some answer the thinky threads whilst others stick to just the fun ones. | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few." But those few were new at one point too. I tend to join in a fair bit and I do have wee in jokes or whatever with people but they developed over time the same as any friendship would. When I first started no one knew me and all the jokes went over my head but I persevered. Maybe its a case of making effort to join in? | |||
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"I can't remember the last time I started a thread. " Do it do it do it! | |||
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"It has often amused me that those who moan about cliques are, in my opinion, often those who are less inclusive of everyone on the forum than those accused of being in the everchanging frequent poster cliques.
I could never work out who "the clique" were. Its definitely not the same one as when I started!
There's the we like each other clique, the we moan about the clique clique, and the we are invisible clique and gosh, ever so many different ones -- then add on to that the different cohorts of posters over time, it's such amorphous thing. As you already said, nobody prevents anyone else from posting, the individual makes their own interpretations and own decisions. "I just don't understand why its such a negative connotation. People are naturally drawn to those with a similar outlook or circumstances so why single out the regular posters as a negative one? | |||
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"Every single post I've started was to include males and females and not just my crew/buddies or a clique. I've never posted a look at me thread such as 'I'm looking for etc..), I have, but it was for comedy value and as jest ( still no-one has re written my profile). I've made continuous efforts here to show how single men should be accepted and not just 'looked for when you need us' (yes, you've got it in your profiles). Inclusive? Always. But I'm aware who might reply on mine as much as I'm aware at those that avoid them. ive always said, do what you want on here though, everyone does anyway. *corrected spelling, if any others are wrong, I'm not correcting it again. "And breathe....
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"It has often amused me that those who moan about cliques are, in my opinion, often those who are less inclusive of everyone on the forum than those accused of being in the everchanging frequent poster cliques.
I could never work out who "the clique" were. Its definitely not the same one as when I started!
There's the we like each other clique, the we moan about the clique clique, and the we are invisible clique and gosh, ever so many different ones -- then add on to that the different cohorts of posters over time, it's such amorphous thing. As you already said, nobody prevents anyone else from posting, the individual makes their own interpretations and own decisions.
I just don't understand why its such a negative connotation. People are naturally drawn to those with a similar outlook or circumstances so why single out the regular posters as a negative one? "Who knows what goes on in another person's mind? | |||
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" I only pose the most poignant questions
Do they involve naked butlers and donuts? "All poignant questions should have a basis of such and to think otherwise is folly | |||
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"Every single post I've started was to include males and females and not just my crew/buddies or a clique. I've never posted a look at me thread such as 'I'm looking for etc..), I have, but it was for comedy value and as jest ( still no-one has re written my profile). I've made continuous efforts here to show how single men should be accepted and not just 'looked for when you need us' (yes, you've got it in your profiles). Inclusive? Always. But I'm aware who might reply on mine as much as I'm aware at those that avoid them. ive always said, do what you want on here though, everyone does anyway. *corrected spelling, if any others are wrong, I'm not correcting it again. "You missed a capital "I"
Do you actively encourage the quieter members to contribute? Do you respond to them and try to get more interaction?
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"It has often amused me that those who moan about cliques are, in my opinion, often those who are less inclusive of everyone on the forum than those accused of being in the everchanging frequent poster cliques.
I could never work out who "the clique" were. Its definitely not the same one as when I started!
There's the we like each other clique, the we moan about the clique clique, and the we are invisible clique and gosh, ever so many different ones -- then add on to that the different cohorts of posters over time, it's such amorphous thing. As you already said, nobody prevents anyone else from posting, the individual makes their own interpretations and own decisions.
I just don't understand why its such a negative connotation. People are naturally drawn to those with a similar outlook or circumstances so why single out the regular posters as a negative one?
Who knows what goes on in another person's mind? "Jeeez I don't even know what goes on in mine half the time! | |||
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"It has often amused me that those who moan about cliques are, in my opinion, often those who are less inclusive of everyone on the forum than those accused of being in the everchanging frequent poster cliques.
I could never work out who "the clique" were. Its definitely not the same one as when I started!
There's the we like each other clique, the we moan about the clique clique, and the we are invisible clique and gosh, ever so many different ones -- then add on to that the different cohorts of posters over time, it's such amorphous thing. As you already said, nobody prevents anyone else from posting, the individual makes their own interpretations and own decisions.
I just don't understand why its such a negative connotation. People are naturally drawn to those with a similar outlook or circumstances so why single out the regular posters as a negative one?
Who knows what goes on in another person's mind? "Ummmmmm.... Some forum folk do quite a good job of showing a lot of what goes on in their minds on here methinks | |||
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Do they involve naked butlers and donuts?
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"It has often amused me that those who moan about cliques are, in my opinion, often those who are less inclusive of everyone on the forum than those accused of being in the everchanging frequent poster cliques.
I could never work out who "the clique" were. Its definitely not the same one as when I started!
There's the we like each other clique, the we moan about the clique clique, and the we are invisible clique and gosh, ever so many different ones -- then add on to that the different cohorts of posters over time, it's such amorphous thing. As you already said, nobody prevents anyone else from posting, the individual makes their own interpretations and own decisions.
I just don't understand why its such a negative connotation. People are naturally drawn to those with a similar outlook or circumstances so why single out the regular posters as a negative one?
Who knows what goes on in another person's mind?
Ummmmmm.... Some forum folk do quite a good job of showing a lot of what goes on in their minds on here methinks "Is it "I wonder if my Dick is big enough?" | |||
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"Why do you post a new topic on here? I post for different reasons, sometimes just for fun with a silly thread, sometimes I like to ask questions to make people think and sometimes to make them feel happy. With all the talk of bragging or cliques or look at me does anyone actually post with those intentions? When you make a post do you go out of your way to be fully involved in it, ecouraging the conversation and involving everyone? " I like the Forums much better than the chat rooms, because I think that the conversations are much more inclusive, and more interesting. I'd post a topic on something I was curious about, but also, if I'm honest, because I hope that people will take more interest in my profile etc etc. I'm very fond of the etc etc ?? | |||
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"I usually start a thread cos I've got something on my mind be it silly or serious. Usually tho I start a thread in the early eve n start with good intentions of answering everyone who posts but then I take my bedtime meds n forget I started one! I was tempted to start a thread on Sunday after watching a micheal Jackson program but I decided better of it. PTU xxx " Haha drowsiness is a good excuse to forget. Why did you decide not to post it? | |||
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"I do my best to avoid starting threads these days Why? " Previous experience has taught me I'm better off just participating on other's threads. Better off people thinking I'm a fool than starting a thread and removing any uncertainty | |||
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"Its like dejavu everyday on here for me
Refreshing when you see a post you have not seen before very rare indeed "Search forum subjects: use it people | |||
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"I post, but I'd never create one...the cliques scare me
I'm more of a lurker
But a post is open to everyone to comment?! "True, but if someone does comment, I don't expect a reply, or need to reply to theirs. When creating a thread you only get replies, which I'm sure is demoralising if no one does. | |||
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"Why do you post a new topic on here? I post for different reasons, sometimes just for fun with a silly thread, sometimes I like to ask questions to make people think and sometimes to make them feel happy. With all the talk of bragging or cliques or look at me does anyone actually post with those intentions? When you make a post do you go out of your way to be fully involved in it, ecouraging the conversation and involving everyone? I like the Forums much better than the chat rooms, because I think that the conversations are much more inclusive, and more interesting. I'd post a topic on something I was curious about, but also, if I'm honest, because I hope that people will take more interest in my profile etc etc. I'm very fond of the etc etc ??" Do you want me to take a look at your etc etc? | |||
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"Its like dejavu everyday on here for me
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"It has often amused me that those who moan about cliques are, in my opinion, often those who are less inclusive of everyone on the forum than those accused of being in the everchanging frequent poster cliques.
I could never work out who "the clique" were. Its definitely not the same one as when I started!
There's the we like each other clique, the we moan about the clique clique, and the we are invisible clique and gosh, ever so many different ones -- then add on to that the different cohorts of posters over time, it's such amorphous thing. As you already said, nobody prevents anyone else from posting, the individual makes their own interpretations and own decisions.
I just don't understand why its such a negative connotation. People are naturally drawn to those with a similar outlook or circumstances so why single out the regular posters as a negative one?
Who knows what goes on in another person's mind?
Ummmmmm.... Some forum folk do quite a good job of showing a lot of what goes on in their minds on here methinks "You see, I don't necessarily agree. I think often there's layers behind -- someone posting something cutting maybe simply about being cutting as they intend to hurt, or they don't realise it hurts or they're upset or angry or afraid of something completely unrelated to the the post but it manifests there. I don't think we do know what is going on in anyone's mind. As Bun says, sometimes we don't even really know what we are really getting at ourselves. | |||
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"Its like dejavu everyday on here for me
Refreshing when you see a post you have not seen before very rare indeed
Search forum subjects: use it people "But the people using the forums is forever changing so why can't they ask something that's new to them? | |||
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"I post, but I'd never create one...the cliques scare me
I'm more of a lurker
But a post is open to everyone to comment?!
True, but if someone does comment, I don't expect a reply, or need to reply to theirs.
When creating a thread you only get replies, which I'm sure is demoralising if no one does. "It happens to everyone x | |||
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" Who knows what goes on in another person's mind?
Ummmmmm.... Some forum folk do quite a good job of showing a lot of what goes on in their minds on here methinks
Is it "I wonder if my Dick is big enough?""Could well be. Or perhaps wondering if women like *enter subject* | |||
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"It has often amused me that those who moan about cliques are, in my opinion, often those who are less inclusive of everyone on the forum than those accused of being in the everchanging frequent poster cliques.
I could never work out who "the clique" were. Its definitely not the same one as when I started!
There's the we like each other clique, the we moan about the clique clique, and the we are invisible clique and gosh, ever so many different ones -- then add on to that the different cohorts of posters over time, it's such amorphous thing. As you already said, nobody prevents anyone else from posting, the individual makes their own interpretations and own decisions.
I just don't understand why its such a negative connotation. People are naturally drawn to those with a similar outlook or circumstances so why single out the regular posters as a negative one?
Who knows what goes on in another person's mind?
Ummmmmm.... Some forum folk do quite a good job of showing a lot of what goes on in their minds on here methinks
You see, I don't necessarily agree. I think often there's layers behind -- someone posting something cutting maybe simply about being cutting as they intend to hurt, or they don't realise it hurts or they're upset or angry or afraid of something completely unrelated to the the post but it manifests there. I don't think we do know what is going on in anyone's mind. As Bun says, sometimes we don't even really know what we are really getting at ourselves. "Excuse terrible grammar. | |||
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"Every single post I've started was to include males and females and not just my crew/buddies or a clique. I've never posted a look at me thread such as 'I'm looking for etc..), I have, but it was for comedy value and as jest ( still no-one has re written my profile). I've made continuous efforts here to show how single men should be accepted and not just 'looked for when you need us' (yes, you've got it in your profiles). Inclusive? Always. But I'm aware who might reply on mine as much as I'm aware at those that avoid them. ive always said, do what you want on here though, everyone does anyway. *corrected spelling, if any others are wrong, I'm not correcting it again.
You missed a capital "I"
Do you actively encourage the quieter members to contribute? Do you respond to them and try to get more interaction?
I love when a post turns into a proper discussion where people comment on each others posts not just the OP. "I do talk to anyone who interacts with me. If the op is female or a popular kid. Do you think the quiter ones will get a look in if they try to talk to anyone anyway, esp the popular OP. Look at the Manchester Social thread that was to confirm attendees. 3 people took over it. So op, why was that thread posted? To get names or to flirt? Don't over think things. Post a thread, see what happens, that's how I do it. | |||
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" Who knows what goes on in another person's mind?
Ummmmmm.... Some forum folk do quite a good job of showing a lot of what goes on in their minds on here methinks
You see, I don't necessarily agree. I think often there's layers behind -- someone posting something cutting maybe simply about being cutting as they intend to hurt, or they don't realise it hurts or they're upset or angry or afraid of something completely unrelated to the the post but it manifests there. I don't think we do know what is going on in anyone's mind. As Bun says, sometimes we don't even really know what we are really getting at ourselves. "I agree that there are definitely folks making threads as you describe. But I don't think that you can deny that there are also plenty of "face value" threads too. | |||
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"It has often amused me that those who moan about cliques are, in my opinion, often those who are less inclusive of everyone on the forum than those accused of being in the everchanging frequent poster cliques.
I could never work out who "the clique" were. Its definitely not the same one as when I started!
There's the we like each other clique, the we moan about the clique clique, and the we are invisible clique and gosh, ever so many different ones -- then add on to that the different cohorts of posters over time, it's such amorphous thing. As you already said, nobody prevents anyone else from posting, the individual makes their own interpretations and own decisions.
I just don't understand why its such a negative connotation. People are naturally drawn to those with a similar outlook or circumstances so why single out the regular posters as a negative one?
Who knows what goes on in another person's mind?
Ummmmmm.... Some forum folk do quite a good job of showing a lot of what goes on in their minds on here methinks
You see, I don't necessarily agree. I think often there's layers behind -- someone posting something cutting maybe simply about being cutting as they intend to hurt, or they don't realise it hurts or they're upset or angry or afraid of something completely unrelated to the the post but it manifests there. I don't think we do know what is going on in anyone's mind. As Bun says, sometimes we don't even really know what we are really getting at ourselves. "I don't mind sharing this because I know the people involved will be cool with it. I once posted a "look at me" thread saying I was grumpy. I wasnt. I was sad and upset and looking for some kind of interaction to ease the terrible pain I was feeling. The post attracted a few "sarky" comments about it being a look at me thread. They later apologized about it after I posted elsewhere how I really felt and the reasons why. We chatted about it and i think it was kinda eye opening to realise that whilst a post may be interpreted a certain way its not necessarily the case that the OP intended it to be that way or at least not to be purely for that type of interaction. It was eye opening for me mostly, i had to look at myself and work out why I did post it. | |||
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" Who knows what goes on in another person's mind?
Ummmmmm.... Some forum folk do quite a good job of showing a lot of what goes on in their minds on here methinks
Is it "I wonder if my Dick is big enough?"
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" Who knows what goes on in another person's mind?
Ummmmmm.... Some forum folk do quite a good job of showing a lot of what goes on in their minds on here methinks
You see, I don't necessarily agree. I think often there's layers behind -- someone posting something cutting maybe simply about being cutting as they intend to hurt, or they don't realise it hurts or they're upset or angry or afraid of something completely unrelated to the the post but it manifests there. I don't think we do know what is going on in anyone's mind. As Bun says, sometimes we don't even really know what we are really getting at ourselves.
I agree that there are definitely folks making threads as you describe. But I don't think that you can deny that there are also plenty of "face value" threads too."But that misses my point, G. I may guess if there are face value threads I don't *know* that they are. So no, I still disagree. | |||
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"It has often amused me that those who moan about cliques are, in my opinion, often those who are less inclusive of everyone on the forum than those accused of being in the everchanging frequent poster cliques.
I could never work out who "the clique" were. Its definitely not the same one as when I started!
There's the we like each other clique, the we moan about the clique clique, and the we are invisible clique and gosh, ever so many different ones -- then add on to that the different cohorts of posters over time, it's such amorphous thing. As you already said, nobody prevents anyone else from posting, the individual makes their own interpretations and own decisions.
I just don't understand why its such a negative connotation. People are naturally drawn to those with a similar outlook or circumstances so why single out the regular posters as a negative one?
Who knows what goes on in another person's mind?
Ummmmmm.... Some forum folk do quite a good job of showing a lot of what goes on in their minds on here methinks
You see, I don't necessarily agree. I think often there's layers behind -- someone posting something cutting maybe simply about being cutting as they intend to hurt, or they don't realise it hurts or they're upset or angry or afraid of something completely unrelated to the the post but it manifests there. I don't think we do know what is going on in anyone's mind. As Bun says, sometimes we don't even really know what we are really getting at ourselves.
I don't mind sharing this because I know the people involved will be cool with it. I once posted a "look at me" thread saying I was grumpy. I wasnt. I was sad and upset and looking for some kind of interaction to ease the terrible pain I was feeling.
The post attracted a few "sarky" comments about it being a look at me thread. They later apologized about it after I posted elsewhere how I really felt and the reasons why. We chatted about it and i think it was kinda eye opening to realise that whilst a post may be interpreted a certain way its not necessarily the case that the OP intended it to be that way or at least not to be purely for that type of interaction.
It was eye opening for me mostly, i had to look at myself and work out why I did post it. "Yep. | |||
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"Every single post I've started was to include males and females and not just my crew/buddies or a clique. I've never posted a look at me thread such as 'I'm looking for etc..), I have, but it was for comedy value and as jest ( still no-one has re written my profile). I've made continuous efforts here to show how single men should be accepted and not just 'looked for when you need us' (yes, you've got it in your profiles). Inclusive? Always. But I'm aware who might reply on mine as much as I'm aware at those that avoid them. ive always said, do what you want on here though, everyone does anyway. *corrected spelling, if any others are wrong, I'm not correcting it again.
You missed a capital "I"
Do you actively encourage the quieter members to contribute? Do you respond to them and try to get more interaction?
I love when a post turns into a proper discussion where people comment on each others posts not just the OP.
I do talk to anyone who interacts with me.
If the op is female or a popular kid. Do you think the quiter ones will get a look in if they try to talk to anyone anyway, esp the popular OP.
Look at the Manchester Social thread that was to confirm attendees. 3 people took over it.
So op, why was that thread posted? To get names or to flirt?
Don't over think things. Post a thread, see what happens, that's how I do it. "But isn't that a self fulfilling prophecy? The quiet ones don't post because they won't get answered but they don't get answered because they don't post. | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few." Obviously I've seen you around the forums. I don't normally comment on your posts because I don't know you, or much about you or your personality. If you joined in a little more maybe we could learn more about you. I wouldn't want anyone not joining in because I was posting a lot on one thread, I'd much rather everyone be comfortable joining in and having their say. I do like to suss people out though, because I'm aware I'm a wind up merchant and I wouldn't want to offend anyone. I'd be gutted if I said something that hurt someone's feelings because that's absolutely not the intention, but until you get to know someone it's difficult to get the balance right. Post more, share more, and before you know it I'll be taking the piss out of you too | |||
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"Rarely post nowadays as some threads just aren't as inclusive as they like to make out. A lot of peoples posts go unanswered till someone popular posts the same then their comments get answered at detriment to others. Post now only if I feel I can adequately make a decent contribution but mostly just read threads now." I find this sad | |||
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"Every single post I've started was to include males and females and not just my crew/buddies or a clique. I've never posted a look at me thread such as 'I'm looking for etc..), I have, but it was for comedy value and as jest ( still no-one has re written my profile). I've made continuous efforts here to show how single men should be accepted and not just 'looked for when you need us' (yes, you've got it in your profiles). Inclusive? Always. But I'm aware who might reply on mine as much as I'm aware at those that avoid them. ive always said, do what you want on here though, everyone does anyway. *corrected spelling, if any others are wrong, I'm not correcting it again.
You missed a capital "I"
Do you actively encourage the quieter members to contribute? Do you respond to them and try to get more interaction?
I love when a post turns into a proper discussion where people comment on each others posts not just the OP.
I do talk to anyone who interacts with me.
If the op is female or a popular kid. Do you think the quiter ones will get a look in if they try to talk to anyone anyway, esp the popular OP.
Look at the Manchester Social thread that was to confirm attendees. 3 people took over it.
So op, why was that thread posted? To get names or to flirt?
Don't over think things. Post a thread, see what happens, that's how I do it.
But isn't that a self fulfilling prophecy? The quiet ones don't post because they won't get answered but they don't get answered because they don't post. "Yes. No. Maybe. | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few. But those few were new at one point too. I tend to join in a fair bit and I do have wee in jokes or whatever with people but they developed over time the same as any friendship would. When I first started no one knew me and all the jokes went over my head but I persevered. Maybe its a case of making effort to join in? " Not at all. The ever evolving clique are the ones who make sly digs, who answer posters with snide remarks without naming them, who 'gang up'. Weirdly, one person in this thread who is clearly targeting me with her posts, is actually one I didn't class as that.
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" Who knows what goes on in another person's mind?
Ummmmmm.... Some forum folk do quite a good job of showing a lot of what goes on in their minds on here methinks
You see, I don't necessarily agree. I think often there's layers behind -- someone posting something cutting maybe simply about being cutting as they intend to hurt, or they don't realise it hurts or they're upset or angry or afraid of something completely unrelated to the the post but it manifests there. I don't think we do know what is going on in anyone's mind. As Bun says, sometimes we don't even really know what we are really getting at ourselves.
I agree that there are definitely folks making threads as you describe. But I don't think that you can deny that there are also plenty of "face value" threads too.
But that misses my point, G. I may guess if there are face value threads I don't *know* that they are. So no, I still disagree."I do so love a mass debate with you M'lady Estella | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few. Obviously I've seen you around the forums. I don't normally comment on your posts because I don't know you, or much about you or your personality. If you joined in a little more maybe we could learn more about you. I wouldn't want anyone not joining in because I was posting a lot on one thread, I'd much rather everyone be comfortable joining in and having their say. I do like to suss people out though, because I'm aware I'm a wind up merchant and I wouldn't want to offend anyone. I'd be gutted if I said something that hurt someone's feelings because that's absolutely not the intention, but until you get to know someone it's difficult to get the balance right. Post more, share more, and before you know it I'll be taking the piss out of you too "I think you've misunderstood me. I don't not post because I'm frightened. I don't post because I have nothing to say here. And im happy with people here not knowing much about me | |||
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" Who knows what goes on in another person's mind?
Ummmmmm.... Some forum folk do quite a good job of showing a lot of what goes on in their minds on here methinks
Is it "I wonder if my Dick is big enough?"
Could well be. Or perhaps wondering if women like *enter subject*
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Refreshing when you see a post you have not seen before very rare indeed
So why not start your own? "10 years of wisdom helps | |||
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"Its like dejavu everyday on here for me
Refreshing when you see a post you have not seen before very rare indeed
Search forum subjects: use it people
But the people using the forums is forever changing so why can't they ask something that's new to them? "They can use the search function and read to their hearts content | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few. But those few were new at one point too. I tend to join in a fair bit and I do have wee in jokes or whatever with people but they developed over time the same as any friendship would. When I first started no one knew me and all the jokes went over my head but I persevered. Maybe its a case of making effort to join in? Not at all. The ever evolving clique are the ones who make sly digs, who answer posters with snide remarks without naming them, who 'gang up'. Weirdly, one person in this thread who is clearly targeting me with her posts, is actually one I didn't class as that.
Personally, I don't feel a clique here is as it used to be. I think it still exists, but not to the exclusion of others as it used to be. "Hi Elpis -- I'm hoping you don't mean me, but if you did then I'd like to say my posts are not targeted at anyone specific. Just the general animosity clique shaming brings. | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few. Obviously I've seen you around the forums. I don't normally comment on your posts because I don't know you, or much about you or your personality. If you joined in a little more maybe we could learn more about you. I wouldn't want anyone not joining in because I was posting a lot on one thread, I'd much rather everyone be comfortable joining in and having their say. I do like to suss people out though, because I'm aware I'm a wind up merchant and I wouldn't want to offend anyone. I'd be gutted if I said something that hurt someone's feelings because that's absolutely not the intention, but until you get to know someone it's difficult to get the balance right. Post more, share more, and before you know it I'll be taking the piss out of you too
I think you've misunderstood me. I don't not post because I'm frightened. I don't post because I have nothing to say here.
And im happy with people here not knowing much about me "The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few. That's the bit I was mainly aiming at with my response. Yeah, I think I did misunderstand, coz I can't work it out for toffee. Like I said I'm a nob-head. My bad, I still don't get it. | |||
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"I usually start a thread cos I've got something on my mind be it silly or serious. Usually tho I start a thread in the early eve n start with good intentions of answering everyone who posts but then I take my bedtime meds n forget I started one! I was tempted to start a thread on Sunday after watching a micheal Jackson program but I decided better of it. PTU xxx Haha drowsiness is a good excuse to forget. Why did you decide not to post it? " Because of the inevitable conversation about his alleged peodopillia. I have my thoughts and feelings and I wasn't feeling strong enough to debate the topic. Xxx | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few. But those few were new at one point too. I tend to join in a fair bit and I do have wee in jokes or whatever with people but they developed over time the same as any friendship would. When I first started no one knew me and all the jokes went over my head but I persevered. Maybe its a case of making effort to join in? Not at all. The ever evolving clique are the ones who make sly digs, who answer posters with snide remarks without naming them, who 'gang up'. Weirdly, one person in this thread who is clearly targeting me with her posts, is actually one I didn't class as that.
Personally, I don't feel a clique here is as it used to be. I think it still exists, but not to the exclusion of others as it used to be.
Hi Elpis -- I'm hoping you don't mean me, but if you did then I'd like to say my posts are not targeted at anyone specific. Just the general animosity clique shaming brings. "Oh absolutely it was you but that's cool. You defend very politely. | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few. But those few were new at one point too. I tend to join in a fair bit and I do have wee in jokes or whatever with people but they developed over time the same as any friendship would. When I first started no one knew me and all the jokes went over my head but I persevered. Maybe its a case of making effort to join in? Not at all. The ever evolving clique are the ones who make sly digs, who answer posters with snide remarks without naming them, who 'gang up'. Weirdly, one person in this thread who is clearly targeting me with her posts, is actually one I didn't class as that.
Personally, I don't feel a clique here is as it used to be. I think it still exists, but not to the exclusion of others as it used to be.
Hi Elpis -- I'm hoping you don't mean me, but if you did then I'd like to say my posts are not targeted at anyone specific. Just the general animosity clique shaming brings.
Oh absolutely it was you but that's cool. You defend very politely. "Fair enough. Do you class yourself in the clique by your own definition of it? | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few. But those few were new at one point too. I tend to join in a fair bit and I do have wee in jokes or whatever with people but they developed over time the same as any friendship would. When I first started no one knew me and all the jokes went over my head but I persevered. Maybe its a case of making effort to join in? Not at all. The ever evolving clique are the ones who make sly digs, who answer posters with snide remarks without naming them, who 'gang up'. Weirdly, one person in this thread who is clearly targeting me with her posts, is actually one I didn't class as that.
Personally, I don't feel a clique here is as it used to be. I think it still exists, but not to the exclusion of others as it used to be.
Hi Elpis -- I'm hoping you don't mean me, but if you did then I'd like to say my posts are not targeted at anyone specific. Just the general animosity clique shaming brings.
Oh absolutely it was you but that's cool. You defend very politely.
Fair enough. Do you class yourself in the clique by your own definition of it? "Laughing! A clique is more than one person. I guess you missed my post about the current clique. | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few. But those few were new at one point too. I tend to join in a fair bit and I do have wee in jokes or whatever with people but they developed over time the same as any friendship would. When I first started no one knew me and all the jokes went over my head but I persevered. Maybe its a case of making effort to join in? Not at all. The ever evolving clique are the ones who make sly digs, who answer posters with snide remarks without naming them, who 'gang up'. Weirdly, one person in this thread who is clearly targeting me with her posts, is actually one I didn't class as that.
Personally, I don't feel a clique here is as it used to be. I think it still exists, but not to the exclusion of others as it used to be.
Hi Elpis -- I'm hoping you don't mean me, but if you did then I'd like to say my posts are not targeted at anyone specific. Just the general animosity clique shaming brings.
Oh absolutely it was you but that's cool. You defend very politely.
Fair enough. Do you class yourself in the clique by your own definition of it?
Laughing! A clique is more than one person. I guess you missed my post about the current clique. "But you admit to making 'sly digs' about others, using your words? | |||
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"I usually start a thread cos I've got something on my mind be it silly or serious. Usually tho I start a thread in the early eve n start with good intentions of answering everyone who posts but then I take my bedtime meds n forget I started one! I was tempted to start a thread on Sunday after watching a micheal Jackson program but I decided better of it. PTU xxx Haha drowsiness is a good excuse to forget. Why did you decide not to post it? Because of the inevitable conversation about his alleged peodopillia. I have my thoughts and feelings and I wasn't feeling strong enough to debate the topic. Xxx" Aw I didn't even think of that! Yeah I can see how it might've went | |||
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"Why do you post a new topic on here? I post for different reasons, sometimes just for fun with a silly thread, sometimes I like to ask questions to make people think and sometimes to make them feel happy. With all the talk of bragging or cliques or look at me does anyone actually post with those intentions? When you make a post do you go out of your way to be fully involved in it, ecouraging the conversation and involving everyone? " Page one of hotpics young lady sorry too digress from the topic slightly | |||
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"Is detailing a thread including everyone OP? " Im assuming you mean derailing? In which case bugger off away from this thread! | |||
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"And here is my post work reading. Usual shite I'm guessing? " Pretty much | |||
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"Why do you post a new topic on here? I post for different reasons, sometimes just for fun with a silly thread, sometimes I like to ask questions to make people think and sometimes to make them feel happy. With all the talk of bragging or cliques or look at me does anyone actually post with those intentions? When you make a post do you go out of your way to be fully involved in it, ecouraging the conversation and involving everyone? Page one of hotpics young lady sorry too digress from the topic slightly"Hahahaha!! Thanks | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few. But those few were new at one point too. I tend to join in a fair bit and I do have wee in jokes or whatever with people but they developed over time the same as any friendship would. When I first started no one knew me and all the jokes went over my head but I persevered. Maybe its a case of making effort to join in? Not at all. The ever evolving clique are the ones who make sly digs, who answer posters with snide remarks without naming them, who 'gang up'. Weirdly, one person in this thread who is clearly targeting me with her posts, is actually one I didn't class as that.
Personally, I don't feel a clique here is as it used to be. I think it still exists, but not to the exclusion of others as it used to be.
Hi Elpis -- I'm hoping you don't mean me, but if you did then I'd like to say my posts are not targeted at anyone specific. Just the general animosity clique shaming brings.
Oh absolutely it was you but that's cool. You defend very politely.
Fair enough. Do you class yourself in the clique by your own definition of it?
Laughing! A clique is more than one person. I guess you missed my post about the current clique.
But you admit to making 'sly digs' about others, using your words? "Who was I making sly digs about? You? I also said I didn't class you like that. I think you're scraping the barrel to have a fight with me. Again, I think you missed my post about the current clique, and again, it takes more than one person to create a clique. | |||
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"I usually start a thread cos I've got something on my mind be it silly or serious. Usually tho I start a thread in the early eve n start with good intentions of answering everyone who posts but then I take my bedtime meds n forget I started one! I was tempted to start a thread on Sunday after watching a micheal Jackson program but I decided better of it. PTU xxx Haha drowsiness is a good excuse to forget. Why did you decide not to post it? Because of the inevitable conversation about his alleged peodopillia. I have my thoughts and feelings and I wasn't feeling strong enough to debate the topic. Xxx Aw I didn't even think of that! Yeah I can see how it might've went "Yes I'm all for healthy debate. Sadly there's no accounting for idiots. x | |||
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"I don't get the 'hosting' a thread business. Sometimes, and this doesn't apply to everyone, it seems by stating that, the op is saying that they own the thread and by implication, can dictate who and what is posted. As for cliques, they're more obvious when they take over a thread, rather than start one. Im not sure that's the case. I make a post because I want to engage with people and encourage conversation. The forum is open to everyone, no one can stop anyone from responding to a thread and yes in some cases the thread is dominated by a few faces but why does that stop others from joining in? Because, as you say, it becomes dominated by a few. But those few were new at one point too. I tend to join in a fair bit and I do have wee in jokes or whatever with people but they developed over time the same as any friendship would. When I first started no one knew me and all the jokes went over my head but I persevered. Maybe its a case of making effort to join in? Not at all. The ever evolving clique are the ones who make sly digs, who answer posters with snide remarks without naming them, who 'gang up'. Weirdly, one person in this thread who is clearly targeting me with her posts, is actually one I didn't class as that.
Personally, I don't feel a clique here is as it used to be. I think it still exists, but not to the exclusion of others as it used to be.
Hi Elpis -- I'm hoping you don't mean me, but if you did then I'd like to say my posts are not targeted at anyone specific. Just the general animosity clique shaming brings.
Oh absolutely it was you but that's cool. You defend very politely.
Fair enough. Do you class yourself in the clique by your own definition of it?
Laughing! A clique is more than one person. I guess you missed my post about the current clique.
But you admit to making 'sly digs' about others, using your words?
Who was I making sly digs about? You? I also said I didn't class you like that. I think you're scraping the barrel to have a fight with me.
Again, I think you missed my post about the current clique, and again, it takes more than one person to create a clique. "Sorry, I'm not fighting -- was trying to understand your posts and thought process. I ask questions when I don't understand. I've read all your posts on this thread re the current clique, is there somewhere else you mean? I don't know what goes on in someone's head so even if I read something I ask if I don't follow. That's all I was doing. So you weren't having a sly dig about me? Cool. Thanks for clarifying. | |||
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"I enjoy reading the forums, and feel like I know some of the regulars (not clique) quite well, despite the fact that you guys won't feel the same about me, as I don't post enough. I don't start threads- I did start one a few weeks ago and then deleted it as I was worried people would pick me to shreds. I also find I struggle to keep up with replying to messages in my inbox, so wouldn't be able to keep up with replying to everyone on my own thread anyway. I comment occasionally comment on others posts but I'm definitely more of a lurker. " Fuck it, post more. Join in. The more the merrier. | |||
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