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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
What are yours?
I have a slight dilemma/quandary – I currently have a lust after one of my delivery drivers, I have no idea of his age but I’m guessing (hopefully) no younger than 26/27 (still under my preferred age) 
Now he is always really friendly and chatty (could just be good customer service), he texted me earlier today to say he was going to be early with my delivery as he had a couple of stops in my area but if it was not convenient he would wait until my designated time. I replied that, that would be fine and I could make it home a bit earlier so not to hold him up.
As usual, he was friendly, chatty, saying he hoped I didn’t go out of my way etc, I said not a problem, you know I only work across the road etc, so anytime, as you have my number, (smooth I know) 
Now I can flirt on here, but how can you tell in real life if someone is flirting with you? Or just being friendly, how can I suss it out without coming across as a deluded older woman? Remember folks, dignity always, so any tips on the back of a postcard/stamp is gratefully appreciated, or feel free to post your own help required  |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I can't help I'm afraid. I have no idea when someone is flirting with me and I did once attempt flirting with a lovely forumite and I terrified the poor thing and he's never been the same since  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why not ask him if he'd like to grab a drink sometime?
There's no loss of dignity if he says no, the worst is he is flattered and all you did was ask if he wanted to spend time together outside of the professional role of deliverer/customer.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a weird thing going on whereby people I'm not interested in think I'm looking for sex and the rare occasions where I see someone I fancy in real life I couldn't flirt for toffee!
Like I had the mobile scratch repair person message me asking if I could think of any other way of paying him for the work he did without giving me money and I had a plumber that installed my cooker message me afterwards asking if I wanted to cook him a roast dinner or if he wanted to cook for me.
It's like I must give off a beacon that makes men think it's ok to make inappropriate comments, like the guy in the diy shop when I was asking about a dado rail he said something about dildo rails and let of did a winky thing to me in the shop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why not ask him if he'd like to grab a drink sometime?
There's no loss of dignity if he says no, the worst is he is flattered and all you did was ask if he wanted to spend time together outside of the professional role of deliverer/customer.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. "
Completely agree.
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Compliment him on his looks maybe, if he reciprocates that may be a clue "
Apart from saying 'what lovely blue eyes you have' sounds a bit pervy to me
Why not ask him if he'd like to grab a drink sometime?
There's no loss of dignity if he says no, the worst is he is flattered and all you did was ask if he wanted to spend time together outside of the professional role of deliverer/customer.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Sounds a bit too forward for me I'm afraid |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Ask him about himself - if he has a girlfriend, etc. That's a fairly decent hint.
Or just say that you're always happy when you see his package.  "
I could maybe ask him about his accent, so good shout as I don't think he is from here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's hard in real life cos you don't know if they're attached or not. I think all single people should wear a badge saying available, so you know if it's safe to approach.
I still fancy the guy that comes in the gym where I work and this has been since what, last February? Even got his card when he said to give him a ring if I was thinking about buying a car from the Audi dealership he works at. (I don't have the money for a brand new Audi so couldn't call him for that)
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a weird thing going on whereby people I'm not interested in think I'm looking for sex and the rare occasions where I see someone I fancy in real life I couldn't flirt for toffee!
Like I had the mobile scratch repair person message me asking if I could think of any other way of paying him for the work he did without giving me money and I had a plumber that installed my cooker message me afterwards asking if I wanted to cook him a roast dinner or if he wanted to cook for me.
It's like I must give off a beacon that makes men think it's ok to make inappropriate comments, like the guy in the diy shop when I was asking about a dado rail he said something about dildo rails and let of did a winky thing to me in the shop. "
Nice tits, fancy a shag |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It's hard in real life cos you don't know if they're attached or not. I think all single people should wear a badge saying available, so you know if it's safe to approach.
I still fancy the guy that comes in the gym where I work and this has been since what, last February? Even got his card when he said to give him a ring if I was thinking about buying a car from the Audi dealership he works at. (I don't have the money for a brand new Audi so couldn't call him for that)
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Your right, it's bloody difficult! A badge is a good idea for single and looking 
Thing is I never know when it will be him, so I can't plan anything, maybe I should also try and ask about his shifts, as that is quite innocent enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If he's ever early with your delivery again ask him if you can make him a drink, invite him in and just let it progress. If he's interested it'll happen naturally |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why not try I've just boiled the kettle...do you fancy a cuppa?
Now if he has any interest.... he will more then likely say yes...then you can build from there |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Make sure you look really nice. If he comments then I'd say drag him in!!!!"
Well I like my makeup so I didn't look too shabby, but like I said I can't plan, coz knowing my luck, I'll be looking really sexy for the 60 year old that huffs and puffs his way up the stairs |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Why not try I've just boiled the kettle...do you fancy a cuppa?
Now if he has any interest.... he will more then likely say yes...then you can build from there "
But he is working! I used to go out with a self employed delivery guy, trust me, they don't have time to go off schedule! So definitely not on the cards |
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FAF all the way
Seriously though you have already crossed the first bridge as you are already having conversations short maybe but you are communicating, maybe next time he pops round with your package stretch the convo a bit more and see where it leads..... |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Why not try I've just boiled the kettle...do you fancy a cuppa?
Now if he has any interest.... he will more then likely say yes...then you can build from there
But he is working! I used to go out with a self employed delivery guy, trust me, they don't have time to go off schedule! So definitely not on the cards "
Dammit! I've just fooking clicked, he said he was happy to have waited until my allotted time, so maybe he did have time for a coffee after all, how fucking dense am I?   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why not try I've just boiled the kettle...do you fancy a cuppa?
Now if he has any interest.... he will more then likely say yes...then you can build from there
But he is working! I used to go out with a self employed delivery guy, trust me, they don't have time to go off schedule! So definitely not on the cards "
I used to do deliveries myself and this is true, but if I was given a proposition like this from someone I liked the look of I would have definitely sacrificed some time. |
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Few thoughts;
- Ask him what he did at the weekend (prying to see if single)
- If hot, offer him a cool drink
- ask him for advice on what to wear for a date from a male perspective (let's him know your single)
- order some wine, and say... you just need someone to share the bottle with you now
That type of thing.... I think I'm a pretty good flirt!!! All the best xxx |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Few thoughts;
- Ask him what he did at the weekend (prying to see if single)
- If hot, offer him a cool drink
- ask him for advice on what to wear for a date from a male perspective (let's him know your single)
- order some wine, and say... you just need someone to share the bottle with you now
That type of thing.... I think I'm a pretty good flirt!!! All the best xxx"
Well I do always have wine in my order, so maybe:
If you ever fancy a glass let me know, whilst holding up a bottle
Or is that just a little bit OTT?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Few thoughts;
- Ask him what he did at the weekend (prying to see if single)
- If hot, offer him a cool drink
- ask him for advice on what to wear for a date from a male perspective (let's him know your single)
- order some wine, and say... you just need someone to share the bottle with you now
That type of thing.... I think I'm a pretty good flirt!!! All the best xxx
Well I do always have wine in my order, so maybe:
If you ever fancy a glass let me know, whilst holding up a bottle
Or is that just a little bit OTT? "
Get some lager on your next order....then he has a choice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Few thoughts;
- Ask him what he did at the weekend (prying to see if single)
- If hot, offer him a cool drink
- ask him for advice on what to wear for a date from a male perspective (let's him know your single)
- order some wine, and say... you just need someone to share the bottle with you now
That type of thing.... I think I'm a pretty good flirt!!! All the best xxx
Well I do always have wine in my order, so maybe:
If you ever fancy a glass let me know, whilst holding up a bottle
Or is that just a little bit OTT? "
I understand where you are coming from as it's always a minefield if you are likely to continue seeing them if you are blatant and they aren't interested!!
Some good example conversation starters mentioned above.
Though as you've twigged if he was early but able to wait until your proper time you could have offered him a drink and just scene if he accepted! |
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"Few thoughts;
- Ask him what he did at the weekend (prying to see if single)
- If hot, offer him a cool drink
- ask him for advice on what to wear for a date from a male perspective (let's him know your single)
- order some wine, and say... you just need someone to share the bottle with you now
That type of thing.... I think I'm a pretty good flirt!!! All the best xxx
Well I do always have wine in my order, so maybe:
If you ever fancy a glass let me know, whilst holding up a bottle
Or is that just a little bit OTT? "
Sounds okay... ask him if he's tried this particular wine first xx |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Few thoughts;
- Ask him what he did at the weekend (prying to see if single)
- If hot, offer him a cool drink
- ask him for advice on what to wear for a date from a male perspective (let's him know your single)
- order some wine, and say... you just need someone to share the bottle with you now
That type of thing.... I think I'm a pretty good flirt!!! All the best xxx
Well I do always have wine in my order, so maybe:
If you ever fancy a glass let me know, whilst holding up a bottle
Or is that just a little bit OTT?
I understand where you are coming from as it's always a minefield if you are likely to continue seeing them if you are blatant and they aren't interested!!
Some good example conversation starters mentioned above.
Though as you've twigged if he was early but able to wait until your proper time you could have offered him a drink and just scene if he accepted!"
I know but too little too late, but I'll need to remember this....just need to find out his shifts now |
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Why not just try,
"the kettles just boiled fancy a cuppa/coffee"
Have the radio on or your own music on and when a song comes on say,
"oh I love dancing to this song but I don't get a chance to go out much, I haven't been out in ages"
And take it from there, I suppose it all depends if he takes you up on the cuppa and his replies to what you say but if he is interested he will most likely go for it, Unless he is even more shy then you |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Why not just try,
"the kettles just boiled fancy a cuppa/coffee"
Have the radio on or your own music on and when a song comes on say,
"oh I love dancing to this song but I don't get a chance to go out much, I haven't been out in ages"
And take it from there, I suppose it all depends if he takes you up on the cuppa and his replies to what you say but if he is interested he will most likely go for it, Unless he is even more shy then you "
Thing is I am not really shy, I just don't want to make an arse out of myself  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why not just try,
"the kettles just boiled fancy a cuppa/coffee"
Have the radio on or your own music on and when a song comes on say,
"oh I love dancing to this song but I don't get a chance to go out much, I haven't been out in ages"
And take it from there, I suppose it all depends if he takes you up on the cuppa and his replies to what you say but if he is interested he will most likely go for it, Unless he is even more shy then you
Thing is I am not really shy, I just don't want to make an arse out of myself "
Nice arse though |
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"Why not just try,
"the kettles just boiled fancy a cuppa/coffee"
Have the radio on or your own music on and when a song comes on say,
"oh I love dancing to this song but I don't get a chance to go out much, I haven't been out in ages"
And take it from there, I suppose it all depends if he takes you up on the cuppa and his replies to what you say but if he is interested he will most likely go for it, Unless he is even more shy then you
Thing is I am not really shy, I just don't want to make an arse out of myself "
You wouldn't really be making a arse of yourself saying something like that, You're just being friendly and making subtle hints, His replies will help you make the next move or drop it before you do make a arse of yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why not ask him if he'd like to grab a drink sometime?
There's no loss of dignity if he says no, the worst is he is flattered and all you did was ask if he wanted to spend time together outside of the professional role of deliverer/customer.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Completely agree.
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Would you like to grab a drink sometime, Lib? |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Why not ask him if he'd like to grab a drink sometime?
There's no loss of dignity if he says no, the worst is he is flattered and all you did was ask if he wanted to spend time together outside of the professional role of deliverer/customer.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Completely agree.
Would you like to grab a drink sometime, Lib? "
No point made, flirting on here is easy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I recommend a push up bra, a button up shirt with far too many buttons undone and a cheeky smile when he comes to yours. It'll work itself out from there, trust me!  |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I recommend a push up bra, a button up shirt with far too many buttons undone and a cheeky smile when he comes to yours. It'll work itself out from there, trust me! "
See further up! I can't plan as knowing my luck the overweight 60 year old would turn up! Huffing, puffing and sweating his way up the stairs, I fear I have now lost my opportunity |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why not ask him if he'd like to grab a drink sometime?
There's no loss of dignity if he says no, the worst is he is flattered and all you did was ask if he wanted to spend time together outside of the professional role of deliverer/customer.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Completely agree.
Would you like to grab a drink sometime, Lib?
No point made, flirting on here is easy!"
Wasn't making a point!! I was asking Lib out! |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Why not ask him if he'd like to grab a drink sometime?
There's no loss of dignity if he says no, the worst is he is flattered and all you did was ask if he wanted to spend time together outside of the professional role of deliverer/customer.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Completely agree.
Would you like to grab a drink sometime, Lib?
No point made, flirting on here is easy!
Wasn't making a point!! I was asking Lib out! "
Good luck!  |
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"I recommend a push up bra, a button up shirt with far too many buttons undone and a cheeky smile when he comes to yours. It'll work itself out from there, trust me!
See further up! I can't plan as knowing my luck the overweight 60 year old would turn up! Huffing, puffing and sweating his way up the stairs, I fear I have now lost my opportunity "
You might have to take the long winded approach, Keep being friendly, Saying hi its lovely to see you again, Asking how his day as been etc, And over a few weeks you may find he will ask you out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why not ask him if he'd like to grab a drink sometime?
There's no loss of dignity if he says no, the worst is he is flattered and all you did was ask if he wanted to spend time together outside of the professional role of deliverer/customer.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Completely agree.
Would you like to grab a drink sometime, Lib?
No point made, flirting on here is easy!
Wasn't making a point!! I was asking Lib out!
Good luck! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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As he turns to leave, shout after him "fancy a drink sometime?" Then if he says yes it's a winner. If he says no you can quickly close the door and hide your red face. |
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"I recommend a push up bra, a button up shirt with far too many buttons undone and a cheeky smile when he comes to yours. It'll work itself out from there, trust me!
See further up! I can't plan as knowing my luck the overweight 60 year old would turn up! Huffing, puffing and sweating his way up the stairs, I fear I have now lost my opportunity "
but it may not be the 60 year old,so just in case...
You need to keep us posted |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I recommend a push up bra, a button up shirt with far too many buttons undone and a cheeky smile when he comes to yours. It'll work itself out from there, trust me!
See further up! I can't plan as knowing my luck the overweight 60 year old would turn up! Huffing, puffing and sweating his way up the stairs, I fear I have now lost my opportunity
but it may not be the 60 year old,so just in case...
You need to keep us posted"
If its good news I will |
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By (user no longer on site)
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flirting is weird,just being friendly towards a person and they think your flirting.
also flirting can also be more about the person flirting than the person their flirting at 
id take flirting with a pinch of salt,if they or you fancy some one its usually pretty obvious |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"flirting is weird,just being friendly towards a person and they think your flirting.
also flirting can also be more about the person flirting than the person their flirting at
id take flirting with a pinch of salt,if they or you fancy some one its usually pretty obvious"
I'm bloody bickered most of the time, so I am going to fair well and fuck off to bed lol x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"flirting is weird,just being friendly towards a person and they think your flirting.
also flirting can also be more about the person flirting than the person their flirting at
id take flirting with a pinch of salt,if they or you fancy some one its usually pretty obvious
I'm bloody bickered most of the time, so I am going to fair well and fuck off to bed lol x
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omg are you flirting with me  |
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By *rishCWoman
over a year ago
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"I recommend a push up bra, a button up shirt with far too many buttons undone and a cheeky smile when he comes to yours. It'll work itself out from there, trust me!
See further up! I can't plan as knowing my luck the overweight 60 year old would turn up! Huffing, puffing and sweating his way up the stairs, I fear I have now lost my opportunity "
I'd go with the getting dressed up option. If the old bloke arrives instead..you'll make his day. And trust me..delivery drivers talk. Just ask him next time if he fancies a coffee when he arrives. If he's interested he'll make time..no matter what his schedule is like. |
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"flirting is weird,just being friendly towards a person and they think your flirting.
also flirting can also be more about the person flirting than the person their flirting at
id take flirting with a pinch of salt,if they or you fancy some one its usually pretty obvious
I'm bloody bickered most of the time, so I am going to fair well and fuck off to bed lol x
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I hope you slept well on your dilemma |
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