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Help a bi girl out!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi, My first ever post so please be gentle!
I'm a single bi girl. I'm interested in meeting both men and women and couples but thought that finding other single bi girls would be relatively easy on Fab. I was wrong!!
The only bi girl I've really messaged with seemed a little fake to me.
I've sent messages to maybe 4 girls and got nothing in return!
Do I just need to persevere, is my profile completely wrong or am I just not what single bi girls are looking for?!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Persevere definitely! And see if there's any socials near you.
Welcome to the forums  "
Thank you!!
Socials scare me - I would need to find someone to go with but I do think it's a great idea.
And thank you for the welcome  xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I totally understand your pain! Most girls don't reply or really engage if they do. I've been stood up or cancelled by 4 girls. I've kinda given up  "
Awww don't give up! If you can't find a girl then I've no chance - your pics are gorgeous 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I agree OP.
Your profile reads fine to me, but quite a few single bi lady's profiles seem more directed towards men and I tend to avoid those myself."
I actually updated it this evening as I think it was too male oriented so fingers crossed my new profile is more successful.
Honestly never imagined it would be so hard though!
Ps. Gorgeous pics too xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree OP.
Your profile reads fine to me, but quite a few single bi lady's profiles seem more directed towards men and I tend to avoid those myself.
I actually updated it this evening as I think it was too male oriented so fingers crossed my new profile is more successful.
Honestly never imagined it would be so hard though!
Ps. Gorgeous pics too xx"
Why thank you, same to you
There is definitely some very genuine gorgeous bi ladies on here. I tend to befriend them then pounce when they least expect it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I totally understand your pain! Most girls don't reply or really engage if they do. I've been stood up or cancelled by 4 girls. I've kinda given up
Awww don't give up! If you can't find a girl then I've no chance - your pics are gorgeous
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Stick with it OP. Go to socials, interact on here. Club nights are a good shout as well. You'll find one soon. Or two! And welcome to the forum. "
I have been reading the forums a lot more and really enjoying this side of things.
I think a club is a great idea, just need to build the courage to actually go!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I agree OP.
Your profile reads fine to me, but quite a few single bi lady's profiles seem more directed towards men and I tend to avoid those myself.
I actually updated it this evening as I think it was too male oriented so fingers crossed my new profile is more successful.
Honestly never imagined it would be so hard though!
Ps. Gorgeous pics too xx
Why thank you, same to you
There is definitely some very genuine gorgeous bi ladies on here. I tend to befriend them then pounce when they least expect it. "
Haha. That made me laugh out loud!! I will have to adopt that tactic!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think there's anything at all wrong with your profile I just personally think some people listed as bi curious may like the thought of it more than actually pursuing it. thats what I deduce from the fact that alot of female bi curious profiles I've looked at seem to be purely aimed towards guys with bi curious simply listed but not expanded upon or spoken of beyond that in the profile.
That being said. In my local updates there are one or two ladies who seem to have found likeminded ladies and appear to regularly meet with other single females. Just stick at it, I think fab can be slow for alot of us at times. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think there's anything at all wrong with your profile I just personally think some people listed as bi curious may like the thought of it more than actually pursuing it. thats what I deduce from the fact that alot of female bi curious profiles I've looked at seem to be purely aimed towards guys with bi curious simply listed but not expanded upon or spoken of beyond that in the profile.
That being said. In my local updates there are one or two ladies who seem to have found likeminded ladies and appear to regularly meet with other single females. Just stick at it, I think fab can be slow for alot of us at times."
Yeah I think you may be right about the bi curious thing. Guess I'll just have to stick at it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think there's anything at all wrong with your profile I just personally think some people listed as bi curious may like the thought of it more than actually pursuing it. thats what I deduce from the fact that alot of female bi curious profiles I've looked at seem to be purely aimed towards guys with bi curious simply listed but not expanded upon or spoken of beyond that in the profile.
That being said. In my local updates there are one or two ladies who seem to have found likeminded ladies and appear to regularly meet with other single females. Just stick at it, I think fab can be slow for alot of us at times.
Yeah I think you may be right about the bi curious thing. Guess I'll just have to stick at it "
Just count yourself lucky that you seem to have plenty to offer. Great bio, great photo's and you appear to be very pleasant. I'm sure when you do get a message back they'll find you difficult to not pursue |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I totally understand your pain! Most girls don't reply or really engage if they do. I've been stood up or cancelled by 4 girls. I've kinda given up
Shut up I offered my bed to you  
Haha! I may still end up there "
Oh really? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ah, the old snare a bi girl conundrum...... give up, angel has, just stick to the blokes, there's plenty of them "
Loved your profile - made me laugh out loud!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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this thread has made me realise that the only women I'm speaking to right now on here are all bi sexual
And that's all you need to know about my masculinity |
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"Ah, the old snare a bi girl conundrum...... give up, angel has, just stick to the blokes, there's plenty of them
Loved your profile - made me laugh out loud!! "
Loved yours as well, alas i only laughed out loud when i saw that we're over your age range |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi, My first ever post so please be gentle!
I'm a single bi girl. I'm interested in meeting both men and women and couples but thought that finding other single bi girls would be relatively easy on Fab. I was wrong!!
The only bi girl I've really messaged with seemed a little fake to me.
I've sent messages to maybe 4 girls and got nothing in return!
Do I just need to persevere, is my profile completely wrong or am I just not what single bi girls are looking for?!
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youll need to persevere |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have patience.
*so wanted to say this for so long to a female.
I've never seen a post yet about how easy it is to arrange anything on Fab. But, I have seen posts about getting your ass to a club. Try that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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stick with it for sure - i find ladies are easy to meet up with because we love to go for a coffee/lunch and a gossip - i mostly meet up for the first time at ladies events - we are lucky here as 2 local clubs host these - or attend any local socials - keep chatting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"stick with it for sure - i find ladies are easy to meet up with because we love to go for a coffee/lunch and a gossip - i mostly meet up for the first time at ladies events - we are lucky here as 2 local clubs host these - or attend any local socials - keep chatting "
I like coffee.  .  |
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Dear O.P.
I have a half baked theory. I had exactly the same experiences you are having some years back.
My thoughts are these;when I had bi on my profile, I never ONCE was contacted by another bi woman. I was contacted by 'couples' or at least the MALE of the couples ( ahem ) and they usually wanted you to 'teach' their wife. Though I suspect they really wanted a live lesbian show. I was also contacted by men who wanted a 'lezzer' or a threesome with 'my mate'..... you know those funny little lesbian friends that all bi woman can pluck out of thin air and also fancy.
I messaged quite a lot of women who had 'bi' on their profile. No success. I narrowed it down to 'bi' women who had logged on recently .... no success.
I came to the realisation that the 'genuine bi pool' is very small and if we extrapolate from that that being bi just isn't enough then the 'genuine bi pool' on here is microscopic and that's bigging it up a bit.
There isn't a 'single bi woman within my age range, who has the necessary lifestyle , personality , freedom, psyche, physicality for N.S.A experiences. Let alone one who is looking for me.
If single bi women are the unicorns of fab then 'genuine single bi women' have two horns and that's why we can't find them.
You'd have more success in L.G.B.T friendly places than on a 'swingers' site that is largely frequented by men.
Try hanging out with women  |
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"Is it just me that's surprised that women on this site appear to have little success getting a meet with another woman? "
No. There's quite a lot of men who think women who are bi can be put next to any other bi woman and they will get jiggy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"stick with it for sure - i find ladies are easy to meet up with because we love to go for a coffee/lunch and a gossip - i mostly meet up for the first time at ladies events - we are lucky here as 2 local clubs host these - or attend any local socials - keep chatting
I like coffee. . "
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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"Is it just me that's surprised that women on this site appear to have little success getting a meet with another woman?
No. There's quite a lot of men who think women who are bi can be put next to any other bi woman and they will get jiggy."
I understand the mutual attraction bit, there seems to be loads of women seeking women. You see quite a few ladies hooking up in Clubs So it just surprises me so many struggle to meet online. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I ask why the woman has to be bi?
im guessing she wants some girl on girl playtime
I read 'bi' as opposed to lesbian.
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im bi - but that doesnt mean i dont play one to one with the ladies - i still love the fellas |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dear O.P.
I have a half baked theory. I had exactly the same experiences you are having some years back.
My thoughts are these;when I had bi on my profile, I never ONCE was contacted by another bi woman. I was contacted by 'couples' or at least the MALE of the couples ( ahem ) and they usually wanted you to 'teach' their wife. Though I suspect they really wanted a live lesbian show. I was also contacted by men who wanted a 'lezzer' or a threesome with 'my mate'..... you know those funny little lesbian friends that all bi woman can pluck out of thin air and also fancy.
I messaged quite a lot of women who had 'bi' on their profile. No success. I narrowed it down to 'bi' women who had logged on recently .... no success.
I came to the realisation that the 'genuine bi pool' is very small and if we extrapolate from that that being bi just isn't enough then the 'genuine bi pool' on here is microscopic and that's bigging it up a bit.
There isn't a 'single bi woman within my age range, who has the necessary lifestyle , personality , freedom, psyche, physicality for N.S.A experiences. Let alone one who is looking for me.
If single bi women are the unicorns of fab then 'genuine single bi women' have two horns and that's why we can't find them.
You'd have more success in L.G.B.T friendly places than on a 'swingers' site that is largely frequented by men.
Try hanging out with women "
She's got a point.. ditto xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi, My first ever post so please be gentle!
I'm a single bi girl. I'm interested in meeting both men and women and couples but thought that finding other single bi girls would be relatively easy on Fab. I was wrong!!
The only bi girl I've really messaged with seemed a little fake to me.
I've sent messages to maybe 4 girls and got nothing in return!
Do I just need to persevere, is my profile completely wrong or am I just not what single bi girls are looking for?!
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To me your profile reads quite negative. 75% is what you dont want. That could be condensed into 3 or 4 lines. Good photos |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I ask why the woman has to be bi?
im guessing she wants some girl on girl playtime
I read 'bi' as opposed to lesbian.
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Yeah that was my point. If someone is specifically looking for bi women I assume there's going to be a dude dragged out of the closet at some point and that I'll be expected to have a threesome. Why not just women who are into women rather than bi specifically? |
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By *ddit...Man
over a year ago
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Hi, My first ever post so please be gentle!
I'm a single bi girl. I'm interested in meeting both men and women and couples but thought that finding other single bi girls would be relatively easy on Fab. I was wrong!!
The only bi girl I've really messaged with seemed a little fake to me.
I've sent messages to maybe 4 girls and got nothing in return!
Do I just need to persevere, is my profile completely wrong or am I just not what single bi girls are looking for?!
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Morning.. as you will have experienced... ladies get a lot of messages.. I would say it's a great idea to do what your doing... interact with the forum.. show your personality.. you will catch the eye.. |
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By *andkCouple
over a year ago
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I'm a bi lady, part of a couple but do meet girls on my own. The only way I've met girls on here is when we've met couples and then the lady half and I have continued to have meets on our own. I've found its quiet a nice way in |
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I seem to find more than enough so they're definitely here. Tbh your profile isn't particularly lady friendly. Try going to kestrels/abfab or another club or social. I made lots of sexy lady friends at k so that seems like a good place to start |
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By *utie91Woman
over a year ago
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Hi, My first ever post so please be gentle!
I'm a single bi girl. I'm interested in meeting both men and women and couples but thought that finding other single bi girls would be relatively easy on Fab. I was wrong!!
The only bi girl I've really messaged with seemed a little fake to me.
I've sent messages to maybe 4 girls and got nothing in return!
Do I just need to persevere, is my profile completely wrong or am I just not what single bi girls are looking for?!
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I'm a single bi fem... I have similar problems meeting single women on here.
Although I'm not too far from you lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi all. We are a couple and my partner is bi-curious. When she told me I thought happydays hence the user name but no joy on here . I thought it was just because we are a couple. But with some of you stunning ladies on here struggling what chance do we stand .  she has had positive comments that have lifted her confidence but nothing ever comes of it. All I want to do is make my good lady happy but not sure if it is me or our profile holding us back . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im also having the same problem. I've had replies back from ladies in my area but it never goes anywhere. I try and aim my profile at females and couples. The men don't matter so much because their just soooo easy. In fact I don't even mention them on my profile.
I know I need to try harder and actually message a few girls but they make me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The men don't matter so much because their just soooo easy. In fact I don't even mention them on my profile.
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. Is this how men are honestly viewed on here?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The men don't matter so much because their just soooo easy. In fact I don't even mention them on my profile.
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. Is this how men are honestly viewed on here?? "
I meant it in the nicest possible way
I don't advertise for men but seem to meet mostly single men. I don't like the fact that the men are like that as I really enjoy the chase. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The men don't matter so much because their just soooo easy. In fact I don't even mention them on my profile.
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. Is this how men are honestly viewed on here??
I meant it in the nicest possible way
I don't advertise for men but seem to meet mostly single men. I don't like the fact that the men are like that as I really enjoy the chase. "
I best start playing hard to get then. . Thanks for the tip. |
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I know the problem - your standards are too high. If you get messages from lots of dodgy blokes then it will give you a really low baseline. Then when almost any woman or even a bloke who wears knickers sends you a message, you'll be all over her like a rash
Happy to help. And welcome by the way. |
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"Im also having the same problem. I've had replies back from ladies in my area but it never goes anywhere. I try and aim my profile at females and couples. The men don't matter so much because their just soooo easy. In fact I don't even mention them on my profile.
I know I need to try harder and actually message a few girls but they make me "
Why are you not nearer to us ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dear O.P.
I have a half baked theory. I had exactly the same experiences you are having some years back.
My thoughts are these;when I had bi on my profile, I never ONCE was contacted by another bi woman. I was contacted by 'couples' or at least the MALE of the couples ( ahem ) and they usually wanted you to 'teach' their wife. Though I suspect they really wanted a live lesbian show. I was also contacted by men who wanted a 'lezzer' or a threesome with 'my mate'..... you know those funny little lesbian friends that all bi woman can pluck out of thin air and also fancy.
I messaged quite a lot of women who had 'bi' on their profile. No success. I narrowed it down to 'bi' women who had logged on recently .... no success.
I came to the realisation that the 'genuine bi pool' is very small and if we extrapolate from that that being bi just isn't enough then the 'genuine bi pool' on here is microscopic and that's bigging it up a bit.
There isn't a 'single bi woman within my age range, who has the necessary lifestyle , personality , freedom, psyche, physicality for N.S.A experiences. Let alone one who is looking for me.
If single bi women are the unicorns of fab then 'genuine single bi women' have two horns and that's why we can't find them.
You'd have more success in L.G.B.T friendly places than on a 'swingers' site that is largely frequented by men.
Try hanging out with women "
That is exactly what I was thinking and the reason my profile says straight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The men don't matter so much because their just soooo easy. In fact I don't even mention them on my profile.
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. Is this how men are honestly viewed on here?? "
Catching a man on here is like dipping a jam covered finger in rice crispies |
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Hi, My first ever post so please be gentle!
I'm a single bi girl. I'm interested in meeting both men and women and couples but thought that finding other single bi girls would be relatively easy on Fab. I was wrong!!
The only bi girl I've really messaged with seemed a little fake to me.
I've sent messages to maybe 4 girls and got nothing in return!
Do I just need to persevere, is my profile completely wrong or am I just not what single bi girls are looking for?!
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The one thing that may put a lot of ladies off is the demand to send a face pic with a first message, not everyone will want their face out there so early on in a dialogue.
Socials, parties and clubs are your best bet, contacting ladies "cold" off here will generate very little response. |
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Stick with it op - you'll be fine and successful. There are some female profiles where the real user is of uncertain sex. There are others where their sexuality isn't fully honest - but they're fine not to discount, if you're ok with someone who's a little in the closet.
Part of the issue is that other women typically get tons of messages, so it can be hard work. If there's a social, consider going with someone who is a friend but who won't likely ever be a sexual mate - no complications. There are lots of fantastic people here, especially in the forum. Decent people stand out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do people never understand what bisexual means?
Your profile looks fine to me OP. Women are inundated with mail and pretty much never reply.
Men have this issue all the time. The usual forum answer is "tough shit". Always amusing to see cute replies when there's tits involved. |
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Op, there are lots of bi girls, either as singles or in couples who would love to meet another single girl. You're still newish and your veri trail is still short, that will put off a lot of the single ladies, not all, but lots. Perhaps try to look at that, I'm sure it will have a big impact.
We are lucky to be close to clubs that have all-girl events, (men only allowed in different areas of the club) , at Cupids and La Chambre. These are great for the girls to get together for ff fun, men perhaps involved later depending on what the girls want...
Good luck and have fun xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The men don't matter so much because their just soooo easy. In fact I don't even mention them on my profile.
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. Is this how men are honestly viewed on here??
Catching a man on here is like dipping a jam covered finger in rice crispies "
hahahaha |
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"I totally understand your pain! Most girls don't reply or really engage if they do. I've been stood up or cancelled by 4 girls. I've kinda given up
Shut up I offered my bed to you
Haha! I may still end up there "
2 is company. 4 is a party |
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"I totally understand your pain! Most girls don't reply or really engage if they do. I've been stood up or cancelled by 4 girls. I've kinda given up
Shut up I offered my bed to you
Haha! I may still end up there
2 is company. 4 is a party "
11 is epic |
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"I totally understand your pain! Most girls don't reply or really engage if they do. I've been stood up or cancelled by 4 girls. I've kinda given up
Shut up I offered my bed to you
Haha! I may still end up there
2 is company. 4 is a party
11 is epic "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you are specifically looking for women only then why not put yourelf down as Gay?
Then not only would that send a message to the guys you are ony looking for a female at the moment but you will then get BI and gay fems contactiong you!
After all you can change youreself to Bi or curiose at any time later |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi, My first ever post so please be gentle!
I'm a single bi girl. I'm interested in meeting both men and women and couples but thought that finding other single bi girls would be relatively easy on Fab. I was wrong!!
The only bi girl I've really messaged with seemed a little fake to me.
I've sent messages to maybe 4 girls and got nothing in return!
Do I just need to persevere, is my profile completely wrong or am I just not what single bi girls are looking for?!
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just percivere some are more open than others but tou will find someone |
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"If you are specifically looking for women only then why not put yourelf down as Gay?
Then not only would that send a message to the guys you are ony looking for a female at the moment but you will then get BI and gay fems contactiong you!
After all you can change youreself to Bi or curiose at any time later "
Because she's bi and is looking for men, women and couples. She's just finding the single ladies particularly hard to find. The bi status describes that fine. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you to everyone that replied to my post!!
I think the forum is a great way to put myself out there and I have actually been contacted by a couple of women already since my post!!
I will definitely persevere and try and have as much fun while I'm at it!
For the lady who asked about why bi and not gay - I've been with gay girls before and found that they were not keen on bi girls? But that is just my personal experience.
- for the man asking why I don't put myself down as gay - I'm not gay! My preference right now is to meet women but I'm not opposed to meeting men or couples so I do want to keep my profile as bi sexual as that's the most accurate.
- And the last saying to be as choosy as I want as it's my body......THANK YOU!!
You're a lovely (and sexy) bunch. Really appreciated all your comments |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you to everyone that replied to my post!!
I think the forum is a great way to put myself out there and I have actually been contacted by a couple of women already since my post!!
I will definitely persevere and try and have as much fun while I'm at it!
For the lady who asked about why bi and not gay - I've been with gay girls before and found that they were not keen on bi girls? But that is just my personal experience.
- for the man asking why I don't put myself down as gay - I'm not gay! My preference right now is to meet women but I'm not opposed to meeting men or couples so I do want to keep my profile as bi sexual as that's the most accurate.
- And the last saying to be as choosy as I want as it's my body......THANK YOU!!
You're a lovely (and sexy) bunch. Really appreciated all your comments "
I can understand the reasoning, and I have heard that some gay women aren't interested in bi girls, but as I said seeking bi women rather than women into women can give the impression that play involving a guy may be on the cards at some point. I steer clear of profiles where that is the suggestion as I'd only be interested in a threesome involving my hubby, not up for being a third for another couple.
And I'm with you on not listing yourself as gay because you're not. I'm honest about who I am and what I'm looking for and would expect anyone else I meet to be the same. So I list myself as bi and put up with messages from dudes rather than filtering them as I am open to conversation.
I agree to be firm, it's your body and your decision what you do with it.
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I wouldn't expect women to be different with women than they are with men. No reply means not interested, the same as it does when men ask why women don't reply. I don't bother looking for women, because I'm lazy and have no time for playing boost your ego games. |
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"Why do people never understand what bisexual means?
Your profile looks fine to me OP. Women are inundated with mail and pretty much never reply.
Men have this issue all the time. The usual forum answer is "tough shit". Always amusing to see cute replies when there's tits involved. "
What does it mean and who doesn't understand ? |
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"Why do people never understand what bisexual means?
Your profile looks fine to me OP. Women are inundated with mail and pretty much never reply.
Men have this issue all the time. The usual forum answer is "tough shit". Always amusing to see cute replies when there's tits involved.
What does it mean and who doesn't understand ? "
Maybe the whole lifestyle thing, at ease in a proper relationship with either sex.
Perhaps that's where we're going wrong. Maybe we should specify that angel wants to have a roll around with another woman, that involves kissing and fingers and tongues in and around eachothers tits n cloppers, but not necessarily moving in with eachother. |
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"I wouldn't expect women to be different with women than they are with men. No reply means not interested, the same as it does when men ask why women don't reply. "
For me no reply can also mean try again if you're really interested but make more of an effort if you want a reply. At least one couple on this thread who've said they want to meet a single girl have messaged me before but with so little effort I just deleted it. I apply the same rules to guys girls and couples. If there's so few single ladies around why do people not make their first message standard out? I don't get it even now after being here for some years. |
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"I wouldn't expect women to be different with women than they are with men. No reply means not interested, the same as it does when men ask why women don't reply.
For me no reply can also mean try again if you're really interested but make more of an effort if you want a reply. At least one couple on this thread who've said they want to meet a single girl have messaged me before but with so little effort I just deleted it. I apply the same rules to guys girls and couples. If there's so few single ladies around why do people not make their first message standard out? I don't get it even now after being here for some years. "
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come to Vanilla Alternative bi night first friday of every month, every sexual persuasion catered for, sumptuous surroundings near you, your bound to find a hot lass, people of colour welcome, you'd love it.
We can buddy up if you like, sisters in crime lol xxx |
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"I wouldn't expect women to be different with women than they are with men. No reply means not interested, the same as it does when men ask why women don't reply.
For me no reply can also mean try again if you're really interested but make more of an effort if you want a reply. At least one couple on this thread who've said they want to meet a single girl have messaged me before but with so little effort I just deleted it. I apply the same rules to guys girls and couples. If there's so few single ladies around why do people not make their first message standard out? I don't get it even now after being here for some years.
Whenever i meet you i just go home bruised and stapled... "
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"Dear O.P.
I have a half baked theory. I had exactly the same experiences you are having some years back.
My thoughts are these;when I had bi on my profile, I never ONCE was contacted by another bi woman. I was contacted by 'couples' or at least the MALE of the couples ( ahem ) and they usually wanted you to 'teach' their wife. Though I suspect they really wanted a live lesbian show. I was also contacted by men who wanted a 'lezzer' or a threesome with 'my mate'..... you know those funny little lesbian friends that all bi woman can pluck out of thin air and also fancy.
I messaged quite a lot of women who had 'bi' on their profile. No success. I narrowed it down to 'bi' women who had logged on recently .... no success.
I came to the realisation that the 'genuine bi pool' is very small and if we extrapolate from that that being bi just isn't enough then the 'genuine bi pool' on here is microscopic and that's bigging it up a bit.
There isn't a 'single bi woman within my age range, who has the necessary lifestyle , personality , freedom, psyche, physicality for N.S.A experiences. Let alone one who is looking for me.
If single bi women are the unicorns of fab then 'genuine single bi women' have two horns and that's why we can't find them.
You'd have more success in L.G.B.T friendly places than on a 'swingers' site that is largely frequented by men.
Try hanging out with women "
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Hi, My first ever post so please be gentle!
I'm a single bi girl. I'm interested in meeting both men and women and couples but thought that finding other single bi girls would be relatively easy on Fab. I was wrong!!
The only bi girl I've really messaged with seemed a little fake to me.
I've sent messages to maybe 4 girls and got nothing in return!
Do I just need to persevere, is my profile completely wrong or am I just not what single bi girls are looking for?!
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Odd isn't it - to be honest I think most of the bi action on here is between MF and F or MF and MF, with 'vanilla' F and F combined to more regular dating sites. The trouble of these of course is that you may well meet a bi girl, but she may want an exclusive relationship, or only the occasional dabble into FFM. My advice would be to find a few good M or MF buddies on here and explore the club scene together.
Happy hunting - the outcome sounds like it will be very worthwhile!!
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Ive meet quite a few girls on this site now, some for lots of meets including clubs, parties, events etc etc, the majority state they are Bi. Not one girl has ever played with a girl in my presence, none have veri's from 1-1 girl play, none have shown any interest in woman at all really when given the chance.
Now Im not pigheaded enough to think that if a girl is Bi she must fuck every woman in sight, I realise not every girl and not ever situation is right for them but I do believe that some girl (not all girls) just write Bi down on there profile as some kind of selling point.
And stand by for the genuine Bi girls to jump down my throat.......... |
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"Ive meet quite a few girls on this site now, some for lots of meets including clubs, parties, events etc etc, the majority state they are Bi. Not one girl has ever played with a girl in my presence, none have veri's from 1-1 girl play, none have shown any interest in woman at all really when given the chance.
Now Im not pigheaded enough to think that if a girl is Bi she must fuck every woman in sight, I realise not every girl and not ever situation is right for them but I do believe that some girl (not all girls) just write Bi down on there profile as some kind of selling point.
And stand by for the genuine Bi girls to jump down my throat.......... "
I beg to differ. You've met at least one bi girl with veris from a girl girl meet
And just a perspective, if a lady is meeting you maybe she's in MF sex headspace rather than going off to play with girls? I know if I arrange to meet a guy it's because I want to meet him.
Maybe I'm unusual but I see and have played with bi girls one on one and in all girl groups in many many places. Maybe I'm just a big girly tart |
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"Ive meet quite a few girls on this site now, some for lots of meets including clubs, parties, events etc etc, the majority state they are Bi. Not one girl has ever played with a girl in my presence, none have veri's from 1-1 girl play, none have shown any interest in woman at all really when given the chance.
Now Im not pigheaded enough to think that if a girl is Bi she must fuck every woman in sight, I realise not every girl and not ever situation is right for them but I do believe that some girl (not all girls) just write Bi down on there profile as some kind of selling point.
And stand by for the genuine Bi girls to jump down my throat..........
I beg to differ. You've met at least one bi girl with veris from a girl girl meet
And just a perspective, if a lady is meeting you maybe she's in MF sex headspace rather than going off to play with girls? I know if I arrange to meet a guy it's because I want to meet him.
Maybe I'm unusual but I see and have played with bi girls one on one and in all girl groups in many many places. Maybe I'm just a big girly tart "
I can certainly see your perspective, but I do think that Templarwarrior has a point, that there is an element of women on the scene who exaggerate how into women they actually are. |
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"I can certainly see your perspective, but I do think that Templarwarrior has a point, that there is an element of women on the scene who exaggerate how into women they actually are. "
Totally agree, especially with couples. I feel that some women are bi more because it pleases their man. Sometimes when I've been with a bi-couple it feels like the woman is getting turned on by turning her man on, rather than being turned on by being with me. That doesn't really work for me, I like a woman to be into me. |
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"Ive meet quite a few girls on this site now, some for lots of meets including clubs, parties, events etc etc, the majority state they are Bi. Not one girl has ever played with a girl in my presence, none have veri's from 1-1 girl play, none have shown any interest in woman at all really when given the chance.
Now Im not pigheaded enough to think that if a girl is Bi she must fuck every woman in sight, I realise not every girl and not ever situation is right for them but I do believe that some girl (not all girls) just write Bi down on there profile as some kind of selling point.
And stand by for the genuine Bi girls to jump down my throat..........
I beg to differ. You've met at least one bi girl with veris from a girl girl meet
And just a perspective, if a lady is meeting you maybe she's in MF sex headspace rather than going off to play with girls? I know if I arrange to meet a guy it's because I want to meet him.
Maybe I'm unusual but I see and have played with bi girls one on one and in all girl groups in many many places. Maybe I'm just a big girly tart "
Mmm, you aren't so unusual I love to play with other women either one on one, as a big all girl orgy or as part of mixed fun. And I've loved MFM fun on other occasions. Because we are Bi, not Lesbian |
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"I can certainly see your perspective, but I do think that Templarwarrior has a point, that there is an element of women on the scene who exaggerate how into women they actually are.
Totally agree, especially with couples. I feel that some women are bi more because it pleases their man. Sometimes when I've been with a bi-couple it feels like the woman is getting turned on by turning her man on, rather than being turned on by being with me. That doesn't really work for me, I like a woman to be into me."
We get that.
We've been told on all our meets that we as a couple are quite unique because I am a genuine bisexual female. He leaves the final decision to me as to who we meet. The attraction has to be between all 3 of us. That way we have no boundaries or jealousy like a lot of couples. So much better when all 3 of you want to rip each others clothes off. No one should feel left out |
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"I can certainly see your perspective, but I do think that Templarwarrior has a point, that there is an element of women on the scene who exaggerate how into women they actually are.
Totally agree, especially with couples. I feel that some women are bi more because it pleases their man. Sometimes when I've been with a bi-couple it feels like the woman is getting turned on by turning her man on, rather than being turned on by being with me. That doesn't really work for me, I like a woman to be into me."
I've come across this a couple of times, and it makes for a frustrating play meet! Nothing worse than another woman just doing it to please her partner! Thankfully you can usually tell how much they are into you in pre play chat and flirting |
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It's the main reason why I don't meet that many couples. I'd prefer both of them to be into me, and vice versa. Finding that 3 way attraction is a lot harder than people think! |
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"I can certainly see your perspective, but I do think that Templarwarrior has a point, that there is an element of women on the scene who exaggerate how into women they actually are.
Totally agree, especially with couples. I feel that some women are bi more because it pleases their man. Sometimes when I've been with a bi-couple it feels like the woman is getting turned on by turning her man on, rather than being turned on by being with me. That doesn't really work for me, I like a woman to be into me.
We get that.
We've been told on all our meets that we as a couple are quite unique because I am a genuine bisexual female. He leaves the final decision to me as to who we meet. The attraction has to be between all 3 of us. That way we have no boundaries or jealousy like a lot of couples. So much better when all 3 of you want to rip each others clothes off. No one should feel left out "
This is us, I do most of the forum stuff because I'm the one with the free time, H does a lot of the chat once we find someone we think we might get on with. We have always said that if the right female came along and we got to know them well enough then FF meets would be fine on occasion just not exclusively (H's rules not mine).
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"Ive meet quite a few girls on this site now, some for lots of meets including clubs, parties, events etc etc, the majority state they are Bi. Not one girl has ever played with a girl in my presence, none have veri's from 1-1 girl play, none have shown any interest in woman at all really when given the chance.
Now Im not pigheaded enough to think that if a girl is Bi she must fuck every woman in sight, I realise not every girl and not ever situation is right for them but I do believe that some girl (not all girls) just write Bi down on there profile as some kind of selling point.
And stand by for the genuine Bi girls to jump down my throat.......... "
I think you're probably right.
I've played with women in clubs but they've all been pillow princesses. |
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I am bi, like properly bi I have been in lesbian relationships and straight relationships, I started swing after ffm's with mates with mark, my ideal woulf be to have a bi gf who lives with us, some days I sleep with her in her bed sometimes with mark sometimes all together we tried looking on dating sites and nothing! So we ended up swinging! We ( like so many) came to fab hoping to find a single bi female play mate that was 6 ish years ago and not once have we found one, but meeting bi female couples we have had tons of fun but if the female isn't bi we don't meet as that's my main reason for playing!
Maybe meet a couple with bi girl, you can set out your rules before and will get treated like a princess because you are a unicorn maybe keep it soft swap so you get a guy and girl playing but only playing which can be very erotic |
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"I am bi, like properly bi I have been in lesbian relationships and straight relationships, I started swing after ffm's with mates with mark, my ideal woulf be to have a bi gf who lives with us, some days I sleep with her in her bed sometimes with mark sometimes all together we tried looking on dating sites and nothing! So we ended up swinging!
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This would be my ideal scenario although add in sometimes I would sleep with him alone too. 3x2's and a 3 |
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"Ive meet quite a few girls on this site now, some for lots of meets including clubs, parties, events etc etc, the majority state they are Bi. Not one girl has ever played with a girl in my presence, none have veri's from 1-1 girl play, none have shown any interest in woman at all really when given the chance.
Now Im not pigheaded enough to think that if a girl is Bi she must fuck every woman in sight, I realise not every girl and not ever situation is right for them but I do believe that some girl (not all girls) just write Bi down on there profile as some kind of selling point.
And stand by for the genuine Bi girls to jump down my throat.......... "
As a bi women myself, I think I would say there are different levels of bi and to various degrees.
I wouldn't say every bi man and women are completely 50/50.
As for me, it all depends on what day you ask me |
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"Persevere definitely! And see if there's any socials near you.
Welcome to the forums
Thank you!!
Socials scare me - I would need to find someone to go with but I do think it's a great idea.
And thank you for the welcome xx"
Check out the Secret Tea Party next month. I would send you a link but your filters are blokcing me as I am too old. |
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