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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please |
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"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please "
You don't need to understand it, it's a preference. There will be many, many reasons why some women won't play with attached men, permissions given or not, and that's just how it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its just down to individual preference. There could be many reasons including the individual getting burnt by playing with attached person maybe in the past just a thought |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
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For me it's availability...married men are not usually available when I want to meet...and there is the cheating aspect that I don't want to be party to having been done wrong.
I realise you're playing with permission but the mindset is always present for some. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please
You don't need to understand it, it's a preference. There will be many, many reasons why some women won't play with attached men, permissions given or not, and that's just how it is."
Yea I know that as I said before the preference is perhaps because of some reasons ???  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are lots of reasons I prefer single men. One reason is that I prefer men who can accomodate sometimes. "
Thank you !
Is there also a matter of ownership and exclusivity as well for you ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just in-case no-one mentions it's a preference......
I'll do it ... 
Nobody had Soxy and it's likely nobody will, I'm glad you are here "
Glad to be of service...  |
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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago
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"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please
You don't need to understand it, it's a preference. There will be many, many reasons why some women won't play with attached men, permissions given or not, and that's just how it is.
Yea I know that as I said before the preference is perhaps because of some reasons ??? "
Yes
Different reasons, for different women. |
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our particular reasons for having that preference are, too many guys are sparing with the truth when it comes to "permission", too many men have a different idea on the definition of permission than their wife and the dynamic between a husband and wife is unknowable especially if one isn't present and its impossible to tell if both parties are happy. |
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"There are lots of reasons I prefer single men. One reason is that I prefer men who can accomodate sometimes.
Thank you !
Is there also a matter of ownership and exclusivity as well for you ? "
Plenty of predatory women on here, but also many do not want to risk getting emotionally involved with someone who already belongs to someone else.  |
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"I may be tempted if I knew 100% you weren't talking bollocks. I don't generally trust people in here though greatly so I avoid anyone that say's he has permission."
Good idea to put up veris from people who seem to have met the wife. |
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"I may be tempted if I knew 100% you weren't talking bollocks. I don't generally trust people in here though greatly so I avoid anyone that say's he has permission.
Good idea to put up veris from people who seem to have met the wife."
It is a good idea,it takes a lot for me to trust nowaday's though. I'd still be wondering if it was actually the wife even if I met her. |
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"For me it's availability...married men are not usually available when I want to meet...and there is the cheating aspect that I don't want to be party to having been done wrong.
I realise you're playing with permission but the mindset is always present for some."
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"I may be tempted if I knew 100% you weren't talking bollocks. I don't generally trust people in here though greatly so I avoid anyone that say's he has permission.
Good idea to put up veris from people who seem to have met the wife.
It is a good idea,it takes a lot for me to trust nowaday's though. I'd still be wondering if it was actually the wife even if I met her."
Yes, I've been tempted once or twice but it is a turnoff for me anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I may be tempted if I knew 100% you weren't talking bollocks. I don't generally trust people in here though greatly so I avoid anyone that say's he has permission.
Good idea to put up veris from people who seem to have met the wife.
It is a good idea,it takes a lot for me to trust nowaday's though. I'd still be wondering if it was actually the wife even if I met her."
Dear lord that's a lot of effort to get sex hahahaha
I have veris from those that have met my wife and even been there whilst I've played with another woman. It's be madness to get a random person to pretend to be my wife |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are lots of reasons I prefer single men. One reason is that I prefer men who can accomodate sometimes.
Thank you !
Is there also a matter of ownership and exclusivity as well for you ?
Plenty of predatory women on here, but also many do not want to risk getting emotionally involved with someone who already belongs to someone else. "
that makes sense. But then they lying to themselves saying it just sex surely ....? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please
You don't need to understand it, it's a preference. There will be many, many reasons why some women won't play with attached men, permissions given or not, and that's just how it is.
Yea I know that as I said before the preference is perhaps because of some reasons ???
Yes
Different reasons, for different women. "
Sigh
I take it you are being cheeky here.
I'll say it this way, out of curiosity is like to KNOW some of the reasons |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can understand why some don't
Getting yelled at from a cheated wife down the phone is not a good thing
But I do find married guys know the rules more
No hey babe fancy meeting for drinks at 5pm on a Tuesday when I'm making the kids dinner?? Erm.... lol
Yes for me anyway it's just sex |
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"There are lots of reasons I prefer single men. One reason is that I prefer men who can accomodate sometimes.
Thank you !
Is there also a matter of ownership and exclusivity as well for you ?
Plenty of predatory women on here, but also many do not want to risk getting emotionally involved with someone who already belongs to someone else. that makes sense. But then they lying to themselves saying it just sex surely ....?"
Some will be undoubtedly, but I for one am not really interested in 'just sex' at the moment, friendship is the minimum requirement lol! |
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"I may be tempted if I knew 100% you weren't talking bollocks. I don't generally trust people in here though greatly so I avoid anyone that say's he has permission.
Good idea to put up veris from people who seem to have met the wife.
It is a good idea,it takes a lot for me to trust nowaday's though. I'd still be wondering if it was actually the wife even if I met her.
Dear lord that's a lot of effort to get sex hahahaha
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You'd be surprised what lengths some people will go to! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me it's because I want more than just sex, I want the guy to be completely exclusive to me. "
That makes sense. Even though it's just sex it's a case of having an exclusivity there |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some people just dont want to play with an attached person.. simple as that.. no reason needed nor given. "
everything has a reason. You may not want to give one or admit one but there is always one.
I'm curious to know some of them which most of the women here have supplied |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you discuss what you do with other women, with your partner ?
He does! He even texts her while he's doing it too!
Haha, that in itself would not be to some people's taste!  "
He does ask first! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it's because I want more than just sex, I want the guy to be completely exclusive to me.
That makes sense. Even though it's just sex it's a case of having an exclusivity there "
Plus I'd want to go out and about with the guy, to the cinema or for food or even just walking across the seafront.
The guy may have permission but it might not be common knowledge amongst the couples mutual friends and family. If someone spotted the guy out and about on what looks like a date there could be questions asked that the couple may not want to tell people that they have that sort of relationship.
Plus I like being able to talk/message the guy whenever I want, I like full sleepover meets.
I want him to come to me being eager and with a dribbly exciteable penis because I'm his only supply of sex.
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"Do you discuss what you do with other women, with your partner ?
He does! He even texts her while he's doing it too!
Haha, that in itself would not be to some people's taste!
He does ask first! "
He's obviously being very open and I like that, so no criticism - just not a set up for me. You enjoy!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you discuss what you do with other women, with your partner ?
He does! He even texts her while he's doing it too!
Haha, that in itself would not be to some people's taste!
He does ask first! "
It's not so much him telling his partner what we are doing, it's more the discussing my performance I think I would not want; especially with how jealous women can be. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me it's because I want more than just sex, I want the guy to be completely exclusive to me.
That makes sense. Even though it's just sex it's a case of having an exclusivity there
Plus I'd want to go out and about with the guy, to the cinema or for food or even just walking across the seafront.
The guy may have permission but it might not be common knowledge amongst the couples mutual friends and family. If someone spotted the guy out and about on what looks like a date there could be questions asked that the couple may not want to tell people that they have that sort of relationship.
Plus I like being able to talk/message the guy whenever I want, I like full sleepover meets.
I want him to come to me being eager and with a dribbly exciteable penis because I'm his only supply of sex.
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that dribbling penis may need checking out hahahahahaha best thing I've read today |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you discuss what you do with other women, with your partner ?
He does! He even texts her while he's doing it too!
Haha, that in itself would not be to some people's taste!
He does ask first!
It's not so much him telling his partner what we are doing, it's more the discussing my performance I think I would not want; especially with how jealous women can be. "
I've never had sex that I haven't enjoyed - truthfully.
If I fancy them I wanna get in there.  |
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We won't meet marrieds of either sex for several reasons but the main one is the dishonesty of those playing away. Our profile is 100% us. There's no lies or half truths and people can make up their own minds about us from that and our veris. It's all about choices and honest profiles at least give everybody else the option of what they want to do. |
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"I may be tempted if I knew 100% you weren't talking bollocks. I don't generally trust people in here though greatly so I avoid anyone that say's he has permission.
Good idea to put up veris from people who seem to have met the wife.
It is a good idea,it takes a lot for me to trust nowaday's though. I'd still be wondering if it was actually the wife even if I met her.
Dear lord that's a lot of effort to get sex hahahaha
I have veris from those that have met my wife and even been there whilst I've played with another woman. It's be madness to get a random person to pretend to be my wife "
Well there's a lot of mad people in this place  |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
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"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please "
Why do some people like Strawberry ice cream and other prefer a Cornetto ? Same reason it's just there preference.
Why don't you want to meet guys? after all that's still sex and swinging.
Same thing it's your preference. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please
Why do some people like Strawberry ice cream and other prefer a Cornetto ? Same reason it's just there preference.
Why don't you want to meet guys? after all that's still sex and swinging.
Same thing it's your preference."
no it's because they like the taste. I don't want to meet guys because I'm not gay or bi i.e. I don't get attracted to men....
preference is lazy reason takes thought |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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Well Im not single and meet with my partners knowledge, nobody has ever asked me to provide proof of his approval.
I guess what would put people off is the "availability" factor, ie an attached person will be perceived as having less time to meet. And the inability to accommodate also rules out a lot of people who also can't accommodate for their own reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't play with anyone cheating..so for me to play with someone who is married but has permission I'd want to meet both socially to ensure there's honesty and respect. And that's just a lot of hassle for sex when there's single men. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I used to meet a married man who had his wife's permission.
The difference is, he messaged me from their joint profile, where they both had verifications on show to prove that they both meet separately, I think that makes a big difference, than trusting a single male profile in my opinion. |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
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"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please
Why do some people like Strawberry ice cream and other prefer a Cornetto ? Same reason it's just there preference.
Why don't you want to meet guys? after all that's still sex and swinging.
Same thing it's your preference. no it's because they like the taste. I don't want to meet guys because I'm not gay or bi i.e. I don't get attracted to men....
preference is lazy reason takes thought"
You state your not attracted to men - why ?
The women are not attracted to attached guys- why?
Both the same reason because some Neuron someplace does NOT give out some chemical that triggers an attraction. Simple Same reason some prefer different ice creams it's all to do do with your bodies DNA.
You looking for a reason and the thing is there does not have to be a reason. Some things you cannot explain they just are.
A preference is not lazy it's a preference.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why not attached men?
Firstly for me there's a world of difference between someone genuinely playing with a partners permission and someone straight out cheating.
For me the reasons are:
Cheating isn't sexy.
I don't like spending time with people who aren't genuine and congruent in their behaviour.
Attached guys aren't available at the times I am (evenings and weekends).
Their time is short, meets are often brief, hurried and unsatisfactory. You can feel like you're being squeezed inbetween their kids football lessons and DIY.
They can't accommodate or stay over- which. I like overnight stays on occasion.
Comms are a pain in the arse. They only communicate at certain times. Phone calls are difficult.
You are way down their list of priorities, and people in their mid to late forties have enough other commitments anyway (kids, parents, long standing interests).
There's always the possibility of partner drama.
Anecdotally from fab friends married guys often display jealousy and possessiveness. To a certain extent that's been my experience too when married guys have got past my defences.
But mostly, I just don't want to help someone betray a commitment they made to someone else.
Perhaps that helps you understand OP?
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"Why not attached men?
Firstly for me there's a world of difference between someone genuinely playing with a partners permission and someone straight out cheating.
For me the reasons are:
Cheating isn't sexy.
I don't like spending time with people who aren't genuine and congruent in their behaviour.
Attached guys aren't available at the times I am (evenings and weekends).
Their time is short, meets are often brief, hurried and unsatisfactory. You can feel like you're being squeezed inbetween their kids football lessons and DIY.
They can't accommodate or stay over- which. I like overnight stays on occasion.
Comms are a pain in the arse. They only communicate at certain times. Phone calls are difficult.
You are way down their list of priorities, and people in their mid to late forties have enough other commitments anyway (kids, parents, long standing interests).
There's always the possibility of partner drama.
Anecdotally from fab friends married guys often display jealousy and possessiveness. To a certain extent that's been my experience too when married guys have got past my defences.
But mostly, I just don't want to help someone betray a commitment they made to someone else.
Perhaps that helps you understand OP?
TL"
Great phrase ....'genuine and congruent in their behaviour.' Authentic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you discuss what you do with other women, with your partner ?
He does! He even texts her while he's doing it too!
Haha, that in itself would not be to some people's taste!
He does ask first!
It's not so much him telling his partner what we are doing, it's more the discussing my performance I think I would not want; especially with how jealous women can be. I've never had sex that I haven't enjoyed - truthfully.
If I fancy them I wanna get in there. "
In that case, yes I would. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"they prefer a guy to be single in case they end up falling for the guy
I'm not saying all women on here are like this
but that's my take on it
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I don't know any woman who say this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our main reason for not meeting married guys is that we don't want to be in the firing line when the ones whose OH doesn't know slip up and get found out.
It's also clear there are guys on here lying about playing with permission so rather than mess around clarifying consent we look for single guys. That said if the other half is on here and the profile or profiles clearly show that happy days.
Have we inadvertently met cheats? Probably. But at least if it goes south my conscience is clear.
Plus there are issues around accommodating and availability, and we enjoy the social side and don't want to be sneaking around with someone who's afraid of being spotted.
None of our preference is to do with wanting to feel special or exclusive.
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From our perspective, we dont want to risk the fall out of having a pissed off partner landing on our doorstep screaming the odds.
If men want to mess about its up to them and no matter how discrete someone thinks they are it always bites them in the ass at some point |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Bugger off out & find someone else to fuck then!"
Is not permission to play
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That's practically what my husband said to me. He wasn't very happy when he found out I had. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it's because I want more than just sex, I want the guy to be completely exclusive to me.
That makes sense. Even though it's just sex it's a case of having an exclusivity there
Plus I'd want to go out and about with the guy, to the cinema or for food or even just walking across the seafront.
The guy may have permission but it might not be common knowledge amongst the couples mutual friends and family. If someone spotted the guy out and about on what looks like a date there could be questions asked that the couple may not want to tell people that they have that sort of relationship.
Plus I like being able to talk/message the guy whenever I want, I like full sleepover meets.
I want him to come to me being eager and with a dribbly exciteable penis because I'm his only supply of sex.
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Isn't that basically dating not swinging / casual encounters . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it's because I want more than just sex, I want the guy to be completely exclusive to me.
That makes sense. Even though it's just sex it's a case of having an exclusivity there
Plus I'd want to go out and about with the guy, to the cinema or for food or even just walking across the seafront.
The guy may have permission but it might not be common knowledge amongst the couples mutual friends and family. If someone spotted the guy out and about on what looks like a date there could be questions asked that the couple may not want to tell people that they have that sort of relationship.
Plus I like being able to talk/message the guy whenever I want, I like full sleepover meets.
I want him to come to me being eager and with a dribbly exciteable penis because I'm his only supply of sex.
Isn't that basically dating not swinging / casual encounters . "
I did wonder if that was more for Match |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please
Why do some people like Strawberry ice cream and other prefer a Cornetto ? Same reason it's just there preference.
Why don't you want to meet guys? after all that's still sex and swinging.
Same thing it's your preference. no it's because they like the taste. I don't want to meet guys because I'm not gay or bi i.e. I don't get attracted to men....
preference is lazy reason takes thought
You state your not attracted to men - why ?
The women are not attracted to attached guys- why?
Both the same reason because some Neuron someplace does NOT give out some chemical that triggers an attraction. Simple Same reason some prefer different ice creams it's all to do do with your bodies DNA.
You looking for a reason and the thing is there does not have to be a reason. Some things you cannot explain they just are.
A preference is not lazy it's a preference.
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Ok....
So you are talking about women that fancy men as long as they fit a criteria. I'm saying I don't fancy men full stop. A naked man doesn't get me hard but a naked woman does .
Funny that most have come with their views and reasons on the matter however different so if you feel that way great. I'm happy with the responses. Preferences can be based on previous experience and background. Sometimes they aren't but based on what I've read most are based on factors |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
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"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please
Why do some people like Strawberry ice cream and other prefer a Cornetto ? Same reason it's just there preference.
Why don't you want to meet guys? after all that's still sex and swinging.
Same thing it's your preference. no it's because they like the taste. I don't want to meet guys because I'm not gay or bi i.e. I don't get attracted to men....
preference is lazy reason takes thought
You state your not attracted to men - why ?
The women are not attracted to attached guys- why?
Both the same reason because some Neuron someplace does NOT give out some chemical that triggers an attraction. Simple Same reason some prefer different ice creams it's all to do do with your bodies DNA.
You looking for a reason and the thing is there does not have to be a reason. Some things you cannot explain they just are.
A preference is not lazy it's a preference.
Ok....
So you are talking about women that fancy men as long as they fit a criteria. I'm saying I don't fancy men full stop. A naked man doesn't get me hard but a naked woman does .
Funny that most have come with their views and reasons on the matter however different so if you feel that way great. I'm happy with the responses. Preferences can be based on previous experience and background. Sometimes they aren't but based on what I've read most are based on factors "
You got it.
Guys don't float your boat because they don't turn you on.
Married / attached guys don't turn some women on.
Of course some have other reasons but for others it's how I said it. Attached guys don't turn them on. Simple.
Some women are turned are totally turned off by a big beard. Not matter if everything else fits like body, charm, etc etc the beard will stop play.
Sometimes there is no explanation other than-
'I don't fancy you because you don't turn me on. Why I don't know you just don't '
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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago
button moon |
"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please
You don't need to understand it, it's a preference. There will be many, many reasons why some women won't play with attached men, permissions given or not, and that's just how it is.
Yea I know that as I said before the preference is perhaps because of some reasons ???
Yes
Different reasons, for different women.
Sigh
I take it you are being cheeky here.
I'll say it this way, out of curiosity is like to KNOW some of the reasons "
For me it's not just sex, if I'm meeting 1to 1, I don't want to rush, I like sleepovers, not play then sleep alone. Makes me feel shit. I also don't accommodate, which rules out others who can't. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please
You don't need to understand it, it's a preference. There will be many, many reasons why some women won't play with attached men, permissions given or not, and that's just how it is.
Yea I know that as I said before the preference is perhaps because of some reasons ???
Yes
Different reasons, for different women.
Sigh
I take it you are being cheeky here.
I'll say it this way, out of curiosity is like to KNOW some of the reasons
For me it's not just sex, if I'm meeting 1to 1, I don't want to rush, I like sleepovers, not play then sleep alone. Makes me feel shit. I also don't accommodate, which rules out others who can't. "
Isn't that more like a date ? No hate just saying |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please
You don't need to understand it, it's a preference. There will be many, many reasons why some women won't play with attached men, permissions given or not, and that's just how it is.
Yea I know that as I said before the preference is perhaps because of some reasons ???
Yes
Different reasons, for different women.
Sigh
I take it you are being cheeky here.
I'll say it this way, out of curiosity is like to KNOW some of the reasons
For me it's not just sex, if I'm meeting 1to 1, I don't want to rush, I like sleepovers, not play then sleep alone. Makes me feel shit. I also don't accommodate, which rules out others who can't.
Isn't that more like a date ? No hate just saying "
Sounds like a single girls fwbs to me. I can't imagine many wives would be happy with that |
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In my experience (of the vanilla world) women want to man to be single so they can jump ship from an existing relationship. So many of them are ready to ditch husbands, partners, fathers of their children, it hardly bears thinking about. Especially when one realises that they will be equally ready to ditch you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please
Why do some people like Strawberry ice cream and other prefer a Cornetto ? Same reason it's just there preference.
Why don't you want to meet guys? after all that's still sex and swinging.
Same thing it's your preference. no it's because they like the taste. I don't want to meet guys because I'm not gay or bi i.e. I don't get attracted to men....
preference is lazy reason takes thought
You state your not attracted to men - why ?
The women are not attracted to attached guys- why?
Both the same reason because some Neuron someplace does NOT give out some chemical that triggers an attraction. Simple Same reason some prefer different ice creams it's all to do do with your bodies DNA.
You looking for a reason and the thing is there does not have to be a reason. Some things you cannot explain they just are.
A preference is not lazy it's a preference.
Ok....
So you are talking about women that fancy men as long as they fit a criteria. I'm saying I don't fancy men full stop. A naked man doesn't get me hard but a naked woman does .
Funny that most have come with their views and reasons on the matter however different so if you feel that way great. I'm happy with the responses. Preferences can be based on previous experience and background. Sometimes they aren't but based on what I've read most are based on factors
You got it.
Guys don't float your boat because they don't turn you on.
Married / attached guys don't turn some women on.
Of course some have other reasons but for others it's how I said it. Attached guys don't turn them on. Simple.
Some women are turned are totally turned off by a big beard. Not matter if everything else fits like body, charm, etc etc the beard will stop play.
Sometimes there is no explanation other than-
'I don't fancy you because you don't turn me on. Why I don't know you just don't '
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It isn't that married men turn some women off because they are not attracted to them or turned on by them....the fact they are married is just something that, for moral reasons, stops them wanting to take things any further than attraction. They will not help someone betray another person...often, but not always, because they have been, or know someone that has been cheated on. It is a moral dilemma rather than a sexual preference. I think he just wants to know what causes some to have that particular moral stance.
Some women prefer married men as it means they don't have to worry about him wanting any more than sex. It is not the fact he is married that turns them on though...people turn people on regardless of morality.
A beard IS a preference, size is a preference...preferences are what initially turn us on and off.
Plus I think the OP doesn't get where those reasonings fit in with him as he is not cheating so why should it matter? Apart from the women who wan't more than a married guy, with permission or not, would be able to give them of course. |
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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago
button moon |
"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please
You don't need to understand it, it's a preference. There will be many, many reasons why some women won't play with attached men, permissions given or not, and that's just how it is.
Yea I know that as I said before the preference is perhaps because of some reasons ???
Yes
Different reasons, for different women.
Sigh
I take it you are being cheeky here.
I'll say it this way, out of curiosity is like to KNOW some of the reasons
For me it's not just sex, if I'm meeting 1to 1, I don't want to rush, I like sleepovers, not play then sleep alone. Makes me feel shit. I also don't accommodate, which rules out others who can't.
Isn't that more like a date ? No hate just saying "
Yes, then I go home, to my own little world, still single, just how I like it. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"In my experience (of the vanilla world) women want to man to be single so they can jump ship from an existing relationship. So many of them are ready to ditch husbands, partners, fathers of their children, it hardly bears thinking about. Especially when one realises that they will be equally ready to ditch you."
Oh dear, thats quite sad!! |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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i play with who i like, who suits me and connects with me..i couldn't care less why they are on the scene, its not my place to judge.
i dont want a boyfriend,husband, surrogate father for kids.i do rather well on my own... although i do like repeat meets..exclusivity...no chance
jealousy..not my bag
just saying |
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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago
cheshire |
"Can someone please explain why a lot of women want the men to be single. I have the go ahead to play as a single but sooo many are against it. I know it's "preference " but there are obviously reasons to that mindset.
If it's sex that people want and it's a swinging site what's the problem ?
Just asking some with that stand to speak up and give a better insight into it please "
we have had meets with married guys. And never encounted any problems. Wether it be at a club. Or private meet. We all had a good time. There must be alot of married men at clubs. But say they are single. You wudnt know. So for us. No probs. and at least you are telling all of your situAtion. That carnt be a bad thing. Good luck mate. |
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"they prefer a guy to be single in case they end up falling for the guy
I'm not saying all women on here are like this
but that's my take on it
I don't know any woman who say this "
I certainly take it into account and am happy to admit it - because I am fully open to a relationship and do not want to suppress my emotions with anyone, plus I have seen the hell some of my friends go through after getting into an affair with a married man. From a purely selfish perspective it just seems daft to take the chance, people often fall unexpectedly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a 2 year sexual relationship with a married man. I filled the gap in his life his wife made, when she stopped having sex with him. No chance of me falling for him, and no danger of him leaving his wife for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It only seems a problem organising meets outside of clubs as at a club no one seems to actually care people mind their own business at them thats why "
Suzy you little minx how are you ? Send me a msg ! |
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