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What is your preference everyone personality or looks
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What is everyone's preference here personality or looks I myself go for personality always I don't care if you look like a Greek goddess if your personality is bad I will not go anywhere near.
Looks to me are not important personality is far more important if you have both great if just personality good.
So what is your preferences everyone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here? Looks first cause you tell get their personality from the profile that's been written, then just hope they do have a good personality.
In the real world? Personality wins every time.   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well, as the saying gies, you can't fuck a personality, but in my book, there isn't a physique out there that compensates for a shit personality."
That is the best answer like ever to anything |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"75% personality. 25% looks. Roughly speaking"
Agree with that I went out with a women who's personality was amazing but sadly she moved country she was probably below average looking like myself but her personality was just awesome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Without shadow of doubt good looks, certainly initially at least. Over time personality becomes more important not not without a supporting role of good looks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm attracted to the whole person, that's the only way I can explain it.
Can you explain more into details as I would really like to know !? "
I'm just attracted to the whole person.....see, I tried but that's the only way I can explain it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't have sex with someone who was a prat and either couldn't hold a conversation or just had no personality. I also couldnt have sex with someone I didn't find attractive.
Has to be a mix of everything |
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Combination of both. I have to be physically attracted to someone and I need to like their personality too. Attraction is a personal thing and what I find attractive in looks and personality, others may not.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is everyone's preference here personality or looks I myself go for personality always I don't care if you look like a Greek goddess if your personality is bad I will not go anywhere near.
Looks to me are not important personality is far more important if you have both great if just personality good.
So what is your preferences everyone.
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1st instance is Attraction then personality kicks in after meeting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us, being here is all about fulfilling sexual fantasies ultimately, so we want both. A pretty/handsome face to entice us in, with a personality to keep the sexual energy flowing.
No point in having one and not the other, it's impossible to be turned on enough to enjoy sex if there's that little spark missing that makes everyone click. |
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"It's definitely a mix of everything for me. Fit, flirty and sexually confident. The intelligence to excite my mind and the body to please my eyes.
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Drat
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Looks, I'm not going to be having sex with a personality. This is fantasy and wish fulfilment with no strings attached and while I need to like a person if they aren't attractive to me I'm not going to want to have sex with them
Shallow? Yep! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks, I'm not going to be having sex with a personality. This is fantasy and wish fulfilment with no strings attached and while I need to like a person if they aren't attractive to me I'm not going to want to have sex with them
Shallow? Yep!"
Boom!. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks, I'm not going to be having sex with a personality. This is fantasy and wish fulfilment with no strings attached and while I need to like a person if they aren't attractive to me I'm not going to want to have sex with them
Shallow? Yep!"
There speaks a true and honest person, pity more of us are not like him/her. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't see why I can't have both - I do frequently. If you're an arse, regardless of how physically attractive you are you won't do it for me. And you can be the sweetest person in the world but if you don't get me wet when I look at you it won't be happening.
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"Looks, I'm not going to be having sex with a personality. This is fantasy and wish fulfilment with no strings attached and while I need to like a person if they aren't attractive to me I'm not going to want to have sex with them
Shallow? Yep!
There speaks a true and honest person, pity more of us are not like him/her."
Her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks, I'm not going to be having sex with a personality. This is fantasy and wish fulfilment with no strings attached and while I need to like a person if they aren't attractive to me I'm not going to want to have sex with them
Shallow? Yep!
There speaks a true and honest person, pity more of us are not like him/her.
Her "
More of us should be like you. |
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"Looks, I'm not going to be having sex with a personality. This is fantasy and wish fulfilment with no strings attached and while I need to like a person if they aren't attractive to me I'm not going to want to have sex with them
Shallow? Yep!
There speaks a true and honest person, pity more of us are not like him/her.
Her
More of us should be like you. "
in that respect only...you don't want to be like me in other ways  |
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"A splendid mix of all , "
Same here!
There has to be both a physical and mental attraction. If both aren't there I know from experience that the sex will be mediocre at best - so no point in going forward! Xx |
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I find physical attraction in all sorts of ways. It can be a smile. Twinkle in the eyes. I love faces. But its personality for me.
Obviously there are people i cant see any attraction in.
Looks might pull someone but personality keepa them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You see a profile ,you check the pics .
if the 'person ' can't hold a conversation ,then they ain't for me . .
talk for England I can . 
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Awesome how does England take very curious as its a country and I never knew country's talk. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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Looks are the thing that make me interested enough to want to meet someone in the first place. If they are as dull as dish water it wouldn't go any further than a social!
If I was looking for a relationship I wouldn't be so bothered, unless they were a total ming. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personality for me but I think personality is reflected in a person's looks. You can tell a lot about someone from the lines on their face and the way they smile or express other things.
The more I get to know someone I genuinely like, the more attractive they become... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All those that say personality are full of shit lol old fashioned good looks always beats personality and it helps if there is a sense of humour and I know this as I've tons of personality and have done the whole yes I like your personality send us a pic oh sorry not for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks are the thing that make me interested enough to want to meet someone in the first place. If they are as dull as dish water it wouldn't go any further than a social!
If I was looking for a relationship I wouldn't be so bothered, unless they were a total ming. "
I like this thread, the utter honesty is refreshing, what a pity it won't filter throughout the Forum because I'm sure it would be a happy more inclusive place if it did. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"Looks are the thing that make me interested enough to want to meet someone in the first place. If they are as dull as dish water it wouldn't go any further than a social!
If I was looking for a relationship I wouldn't be so bothered, unless they were a total ming.
I like this thread, the utter honesty is refreshing, what a pity it won't filter throughout the Forum because I'm sure it would be a happy more inclusive place if it did. "
I'm not one to fluff things up, well, on occasion maybe  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us personality is the starting off point. We like the social side of things as much as playing. So if we don't get on socially and can talk easily, there's no point how physically attractive you may be. We have friends on here who we don't plan on playing with but they are great people to spend time with socially. |
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"I am not sure I believe the guys saying personality first. "
Why ever not?
Many of us are not after a quick shag. If I'm going to be spending time exploring mutual pleasures with someone (or some people) it really helps if we get on. Personality goes further than looks in that regard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looks are the thing that make me interested enough to want to meet someone in the first place. If they are as dull as dish water it wouldn't go any further than a social!
If I was looking for a relationship I wouldn't be so bothered, unless they were a total ming.
I like this thread, the utter honesty is refreshing, what a pity it won't filter throughout the Forum because I'm sure it would be a happy more inclusive place if it did.
I'm not one to fluff things up, well, on occasion maybe "
You can fluff me anytime you'd like! It does mean what I think it means, doesn't it? |
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"I am not sure I believe the guys saying personality first.
Why ever not?
Many of us are not after a quick shag. If I'm going to be spending time exploring mutual pleasures with someone (or some people) it really helps if we get on. Personality goes further than looks in that regard."
Because men in general will go for looks first, you don't see many gorgeous men with really unattractive women who have fantastic personalities. |
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"I am not sure I believe the guys saying personality first.
Why ever not?
Many of us are not after a quick shag. If I'm going to be spending time exploring mutual pleasures with someone (or some people) it really helps if we get on. Personality goes further than looks in that regard.
Because men in general will go for looks first, you don't see many gorgeous men with really unattractive women who have fantastic personalities."
Not just men! How many threads do we see from guys complaining about "BBW" who will only meet Adonis himself?! |
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"What is everyone's preference here personality or looks I myself go for personality always I don't care if you look like a Greek goddess if your personality is bad I will not go anywhere near.
Looks to me are not important personality is far more important if you have both great if just personality good.
So what is your preferences everyone.
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I struggle to understand people who claim to go for personality as it's not visible. The first thing we notice is someone's looks. After the initial "first contact" you hone in on specifics...hair, clothes etc.
The personality doesn't come across until you engage with them so how can you be attracted to what's not there? |
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"When you unattractive like me and must rely on personality.. But no one wants to meet you because you so unattractive.. How will people get know the real you. Can't judge a person just on looks "
Have something of your personality in your profile and photos....go to clubs and socials, get yourself out there and meet people. If you feel your personality is your most attractive asset then flaunt it by talking to the people you find attractive.
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"When you unattractive like me and must rely on personality.. But no one wants to meet you because you so unattractive.. How will people get know the real you. Can't judge a person just on looks
Have something of your personality in your profile and photos....go to clubs and socials, get yourself out there and meet people. If you feel your personality is your most attractive asset then flaunt it by talking to the people you find attractive.
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I have been to the attic a few times even though I enjoyed the experience.. Its more or less impossible to meet people there because most are in pairs or groups and never seemed to feel. Welcome to join in. Like a private club that you need to be invited to. |
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"For a hook looks, for anything long term a good personality is key."
Exactly!
Looks will get the attention, but if there's no personality good looks count for jack. Hence waiting for someone to explain how they meet these personalities. |
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"You see a profile ,you check the pics .
if the 'person ' can't hold a conversation ,then they ain't for me . .
talk for England I can .
Awesome how does England take very curious as its a country and I never knew country's talk. "
tis just a phrase .
means I can waffle with the best of them ,till they learn how to shut me up |
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"For a hook looks, for anything long term a good personality is key.
Exactly!
Looks will get the attention, but if there's no personality good looks count for jack. Hence waiting for someone to explain how the meet these personalities. "
You can get a good idea of someone's personality if you get messaging on Fab or off-site. Then meet for a social.
Or just get chatting at a club. I chat with all sorts of people at clubs, some I am attracted to and some not and the same goes for them and myself. |
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"I'm attracted to the whole person, that's the only way I can explain it.
Can you explain more into details as I would really like to know !?
I'm just attracted to the whole person.....see, I tried but that's the only way I can explain it. "
I agree. You view people holistically. I don't break them down into components either and nor do I over analyse. If I am attracted to someone be it as good company or for sex I don't need to know the finer points of why. It's just good to be with them in the moment. |
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"Anyone who says looks are not important is deluded.
Or liars..."
I don't think anyone is saying looks are unimportant but for some people personality is at least as important.
There seem to be quite a few of us who have an initial attraction based on looks but who find personality ultimately decides how good a time is had with a person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of people are fibbing lol you cant tell personality from behind a keyboard only in person chatting one to one but in order to get to that stage you need to find them attractive enough to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its got to be Personality as you dont want to feel like your having sex with a brick wall on either sence. Usualy when you get on mentally it makes physical stimulation grander for the partys involved. Yes you may have sex with an incredibly attractive person but if they cannot keep a conversation and or generally comprehensive it doesnt do it for me and personally I think thats abit wrong and possibly using them. |
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"For a hook looks, for anything long term a good personality is key.
Exactly!
Looks will get the attention, but if there's no personality good looks count for jack. Hence waiting for someone to explain how the meet these personalities. "
ok. I will try and explain it from my point of view. If a guy messages me on here hes already interacted with me with the first message. If i dont like the message i wont even look at what they look like.
If im messaging first i only message good profiles it gives me a feel of someone.
If i see someone on a night out they would be attractive to me because of mannerisms or something their doing. Obviously i can see some people are physically good looking but thats fleeting and lasts seconds. We all interact and our personalities start to come through in different ways it doesnt have to be verbal.
Well thats it from my perspective |
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Looks don't mean anything you can see someone's photos and think wow he/she is stunning and meet up and they can be a terrible person and rude. But no matter what.. Looks is what we first see. And if it's not pleasing to the eye.. Then they pass that's why some of us get nowhere because we may have the personality but that don't make a difference if you being passed because your face or body is not pleasing to others. |
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"Lots of people are fibbing lol you cant tell personality from behind a keyboard only in person chatting one to one but in order to get to that stage you need to find them attractive enough to meet"
I respectfully disagree. Of course you can tell someone's personality from behind a keyboard as long as they are being honest.
I met my wife of 19 years online, precisely because we were both honest about who we are when we got chatting 20 years ago. I've got to know plenty of people online and later met them in real life...to find they are the person I know from the screen/keyboard.
You can also go to clubs and socials, to get to know people specifically in the swinging scene.....if you otherwise assume that we're all liars. |
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"For a hook looks, for anything long term a good personality is key.
Exactly!
Looks will get the attention, but if there's no personality good looks count for jack. Hence waiting for someone to explain how the meet these personalities. ok. I will try and explain it from my point of view. If a guy messages me on here hes already interacted with me with the first message. If i dont like the message i wont even look at what they look like.
If im messaging first i only message good profiles it gives me a feel of someone.
If i see someone on a night out they would be attractive to me because of mannerisms or something their doing. Obviously i can see some people are physically good looking but thats fleeting and lasts seconds. We all interact and our personalities start to come through in different ways it doesnt have to be verbal.
Well thats it from my perspective"
This sums up my feelings too. My eyes are just as much attracted by mannerisms and a nice smile as they are by someone's body. But it will be in chatting to them that I know how much I want to spend private time with them. |
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"Lots of people are fibbing lol you cant tell personality from behind a keyboard only in person chatting one to one but in order to get to that stage you need to find them attractive enough to meet
I respectfully disagree. Of course you can tell someone's personality from behind a keyboard as long as they are being honest.
I met my wife of 19 years online, precisely because we were both honest about who we are when we got chatting 20 years ago. I've got to know plenty of people online and later met them in real life...to find they are the person I know from the screen/keyboard.
You can also go to clubs and socials, to get to know people specifically in the swinging scene.....if you otherwise assume that we're all liars. "
not saying they're liars bit sometimes people don't quite translate well from A keyboard |
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" not saying they're liars bit sometimes people don't quite translate well from A keyboard "
This is true, some people don't have a way with words, or might by dyslexic and dislike writing long messages. That's where socials and clubs come into their own. While I have found myself in bed with someone at a club after exchanging just a few words, usually I find I get chatting for a while first and the tension builds until we decide we both *need* to go to a play room. That's where the personalities have clicked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both.
I mean there's hardly a shortage of human beings, decent people are common, good looking people are common, decent people who are good looking are common
Although if it's a 1 night stand or a hook up not like you're going to have time to find out Thier personality anyway, you just see the public face
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For a fuck - looks
For more than a fuck (FWBs etc) - good mix of both so what attracted u to me lol
Your arse "
and there I was thinking it was the way I pumped my cock into you lol |
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"For a fuck - looks
For more than a fuck (FWBs etc) - good mix of both so what attracted u to me lol
Your arse and there I was thinking it was the way I pumped my cock into you lol"
Could really estimate what that would be like till after I met you
Do the arse pic won |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For a fuck - looks
For more than a fuck (FWBs etc) - good mix of both so what attracted u to me lol
Your arse and there I was thinking it was the way I pumped my cock into you lol
Could really estimate what that would be like till after I met you
Do the arse pic won "
well your Basque pics did it for me and fact you weren't up your own arse when we met sealed the deal x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone always says personality so as not to look shallow but looks do come into it too...
So a mix of both for me please "
I couldn't agree more with you!
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"For a fuck - looks
For more than a fuck (FWBs etc) - good mix of both so what attracted u to me lol
Your arse and there I was thinking it was the way I pumped my cock into you lol
Could really estimate what that would be like till after I met you
Do the arse pic won well your Basque pics did it for me and fact you weren't up your own arse when we met sealed the deal x"
Did you expect me to be? 
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By (user no longer on site)
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Looks at first on here as it's the first thing you see and let's be honest you gave to be sexually attracted to someone first .... and personality is tea big one cos some people are utterly stunning but utter dicks in person so ....
A good mix of both |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The chance to get your personality across on here is next to impossible in my opinion – particularly being a younger, single male. Let's be honest, looks are imperative for most on here and the amount of messages from males that get deleted (talking from experience and comments from others), only proves that point (again, in my opinion).
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For a fuck - looks
For more than a fuck (FWBs etc) - good mix of both so what attracted u to me lol
Your arse and there I was thinking it was the way I pumped my cock into you lol
Could really estimate what that would be like till after I met you
Do the arse pic won well your Basque pics did it for me and fact you weren't up your own arse when we met sealed the deal x
Did you expect me to be?
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nope but so.e I've met or talked to this k they're gods gift lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am not sure I believe the guys saying personality first. "
It can happen. My last meet says it was my personality he was attracted to at first. Knowing him, I'm inclined to believe him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Actually, there is one kind of personality trait that would mitigate a lack of physical attraction... Complete submission, compliance and subservience. It would only go so far but I'd lower my physical criteria for a total slave I could own  |
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