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"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem."  | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem." Absolutely. | |||
"Sometimes couples become too content and end up more friends but still in love it's not uncommon IMO. " I agree with this. Plus if there are children involved it can be tiring if they don't get help from family, so they can get a weekend away or whatever. Could be loads of reasons but they would still love each other | |||
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"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem." I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? | |||
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"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? " For some, they know they can get sex elsewhere but you can't get love that easily. | |||
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"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? " id agree but everyone's different,,i really cant be judging on this matter tbh,,not been there | |||
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"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? " to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true." only to breed,,,are you really bein serious  | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true." They have children and he has had a vasectomy. | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. only to breed,,,are you really bein serious "i'm ti_ed and trying to conserve energy here. you know what i mean by that. if fertile people don't want kids/more kids they can go off having sex. | |||
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"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. They have children and he has had a vasectomy. " well ignore my fertile people thing then. and there you have it...kids. some people can't have a lot of sex when they have them. well you can but some people don't like to. she might even not want sex coz he can't fertilise her and doesn't see the point? honestly, all kinds of things can put people off sex. it's not always an issue and doesn't mean there's no love. if he says he doesn't feel loved then there's a problem. and if either of them wants more sex then there's a problem. biggest problem if neither of them sort each it out between themselves. | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. only to breed,,,are you really bein serious
i'm ti_ed and trying to conserve energy here. you know what i mean by that. if fertile people don't want kids/more kids they can go off having sex."eh no I don't understand that in any shape or form,,lots of people fuck like rabbits with no intention or thought of ever having children. SEX has never ever been about breeding,,lol,,for me | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. only to breed,,,are you really bein serious
i'm ti_ed and trying to conserve energy here. you know what i mean by that. if fertile people don't want kids/more kids they can go off having sex.
eh no I don't understand that in any shape or form,,lots of people fuck like rabbits with no intention or thought of ever having children.
SEX has never ever been about breeding,,lol,,for me"i know, i'm not catholic or anything but psychologically and physiologically there are some fundamental ideas about why we fuck and why our bodies and brains act around everything to do with sex. doesn't even make sense i'm making excuses though coz it could be anything really. you'd have to ask the people involved why they don't wanna fuck each other. | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. They have children and he has had a vasectomy. well ignore my fertile people thing then. and there you have it...kids. some people can't have a lot of sex when they have them. well you can but some people don't like to. she might even not want sex coz he can't fertilise her and doesn't see the point? honestly, all kinds of things can put people off sex. it's not always an issue and doesn't mean there's no love. if he says he doesn't feel loved then there's a problem. and if either of them wants more sex then there's a problem. biggest problem if neither of them sort each it out between themselves." He wants sex frequently, the female doesn't. I also get the feeling that she is pretty vanilla and he isn't so it's just straightforward sex which doesn't really satisfy him because he needs 'other' things and some more variety. He seems to be dis-satisfied that she only wants sex once or so a month when he is home, but doesn't want to push the issue and just accepts it. | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. They have children and he has had a vasectomy. well ignore my fertile people thing then. and there you have it...kids. some people can't have a lot of sex when they have them. well you can but some people don't like to. she might even not want sex coz he can't fertilise her and doesn't see the point? honestly, all kinds of things can put people off sex. it's not always an issue and doesn't mean there's no love. if he says he doesn't feel loved then there's a problem. and if either of them wants more sex then there's a problem. biggest problem if neither of them sort each it out between themselves. He wants sex frequently, the female doesn't. I also get the feeling that she is pretty vanilla and he isn't so it's just straightforward sex which doesn't really satisfy him because he needs 'other' things and some more variety. He seems to be dis-satisfied that she only wants sex once or so a month when he is home, but doesn't want to push the issue and just accepts it." And he's confiding in you? That's an issue in itself. | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. if he says he doesn't feel loved then there's a problem. and if either of them wants more sex then there's a problem. biggest problem if neither of them sort each it out between themselves. He wants sex frequently, the female doesn't. I also get the feeling that she is pretty vanilla and he isn't so it's just straightforward sex which doesn't really satisfy him because he needs 'other' things and some more variety. He seems to be dis-satisfied that she only wants sex once or so a month when he is home, but doesn't want to push the issue and just accepts it." that's a shame. it's good that he's not pushy and doesn't resent her for it. has he not brought it up at all? she might want more sex but thinks he doesn't or not sure how to approach him any more as it's so infrequent now. ignore all the excuses i gave earlier as well, like i said i'm ti_ed and my brain is in automatic overdrive lol. | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. only to breed,,,are you really bein serious
i'm ti_ed and trying to conserve energy here. you know what i mean by that. if fertile people don't want kids/more kids they can go off having sex.
eh no I don't understand that in any shape or form,,lots of people fuck like rabbits with no intention or thought of ever having children.
SEX has never ever been about breeding,,lol,,for me
i know, i'm not catholic or anything but psychologically and physiologically there are some fundamental ideas about why we fuck and why our bodies and brains act around everything to do with sex.
doesn't even make sense i'm making excuses though coz it could be anything really. you'd have to ask the people involved why they don't wanna fuck each other."lol,,its cool,,hey each to their own,,no one can judge | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. if he says he doesn't feel loved then there's a problem. and if either of them wants more sex then there's a problem. biggest problem if neither of them sort each it out between themselves. He wants sex frequently, the female doesn't. I also get the feeling that she is pretty vanilla and he isn't so it's just straightforward sex which doesn't really satisfy him because he needs 'other' things and some more variety. He seems to be dis-satisfied that she only wants sex once or so a month when he is home, but doesn't want to push the issue and just accepts it. that's a shame. it's good that he's not pushy and doesn't resent her for it. has he not brought it up at all? she might want more sex but thinks he doesn't or not sure how to approach him any more as it's so infrequent now. ignore all the excuses i gave earlier as well, like i said i'm ti_ed and my brain is in automatic overdrive lol." I think that he has tried to communicate with her about it and she refuses to discuss it, Just simply says "I don't need/want it" I also find it very strange that they appear not to have any sexual intimacy or variety, for example, she will rarely do oral (on him) because "she doesn't like it"?? So I think that on the rare occasion that they do get intimate, it's just boring, straightforward sex with no 'play' included. | |||
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"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. only to breed,,,are you really bein serious
i'm ti_ed and trying to conserve energy here. you know what i mean by that. if fertile people don't want kids/more kids they can go off having sex.
eh no I don't understand that in any shape or form,,lots of people fuck like rabbits with no intention or thought of ever having children.
SEX has never ever been about breeding,,lol,,for me
i know, i'm not catholic or anything but psychologically and physiologically there are some fundamental ideas about why we fuck and why our bodies and brains act around everything to do with sex.
doesn't even make sense i'm making excuses though coz it could be anything really. you'd have to ask the people involved why they don't wanna fuck each other.
lol,,its cool,,hey each to their own,,no one can judge"So I'll take it your not planning on getting pregnant at the moment Mikki | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. if he says he doesn't feel loved then there's a problem. and if either of them wants more sex then there's a problem. biggest problem if neither of them sort each it out between themselves. He wants sex frequently, the female doesn't. I also get the feeling that she is pretty vanilla and he isn't so it's just straightforward sex which doesn't really satisfy him because he needs 'other' things and some more variety. He seems to be dis-satisfied that she only wants sex once or so a month when he is home, but doesn't want to push the issue and just accepts it. that's a shame. it's good that he's not pushy and doesn't resent her for it. has he not brought it up at all? she might want more sex but thinks he doesn't or not sure how to approach him any more as it's so infrequent now. ignore all the excuses i gave earlier as well, like i said i'm ti_ed and my brain is in automatic overdrive lol. I think that he has tried to communicate with her about it and she refuses to discuss it, Just simply says "I don't need/want it" I also find it very strange that they appear not to have any sexual intimacy or variety, for example, she will rarely do oral (on him) because "she doesn't like it"?? So I think that on the rare occasion that they do get intimate, it's just boring, straightforward sex with no 'play' included. " I'll refer you back to my first post thumb) | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. only to breed,,,are you really bein serious
i'm ti_ed and trying to conserve energy here. you know what i mean by that. if fertile people don't want kids/more kids they can go off having sex.
eh no I don't understand that in any shape or form,,lots of people fuck like rabbits with no intention or thought of ever having children.
SEX has never ever been about breeding,,lol,,for me
i know, i'm not catholic or anything but psychologically and physiologically there are some fundamental ideas about why we fuck and why our bodies and brains act around everything to do with sex.
doesn't even make sense i'm making excuses though coz it could be anything really. you'd have to ask the people involved why they don't wanna fuck each other.
lol,,its cool,,hey each to their own,,no one can judge
So I'll take it your not planning on getting pregnant at the moment Mikki "lol,,nooooooooooooo fucking way,,and ruin this figure,,are ya mental  | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. only to breed,,,are you really bein serious
i'm ti_ed and trying to conserve energy here. you know what i mean by that. if fertile people don't want kids/more kids they can go off having sex.
eh no I don't understand that in any shape or form,,lots of people fuck like rabbits with no intention or thought of ever having children.
SEX has never ever been about breeding,,lol,,for me
i know, i'm not catholic or anything but psychologically and physiologically there are some fundamental ideas about why we fuck and why our bodies and brains act around everything to do with sex.
doesn't even make sense i'm making excuses though coz it could be anything really. you'd have to ask the people involved why they don't wanna fuck each other.
lol,,its cool,,hey each to their own,,no one can judge
So I'll take it your not planning on getting pregnant at the moment Mikki "Was the pregnancy question aimed at me??!!! Lol | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. only to breed,,,are you really bein serious
i'm ti_ed and trying to conserve energy here. you know what i mean by that. if fertile people don't want kids/more kids they can go off having sex.
eh no I don't understand that in any shape or form,,lots of people fuck like rabbits with no intention or thought of ever having children.
SEX has never ever been about breeding,,lol,,for me
i know, i'm not catholic or anything but psychologically and physiologically there are some fundamental ideas about why we fuck and why our bodies and brains act around everything to do with sex.
doesn't even make sense i'm making excuses though coz it could be anything really. you'd have to ask the people involved why they don't wanna fuck each other.
lol,,its cool,,hey each to their own,,no one can judge
So I'll take it your not planning on getting pregnant at the moment Mikki
Was the pregnancy question aimed at me??!!! Lol"no,,im MIKKI,,,,not you  I'm a size10 and intend staying that way | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. if he says he doesn't feel loved then there's a problem. and if either of them wants more sex then there's a problem. biggest problem if neither of them sort each it out between themselves. He wants sex frequently, the female doesn't. I also get the feeling that she is pretty vanilla and he isn't so it's just straightforward sex which doesn't really satisfy him because he needs 'other' things and some more variety. He seems to be dis-satisfied that she only wants sex once or so a month when he is home, but doesn't want to push the issue and just accepts it. that's a shame. it's good that he's not pushy and doesn't resent her for it. has he not brought it up at all? she might want more sex but thinks he doesn't or not sure how to approach him any more as it's so infrequent now. ignore all the excuses i gave earlier as well, like i said i'm ti_ed and my brain is in automatic overdrive lol. I think that he has tried to communicate with her about it and she refuses to discuss it, Just simply says "I don't need/want it" I also find it very strange that they appear not to have any sexual intimacy or variety, for example, she will rarely do oral (on him) because "she doesn't like it"?? So I think that on the rare occasion that they do get intimate, it's just boring, straightforward sex with no 'play' included. " is he uses these as excuses to use other women for sex? tbh i'm not into cheating, heard loads of excuses why people do it, seen the hurt it can cause, felt it myself, feel only immature people do it, they always have an excuse for it, they never have a good enough excuse though just some shit one that shows how incompetent they are at caring about someone other than themselves...i'm the worst person to validate anyones reason for cheating if you;re looking for that? but i was interested in love and what you asked of that. and i believe love is not hurting someone else, it's putting someone else before yourself when able to. and if you can hurt people you claim to love then you're not a good prospect. | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. only to breed,,,are you really bein serious
i'm ti_ed and trying to conserve energy here. you know what i mean by that. if fertile people don't want kids/more kids they can go off having sex.
eh no I don't understand that in any shape or form,,lots of people fuck like rabbits with no intention or thought of ever having children.
SEX has never ever been about breeding,,lol,,for me
i know, i'm not catholic or anything but psychologically and physiologically there are some fundamental ideas about why we fuck and why our bodies and brains act around everything to do with sex.
doesn't even make sense i'm making excuses though coz it could be anything really. you'd have to ask the people involved why they don't wanna fuck each other.
lol,,its cool,,hey each to their own,,no one can judge
So I'll take it your not planning on getting pregnant at the moment Mikki
Was the pregnancy question aimed at me??!!! Lol
no,,im MIKKI,,,,not you I'm a size10 and intend staying that way "Good for you....i am curvy and ok with that. Overall happy with my body given my age and a child. I intend to stay this way as well and definitely no children, too old and I am unable to anyway! | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. if he says he doesn't feel loved then there's a problem. and if either of them wants more sex then there's a problem. biggest problem if neither of them sort each it out between themselves. He wants sex frequently, the female doesn't. I also get the feeling that she is pretty vanilla and he isn't so it's just straightforward sex which doesn't really satisfy him because he needs 'other' things and some more variety. He seems to be dis-satisfied that she only wants sex once or so a month when he is home, but doesn't want to push the issue and just accepts it. that's a shame. it's good that he's not pushy and doesn't resent her for it. has he not brought it up at all? she might want more sex but thinks he doesn't or not sure how to approach him any more as it's so infrequent now. ignore all the excuses i gave earlier as well, like i said i'm ti_ed and my brain is in automatic overdrive lol. I think that he has tried to communicate with her about it and she refuses to discuss it, Just simply says "I don't need/want it" I also find it very strange that they appear not to have any sexual intimacy or variety, for example, she will rarely do oral (on him) because "she doesn't like it"?? So I think that on the rare occasion that they do get intimate, it's just boring, straightforward sex with no 'play' included. is he uses these as excuses to use other women for sex? tbh i'm not into cheating, heard loads of excuses why people do it, seen the hurt it can cause, felt it myself, feel only immature people do it, they always have an excuse for it, they never have a good enough excuse though just some shit one that shows how incompetent they are at caring about someone other than themselves...i'm the worst person to validate anyones reason for cheating if you;re looking for that? but i was interested in love and what you asked of that. and i believe love is not hurting someone else, it's putting someone else before yourself when able to. and if you can hurt people you claim to love then you're not a good prospect." Totally and absolutely agree 100% with the last sentence 3some | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. if he says he doesn't feel loved then there's a problem. and if either of them wants more sex then there's a problem. biggest problem if neither of them sort each it out between themselves. He wants sex frequently, the female doesn't. I also get the feeling that she is pretty vanilla and he isn't so it's just straightforward sex which doesn't really satisfy him because he needs 'other' things and some more variety. He seems to be dis-satisfied that she only wants sex once or so a month when he is home, but doesn't want to push the issue and just accepts it. that's a shame. it's good that he's not pushy and doesn't resent her for it. has he not brought it up at all? she might want more sex but thinks he doesn't or not sure how to approach him any more as it's so infrequent now. ignore all the excuses i gave earlier as well, like i said i'm ti_ed and my brain is in automatic overdrive lol. I think that he has tried to communicate with her about it and she refuses to discuss it, Just simply says "I don't need/want it" I also find it very strange that they appear not to have any sexual intimacy or variety, for example, she will rarely do oral (on him) because "she doesn't like it"?? So I think that on the rare occasion that they do get intimate, it's just boring, straightforward sex with no 'play' included. is he uses these as excuses to use other women for sex? tbh i'm not into cheating, heard loads of excuses why people do it, seen the hurt it can cause, felt it myself, feel only immature people do it, they always have an excuse for it, they never have a good enough excuse though just some shit one that shows how incompetent they are at caring about someone other than themselves...i'm the worst person to validate anyones reason for cheating if you;re looking for that? but i was interested in love and what you asked of that. and i believe love is not hurting someone else, it's putting someone else before yourself when able to. and if you can hurt people you claim to love then you're not a good prospect. Totally and absolutely agree 100% with the last sentence 3some "good luck with it all anyway. | |||
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"OP I assume the male is cheating with said wife with you and justifying the reason? Now you are trying to justify it ? That's how it's come across to me. Do you challenge him when he tells you he tries to talk about it but she won't by saying what type of talking is this? Why not face up to her and say we either talk about it or I'm leaving? How is he showing her that this is serious stuff??? I ask that of a lot of cheaters I come across..How much love is there if you can't face the person and say "I'm struggling, in unhappy, I'm having urges to cheat, we need to sort this somehow".. Why does loving someone only have to happen when you are tied together by a paper or label? Why can't you have respect for the person, seperate, and still love them? Divorcing amicably and staying loving friends is not impossible!! It's all down to the unhappy party to really bring the issue to the forefront and DEAL with it! " No I am not with him, nor have we really ever been. We talk/chat a lot and have met on previous occasions, but don't anymore for a variety of reasons. It's very complicated. He says that they are "in love" and kiss and cuddle regularly, but she doesn't want sex which he is dis-satisfied with. On the occasion that he has tried to talk she merely says "I don't want it" and that is it. He also says that he would never leave because apart from the sex, they are happy. He has cheated with many people (some from fab, but other sites as well) over a period of 4 years before i even met him. | |||
"OP I assume the male is cheating with said wife with you and justifying the reason? Now you are trying to justify it ? That's how it's come across to me. Do you challenge him when he tells you he tries to talk about it but she won't by saying what type of talking is this? Why not face up to her and say we either talk about it or I'm leaving? How is he showing her that this is serious stuff??? I ask that of a lot of cheaters I come across..How much love is there if you can't face the person and say "I'm struggling, in unhappy, I'm having urges to cheat, we need to sort this somehow".. Why does loving someone only have to happen when you are tied together by a paper or label? Why can't you have respect for the person, seperate, and still love them? Divorcing amicably and staying loving friends is not impossible!! It's all down to the unhappy party to really bring the issue to the forefront and DEAL with it! No I am not with him, nor have we really ever been. We talk/chat a lot and have met on previous occasions, but don't anymore for a variety of reasons. It's very complicated. He says that they are "in love" and kiss and cuddle regularly, but she doesn't want sex which he is dis-satisfied with. On the occasion that he has tried to talk she merely says "I don't want it" and that is it. He also says that he would never leave because apart from the sex, they are happy. He has cheated with many people (some from fab, but other sites as well) over a period of 4 years before i even met him. " A couple of months a go I caught out a cheater- unfortunately on this occasion we had fucked a few times before I worked it out! The bastard had the audacity to bring me into their home while she popped to the gym- I found his partner and outed him to her. Over coffee, I asked her "how's your sex life?" She said it was not good and barely exists however HE doesn't want it. She has tried to talk to him about it and he says "I just don't want it", she said she has to beg for it and is lucky to get it once a month. Meanwhile he was on fab fucking left right and center. Point is, take what he says with a pinch of salt.. Cheaters are crafty. | |||
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"OP I assume the male is cheating with said wife with you and justifying the reason? Now you are trying to justify it ? That's how it's come across to me. Do you challenge him when he tells you he tries to talk about it but she won't by saying what type of talking is this? Why not face up to her and say we either talk about it or I'm leaving? How is he showing her that this is serious stuff??? I ask that of a lot of cheaters I come across..How much love is there if you can't face the person and say "I'm struggling, in unhappy, I'm having urges to cheat, we need to sort this somehow".. Why does loving someone only have to happen when you are tied together by a paper or label? Why can't you have respect for the person, seperate, and still love them? Divorcing amicably and staying loving friends is not impossible!! It's all down to the unhappy party to really bring the issue to the forefront and DEAL with it! No I am not with him, nor have we really ever been. We talk/chat a lot and have met on previous occasions, but don't anymore for a variety of reasons. It's very complicated. He says that they are "in love" and kiss and cuddle regularly, but she doesn't want sex which he is dis-satisfied with. On the occasion that he has tried to talk she merely says "I don't want it" and that is it. He also says that he would never leave because apart from the sex, they are happy. He has cheated with many people (some from fab, but other sites as well) over a period of 4 years before i even met him. A couple of months a go I caught out a cheater- unfortunately on this occasion we had fucked a few times before I worked it out! The bastard had the audacity to bring me into their home while she popped to the gym- I found his partner and outed him to her. Over coffee, I asked her "how's your sex life?" She said it was not good and barely exists however HE doesn't want it. She has tried to talk to him about it and he says "I just don't want it", she said she has to beg for it and is lucky to get it once a month. Meanwhile he was on fab fucking left right and center. Point is, take what he says with a pinch of salt.. Cheaters are crafty. " Sorry but how did you end up drinking coffee with her? | |||
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"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem." Strongly agree! | |||
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"Sometimes couples become too content and end up more friends but still in love it's not uncommon IMO. I agree with this. Plus if there are children involved it can be tiring if they don't get help from family, so they can get a weekend away or whatever. Could be loads of reasons but they would still love each other "RESPECT... children should be paramount in such relationship especially if they're under 16. They look to their parents to provide stability and certainty in their lives. The sex can always be outsourced to a 3rd party . | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? to you, and others, maybe for but intimacy and affection come in many other forms without a need for sex also. i've been in mostly highly sexual relationships, it's ideal as i love sex. but i've also been in a one relationship where we hardly had sex and i felt loved also without any problems. desire is only needed to objectify a person. this is one of the reasons why sex often does peter out in relationships as they objectify each other less and get to know each other as a person and different types of intimacy creep in. sex is really only needed to breed also, it's the main reason why we have urges for sex. if they don't want any kids or any more kids they've no need for sex either. i know that sounds a bit basic but sometimes it's true. They have children and he has had a vasectomy. well ignore my fertile people thing then. and there you have it...kids. some people can't have a lot of sex when they have them. well you can but some people don't like to. she might even not want sex coz he can't fertilise her and doesn't see the point? honestly, all kinds of things can put people off sex. it's not always an issue and doesn't mean there's no love. if he says he doesn't feel loved then there's a problem. and if either of them wants more sex then there's a problem. biggest problem if neither of them sort each it out between themselves. He wants sex frequently, the female doesn't. I also get the feeling that she is pretty vanilla and he isn't so it's just straightforward sex which doesn't really satisfy him because he needs 'other' things and some more variety. He seems to be dis-satisfied that she only wants sex once or so a month when he is home, but doesn't want to push the issue and just accepts it." Maybe it's time for the sex to be outsourced to a 3rd party??  | |||
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"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem."
I'd love a sexless relationship. Sex causes far too many resentments and issues.
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"OP I assume the male is cheating with said wife with you and justifying the reason? Now you are trying to justify it ? That's how it's come across to me. Do you challenge him when he tells you he tries to talk about it but she won't by saying what type of talking is this? Why not face up to her and say we either talk about it or I'm leaving? How is he showing her that this is serious stuff??? I ask that of a lot of cheaters I come across..How much love is there if you can't face the person and say "I'm struggling, in unhappy, I'm having urges to cheat, we need to sort this somehow".. Why does loving someone only have to happen when you are tied together by a paper or label? Why can't you have respect for the person, seperate, and still love them? Divorcing amicably and staying loving friends is not impossible!! It's all down to the unhappy party to really bring the issue to the forefront and DEAL with it! No I am not with him, nor have we really ever been. We talk/chat a lot and have met on previous occasions, but don't anymore for a variety of reasons. It's very complicated. He says that they are "in love" and kiss and cuddle regularly, but she doesn't want sex which he is dis-satisfied with. On the occasion that he has tried to talk she merely says "I don't want it" and that is it. He also says that he would never leave because apart from the sex, they are happy. He has cheated with many people (some from fab, but other sites as well) over a period of 4 years before i even met him. " Sounds to work fine for them both. No need to fix anything. | |||
"Is this is the same man you've started posts on before? There are usually three sides to a story, in this case his side, her side and the truth. He's an habitual cheater so will say what he feels necessary to get what he wants. But assuming there is an element of truth to the story, all long term relationships will have their peaks and troughs of sexual activity, frequently leaving the country for work puts a huge burden on the one left behind, I don't think you are ever going to really understand what goes on in anyone else's relationship. One thing I question (more generally), is why are there so many cheating spouses who claim that their other half have never been adventurous or had a high sex drive, if it was that important to them why get married in the first place. Would you really connect with someone so deeply, enough to marry them if you were such a mis-match sexually?" Seems to me that it may not be sex itself they have lost interest in, but sex with their spouse.... | |||
"... One thing I question (more generally), is why are there so many cheating spouses who claim that their other half have never been adventurous or had a high sex drive, if it was that important to them why get married in the first place. Would you really connect with someone so deeply, enough to marry them if you were such a mis-match sexually?" I did a thread on this exact question a few weeks ago. I don't understand it either. Why would a very sexual person be with someone they know right from the start isn't open sexually.  | |||
"For me personally, in the absence of medical issues, not wanting to have sex with my partner would indicate that there are relationship issues which need to be resolved. I can't answer for others, but to me, a healthy sex life is part and parcel of a loving relationship, lying, cheating, and an inability to communicate aren't." Exactly this. | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem." This. If I may add too... That sex is only a piece of the relationship puzzle. Some relationships don't have sex at all and are very fufilling, many would say far more fulfilling. Testify many who have sex on here...It can be and is very shallow....its just an act and for most has no other meaning than self gratification. This can be said in some relationships that have sex but nothing else, less fulfilling than good love and companionship. There's a few people I love but don't have sex with them and I don't think if I did that it would enhance the present relationship one little bit. Some relationships are lucky to have all the components in it and they are very very special. I think OP that your assumption leaves out far to many issues that many of us do not understand unless were walking in their shoes. Not everyone's needs are being met in sex or in a sex less relationship either. | |||
"... One thing I question (more generally), is why are there so many cheating spouses who claim that their other half have never been adventurous or had a high sex drive, if it was that important to them why get married in the first place. Would you really connect with someone so deeply, enough to marry them if you were such a mis-match sexually? I did a thread on this exact question a few weeks ago. I don't understand it either. Why would a very sexual person be with someone they know right from the start isn't open sexually. "As a man i would anecdotally tell you that from my circle of friends the most common reasons for getting married were #1 inertia and #2 the girl was well liked by his parents and they pressu_ed him to marry her. Neither of those reasons are going to lead to a great sex life. I've mentioned this to engaged friends and been told "sex isn't that important". 3 years later and they have the gold membership card at the local whore house. | |||
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"Sometimes couples become to content and end up more friends but still in love it's not uncommon IMO. " its very common I know a lot like this and happy. To them the sex is just a small part of life and they like other things better. | |||
"Sometimes couples become to content and end up more friends but still in love it's not uncommon IMO. its very common I know a lot like this and happy. To them the sex is just a small part of life and they like other things better."That's fine. There is no rule about how much sex makes a good content relationship. However, when one ends up cheating it's clearly not working anymore.. And I still don't get how someone can just accept "I don't want to talk about it" from a partner?? Why not respond with "well if we don't I'm thinking of going elsewhere" and then see if discussion starts. You can't just make a small feeble attempt and then rush to cheat. If the unsatisfied party doesn't make a genuine attempt to discuss this and work it out, I would Suspect their intention was to cheat all along.. | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem." . .
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"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem.. .
I nominate you as my official spokesperson "lol, carry on reading. get to the rambling on parts, then decide. | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem.. .
I nominate you as my official spokesperson
lol, carry on reading. get to the rambling on parts, then decide. ". I love rambling | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem.. .
I nominate you as my official spokesperson
lol, carry on reading. get to the rambling on parts, then decide. .
I love rambling "sorted. | |||
"course they can be. love is more than sex, way more. in fact, if sex is the only thing holding a relationship together i'd say that's a bigger problem. I agree that sex isn't the be all and end all, but, to me it's a massively important part and an essential part of the 'cement' that helps to hold the relationship together.... In my opinion, If they don't desire one-another anymore or want to demonstrate their love/affection or whatever, why bother? " Totally agree with you . It's all very well to say there's more to love than sex , but one can love ones dog or cat , or ones friends and family without sex quite comfortably . But in a relationship , sex is the one thing that differentiates that relationship from all others . May as well just be friends imo . | |||
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" One thing I question (more generally), is why are there so many cheating spouses who claim that their other half have never been adventurous or had a high sex drive, if it was that important to them why get married in the first place. Would you really connect with someone so deeply, enough to marry them if you were such a mis-match sexually?" Because people's sex drives and preferences change over time. You may be happy with vanilla sex once a week when you marry at 18, doesn't mean you will still be happy with it 20 years later | |||
" One thing I question (more generally), is why are there so many cheating spouses who claim that their other half have never been adventurous or had a high sex drive, if it was that important to them why get married in the first place. Would you really connect with someone so deeply, enough to marry them if you were such a mis-match sexually? Because people's sex drives and preferences change over time. You may be happy with vanilla sex once a week when you marry at 18, doesn't mean you will still be happy with it 20 years later" Compatibility and communication is the key | |||
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"I am curious....and I do know/expect this topic to be somewhat controversial... Would you say that a couple (married or not, but together a decade or so) both in their 30's with no medical issues or whatever to make sex difficult who have sex very infrequently (approx once a month, some months not at all) can say that they are still "in-love". There is allegedly plenty of kissing and cuddles, but no sex which I find a little inc_edulous to be honest!! To me if they are able to, but the desire is no longer there,for whatever reason, there is a massive, fundamental problem with the marriage/relationship?! Your thoughts? " Sex is not the bee all and end all in a relationship personally I think sex should take a strong part but others may be different but different people feel different things and express love differently. So because I have not been in a relationship with no sex or little. Sex so I can't really say. I can say out my relationships I have had I thought I loved each until I meet my ex and I never fealt this feelings before.. | |||
"So many comments....some bang on the money...many clearly have no clue what so ever....if they are lucky they may well stay that way...sexless relationships are not uncommon...and just sometimes no amount of talking....pills...potions will do any good what so ever..........but and it's a very big but you still love one another dearly....for the one still wanting sex it is both heartbreaking and soul destroying....is swinging the answer......no it isnt....does it help....yes it can....i expect very few will understand this....and as i say if your lucky you may never have to..........but don't bank on it...life has a habit of putting you in places situations you never thought in a million years you would end up.....as the saying goes "walk a mile in my shoes"....." Great answer this here especially about will swinging help | |||
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"I think that if a marriage works and everyone in it is more or less happy its nobody elses business. I don't think we should expect other people to conform to our idea of a good marriage."
Absolutely
People have a tendency to vocalise their own fears and try and project these on other's relationship. Each relationship is slightly different
It is like someone who is in an S&M relationship suggesting that unless the husband is able to flog his wife every night before sex, the relationship is doomed for failure
Now where is that flogger?
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"I think that if a marriage works and everyone in it is more or less happy its nobody elses business. I don't think we should expect other people to conform to our idea of a good marriage.
Absolutely
People have a tendency to vocalise their own fears and try and project these on other's relationship. Each relationship is slightly different
It is like someone who is in an S&M relationship suggesting that unless the husband is able to flog his wife every night before sex, the relationship is doomed for failure
Now where is that flogger?
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"I am curious....and I do know/expect this topic to be somewhat controversial... Would you say that a couple (married or not, but together a decade or so) both in their 30's with no medical issues or whatever to make sex difficult who have sex very infrequently (approx once a month, some months not at all) can say that they are still "in-love". There is allegedly plenty of kissing and cuddles, but no sex which I find a little inc_edulous to be honest!! To me if they are able to, but the desire is no longer there,for whatever reason, there is a massive, fundamental problem with the marriage/relationship?! Your thoughts? " Definitely possible, I know friends in similar situations. To be fair in there cases they want it more but the wife doesn't The danger is that all but one of them say they are still in love but would play away just for the sex. | |||
"I am curious....and I do know/expect this topic to be somewhat controversial... Would you say that a couple (married or not, but together a decade or so) both in their 30's with no medical issues or whatever to make sex difficult who have sex very infrequently (approx once a month, some months not at all) can say that they are still "in-love". There is allegedly plenty of kissing and cuddles, but no sex which I find a little inc_edulous to be honest!! To me if they are able to, but the desire is no longer there,for whatever reason, there is a massive, fundamental problem with the marriage/relationship?! Your thoughts? Definitely possible, I know friends in similar situations. To be fair in there cases they want it more but the wife doesn't The danger is that all but one of them say they are still in love but would play away just for the sex. " Your friends, several of them, I presume, tell you such intimate details about their relationship and about their sex-life with their partners? - Mrs. J - | |||
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"I am curious....and I do know/expect this topic to be somewhat controversial... Would you say that a couple (married or not, but together a decade or so) both in their 30's with no medical issues or whatever to make sex difficult who have sex very infrequently (approx once a month, some months not at all) can say that they are still "in-love". There is allegedly plenty of kissing and cuddles, but no sex which I find a little inc_edulous to be honest!! To me if they are able to, but the desire is no longer there,for whatever reason, there is a massive, fundamental problem with the marriage/relationship?! Your thoughts? " Interesting article on the same topic in the mails you magazine. Although it is heavily going down the older people route for the majority of it | |||
"We sometimes go a month or so without sex. We don't fret over it. We have busy lives with us both working full time, kids, hobbies, housework etc. I think I'd only get concerned if we went without for a few months. Katie." I think the true test is how often you fuck on holiday. Day to day some people have busier lives than others, but if you don't fuck on holiday when you aren't busy then i'd say it's a warning sign. | |||
"We sometimes go a month or so without sex. We don't fret over it. We have busy lives with us both working full time, kids, hobbies, housework etc. I think I'd only get concerned if we went without for a few months. Katie. I think the true test is how often you fuck on holiday. Day to day some people have busier lives than others, but if you don't fuck on holiday when you aren't busy then i'd say it's a warning sign. " We go sightseeing
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"I'm one of those that believe you can still be 'in love' in a sexless relationship. I believe that love and sex are different things and it's possible to have one without the other. Most married people or those in a relationship already on this site are looking for sex, not love. " Your right in saying this . | |||
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"Want to write a meaningful response to this but the lady above has, with her amazing eyes and stunning body, caused all the blood to go down south....so I'll just say "no-sex marriage bad"! " Maybe be its bad but some still love each other and sex is not everything they have together. x And kisses xx Why site like this have loads on playing away as get there sex from here not there love. | |||
"We sometimes go a month or so without sex. We don't fret over it. We have busy lives with us both working full time, kids, hobbies, housework etc. I think I'd only get concerned if we went without for a few months. Katie. I think the true test is how often you fuck on holiday. Day to day some people have busier lives than others, but if you don't fuck on holiday when you aren't busy then i'd say it's a warning sign. " I was going to try and be funny saying 'remind me what sex is..' but now I feel like saying 'remind me what a holiday is' lol I'm doomed doomed I tell ya  | |||
"We sometimes go a month or so without sex. We don't fret over it. We have busy lives with us both working full time, kids, hobbies, housework etc. I think I'd only get concerned if we went without for a few months. Katie. I think the true test is how often you fuck on holiday. Day to day some people have busier lives than others, but if you don't fuck on holiday when you aren't busy then i'd say it's a warning sign. I was going to try and be funny saying 'remind me what sex is..' but now I feel like saying 'remind me what a holiday is' lol I'm doomed doomed I tell ya "Holidays are where you go to have sex with your wife | |||
"We sometimes go a month or so without sex. We don't fret over it. We have busy lives with us both working full time, kids, hobbies, housework etc. I think I'd only get concerned if we went without for a few months. Katie." And that's fine , as it's your life and that makes you happy . The minute housework , hobbies , kids and work stops us having sex , we would take a look at our priorities and do something about it . Once a month would be a nightmare ! We don't go more than a day , and haven't done in the seven years we have been together . | |||
"I'm one of those that believe you can still be 'in love' in a sexless relationship. I believe that love and sex are different things and it's possible to have one without the other. Most married people or those in a relationship already on this site are looking for sex, not love. Your right in saying this ."100% with this... | |||
"We sometimes go a month or so without sex. We don't fret over it. We have busy lives with us both working full time, kids, hobbies, housework etc. I think I'd only get concerned if we went without for a few months. Katie. And that's fine , as it's your life and that makes you happy . The minute housework , hobbies , kids and work stops us having sex , we would take a look at our priorities and do something about it . Once a month would be a nightmare ! We don't go more than a day , and haven't done in the seven years we have been together ." You're right, we're both very happy. Sex isn't high on our list of priorities at the moment but it makes no difference to how we feel about each other. | |||
