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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I often don't cum on meets, when me and Mrs started playing I said I would save my orgasm for her, after a while we decided to scrap that idea but still don't always cum, I still really enjoy my self and go for hours but the women involved tend not to like it lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've not really had that happen as it's normally the other way round. Guess I'd question if I was any good at it ( which obviously I am ) haha  "
Haha I'm sure you are.
It is nothing to do with performance of the women but I'm sure some women do take it personal even though it's nothing to do with that xx |
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"I've not really had that happen as it's normally the other way round. Guess I'd question if I was any good at it ( which obviously I am ) haha "
Having just looked at your pictures I can see why you don't have that issue  |
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"The only position I cum from is being ridden and I sometimes find that hard too. Even blowjobs rarely make me cum no matter how good it feels.  "
Do you find it easier if you've met the person as a regular? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I take the strongest Viagra I can't cum easily..maybe if I was fucking a 22 year old 5'9" glamour model nympho brewery heiress I'd plaster the Travelodge curtains  |
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"I've not really had that happen as it's normally the other way round. Guess I'd question if I was any good at it ( which obviously I am ) haha
Having just looked at your pictures I can see why you don't have that issue "
From now on I bet every guy I meet doesn't cum just to spite me haha |
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"I've not really had that happen as it's normally the other way round. Guess I'd question if I was any good at it ( which obviously I am ) haha
Having just looked at your pictures I can see why you don't have that issue
From now on I bet every guy I meet doesn't cum just to spite me haha "
You're allowed to shout "I know why you're doing this, you bastard!" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The only position I cum from is being ridden and I sometimes find that hard too. Even blowjobs rarely make me cum no matter how good it feels.
Do you find it easier if you've met the person as a regular?"
Now you mention it. Yes. But only a bit easier. |
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"I've not really had that happen as it's normally the other way round. Guess I'd question if I was any good at it ( which obviously I am ) haha
Having just looked at your pictures I can see why you don't have that issue
From now on I bet every guy I meet doesn't cum just to spite me haha
You're allowed to shout "I know why you're doing this, you bastard!" "
Sod that I'll just milk them dry  |
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"I've not really had that happen as it's normally the other way round. Guess I'd question if I was any good at it ( which obviously I am ) haha
Having just looked at your pictures I can see why you don't have that issue
From now on I bet every guy I meet doesn't cum just to spite me haha
You're allowed to shout "I know why you're doing this, you bastard!"
Sod that I'll just milk them dry "
*drifts off into daydream * |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as he has had fun and a huge genuine smile I don't get disappointed .... for me it's all about having fun and no pressure and being completely ourselves  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As long as he has had fun and a huge genuine smile I don't get disappointed .... for me it's all about having fun and no pressure and being completely ourselves "
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"Do you ladies get disappointed when a guy doesn't cum?
I know men often do when a lady doesn't orgasm but is it the same for women?"
I quite like it... If he stays hard and continues fucking me in different ways... The best lovers learn self control and can go for hours... In this case it's really amazing and he usually cums at the very very end.
Otherwise it could be a sign that he has health issues... Not good... Especially if he doesn't stay hard |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"my partner says he doesn't have to cum to have had a gd time, as long as the female goes away happy she has cum that's good enough for him...."
I agree to a certain extent. But I sometimes get the feeling my orgasm is part of the females enjoyment. |
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"my partner says he doesn't have to cum to have had a gd time, as long as the female goes away happy she has cum that's good enough for him....
I agree to a certain extent. But I sometimes get the feeling my orgasm is part of the females enjoyment. "
Absolutely it is... But at the right time... Once you've pleasu_ed her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to admit to feeling a little disappointed and make it all about me not turning them on enough - but it hasn't happened enough for me to worry too much |
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"I usually take ages to cum, so quickies are out the window "
Yes each man is different... Some can repeat rounds so no problem if he cums relatively soon... For those who cannot... Self control is essential |
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"It doesn't bother me, all our bodies work differently.
If I'm with a naked guy it means I'll have sussed out before hand if he's nice or not.
And that's more important for me "
There's sense in that too... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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for me it doesn't bother me weather the guy cums or not... as long as we have all had fun.... its not all about cumming.. its about having fun, not being able to perform on command. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"there are both men and women who struggle to reach orgasm. if you know it and tell your playmate in advance i can't see a problem. it's about the fun isn't it?"
exactly....
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By (user no longer on site)
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"my partner says he doesn't have to cum to have had a gd time, as long as the female goes away happy she has cum that's good enough for him....
I agree to a certain extent. But I sometimes get the feeling my orgasm is part of the females enjoyment.
Absolutely it is... But at the right time... Once you've pleasu_ed her "
Why not before and after her pleasure. If it's more than a quickie why not more than once if it's possible? If I do cum it doesn't mean I can't pleasure her again. |
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"if you can cum like that then all well and good but why does a guy HAVE to cum on a meet....
do all ladies cum on meets????
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I rarely cum during sex... Not on a meet... Not in a club... Always after or sometimes when watching porn together...
But the pleasure from really good quality play is mind blowing for me... Just different from orgasms which are also wonderful... They complement each other... And by not Cumming my appetite stays insatiable |
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By (user no longer on site)
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so its all about the play and weather you all have a good time rather than cumming.... for us it is anyway... perhaps that's why we don't get many meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"for me it doesn't bother me weather the guy cums or not... as long as we have all had fun.... its not all about cumming.. its about having fun, not being able to perform on command."
I'm not into all this 'competitive fucking' shite that so many seem to be on here. I have to like the person and have mutual respect before I'll even thinking of having sex with them. It doesn't matter if neither of us cum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"for me it doesn't bother me weather the guy cums or not... as long as we have all had fun.... its not all about cumming.. its about having fun, not being able to perform on command.
I'm not into all this 'competitive fucking' shite that so many seem to be on here. I have to like the person and have mutual respect before I'll even thinking of having sex with them. It doesn't matter if neither of us cum. "
a lot of people on here think you have to perform like porn stars.... when in reality its nothing like that at all.... having fun is the most important thing.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"for me it doesn't bother me weather the guy cums or not... as long as we have all had fun.... its not all about cumming.. its about having fun, not being able to perform on command.
I'm not into all this 'competitive fucking' shite that so many seem to be on here. I have to like the person and have mutual respect before I'll even thinking of having sex with them. It doesn't matter if neither of us cum.
a lot of people on here think you have to perform like porn stars.... when in reality its nothing like that at all.... having fun is the most important thing...."
I leave them to it. I'd rather not meet than compete with all that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"for me it doesn't bother me weather the guy cums or not... as long as we have all had fun.... its not all about cumming.. its about having fun, not being able to perform on command.
I'm not into all this 'competitive fucking' shite that so many seem to be on here. I have to like the person and have mutual respect before I'll even thinking of having sex with them. It doesn't matter if neither of us cum.
a lot of people on here think you have to perform like porn stars.... when in reality its nothing like that at all.... having fun is the most important thing....
I leave them to it. I'd rather not meet than compete with all that "
They do know that most male porn starts are gym fit and also hax gay or bi sexual orientation. Not to mention that the industry standed is 6+ Inches, circumcised and preferably can only finish through wanking.
Dont ask me how I know all this I had too much spare time as a teenager. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't think I would like it if a guy didn't cum. We recently met a guy who went for ages, I was very close to asking him to stop when it transpi_ed he was delaying it. I told him that he needed to finish now and he immediately came!
Sex that goes on for ages and ages just doesn't appeal to me!
For me one of the most fantastic erotic sensual feelings is when a guy cums and I can feel it through his whole body! It's what it's all about for me! |
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By *haggerMan
over a year ago
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"I get disappointed when you sort a meet out and the taking off the clothes is longer than the sex! 
 or boiling a kettle takes longer
Ha ha thank god I didn't try and find out!  "
You talking about one you put on a stove or the new age quick boil versions? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ladies get disappointed when a guy doesn't cum?
I know men often do when a lady doesn't orgasm but is it the same for women?"
Can't say I've Ever had the luxury lol quite the opposite- so how do you stop it?? |
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"I don't think I would like it if a guy didn't cum. We recently met a guy who went for ages, I was very close to asking him to stop when it transpi_ed he was delaying it. I told him that he needed to finish now and he immediately came!
Sex that goes on for ages and ages just doesn't appeal to me!
For me one of the most fantastic erotic sensual feelings is when a guy cums and I can feel it through his whole body! It's what it's all about for me!"
Exactly the same here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a meet with a guy who was impotent... traumatic
Ive also had a meet last moments...
Id always opt for over excited than under"
I would say if it was traumatic then he did not look after you properly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes sometimes we can cock block ourselves for whatever reason of thoughts, fatigue, or overworked cock with little sensation.
Other times (sorry to say this) it can be the tightness of a pussy in combination of guy size with little friction
so if in similar situation best to improvise and have close legs sex to squeeze on cock as much as possible and maximise friction.
Other factors can help with dirty talk, touching balls - ie grabbing of balls and saying 'i want your cum, I want it bad, I want your hot load soooo bad'
or something similar to that effect |
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"The only position I cum from is being ridden and I sometimes find that hard too. Even blowjobs rarely make me cum no matter how good it feels. "
A stallion with no seed!
Sacreligious! Lol J/K
Nice thighs! |
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I've never had the it cumming problem but from girls I've known who have talked about guys not cumming it seems to be a frustration more because they're not sure if they did enough. However I did have a meet with someone and they didn't want to meet again as she asked me to cum on her tits and I did and apparently I came too much and she didn't like it lol. I have a sneaky suspicion that was just an excuse though lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In my experience, if the lady is truly as turned on as I am, then we are both cumming fairly quickly the first time. The second, third and so on, they are more prolonged for me, but I believe that being attuned to each other makes it more likely that neither of us will feel disappointed in the end result of the meet and more than likely, neither of us will have missed out on an orgasm or three  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"In my experience, if the lady is truly as turned on as I am, then we are both cumming fairly quickly the first time. The second, third and so on, they are more prolonged for me, but I believe that being attuned to each other makes it more likely that neither of us will feel disappointed in the end result of the meet and more than likely, neither of us will have missed out on an orgasm or three "
I prefer men not to cum as when some do there is no second or third time. So if cumming quickly the first time is the measure of being truly turned on then I'm going to lose out.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my experience, if the lady is truly as turned on as I am, then we are both cumming fairly quickly the first time. The second, third and so on, they are more prolonged for me, but I believe that being attuned to each other makes it more likely that neither of us will feel disappointed in the end result of the meet and more than likely, neither of us will have missed out on an orgasm or three
I prefer men not to cum as when some do there is no second or third time. So if cumming quickly the first time is the measure of being truly turned on then I'm going to lose out.
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Perhaps if I knew that I were unable to go again then I may feel that I should restrain myself.
But as I have said, this is only from my experiences so far and what I believe.
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"for me it doesn't bother me weather the guy cums or not... as long as we have all had fun.... its not all about cumming.. its about having fun, not being able to perform on command.
I'm not into all this 'competitive fucking' shite that so many seem to be on here. I have to like the person and have mutual respect before I'll even thinking of having sex with them. It doesn't matter if neither of us cum.
a lot of people on here think you have to perform like porn stars.... when in reality its nothing like that at all.... having fun is the most important thing....
I leave them to it. I'd rather not meet than compete with all that
They do know that most male porn starts are gym fit and also hax gay or bi sexual orientation. Not to mention that the industry standed is 6+ Inches, circumcised and preferably can only finish through wanking.
Dont ask me how I know all this I had too much spare time as a teenager."
Don't believe everything you hear lol, I'm not gym fit not gay or bi & not circumcised nor are 90% of the guys I know who star in them.
Yes lots of guys want off at the end as most shoots finish with a facial cum shot & it's easier for us to aim than the lady.
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"In my experience, if the lady is truly as turned on as I am, then we are both cumming fairly quickly the first time. The second, third and so on, they are more prolonged for me, but I believe that being attuned to each other makes it more likely that neither of us will feel disappointed in the end result of the meet and more than likely, neither of us will have missed out on an orgasm or three "
i agree with this. Rarely have i had a man cum then pack up for the day. I have been with guys who only cum once but they know they can only cum once so hold off until the end |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have pretty much complete control so can pick and choose, occasionally I will decide to cum multiple times but generally I prefer only to cum at the very end of a session.
Years of edging myself and more recently learning about dry orgasms has enabled me to decide when I want to ejaculate. For me one orgasm after fucking for a few hours is so much better than cumming multiple times.
It's led me to have to reassure partners that I really am enjoying myself as if you don't cum after an hour or so they do tend to start to think something is up, once they know I prefer it that way then it's not usually an issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I often don't cum on meets, when me and Mrs started playing I said I would save my orgasm for her, after a while we decided to scrap that idea but still don't always cum, I still really enjoy my self and go for hours but the women involved tend not to like it lol xx"
How do you do this........honest question.....hours???? How??? please enlighten me.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes medication does not help . I was on tablets which caused retro grade ejaculation .. you basically ejaculated but the medication sent the sperm into your bladder rather than out of your penis . Very strange sensation xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find I cum all the time during sex and wanking, but rarely come during a blow job! Not sure if it's because only ever had 2 women swallow, so feel I have to keep it in. When a woman has decided to swallow I've cum loads |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you ladies get disappointed when a guy doesn't cum?
I know men often do when a lady doesn't orgasm but is it the same for women?"
it is very disappointing but very hypocritical for me as I dont orgasm on a meet really. Occasionally but for reasons other than whats being done to me x |
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