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Asking too much or reasonable request?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you. "
id say it was asking a lot.

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

Leave the Cockatoo out of it

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I'd say that was asking a lot. Not talk to? In any form?

Meet? That's a bit different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you. "

Speak to any seems a bit harsh, and I'd say meeting would depend on how long until they meet; if it's that weekend then sure, if it's next month then probably not.

Just my two pence.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

If your friend is on a swinging site then hell yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd say that was asking to go above and beyond.

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By *iscean MaleMan over a year ago

Darlaston

I would say its a reasonable request. People can and do respect their potential meets requests..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok ok I've just asked her again now and it's just the meeting part that she doesn't like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it through Fab??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How would she know if he did meet someone before her anyway?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you. "

Your friend can ask... but if it's a meet from this site I'd be very surprised if he agreed.

Your friend would never know if he was talking to others in any case.

The not meeting until after their meet seems reasonable if it's in the near future.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd say that was asking a lot. Not talk to? In any form?

Meet? That's a bit different. "

^ this!

Tell your *cough* friend that on a swinging site expecting them not to talk to anyone else is a little unreasonable, and indeed quite controlling!

And even to a degree meeting as well. But I can see why some people would want monogamy - but possibly a casual sex site isn't the best place to find Mr Fidelity!

But good luck to your friend - I hope he or she finds what they want!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok ok I've just asked her again now and it's just the meeting part that she doesn't like."

If it's through fab then yes that's asking too much. By far. It sounds very offputting

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Ok ok I've just asked her again now and it's just the meeting part that she doesn't like."

I'd say it's a bit presumptuous to try and dictate what someone should or should not do because their opinion of what is right differs. Saying that, if I had arranged a meet and it was cancelled because the lady had a meet and better offer instead of me, I'd be pissed off. Totally hypocritical, I know but hey ho.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can ask but you might not get the answer you want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd say that was asking a lot. Not talk to? In any form?

Meet? That's a bit different.

^ this!

Tell your *cough* friend that on a swinging site expecting them not to talk to anyone else is a little unreasonable, and indeed quite controlling!

And even to a degree meeting as well. But I can see why some people would want monogamy - but possibly a casual sex site isn't the best place to find Mr Fidelity!

But good luck to your friend - I hope he or she finds what they want!!

Very well said Mr Berks x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It depends on how long until she meets the man in question. A few days or a week, yes but any longer and it's a bit presumptuous. Especially on this site x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Suppose it depends how long the wait it,beside's if they said yes how would you know for definite they wouldn't meet anyone. Personally I don't think I would trust anyone.

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

I'd say that was asking a lot. Not talk to? In any form?

Meet? That's a bit different.

^ this!

Tell your *cough* friend that on a swinging site expecting them not to talk to anyone else is a little unreasonable, and indeed quite controlling!

And even to a degree meeting as well. But I can see why some people would want monogamy - but possibly a casual sex site isn't the best place to find Mr Fidelity!

But good luck to your friend - I hope he or she finds what they want!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If somebody I'd never met tried to dictate to,e what I could and couldn't do, I'd file them under "control freak, thank god i never met them" and block them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If your friend is on a swinging site then hell yes

Too much on a dating site too.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

That kind of control is not a good thing, this is the reason why a lot of guys are not happy, I think it is something that would be difficult to stop but I would rather you let people be free.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Think it's a bit much hell they could even meet someone and it wouldn't bother me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people convey this very effectively on their profiles in terms of being clear and open about expectations. Surely not meeting somebody else could be reasonable? Probably after an initial meet though at least.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you. "

Birds?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's interesting how most women aren't bothered about it and some are. Is it a self esteem thing or something else.

She's a real character my friend.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan over a year ago

Mold

I hope he's not Dr Dolittle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it was for you I would do as asked!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes it's asking too much. Whether for a casual hook up or a date they have zero obligation towards you.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you.

Birds?"
wenches

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's interesting how most women aren't bothered about it and some are. Is it a self esteem thing or something else.

She's a real character my friend. "

Does she exist??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hide the bunnies!

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Ok ok I've just asked her again now and it's just the meeting part that she doesn't like."

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you.

Birds? wenches

Wicked wenches with wobbly wah-wahs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you.

Birds? wenches

Ah, get you now, I thought I had stumbled onto a 1970s sit com

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ridiculous request for a swinger, your friend really needs to evaluate why she is here, wouldn't she be better finding a boyfriend?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can understand the meeting but talking to is a bit much. If they haven't met before?

Not exclusive ?

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If your friend is on here I'd say she was definitely asking too much. You tell her that even if he agreed it's probably a big fat lie anyway

There's a lot of these 'asking for a friend' type threads atm!!

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"It's interesting how most women aren't bothered about it and some are. Is it a self esteem thing or something else.

She's a real character my friend. "

I'd personally say, yes, that it was a sign of serious insecurities where "measuring up" to other women are concerned

Yo have to remember some huge their insecurities under layer(s) of bravado

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's interesting how most women aren't bothered about it and some are. Is it a self esteem thing or something else.

She's a real character my friend.

Does she exist??"

Yeah course, she just said she's wants to fuck you as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If your friend is on here I'd say she was definitely asking too much. You tell her that even if he agreed it's probably a big fat lie anyway

There's a lot of these 'asking for a friend' type threads atm!!"

I have noticed this also, they tend to smell of BS

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who is she

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's interesting how most women aren't bothered about it and some are. Is it a self esteem thing or something else.

She's a real character my friend.

Does she exist??

Yeah course, she just said she's wants to fuck you as well. "

Tell her I am very flattered , but I only meet real people , not the figment of some bodies imagination

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you. "

Do you smoke Pot?..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If IIRC aren't you looking for a guy you can see every other weekend?

That you want to remain faithful to you? Not play with anyone else?

Aren't you being a tad unrealistic expecting that from this site?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

How do men know know at order to meet people in. Like if there were 3 women all within the same travelling distance, say they were all able to meet on the same days as each other and that you started speaking to them all on the same day. How do you create an order in which to meet all 3 women?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok ok I've just asked her again now and it's just the meeting part that she doesn't like."

Depends how soon the meet is. If it's in 2 weeks time, it's not reasonable. But if I arrange to meet a guy in say 2 days time, and he has a meet tomorrow, ours would be cancelled

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Of both agreed not to mewt anyone else andIf their meet was to take place in perhaps less than a week.

Then i would perhaps find that acceptable. The reason being it could perhpas intensify the pleasure on the night.

However if i had already agreed to meet someone before she asked, i would have to say no.

Though the point about being a control freak seems valid.

I would say she should ask, if she is prepaired for an answer she doesnt want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Speak? No.

Meet? Depends.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do men know know at order to meet people in. Like if there were 3 women all within the same travelling distance, say they were all able to meet on the same days as each other and that you started speaking to them all on the same day. How do you create an order in which to meet all 3 women?"

Hold on, I will just ask my 'friend '

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By *emplarWarriorMan over a year ago

Nottingham

I think its a fair request

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By *r Costa xxMan over a year ago

stirling

Have a look at the route, estimate drive and playtime for each, and get organising

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seems a little controlling and it'd ring alarm bells in my head, thinking this guys going to be a control freak and insecure, jealous person, if a guy asked me to do this. Just my opinion though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hold on, I will just ask my 'friend ' "

Ok, has your friend got a big dick, for me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seems a little controlling and it'd ring alarm bells in my head, thinking this guys going to be a control freak and insecure, jealous person, if a guy asked me to do this. Just my opinion though "

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

Simples a 4some

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

As in a Fab meet? Those kind of 'demands' are only acceptable within a committed relationship.

And even then talking to other women is not a crime

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

That's so far beyond the realms of reality it belongs on the twilight zone! But turning your friends post around. He says "OK, till we meet" after the meet you say "Want to meet again?" & he pipes up "Yeah why not it was great, but none of this just you crap OK?".

Now how will your friend feel?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

is your friend willing to offer the same deal to him....she wont speak to or meet anyone before she meets him?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends if the fanny is worth it to him i daresay.

There will always be at least one fella who covets a certain ladies fanny above all others, and will walk over hot coals and broken glass just to stick his love truncheon in her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"is your friend willing to offer the same deal to him....she wont speak to or meet anyone before she meets him?"

Yeah course, the speaking to people part is fine but wouldn't meet anyone if a potential meet was on the cards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depends if the fanny is worth it to him i daresay.

There will always be at least one fella who covets a certain ladies fanny above all others, and will walk over hot coals and broken glass just to stick his love truncheon in her.

Such a way with words

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Depends if the fanny is worth it to him i daresay.

There will always be at least one fella who covets a certain ladies fanny above all others, and will walk over hot coals and broken glass just to stick his love truncheon in her.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you. "

I'm going against the grain here, I would say no, it's not asking too much at all if you're in the process of arranging something.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"is your friend willing to offer the same deal to him....she wont speak to or meet anyone before she meets him?

Yeah course, the speaking to people part is fine but wouldn't meet anyone if a potential meet was on the cards. "

i guess in that scenario its fairly reasonable. if she was wanting to meet others but expected him not to i would say it was a tad un fair.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is just strange - this is a swinging site where people come, mainly, for adult fun.

Why would you expect someone to suddenly not talk or meet someone else just because you have a meet lined up? What level of commitment is she hoping for?

As someone else said, this would be a strange demand on a normal dating site especially if you've not met them yet!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would find it a bit bizarre if someone asked me that before they had even met me. I probably wouldn't go on the date if they did x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hold on, I will just ask my 'friend '

Ok, has your friend got a big dick, for me? "

Yes, he doesn't fancy you though , sorry

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you're overestimating the opportunities of men of here based on the posts I've read

Seriously though, it's not pick and mix. Whilst some may some women as interchangeable pussy I'm going to assume the level of attraction to the women in question would have some bearing on who they're most interested in meeting first. Am I assuming too much?

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

I've had guys ask me not to meet for a week or 2 before I met them. I'm happy with that depending on upcoming events/parties. Especially if you're looking into d/s side of things.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

i think it's too much to ask but i get why she would. and it not necessarily any problem or issue she has.

you're gonna get a better, more passionate, fuck with a guy who is sex starved a little than with someone who is fucking others every night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just feels a bit like a production line when you're waiting for someone to get through who they want to get through before getting to you.

I'd like to be the first component on the line and then everyone else jumps on after my bit is done.

Ideal meet would be a virgin or someone that hasn't had sex for a very long time.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Can I ask something?

Is your friend you in disguise?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be massively put off if someone started trying to dictate who and when we could meet. This is meant to be no strings, that sounds suspiciously like a string to me.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you.

I'm going against the grain here, I would say no, it's not asking too much at all if you're in the process of arranging something."

Maybe your username needs modifying then? Maybe SSA instead?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just feels a bit like a production line when you're waiting for someone to get through who they want to get through before getting to you.

I'd like to be the first component on the line and then everyone else jumps on after my bit is done.

Ideal meet would be a virgin or someone that hasn't had sex for a very long time. "

Are you talking about 'you' or your 'friend'

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By *apillonNoirWoman over a year ago

There...

This is Fab. It's not a dating site or an 'arrange my marriage' site. Maybe I've misunderstood but this is a swingers site - NSA. Arms length. Fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hold on, I will just ask my 'friend '

Ok, has your friend got a big dick, for me?

Yes, he doesn't fancy you though , sorry

It's ok, tell him no hard feelings, I'm an acquired taste.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Just feels a bit like a production line when you're waiting for someone to get through who they want to get through before getting to you.

I'd like to be the first component on the line and then everyone else jumps on after my bit is done.

Ideal meet would be a virgin or someone that hasn't had sex for a very long time. "

Reading men's posts on the forum most haven't had sex for a very long time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I assume she'd never want to go to a club then - where potentially a guy that wanted to play may have already fucked one or more people that night??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hold on, I will just ask my 'friend '

Ok, has your friend got a big dick, for me?

Yes, he doesn't fancy you though , sorry

It's ok, tell him no hard feelings, I'm an acquired taste. "

No worries, I have passed on your message, my friend has asked if your friend is attractive??

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Sometimes when things get intense it occurs naturally - I've had people abstain several weeks before meeting me and me them..... But I've also had women try and demand my regular meets stop seeing me before they meet and that's out of order lol, ain't gonna happen!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"Depends if the fanny is worth it to him i daresay.

There will always be at least one fella who covets a certain ladies fanny above all others, and will walk over hot coals and broken glass just to stick his love truncheon in her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On a swingers site, yes I would say that's unreasonable to put restrictions on a playmate, or potential playmate, meeting other people. On a dating site, I also feel it's unreasonable to request this until its been agreed that it's a relationship. However, I do remember feeling a bit narked when when a guy we used to see had an afternoon meet on the same day he met us at a club. It wasn't a deal breaker but we felt it should have been different days.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a reasonable request. She's not telling him what to do, she's asking. Up to him if he wants to or not.

So it's a Swingers site .. so what?! She, he, I, whoever, can use it however we like. We can make whatever requests we like.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you.

I'm going against the grain here, I would say no, it's not asking too much at all if you're in the process of arranging something.

Maybe your username needs modifying then? Maybe SSA instead?

Haha I'm allowed strings, they're not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just feels a bit like a production line when you're waiting for someone to get through who they want to get through before getting to you.

I'd like to be the first component on the line and then everyone else jumps on after my bit is done.

Ideal meet would be a virgin or someone that hasn't had sex for a very long time. "

A bit unrealistic though really, just a tad. Does your friend have insecurity issues?

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Just feels a bit like a production line when you're waiting for someone to get through who they want to get through before getting to you.

I'd like to be the first component on the line and then everyone else jumps on after my bit is done.

Ideal meet would be a virgin or someone that hasn't had sex for a very long time. "

And all the others all want to be the first 'component' too. You only know what they choose to tell you.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"It's a reasonable request. She's not telling him what to do, she's asking. Up to him if he wants to or not.

So it's a Swingers site .. so what?! She, he, I, whoever, can use it however we like. We can make whatever requests we like.

Nailed it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hold on, I will just ask my 'friend '

Ok, has your friend got a big dick, for me?

Yes, he doesn't fancy you though , sorry

It's ok, tell him no hard feelings, I'm an acquired taste.

No worries, I have passed on your message, my friend has asked if your friend is attractive??"

Yeah but I thought you were going with my mate, you were supposed to be sorting me out with one of your mates?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just feels a bit like a production line when you're waiting for someone to get through who they want to get through before getting to you.

I'd like to be the first component on the line and then everyone else jumps on after my bit is done.

Ideal meet would be a virgin or someone that hasn't had sex for a very long time.

Reading men's posts on the forum most haven't had sex for a very long time

And probably won't in the future!!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"It's a reasonable request. She's not telling him what to do, she's asking. Up to him if he wants to or not.

So it's a Swingers site .. so what?! She, he, I, whoever, can use it however we like. We can make whatever requests we like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your on a swinging site not a dating site definitely asking to much in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hold on, I will just ask my 'friend '

Ok, has your friend got a big dick, for me?

Yes, he doesn't fancy you though , sorry

It's ok, tell him no hard feelings, I'm an acquired taste.

No worries, I have passed on your message, my friend has asked if your friend is attractive??

Yeah but I thought you were going with my mate, you were supposed to be sorting me out with one of your mates? "

My mate doesn't fancy you, he wants to fuck your mate , the one your talking about on here

. Does your mate have a nice tight fanny for my mates willy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you. "

The "asking for a friend" chestnut, classic

Jokes aside, that's an odd thing to request – I would be put off by that x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Birds?... have we stepped back in time to the early 70s...On the buses maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you. "
does sign language count??? Definitely over stepping the thin red line there... Christ...Id imagine she'd be the type to be sitting at the end of the bed in the morning staring intently as you wake up...ooooooooo, shivers!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The one they think will be the best fuck.

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By *xoticKnightMan over a year ago

dartford

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you. "

I fee like it depends on the person I guess some people just over think

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hold on, I will just ask my 'friend '

Ok, has your friend got a big dick, for me?

Yes, he doesn't fancy you though , sorry

It's ok, tell him no hard feelings, I'm an acquired taste.

No worries, I have passed on your message, my friend has asked if your friend is attractive??

Yeah but I thought you were going with my mate, you were supposed to be sorting me out with one of your mates?

My mate doesn't fancy you, he wants to fuck your mate , the one your talking about on here

. Does your mate have a nice tight fanny for my mates willy "

My mate said she'll only go with your mate if I can suck someone off!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The one they think will be the best fuck."

Dam right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hold on, I will just ask my 'friend '

Ok, has your friend got a big dick, for me?

Yes, he doesn't fancy you though , sorry

It's ok, tell him no hard feelings, I'm an acquired taste.

No worries, I have passed on your message, my friend has asked if your friend is attractive??

Yeah but I thought you were going with my mate, you were supposed to be sorting me out with one of your mates?

My mate doesn't fancy you, he wants to fuck your mate , the one your talking about on here

. Does your mate have a nice tight fanny for my mates willy

My mate said she'll only go with your mate if I can suck someone off! "

No deal, sorry .

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By *appy squirrelWoman over a year ago

Norwich

this is about NSA meets- meaning exactly this- no strings attached. it is of nobodies business who I meet and when and how often! if people are upset about it than they are probably not for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yep....thats asking way too much!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

no one has actually clarified if said friend is even on here lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"no one has actually clarified if said friend is even on here lol"

Come on, read between the lines (I will give you a hint, her 'friend' is definately on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"no one has actually clarified if said friend is even on here lol"

I thought we'd all just assumed it was an imaginary friend and carried on regardless.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks Empress for asking for me

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Depends if the fanny is worth it to him i daresay.

There will always be at least one fella who covets a certain ladies fanny above all others, and will walk over hot coals and broken glass just to stick his love truncheon in her.

Post of the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"no one has actually clarified if said friend is even on here lol

Come on, read between the lines (I will give you a hint, her 'friend' is definately on here

You said you wanted to fuck my friend! She's 5'3, dark hair, size 4 feet, 32D boobs, she swallows.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"no one has actually clarified if said friend is even on here lol

Come on, read between the lines (I will give you a hint, her 'friend' is definately on here

i get the impression you are not a fan of the OP?!

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"no one has actually clarified if said friend is even on here lol

Come on, read between the lines (I will give you a hint, her 'friend' is definately on here

i get the impression you are not a fan of the OP?!

That's just him having his usual presence in the forum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I ask something?

Is your friend you in disguise?

No, she's real I know the guy. I asked him for a Bentley Continental. I bet you know the answer to that also.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

many of the comments on this thread by one particular person seem somewhat deranged....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"many of the comments on this thread by one particular person seem somewhat deranged...."

It's fine don't talk in riddles, just be blunt.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"no one has actually clarified if said friend is even on here lol

Come on, read between the lines (I will give you a hint, her 'friend' is definately on here

i get the impression you are not a fan of the OP?!

Tbh I don't have an opinion either way,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"no one has actually clarified if said friend is even on here lol

Come on, read between the lines (I will give you a hint, her 'friend' is definately on here

You said you wanted to fuck my friend! She's 5'3, dark hair, size 4 feet, 32D boobs, she swallows. "

Her feet are 2 big

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"no one has actually clarified if said friend is even on here lol

Come on, read between the lines (I will give you a hint, her 'friend' is definately on here

i get the impression you are not a fan of the OP?!

That's just him having his usual presence in the forum "

Hi, are you having a nice evening

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"no one has actually clarified if said friend is even on here lol

Come on, read between the lines (I will give you a hint, her 'friend' is definately on here

You said you wanted to fuck my friend! She's 5'3, dark hair, size 4 feet, 32D boobs, she swallows.

Her feet are 2 big "

I'll cut my toenails. Will fit into a 3 then!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a lot to ask on here.

Standard we are all disposable in our normal lives. Times that by a 1000 then that's where your 'friends' demands stand.

Personally I would find it odd if I were asked that on here. If we'd met a few times and it was requested. I'd consider it. But. It sounds creepy and controlling to start.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

It's appropriate to request what one would like but to be prepared to receive a response that is different to your wishes.

If a meet is very imminent then having arrangements with several people can seem like someone hedging their bets, possibly taking the one that they most want but having fall back options if it doesn't work.

If someone is wanting more than totally un committed sex, they may want some more exclusivity - some people will be fine with that.

Overall, it highlights the need for us all to filter people so that we're matched in the ways that are right for us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok ok I've just asked her again now and it's just the meeting part that she doesn't like.

Depends how soon the meet is. If it's in 2 weeks time, it's not reasonable. But if I arrange to meet a guy in say 2 days time, and he has a meet tomorrow, ours would be cancelled

Why?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"no one has actually clarified if said friend is even on here lol

Come on, read between the lines (I will give you a hint, her 'friend' is definately on here

You said you wanted to fuck my friend! She's 5'3, dark hair, size 4 feet, 32D boobs, she swallows.

Her feet are 2 big

I'll cut my toenails. Will fit into a 3 then! "

Why would 'you' cut your toenails

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"no one has actually clarified if said friend is even on here lol

Come on, read between the lines (I will give you a hint, her 'friend' is definately on here

i get the impression you are not a fan of the OP?!

That's just him having his usual presence in the forum

Hi, are you having a nice evening

Wonderful thanks

A good wank does help lift ones spirits so

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One of the reasons I left my ex was cos of the way he controlled me. That's one thing he wouldn't let me do was see my friends. So yes I do think she's askin too much and I think it will end in tears.

PTU xxx

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

I've never known a woman to refer to other women as 'birds' I find that derogatory. Is this OP definitely a woman?

I don't do monogamy and don't expect it from anyone else. Yes, it's an unreasonable request.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would ask each of them which is their favourite Star Trek captain, and allocate an order depending on on their answer....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've never known a woman to refer to other women as 'birds' I find that derogatory. Is this OP definitely a woman?

I don't do monogamy and don't expect it from anyone else. Yes, it's an unreasonable request."

Are you saying I look like a man?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would ask each of them which is their favourite Star Trek captain, and allocate an order depending on on their answer....

The new Kirk; he's a bit of a Maverick.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never known a woman to refer to other women as 'birds' I find that derogatory. Is this OP definitely a woman?

I don't do monogamy and don't expect it from anyone else. Yes, it's an unreasonable request.

Are you saying I look like a man?"

We say bird too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never known a woman to refer to other women as 'birds' I find that derogatory. Is this OP definitely a woman?

I don't do monogamy and don't expect it from anyone else. Yes, it's an unreasonable request.

Are you saying I look like a man?

We say bird too."

So do i.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok ok I've just asked her again now and it's just the meeting part that she doesn't like.

Depends how soon the meet is. If it's in 2 weeks time, it's not reasonable. But if I arrange to meet a guy in say 2 days time, and he has a meet tomorrow, ours would be cancelled

Why?"

My personal standards. I don't meet guys who bang a different woman every night. If he wants to do that, he can fuck her after our meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would ask each of them which is their favourite Star Trek captain, and allocate an order depending on on their answer....

The new Kirk; he's a bit of a Maverick."

Back of the queue for you missy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would ask each of them which is their favourite Star Trek captain, and allocate an order depending on on their answer....

The new Kirk; he's a bit of a Maverick.

Back of the queue for you missy. "

(It's Picard really)

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By *imandher84Couple over a year ago

Leeds

Don't ask,don't tell. it's none of our business what a meet has been doing prior to meeting us nor would we give two hoots. You play your games we will play ours as it where;)

You can of course act in anyway you choose too whether reasonable or not. If it's something you genuinely feel you need then request it of a meet.

But that kind of lets call it what it is "Jealousy" is going to be destructive from the get go.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never known a woman to refer to other women as 'birds' I find that derogatory. Is this OP definitely a woman?

I don't do monogamy and don't expect it from anyone else. Yes, it's an unreasonable request."

Controversial ? What are you trying to say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

With regards the original question. If I was due to meet someone else I would have no problem putting anything else on hold. However, i would have to be sure we would meet i.e. Confirming by telephone etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your friend has the right to request anything

The gentleman has the right to agree or refuse anything

As to is it reasonable to ask him to not have a "meet" before they meet

My opinion.....NO it is not a reasonable request on a casual sex site as the situation dictates what is appropriate.

They do not know each other well, they are not established in a sexual relationship or contract.

Imagine saying to a potential hairdresser, car dealership, restaurant, petrolstation, travel agent, doctor, the local chippy...DONT SERVE ANYONE UNTIL YOU MEET ME FIRST and I may or may not engage with you until I meet you and I know you better! That to me is unreasonable.

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Just feels a bit like a production line when you're waiting for someone to get through who they want to get through before getting to you.

I'd like to be the first component on the line and then everyone else jumps on after my bit is done.

Ideal meet would be a virgin or someone that hasn't had sex for a very long time. "

Im with you on this one!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maniacs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your friend has the right to request anything

The gentleman has the right to agree or refuse anything

As to is it reasonable to ask him to not have a "meet" before they meet

My opinion.....NO it is not a reasonable request on a casual sex site as the situation dictates what is appropriate.

They do not know each other well, they are not established in a sexual relationship or contract.

Calm down love! This is clearly a bullshit thread

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

Depends on their discussions and expectations without knowing all the facts hard to say whether it unreasonable.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"I've never known a woman to refer to other women as 'birds' I find that derogatory. Is this OP definitely a woman?

I don't do monogamy and don't expect it from anyone else. Yes, it's an unreasonable request.

Are you saying I look like a man?

We say bird too.

So do i.

Me too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ask what you want op. It's up to home if he adheres to his promises or not.

If you asked me to not talk, I think that would be unreasonable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok ok I've just asked her again now and it's just the meeting part that she doesn't like.

Depends how soon the meet is. If it's in 2 weeks time, it's not reasonable. But if I arrange to meet a guy in say 2 days time, and he has a meet tomorrow, ours would be cancelled

Why?

My personal standards. I don't meet guys who bang a different woman every night. If he wants to do that, he can fuck her after our meet

I don't quite understand this - on a swinging site. You may not know who your latest meet is banging and when!

Do you ever visit a club or is that not your scene due to your views?

I would totally understand if you were looking for a relationship etc, but not on a site like this!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your friend has the right to request anything

The gentleman has the right to agree or refuse anything

As to is it reasonable to ask him to not have a "meet" before they meet

My opinion.....NO it is not a reasonable request on a casual sex site as the situation dictates what is appropriate.

They do not know each other well, they are not established in a sexual relationship or contract.

Calm down love! This is clearly a bullshit thread

Is it indeed - seems there are many others here including me who don't agree with you as to this being a BS thread sweetie

As to calming down - do you really think I need to darling. I wasn't agitated however thank you so much for caring

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your friend has the right to request anything

The gentleman has the right to agree or refuse anything

As to is it reasonable to ask him to not have a "meet" before they meet

My opinion.....NO it is not a reasonable request on a casual sex site as the situation dictates what is appropriate.

They do not know each other well, they are not established in a sexual relationship or contract.

Calm down love! This is clearly a bullshit thread

Why is it bullshit?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Your friend has the right to request anything

The gentleman has the right to agree or refuse anything

As to is it reasonable to ask him to not have a "meet" before they meet

My opinion.....NO it is not a reasonable request on a casual sex site as the situation dictates what is appropriate.

They do not know each other well, they are not established in a sexual relationship or contract.

Calm down love! This is clearly a bullshit thread

Why is it bullshit?"

Pretty sure it's not considering who the op is

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Your friend has the right to request anything

The gentleman has the right to agree or refuse anything

As to is it reasonable to ask him to not have a "meet" before they meet

My opinion.....NO it is not a reasonable request on a casual sex site as the situation dictates what is appropriate.

They do not know each other well, they are not established in a sexual relationship or contract.

Calm down love! This is clearly a bullshit thread

Why is it bullshit?"

Pretty sure it's not considering who the op is

I don't mean that in a bitchy way mind

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you. "

That sounds mental.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Reminds me about a mate of mine's girlfriend who went off the rails at him because she thought he was eyeing up an actress on "Emmerdale"!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Reminds me about a mate of mine's girlfriend who went off the rails at him because she thought he was eyeing up an actress on "Emmerdale"!

Bloody hell.

I'd be agreeing with him and we could have a joint wank about her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your friend has the right to request anything

The gentleman has the right to agree or refuse anything

As to is it reasonable to ask him to not have a "meet" before they meet

My opinion.....NO it is not a reasonable request on a casual sex site as the situation dictates what is appropriate.

They do not know each other well, they are not established in a sexual relationship or contract.

Calm down love! This is clearly a bullshit thread

Why is it bullshit?

Pretty sure it's not considering who the op is

I don't mean that in a bitchy way mind"

I love the OP's threads.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

Way too much.

Who they chat with or meet is none of my fucking business, and I would be well pissed off if a guy tried to pull that crap with me.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Your friend has the right to request anything

The gentleman has the right to agree or refuse anything

As to is it reasonable to ask him to not have a "meet" before they meet

My opinion.....NO it is not a reasonable request on a casual sex site as the situation dictates what is appropriate.

They do not know each other well, they are not established in a sexual relationship or contract.

Calm down love! This is clearly a bullshit thread

Why is it bullshit?

Pretty sure it's not considering who the op is

I don't mean that in a bitchy way mind

I love the OP's threads.

I don't think many people could get away with asking someone to wait in a place like this

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

But it is my business when they want to have sex with me.

In my world guys would be free from any sex for at least 3 months before meeting me. Have a clean bill of sexual health. Be as responsive as a teenager with a dribbling willy and who cums quickly

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By *hips n FursMan over a year ago

Huddersfield

There's fab straight,and there's fab single as well...would this request include the single guys wife as well.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"But it is my business when they want to have sex with me.

In my world guys would be free from any sex for at least 3 months before meeting me. Have a clean bill of sexual health. Be as responsive as a teenager with a dribbling willy and who cums quickly

I think the 3 month thing may be pushing it a wee bit too much

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"But it is my business when they want to have sex with me.

Not unless you're in a relationship be that a 'normal' one or a 'fb' type situation it's not, imo anyway

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By *arry247Couple over a year ago

Wakefield

" I'm just asking for a friend, she's wondering if it's asking too much of a guy if you ask him to not speak to any birds or meet any other birds before they meet you. "

Not asking too much, but don't be suprised if the answer is no. This is a swingers site and people here meet tend to meet more than one person at a time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't had sex for 5 months, am clean, and never speak to women......(might as well have a try)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

See, its just about a meeting of minds over a nice flow diagram:-

* OP's 'friend' wants Meet to wait.

* Meet agrees, OP's friend has to take their assurance at face value.

* Meet disagrees, OPs 'friend' either says 'thanks but no thanks' or accepts Meet will meet others, thereby compromising their own standards.

*Meet makes assurances, meets someone else anyway, invariably gets caught out by posting up verification. Or they live with themselves having lied to get laid.

Its a fairly trivial flowchart - sadly I cant upload a Viso diagram of it. But trust me, its a very basic process with limited outcomes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's fab straight,and there's fab single as well...would this request include the single guys wife as well."

I wouldn't be planning to meet anyone that's attached. When I meet guys we don't just go and fuck, we have a date, we'll pop in our local Asda and get munch, we'll walk around in public, we have sleepover meets.

I've been here for many many years and have a good feel for knowing if someone is genuinely single.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But it is my business when they want to have sex with me.

In my world guys would be free from any sex for at least 3 months before meeting me. Have a clean bill of sexual health. Be as responsive as a teenager with a dribbling willy and who cums quickly

Dont discount us oldies...with great age comes a dribbling willy....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But it is my business when they want to have sex with me.

In my world guys would be free from any sex for at least 3 months before meeting me. Have a clean bill of sexual health. Be as responsive as a teenager with a dribbling willy and who cums quickly

Sounds fair to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Stirred the hornets nest

Let's hope the sex is as passionate as you are about this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know the op is legit. She said I had a beautiful face once

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Stirred the hornets nest

Let's hope the sex is as passionate as you are about this

I haven't had sex since the 18th of June last year. I fear I'm a bit rusty. Would need my next potential shag to be patient with me, part of the reason I wouldn't want him to come to me fresh from shagging a professional sexual deviant.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know the op is legit. She said I had a beautiful face once

You don't any more?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stirred the hornets nest

Let's hope the sex is as passionate as you are about this

That's fair enough. I understand what you're saying. Jesus you must be gagging for it lol x

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By *arry247Couple over a year ago

Wakefield

Now we are going to amaze some of you who think sex is the only way to catch a STI.

Kissing, yes it is possible to catch herpes through kissing and a few other STIs if you swap saliva (spit)

Contaminated food, hepatitis A can be transmitted through food

Getting close in a bikini, herpes or HPV can be passed on through skin to skin contact in scenarios such as beach sports.

Sharing sheets, towels, clothes, Trichomonas vaginalis can be caught this way

Tanning salon Molluscum contagiosum can be picked up from a tanning bed and similar surfaces

Sharing razors cutting implements carry a small risk of HIV or hepatitis A, B, or C

Blood transfusion also carries a risk dependant on the country it occurs in.

Many other STI can be caught without penetrative sex such as Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea but this normally requires close genital contact.

We are not saying the risk of the above are high but they are risks and we should be aware of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Now we are going to amaze some of you who think sex is the only way to catch a STI.