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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anyone who has ever tried to arrange meeting me will know that I am a nightmare for it. I owe coffees and drinks and other things to various people.
But when the stars align and the planets are in the correct sequence it does happen.
Often this will mean weeks of waiting for the day itself. How does everyone else keep a lid on the excitement if a meet is a fairly long time away?
Alternatively, how do you keep things bubbling along in the meantime? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is where I struggle....if I planned a meet in advance I would usually end up getting cold feet and cancelling
So now I tend to only meet last minute. I get bored very very quickly so I have to act on impulse these days   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know what you mean fella, most of my meets are weeks in the planning - I guess all you can do is take Shags advice and be patient!
It's like going on holiday - it's good to build up for a few weeks and get excited imagining all the good things you're going to do, and when you get there go fill your boots and make sure it's epic!
I usually have lots of work and domestic shit going on in the meantime to distract me (hence why I can't meet sooner!) so my mind is occupied elsewhere for most of the time anyway! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Talk to them and keep the excitement going. I like waiting and building up tension. I like chatting and getting to know them more so im not as nervous when we meet. |
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Suppose that's a plus to only meeting (hopefully) unattached people as I can be impatient and keeping the monumentum going may be a little hard at time's. I also tend to thing the longer the wait the less likely it's to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was like this and had cancelled meets that were 2 weeks away. Until i started talking to someone and we arranged to meet in a month (!) I started a thread on it as i was so sure i would cancel. Anyway we spoke on whats app every day (maybe excessive) sent pics/videos. He detouted my way twice for a drink in this month wait so it wasnt too bad but the excitment just built and built and we had a great time.
So no actual tips aside from keep the communication going x
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"Lots of talking, getting to know what they like. Flirting, just so many things. I don't think I'm too good at it. X "
I'm really lousy at replying to winks....
I chat to people - in the end it doesn't matter if I meet them or not as long as they are interesting people. |
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I'm a planner too... Rarely is anything spontaneous anymore unless there's a blue moon and I happen to be free at the same time as someone I've met before and am comfortable meeting with at very short notice. But I love the build-up, excitement and butterflies of planning ahead and knowing the person you're meeting is feeling exactly the same... Counting down the days, smiling at texts, teasing conversations, building the anticipation... Just the gleeful giddiness of knowing that the best is yet to come |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I guess just keeping that conversation going? Not a strict daily one but the odd check in message and stuff.
It just happens for me - there have been meets that have taken several months to happen and as long as they don't mug me off, it happens.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It took a personal record of nine months to meet with my last meet.
We talked every day via whatsapp, discussed what we'd like to do and see, talked about every topic under the sun. I also wasn't unknown to send teasing photos and one or two videos too. |
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"This is where I struggle....if I planned a meet in advance I would usually end up getting cold feet and cancelling
So now I tend to only meet last minute. I get bored very very quickly so I have to act on impulse these days "
Exactly the same here , this way works a treat |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Apologies - got dragged away just after posting the question 
Thanks all. So the lessons are talk but not too much.
Keep a blanket for the cold feet and fill yer boots when you get there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is where I struggle....if I planned a meet in advance I would usually end up getting cold feet and cancelling
So now I tend to only meet last minute. I get bored very very quickly so I have to act on impulse these days
Exactly the same here , this way works a treat "
to be honest even a day in advance and that's me over thinking . Best times we have had is when i turn up and then realise its a meet. If i dont like someone then quick drink excuse made and leave but far better than all this silly sex talk and false flattery |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is where I struggle....if I planned a meet in advance I would usually end up getting cold feet and cancelling
So now I tend to only meet last minute. I get bored very very quickly so I have to act on impulse these days
Exactly the same here , this way works a treat to be honest even a day in advance and that's me over thinking . Best times we have had is when i turn up and then realise its a meet. If i dont like someone then quick drink excuse made and leave but far better than all this silly sex talk and false flattery "
That's an interesting thought.
Hypothetically, if you started chatting to someone but meeting just wasn't possible for a few weeks, would you then tell them to come back to you when it was more convenient for all involved? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
For me I like to build a certain level of connection and chemistry before agreeing to meet, so any meet would be after a "getting to know you" period of chatting on here anyway, as opposed to instantaneous. Once a meet has been agreed it's just a case of continuing to chat and get to know each other until it happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is where I struggle....if I planned a meet in advance I would usually end up getting cold feet and cancelling
So now I tend to only meet last minute. I get bored very very quickly so I have to act on impulse these days
Exactly the same here , this way works a treat to be honest even a day in advance and that's me over thinking . Best times we have had is when i turn up and then realise its a meet. If i dont like someone then quick drink excuse made and leave but far better than all this silly sex talk and false flattery
That's an interesting thought.
Hypothetically, if you started chatting to someone but meeting just wasn't possible for a few weeks, would you then tell them to come back to you when it was more convenient for all involved?"
pretty much yes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is where I struggle....if I planned a meet in advance I would usually end up getting cold feet and cancelling
So now I tend to only meet last minute. I get bored very very quickly so I have to act on impulse these days
Exactly the same here , this way works a treat to be honest even a day in advance and that's me over thinking . Best times we have had is when i turn up and then realise its a meet. If i dont like someone then quick drink excuse made and leave but far better than all this silly sex talk and false flattery
That's an interesting thought.
Hypothetically, if you started chatting to someone but meeting just wasn't possible for a few weeks, would you then tell them to come back to you when it was more convenient for all involved?pretty much yes. "
Ok - thanks |
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If ive become friends with someone the wait doesnt matter as they are friends and will chat regularly.
If its a random i usually like to meet about three weeks after chatting. I would lose interest any longer.
I have a friend whose a nightmare to meet but i dont mind cause they are worth it |
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"KABOOM
Are you meeting someone you've waited week's to meet?
How can you tell?  "
I do hope you're not disappointed  . I've learned from experience not to get too excited before meeting someone,although it's great when the excitement carries on after that initial face to face contact.
I miss that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"KABOOM
Are you meeting someone you've waited week's to meet?
How can you tell?
I do hope you're not disappointed . I've learned from experience not to get too excited before meeting someone,although it's great when the excitement carries on after that initial face to face contact.
I miss that "
Ive had a mix of both. And something in the middle.
Relationships can explode and turn sour.
Some can turn to a simmer and get boiling again at the drop of a text/meeting again.
Some just never drop off, the kitting carries in, the friendship and communication continues as it always was. these are the Ines I like and are drawn to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"KABOOM
Are you meeting someone you've waited week's to meet?
How can you tell?
I do hope you're not disappointed . I've learned from experience not to get too excited before meeting someone,although it's great when the excitement carries on after that initial face to face contact.
I miss that "
I know what you mean but the day I stop getting over excited is the day I take a look at all this and stop.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't say I've ever felt that level of excitement over a sex meet.
I might be way off the mark here but it sounds like a bit more than a sex meet "
In the OP's head at least. Building someone up in my head so they can only be a disappoitment
isn't something I do either - it's not fair to them |
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"This is where I struggle....if I planned a meet in advance I would usually end up getting cold feet and cancelling
So now I tend to only meet last minute. I get bored very very quickly so I have to act on impulse these days "
100% this... |
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"I can't say I've ever felt that level of excitement over a sex meet.
I might be way off the mark here but it sounds like a bit more than a sex meet
In the OP's head at least. Building someone up in my head so they can only be a disappoitment
isn't something I do either - it's not fair to them "
*Newsflash*
It's mutual |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I can't say I've ever felt that level of excitement over a sex meet.
I might be way off the mark here but it sounds like a bit more than a sex meet "
I thought they'd met before. Fail on my part. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't say I've ever felt that level of excitement over a sex meet.
I might be way off the mark here but it sounds like a bit more than a sex meet
In the OP's head at least. Building someone up in my head so they can only be a disappoitment
isn't something I do either - it's not fair to them
*Newsflash*
It's mutual "
I should bloody hope so, not interested in meeting the delusional!! |
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"KABOOM
Are you meeting someone you've waited week's to meet?
How can you tell?
I do hope you're not disappointed . I've learned from experience not to get too excited before meeting someone,although it's great when the excitement carries on after that initial face to face contact.
I miss that
I know what you mean but the day I stop getting over excited is the day I take a look at all this and stop.
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Yeah I get that,I just try and save getting over excited and nervous until after the social and I've clapped eyes on them and know I definitely want them. Saves on the disappoint I suppose.
I want to feel nervous and out of control of thing's again,because I know if I'm like that I really really like them |
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