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I just had a friend over and we got relaxed while watching a film which ended in me giving her a massage which turned to sex.
All was going really nice and well until she was about to reach a very intense climax. At which point she demanded I stop.
Was that to protect her pride? So as not to fall in love? What!!!? Somebody please tell me as it will take some time to bring the subject up and ask her. |
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Why yes, because whenever a man gives a lady an orgasm they instantly falls in love with the man. Literally EVERY time.
Maybe she was self concious? That can be a vulnerable moment and she might not have been willing to let go in front of you. She simply might not have felt comfortable enough.
Or just talk to her? If you're adult enough to have sex together then you should be adult enough to talk about it IMO. |
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Sometimes the wave simply doesn't break... You can have a really intense orgasm building and just lose it in an instant, for any number of reasons. No point in trying to get it back, once that switch is flipped the power is gone. Takes a while to recharge and be ready to start over |
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Sexual pleasure and endorphines were designed to create emotions in humans so you are playing with fire.
If you have orgasms in a 1 2 1 situation it is dangerous which is why i like groups. In a group there is no emotion, just pleasure. So let rip with the orgasm as the next guy will take you back there in a few minutes and you will all go your separate way i the end.  |
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"Op, I'm curious, do you fall in love everyone you have an intense orgasm?"
Lol no I don't. But I've had occasions where a fuckbuddy has fallen for me because of the oxytocin dosage.
It doesn't quite work the same for men as far as I'm aware. But at the same time I do know men who have fallen in love after great sex with a woman. |
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Op no idea. Ask her.. for me I don't orgasm with meets and would stop a guy if I was getting close because i feel to vulnerable. I Have to really trust someone to do that.
Doesn't mean i dont have great times but I wouldn't orgasm with a meet.. unless its over watching Mr with someone else but that's a different type of one.
Full bodu trembling leave me in a heap then nope. No way would I let a meet but normally my mind has already put the block on first so there is no worry. |
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"Why not just ask her?
We don't know her so why would we have a clue why she stopped you? "
I will. But I was just trying to coax her into going for round 2 first.
It took months to get her into bed. I Have to raise the question at the right time. |
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"Hi
I just had a friend over and we got relaxed while watching a film which ended in me giving her a massage which turned to sex.
All was going really nice and well until she was about to reach a very intense climax. At which point she demanded I stop.
Was that to protect her pride? So as not to fall in love? What!!!? Somebody please tell me as it will take some time to bring the subject up and ask her."
I can't say for sure as I don't know either of you but if you don't have the level of intimacy and trust that enables you to talk about this you don't have the level of intimacy and trust for her to relax enough to experience an intense orgasm with you. |
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"I do the same. If a feeling gets so intense that you don't know how it continues or what follows it feels the safest thing to do x"
Is there a kind of fear of something and do you know what you're afraid of if so? |
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"How do you know it was going to be an intense orgasm?
The trembling, the writhing, the gripping of the pillows etc etc...
I'm not 15."
Oh fella
I've been shaking like a shitting dog, ripping the sheets and screaming to heaven but rest assured....I wasn't afraid to fall in love. |
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"Op, I'm curious, do you fall in love everyone you have an intense orgasm?
Lol no I don't. But I've had occasions where a fuckbuddy has fallen for me because of the oxytocin dosage.
It doesn't quite work the same for men as far as I'm aware. But at the same time I do know men who have fallen in love after great sex with a woman."
I think that's more of an in the moment lust not love!!
If we ladies fell in love every time we had great sex the world would be buggered.... Literally!! |
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"Why yes, because whenever a man gives a lady an orgasm they instantly falls in love with the man. Literally EVERY time.
Maybe she was self concious? That can be a vulnerable moment and she might not have been willing to let go in front of you. She simply might not have felt comfortable enough.
Or just talk to her? If you're adult enough to have sex together then you should be adult enough to talk about it IMO."
I will in due course. I just wasn't in the position to at the time and it's not the first time.
I love talking on those levels. But I wanted to get a general consensus from a female perspective as fellas or not really that complicated or interesting to talk to. |
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"I do the same. If a feeling gets so intense that you don't know how it continues or what follows it feels the safest thing to do x
Is there a kind of fear of something and do you know what you're afraid of if so?"
I suppose it's fear as never got to that point. I have orgasms, great ones but I get to a certain point and can't carry on, at least have to slow down x |
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"How do you know it was going to be an intense orgasm?
The trembling, the writhing, the gripping of the pillows etc etc...
I'm not 15."
Or....
Maybe she didn't want to carry on anymore and was faking the enjoyment without wanting to hurt your feelings.
Like, I wasn't there I haven't got a fucking clue.
Maybe she was simply embarrassed about her cum face. Mine's horrific. |
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"How do you know it was going to be an intense orgasm?
The trembling, the writhing, the gripping of the pillows etc etc...
I'm not 15.
Or....
Maybe she didn't want to carry on anymore and was faking the enjoyment without wanting to hurt your feelings.
Like, I wasn't there I haven't got a fucking clue.
Maybe she was simply embarrassed about her cum face. Mine's horrific. "
Oh fuck have you ever filmed your cum face? I look like one of them gurners, I find a pillow hides that shit well |
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"Hi
I just had a friend over and we got relaxed while watching a film which ended in me giving her a massage which turned to sex.
All was going really nice and well until she was about to reach a very intense climax. At which point she demanded I stop.
Was that to protect her pride? So as not to fall in love? What!!!? Somebody please tell me as it will take some time to bring the subject up and ask her.
I can't say for sure as I don't know either of you but if you don't have the level of intimacy and trust that enables you to talk about this you don't have the level of intimacy and trust for her to relax enough to experience an intense orgasm with you."
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"How do you know it was going to be an intense orgasm?
The trembling, the writhing, the gripping of the pillows etc etc...
I'm not 15.
Or....
Maybe she didn't want to carry on anymore and was faking the enjoyment without wanting to hurt your feelings.
Like, I wasn't there I haven't got a fucking clue.
Maybe she was simply embarrassed about her cum face. Mine's horrific.
Oh fuck have you ever filmed your cum face? I look like one of them gurners, I find a pillow hides that shit well"
It really is enough to make you dislike yourself rather a lot ain't it. My cum face offends me. |
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"How do you know it was going to be an intense orgasm?
The trembling, the writhing, the gripping of the pillows etc etc...
I'm not 15.
Or....
Maybe she didn't want to carry on anymore and was faking the enjoyment without wanting to hurt your feelings.
Like, I wasn't there I haven't got a fucking clue.
Maybe she was simply embarrassed about her cum face. Mine's horrific.
Oh fuck have you ever filmed your cum face? I look like one of them gurners, I find a pillow hides that shit well
It really is enough to make you dislike yourself rather a lot ain't it. My cum face offends me."
I look positively angelic  |
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" I think that's more of an in the moment lust not love!!
If we ladies fell in love every time we had great sex the world would be buggered.... Literally!! "
Some can handle it some can't. I'm not referring to all women. It's not a blanket science. It's that I'm a very straight talking person. I won't lie to get in your pants.
Most ladies on here are swingers so they are not likely to be the type to fall in love after great sex. But more on the hunt for great sexual experiences and adventures. I just wanted honest opinions. Which I must say I seem to be getting. |
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"Op, I'm curious, do you fall in love everyone you have an intense orgasm?"
Oh dint be ridiculous! It's only us weak willed, doe eyed, Jane austin-esque, feeble minded women who fall in love with any man who brings us to orgasm  |
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Pass me some cutie
Careful you don't dig too deep, some cheeky devil's cut a hole in the bottom..."
You weren't afraid to shoot your load were you cutie? I can definitely FTFY |
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"*Fetches popcorn* Anyone else?
Pass me some cutie
Careful you don't dig too deep, some cheeky devil's cut a hole in the bottom...
You weren't afraid to shoot your load were you cutie? I can definitely FTFY "
I wasn't aware that I had... thought it was just your favourite tasty treat 
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"Op, I'm curious, do you fall in love everyone you have an intense orgasm?
You...you mean to say you don't? 
Oh come on, you were there to witness my moment of divine intervention weren't you? 
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"Op no idea. Ask her.. for me I don't orgasm with meets and would stop a guy if I was getting close because i feel to vulnerable. I Have to really trust someone to do that.
Doesn't mean i dont have great times but I wouldn't orgasm with a meet.. unless its over watching Mr with someone else but that's a different type of one.
Full bodu trembling leave me in a heap then nope. No way would I let a meet but normally my mind has already put the block on first so there is no worry."
May I ask what you have sex for in that case. I love making women cum and sharing that intense pleasure. I'd feel disappointed if we were having sex and I didn't make you have intense or multiple orgasms. I'd need counselling after!! Lol |
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"maybe she poops when she's cumming?
that's all i got.
Hahahaha "
I experienced that once. The person tried to pretend it was blood as they rolled it up in the sheet.
It reminded me of the film Kingpin with Woody from cheers. Can't remember his real name. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"How do you know it was going to be an intense orgasm?
The trembling, the writhing, the gripping of the pillows etc etc...
I'm not 15."
A friend does that usually before a fit, she has epilepsy.
Some women pass out at the point of orgasm.
It was only a question.
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"*Fetches popcorn* Anyone else?
Pass me some cutie
Careful you don't dig too deep, some cheeky devil's cut a hole in the bottom...
You weren't afraid to shoot your load were you cutie? I can definitely FTFY
I wasn't aware that I had... thought it was just your favourite tasty treat
Feel free to fix it though "
You're not afraid of an intense climax just in case you fall in love? |
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"How do you know it was going to be an intense orgasm?
The trembling, the writhing, the gripping of the pillows etc etc...
I'm not 15.
Oh fella
I've been shaking like a shitting dog, ripping the sheets and screaming to heaven but rest assured....I wasn't afraid to fall in love. "
That's not what you asked. You asked how I knew it was gonna be intense. I didn't say she was gonna fall in love. I was basically asking why some women are afraid of intense orgasms. I love them even the ones that give you a bad headache! |
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"*Fetches popcorn* Anyone else?
Pass me some cutie
Careful you don't dig too deep, some cheeky devil's cut a hole in the bottom...
You weren't afraid to shoot your load were you cutie? I can definitely FTFY
I wasn't aware that I had... thought it was just your favourite tasty treat
Feel free to fix it though
You're not afraid of an intense climax just in case you fall in love? "
I'll try not to catch a case of the feels
Be careful though, NorfolkCouple's having a dig too |
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"*Fetches popcorn* Anyone else?
Pass me some cutie
Careful you don't dig too deep, some cheeky devil's cut a hole in the bottom...
You weren't afraid to shoot your load were you cutie? I can definitely FTFY
I wasn't aware that I had... thought it was just your favourite tasty treat
Feel free to fix it though
You're not afraid of an intense climax just in case you fall in love?
I'll try not to catch a case of the feels
Be careful though, NorfolkCouple's having a dig too "
It's a good one this |
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"How do you know it was going to be an intense orgasm?
The trembling, the writhing, the gripping of the pillows etc etc...
I'm not 15.
A friend does that usually before a fit, she has epilepsy.
Some women pass out at the point of orgasm.
It was only a question.
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Sorry I thought you were questioning my intelligence. |
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"*Fetches popcorn* Anyone else?
Pass me some cutie
Careful you don't dig too deep, some cheeky devil's cut a hole in the bottom...
You weren't afraid to shoot your load were you cutie? I can definitely FTFY
I wasn't aware that I had... thought it was just your favourite tasty treat
Feel free to fix it though
You're not afraid of an intense climax just in case you fall in love?
I'll try not to catch a case of the feels
Be careful though, NorfolkCouple's having a dig too "
I'll be happy with your precum |
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"Could be a variety of reasons, but I very much doubt falling in love is one of them.
Have you never had what was supposed to be a casual fling go wrong because of your skills to put it bluntly?"
Lust... |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"How do you know it was going to be an intense orgasm?
The trembling, the writhing, the gripping of the pillows etc etc...
I'm not 15.
A friend does that usually before a fit, she has epilepsy.
Some women pass out at the point of orgasm.
It was only a question.
Sorry I thought you were questioning my intelligence. "
No I wouldn't do that.
I was try to get a picture of the events so I could give a sensible answer to your question of why some women are afraid of intense orgasms.
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"Op no idea. Ask her.. for me I don't orgasm with meets and would stop a guy if I was getting close because i feel to vulnerable. I Have to really trust someone to do that.
Doesn't mean i dont have great times but I wouldn't orgasm with a meet.. unless its over watching Mr with someone else but that's a different type of one.
Full bodu trembling leave me in a heap then nope. No way would I let a meet but normally my mind has already put the block on first so there is no worry.
May I ask what you have sex for in that case. I love making women cum and sharing that intense pleasure. I'd feel disappointed if we were having sex and I didn't make you have intense or multiple orgasms. I'd need counselling after!! Lol"
That's a lot of pressure on the women you have sex with. Could that be part of the problem with this lady? Could she be picking up on your dissapointment? |
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Sounds like a crazy question.....but shaking, writhing around etc....how do you know that she did not follow through and actually orgasm??!
Otherwise I would say that she didn't want to feel vulnerable, maybe she was embarrassed or over sensitive or she did not want to squirt or something!! Could be for several reasons. |
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"I have cum and passed out .... I don't do this a lot thank god .. maybe she do that too.?
Wow!! That would be such a turn on. But could be illegal to touch you while unconscious. Lol"
I have a good friend off this site who also passes out when she has an intense orgasm. She does warn beforehand it lasts only a few minutes and she needs plenty of recovery time. It's so intimate to experience it. |
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"How do you know it was going to be an intense orgasm?
The trembling, the writhing, the gripping of the pillows etc etc...
I'm not 15.
Or....
Maybe she didn't want to carry on anymore and was faking the enjoyment without wanting to hurt your feelings.
Like, I wasn't there I haven't got a fucking clue.
Maybe she was simply embarrassed about her cum face. Mine's horrific.
Oh fuck have you ever filmed your cum face? I look like one of them gurners, I find a pillow hides that shit well
It really is enough to make you dislike yourself rather a lot ain't it. My cum face offends me.
I look positively angelic "
I've never thought of doing a selfie at that point. But I think I may have to now.
I'm one of those people that chews their tongue while concentrating on a task. Many years ago in the camcorder days I found myself doing it mid session. I've been very conscious not to let that happen again. Lol |
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"*Fetches popcorn* Anyone else?
Pass me some cutie
Careful you don't dig too deep, some cheeky devil's cut a hole in the bottom...
You weren't afraid to shoot your load were you cutie? I can definitely FTFY
I wasn't aware that I had... thought it was just your favourite tasty treat
Feel free to fix it though
You're not afraid of an intense climax just in case you fall in love?
I'll try not to catch a case of the feels
Be careful though, NorfolkCouple's having a dig too
I'll be happy with your precum "
I think we all know that Pinky |
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"I have cum and passed out .... I don't do this a lot thank god .. maybe she do that too.?
Wow!! That would be such a turn on. But could be illegal to touch you while unconscious. Lol
I have a good friend off this site who also passes out when she has an intense orgasm. She does warn beforehand it lasts only a few minutes and she needs plenty of recovery time. It's so intimate to experience it."
She has to feel doubly comfortable or make sure she keeps her ID and credit cards in a secure location. Lol |
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"*Fetches popcorn* Anyone else?
Pass me some cutie
Careful you don't dig too deep, some cheeky devil's cut a hole in the bottom...
You weren't afraid to shoot your load were you cutie? I can definitely FTFY
I wasn't aware that I had... thought it was just your favourite tasty treat
Feel free to fix it though
You're not afraid of an intense climax just in case you fall in love?
I'll try not to catch a case of the feels
Be careful though, NorfolkCouple's having a dig too
I'll be happy with your precum
I think we all know that Pinky "
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"I have cum and passed out .... I don't do this a lot thank god .. maybe she do that too.?
Wow!! That would be such a turn on. But could be illegal to touch you while unconscious. Lol
I have a good friend off this site who also passes out when she has an intense orgasm. She does warn beforehand it lasts only a few minutes and she needs plenty of recovery time. It's so intimate to experience it.
She has to feel doubly comfortable or make sure she keeps her ID and credit cards in a secure location. Lol"
Think she knows what she is doing |
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"Op no idea. Ask her.. for me I don't orgasm with meets and would stop a guy if I was getting close because i feel to vulnerable. I Have to really trust someone to do that.
Doesn't mean i dont have great times but I wouldn't orgasm with a meet.. unless its over watching Mr with someone else but that's a different type of one.
Full bodu trembling leave me in a heap then nope. No way would I let a meet but normally my mind has already put the block on first so there is no worry.
May I ask what you have sex for in that case. I love making women cum and sharing that intense pleasure. I'd feel disappointed if we were having sex and I didn't make you have intense or multiple orgasms. I'd need counselling after!! Lol
That's a lot of pressure on the women you have sex with. Could that be part of the problem with this lady? Could she be picking up on your dissapointment?"
Nah I don't put any pressure on. I'm very easy going. It wasn't like that at all.
It's all good. I'm sure she'll be back. We're good friends anyway so I'll get my chance to ask soon enough. We'll have a giggle about it. |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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There was a time I'd have done the same thing. I wasn't comfortable enough with myself and was very self conscious. Certain things were pushing boundaries and I was genuinely unsure how I would react. I think it takes a lot of trust for me to really let go with someone sexually. That trust doesn't mean I will fall in love with them though!
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"Op no idea. Ask her.. for me I don't orgasm with meets and would stop a guy if I was getting close because i feel to vulnerable. I Have to really trust someone to do that.
Doesn't mean i dont have great times but I wouldn't orgasm with a meet.. unless its over watching Mr with someone else but that's a different type of one.
Full bodu trembling leave me in a heap then nope. No way would I let a meet but normally my mind has already put the block on first so there is no worry.
May I ask what you have sex for in that case. I love making women cum and sharing that intense pleasure. I'd feel disappointed if we were having sex and I didn't make you have intense or multiple orgasms. I'd need counselling after!! Lol
That's a lot of pressure on the women you have sex with. Could that be part of the problem with this lady? Could she be picking up on your dissapointment?
Nah I don't put any pressure on. I'm very easy going. It wasn't like that at all.
It's all good. I'm sure she'll be back. We're good friends anyway so I'll get my chance to ask soon enough. We'll have a giggle about it."
 But you just said you'd feel disappointed if a woman didn't come and earlier you said it would take some time before you could ask. |
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Iv had this and it's very off putting and leaves you feeling bad. Do you feel the man and that connection because you nearly got her to climax, or can it make you feel like a rapist, is it the ladie wants you to stop because she doesn't fancy You, or will she shit her self. Men aren't supposed to know. Open up and talk to us grrrrrrr!!!! |
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"Hi
I just had a friend over and we got relaxed while watching a film which ended in me giving her a massage which turned to sex.
All was going really nice and well until she was about to reach a very intense climax. At which point she demanded I stop.
Was that to protect her pride? So as not to fall in love? What!!!? Somebody please tell me as it will take some time to bring the subject up and ask her."
If you had been watching the re-make of Dirty
Dancing that could be the reason why....LOL. |
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"Op no idea. Ask her.. for me I don't orgasm with meets and would stop a guy if I was getting close because i feel to vulnerable. I Have to really trust someone to do that.
Doesn't mean i dont have great times but I wouldn't orgasm with a meet.. unless its over watching Mr with someone else but that's a different type of one.
Full bodu trembling leave me in a heap then nope. No way would I let a meet but normally my mind has already put the block on first so there is no worry.
May I ask what you have sex for in that case. I love making women cum and sharing that intense pleasure. I'd feel disappointed if we were having sex and I didn't make you have intense or multiple orgasms. I'd need counselling after!! Lol"
i enjoy sex. I Enjoy giving. 99% of men wouldn't know i didn't.. but i dont do 121 meets anyway. As dont like all this intimate stuff. |
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"Hi
I just had a friend over and we got relaxed while watching a film which ended in me giving her a massage which turned to sex.
All was going really nice and well until she was about to reach a very intense climax. At which point she demanded I stop.
Was that to protect her pride? So as not to fall in love? What!!!? Somebody please tell me as it will take some time to bring the subject up and ask her."
She probably didn't want a mess on her couch. |
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"Maybe in that actual moment she wasn't comfortable cuming that intensely.
A variety of reasons, don't ask us ask her.
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But we ask and there is no answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe in that actual moment she wasn't comfortable cuming that intensely.
A variety of reasons, don't ask us ask her.
But we ask and there is no answer"
I've been in that scenario and told the guy exactly why it wasn't comfortable for me.
He was cool about it and we had a great night.
Communication is the key... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's a fair question OP. Google 'orgasm endorphins love' and there's lots of info there. Yes it can make people feel love so it's not a dumb question!!
There are some intelligent answers in the thread.
No harm in asking - she might not be honest with you about why she stopped so it's good to read different possibilities. |
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"It's a fair question OP. Google 'orgasm endorphins love' and there's lots of info there. Yes it can make people feel love so it's not a dumb question!!
There are some intelligent answers in the thread.
No harm in asking - she might not be honest with you about why she stopped so it's good to read different possibilities. "
But isn't honestly leading to that connection and way forward . Don't lie!!! Be honest and stop making us feel bad. And single men get slated on here for not reading a profile lol |
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"It's a fair question OP. Google 'orgasm endorphins love' and there's lots of info there. Yes it can make people feel love so it's not a dumb question!!
There are some intelligent answers in the thread.
No harm in asking - she might not be honest with you about why she stopped so it's good to read different possibilities.
But isn't honestly leading to that connection and way forward . Don't lie!!! Be honest and stop making us feel bad. And single men get slated on here for not reading a profile lol"
It's a very personal thing and she might not feel comfortable telling him that's all. They aren't in a relationship. What does that have to do with profiles?
I don't have orgasms during sex and I won't explain why either. |
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"Op no idea. Ask her.. for me I don't orgasm with meets and would stop a guy if I was getting close because i feel to vulnerable. I Have to really trust someone to do that.
Doesn't mean i dont have great times but I wouldn't orgasm with a meet.. unless its over watching Mr with someone else but that's a different type of one.
Full bodu trembling leave me in a heap then nope. No way would I let a meet but normally my mind has already put the block on first so there is no worry.
May I ask what you have sex for in that case. I love making women cum and sharing that intense pleasure. I'd feel disappointed if we were having sex and I didn't make you have intense or multiple orgasms. I'd need counselling after!! Lol
That's a lot of pressure on the women you have sex with. Could that be part of the problem with this lady? Could she be picking up on your dissapointment?"
OP my wild guess is that she was thoroughly worked up but nowhere near a conventional climax. When you're with someone who is dead keen on taking you there but not hitting quite the right spots it gets more and more and more frustrating to keep going as you never get any closer. It doesn't sound like you've had the level of communication where she could tell you it wasn't working for her!
On the opposite end of the spectrum, like someone else said she may have had enough / reached satisfaction. I find this with vaginal stimulation/full body orgasms, there comes a point that I've had my fill and I don't need or want to continue. |
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"Maybe in that actual moment she wasn't comfortable cuming that intensely.
A variety of reasons, don't ask us ask her.
But we ask and there is no answer"
In our experience Night Flyer a lot of people don't want to hear honest feedback (not even when they ask) and quite as many people don't want to give it or don't know how. |
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Do ask her, when it feels right. But also wouldn't necessarily over think it. I found with a past partner there were times I had to ask him to stop because I couldn't cope with the intensity at that time, but I also told him that I'm the moment as it wasn't a bad thing. But this is why I prefer ongoing fwb rather than one offs because the more you get to know each other the better the sex potentially can get. Anyway good luck with it. |
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Another reason OP- sub drop. Look at the 'Downer after a meet' thread in Swinger's chat. Orgasm might make it worse for her so she may stop before that point to avoid it. |
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Think you've been reading too many Mills and a Boon novels.... Orgasms don't work that way. I'm guessing she's a squirted....and didn't want to ruin your sofa? |
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There could be so many reasons.
You said she was a friend, so perhaps she didn't want to cross that line.
Or, she realised that she wasn't that into you, or still had feelings for someone else.
Or, maybe she does fancy you, and needs to know that you feel the same, and not just for sex.
Communication is good. Even if it's not what you want to hear.
Staying friends may be more important, my friend. |
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"It's a fair question OP. Google 'orgasm endorphins love' and there's lots of info there. Yes it can make people feel love so it's not a dumb question!!
There are some intelligent answers in the thread.
No harm in asking - she might not be honest with you about why she stopped so it's good to read different possibilities. "
Thank you Blue Carrot. Don't worry I ignore the ignorance |
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"Do ask her, when it feels right. But also wouldn't necessarily over think it. I found with a past partner there were times I had to ask him to stop because I couldn't cope with the intensity at that time, but I also told him that I'm the moment as it wasn't a bad thing. But this is why I prefer ongoing fwb rather than one offs because the more you get to know each other the better the sex potentially can get. Anyway good luck with it. "
Thanks Rose
I'm getting somevintrtesting feedback and very little ego driven foolishness. It's quite refreshing. |
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"Think you've been reading too many Mills and a Boon novels.... Orgasms don't work that way. I'm guessing she's a squirted....and didn't want to ruin your sofa?"
Mills and Boon!! LOL
My mum used to read those. "Orgasms don't work that way" for everyone. But some women espescially FWB's can find that intimate climatic intensity overwhelming and want to move the arrangement to a more committed scenario. Whereas if you perform poorly... lol
Perhaps in your experience..  |
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"There could be so many reasons.
You said she was a friend, so perhaps she didn't want to cross that line.
Or, she realised that she wasn't that into you, or still had feelings for someone else.
Or, maybe she does fancy you, and needs to know that you feel the same, and not just for sex.
Communication is good. Even if it's not what you want to hear.
Staying friends may be more important, my friend."
Very true. I wasn't making a big deal out of it just curious because I've seen it with others and some have given various reasons. I wanted to see what others had to say on the matter and it seems there are lots of reasons for different people and scenarios. It's been interesting.
We've been friends for years and played a couple of times during the friendship. That was the first time we played while sober though. Lol |
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