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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Be told that you don't meet someone's requirements or would you rather be kept in an ignorant bliss (although you know full well what the answer is). Not just on here but general dating malarkey type things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be told that you don't meet someone's requirements or would you rather be kept in an ignorant bliss (although you know full well what the answer is). Not just on here but general dating malarkey type things. " Be told politely sorry its a no thanks.......sadly you dont get told this often so you are in a limbo ???.
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To be told. Saves a lot of time and embarrassment. Not everyone can handle being told obviously, but my standard reply when someone starts getting nasty after being given a polite 'thanks, but you're not what I'm looking for' is as follows: Would you prefer that I wasted your time for the next few weeks/months with false flattery, stringing you along to boost my own ego? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A "not for me"/"not my type" is always nicer than just nothing.
How is it nicer? I'm truly baffled by this. "
I dunno, but I've had both and that's what I prefer. I know women can't reply to every message they recieve, and I would never expect a reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be told that you don't meet someone's requirements or would you rather be kept in an ignorant bliss (although you know full well what the answer is). Not just on here but general dating malarkey type things. "
I don't message anyone who's requirements I haven't met, doesn't make any difference mind! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here I don't really care what people think so I'd rather be told when I'm not what someone is looking for so I know how to act moving forward.
But when I was dating it hurt more when people were direct about not being interested. It felt more personal when it was a dating scenario than just a sex scenario. In those cases I'd rather have the 'let down gently' approach than the 'tell it like it is' approach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can usually tell pretty fucking fast if someone is blowing cold on me / Not interested.
I move on pretty fucking fast too.
I don't need to be explicitly told. |
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over a year ago
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I'm not bothered either way. I know not everyone will like me. I'm sure there's loads of reasons. They can tell me all of them, that's fine. I can't compete so why would it hurt me that I'm not what they want. |
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