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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can't understand something and I was wondering if the group could help me. I have been married for 20 years now and since last August we haven't had sex. The reason for this is that I can't get hard with the Mrs but when I am with someone else I am fine. And can go on for ages. Any ideaas to why please |
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You are the problem if you can't get hard, she doesn't have a magic wand to get you hard. As someone else said these things tend to be a mental issue even if your not aware there's something wrong. You may have fallen out of love, or don't find her attractive anymore, even guilt of cheating can do it even if you don't know you feel guilty |
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"You are the problem if you can't get hard, she doesn't have a magic wand to get you hard. As someone else said these things tend to be a mental issue even if your not aware there's something wrong. You may have fallen out of love, or don't find her attractive anymore, even guilt of cheating can do it even if you don't know you feel guilty"
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over a year ago
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Talk to her, try spice it up maybe try something new you both would like to try spice it up etc the usal stuff.
Maybe she has a fantasy she hasent explored that would excite you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I ain't the problem if I can get hard with other women
You sure? 
I'm sure cause when I am with another women I am fine"
Sorry fella, you're missing the big picture here. |
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"Talk to her, try spice it up maybe try something new you both would like to try spice it up etc the usal stuff.
Maybe she has a fantasy she hasent explored that would excite you"
Thanks will try that |
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"Why don't you say your married in your profile?"
It's the same as a lot of married men on here, they put single because a lot of people, myself included, aren't interested in people stepping out on their other half |
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"Why don't you say your married in your profile?
It's the same as a lot of married men on here, they put single because a lot of people, myself included, aren't interested in people stepping out on their other half"
I thought my profile did say married I will get that changed now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes things get stail if you think the attractions still there explore each other wants. Am guessing your ok with new people as thats exciting so yeah talk and explore each other wants. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I ain't the problem if I can get hard with other women
So she's the problem you can't get hard? .
I don't know just need some advise"
Try closing your eyes and thinking of someone else??  |
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"Sometimes things get stail if you think the attractions still there explore each other wants. Am guessing your ok with new people as thats exciting so yeah talk and explore each other wants."
Thanks will do |
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"I ain't the problem if I can get hard with other women
So she's the problem you can't get hard? .
I don't know just need some advise"
I'm gonna stab in the dark that you have had a bit of excitement. Coz as you say, you can get hard with other women. You're probably also carrying some guilt even if you don't realise it because you've been cheating on your wife.
You don't have to be aware of issues in your mind for them to have a knock on effect to the body. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I ain't the problem if I can get hard with other women
So she's the problem you can't get hard? .
I don't know just need some advise
Try closing your eyes and thinking of someone else?? "
True could try that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I ain't the problem if I can get hard with other women
So she's the problem you can't get hard? .
I don't know just need some advise
I'm gonna stab in the dark that you have had a bit of excitement. Coz as you say, you can get hard with other women. You're probably also carrying some guilt even if you don't realise it because you've been cheating on your wife.
You don't have to be aware of issues in your mind for them to have a knock on effect to the body."
What do u suggest |
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"I ain't the problem if I can get hard with other women
So she's the problem you can't get hard? .
I don't know just need some advise
Try closing your eyes and thinking of someone else??
True could try that "
Why do you have sex with your wife? Do you love her? Fancy her? Just need to get yourself off?
Why do you have sex with other women? |
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"I ain't the problem if I can get hard with other women
So she's the problem you can't get hard? .
I don't know just need some advise
I'm gonna stab in the dark that you have had a bit of excitement. Coz as you say, you can get hard with other women. You're probably also carrying some guilt even if you don't realise it because you've been cheating on your wife.
You don't have to be aware of issues in your mind for them to have a knock on effect to the body.
What do u suggest "
I dunno. Seek counselling?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I ain't the problem if I can get hard with other women
So she's the problem you can't get hard? .
I don't know just need some advise"
Stop cheating on your wife and address the problems within your marriage maybe? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I ain't the problem if I can get hard with other women
So she's the problem you can't get hard? .
I don't know just need some advise
Stop cheating on your wife and address the problems within your marriage maybe? "
That is a good start |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell her about fab lol
I can see the divorse now if she finds out about fab"
Maybe tell her how you feel and you need sex. She maybe is on here too .. you never know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can't have much regard for your wife if you're cheating on her, blaming her for not getting a hard, and calling her 'backward'..
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Like I said in an earlier comment, bigger picture, seems to have been glossed over though  |
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