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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I've slept with a work colleague on a number of occasions and just over a week ago (whilst d*unk) we both said we think we liked eachother. Over the past couple of months she has broke up with a long term bf and then had a really bad experience with a controlling guy and so she is confused as to what she wants. What advice do people have for me? I do really like her but don't want to force her into anything or put her in a position she is uncomfortable with yet don't want to miss the opportunity. Will her feelings change about me quick i.e move on if I don't do anything? The other problem is that working together and we are both very professional and no one knows which makes it difficult as at work we just act as friends. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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Perhaps you need to think with your brain, and not your dick.
This woman has just come out of an abusive relstionship, which makes her vulnerable. Shagging you will only add to the pressures that she may already be under.
And fucking a colleague (especially a vulnerable one) could land you in trouble at work.
Do you think it might be wise to take a step back from this situation, even if only for a while. Let her sort her shit out. Be a friend. Then, maybe, if you are good, and lucky, you can both form an equal relationship.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you have slept together and work in the same office people know, they always do!
Be her friend, give her support, space and time when she needs it and when she is ready she will let you know.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tell her how you feel.
Be completely honest and tell her that you really like her too, and would like to take it a step further, but your happy to wait until she's had time to deal with recent events and get her own head straight, and can just be a friend for now.
Might also help you to understand what she's been going through as well x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Cheers all whenever we talk we are always laughing and having fun. But the previous guy was a control freak and stalker etc so get that she doesn't want to rush into anything. |
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