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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know this is a swingers site and I know we all make our own choices over what we do here, we cant control the actions of others but when sending a message or posting a thread do you take time to think about how it might impact someone else?
It makes me wonder about the crude messages or the threads singling some type of body shape or "kiss Fuck avoid". Do you ever consider the people who might not appreciate your comments or be upset to get an "avoid"?
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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to a degree. i don't post many topics anyway but have done appreciation threads for men and they got deleted coz people started going on about their own insecurities with their body type.
i do think they should remove the avoid part of kiss fuck and that, so that all are included and get to have fun in the topic. although it is funny seeing guys delete their fuck/snog comments if a guy posted quicker than they did after a lady.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In a fuck sick avoid thread no. Does anyone take that shit seriously? If anyone has ever been offended by me saying avoid 'not sorry'. Then I am actually truly sorry. I thought it was just a fun pass the time thread.
I don't really consider everything I post because I don't think I'm anything but truthfull and well balanced. If i offend anyone. I'd hope they'd tell me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I do. I'm not one for upsetting people without good reason. I'll always try and find something positive to say. As for threads picking in a particular body type or person then I find myself defending said group or individual. It's just not in me to let people get picked on for whatever reason. Unless they deserve it of course.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't take this game seriously it's just a bit of fun , if others take it seriously then it's up to them . Not everyone is for everyone , like going into a sweet shop some are tasty some are shite |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often think about whether to respond to certain posters if I feel they might have a fragile ego or anxiety about how the look.
I like to think I'm considerate (mostly) when it comes to that type of thread.
I do find the lamppost pissing type threads cringeworthy, and feel for the subjects if they've not specifically asked for the attention.
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"I know this is a swingers site and I know we all make our own choices over what we do here, we cant control the actions of others but when sending a message or posting a thread do you take time to think about how it might impact someone else?
It makes me wonder about the crude messages or the threads singling some type of body shape or "kiss Fuck avoid". Do you ever consider the people who might not appreciate your comments or be upset to get an "avoid"?
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only people who join those threads get commented on, I personally hate to see them day in day out with the same bunch of people commenting on each other, like the rest of this site the forums are not for the easily offended! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know this is a swingers site and I know we all make our own choices over what we do here, we cant control the actions of others but when sending a message or posting a thread do you take time to think about how it might impact someone else?
It makes me wonder about the crude messages or the threads singling some type of body shape or "kiss Fuck avoid". Do you ever consider the people who might not appreciate your comments or be upset to get an "avoid"?
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The amount of women and couples that have tried to hurt my feelings for sport, indicates that most people don't think about it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to avoid those types of thread for that very reason.
I aim to be polite and respectful of others thoughts and opinions. Even if their thoughts are dumb and their opinions bloody stupid. "
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If I don't think I'll like the response/lack of response, or if I'm feeling particularly 'sensitive', I don't take part in those threads. I've done my own humorous versions of them which I think people took in the spirit with which they were intended, but again, if not, it was their choice to participate...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I make a post intended to challenge conventional thinking ....
Some times I make posts intended to deflate aggressively hostile threads,,,
Sometimes I make light-hearted random posts just because I can,,,,
Sometimes I make blunt posts in response to people who intentionally
try and misinterpret what I've said in earlier posts which I usually do with an acerbic twist....
Sometimes I just babble shoite
How all that effects other members ain't too high on my agenda .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I do. I'm not one for upsetting people without good reason. I'll always try and find something positive to say. As for threads picking in a particular body type or person then I find myself defending said group or individual. It's just not in me to let people get picked on for whatever reason. Unless they deserve it of course. "
I'm very much the same. Very mindful of offending people x |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Its a forum on a swinging site, not the United Nations. If people start a fuck kiss avoid post then its for fun, not actually serious. If someone takes that sort of post seriously, then they need to look at whether they should be on a site where they may end up with a much nastier rejection off forum.
However, I will make an effort to reign in my natural exasperation with some of the dross that can be posted on here. Unfortunately I just come across as sarcastic. |
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
North of Okehampton, South of Bideford |
"I know this is a swingers site and I know we all make our own choices over what we do here, we cant control the actions of others but when sending a message or posting a thread do you take time to think about how it might impact someone else?
It makes me wonder about the crude messages or the threads singling some type of body shape or "kiss Fuck avoid". Do you ever consider the people who might not appreciate your comments or be upset to get an "avoid"?
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We are waiting for the Shoot, Stab or Drown thread to start, then it could get really offensive 
Other than that it is only a game and we all need to take a chill pill.
We are pretty sure that 99% of threads are tongue in cheek.
If someone is hyper sensitive why chose to come on a swinging site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had bad experience and since then, when I see comment from one specific user in a thread, I would never post anything there."
Sorry to hear that foxy, your a stunningly beautiful woman,di t let anybody tell you otherwise |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had bad experience and since then, when I see comment from one specific user in a thread, I would never post anything there."
Don't let them get you down, no doubt they were just jealous of your amazing pics etc. |
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Yes I do, but sometimes even the most innocent of comments can cause offence. Then again there are those who do it for sport, which in an already harsh environment isn't fun for anyone. The other category are those who just don't think or the socially inept whichever you prefer. There are a few of them, but for the most part their posts are harmless and chuckle worthy |
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
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We are waiting for the Shoot, Stab or Drown thread to start, then it could get really offensive
Please start that thread. Please, please, please. "
lol..you start it or we will shoot you first..  |
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
North of Okehampton, South of Bideford |
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We are waiting for the Shoot, Stab or Drown thread to start, then it could get really offensive
Please start that thread. Please, please, please.
Seconded!"
And lady you will second on our list |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I had bad experience and since then, when I see comment from one specific user in a thread, I would never post anything there."
I always think if people are assholes theyre always gonna be an asshole no matter how you react so I try not to let it affect me.
Dont let others change your behaviour, its letting them win x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here i pretty much just sput what i think.. i am always polite and tactile with a reply but i wont bend preferences just to please guys i may be chatting to.
Only thing i can be is honest with myself |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes I do, but sometimes even the most innocent of comments can cause offence. Then again there are those who do it for sport, which in an already harsh environment isn't fun for anyone. The other category are those who just don't think or the socially inept whichever you prefer. There are a few of them, but for the most part their posts are harmless and chuckle worthy "
Those are my favourite posts |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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We are waiting for the Shoot, Stab or Drown thread to start, then it could get really offensive
Please start that thread. Please, please, please.
Seconded!
And lady you will second on our list "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I don't think I'll like the response/lack of response, or if I'm feeling particularly 'sensitive', I don't take part in those threads. I've done my own humorous versions of them which I think people took in the spirit with which they were intended, but again, if not, it was their choice to participate... "
Yours just end up in hurt bums |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are waiting for the Shoot, Stab or Drown thread to start, then it could get really offensive
Please start that thread. Please, please, please.
lol..you start it or we will shoot you first.. "
I didn't want to claim credit for the thread, it's yours. Own it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had bad experience and since then, when I see comment from one specific user in a thread, I would never post anything there.
I always think if people are assholes theyre always gonna be an asshole no matter how you react so I try not to let it affect me.
Dont let others change your behaviour, its letting them win x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know this is a swingers site and I know we all make our own choices over what we do here, we cant control the actions of others but when sending a message or posting a thread do you take time to think about how it might impact someone else?
It makes me wonder about the crude messages or the threads singling some type of body shape or "kiss Fuck avoid". Do you ever consider the people who might not appreciate your comments or be upset to get an "avoid"?
We are waiting for the Shoot, Stab or Drown thread to start, then it could get really offensive
Other than that it is only a game and we all need to take a chill pill.
We are pretty sure that 99% of threads are tongue in cheek.
If someone is hyper sensitive why chose to come on a swinging site."
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Generally speaking I don't use the forums to meet, so I'm a lot more open and to the point about what I say as oppsosed to carefully "thinking and crafting" every single post I make.
Saying that I HAVE messaged 1 or 2 and it has literally been only 1 or 2, and I have met 1 or 2 from the forums.
When you're not trawling the forums to meet it changes how you view it and how you interact with it / people. (Trust me ...try it and see).
I'm not particularly bothered about how it looks or if it affects my chances of a forum user shagging me or not.
So generally speaking, what I post and what I say, I don't really care hows it's seen.
I wouldn't be a twat just to be a twat though. Although some do push the envelope. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll always reply to any message I get and hope that I'm always civil in my responses (but obviously I get nowhere near the level of messages most other people get).
I'm a great believer in not letting pixels on a screen or words on an internet site get to me - but I do know it can affect others adversely. Most people I'm sure are pretty decent on here so no need to 'avoid' them on one of those 'fuck, kiss, avoid' threads is there when you can opt for the fourth way and a friendly drink!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone who was bullied when I was younger, I know how damaging other's words and behaviours can be. Some people just don't think about how their actions affect others.
I've had to hold myself back from white-knighting a few times here, but I just hope that if someone posts something inconsiderate, rude or stupid, most people will just recognise it for what it is and ignore it. |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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I try and be kind in whatever I'm doing, so how I am on Fab is no different, so if it were a kiss/fuck/avoid post, I'd not post if it were an avoid.
I've only reacted negatively on the forums once and that was to a man that seems to make it his duty to be an arse on all kinds of threads, I quoted him and said 'Oh cock off' as he was being offensive and two minutes later thought better of it (*rise above *) and deleted my comment, not before someone quoted and agreed with me though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel I try to be carful with what I say and how I say things both on here and in real life. Although it's really hard and I'm left with teeth marks on my tongue sometimes.
As for the snog, fuck, avoid threads (that I'm now bored to death with and no longer play) I will wait for someone else to answer the person I want to avoid. Seeing that word avoid can be really hurtful to some people even if it is from a stranger.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had bad experience and since then, when I see comment from one specific user in a thread, I would never post anything there.
I always think if people are assholes theyre always gonna be an asshole no matter how you react so I try not to let it affect me.
Dont let others change your behaviour, its letting them win x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just to add..if this discussion is exclusively about the "one above" "Kiss / Avoid" threads. I don't post in them and never have done.
Not to be a fucking killjoy but I left School 15 years ago. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I do, but sometimes even the most innocent of comments can cause offence. Then again there are those who do it for sport, which in an already harsh environment isn't fun for anyone. The other category are those who just don't think or the socially inept whichever you prefer. There are a few of them, but for the most part their posts are harmless and chuckle worthy "
Sometimes I wonder why it can on occasion be a harsh environment. It's supposed to be a place of fun and mutual pleasure. If we are all here to enjoy the pleasure we share where is the gain to any of us if we indulge in hatefests attacking others and taking delight in the pain of others.
Where's the fun in that...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are waiting for the Shoot, Stab or Drown thread to start, then it could get really offensive
Please start that thread. Please, please, please.
lol..you start it or we will shoot you first..
I didn't want to claim credit for the thread, it's yours. Own it. "
While you guys were pussy-footing around...  |
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With "kiss, fuck avoid"...I would assume that anyone playing the game is thick skinned enough to accept an "avoid".
But whenever I write a private message to someone or write in the forums...yes I consider that I am writing to human beings who have feelings. |
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
North of Okehampton, South of Bideford |
"I know this is a swingers site and I know we all make our own choices over what we do here, we cant control the actions of others but when sending a message or posting a thread do you take time to think about how it might impact someone else?
It makes me wonder about the crude messages or the threads singling some type of body shape or "kiss Fuck avoid". Do you ever consider the people who might not appreciate your comments or be upset to get an "avoid"?
We are waiting for the Shoot, Stab or Drown thread to start, then it could get really offensive
Other than that it is only a game and we all need to take a chill pill.
We are pretty sure that 99% of threads are tongue in cheek.
If someone is hyper sensitive why chose to come on a swinging site.
Well said "
How can we be offensive to you if you agree with us...Stab Stab Stab.. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Would you say you think before you post a thread OP?
I do yes. I don't take part in the 'avoid' threads generally. I do post how I think and feel about things without trying to cause offence. But I'm fairly blunt. If it genuinely causes hurt I can acknowledge that and apologise. If they twist my words to suit their narrative, I don't give two fucks. Or any for that matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am always kind and I say what I want, you mostly get the negative people when you have a different political view and also if you talk about the situation in sweden, the pc police comes out, it doesnt bother me lol. |
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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago
Kettering |
Being an older person I do tend to think of others before I post or message anyone. Although age is just a number I never post in avoid type items as o could upset a younger lady who is not interested in a grandfatherly figure |
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I don't think I've ever seen a guy post 'avoid' under a female. I've seen plenty the other way around.
What irks me about those posts is the guys who jump in with 'avoid' under another guy. If the purpose of them is to flirt with the opposite sex then it kills it dead.
The next one should not have avoid as an option. Only post if you like the person above!  |
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By *rowleyMan
over a year ago
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"In a fuck sick avoid thread no. Does anyone take that shit seriously? If anyone has ever been offended by me saying avoid 'not sorry'. Then I am actually truly sorry. I thought it was just a fun pass the time thread.
I don't really consider everything I post because I don't think I'm anything but truthfull and well balanced. If i offend anyone. I'd hope they'd tell me. "
Some people might take it personally. You don't know how someone will react online as it's just a string of words. Some people might have low self-esteem and take a chance in posting in one of those threads, to then get a load of "avoid" or "chuck" responses can send them steps back.
Sure, the argument can be made for "why are they posting in that thread to begin with" but sometimes people just want a pick-me up and find one of those threads.
I try and treat everyone how I'd like to be treated. I have low self-esteem which is one of the reasons I don't post a face picture except to friends, and I and answer the few messages I get even if it's a "not my type, sorry". It's disheartening when I try and be a bit more courageous and send a message to get nothing back. |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"Would you say you think before you post a thread OP?
I do yes. I don't take part in the 'avoid' threads generally. I do post how I think and feel about things without trying to cause offence. But I'm fairly blunt. If it genuinely causes hurt I can acknowledge that and apologise. If they twist my words to suit their narrative, I don't give two fucks. Or any for that matter."
I really like your posting style Meli, I pretty much always agree with your eye rolls |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are waiting for the Shoot, Stab or Drown thread to start, then it could get really offensive
Please start that thread. Please, please, please.
lol..you start it or we will shoot you first..
I didn't want to claim credit for the thread, it's yours. Own it.
While you guys were pussy-footing around... "
It was amusing while it lasted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people take anything personally when it's not meant to be, that's just their make up.
I don't take things personally myself.
If someone is going to take something personally I wonder if they should be involved in what is usually a light hearted thread.
As for me declining someone's advances I do that politely and to the point. Do they then think how their aggressive response with affect me? No I don't think they do.
Does it bother me? Not even the slightest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I avoid the Kiss avoid type threads. I'm too sensitive
With regard to other threads, I don't set out to deliberately upset anybody on here. It depends what my mood is like. Sometimes i come on here when i shouldn't really.
Sometimes i see a thread topic that i would normally take in my stride and post rationally, other times i get a bit heavy handed with the indignation and upset myself and possibly others, but it's reactionary due to being hot headed. Others might just think i'm an arse. It's open to interpretation i guess.
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"Would you say you think before you post a thread OP?
I do yes. I don't take part in the 'avoid' threads generally. I do post how I think and feel about things without trying to cause offence. But I'm fairly blunt. If it genuinely causes hurt I can acknowledge that and apologise. If they twist my words to suit their narrative, I don't give two fucks. Or any for that matter.
I really like your posting style Meli, I pretty much always agree with your eye rolls "
Sometimes I think Meli is inside my head |
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By *wo-GoodCouple
over a year ago
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Always try and be polite, had the odd occasion when someone hasn't taken my polite no thankyou.Then still polite but firm. If they carry on it's a block.
I don't join in the fuck, kiss, avoid threads as I really don't like upsetting anyone.
So to answer your question, I am very aware of hurting people, it's not a nice feeling to be hurt and who knows what shit is going on in their lives and come here for some escape.Jerry xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know this is a swingers site and I know we all make our own choices over what we do here, we cant control the actions of others but when sending a message or posting a thread do you take time to think about how it might impact someone else?
It makes me wonder about the crude messages or the threads singling some type of body shape or "kiss Fuck avoid". Do you ever consider the people who might not appreciate your comments or be upset to get an "avoid"?
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I don't join them thread anymore it can be a bit of can get me down a little bit and also like you said people don't seem appreciate a "normal" compliment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are waiting for the Shoot, Stab or Drown thread to start, then it could get really offensive
Please start that thread. Please, please, please.
lol..you start it or we will shoot you first..
I didn't want to claim credit for the thread, it's yours. Own it.
While you guys were pussy-footing around...
It was amusing while it lasted. "
I'm gutted... 
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Would you say you think before you post a thread OP?
I do yes. I don't take part in the 'avoid' threads generally. I do post how I think and feel about things without trying to cause offence. But I'm fairly blunt. If it genuinely causes hurt I can acknowledge that and apologise. If they twist my words to suit their narrative, I don't give two fucks. Or any for that matter.
I really like your posting style Meli, I pretty much always agree with your eye rolls "
Thanks!
I'm trying to do less of those now but sometimes they just slip out. |
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By *rowleyMan
over a year ago
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"As someone who was bullied when I was younger, I know how damaging other's words and behaviours can be. Some people just don't think about how their actions affect others.
I've had to hold myself back from white-knighting a few times here, but I just hope that if someone posts something inconsiderate, rude or stupid, most people will just recognise it for what it is and ignore it."
I was verbally bullied by people I thought were my friends into my early 20's. Looking back on it I'd like to slap some sense into my younger self.
Thankfully those toxic element are out of my life years ago, but some of the effects are still lingering and I do my best to forget them and think how much better I am without them.
I have a good group of friends off-line that I will always make time for as they treat me like an equal and the few friends I have started to know here I will always be there for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As someone who was bullied when I was younger, I know how damaging other's words and behaviours can be. Some people just don't think about how their actions affect others.
I've had to hold myself back from white-knighting a few times here, but I just hope that if someone posts something inconsiderate, rude or stupid, most people will just recognise it for what it is and ignore it.
I was verbally bullied by people I thought were my friends into my early 20's. Looking back on it I'd like to slap some sense into my younger self.
Thankfully those toxic element are out of my life years ago, but some of the effects are still lingering and I do my best to forget them and think how much better I am without them.
I have a good group of friends off-line that I will always make time for as they treat me like an equal and the few friends I have started to know here I will always be there for."
Pretty much the same thing happened to me but in the switch from primary to secondary school. It had a huge impact on my life and it took me a loooooooong time to deal with.
I was verbally bullied and I can really appreciate the power that words have. If someone puts you down to the point where you believe in what they're saying, they are literally putting a curse on you.
But the same magic can be used in good ways too. Throw a compliment at someone and you can change their mood and elevate them.
I'm glad you have good peeps around you Crowley and that you've removed the negativity from your life. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As someone who was bullied when I was younger, I know how damaging other's words and behaviours can be. Some people just don't think about how their actions affect others.
I've had to hold myself back from white-knighting a few times here, but I just hope that if someone posts something inconsiderate, rude or stupid, most people will just recognise it for what it is and ignore it.
I was verbally bullied by people I thought were my friends into my early 20's. Looking back on it I'd like to slap some sense into my younger self.
Thankfully those toxic element are out of my life years ago, but some of the effects are still lingering and I do my best to forget them and think how much better I am without them.
I have a good group of friends off-line that I will always make time for as they treat me like an equal and the few friends I have started to know here I will always be there for.
Pretty much the same thing happened to me but in the switch from primary to secondary school. It had a huge impact on my life and it took me a loooooooong time to deal with.
I was verbally bullied and I can really appreciate the power that words have. If someone puts you down to the point where you believe in what they're saying, they are literally putting a curse on you.
But the same magic can be used in good ways too. Throw a compliment at someone and you can change their mood and elevate them.
I'm glad you have good peeps around you Crowley and that you've removed the negativity from your life. "
Also Crowley, there's always biscuits |
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By *rowleyMan
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
"As someone who was bullied when I was younger, I know how damaging other's words and behaviours can be. Some people just don't think about how their actions affect others.
I've had to hold myself back from white-knighting a few times here, but I just hope that if someone posts something inconsiderate, rude or stupid, most people will just recognise it for what it is and ignore it.
I was verbally bullied by people I thought were my friends into my early 20's. Looking back on it I'd like to slap some sense into my younger self.
Thankfully those toxic element are out of my life years ago, but some of the effects are still lingering and I do my best to forget them and think how much better I am without them.
I have a good group of friends off-line that I will always make time for as they treat me like an equal and the few friends I have started to know here I will always be there for.
Pretty much the same thing happened to me but in the switch from primary to secondary school. It had a huge impact on my life and it took me a loooooooong time to deal with.
I was verbally bullied and I can really appreciate the power that words have. If someone puts you down to the point where you believe in what they're saying, they are literally putting a curse on you.
But the same magic can be used in good ways too. Throw a compliment at someone and you can change their mood and elevate them.
I'm glad you have good peeps around you Crowley and that you've removed the negativity from your life. "
Like I said, I always try and treat people how I like to be treated and there is a smile on my face more these days than then. |
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By *rowleyMan
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
"As someone who was bullied when I was younger, I know how damaging other's words and behaviours can be. Some people just don't think about how their actions affect others.
I've had to hold myself back from white-knighting a few times here, but I just hope that if someone posts something inconsiderate, rude or stupid, most people will just recognise it for what it is and ignore it.
I was verbally bullied by people I thought were my friends into my early 20's. Looking back on it I'd like to slap some sense into my younger self.
Thankfully those toxic element are out of my life years ago, but some of the effects are still lingering and I do my best to forget them and think how much better I am without them.
I have a good group of friends off-line that I will always make time for as they treat me like an equal and the few friends I have started to know here I will always be there for.
Pretty much the same thing happened to me but in the switch from primary to secondary school. It had a huge impact on my life and it took me a loooooooong time to deal with.
I was verbally bullied and I can really appreciate the power that words have. If someone puts you down to the point where you believe in what they're saying, they are literally putting a curse on you.
But the same magic can be used in good ways too. Throw a compliment at someone and you can change their mood and elevate them.
I'm glad you have good peeps around you Crowley and that you've removed the negativity from your life.
Also Crowley, there's always biscuits "
lol
You bring the tea, I'll bring the biscuits.
And a funny aside, when I was food shopping earlier and wandered down the biscuit isle it brought a smile to my face
... I have no idea why |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As someone who was bullied when I was younger, I know how damaging other's words and behaviours can be. Some people just don't think about how their actions affect others.
I've had to hold myself back from white-knighting a few times here, but I just hope that if someone posts something inconsiderate, rude or stupid, most people will just recognise it for what it is and ignore it.
I was verbally bullied by people I thought were my friends into my early 20's. Looking back on it I'd like to slap some sense into my younger self.
Thankfully those toxic element are out of my life years ago, but some of the effects are still lingering and I do my best to forget them and think how much better I am without them.
I have a good group of friends off-line that I will always make time for as they treat me like an equal and the few friends I have started to know here I will always be there for.
Pretty much the same thing happened to me but in the switch from primary to secondary school. It had a huge impact on my life and it took me a loooooooong time to deal with.
I was verbally bullied and I can really appreciate the power that words have. If someone puts you down to the point where you believe in what they're saying, they are literally putting a curse on you.
But the same magic can be used in good ways too. Throw a compliment at someone and you can change their mood and elevate them.
I'm glad you have good peeps around you Crowley and that you've removed the negativity from your life.
Like I said, I always try and treat people how I like to be treated and there is a smile on my face more these days than then."
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I'm always mindful of what I say and how it might affect others. Not because it's a sex site forum but because I'm considerate of others. I can make my point but I don't have to be offensive to do so. Some people do take things personally but in fairness some comments are personal so you can't blame them. I also avoid threads where I'm leaving myself exposed to negativity or insults because it's just not of interest to me and not what I'm looking for. |
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
North of Okehampton, South of Bideford |
In light of last nights event in London
We realise the suggestion of maybe having a different type of thread (SUGGESTED ABOVE) will be seen as bad taste.
We apologise and take it all back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to add..if this discussion is exclusively about the "one above" "Kiss / Avoid" threads. I don't post in them and never have done.
Not to be a fucking killjoy but I left School 15 years ago.
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Exactly why i dont post in them. Also i hardly post so no one really knows me so how could they know?
If it's fab a picture or say one thing you like about their profile then yeah.
But to say you'd avoid someone publicly is pretty harsh and could lead to a few feeling upset.
Doesn't cost anything to be nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm always mindful of the threads which single people out for popularity. There are some users on here who know they're popular and will start a thread to appease their ego.
Posting-wise, I air on the side of diplomacy and I try to keep on it even if it's an issue that I'm quite passionate about. It doesn't always work though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Apart from when I'm posting my self-deprecating or other random crap, I think through what I say. It is never with the intention of hurting anyone's feelings or offending them. However I may do that or have done that in the past, particularly while trying to be funny or simply because I make errors of judgement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my coffee-deprived state I reread the topic as "Do you think about otters?"
Sometimes OP. Sometimes."
When they're just cruising around on their backs like tiny furry boats... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In light of last nights event in London
We realise the suggestion of maybe having a different type of thread (SUGGESTED ABOVE) will be seen as bad taste.
We apologise and take it all back. "
Hey dont worry about that at all. Everyone takes it for what it was at the time. Xxx |
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By *rrol.BMan
over a year ago
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"In my coffee-deprived state I reread the topic as "Do you think about otters?"
Sometimes OP. Sometimes.
When they're just cruising around on their backs like tiny furry boats... "
Cracking clams on their tummies! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm always mindful of the threads which single people out for popularity. There are some users on here who know they're popular and will start a thread to appease their ego.
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Oh those threads! They tickle me in all honesty. I like just coming in with a non-fawning post and not pandering the ego. Ergo, I'm a bitch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know this is a swingers site and I know we all make our own choices over what we do here, we cant control the actions of others but when sending a message or posting a thread do you take time to think about how it might impact someone else?
It makes me wonder about the crude messages or the threads singling some type of body shape or "kiss Fuck avoid". Do you ever consider the people who might not appreciate your comments or be upset to get an "avoid"?
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I do actually I really do and I go to lengths to ensure it.
It would be nice if the mods done this too. |
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"I'm always mindful of the threads which single people out for popularity. There are some users on here who know they're popular and will start a thread to appease their ego.
Oh those threads! They tickle me in all honesty. I like just coming in with a non-fawning post and not pandering the ego. Ergo, I'm a bitch. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In my coffee-deprived state I reread the topic as "Do you think about otters?"
Sometimes OP. Sometimes.
Me too. Especially when they hold hands 
Cuddle party!
https://youtu.be/-TY79KJiJMk"
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"I know this is a swingers site and I know we all make our own choices over what we do here, we cant control the actions of others but when sending a message or posting a thread do you take time to think about how it might impact someone else?
It makes me wonder about the crude messages or the threads singling some type of body shape or "kiss Fuck avoid". Do you ever consider the people who might not appreciate your comments or be upset to get an "avoid"?
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I've never been one for sugar coating. Plain English prevents ambiguity. I don't set out to offend, but I can't control how my message is received.
We will NEVER have universal appeal. If someone's self esteem is so low they take those ridiculous snog, fuck, avoid threads seriously they should log off and sort their head out. |
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"I know this is a swingers site and I know we all make our own choices over what we do here, we cant control the actions of others but when sending a message or posting a thread do you take time to think about how it might impact someone else?
It makes me wonder about the crude messages or the threads singling some type of body shape or "kiss Fuck avoid". Do you ever consider the people who might not appreciate your comments or be upset to get an "avoid"?
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Surely kiss ,fuck avoid is just a bit if fun?. We all know that we won't be everyone's cup of tea. It's no difference to sending a message to only get a no thank you..or even worse no reply at all. Yes it is private but you can still be upset. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my coffee-deprived state I reread the topic as "Do you think about otters?"
Sometimes OP. Sometimes.
When they're just cruising around on their backs like tiny furry boats...
Cracking clams on their tummies!"
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