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So... you're in a club.. Probably a little nervous and you see another couple or female you really fancy.. What's an acceptable way to introduce yourself...? Or let them know you want to take things beyond the occasional glance?? X |
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"So... you're in a club.. Probably a little nervous and you see another couple or female you really fancy.. What's an acceptable way to introduce yourself...? Or let them know you want to take things beyond the occasional glance?? X "
Have you considered "Hi, I'm Dan and this is Rudy. You look nice, so we thought we'd come and say hello" ?
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"So... you're in a club.. Probably a little nervous and you see another couple or female you really fancy.. What's an acceptable way to introduce yourself...? Or let them know you want to take things beyond the occasional glance?? X
Have you considered "Hi, I'm Dan and this is Rudy. You look nice, so we thought we'd come and say hello" ?
Cal"
This method works well. |
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"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.
Doesn't work as well for white single males."
It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.
Cal |
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"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.
Doesn't work as well for white single males.
It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.
Cal"
You are a couple. |
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"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.
Doesn't work as well for white single males."
Works perfectly well for some of my male friends, maybe they're just friendly. |
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"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.
Doesn't work as well for white single males.
It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.
Cal
You are a couple."
So, it's useful for single guys to know what a couple thinks. A simple, friendly approach would be welcomed by most people, regardless of gender or relationship status. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.
Doesn't work as well for white single males.
It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.
Cal
You are a couple.
So, it's useful for single guys to know what a couple thinks. A simple, friendly approach would be welcomed by most people, regardless of gender or relationship status."
What works for women and couples doesn't apply. People project negative things onto single men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to go with, hey smell this... Once it kicks in ... Captured.  "
What if a guy sticks his hand under your nose and says " smell this " you'd probably kick him in the bollocks  |
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"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.
Doesn't work as well for white single males.
It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.
Cal
You are a couple.
So, it's useful for single guys to know what a couple thinks. A simple, friendly approach would be welcomed by most people, regardless of gender or relationship status.
What works for women and couples doesn't apply. People project negative things onto single men."
That poster and us are both couples. We know how we would be happy for a single guy to approach us. Most people like friendly single guys. |
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"I tend to go with, hey smell this... Once it kicks in ... Captured.
What if a guy sticks his hand under your nose and says " smell this " you'd probably kick him in the bollocks "
No cos its my pulling trick i would look for the ropes and chains before i smelt lol |
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"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.
Doesn't work as well for white single males.
It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.
Cal
You are a couple.
So, it's useful for single guys to know what a couple thinks. A simple, friendly approach would be welcomed by most people, regardless of gender or relationship status.
What works for women and couples doesn't apply. People project negative things onto single men.
That poster and us are both couples. We know how we would be happy for a single guy to approach us. Most people like friendly single guys."
I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off
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What works for women and couples doesn't apply. People project negative things onto single men.
That poster and us are both couples. We know how we would be happy for a single guy to approach us. Most people like friendly single guys.
I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off
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That couple and us don't slag single guys off. We appreciate meeting nice guys in clubs. Why do you say that about us?
What works for you in clubs? Advice for others would be useful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What works for you in clubs? Advice for others would be useful."
I haven't been to a club (Sex Club) in 3 years.
But when I did, I was always quite up front and just spat it out it out as opposed to beat around the bush and it seemed to work out "alright". I'm not a shy person anyway.
Especially couples, because a couple I met in a club , I actually met also a few weeks later aswell and they said there is nothing more annoying for couples than a guy who is shy or skirts around it.
I've found couples generally ok at clubs, it's just on here they can be a bit funny.
I don't go to clubs anymore but this was my take on it when I did.
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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago
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"I tend to go with, hey smell this... Once it kicks in ... Captured. "
Pmsl... I was actually reading that and before I got to the end imagined you doing the playground 'smell the cheese' and then punching them in the nose. Glad you went for something more sophisticated instead!
-Matt |
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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago
Barbados |
"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off
I think a positive attitude is a good start "
This.
We play with single guys in clubs quite a lot. Recently my wife was at a club on her own and it was pretty quiet, was mainly single women and couples there. She went upstairs to find four single guys just chatting together. They'd been there most of the night. She literally dragged them downstairs and said 'you ain't going to et anywhere huddled up here in the corner on your own'.
-Matt |
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"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off
I think a positive attitude is a good start
This.
We play with single guys in clubs quite a lot. Recently my wife was at a club on her own and it was pretty quiet, was mainly single women and couples there. She went upstairs to find four single guys just chatting together. They'd been there most of the night. She literally dragged them downstairs and said 'you ain't going to et anywhere huddled up here in the corner on your own'.
-Matt"
VERY rare behaviour. I'm surprised the bouncer never threw them out for loitering. After they pay the money of course. |
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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago
Barbados |
"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off
I think a positive attitude is a good start
This.
We play with single guys in clubs quite a lot. Recently my wife was at a club on her own and it was pretty quiet, was mainly single women and couples there. She went upstairs to find four single guys just chatting together. They'd been there most of the night. She literally dragged them downstairs and said 'you ain't going to et anywhere huddled up here in the corner on your own'.
-Matt
VERY rare behaviour. I'm surprised the bouncer never threw them out for loitering. After they pay the money of course."
No, not rare at all. And I've never seen a bouncer throw someone out for it. Nor would I expect them or want them to.
-Matt |
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"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off
I think a positive attitude is a good start
This.
We play with single guys in clubs quite a lot. Recently my wife was at a club on her own and it was pretty quiet, was mainly single women and couples there. She went upstairs to find four single guys just chatting together. They'd been there most of the night. She literally dragged them downstairs and said 'you ain't going to et anywhere huddled up here in the corner on your own'.
-Matt
VERY rare behaviour. I'm surprised the bouncer never threw them out for loitering. After they pay the money of course.
No, not rare at all. And I've never seen a bouncer throw someone out for it. Nor would I expect them or want them to.
-Matt"
Not even those dastardly single men?!?!?
You are saintly, sir. |
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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago
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"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off
I think a positive attitude is a good start
This.
We play with single guys in clubs quite a lot. Recently my wife was at a club on her own and it was pretty quiet, was mainly single women and couples there. She went upstairs to find four single guys just chatting together. They'd been there most of the night. She literally dragged them downstairs and said 'you ain't going to et anywhere huddled up here in the corner on your own'.
-Matt
VERY rare behaviour. I'm surprised the bouncer never threw them out for loitering. After they pay the money of course.
No, not rare at all. And I've never seen a bouncer throw someone out for it. Nor would I expect them or want them to.
-Matt
Not even those dastardly single men?!?!?
You are saintly, sir."
I think you responses really are saying a lot more about your own feelings you are projecting. We love playing with single guys (check our veris). Most single guys we meet at clubs are fine, and then ones we know who are positive, considerate and fun seem to be knee deep in women wanting to meet them. Yes, there are the few idiots, but that is par for life.
-Matt |
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Not even those dastardly single men?!?!?
You are saintly, sir.
I think you responses really are saying a lot more about your own feelings you are projecting. We love playing with single guys (check our veris). Most single guys we meet at clubs are fine, and then ones we know who are positive, considerate and fun seem to be knee deep in women wanting to meet them. Yes, there are the few idiots, but that is par for life.
-Matt"
Same here. The single guys we've seen at clubs who are friendly and socialise (ie the majority) all have a great time.
There arw the odd ones who stick in a corner etc but on the whole everybody has a great time.
In the non-virtual world there is no men/women/couples antagonism. It is something that a small minority of people like to peddle on here for some reason. |
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By *im_66Woman
over a year ago
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"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.
Doesn't work as well for white single males."
OMG whiny single males...
Grrr...
We were sat at Quest chatting about nothing to another couple and this single guy came and sat in the middle of us and said absolutely nothing for at least 20 mins!
When the other couple asked if we wanted to go to a room his face was a picture!!
If only he'd tried to join the conversation or introduced himself he'd have been invited to join us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off
I think a positive attitude is a good start
This.
We play with single guys in clubs quite a lot. Recently my wife was at a club on her own and it was pretty quiet, was mainly single women and couples there. She went upstairs to find four single guys just chatting together. They'd been there most of the night. She literally dragged them downstairs and said 'you ain't going to et anywhere huddled up here in the corner on your own'.
-Matt
VERY rare behaviour. I'm surprised the bouncer never threw them out for loitering. After they pay the money of course.
No, not rare at all. And I've never seen a bouncer throw someone out for it. Nor would I expect them or want them to.
-Matt
Not even those dastardly single men?!?!?
You are saintly, sir."
Have you ever actually ventured into a club? You may be surprised, it's not the same as website warriors when you talk to real people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My top tip for single men is; smile!
I've seen so many single guys whizzing around looking for where 'it's happening ' with grumpy faces.
Smile fellas. Slow down. Say 'hi' ffs. |
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"My top tip for single men is; smile!
I've seen so many single guys whizzing around looking for where 'it's happening ' with grumpy faces.
Smile fellas. Slow down. Say 'hi' ffs. "
Spot on. |
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"My top tip for single men is; smile!
I've seen so many single guys whizzing around looking for where 'it's happening ' with grumpy faces.
Smile fellas. Slow down. Say 'hi' ffs.
Spot on. "
Used to drive me and my wife nuts. She'd see a guy she wanted and I'd almost have to trip him up to stop him flying past to engage him in a brief conversation before she wrapped her legs around him.  |
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Last time I was in a club someone thought I had a tag on. That got the conversation going. I was putting my key around my ankle lol. Ending well though.  |
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"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.
Doesn't work as well for white single males."
it works fine for us if that's what we are looking for. |
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"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.
Doesn't work as well for white single males.
It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.
Cal
You are a couple."
I mean that it has worked with us... for single guys.
Cal |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I wear a kilt... Regularly asked what's under it... My answer of "do you have warm hands?" is a great ice breaker "
Warm hands would be more of an ice melter than breaker, I'd have thought.
When I used to go to clubs as a couple, I found it was just a matter of saying hello and chatting. If nothing happens then you've had a chat. If you're on the same wavelength for the night then it's off for a bit of privacy.
The other way was to just start with each other and see who wants to join in.
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"So... you're in a club.. Probably a little nervous and you see another couple or female you really fancy.. What's an acceptable way to introduce yourself...? Or let them know you want to take things beyond the occasional glance?? X "
To go back on point, come on over and talk to us. We'll talk to anyone when we're out n about. Nerves are ok, let the people you approach know that and they can react accordingly. |
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"My top tip for single men is; smile!
I've seen so many single guys whizzing around looking for where 'it's happening ' with grumpy faces.
Smile fellas. Slow down. Say 'hi' ffs.
Spot on. "
Just trying to get this back to the spirt of the original post - thanks for this thread. As a single bloke who visited a club last night - I really wish I'd smiled more. And followed up returned smiles! To be honest it was my first visit to a club and I was terrified! There seemed to be some lovely couples there and I don't think I came across as friendly, probably just awkward - my fault, or more precisely my nerves fault entirely. Next time I'll take your advice - relax, smile, say hi.
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"My top tip for single men is; smile!
I've seen so many single guys whizzing around looking for where 'it's happening ' with grumpy faces.
Smile fellas. Slow down. Say 'hi' ffs.
Spot on.
Just trying to get this back to the spirt of the original post - thanks for this thread. As a single bloke who visited a club last night - I really wish I'd smiled more. And followed up returned smiles! To be honest it was my first visit to a club and I was terrified! There seemed to be some lovely couples there and I don't think I came across as friendly, probably just awkward - my fault, or more precisely my nerves fault entirely. Next time I'll take your advice - relax, smile, say hi.
Ta!"
Believe me. It works. Relax and be friendly xx |
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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago
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My advice.
Smile, be confident, say "hi" and introduce yourself.
Don't Ignore the guy, compliment the woman, be genuine and relax. Also, don't stick around like a bad smell, and cramp their style, speak for a while and say that you'd love to play a bit later if they'd be interested. Take it from there.
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