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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have just realised it's been over 2 months since I last had sex :/
I've been busy/away most weekends so not really had much opertunities but also had plenty of time to make some and not done so.
Just not been bothered and hadn't realised how long it had been.
Anyone else get periods where they just don't think about/bother with sex?
Haven't even been waking either lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You're permanently asleep, that's why  "
Oh god its getting bad when people from the Internet are saying this too now isn't it :p
I did sleep 16 hours on the bank holiday money though lol |
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"You're permanently asleep, that's why
Oh god its getting bad when people from the Internet are saying this too now isn't it :p
I did sleep 16 hours on the bank holiday money though lol"
I was joking because you put "Haven't even been waking either lol."
If you're off sex and sleeping a lot then something might be wrong. Have you got a lot of stress or pressure to deal with? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I havnt had sex for about 15 months and i dont even miss it,thats loss of labido for you
Libido even*"
I have found that the longer you go, the easier it gets to manage without sex. I was celibate for 14 years but the first 18 months were a battle with my libido.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I havnt had sex for about 15 months and i dont even miss it,thats loss of labido for you
Libido even*
I have found that the longer you go, the easier it gets to manage without sex. I was celibate for 14 years but the first 18 months were a battle with my libido.
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I have no interest in sex whatsoever it doesnt enter my head,am i bothered? No not at all,it hasnt altered my life |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I havnt had sex for about 15 months and i dont even miss it,thats loss of labido for you
Libido even*
I have found that the longer you go, the easier it gets to manage without sex. I was celibate for 14 years but the first 18 months were a battle with my libido.
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Out if curiosity why?
I can understand not having sex because you don't really fancy it but I can't understand having a battle with yourself to avoid it? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I havnt had sex for about 15 months and i dont even miss it,thats loss of labido for you
Libido even*
I have found that the longer you go, the easier it gets to manage without sex. I was celibate for 14 years but the first 18 months were a battle with my libido.
I have no interest in sex whatsoever it doesnt enter my head,am i bothered? No not at all,it hasnt altered my life"
So it was all flummery about my cleavage then?  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I havnt had sex for about 15 months and i dont even miss it,thats loss of labido for you
Libido even*
I have found that the longer you go, the easier it gets to manage without sex. I was celibate for 14 years but the first 18 months were a battle with my libido.
Out if curiosity why?
I can understand not having sex because you don't really fancy it but I can't understand having a battle with yourself to avoid it?"
I decided to take a year out after a particular bad break up/life events and realisation that I was making pretty bad sexual choices.
Life got busy in that year (you can get such a lot done when you don't have to deal with engaging someone for sex) and the busyness meant I couldn't find anyone in the year after my planned year. Suddenly 14 years had gone by.
I still battle with my libido as bad sex is worse than no sex at all.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Two months 
It's been seven months. Bad break up in November & only one person's really interested me since."
I have a very short attention span, 2 months is like a decade to normal people :p
...ooo shiney! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Two months
It's been seven months. Bad break up in November & only one person's really interested me since.
I have a very short attention span, 2 months is like a decade to normal people :p
...ooo shiney!"
Is that an implication that I'm not normal or that you're not normal?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i really dont want this to sound, nor is it meant to be, patronising...but thats a few weeks..a few weeks! at your age i would have thought that was an issue...but really..it's not...and as said above no sex is better than crap sex...i had lot of crap sex in my 20's because i thought at least i was having sex. you always come across on here as a mature,articulate and humorous man..don't think a few weeks of no sex is an issue..especially if you're single..it really is'nt..wait for good sex not just any sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i really dont want this to sound, nor is it meant to be, patronising...but thats a few weeks..a few weeks! at your age i would have thought that was an issue...but really..it's not...and as said above no sex is better than crap sex...i had lot of crap sex in my 20's because i thought at least i was having sex. you always come across on here as a mature,articulate and humorous man..don't think a few weeks of no sex is an issue..especially if you're single..it really is'nt..wait for good sex not just any sex."
I've gone far longer (well over a year) but that was when I was ill.
It's not an issue as in "omg I need sex" more just I was surprised that's been been two months and my reaction is "oh yeah...should probably change that but I can't be arsed".
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i really dont want this to sound, nor is it meant to be, patronising...but thats a few weeks..a few weeks! at your age i would have thought that was an issue...but really..it's not...and as said above no sex is better than crap sex...i had lot of crap sex in my 20's because i thought at least i was having sex. you always come across on here as a mature,articulate and humorous man..don't think a few weeks of no sex is an issue..especially if you're single..it really is'nt..wait for good sex not just any sex.
I've gone far longer (well over a year) but that was when I was ill.
It's not an issue as in "omg I need sex" more just I was surprised that's been been two months and my reaction is "oh yeah...should probably change that but I can't be arsed".
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i don't see that as a problem...you've been busy, you have a life..and if you're single,i think more credit to you not just getting laid just to scratch an itch for want of a better term..you'll bump into someone on here, or out there that suddenly sparks something soon enough.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I havnt had sex for about 15 months and i dont even miss it,thats loss of labido for you
Libido even*
I have found that the longer you go, the easier it gets to manage without sex. I was celibate for 14 years but the first 18 months were a battle with my libido.
I have no interest in sex whatsoever it doesnt enter my head,am i bothered? No not at all,it hasnt altered my life
So it was all flummery about my cleavage then? "
God no! Great tits,iv just had a wank looking at them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can quite easily go without sex, I'm unsure why others feel it's a big deal... 
Same here"
me too! i have no idea how half these people on here have the time anyway! i don't have a bloody spare minute to do anything other than work or sleep let alone get laid most of the time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can quite easily go without sex, I'm unsure why others feel it's a big deal...
Same here
me too! i have no idea how half these people on here have the time anyway! i don't have a bloody spare minute to do anything other than work or sleep let alone get laid most of the time!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perplexes me why people are on a sex site if they aren't interested in sex."
oh im very interested in it...but only if i think it's going to be good...don't have the time to have it just for the sake of it |
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We're complex creatures and our sex drive is but a part of who we are. It's normal to have some variation and if we're busy and have other priorities, we can almost find it disappearing at times. If I go a week or so without then I become overly driven towards replenishment in most instances - but will also go longer without. If single then nobody else is left affected |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can quite easily go without sex, I'm unsure why others feel it's a big deal...
Same here
me too! i have no idea how half these people on here have the time anyway! i don't have a bloody spare minute to do anything other than work or sleep let alone get laid most of the time!"
I don't think people are getting laid most of the time. They're getting laid inbetween all of life stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've gone 6 years before because life was busy, I was single and the longer it went , the less bothered I was. It's not a bad thing to have other priorities. Like someone above said bad sex is worse than no sex.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hear what your saying op. Yes, I've had these moments. It all depends if someone has my attention. If not it turns to other things i.e./work/music/life.
My mojo comes and goes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I turn mine on and off now if there is no 'outlet' for it. I did find last week's hot weather and being naked outside gave me the raging horn. But I've switched it off again as sex isn't on the agenda at the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hear what your saying op. Yes, I've had these moments. It all depends if someone has my attention. If not it turns to other things i.e./work/music/life.
My mojo comes and goes. "
Is that why you're in the lost and found cupboard alot?? Looking for your mojo? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went a long time without sex and even longer without kissing, because my husband didn't want to touch me. I crave intimacy and the feeling of someone close to my skin, not so much the sex part. |
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By *rowleyMan
over a year ago
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"I've gone 6 years before because life was busy, I was single and the longer it went , the less bothered I was. It's not a bad thing to have other priorities. Like someone above said bad sex is worse than no sex.
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I'm always worried that I'dd give bad sex  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I've gone 6 years before because life was busy, I was single and the longer it went , the less bothered I was. It's not a bad thing to have other priorities. Like someone above said bad sex is worse than no sex.
I'm always worried that I'dd give bad sex "
It's a two way process. It's why I don't do quickies with unknowns one to one, and get accused of being a timewaster. I'll happily take the risk in a club situation but I'm fussier about more personal meets.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hear what your saying op. Yes, I've had these moments. It all depends if someone has my attention. If not it turns to other things i.e./work/music/life.
My mojo comes and goes.
Is that why you're in the lost and found cupboard alot?? Looking for your mojo? "
Yes. It's in here somewhere. I'll find it quicker if someone helped me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the more i have the more i want "
The same goes for the less you have the less you want.. or at least the less you think about sex.. well thats for me anyone.. maybe not everyone
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"I hear what your saying op. Yes, I've had these moments. It all depends if someone has my attention. If not it turns to other things i.e./work/music/life.
My mojo comes and goes.
Is that why you're in the lost and found cupboard alot?? Looking for your mojo?
Yes. It's in here somewhere. I'll find it quicker if someone helped me. "
Ahemmmmm  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have just realised it's been over 2 months since I last had sex :/
I've been busy/away most weekends so not really had much opertunities but also had plenty of time to make some and not done so.
such a waste... when you do it will be like a fountain
Just not been bothered and hadn't realised how long it had been.
Anyone else get periods where they just don't think about/bother with sex?
Haven't even been waking either lol."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So libido now seems back with full force annoying just after my social life had gone from consisting of the playstation and a take away at weekends. Probably being busy every weekend till the end of august :/.
I am now conciousness aware I can feel my bollocks. Like a very mild blue balls sensation.
On the plus side got a new motorbike so a bit more mobile again. But no one is free during the day lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So libido now seems back with full force annoying just after my social life had gone from consisting of the playstation and a take away at weekends. Probably being busy every weekend till the end of august :/.
I am now conciousness aware I can feel my bollocks. Like a very mild blue balls sensation.
On the plus side got a new motorbike so a bit more mobile again. But no one is free during the day lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So libido now seems back with full force annoying just after my social life had gone from consisting of the playstation and a take away at weekends. Probably being busy every weekend till the end of august :/.
I am now conciousness aware I can feel my bollocks. Like a very mild blue balls sensation.
On the plus side got a new motorbike so a bit more mobile again. But no one is free during the day lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So libido now seems back with full force annoying just after my social life had gone from consisting of the playstation and a take away at weekends. Probably being busy every weekend till the end of august :/.
I am now conciousness aware I can feel my bollocks. Like a very mild blue balls sensation.
On the plus side got a new motorbike so a bit more mobile again. But no one is free during the day lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even if I don't have sex I always orgasm twice a day
Can't help it
Lot to do with my imagination
Always when I wake up and before I sleep
Just love orgasms |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Even if I don't have sex I always orgasm twice a day
Can't help it
Lot to do with my imagination
Always when I wake up and before I sleep
Just love orgasms"
While I find a wank relives some tension it doesn't provide anything like the benifits of sex.
If I have sex in the morning I feel much better throughout the day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I havnt had sex for about 15 months and i dont even miss it,thats loss of labido for you
Libido even*
I have found that the longer you go, the easier it gets to manage without sex. I was celibate for 14 years but the first 18 months were a battle with my libido.
I have no interest in sex whatsoever it doesnt enter my head,am i bothered? No not at all,it hasnt altered my life"
Maybe if you found a person you liked things may change . |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm currently nearing the 4 months without purely because I can't find someone I'm interested in, I don't think I'm missing out on much though 
I know what this is like... And you will be the worst in the world for admitting it... The outcry of 'but there must be hundreds of men willing to sleep with you' starts, and guys who have offered and been turned down will sulk or turn nasty. I simply can't have sex with someone though simply to fulfil a biological need... I need a connection... Otherwise I'm quite happy to stay home with my wand or my rabbit - they keep going until I'm satisfied, they don't care if I've a bit of pre-wax fuzz, and I don't have to feel bad falling asleep right after "
I hear ya! Yeap that is exactly the same as my situation, I'd rather go without than compromise, most men in my area just want to fuck and go, and I don't have sex like that, so yes if I want or need a quick release I have my wand, plus I don't need to feel attracted to it |
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