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Is there anything more insulting?
You've had the social... Its all gone well... There's talk of a follow-up...
Then they post an 'anyone free to meet tonight?' status... And then text you at 2am looking for a hook-up when nobody else has taken the bait. I've unfriended and blocked 2 recently for doing just this  |
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"Is there anything more insulting?
You've had the social... Its all gone well... There's talk of a follow-up...
Then they post an 'anyone free to meet tonight?' status... And then text you at 2am looking for a hook-up when nobody else has taken the bait. I've unfriended and blocked 2 recently for doing just this "
Think I would too  |
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"Is there anything more insulting?
You've had the social... Its all gone well... There's talk of a follow-up...
Then they post an 'anyone free to meet tonight?' status... And then text you at 2am looking for a hook-up when nobody else has taken the bait. I've unfriended and blocked 2 recently for doing just this "
If we have a meet without a social first, we'd normally plan it to be near or at a club, then if we dont click... there's other options.
Cal (Still in sunny Crete)  |
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"Hasn't happened to me but I gone off people who said they don't have the time to meet and then get verified by a couple of people."
I'd be there with you on that one too... If you can't make time for me, you're not worth mine   |
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"Is there anything more insulting?
You've had the social... Its all gone well... There's talk of a follow-up...
Then they post an 'anyone free to meet tonight?' status... And then text you at 2am looking for a hook-up when nobody else has taken the bait. I've unfriended and blocked 2 recently for doing just this
If we have a meet without a social first, we'd normally plan it to be near or at a club, then if we dont click... there's other options.
Cal (Still in sunny Crete) "
I think the club as a back-up plan in case things don't work out is acceptable. Not quite the same thing....
Did you say you were in Crete? I must have missed that earlier....  |
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"It's very annoying, x "
Tbh Angie I'm rapidly losing faith here.... I've had months of users (great coffee... Now, can you get me on the list for a club?), stand-ups (my battery died and I couldn't tell you I wasn't coming), indecisive head-wreckers (I really like you, but I don't really know if I'm ready to meet someone/there's someone else I like more), and then there's the downright bemusing (I'd an amazing time, so wonderfully rare, but my wife won't let me meet you again).
I seem to be rolling my eyes on a constant basis |
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"It's very annoying, x
Tbh Angie I'm rapidly losing faith here.... I've had months of users (great coffee... Now, can you get me on the list for a club?), stand-ups (my battery died and I couldn't tell you I wasn't coming), indecisive head-wreckers (I really like you, but I don't really know if I'm ready to meet someone/there's someone else I like more), and then there's the downright bemusing (I'd an amazing time, so wonderfully rare, but my wife won't let me meet you again).
I seem to be rolling my eyes on a constant basis "
I do the eye rolling often  |
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"It's very annoying, x
Tbh Angie I'm rapidly losing faith here.... I've had months of users (great coffee... Now, can you get me on the list for a club?), stand-ups (my battery died and I couldn't tell you I wasn't coming), indecisive head-wreckers (I really like you, but I don't really know if I'm ready to meet someone/there's someone else I like more), and then there's the downright bemusing (I'd an amazing time, so wonderfully rare, but my wife won't let me meet you again).
I seem to be rolling my eyes on a constant basis "
Now that's an unfortunate series of events |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Is there anything more insulting?
You've had the social... Its all gone well... There's talk of a follow-up...
Then they post an 'anyone free to meet tonight?' status... And then text you at 2am looking for a hook-up when nobody else has taken the bait. I've unfriended and blocked 2 recently for doing just this "
I need to understand this you've met, there is talk of a follow up .... when? Whenever? Is the guy (I assume), not free to look to look to meet if you have finished your social.
I'd think the late night text is him being horny and not having the sense to not text his new found flame. |
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I think I'd like to have harsh words with all these men you ladies are talking about, they need to see the error of their ways. I would then introduce them to some complete gentleman and tell them to watch and bloody well learn |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I think I'd like to have harsh words with all these men you ladies are talking about, they need to see the error of their ways. I would then introduce them to some complete gentleman and tell them to watch and bloody well learn "
What if your complete gentlemen are those men to other women though? Playing devil's advocate but it could well be the case. |
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"Is there anything more insulting?
You've had the social... Its all gone well... There's talk of a follow-up...
Then they post an 'anyone free to meet tonight?' status... And then text you at 2am looking for a hook-up when nobody else has taken the bait. I've unfriended and blocked 2 recently for doing just this "
Why are you insulted ? Because they didn't pick you first ? Because they text you at 2 a.m. ?
There are worse insults. They could have NOT text you at all or worse.....gave up sex altogether |
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"I think I'd like to have harsh words with all these men you ladies are talking about, they need to see the error of their ways. I would then introduce them to some complete gentleman and tell them to watch and bloody well learn
What if your complete gentlemen are those men to other women though? Playing devil's advocate but it could well be the case."
Oh god that would make me really sad, I hope I'm not wrong about any of them. I can only speak as I find and I'm sure there is mutual respect with whom ever they are in contact with  |
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"Hasn't happened to me. But then I don't talk to many"
Actually on reflection I think they would know better than to text me at 2am...unless I'm up and d*unken chatting with them |
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"Is there anything more insulting?
You've had the social... Its all gone well... There's talk of a follow-up...
Then they post an 'anyone free to meet tonight?' status... And then text you at 2am looking for a hook-up when nobody else has taken the bait. I've unfriended and blocked 2 recently for doing just this
Why are you insulted ? Because they didn't pick you first ? Because they text you at 2 a.m. ?
There are worse insults. They could have NOT text you at all or worse.....gave up sex altogether "
The implication being that when they post their status update at pm 'anyone' would be preferable, but at 2am desperation sets in... |
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"Is there anything more insulting?
You've had the social... Its all gone well... There's talk of a follow-up...
Then they post an 'anyone free to meet tonight?' status... And then text you at 2am looking for a hook-up when nobody else has taken the bait. I've unfriended and blocked 2 recently for doing just this "
It's like you're on a reserve list, so if they cannot get any better, they feel they can fall back on you. |
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"Is there anything more insulting?
You've had the social... Its all gone well... There's talk of a follow-up...
Then they post an 'anyone free to meet tonight?' status... And then text you at 2am looking for a hook-up when nobody else has taken the bait. I've unfriended and blocked 2 recently for doing just this
It's like you're on a reserve list, so if they cannot get any better, they feel they can fall back on you."
Exactly!!! I did explain this to them in very simple terms before I told them they'd blown any chance of ever meeting me again, and they were both surprised - neither of them thought about it from the other side. I asked them if any of the other ladies they had met before had reacted similarly when texted or called under the same circumstances.... And they both admitted that others had simply blocked them without explanation and they never knew why.... I could almost hear the lightbulbs coming on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is there anything more insulting?
You've had the social... Its all gone well... There's talk of a follow-up...
Then they post an 'anyone free to meet tonight?' status... And then text you at 2am looking for a hook-up when nobody else has taken the bait. I've unfriended and blocked 2 recently for doing just this "
I don't see the issue with having a social with someone getting along and talk of arranging another meet. Then putting up a meet me now option, it's not like you were going to play with them that night is it?
I do see your point about the cheeky fucker then texting later asking for a hook up, when he knew you wasn't going to be playing |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Hasn't happened to me. But then I don't talk to many
Actually on reflection I think they would know better than to text me at 2am..."
^^^This, anyone who has met and knows me, would never dare text me for a booty call at 2am   |
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"Is there anything more insulting?
You've had the social... Its all gone well... There's talk of a follow-up...
Then they post an 'anyone free to meet tonight?' status... And then text you at 2am looking for a hook-up when nobody else has taken the bait. I've unfriended and blocked 2 recently for doing just this
It's like you're on a reserve list, so if they cannot get any better, they feel they can fall back on you.
Exactly!!! I did explain this to them in very simple terms before I told them they'd blown any chance of ever meeting me again, and they were both surprised - neither of them thought about it from the other side. I asked them if any of the other ladies they had met before had reacted similarly when texted or called under the same circumstances.... And they both admitted that others had simply blocked them without explanation and they never knew why.... I could almost hear the lightbulbs coming on "
Lightbulbs came on. Bless 'em. Hope you also heard the sound of their cocks shrivelling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it. |
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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it."
I wouldn't say this is true for every person on here.
For me it's that person I want to meet not just to meet to fuck anyone. So if it doesn't work out with them for whatever reason I don't have someone else immeadiately waiting in the wings! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's very annoying, x
Tbh Angie I'm rapidly losing faith here.... I've had months of users (great coffee... Now, can you get me on the list for a club?), stand-ups (my battery died and I couldn't tell you I wasn't coming), indecisive head-wreckers (I really like you, but I don't really know if I'm ready to meet someone/there's someone else I like more), and then there's the downright bemusing (I'd an amazing time, so wonderfully rare, but my wife won't let me meet you again).
I seem to be rolling my eyes on a constant basis "
Hope I haven't fallen into any of those categories |
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I'd like to add that this isn't an exclusive male thing. There are many women doing it. Had it happen a few times in the past couple of months.... had a 3some being planned and last minute was told couldn't do it only to find out it happened .... then they offered again. Kinda felt like used goods. I politely refused. |
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it.
I wouldn't say this is true for every person on here.
For me it's that person I want to meet not just to meet to fuck anyone. So if it doesn't work out with them for whatever reason I don't have someone else immeadiately waiting in the wings!"
Generally speaking and all things being equal, I'm the same. But I also realise life happens and people cancel for whatever reason.
Having a back up plan stops the weekend (I only meet on weekends) going up in smoke and being completely wasted.
That's my logic. |
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it."
But that's exactly the difference.  Discretion. |
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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it.
I wouldn't say this is true for every person on here.
For me it's that person I want to meet not just to meet to fuck anyone. So if it doesn't work out with them for whatever reason I don't have someone else immeadiately waiting in the wings!
Generally speaking and all things being equal, I'm the same. But I also realise life happens and people cancel for whatever reason.
Having a back up plan stops the weekend (I only meet on weekends) going up in smoke and being completely wasted.
That's my logic. "
I can understand your logic, especially when time is precious for meets and I'm sure there's lots of people that do this. I just disagree that everyone does this as speaking personally I don't. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it.
But that's exactly the difference. Discretion."
Nice boots! And yes, it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never have a back up plan, I can't because it takes so bloody long to find someone I want to have sex with. Everything needs to be right, penis, height, facial attractiveness, personality, bum hole, eyebrows. Then I've got to be in the mood as well.
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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago
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"I never have a back up plan, I can't because it takes so bloody long to find someone I want to have sex with. Everything needs to be right, penis, height, facial attractiveness, personality, bum hole, eyebrows. Then I've got to be in the mood as well.
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it.
I wouldn't say this is true for every person on here.
For me it's that person I want to meet not just to meet to fuck anyone. So if it doesn't work out with them for whatever reason I don't have someone else immeadiately waiting in the wings!
Generally speaking and all things being equal, I'm the same. But I also realise life happens and people cancel for whatever reason.
Having a back up plan stops the weekend (I only meet on weekends) going up in smoke and being completely wasted.
That's my logic.
I can understand your logic, especially when time is precious for meets and I'm sure there's lots of people that do this. I just disagree that everyone does this as speaking personally I don't. "
I'm with Red on this one... I put considerable effort and time into getting to know someone and if I'm meeting them the meet will be planned and 'tailored' to our shared tastes... I think I've mentioned once or twice before on different threads that I don't do hook-ups... My meets always have a 'date-like' quality, and having planned and looked forward to sharing that time and experience with a particular person, I could never just substitute one person for another |
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By *iss.RedWoman
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it.
I wouldn't say this is true for every person on here.
For me it's that person I want to meet not just to meet to fuck anyone. So if it doesn't work out with them for whatever reason I don't have someone else immeadiately waiting in the wings!
Generally speaking and all things being equal, I'm the same. But I also realise life happens and people cancel for whatever reason.
Having a back up plan stops the weekend (I only meet on weekends) going up in smoke and being completely wasted.
That's my logic.
I can understand your logic, especially when time is precious for meets and I'm sure there's lots of people that do this. I just disagree that everyone does this as speaking personally I don't.
I'm with Red on this one... I put considerable effort and time into getting to know someone and if I'm meeting them the meet will be planned and 'tailored' to our shared tastes... I think I've mentioned once or twice before on different threads that I don't do hook-ups... My meets always have a 'date-like' quality, and having planned and looked forward to sharing that time and experience with a particular person, I could never just substitute one person for another "
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I arranged a social with a local single woman a while ago, had been chatting a while, text, calls etc, agreed to meet up and was stood up. "Meh, it happens" I think. Go to drop her a message the next day and noticed she had received and given a veri to another single guy instead of meeting me. So looks like I was the back up plan! Lol |
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"I arranged a social with a local single woman a while ago, had been chatting a while, text, calls etc, agreed to meet up and was stood up. "Meh, it happens" I think. Go to drop her a message the next day and noticed she had received and given a veri to another single guy instead of meeting me. So looks like I was the back up plan! Lol "
That happens too... Although when it does it tends to be that they've met someone more 'conveniently' located and were just too damn lazy to travel |
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"Hasn't happened to me but I gone off people who said they don't have the time to meet and then get verified by a couple of people."
I expect some people think that of us, but I think it can be fair comment. If we're meeting someone new and they're not in the same town it takes time and planning to get to the meet stage which we might not have at that moment. But we have met people who are very local to us where last minute meets are easy and take less time and planning. So we might say no to someone we haven't met before but then display a veri from someone else. |
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"Hasn't happened to me but I gone off people who said they don't have the time to meet and then get verified by a couple of people.
I expect some people think that of us, but I think it can be fair comment. If we're meeting someone new and they're not in the same town it takes time and planning to get to the meet stage which we might not have at that moment. But we have met people who are very local to us where last minute meets are easy and take less time and planning. So we might say no to someone we haven't met before but then display a veri from someone else."
Surely a couple's back up plan is each other |
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"I arranged a social with a local single woman a while ago, had been chatting a while, text, calls etc, agreed to meet up and was stood up. "Meh, it happens" I think. Go to drop her a message the next day and noticed she had received and given a veri to another single guy instead of meeting me. So looks like I was the back up plan! Lol
That happens too... Although when it does it tends to be that they've met someone more 'conveniently' located and were just too damn lazy to travel "
Thats often a thing I guess, although was traveling close to her. |
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"This seriously happens? Fuck!"
No.... Making it all up for the hell of it...
Yes, it happens... I seem to be having a rather crappy six month streak of bad luck and trouble... The question of quitting has been hanging over me a lot lately... |
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"This seriously happens? Fuck!
No.... Making it all up for the hell of it...
Yes, it happens... I seem to be having a rather crappy six month streak of bad luck and trouble... The question of quitting has been hanging over me a lot lately... "
As I can't message you privately I'll have to say this here... you should never be a back up plan... you are far to lovely for that xxx |
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"Its never happened to me yet...but been on the recieving end of abuse from guys for meeting others instead of them. "
Nothing to do with the thread but...
Your profile says: "I do have face pics but not on here"
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it.
I wouldn't say this is true for every person on here.
For me it's that person I want to meet not just to meet to fuck anyone. So if it doesn't work out with them for whatever reason I don't have someone else immeadiately waiting in the wings!
Generally speaking and all things being equal, I'm the same. But I also realise life happens and people cancel for whatever reason.
Having a back up plan stops the weekend (I only meet on weekends) going up in smoke and being completely wasted.
That's my logic.
I can understand your logic, especially when time is precious for meets and I'm sure there's lots of people that do this. I just disagree that everyone does this as speaking personally I don't. "
I don't as I feel it's disrespectful. If I sensed I was a back up I wouldn't accept being second best and politely say no thank you. I value myself and the other person I'm meeting more than offering seconds or being seconds. I know why people do it but I wouldn't meet the and most likely never meet them either. |
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"This seriously happens? Fuck!
No.... Making it all up for the hell of it...
Yes, it happens... I seem to be having a rather crappy six month streak of bad luck and trouble... The question of quitting has been hanging over me a lot lately... "
Think it's been a rather common thing the past 6 months especially over here as you've pointed out. |
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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it.
I wouldn't say this is true for every person on here.
For me it's that person I want to meet not just to meet to fuck anyone. So if it doesn't work out with them for whatever reason I don't have someone else immeadiately waiting in the wings!
Generally speaking and all things being equal, I'm the same. But I also realise life happens and people cancel for whatever reason.
Having a back up plan stops the weekend (I only meet on weekends) going up in smoke and being completely wasted.
That's my logic.
I can understand your logic, especially when time is precious for meets and I'm sure there's lots of people that do this. I just disagree that everyone does this as speaking personally I don't.
I don't as I feel it's disrespectful. If I sensed I was a back up I wouldn't accept being second best and politely say no thank you. I value myself and the other person I'm meeting more than offering seconds or being seconds. I know why people do it but I wouldn't meet the and most likely never meet them either."
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan."
Pfft - speak for yourself. We don't all treat people like disposable toys.
"For me it's that person I want to meet not just to meet to fuck anyone. So if it doesn't work out with them for whatever reason I don't have someone else immeadiately waiting in the wings!
Generally speaking and all things being equal, I'm the same. But I also realise life happens and people cancel for whatever reason.
Having a back up plan stops the weekend (I only meet on weekends) going up in smoke and being completely wasted. "
If my own plans are scuppered, for whatever reason, I can always find something else to do - but never someONE.
"I'm with Red on this one... I put considerable effort and time into getting to know someone and if I'm meeting them the meet will be planned and 'tailored' to our shared tastes... I think I've mentioned once or twice before on different threads that I don't do hook-ups... My meets always have a 'date-like' quality, and having planned and looked forward to sharing that time and experience with a particular person, I could never just substitute one person for another "
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By (user no longer on site)
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@ Vectored Thrust.
If you're going to quote me that's fine, but please quote my entire post for context and don't just chop the most pertinent bit off.
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it.
I wouldn't say this is true for every person on here.
For me it's that person I want to meet not just to meet to fuck anyone. So if it doesn't work out with them for whatever reason I don't have someone else immeadiately waiting in the wings!
Generally speaking and all things being equal, I'm the same. But I also realise life happens and people cancel for whatever reason.
Having a back up plan stops the weekend (I only meet on weekends) going up in smoke and being completely wasted.
That's my logic.
I can understand your logic, especially when time is precious for meets and I'm sure there's lots of people that do this. I just disagree that everyone does this as speaking personally I don't.
I don't as I feel it's disrespectful. If I sensed I was a back up I wouldn't accept being second best and politely say no thank you. I value myself and the other person I'm meeting more than offering seconds or being seconds. I know why people do it but I wouldn't meet the and most likely never meet them either.
Me too "
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it."
I don't. Well not another Fabber anyway.
When I agree to meet someone on any particular day it's them and them only I'm planning to meet. If they pull out for whatever reason then there's no meet for me that night.
Plan B is a night in at home. Or a drive out etc. But no speed dial to someone else.
That's not to say I haven't had different meets with different people diarised on different days. But on that day my attention is on the person I'm meeting and them alone! |
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"Its never happened to me yet...but been on the recieving end of abuse from guys for meeting others instead of them.
Nothing to do with the thread but...
Your profile says: "I do have face pics but not on here" havent updated since pics been put on
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"Its never happened to me yet...but been on the recieving end of abuse from guys for meeting others instead of them.
Nothing to do with the thread but...
Your profile says: "I do have face pics but not on here" havent updated since pics been put on
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I like your pics. |
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it.
I don't. Well not another Fabber anyway.
When I agree to meet someone on any particular day it's them and them only I'm planning to meet. If they pull out for whatever reason then there's no meet for me that night.
Plan B is a night in at home. Or a drive out etc. But no speed dial to someone else.
That's not to say I haven't had different meets with different people diarised on different days. But on that day my attention is on the person I'm meeting and them alone! "
...and your balloon... Obvs!! but I agree... If someone cancels on me, I sigh, change my clothes, throw my hair into a ponytail, unpack the picnic and scoff the lot myself!! I may also mutter and grumble about a 'waste of a good waxing' |
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"Hasn't happened to me but I gone off people who said they don't have the time to meet and then get verified by a couple of people.
I expect some people think that of us, but I think it can be fair comment. If we're meeting someone new and they're not in the same town it takes time and planning to get to the meet stage which we might not have at that moment. But we have met people who are very local to us where last minute meets are easy and take less time and planning. So we might say no to someone we haven't met before but then display a veri from someone else.
Surely a couple's back up plan is each other "
I wasn't commenting on back up plans, was replying to the comment about people saying they get excuses about not having time to meet then people making the excuses getting a veri from somewhere else. Nothing to do with back up plans and everything to do with practicalities. |
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"@ Vectored Thrust.
If you're going to quote me that's fine, but please quote my entire post for context and don't just chop the most pertinent bit off.
Ta. "
I chopped off your third line, because it assumed your preceeding statement to be factual truth, which it clearly was not.
The discarded sentence lacked validity and was therefore not in the least bit pertinent. |
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"@ Vectored Thrust.
If you're going to quote me that's fine, but please quote my entire post for context and don't just chop the most pertinent bit off.
Ta.
I chopped off your third line, because it assumed your preceeding statement to be factual truth, which it clearly was not.
The discarded sentence lacked validity and was therefore not in the least bit pertinent."
No. You chopped off my 3rd line because it suited you to do it.
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I've thought about it and it's NOT an insult.
Unless you want it to be.
It COULD be that the 'bloke' wants women of different flavours. He had one he liked one night but wants something else the next night.
When he can't get something different he messages to see if he can have something he knows he likes.
It'd be an insult if it was your boyfriend or your husband ......... but not on a N.S.A swingers site where people aren't necessarily looking for regular fb's ...... you know ...... they are escaping the same ole same ole.
Sometimes taking umbrage and being insulted, offended and outraged makes you worse off.
Don't be insulted. It's not worth it.
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it."
True that. If my fave fuck doesn't respond at 2am, I text Plan B, C then D.
Tend to end up with zilch though, before putting a meet request up on here! |
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I don't mind not being a first choice. If I'm in the mood to fuck and can get there I will. Most of my men know I can't usually meet at the drop of a hat, so I don't get many last minute messages (still get some though). I have, on many occasions, had more than one man ask to meet on the same day. I have to choose, and if they can't make it I will message the other/s to see if they're free. It's not that I value one man over the other, I like them all. I decide depending on different factors, which could be distance or what kind of sex they give me. |
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it.
True that. If my fave fuck doesn't respond at 2am, I text Plan B, C then D.
Tend to end up with zilch though, before putting a meet request up on here!"
Ah... But that's my point... You text asking and exhaust all avenues before you put up a meet request |
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"I don't mind not being a first choice. If I'm in the mood to fuck and can get there I will. Most of my men know I can't usually meet at the drop of a hat, so I don't get many last minute messages (still get some though). I have, on many occasions, had more than one man ask to meet on the same day. I have to choose, and if they can't make it I will message the other/s to see if they're free. It's not that I value one man over the other, I like them all. I decide depending on different factors, which could be distance or what kind of sex they give me. "
Again... You message and ask... You make them know they are wanted. You don't post a meet request/'anyone up for' status and then text someone 12 hours later as an afterthought when nobody replies to your request. There's the difference |
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"This isn't going to be a popular thing to say but I'm gonna say it anyway because it's the truth..
EVERY single guy (and probably girl aswell) on here has a backup plan.
The difference is, I just wouldn't shout about it or be a cunt about it.
True that. If my fave fuck doesn't respond at 2am, I text Plan B, C then D.
Tend to end up with zilch though, before putting a meet request up on here!
Ah... But that's my point... You text asking and exhaust all avenues before you put up a meet request"
I had exactly this with a guy on here last night (banged him a few times on his old profile). He'd text earlier in the day saying he was back on Fab and had messaged me on his new profile, which I just deleted as he hadn't sent a pic and had a new name etc.
Then later on I see he puts a meet request up and I suddenly see his pics, recognising him in the process.
I text him to say jokingly 'I'm insulted you didn't ask me' and he claims he was just trying to get me to notice him!! Talk about games!
Men have a load of reasons why they put meets up and mostly it's down to attention. Women too in all honestly and I hold my hands up! |
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