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over a year ago
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when i was a kid i was taught how to be independant, from a young age i ironed my own clothes, was taught to cook, and expected to help with all chores around the house
so when we had children i did the same with them especially with them being boys i wanted to make sure they could opperate the washing machine and use an iron knowing their future wives would thank me one day
so when picking up our son today after the first 7 weeks of his basic training with the army and listening to the instructors banging on about how much of a change we will see in them being more self sufficient especially how they can now iron and they will suddenly want to iron their own stuff once they get home made me smile, he has always ironed all his own clothes from the age of 11, in fact he is the only member of our household that irons everything the rest just iron what really needs it, lazy i know 
so my point in all this garble is are kids molly coddled these days or are the army mistaken in thinking they couldn't look after themselves prior to arriving there? |
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looking as my nephews and neices I would say that some are and some aren't. We don't do them or ourselves any favours mollycoddling them in my humble opinion. |
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I think most are nowadays. I think it comes from spending too long at home. All my siblings & myself had left before we were 21. Now, often due to the current times, they are still there being looked after into their 30's! |
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"I think most are nowadays. I think it comes from spending too long at home. All my siblings & myself had left before we were 21. Now, often due to the current times, they are still there being looked after into their 30's!"
our oldest is 21 and shows no inclination to move out which i can't grasp as i left at 16 but yet i don't look after him, for want of a better phrase, he washes his own clothes, does chores round the house and willingly cooks family meals when i can't no idea how we are going to get the bugger to move out 
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Callum moved in with his dad at 16 but they have only ever really been flat sharers. Hes always done everything himself. But strangely when he comes visit now i molly coddle him more than ive ever done. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I think most are nowadays. I think it comes from spending too long at home. All my siblings & myself had left before we were 21. Now, often due to the current times, they are still there being looked after into their 30's!
our oldest is 21 and shows no inclination to move out which i can't grasp as i left at 16 but yet i don't look after him, for want of a better phrase, he washes his own clothes, does chores round the house and willingly cooks family meals when i can't no idea how we are going to get the bugger to move out
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All I can say is good for you! And yes they are mollycoddled, especially from Scottish mothers lol But saying that my mum is dying to get rid of my younger brothers and I can't see them moving out anytime soon....I was on my own from age 16 as well  |
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"Callum moved in with his dad at 16 but they have only ever really been flat sharers. Hes always done everything himself. But strangely when he comes visit now i molly coddle him more than ive ever done."
oh how funny thats so true
i haven't tidied the boys rooms since they were old enough to do it themselves yet i maade sure his room was tidy,washed his clothes left in his wash basket n put them away, changed his sheets and made him cheesecake, its been a long 7 weeks and i wanted to spoil him then the little sod came in threw his bag on his bed scoffed the cheesecake n buggered off into town to get pissed without even really noticing more excited to see his mates than his poor ole momma  |
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"when i was a kid i was taught how to be independant, from a young age i ironed my own clothes, was taught to cook, and expected to help with all chores around the house
so when we had children i did the same with them especially with them being boys i wanted to make sure they could opperate the washing machine and use an iron knowing their future wives would thank me one day
so when picking up our son today after the first 7 weeks of his basic training with the army and listening to the instructors banging on about how much of a change we will see in them being more self sufficient especially how they can now iron and they will suddenly want to iron their own stuff once they get home made me smile, he has always ironed all his own clothes from the age of 11, in fact he is the only member of our household that irons everything the rest just iron what really needs it, lazy i know
so my point in all this garble is are kids molly coddled these days or are the army mistaken in thinking they couldn't look after themselves prior to arriving there?"
I spent two and a half years as a recruit intructor, and I can tell you that the "Nintendo generation" as we dubbed them are, for the most part, fekkin useless!!
One complained, after two hours of being shown how to iron some of his kit, that he couldnt get the iron to heat up.
I looked at the iron, then the plug, and said perhaps he ought to turn the fekkin thing on at the wall, he promptly asked where the switch was!!!
Another, who claimed to be completely "house trained" was asked to show the rest how to "run a duster" over the room.... he grabbed the duster with a confused look, but fair do's, he ran quite fast!!!!!
One muppet lasted about 15 seconds after getting off the bus before brreaking down crying, I only shouted at him a litlle bit honest... he then sobbed that he would be telling his mum on me!!!
One bimbo turned up in high heels, fake tan, miniskirt etc etc and when she was told to change into something more suitable came back...... in a different pair of heels!!! Turns out she had 6 pairs of heels, a pair of flip flops and no trainers, cos she "didnt do running" !!!!
My "yardstick" for a soldier is simple.... would I want them watching my back in a firefight?
Surprisingly some of these "wunderkind" actually turned out ok, but many failed miserably lol! |
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One Scottish mother here who raised her kids to be self sufficient. They kept their rooms clean and cooked and helped with washing, ironing, chores etc.
Only exception was my youngest, but he lost his dad when he was five and was my main carer aged seven when I was ill for 18 months.
He had to be persuaded by myself and a child psychologist to stop being the 'man of the house' and learn to be a kid again.
He still washes and irons his own clothes though and will never go hungry as long as he knows how to switch on a cooker! |
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"when i was a kid i was taught how to be independant, from a young age i ironed my own clothes, was taught to cook, and expected to help with all chores around the house
so when we had children i did the same with them especially with them being boys i wanted to make sure they could opperate the washing machine and use an iron knowing their future wives would thank me one day
so when picking up our son today after the first 7 weeks of his basic training with the army and listening to the instructors banging on about how much of a change we will see in them being more self sufficient especially how they can now iron and they will suddenly want to iron their own stuff once they get home made me smile, he has always ironed all his own clothes from the age of 11, in fact he is the only member of our household that irons everything the rest just iron what really needs it, lazy i know
so my point in all this garble is are kids molly coddled these days or are the army mistaken in thinking they couldn't look after themselves prior to arriving there?
I spent two and a half years as a recruit intructor, and I can tell you that the "Nintendo generation" as we dubbed them are, for the most part, fekkin useless!!
One complained, after two hours of being shown how to iron some of his kit, that he couldnt get the iron to heat up.
I looked at the iron, then the plug, and said perhaps he ought to turn the fekkin thing on at the wall, he promptly asked where the switch was!!!
Another, who claimed to be completely "house trained" was asked to show the rest how to "run a duster" over the room.... he grabbed the duster with a confused look, but fair do's, he ran quite fast!!!!!
One muppet lasted about 15 seconds after getting off the bus before brreaking down crying, I only shouted at him a litlle bit honest... he then sobbed that he would be telling his mum on me!!!
One bimbo turned up in high heels, fake tan, miniskirt etc etc and when she was told to change into something more suitable came back...... in a different pair of heels!!! Turns out she had 6 pairs of heels, a pair of flip flops and no trainers, cos she "didnt do running" !!!!
My "yardstick" for a soldier is simple.... would I want them watching my back in a firefight?
Surprisingly some of these "wunderkind" actually turned out ok, but many failed miserably lol!"
actually i can believe all of that our lad has told many a tale of being exasperated by some of the other recruits there to start with
although i'm certain he will also feature in someone elses tale of "OMG you will never believe this one guy..........." i may of taught him to be self sufficient but he sure ain't perfect  |
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good to see others are also teaching self sufficiency
it is making me wonder if the forces feature in these families that do
although hubby and i weren't in the forces we do come from families where they feature heavily, my parents both were and hubbies grandparents were and many uncles aunts and cousins were/are so is this why we were both brought up to look after ourselves and then in turn our children or is it pure coincidence??? |
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IMHO, based on what I can observed at work, most of the time, the ones that leave knives/forks/spoons in the sink without washing them, or can't be bothered to put them in the dishwasher, are the younger ones who are still living at home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"good to see others are also teaching self sufficiency
it is making me wonder if the forces feature in these families that do
although hubby and i weren't in the forces we do come from families where they feature heavily, my parents both were and hubbies grandparents were and many uncles aunts and cousins were/are so is this why we were both brought up to look after ourselves and then in turn our children or is it pure coincidence???"
Long line of Forces families here, although both my parents were civilians when us kids came along.
Myself and ex husband were also forces until my elder two kids were senior school age.
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