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That awkward face pic exchange
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm sure other people have experienced it. You chat to someone having not seen their face, then the inevitable face pic exchange and it goes quiet, or you're the one not knowing how to let the other person down.
I'm sure it would be a bit of a kick in the balls but would you rather be told straight or left to make up a reason in your own mind? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm sure other people have experienced it. You chat to someone having not seen their face, then the inevitable face pic exchange and it goes quiet, or you're the one not knowing how to let the other person down.
I'm sure it would be a bit of a kick in the balls but would you rather be told straight or left to make up a reason in your own mind?"
A simple, not my type, works well. Believe me I've gotten enough of them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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But if you've been chatting for a while and got on well, then you see a face pic, and decide 'I'm not really into you now', doesn't it make it a bit awkward?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But if you've been chatting for a while and got on well, then you see a face pic, and decide 'I'm not really into you now', doesn't it make it a bit awkward?
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No, I have to fancy someone facially for it to go any further. I've done it a few times and women have done it to me a lot 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think really everyone appreciates honesty, but I remember it always made me feel a bit shallow letting someone down.
Luckily for me I only come on here to forum chat so I don't have to devastate the ladies on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But if you've been chatting for a while and got on well, then you see a face pic, and decide 'I'm not really into you now', doesn't it make it a bit awkward?
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Not if you are adult about it. I get turned down a lot but shrug and accept it. I would not like to feel that anyone is obligated to meet even if we have been chatting for ages.
I get the hint when things go quiet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate the face picture exchange its always so awkward. it's far better for me if they just delete the message and have no further contact. I would do the same. No hard feelings as we are both strangers after all.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There has to be attraction and there has to be honesty. If I'm not attracted to someone I just tell them that they are not for me.
A few weeks ago, I received a fantastic message. Well written, witty and when I looked at the profile I thought, gosh he sounds the perfect meet. He was fairly local too. I messaged back and asked for a face pic which he duly sent. I was so flipping disappointed as he was, let's say, not terribly good looking, pretty scary! I told him straight... Not attracted to you, sorry. He thanked me for my time! I felt bad  But better to be honest and not rude. |
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I had a social recently and told him in the bar that I would not want to take it further. And he kind of suggested that it would have been nicer to tell him in a message than to his face? I don't know which one is better now... |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"The body from baywatch face from crimewatch scenario happens, it's why doggy style exists."
Nah, I just leave my hair down on meets and it acts as a curtain to hide my hideousness. Doggy style's also not that useful when you're facing a mirror and can see someone's tragically gurning face thrusting away behind you. |
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"The body from baywatch face from crimewatch scenario happens, it's why doggy style exists.
Nah, I just leave my hair down on meets and it acts as a curtain to hide my hideousness. Doggy style's also not that useful when you're facing a mirror and can see someone's tragically gurning face thrusting away behind you."
I solve that by wearing an old hockey mask. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The body from baywatch face from crimewatch scenario happens, it's why doggy style exists.
Nah, I just leave my hair down on meets and it acts as a curtain to hide my hideousness. Doggy style's also not that useful when you're facing a mirror and can see someone's tragically gurning face thrusting away behind you."
I stick a sensory deprivation hood on them. Tight. |
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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle |
I do find it awkward which is why I now ask for a face pic with first message unless there's already one on public display.
When I send a face pic then I'd rather be told if I'm not their type. It saves me messaging them in the future. |
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By *wo-GoodCouple
over a year ago
South London |
I always ask for a face pic early on and explain there has to be a connection. Goes for both sides, I totally understand if people aren't attracted to me , everyone has different tastes. So get it out of the way early so no awkwardness. Only problem I've had is liking the face pic, initial messaging then they turn creepy. Still got someone on my friends list who I haven't the heart to tell as we have chatted for a while, but like I said turned creepy. I will do it, just need to get enough courage to say we have different interests. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What about mid meet? I remember years ago on a vanilla night out going home with a girl and kind of sobering up and thinking, "I don't fancy this girl". Next morning trying to sneak out and the doors were locked, got busted trying to escape |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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i think if you tell someone they aren't your type after seeing a face pic that person is gonna know you found them facially unattractive.
i just block them, much easier. and then i remember never to chat to guys without pics ever again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But if you've been chatting for a while and got on well, then you see a face pic, and decide 'I'm not really into you now', doesn't it make it a bit awkward?
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yup.. so now we always ask straight off x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm sure other people have experienced it. You chat to someone having not seen their face, then the inevitable face pic exchange and it goes quiet, or you're the one not knowing how to let the other person down.
I'm sure it would be a bit of a kick in the balls but would you rather be told straight or left to make up a reason in your own mind?"
Tricky for women sending 'not my type' messages..
They get stroppy/whinging/angry reokies apparently |
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"The body from baywatch face from crimewatch scenario happens, it's why doggy style exists.
Nah, I just leave my hair down on meets and it acts as a curtain to hide my hideousness. Doggy style's also not that useful when you're facing a mirror and can see someone's tragically gurning face thrusting away behind you.
I solve that by wearing an old hockey mask. "
I tend to wear a Halloween mask!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it's that hard to just say that the person isn't my type after exchanging face pics. It's not all that awkward.
Having been on the receiving end of a post-face-pic-exchange 'no thanks', as well as a block, and just a blank, I can say that I prefer the 'no thanks' but that really none of the scenarios bother me and my ugly mug.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't see why it would be awkward, you just say thanks it's been lovely chatting but unfortunately you aren't for me, we are all adults after all  "
This works for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah it's not hard at all, thanks for the message but your not for us
You have to accept you aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea, send face pictures and either they say no or delete you just crack on and look for the next hot profile to knock you back  |
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"I'm sure other people have experienced it. You chat to someone having not seen their face, then the inevitable face pic exchange and it goes quiet, or you're the one not knowing how to let the other person down.
I'm sure it would be a bit of a kick in the balls but would you rather be told straight or left to make up a reason in your own mind?"
Yep - I agree it can be awkward - which is the principal reason I often have my face pics on show - ergo if the don't fancy me then they don't message me - simple!
If you look like your profile pic though I can't see an issue! You're cute! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But if you've been chatting for a while and got on well, then you see a face pic, and decide 'I'm not really into you now', doesn't it make it a bit awkward?
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Sorry but what's the point in chatting for a while if you don't know what they look like? Surely this exercise is a pointless waste of time, if your aim is to meet/have sex ultimately? I know some people are happy to chat away to headless profiles but if you get it out of the away initially, this would avoid wasting time? Just thinking out loud, sorry! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think it's that hard to just say that the person isn't my type after exchanging face pics. It's not all that awkward.
Having been on the receiving end of a post-face-pic-exchange 'no thanks', as well as a block, and just a blank, I can say that I prefer the 'no thanks' but that really none of the scenarios bother me and my ugly mug. "
You're welcome to send it to me  .
And to answer OPs question, I would prefer to be blocked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I ask for a face pic with the first or at the very least second message, so I don't chat without knowing what the guy looks like.
I also reply with a polite 'not for me' if I don't find him attractive enough to consider meeting - never a block or ignore (unless the accompanying message is crude) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do the face pic exchange straight away before you get into chatting. It's the worst thing in the world telling someone they aren't your type and would hate someone to say it to me but I try and say it in the nicest way possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guess I shouldn't have a face pic as profile pic. Play my hand too early lol. Cock pics always seem to be popular though  "
Not with me they're not. Face pics all
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"Guess I shouldn't have a face pic as profile pic. Play my hand too early lol. Cock pics always seem to be popular though "
You can never have enough cock picks, that's the golden rule of getting meets on fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to send a face picture early on as I find that there definitely has to be attraction there. I prefer people to say I'm not their type rather than just leaving it. In return I do like a face picture in my box early in the chatting and then I can see if I'd be attracted to that person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like to send a face picture early on as I find that there definitely has to be attraction there. I prefer people to say I'm not their type rather than just leaving it. In return I do like a face picture in my box early in the chatting and then I can see if I'd be attracted to that person. "
...or couple  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like to send a face picture early on as I find that there definitely has to be attraction there. I prefer people to say I'm not their type rather than just leaving it. In return I do like a face picture in my box early in the chatting and then I can see if I'd be attracted to that person.
...or couple "
of course |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First time in 7 years I've had a message deleted and I sent face pics and it was my first message to them! It's embarrassing I'm hoping it's cos I asked them for a penis picture rather than repulsing them! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"First time in 7 years I've had a message deleted and I sent face pics and it was my first message to them! It's embarrassing I'm hoping it's cos I asked them for a penis picture rather than repulsing them!"
I'm getting mixed messages from you women! Thought penis pics were a big no no!?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"First time in 7 years I've had a message deleted and I sent face pics and it was my first message to them! It's embarrassing I'm hoping it's cos I asked them for a penis picture rather than repulsing them!
I'm getting mixed messages from you women! Thought penis pics were a big no no!? "
Some do some don't. The profile will usually tell you if they want them or not. Like my profile states that I want penis pictures. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"First time in 7 years I've had a message deleted and I sent face pics and it was my first message to them! It's embarrassing I'm hoping it's cos I asked them for a penis picture rather than repulsing them!
I'm getting mixed messages from you women! Thought penis pics were a big no no!?
Some do some don't. The profile will usually tell you if they want them or not. Like my profile states that I want penis pictures. "
Eww no one wants to see a pensioners leg pointing at them through the screen |
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