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"big nono to bareback for me too many sti's between sexual health checks" Totally agree protection a must | |||
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"I cannot comprehend why people would have unprotected sex, especially on a swingers website. " Neither can I,but I have done a couple of time's | |||
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"Genuine question for the OP You're totally honest and open about getting through several guys in these van meets, presumably a lot are bareback? All behind your husbands back. Do you actually have a plan for how you'd deal with catching something that the odds are you'll pass on to your husband? Not trying to be malicious genuinely curious as I think eventually anyone who plays like this is going to get caught out this way. " That's been my thoughts as well. | |||
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"Genuine question for the OP You're totally honest and open about getting through several guys in these van meets, presumably a lot are bareback? All behind your husbands back. Do you actually have a plan for how you'd deal with catching something that the odds are you'll pass on to your husband? Not trying to be malicious genuinely curious as I think eventually anyone who plays like this is going to get caught out this way. That's been my thoughts as well." have reg health checks I guess | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeks" every few weeks | |||
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"Genuine question for the OP You're totally honest and open about getting through several guys in these van meets, presumably a lot are bareback? All behind your husbands back. Do you actually have a plan for how you'd deal with catching something that the odds are you'll pass on to your husband? Not trying to be malicious genuinely curious as I think eventually anyone who plays like this is going to get caught out this way. That's been my thoughts as well. have reg health checks I guess" If I were you I'd start having them now. | |||
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"Genuine question for the OP You're totally honest and open about getting through several guys in these van meets, presumably a lot are bareback? All behind your husbands back. Do you actually have a plan for how you'd deal with catching something that the odds are you'll pass on to your husband? Not trying to be malicious genuinely curious as I think eventually anyone who plays like this is going to get caught out this way. That's been my thoughts as well. have reg health checks I guess" So you and the men you have sex with have regular health checks? | |||
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"Genuine question for the OP You're totally honest and open about getting through several guys in these van meets, presumably a lot are bareback? All behind your husbands back. Do you actually have a plan for how you'd deal with catching something that the odds are you'll pass on to your husband? Not trying to be malicious genuinely curious as I think eventually anyone who plays like this is going to get caught out this way. That's been my thoughts as well. have reg health checks I guess So you and the men you have sex with have regular health checks? " When I was having sex I would go every 3 months. Its free, and its the responsible thing to do, whether you use condoms or not. | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeksevery few weeks " A health check is pointless if you've already caught something... It's like "well done, this month your a winner!"....that's a no from me | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeksevery few weeks " but it can take some time for hiv to show up. | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeksevery few weeks A health check is pointless if you've already caught something... It's like "well done, this month your a winner!"....that's a no from me " At least the GUM clinic will help you treat any infection, usually for free. I've never had to pay for the metronidazole they give me every time I get yet another BV attack, anyway. | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeksevery few weeks A health check is pointless if you've already caught something... It's like "well done, this month your a winner!"....that's a no from me " you catch things even with condoms and i think regular health checks are a great idea coz if you do have something you can get it sorted better than damamging other people as some diseases are fatal and some can make others infertile. and thats passing it on even with protection involved | |||
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"I won't lie...I prefer a saddle to bareback. Don't get me wrong, sometimes it's good to kick your heels in and pull on the mane but even so I'd go with the saddle on a day to day basis for better control" So that bulge in you pants was just sugar lumps...... now it all makes sense | |||
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"I won't lie...I prefer a saddle to bareback. Don't get me wrong, sometimes it's good to kick your heels in and pull on the mane but even so I'd go with the saddle on a day to day basis for better control So that bulge in you pants was just sugar lumps...... now it all makes sense " . I always keep a large carrot handy! Although if struggling I find they go for a butterd nuts just as well. | |||
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"I won't lie...I prefer a saddle to bareback. Don't get me wrong, sometimes it's good to kick your heels in and pull on the mane but even so I'd go with the saddle on a day to day basis for better control So that bulge in you pants was just sugar lumps...... now it all makes sense . I always keep a large carrot handy! Although if struggling I find they go for a butterd nuts just as well. " What's not to like about buttered nuts.... | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeksevery few weeks " Your own health being in danger is bad enough but can't you see you are putting your Husbands health at risk!! | |||
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"My self I like it as I love the feel if cum inside me.but I know others will not like it. What are your opinions in this " Only with my husband and vice versa. So far neither of us has slept with anyone else since we've been together. If and when we do it will be with protection. | |||
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"I won't lie...I prefer a saddle to bareback. Don't get me wrong, sometimes it's good to kick your heels in and pull on the mane but even so I'd go with the saddle on a day to day basis for better control So that bulge in you pants was just sugar lumps...... now it all makes sense . I always keep a large carrot handy! Although if struggling I find they go for a butterd nuts just as well. What's not to like about buttered nuts.... " . Well you can lead them to butterd nuts but you cant make them suck them.. Well not unless you hold their mane tight | |||
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"Health checks aren't any kind of protection if you're having unprotected sex with numerous people. They provide a snapshot of a moment in time, many STIs have an incubation period. " | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeksevery few weeks Your own health being in danger is bad enough but can't you see you are putting your Husbands health at risk!!" And the other blokes, although they do have the option of protecting themselves, which the husband doesn't. | |||
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"I don't do bareback but I don't care what others do. I protect myself, what others do is up to them." This | |||
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"I cannot comprehend why people would have unprotected sex, especially on a swingers website. Neither can I,but I have done a couple of time's " Exactly Just admit it! | |||
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"I get to know people for a few weeks and then tend to sleep with them for howeeber long they're around. I've had a full std check months ago and I'm fine. " Tell me you're joking?... | |||
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"Iyou can go out with all the right intentions but when the heat of the moment takes me I some times go with the flow. Not sure I would like to be op husband. What about getting pregnant????? " I made the pregnancy point too, especially in the case of fucking several men a night. | |||
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"I get to know people for a few weeks and then tend to sleep with them for howeeber long they're around. I've had a full std check months ago and I'm fine. Tell me you're joking?... " What that I have bareback sex with someone I'm dating. No I'm not joking. I don't have sex with multiples partners. I haven't had sex with anyone for almost a year and have had an all clear std check since the last person I've slept with. | |||
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"When we do find a lady who wants to have fun with us then condoms will be used. Everyone has their own preference and this is ours. Mr2 " Out of pure curiosity, in this situation, do you wear a different condom for each woman? | |||
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"I love how it feels but I also love my health so wouldn't do it with anyone I wasn't in a relationship with. " So husbands are fine? | |||
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"I love how it feels but I also love my health so wouldn't do it with anyone I wasn't in a relationship with. So husbands are fine? " Husbands? | |||
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"Oh goodness what a worry. How would you explain having HIV to your husband? How would you locate or be located by all the strangers if you were found to have an STI, are you not concerned about your health at all? Seems foolish to me " I think we all have the right to risk our own sexual health should we choose - as long as we're open and honest about it to any sexual partners we have! I feel very strongly indeed about people who risk the sexual health of a partner who is completely unaware of their husband's/wife's activities though! It's cruel and unfair in the extreme! | |||
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"Lets just hope your husband dose not join fab and come.across your profile as it would be a massive shock for him. Ps what do you do about birth control" He to boring for a site like this ... I am on the pill | |||
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"Oh goodness what a worry. How would you explain having HIV to your husband? How would you locate or be located by all the strangers if you were found to have an STI, are you not concerned about your health at all? Seems foolish to me I think we all have the right to risk our own sexual health should we choose - as long as we're open and honest about it to any sexual partners we have! I feel very strongly indeed about people who risk the sexual health of a partner who is completely unaware of their husband's/wife's activities though! It's cruel and unfair in the extreme! " This | |||
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"Lets just hope your husband dose not join fab and come.across your profile as it would be a massive shock for him. Ps what do you do about birth control He to boring for a site like this ... I am on the pill" Doesn't he ever wonder why when you come home and undress you look a bit like a double Japanese flag below ? Bit of a give away no? | |||
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"My self I like it as I love the feel if cum inside me.but I know others will not like it. What are your opinions in this " It's for serious relationships only. | |||
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"We only have unprotected sex with each other; I would not even have oral sex with some other man, only ever with my husband - Mrs. J -" Totally agree..Even oral not without a condom | |||
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"Lets just hope your husband dose not join fab and come.across your profile as it would be a massive shock for him. Ps what do you do about birth control" Swallow? | |||
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"On previous profile and on this one I've only met one guy who had a condom to hand...others had no notion of using one and totally surprised when the issue arose." How bizarre. I take my own to meets. I prefer the new sensitivity ones. Clearly those dudes are irresponsible knob heads | |||
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"Lets just hope your husband dose not join fab and come.across your profile as it would be a massive shock for him. Ps what do you do about birth control Swallow?" (You can't get pregnant from swallowing) | |||
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"My self I like it as I love the feel if cum inside me.but I know others will not like it. What are your opinions in this " I'm sure lots of people like that feeling themselves. My opinion - I don't think I'd like the feeling of it going in you. *is that what you just asked me? | |||
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"Lets just hope your husband dose not join fab and come.across your profile as it would be a massive shock for him. Ps what do you do about birth control He to boring for a site like this ... I am on the pill" And the pill can fail I actually have three friends who were all very vigilant about taking the pill correctly and were still caught out. | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeksevery few weeks " who tests you every few weeks the minimum amount of time you can be checked is 12 weeks hunni .... as it takes up to 12 weeks for STI's to show ... hence why they always ask when the last time you had unprotected sex for the incubation period ... so what results you can get every couple of weeks is beyond me if I'm honest ... I'm OCD about hygiene and diseases and go to my clinic every 12 weeks ... I can't go ant less that that as I've asked and tried abs it's pointless | |||
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"Lets just hope your husband dose not join fab and come.across your profile as it would be a massive shock for him. Ps what do you do about birth control Swallow? (You can't get pregnant from swallowing) " Exactly. That's why its the best birth control. | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeksevery few weeks who tests you every few weeks the minimum amount of time you can be checked is 12 weeks hunni .... as it takes up to 12 weeks for STI's to show ... hence why they always ask when the last time you had unprotected sex for the incubation period ... so what results you can get every couple of weeks is beyond me if I'm honest ... I'm OCD about hygiene and diseases and go to my clinic every 12 weeks ... I can't go ant less that that as I've asked and tried abs it's pointless " You need to try another clinic then. The ones local to me let you go as often as you feel you need to. Quite normal to go more regularly than every 12 weeks x | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeksevery few weeks who tests you every few weeks the minimum amount of time you can be checked is 12 weeks hunni .... as it takes up to 12 weeks for STI's to show ... hence why they always ask when the last time you had unprotected sex for the incubation period ... so what results you can get every couple of weeks is beyond me if I'm honest ... I'm OCD about hygiene and diseases and go to my clinic every 12 weeks ... I can't go ant less that that as I've asked and tried abs it's pointless You need to try another clinic then. The ones local to me let you go as often as you feel you need to. Quite normal to go more regularly than every 12 weeks x" really I'm shocked ... as most sexual health diseases have like I say incubation periods (doctors words nor mine) and I was told going any more regular than 12 weeks is pointless as nothing will show up in results .... they even whinge at me for going every 12 weeks .... well there you go you learn something new every day | |||
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"We only play bareback and OP if it works for you keep doing it xx" thanks. I love it | |||
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"I still love cum" Or is it the attention you love? Not a rude question just an honest one | |||
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"I don't do bareback although I have a fantasy (which will remain one) of doing clean up duties. " It is steamy fantasy pillow talk for us | |||
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"I think people who quote testing as a safegaurd comletely misunderstand. All that tells you is that you caught an sti up to 12 weeks ago and have potentially passed it on to all those you have barebacked with since. It is a frustrating thing to be happening as it increases the spread of sti's and that is bad for all of us." | |||
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"I don't do bareback although I have a fantasy (which will remain one) of doing clean up duties. It is steamy fantasy pillow talk for us " I've seen it on porn countless times (but not the clever editing break where they tip some yoghurt over) and the idea is appealing but that's what it is, just the idea and my imagination. | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeksevery few weeks who tests you every few weeks the minimum amount of time you can be checked is 12 weeks hunni .... as it takes up to 12 weeks for STI's to show ... hence why they always ask when the last time you had unprotected sex for the incubation period ... so what results you can get every couple of weeks is beyond me if I'm honest ... I'm OCD about hygiene and diseases and go to my clinic every 12 weeks ... I can't go ant less that that as I've asked and tried abs it's pointless " The longest incubation is up to twelve weeks for HIV, so you cannot be sure you have not caught anything from an encounter in that time, but other sti are much less, within three weeks at most I believe. | |||
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"That moment when you are laying there at night and the fleeting thought comes through your mind. 'Have I caught something?' You wake up feeling a little off colour. It's probably a cold. But what if...... A news story comes on about HIV. It gives a little bit of cold comfort if...... I battle a chronic illness everyday that will kill me. I honestly don't know when the illness will turn. I live with my death every fucking day. I couldn't of prevented this (and its most certainly not communicable!). You could prevent a lifetime of being like me!" This is my bugbear with these sort of threads. 'it's just like catching a cold, and HIV can be managed, blah, blah, blah' I've seen what it's like to live with a chronic condition so it's not a risk I'm prepared to take. | |||
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" A health check is pointless if you've already caught something... It's like "well done, this month your a winner!"....that's a no from me " Think about what you have written and you will realise that it is a ridiculous thing to write. The only time a health check is pointless is when you have not caught anything as then there is no further action to be taken. If a health check showed you had caught something then further action is necessary and vitally important therefore the check that discovered it was extremely important. It is at that stage any responsible swinger would stop meeting and inform those people they had had sex with they needed to get checked. It would also be the time to start any treatment required. So rather than being pointless it would be very important and to many people a wake up call. | |||
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"I still love cum" Id love a meet with you. But unfortunately I've noticed something. | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeksevery few weeks who tests you every few weeks the minimum amount of time you can be checked is 12 weeks hunni .... as it takes up to 12 weeks for STI's to show ... hence why they always ask when the last time you had unprotected sex for the incubation period ... so what results you can get every couple of weeks is beyond me if I'm honest ... I'm OCD about hygiene and diseases and go to my clinic every 12 weeks ... I can't go ant less that that as I've asked and tried abs it's pointless " Then change your clinic it is not doing what is best for you or anyone else. You are correct about the incubation period of some STIs but others have shorter incubation period. Besides that just take a minute to think about the situation logically. If you only get checked every 12 weeks you could be infected and playing for at least 12 weeks before finding out you had caught something and still not know you are clear during the next 12 weeks. If you get checked every day to take the other extreme instead of being unsure for 24 weeks you a sure that at least for the last 12 weeks you were STI free and each day that goes past adds a further day to your free period. In practice a 12 week check up for some who plays frequently is too long and 4-6 weeks is a more reasonable compromise. You can only ever be sure of the period up to 12 weeks before your last test. | |||
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"I think people who quote testing as a safegaurd comletely misunderstand. All that tells you is that you caught an sti up to 12 weeks ago and have potentially passed it on to all those you have barebacked with since. It is a frustrating thing to be happening as it increases the spread of sti's and that is bad for all of us." Some sti etc problems will potentially show within hours - eg crabs. Delays to getting tested are also bad, as earlier treatment is best and prevents others from catching something. Some places may start treatment within hours of sex. | |||
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"That's 65 bareback meets behind your husbands back in the time it takes to incubate HIV...... I'm speechless. " Wow...just wow! | |||
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"Bareback feels good, sti's don't" | |||
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"That's 65 bareback meets behind your husbands back in the time it takes to incubate HIV...... I'm speechless. " Agreed.... very worrying indeed! Also the fact that someone newly infected with HIV doesn't always show symptoms and their viral load will be sky high during and after sero conversion making them highly infectious to others | |||
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"I still love cum Id love a meet with you. But unfortunately I've noticed something. " what is it you noticed about her pm I would love to know. As I got blocked for 24 hrs for putting up what I thought | |||
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"Some love it a wish to have babes . Yes a lot are coming to sites like this and its the only way they will have sex ." Maybe that's what the OP wants - she is only 28, I'm surprised she hasn't gotten pregnant either? | |||
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"Some love it a wish to have babes . Yes a lot are coming to sites like this and its the only way they will have sex . Maybe that's what the OP wants - she is only 28, I'm surprised she hasn't gotten pregnant either? " Only time will tell .. I know people on the pill and different things whos got pregnant too. Some who cant get IVF and have a strong need to have babes do come on sites like this. | |||
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"I think the OP is savvy enough to use birth control. If people disapprove, might I suggest not personally visiting her van? The men who queue up week after week are aware of any possible dangers. And there are enough cheating spouses on here for us to be too outraged at another, surely? How do we know they all practice safe sex? It is the OP's body to do with as she wishes. If she and her meets are happy to do what they do, it's nobody else's business. To be honest, I admire her for being so open about it, and for braving the vultures' den that is the forum." I mostly agree with this. Just the risk that is posed to the husband that is wrong with the OPs scenario in my opinion. | |||
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"I think the OP is savvy enough to use birth control. If people disapprove, might I suggest not personally visiting her van? The men who queue up week after week are aware of any possible dangers. And there are enough cheating spouses on here for us to be too outraged at another, surely? How do we know they all practice safe sex? It is the OP's body to do with as she wishes. If she and her meets are happy to do what they do, it's nobody else's business. To be honest, I admire her for being so open about it, and for braving the vultures' den that is the forum. I mostly agree with this. Just the risk that is posed to the husband that is wrong with the OPs scenario in my opinion. " . He may be doing the same though whilst he's away | |||
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"I think the OP is savvy enough to use birth control. If people disapprove, might I suggest not personally visiting her van? The men who queue up week after week are aware of any possible dangers. And there are enough cheating spouses on here for us to be too outraged at another, surely? How do we know they all practice safe sex? It is the OP's body to do with as she wishes. If she and her meets are happy to do what they do, it's nobody else's business. To be honest, I admire her for being so open about it, and for braving the vultures' den that is the forum. I mostly agree with this. Just the risk that is posed to the husband that is wrong with the OPs scenario in my opinion. . He may be doing the same though whilst he's away " True true. Who knows. Protect yourself as best you can isn't it. Still difficult when you have a cheating partner - which I have endured in the past | |||
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"I think the OP is savvy enough to use birth control. If people disapprove, might I suggest not personally visiting her van? The men who queue up week after week are aware of any possible dangers. And there are enough cheating spouses on here for us to be too outraged at another, surely? How do we know they all practice safe sex? It is the OP's body to do with as she wishes. If she and her meets are happy to do what they do, it's nobody else's business. To be honest, I admire her for being so open about it, and for braving the vultures' den that is the forum." It is her life and whilst others may not do what she is doing or may just disagree, there is absolutely no need to pass snide remarks or write hurtful posts - Mrs. J - | |||
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"Some of the males who fuck the OP bareback will be attached or married themselves, the possible consequences are dire. To fuck multiple partners bareback is irresponsible anybody who thinks otherwise, is living in cloud cuckoo land. " Their choice though isn't,I'm sure all concerned know the consequences. | |||
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"The OP is entitled to do exactly as she wishes, of course, I bear no malice. But when she posts about it on a public forum I am entitled to express my shock too, I only hope she does not regret her choice one day." she has to expect that not every one will agree with her choices.. at the end of the day she is the one that uses the name slag in her profile name.. but as she states guys know this when they attend | |||
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"The risks of getting pregnant from unprotected sex is as follows You are more likely to conceive if you have unprotected sex during the middle 2 weeks of your cycle. The time varies, but many women ovulate about day 14. You will have the highest risk of pregnancy by having unprotected sex one or two days before your ovulation starts; when the ovary releases the egg. This is a 30% chance. The risk of having unprotected sex and getting pregnant three days prior to ovulation is 15%. You will have a 12% chance on the ovulation day. In the real world, large studies show that women who engage in unprotected sex during mid-cycle have a much lower chance of getting pregnant as the risk is around 5.8%. This is because you will have a much lower risk of getting pregnant if you engage in any sexual relations on the ovulation day and any day besides the three days prior to. The risks of catching an STI from unprotected sex is as follows The figures below err on the high side as they are estimated from population studies and data of new infections. They take no account of how many partners the people are having and how many times they have intercourse. Having said that they do give a good average to work from. MEN WOMEN Genital Herpes 30% 30% Gonorrhea 25% 50% Chlamydia 20% 40% Syphilis 20% 30% Chancroid 15% 30% Genital Warts 10% 10% Hepatitis B 5% 10% HIV .9% 1% " That's sexist but interesting | |||
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"I avoid anyone who barebacks on the casual sex scene.... It's not called unsafe sex for no reason " All sex is technically unsafe, from the point of _iew of exposure to potential infection. The only safe sex is no sex. Barrier protection methods reduce the risk of certain infections, not others. Different sexual practice carry different levels of risk. So either welcome to monastery, or enjoy your unsafe sex with acceptable risk levels. | |||
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"The OP is entitled to do exactly as she wishes, of course, I bear no malice. But when she posts about it on a public forum I am entitled to express my shock too, I only hope she does not regret her choice one day." Indeed. If people don't want the opinion of others, don't ask for it in the forums. | |||
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"The OP is entitled to do exactly as she wishes, of course, I bear no malice. But when she posts about it on a public forum I am entitled to express my shock too, I only hope she does not regret her choice one day. Indeed. If people don't want the opinion of others, don't ask for it in the forums. " To be fair to the OP, she asked the question...bareback or not? She didn't ask to have what she does dissected by all. That said, the forums go in whatever direction they like. | |||
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"I think the OP is savvy enough to use birth control. If people disapprove, might I suggest not personally visiting her van? The men who queue up week after week are aware of any possible dangers. And there are enough cheating spouses on here for us to be too outraged at another, surely? How do we know they all practice safe sex? It is the OP's body to do with as she wishes. If she and her meets are happy to do what they do, it's nobody else's business. To be honest, I admire her for being so open about it, and for braving the vultures' den that is the forum. It is her life and whilst others may not do what she is doing or may just disagree, there is absolutely no need to pass snide remarks or write hurtful posts - Mrs. J -" very true but then this is a forum where we air our _iews but some do get personal and that's not right | |||
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"No sex is the only real safe sex. " They don't come safer than me then, if you'll pardon the pun!.. | |||
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"The OP is entitled to do exactly as she wishes, of course, I bear no malice. But when she posts about it on a public forum I am entitled to express my shock too, I only hope she does not regret her choice one day. Indeed. If people don't want the opinion of others, don't ask for it in the forums. To be fair to the OP, she asked the question...bareback or not? She didn't ask to have what she does dissected by all. That said, the forums go in whatever direction they like." She didn't say bareback or not, she specifically asked for an opinion. | |||
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"I think the OP is savvy enough to use birth control. If people disapprove, might I suggest not personally visiting her van? The men who queue up week after week are aware of any possible dangers. And there are enough cheating spouses on here for us to be too outraged at another, surely? How do we know they all practice safe sex? It is the OP's body to do with as she wishes. If she and her meets are happy to do what they do, it's nobody else's business. To be honest, I admire her for being so open about it, and for braving the vultures' den that is the forum. It is her life and whilst others may not do what she is doing or may just disagree, there is absolutely no need to pass snide remarks or write hurtful posts - Mrs. J -" I don't buy that at all. If it jars someone's moral compass, then they are free to express that. I personally think that exposing her husband to life threatening illness and with complications from certain diseases (such as infertility). It's disgusting.. I've seen people get torn to shreds on the forum for nothing and then l see the tepid response to this woman...if this was a male poster, he'd be torn to SHREDS and I doubt that you'd be defending him. | |||
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"The OP is entitled to do exactly as she wishes, of course, I bear no malice. But when she posts about it on a public forum I am entitled to express my shock too, I only hope she does not regret her choice one day. Indeed. If people don't want the opinion of others, don't ask for it in the forums. " People are getting shit for expressing their opinions on bareback on a thread where those opinions were expressly requested? I think people can do what they want. But personally, I find bareback generally irresponsible. If you're cheating and you bareback, I find it shameful. That's my opinion. | |||
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"I think the OP is savvy enough to use birth control. If people disapprove, might I suggest not personally visiting her van? The men who queue up week after week are aware of any possible dangers. And there are enough cheating spouses on here for us to be too outraged at another, surely? How do we know they all practice safe sex? It is the OP's body to do with as she wishes. If she and her meets are happy to do what they do, it's nobody else's business. To be honest, I admire her for being so open about it, and for braving the vultures' den that is the forum. It is her life and whilst others may not do what she is doing or may just disagree, there is absolutely no need to pass snide remarks or write hurtful posts - Mrs. J -very true but then this is a forum where we air our _iews but some do get personal and that's not right " No, it is not right. In fact, the type of personal attacks against the OP on this thread are against the forum rules However some here will continue. I know for a fact that the vast number of single men here will jump at the mere chance of having unprotected sex. Some have gone as far as removing the condom just before. One of the reasons that I hate being without my husband in any situation - Mrs. J. - | |||
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"I think the OP is savvy enough to use birth control. If people disapprove, might I suggest not personally visiting her van? The men who queue up week after week are aware of any possible dangers. And there are enough cheating spouses on here for us to be too outraged at another, surely? How do we know they all practice safe sex? It is the OP's body to do with as she wishes. If she and her meets are happy to do what they do, it's nobody else's business. To be honest, I admire her for being so open about it, and for braving the vultures' den that is the forum. It is her life and whilst others may not do what she is doing or may just disagree, there is absolutely no need to pass snide remarks or write hurtful posts - Mrs. J -very true but then this is a forum where we air our _iews but some do get personal and that's not right " Sorry, just reread what you wrote. You are agreeing with me that personal attacks are uncalled for - Mrs. J - | |||
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"I think people who quote testing as a safegaurd comletely misunderstand. All that tells you is that you caught an sti up to 12 weeks ago and have potentially passed it on to all those you have barebacked with since. It is a frustrating thing to be happening as it increases the spread of sti's and that is bad for all of us. Some sti etc problems will potentially show within hours - eg crabs. Delays to getting tested are also bad, as earlier treatment is best and prevents others from catching something. Some places may start treatment within hours of sex." I know, we get tested every 12 weeks, even though we always use condoms for swinging. It's belt and braces. I'm commenting on the often quoted attitude of 'I bareback, but it's ok as I get tested regularly' No, it isn't ok, you just happen to know you've got an sti now. In the case of hiv, that can be weeks of bb play, passing it on to other people, before even finding out. imo that is, at best, foolish behavior. | |||
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"My self I like it as I love the feel if cum inside me.but I know others will not like it. What are your opinions in this " I love bareback sex, but only do it with my husband, because of the risk of infection. We try and reduce the risk as much as possible. In a group situation,in a club, hubby will always go and wash his hands, after playing with a lady, before he plays with another lady. He says it's not fair on them to do that, without washing his hands first. May sound extreme, but makes sense. | |||
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"My self I like it as I love the feel if cum inside me.but I know others will not like it. What are your opinions in this I love bareback sex, but only do it with my husband, because of the risk of infection. We try and reduce the risk as much as possible. In a group situation,in a club, hubby will always go and wash his hands, after playing with a lady, before he plays with another lady. He says it's not fair on them to do that, without washing his hands first. May sound extreme, but makes sense. " Makes perfect sense | |||
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"My self I like it as I love the feel if cum inside me.but I know others will not like it. What are your opinions in this I love bareback sex, but only do it with my husband, because of the risk of infection. We try and reduce the risk as much as possible. In a group situation,in a club, hubby will always go and wash his hands, after playing with a lady, before he plays with another lady. He says it's not fair on them to do that, without washing his hands first. May sound extreme, but makes sense. Makes perfect sense " Glad you agree | |||
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"My self I like it as I love the feel if cum inside me.but I know others will not like it. What are your opinions in this I love bareback sex, but only do it with my husband, because of the risk of infection. We try and reduce the risk as much as possible. In a group situation,in a club, hubby will always go and wash his hands, after playing with a lady, before he plays with another lady. He says it's not fair on them to do that, without washing his hands first. May sound extreme, but makes sense. " Makes perfect sense to us even though I would not let a swinging partner to stick his fingers in me - Mrs. J - | |||
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"In a group situation,in a club, hubby will always go and wash his hands, after playing with a lady, before he plays with another lady. He says it's not fair on them to do that, without washing his hands first. May sound extreme, but makes sense. " Never seen or heard of that before. | |||
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"My self I like it as I love the feel if cum inside me.but I know others will not like it. What are your opinions in this I love bareback sex, but only do it with my husband, because of the risk of infection. We try and reduce the risk as much as possible. In a group situation,in a club, hubby will always go and wash his hands, after playing with a lady, before he plays with another lady. He says it's not fair on them to do that, without washing his hands first. May sound extreme, but makes sense. Makes perfect sense to us even though I would not let a swinging partner to stick his fingers in me - Mrs. J -" | |||
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"In a group situation,in a club, hubby will always go and wash his hands, after playing with a lady, before he plays with another lady. He says it's not fair on them to do that, without washing his hands first. May sound extreme, but makes sense. Never seen or heard of that before." I have, but not often. I suppose the risk is small, but if a lady, he has played with,has an STI, I suppose it is possible to pass that to someone else, if he puts his fingers inside her. Like I say , it must seem over the top to some and maybe not spontaneous, in a group situation, but it's what he chooses to do. Just thinking of others. | |||
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"In a group situation,in a club, hubby will always go and wash his hands, after playing with a lady, before he plays with another lady. He says it's not fair on them to do that, without washing his hands first. May sound extreme, but makes sense. Never seen or heard of that before. I have, but not often. I suppose the risk is small, but if a lady, he has played with,has an STI, I suppose it is possible to pass that to someone else, if he puts his fingers inside her. Like I say , it must seem over the top to some and maybe not spontaneous, in a group situation, but it's what he chooses to do. Just thinking of others. " Not just for STIs; urinary tract infections can easily be caught through unwashed fingers - Mrs. J - | |||
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"In a group situation,in a club, hubby will always go and wash his hands, after playing with a lady, before he plays with another lady. He says it's not fair on them to do that, without washing his hands first. May sound extreme, but makes sense. Never seen or heard of that before. I have, but not often. I suppose the risk is small, but if a lady, he has played with,has an STI, I suppose it is possible to pass that to someone else, if he puts his fingers inside her. Like I say , it must seem over the top to some and maybe not spontaneous, in a group situation, but it's what he chooses to do. Just thinking of others. Not just for STIs; urinary tract infections can easily be caught through unwashed fingers - Mrs. J -" Yes, this as well! Didn't think of that! As they say, the only safe sex. is no sex. | |||
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"In a group situation,in a club, hubby will always go and wash his hands, after playing with a lady, before he plays with another lady. He says it's not fair on them to do that, without washing his hands first. May sound extreme, but makes sense. Never seen or heard of that before. I have, but not often. I suppose the risk is small, but if a lady, he has played with,has an STI, I suppose it is possible to pass that to someone else, if he puts his fingers inside her. Like I say , it must seem over the top to some and maybe not spontaneous, in a group situation, but it's what he chooses to do. Just thinking of others. Not just for STIs; urinary tract infections can easily be caught through unwashed fingers - Mrs. J - Yes, this as well! Didn't think of that! As they say, the only safe sex. is no sex. " Give us another 20 years; we'll be practicing safe sex amongst ourselves too - Mrs. J - | |||
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"In a group situation,in a club, hubby will always go and wash his hands, after playing with a lady, before he plays with another lady. He says it's not fair on them to do that, without washing his hands first. May sound extreme, but makes sense. Never seen or heard of that before. I have, but not often. I suppose the risk is small, but if a lady, he has played with,has an STI, I suppose it is possible to pass that to someone else, if he puts his fingers inside her. Like I say , it must seem over the top to some and maybe not spontaneous, in a group situation, but it's what he chooses to do. Just thinking of others. Not just for STIs; urinary tract infections can easily be caught through unwashed fingers - Mrs. J - Yes, this as well! Didn't think of that! As they say, the only safe sex. is no sex. Give us another 20 years; we'll be practicing safe sex amongst ourselves too - Mrs. J -" Yes, probably I am getting more paranoid about it, the older I get, I think. Maybe it's time to take a raincheck from the scene. | |||
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"My self I like it as I love the feel if cum inside me.but I know others will not like it. What are your opinions in this Only with my husband and vice versa. So far neither of us has slept with anyone else since we've been together. If and when we do it will be with protection. " Not doubting the fidelity between you and your partner, but you can't know with any certainty that they haven't been elsewhere since you're not tied together at the hip. My point being bareback sex, even amongst couples, is always a risk. Obviously doing it with strangers is more of a risk but my attitude to this has always been, live and let live. Consenting adults can do what they like. It doesn't have to make sense to anyone else. Wearing a condom obviously gives you protection but I always find it amusing when swingers think it is a magic bullet and everything else they do when swinging is then okay. You let a guy cum in your mouth but then insist he must wear a condom for sex. You take part in group sex where pussy licking and cock sucking amongst everyone happens like no man's business, but then you go home feeling happy and satisfied because all the men used condoms for sex. Swinging itself is risky, no matter how safe you think you're playing. Obviously the OP's tolerance for risk is higher than many people here can comprehend Still, if that's what makes her happy, it's absolutely fine by me. | |||
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"The bareback police make me laugh! As the poster above said a condom does not protect you from an sti. Unless you don't have oral sex or never have sex in a club with multiple partners. " True, a condom doesn't 100% safegauard against all sti's in all circumstances. Is your point, it's therefore a waste of time any of the time??? | |||
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"The bareback police make me laugh! As the poster above said a condom does not protect you from an sti. Unless you don't have oral sex or never have sex in a club with multiple partners. " Yeah that's why I don't bother with hard hats or seat belts. | |||
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"The bareback police make me laugh! As the poster above said a condom does not protect you from an sti. Unless you don't have oral sex or never have sex in a club with multiple partners. Yeah that's why I don't bother with hard hats or seat belts. " - Mrs. J - | |||
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"I like it and after the creampie to watch the cum pour out the pussy " I like at that point to get another cock in me x | |||
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"how often would you say have regular health checks... i mean some weeks you can meet several men in one week and then there are weeks between so would you have a check after everyone you sleep with or do you do it once every so many weeksevery few weeks A health check is pointless if you've already caught soing... It's like "well done, this month your a winner!"....that's a no from me At least the GUM clinic will help you treat any infection, usually for free. I've never had to pay for the metronidazole they give me every time I get yet another BV attack, anyway." bv attack ?????... | |||
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"The bareback police make me laugh! As the poster above said a condom does not protect you from an sti. Unless you don't have oral sex or never have sex in a club with multiple partners. True, a condom doesn't 100% safegauard against all sti's in all circumstances. Is your point, it's therefore a waste of time any of the time???" I didn't mean that at all. | |||
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"The bareback police make me laugh! As the poster above said a condom does not protect you from an sti. Unless you don't have oral sex or never have sex in a club with multiple partners. Yeah that's why I don't bother with hard hats or seat belts. " are you a builder? | |||
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"The bareback police make me laugh! As the poster above said a condom does not protect you from an sti. Unless you don't have oral sex or never have sex in a club with multiple partners. Yeah that's why I don't bother with hard hats or seat belts. are you a builder?" I've built a few bridges in my time. | |||
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"The bareback police make me laugh! As the poster above said a condom does not protect you from an sti. Unless you don't have oral sex or never have sex in a club with multiple partners. Yeah that's why I don't bother with hard hats or seat belts. are you a builder? I've built a few bridges in my time. " river kwai? | |||
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"The bareback police make me laugh! As the poster above said a condom does not protect you from an sti. Unless you don't have oral sex or never have sex in a club with multiple partners. Yeah that's why I don't bother with hard hats or seat belts. are you a builder? I've built a few bridges in my time. " or troubled waters | |||
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