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Someone said something to us earlier and it was obvious that they were just trying their luck and it was our turn.
But if we get offended we will get much more attention for it and people will post telling us how amazing and brave we are and how an entire tract of humanity totally innocent of this needs to buck it's ideas up.
Or we could just ignore it, be tough enough not to let it upset us and have a happy day.
What do you guys recommend? |
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over a year ago
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"Someone said something to us earlier and it was obvious that they were just trying their luck and it was our turn.
But if we get offended we will get much more attention for it and people will post telling us how amazing and brave we are and how an entire tract of humanity totally innocent of this needs to buck it's ideas up.
Or we could just ignore it, be tough enough not to let it upset us and have a happy day.
What do you guys recommend?"
Do a thread about it? |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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people can be offended if they want to be. some people are just ignorant fucks with no social skills whatsoever but there are many less offensive people who don't know how to handle the ignorant fucks so will want advice on why it happens, how to stop it happening again, others thoughts on what happened, etc. they can ask for that on the forums if they want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just block the little wankers as soon as they start getting uppity.
Far too many people on this site seem to think they're entitled to a shag because they signed up and get arsey when they're told no.
Just fuck them off - they'll only ever wank over their keyboards, so leave them to it. |
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"people can be offended if they want to be. some people are just ignorant fucks with no social skills whatsoever but there are many less offensive people who don't know how to handle the ignorant fucks so will want advice on why it happens, how to stop it happening again, others thoughts on what happened, etc. they can ask for that on the forums if they want to."
Of course they can be. But is it not better to try to avoid being a victim and having a dreadful time by just ignoring stuff which has no impact on you whatsoever? |
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"people can be offended if they want to be. some people are just ignorant fucks with no social skills whatsoever but there are many less offensive people who don't know how to handle the ignorant fucks so will want advice on why it happens, how to stop it happening again, others thoughts on what happened, etc. they can ask for that on the forums if they want to.
Of course they can be. But is it not better to try to avoid being a victim and having a dreadful time by just ignoring stuff which has no impact on you whatsoever?"
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Yeah but wheres the fun in that!!  |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"people can be offended if they want to be. some people are just ignorant fucks with no social skills whatsoever but there are many less offensive people who don't know how to handle the ignorant fucks so will want advice on why it happens, how to stop it happening again, others thoughts on what happened, etc. they can ask for that on the forums if they want to.
Of course they can be. But is it not better to try to avoid being a victim and having a dreadful time by just ignoring stuff which has no impact on you whatsoever?"
it has had an impact though. that's why they are reaching out for support, advice, whatever.
our society is quite good at invalidating others feelings, unfortunately. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Someone said something to us earlier and it was obvious that they were just trying their luck and it was our turn.
But if we get offended we will get much more attention for it and people will post telling us how amazing and brave we are and how an entire tract of humanity totally innocent of this needs to buck it's ideas up.
Or we could just ignore it, be tough enough not to let it upset us and have a happy day.
What do you guys recommend?"
take notes and wait until you bump into then on a social after all its a very very small world   |
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"Someone said something to us earlier and it was obvious that they were just trying their luck and it was our turn.
But if we get offended we will get much more attention for it and people will post telling us how amazing and brave we are and how an entire tract of humanity totally innocent of this needs to buck it's ideas up.
Or we could just ignore it, be tough enough not to let it upset us and have a happy day.
What do you guys recommend?
take notes and wait until you bump into then on a social after all its a very very small world "
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And then what? Feign offence from months ago! |
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"Whatever they said it was definitely your own fault for not having your filters on and doing all the messaging yourself  "
Yep; We are learning here from the wise and mighty that the whole purpose of writing a profile is to block everyone one really wants to meet and search for them ourselves 
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"people can be offended if they want to be. some people are just ignorant fucks with no social skills whatsoever but there are many less offensive people who don't know how to handle the ignorant fucks so will want advice on why it happens, how to stop it happening again, others thoughts on what happened, etc. they can ask for that on the forums if they want to.
Of course they can be. But is it not better to try to avoid being a victim and having a dreadful time by just ignoring stuff which has no impact on you whatsoever?"
Easily said by the tough among us who have a level of self esteem that allows us to shrug off comments we know aren't true. Nobody knows another's background and some people are vulnerable. |
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"people can be offended if they want to be. some people are just ignorant fucks with no social skills whatsoever but there are many less offensive people who don't know how to handle the ignorant fucks so will want advice on why it happens, how to stop it happening again, others thoughts on what happened, etc. they can ask for that on the forums if they want to.
Of course they can be. But is it not better to try to avoid being a victim and having a dreadful time by just ignoring stuff which has no impact on you whatsoever?
Easily said by the tough among us who have a level of self esteem that allows us to shrug off comments we know aren't true. Nobody knows another's background and some people are vulnerable."
And as swinging is supposedly a sociable leisure activity, one would assume that applies to giving advice. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"Someone said something to us earlier and it was obvious that they were just trying their luck and it was our turn.
But if we get offended we will get much more attention for it and people will post telling us how amazing and brave we are and how an entire tract of humanity totally innocent of this needs to buck it's ideas up.
Or we could just ignore it, be tough enough not to let it upset us and have a happy day.
What do you guys recommend?
take notes and wait until you bump into then on a social after all its a very very small world .
And then what? Feign offence from months ago!"
no ask them hay you said this now we are face to face would you care to elaborate on those comments now I'm here standing in front of you.
everyone's big and brave when they don't have to face the consequences of there own action i like to see how brave a troll really is in the flesh not online . |
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"people can be offended if they want to be. some people are just ignorant fucks with no social skills whatsoever but there are many less offensive people who don't know how to handle the ignorant fucks so will want advice on why it happens, how to stop it happening again, others thoughts on what happened, etc. they can ask for that on the forums if they want to.
Of course they can be. But is it not better to try to avoid being a victim and having a dreadful time by just ignoring stuff which has no impact on you whatsoever?
Easily said by the tough among us who have a level of self esteem that allows us to shrug off comments we know aren't true. Nobody knows another's background and some people are vulnerable."
Yes. That is undeniable.
Why are we making a virtue of it though? Instead of helping toughen people up we are rewarding inability to deal with every day situations and we are making banal occurrences much worse by blowing them out of all proportion.
Wallowing in weakness is not good.
Identifying them and taking steps to address them is admirable. |
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"people can be offended if they want to be. some people are just ignorant fucks with no social skills whatsoever but there are many less offensive people who don't know how to handle the ignorant fucks so will want advice on why it happens, how to stop it happening again, others thoughts on what happened, etc. they can ask for that on the forums if they want to.
Of course they can be. But is it not better to try to avoid being a victim and having a dreadful time by just ignoring stuff which has no impact on you whatsoever?
Easily said by the tough among us who have a level of self esteem that allows us to shrug off comments we know aren't true. Nobody knows another's background and some people are vulnerable.
Yes. That is undeniable.
Why are we making a virtue of it though? Instead of helping toughen people up we are rewarding inability to deal with every day situations and we are making banal occurrences much worse by blowing them out of all proportion.
Wallowing in weakness is not good.
Identifying them and taking steps to address them is admirable."
Yep. I do that with my friends and kids. I try to do that on here but I am only one woman |
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"people can be offended if they want to be. some people are just ignorant fucks with no social skills whatsoever but there are many less offensive people who don't know how to handle the ignorant fucks so will want advice on why it happens, how to stop it happening again, others thoughts on what happened, etc. they can ask for that on the forums if they want to.
Of course they can be. But is it not better to try to avoid being a victim and having a dreadful time by just ignoring stuff which has no impact on you whatsoever?
Easily said by the tough among us who have a level of self esteem that allows us to shrug off comments we know aren't true. Nobody knows another's background and some people are vulnerable.
Yes. That is undeniable.
Why are we making a virtue of it though? Instead of helping toughen people up we are rewarding inability to deal with every day situations and we are making banal occurrences much worse by blowing them out of all proportion.
Wallowing in weakness is not good.
Identifying them and taking steps to address them is admirable."
Why do you feel you should toughen people up? |
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"people can be offended if they want to be. some people are just ignorant fucks with no social skills whatsoever but there are many less offensive people who don't know how to handle the ignorant fucks so will want advice on why it happens, how to stop it happening again, others thoughts on what happened, etc. they can ask for that on the forums if they want to.
Of course they can be. But is it not better to try to avoid being a victim and having a dreadful time by just ignoring stuff which has no impact on you whatsoever?
Easily said by the tough among us who have a level of self esteem that allows us to shrug off comments we know aren't true. Nobody knows another's background and some people are vulnerable.
Yes. That is undeniable.
Why are we making a virtue of it though? Instead of helping toughen people up we are rewarding inability to deal with every day situations and we are making banal occurrences much worse by blowing them out of all proportion.
Wallowing in weakness is not good.
Identifying them and taking steps to address them is admirable."
Why do you feel that talking down to vulnerable people (which is often what happens on here)) is helping them?
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"Some people like to be the centre of attention. On here there are many people who like to enable that. Same as most internet forums really."
And same as life. I had a friend who didn't like people looking at her but would walk into the centre of any gathering saying "don't look at me" in a very loud voice. Cue sympathy and trying to calm her down from friends except evil old me who would say "nobody would look at you if you stayed on the edge and kept quiet". |
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"Sometimes, people need a little reassurance and understanding, which seems to be impossible for some people to give, on here. "
Yes, we all do at times. However in my opinion along with that strategies to help prevent them feeling that way again are useful too. |
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Most of the time I don't give a stuff and if you're the type of person that just brushes thing's off all the time then that's great,but every so often I think people need to be reminded they're being a dick! It's not about toughening people up,we're human with feelings! |
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"Someone said something to us earlier and it was obvious that they were just trying their luck and it was our turn.
But if we get offended we will get much more attention for it and people will post telling us how amazing and brave we are and how an entire tract of humanity totally innocent of this needs to buck it's ideas up.
Or we could just ignore it, be tough enough not to let it upset us and have a happy day.
What do you guys recommend?"
When was the last time that someone said something that hurt/ affected you, and what did they say? |
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"Most of the time I don't give a stuff and if you're the type of person that just brushes thing's off all the time then that's great,but every so often I think people need to be reminded they're being a dick! It's not about toughening people up,we're human with feelings!"
Apart from the emotionless robots. |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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"Most of the time I don't give a stuff and if you're the type of person that just brushes thing's off all the time then that's great,but every so often I think people need to be reminded they're being a dick! It's not about toughening people up,we're human with feelings!
Apart from the emotionless robots. "
Anyone that spots the good old attention deficit disorde, the take offence technique until I get the attention I crave is of course an emotionless robot
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"Someone said something to us earlier and it was obvious that they were just trying their luck and it was our turn.
But if we get offended we will get much more attention for it and people will post telling us how amazing and brave we are and how an entire tract of humanity totally innocent of this needs to buck it's ideas up.
Or we could just ignore it, be tough enough not to let it upset us and have a happy day.
What do you guys recommend?
take notes and wait until you bump into then on a social after all its a very very small world .
And then what? Feign offence from months ago!
no ask them hay you said this now we are face to face would you care to elaborate on those comments now I'm here standing in front of you.
everyone's big and brave when they don't have to face the consequences of there own action i like to see how brave a troll really is in the flesh not online . "
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Oooer consequences hey!!
That just sounds like a lotta hard work for fuck all gain.
Where as I prefer gaining alot by doing fuck all
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"Sometimes, people need a little reassurance and understanding, which seems to be impossible for some people to give, on here.
Yes, we all do at times. However in my opinion along with that strategies to help prevent them feeling that way again are useful too."
Strategies from professionals who know what they are talking about. Not someone on here ridiculing or berating them.
Unfortunately, there are vultures and wolves on here, waiting for vulnerable prey. |
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"people can be offended if they want to be. some people are just ignorant fucks with no social skills whatsoever but there are many less offensive people who don't know how to handle the ignorant fucks so will want advice on why it happens, how to stop it happening again, others thoughts on what happened, etc. they can ask for that on the forums if they want to.
Of course they can be. But is it not better to try to avoid being a victim and having a dreadful time by just ignoring stuff which has no impact on you whatsoever?
Easily said by the tough among us who have a level of self esteem that allows us to shrug off comments we know aren't true. Nobody knows another's background and some people are vulnerable.
Yes. That is undeniable.
Why are we making a virtue of it though? Instead of helping toughen people up we are rewarding inability to deal with every day situations and we are making banal occurrences much worse by blowing them out of all proportion.
Wallowing in weakness is not good.
Identifying them and taking steps to address them is admirable.
Why do you feel you should toughen people up? "
I don't think that i/we should. People should toughen themselves up so they can deal with more every day things.
Not doing so is their choice but it is criticisable especially when they expect others to help or to change to suit their willful victimhood. |
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"Has anybody mentioned snowflakes yet? 
No, but if we ever are in the same town can I give you oral please?  "
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Well well well.. I've asked very nicely myself before now but I've never been asked nicely
Do you look anything like Britt ekland in a nightie? |
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"Has anybody mentioned snowflakes yet?
No, but if we ever are in the same town can I give you oral please? .
Well well well.. I've asked very nicely myself before now but I've never been asked nicely
Do you look anything like Britt ekland in a nightie?"
I do have a Harley Quinn costume.....
let's face it Britt is ancient she probably looks like an old sock full of pebbles now. So I'm going to say I look better |
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"Has anybody mentioned snowflakes yet?
No, but if we ever are in the same town can I give you oral please? .
Well well well.. I've asked very nicely myself before now but I've never been asked nicely
Do you look anything like Britt ekland in a nightie?
I do have a Harley Quinn costume.....
let's face it Britt is ancient she probably looks like an old sock full of pebbles now. So I'm going to say I look better "
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I dunno I was watching her in man with the golden gun, she looks fine although I bit dipsy and frankly I'd rather trust you with the super solex solar box whizzy thing than that clutz |
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"Has anybody mentioned snowflakes yet?
No, but if we ever are in the same town can I give you oral please? .
Well well well.. I've asked very nicely myself before now but I've never been asked nicely
Do you look anything like Britt ekland in a nightie?
I do have a Harley Quinn costume.....
let's face it Britt is ancient she probably looks like an old sock full of pebbles now. So I'm going to say I look better .
I dunno I was watching her in man with the golden gun, she looks fine although I bit dipsy and frankly I'd rather trust you with the super solex solar box whizzy thing than that clutz "
How olds that movie?!?!? Christopher Lee looks like he's only just qualified for his bus pass and folks think it's ok to wear pastal coloured crimplene safari suits while out and about!
Those were the days, faith in man made fibers and pampas grass in the front garden..... |
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"Someone said something to us earlier and it was obvious that they were just trying their luck and it was our turn.
But if we get offended we will get much more attention for it and people will post telling us how amazing and brave we are and how an entire tract of humanity totally innocent of this needs to buck it's ideas up.
Or we could just ignore it, be tough enough not to let it upset us and have a happy day.
What do you guys recommend?"
Need more details before I can make an informed decision.
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"Has anybody mentioned snowflakes yet?
No, but if we ever are in the same town can I give you oral please? .
Well well well.. I've asked very nicely myself before now but I've never been asked nicely
Do you look anything like Britt ekland in a nightie?
I do have a Harley Quinn costume.....
let's face it Britt is ancient she probably looks like an old sock full of pebbles now. So I'm going to say I look better .
I dunno I was watching her in man with the golden gun, she looks fine although I bit dipsy and frankly I'd rather trust you with the super solex solar box whizzy thing than that clutz
How olds that movie?!?!? Christopher Lee looks like he's only just qualified for his bus pass and folks think it's ok to wear pastal coloured crimplene safari suits while out and about!
Those were the days, faith in man made fibers and pampas grass in the front garden..... "
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Sometimes I get to feelin'
I was back in the old days,long ago
When we were kids, when we were young
Things seemed so perfect,you know
The days were endless, we were crazy we were young
The sun was always shining,we just lived for fun
Sometimes it seems like lately, I just don't know
The rest of my life's been just a show.
Those were the days of our lives
The bad things in life were so few
Those days are all gone now but one thing is true
When I look and I find I still love you.
You can't turn back the clock, you can't turn back the tide
Ain't that a shame? |
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There you go I gave you both options in one sentence 