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Does NSA sex with an ex work?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just had sex with an ex and it's completely NSA for me, is that wrong? I finished with her a couple of years ago..."
What does she think about what just happened between you both? |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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Did you make that clear to her?
I think I'd be wary as I'm guessing there was an emotional attachment in the past?
One to be avoided for me, but if you made your intentions clear and she was happy with that, go for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It kinda just happened, made sure it was safe sex and had a discussion about how we both have a high sex drive, not going to make a habit of it though, kinda think it was wrong as I feel guilty now. |
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I think it probably depends on the individual involved... If it was an ex I knew for sure wouldn't have any further expectations from it, then maybe.... If it was an ex who I knew deep down harbored hopes of a happy ever after, no way - I couldn't be that cruel to someone I'd obviously cared about at one point  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think it probably depends on the individual involved... If it was an ex I knew for sure wouldn't have any further expectations from it, then maybe.... If it was an ex who I knew deep down harbored hopes of a happy ever after, no way - I couldn't be that cruel to someone I'd obviously cared about at one point "
It wasn't a planned thing, just got kinda heated and she has had a child since (She is not with the father). Not sure of she is just saying she knows its a one off just to try and get back with me... feel quite cruel to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it probably depends on the individual involved... If it was an ex I knew for sure wouldn't have any further expectations from it, then maybe.... If it was an ex who I knew deep down harbored hopes of a happy ever after, no way - I couldn't be that cruel to someone I'd obviously cared about at one point
It wasn't a planned thing, just got kinda heated and she has had a child since (She is not with the father). Not sure of she is just saying she knows its a one off just to try and get back with me... feel quite cruel to be honest."
Takes two to tango OP. I wouldn't feel
Guilty. If I was to make a suggestion it would be simply to make it clear it is what it is. It may land harshly but unless you want something to happen it's for the best.
There's nothing wrong with two people enjoying each other's company, I mean, that's essentially why we are all here! But I've found when it's an ex it will tend to get complicated quickly. |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it probably depends on the individual involved... If it was an ex I knew for sure wouldn't have any further expectations from it, then maybe.... If it was an ex who I knew deep down harbored hopes of a happy ever after, no way - I couldn't be that cruel to someone I'd obviously cared about at one point
It wasn't a planned thing, just got kinda heated and she has had a child since (She is not with the father). Not sure of she is just saying she knows its a one off just to try and get back with me... feel quite cruel to be honest.
Takes two to tango OP. I wouldn't feel
Guilty. If I was to make a suggestion it would be simply to make it clear it is what it is. It may land harshly but unless you want something to happen it's for the best.
There's nothing wrong with two people enjoying each other's company, I mean, that's essentially why we are all here! But I've found when it's an ex it will tend to get complicated quickly. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"it worked for me but I didn't and wouldn't repeat it. looking back I think he was still having feelings at that point, I had already moved on. always a risky situation I think..."
Think I will leave it as just this once and not repeat it. Damage may have already been done but damage limitation I guess... just always had great kinky sex together... even ended up using a blindfold and stuff this evening. |
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"it worked for me but I didn't and wouldn't repeat it. looking back I think he was still having feelings at that point, I had already moved on. always a risky situation I think...
Think I will leave it as just this once and not repeat it. Damage may have already been done but damage limitation I guess... just always had great kinky sex together... even ended up using a blindfold and stuff this evening."
oh I know, sex was great ... but the price may be too high. I'd agree- not to repeat but also don't beat yourself up, at the end of the day she has to decide what she wants to do and take responsibility for her actions. as long as you didn't suggest that a new relationship would be possible... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"it worked for me but I didn't and wouldn't repeat it. looking back I think he was still having feelings at that point, I had already moved on. always a risky situation I think...
Think I will leave it as just this once and not repeat it. Damage may have already been done but damage limitation I guess... just always had great kinky sex together... even ended up using a blindfold and stuff this evening.
oh I know, sex was great ... but the price may be too high. I'd agree- not to repeat but also don't beat yourself up, at the end of the day she has to decide what she wants to do and take responsibility for her actions. as long as you didn't suggest that a new relationship would be possible..."
No relationship prospects were discussed, moment of weakness I guess, typical male right here... that is why I joined this site because I am a horny, kinky, sex loving guy . |
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"it worked for me but I didn't and wouldn't repeat it. looking back I think he was still having feelings at that point, I had already moved on. always a risky situation I think...
Think I will leave it as just this once and not repeat it. Damage may have already been done but damage limitation I guess... just always had great kinky sex together... even ended up using a blindfold and stuff this evening.
oh I know, sex was great ... but the price may be too high. I'd agree- not to repeat but also don't beat yourself up, at the end of the day she has to decide what she wants to do and take responsibility for her actions. as long as you didn't suggest that a new relationship would be possible...
No relationship prospects were discussed, moment of weakness I guess, typical male right here... that is why I joined this site because I am a horny, kinky, sex loving guy ."
wait- i did it as well so its not only males  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"it worked for me but I didn't and wouldn't repeat it. looking back I think he was still having feelings at that point, I had already moved on. always a risky situation I think...
Think I will leave it as just this once and not repeat it. Damage may have already been done but damage limitation I guess... just always had great kinky sex together... even ended up using a blindfold and stuff this evening.
oh I know, sex was great ... but the price may be too high. I'd agree- not to repeat but also don't beat yourself up, at the end of the day she has to decide what she wants to do and take responsibility for her actions. as long as you didn't suggest that a new relationship would be possible...
No relationship prospects were discussed, moment of weakness I guess, typical male right here... that is why I joined this site because I am a horny, kinky, sex loving guy .
wait- i did it as well so its not only males "
Well you have made me feel a little better about myself, so thank you 
This was my first ever thread and I was expecting no replies so thank you all for your input.
Kinda got to get to sleep now so I will say goodnight |
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The trouble is, if you had a good relationship together, then you're stirring old emotions. It's probably fine if you both agree or understand that it's on an nsa basis, but if you haven't agreed or understood that, then it's arguably a bit unfair and therefore better avoided. You can't mend a shattered glass - and people and their emotions are a bit like that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The trouble is, if you had a good relationship together, then you're stirring old emotions. It's probably fine if you both agree or understand that it's on an nsa basis, but if you haven't agreed or understood that, then it's arguably a bit unfair and therefore better avoided. You can't mend a shattered glass - and people and their emotions are a bit like that. "
Think it was a mistake to be honest.  |
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