Hi and morning everyone. I hope everone had great weekend too.I just want to get something off my chest about people who sites like this and take the piss I'm sorry for swearing but it just gets my goat.for people like us who like to have different type of life style than normal people.im wondering is there a way we're admin can put on a time limit for new members joining fabswingers.i know what most of you going to say move along .plus another thing I like ask about what happened beening polite and friendly and good manner to people who sends mail a quick reply saying no thank you , your not my type, or just saying not interested just not delete there message it's rides and impolite It would a better world if everyone was polite to others .sorry for having a moan on having great weekend but it needed to say this to everyone. Thank you for taking your time in reading this people ....burton xxxx |
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Lol true bud civility costs nothing
However unlike any other part of human nature there are power dynamics and well some people just handle them better than others
People talk about not being rude to folk then do the exact same thing. To be honest it just helps you identify those who aren't who they say they are.
I would much rather spend time with straight up nice people that are fun than those who are up their own arse and think that they can treat people like crap due to supply and demand.
At the end of the day we are all here for something and not taking into account or valuing the other parties desires is a selfish attitude.
Look for nice fun, honest, naughty people and you will have a much better time than chasing obvious attention whores |
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over a year ago
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Regarding the whole "it's rude if women don't reply" - see site FAQ's, or the daily threads posted here on the subject.
Basically, no one is obliged to reply to anyone, and a non-response should be taken as a "no thanks". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi and morning everyone. I hope everone had great weekend too.I just want to get something off my chest about people who sites like this and take the piss I'm sorry for swearing but it just gets my goat.for people like us who like to have different type of life style than normal people.im wondering is there a way we're admin can put on a time limit for new members joining fabswingers.i know what most of you going to say move along .plus another thing I like ask about what happened beening polite and friendly and good manner to people who sends mail a quick reply saying no thank you , your not my type, or just saying not interested just not delete there message it's rides and impolite It would a better world if everyone was polite to others .sorry for having a moan on having great weekend but it needed to say this to everyone. Thank you for taking your time in reading this people ....burton xxxx"
Most single women get loads of messages daily, to have to say sorry you're not my type often leads to questions such as why? It's in the FAQ a deleted message means not interested.
Why do would you want admin to put a time limit on new profiles? Use your filters, they sometimes work and are a useful thing to use.
Sorry that you're pissed off OP, but hopefully you'll find what you are looking for soon. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Hi and morning everyone. I hope everone had great weekend too.I just want to get something off my chest about people who sites like this and take the piss I'm sorry for swearing but it just gets my goat.for people like us who like to have different type of life style than normal people.im wondering is there a way we're admin can put on a time limit for new members joining fabswingers.i know what most of you going to say move along .plus another thing I like ask about what happened beening polite and friendly and good manner to people who sends mail a quick reply saying no thank you , your not my type, or just saying not interested just not delete there message it's rides and impolite It would a better world if everyone was polite to others .sorry for having a moan on having great weekend but it needed to say this to everyone. Thank you for taking your time in reading this people ....burton xxxx
Most single women get loads of messages daily, to have to say sorry you're not my type often leads to questions such as why? It's in the FAQ a deleted message means not interested.
Why do would you want admin to put a time limit on new profiles? Use your filters, they sometimes work and are a useful thing to use.
Sorry that you're pissed off OP, but hopefully you'll find what you are looking for soon. "
I have meets up spent all morning being polite and replying to everyone that messaged 835 views 28 friend requests 36 winks, am now getting a bit fed up with being polite as it's endless message ping pong ie why not etc, it's frustrating to say the least when guys are then telling me they are 'just chancing it' I'm sure you'll find someone soon OP, but please try to see it from a female point of view, happy fabbing hun xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dude, I've seen the inbox of a females profile on here. It isn't as empty as yours or mine, put it that way.
They get countless messages daily and to be fair, I'm sure a lot of them would prefer to reply with a "no thank you", but if you spent YOUR day replying to HUNDREDS of messages with a "no thank you", you wouldn't be able to do anything else.
Take a no reply as a "no thank you" and move on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having read some of the messages my other half gets bombarded with daily I can completely see why not every message can be replied to, and a large number are not even worth replying to as they are copy paste messages sent to every woman on the site, or they are from someone who has clearly not read her profile. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
Whilst I took two minutes to write the last post another 7 messages popped into my inbox, a male friend deleted 83 the last time we put a meet up!
Do you reply to every piece of junk mail that lands on your door step and tell them you're not interested?!
Incidentally another 4 whilst posting this! |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Read and accept the sites FAQs, it will save you a lot of angst.
I am certainly not to reply to all my ,ail, as typically this is what I normally get:
Monday/Tuesday, Hi did you have a nice weekend.
Thursday/Friday, Hi do you have anything nice planned for the weekend.
You may think that is a perfectly reasonable message to send, however,
x that by 100 at least in a week, every week, you can imagine, why I am not rushing to reply.
Especially when they normally only have a one liner profile, it all get really tedious  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Go on facebook and see if everyone in there replies to what you post.
Some of my best pals ignore my text messages. It's the way things are. Let it go. "
Love this
Everything in my life either needs batteries, or won't text me back  |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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when you say what happened to being friendly, are you messaging people wanting to be friends or coz you wanna fuck them?
i don't reply to most people who wanna fuck me, and usually regret replying to guys being friendly coz it turns out they only want sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always reply to people who send a nice compliment with no other agenda but I tend not to reply if its someone interested in meeting if I'm not into them.
The amount of guys who hassle you after you say no thanks is a joke. I appreciate its frustrating but I'd rather not take the risk of abuse or harassment. |
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Fab has its own cultural norms, which are different to many peoples' outside of here. No replies simply equals not continuing pursuit or interest now.
You can suggest ideas for improvements in the forum section for this.
I like the option of having an option when blocking a user to send a personalised 'no thanks, good luck' message. It would help end uncertainty. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Fab has its own cultural norms, which are different to many peoples' outside of here. No replies simply equals not continuing pursuit or interest now.
You can suggest ideas for improvements in the forum section for this.
I like the option of having an option when blocking a user to send a personalised 'no thanks, good luck' message. It would help end uncertainty. "
excellent idea |
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I just told a guy -your too short-but it clearly says in caps at the start of my profile that I prefer men over 6 foot,so I consider it insulting that guys that message haven't the decency to at least see what I like first.plus he came out with the old-im waiting for pics to verify...it takes seconds not like half an hour. |
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"It just to ruded to not answering that my way I feel at moment just think if everyone did not answer there mail like in work or there phoned nothing would get done would it"
This is true but at work you're contractually obliged to carry out your job description. Here on fab nobody is under any obligation at all. It must be frustrating to get no response but not answering a message means "no thanks" so things are getting done. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"It just to ruded to not answering that my way I feel at moment just think if everyone did not answer there mail like in work or there phoned nothing would get done would it"
this isn't a job for people on here though, it's their leisure time and they can spend that how they want. why waste time rejecting people who want to fuck you? if anyone doesn't say yes to sex than that is a no, and it should be a cultural norm that men/people know this.
being an escort is a job and they would reply to all who message them because it would be bad business not to. |
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"I just told a guy -your too short-but it clearly says in caps at the start of my profile that I prefer men over 6 foot,so I consider it insulting that guys that message haven't the decency to at least see what I like first.plus he came out with the old-im waiting for pics to verify...it takes seconds not like half an hour."
We feel your pain.
We get a lot of messages from people who haven't read our profile but we would be considered rude of we didn't reply. It's a funny old world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've read 174 messages over the past few days and only 6 of them were appropriate and got a response. Keeping up with just those 6 requires more typing than I ever do at work. No reply means no thanks. |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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"It just to ruded to not answering that my way I feel at moment just think if everyone did not answer there mail like in work or there phoned nothing would get done would it"
Right. I'll sacrifice myself for the good of Fab and to increase awareness of why it's impossible for many women (of those looking for single guys and therefore not filtering them) to reply to all their messages.
OP - type the words "sorry, you're not my type" into a message and send it to me. Then repeat that 30 times a day for a week.
Honestly, do it.
It'll give you a good insight into what it's like.
I promise I won't reply going "why not?" or "I didn't fancy you anyway, you ugly did"  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"It just to ruded to not answering that my way I feel at moment just think if everyone did not answer there mail like in work or there phoned nothing would get done would it
Right. I'll sacrifice myself for the good of Fab and to increase awareness of why it's impossible for many women (of those looking for single guys and therefore not filtering them) to reply to all their messages.
OP - type the words "sorry, you're not my type" into a message and send it to me. Then repeat that 30 times a day for a week.
Honestly, do it.
It'll give you a good insight into what it's like.
I promise I won't reply going "why not?" or "I didn't fancy you anyway, you ugly sod" "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I just told a guy -your too short-but it clearly says in caps at the start of my profile that I prefer men over 6 foot,so I consider it insulting that guys that message haven't the decency to at least see what I like first.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are all here by our own free will. Nobody forces you to message people, if you message someone that's up to you, you decide if that person is worth a few seconds of your time to compose a message. The person receiving the message is under no obligation to respond to you. If they like the look of you they'll reply, if you aren't what they're looking for they won't, what's the point in messaging someone to tell them that, all it does is invite them to respond. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If women spent their time replying to EVERY message that was a no.. with a 'no thanks' I doubt they would have the time to get to a message that may have a 'yes im interested reply'
No rules that you have to respond to any random sent message.. and if there were... pretty much most of the women wud prob disappear.... and what a great site it would be if only full of males !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some women must be overwhelmed with messages especially those top of hot pics. They probably need a PA to reply to every message.
Ignore the negatives and focus on the positives of the replies you do receive. |
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