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Split the room cost of a hotel meet !!! Yes or no ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondering what the consensus is on this ! Single guy here and have been surprised by the amount of single women who have said sorry I don't Split costs on a room for a meet ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive always split the cost. Seems fair unless one is staying overnight them they can foot the bill. Depends how desparate you are for a fuck OP. As someone has said you are one of many. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Marc and I always buy the hotel room - but that's because we plan on staying the night. Plus if I decide I don't want sex, I don't need to hear bitching about how much some guy paid for a room.
I've never had a hotel meet where I wasn't staying the night in the room so it's never really come up as an issue. I would think splitting was optimal, but I think a lot depends on who is actually using the room for the night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't do hotels the main reason being I can't afford to split the cost and wouldn't want the man to pay.the amount of men that say that's doesn't matter and they wouldn't dream of letting me pay is unbelievable but I just wouldn't feel right |
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"I won't do hotels the main reason being I can't afford to split the cost and wouldn't want the man to pay.the amount of men that say that's doesn't matter and they wouldn't dream of letting me pay is unbelievable but I just wouldn't feel right "
 I am like this too. Have turned down A lot of meets because of this |
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I've said this before but I always want to split the costs of a meet - hotel, drinks, food, club entry etc. That way there's absolutely no doubt regarding any 'obligation' and I can relax as an equal. I'd hate to feel 'bought' in any way, it'd make me feel extremely uncomfortable and neither would I want a guy to feel I was doing him a 'favour' seeing him by expecting him to pay more than half. |
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Rarely do the hotel thing tbh... But split or take turns when a hotel is a necessity.
Unless its a thing that I'm in the area anyway, and the meet is coinciding with my stay - I wouldn't expect whoever I was meeting to chip in for a room I was going to be paying for anyway...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not married/hiding.. so rather than splitting a hotel, I'd prefer home comforts 
I am sharing a room for a social though and it was a given that we'd split the cost. |
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Every lady I have had a hotel meet with offered to split the bill. I generally book the hotel myself after discussing with the lady. I try to book ahead of time and use a chain with which I have a points card. That shaves some of the cost. I try to ensure we each pay no more than £35 but get a spacious room with a king size bed. |
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If I had a meet when travelling for work and was staying in the hotel I wouldn't expect any contribution.
If a room was booked for a meet with the express purpose and knowledge of both parties beforehand it seems fair to share, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't as I'm looking for men who can accommodate regularly. Unless he's prepared to pay for a room on a regular basis he has to accommodate in his home. There are plenty who do. |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"I've said this before but I always want to split the costs of a meet - hotel, drinks, food, club entry etc. That way there's absolutely no doubt regarding any 'obligation' and I can relax as an equal. I'd hate to feel 'bought' in any way, it'd make me feel extremely uncomfortable and neither would I want a guy to feel I was doing him a 'favour' seeing him by expecting him to pay more than half. "
This is exactly how I feel splitting any costs |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I pay for hotels regardless of the wealth of my meet.
I like my luxuries and yeah. They'll often get drinks and stuff though to try and balance it out.
I'll bring you a gift "
Just you will be more than enough. |
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"I pay for hotels regardless of the wealth of my meet.
I like my luxuries and yeah. They'll often get drinks and stuff though to try and balance it out.
I'll bring you a gift
Just you will be more than enough. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Work has picked up recent ones so nothing to discuss and I've never booked a hotel specifically because I am meeting someone.
Me being in a hotel usually presents the opportunity to meet.
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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If we're both staying in the room then yes. If just I am then I'll pay or vice versa (although I tend to offer a donation). With people I've met more than once we sometimes take it in turns or one of us will buy dinner and snack/drink supplies if the other gets the room. With the regular squeeze he tends to pay because I join him when he's travelling with work so he would have had a room anyway. So it depends. What I wouldn't do is expect or insist someone paid for a hotel room in order to meet me without discussing some form of financial quid pro quo. I still feel bad about a meet where we split the cost of the hotel room but he got dinner and I forgot to give him the cash for my half. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering what the consensus is on this ! Single guy here and have been surprised by the amount of single women who have said sorry I don't Split costs on a room for a meet ! "
well shame on them .. in this day and age.
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Different people have varying affordability criteria as well as which hotels they'll select and whether they'll prepay for cheaper rates.
Consider who stands the risk of paying too as well as who may have influenced towards choosing to meet at a hotel. All this plus adding the pressure that someone may feel to have sex, because they have to pay and they're at a place alone with someone else.
My point being that it's a reasonably complicated matter. Discuss it upfront but assume that you may stand the option of paying it all, if a no show, you don't work out etc. I've paid and contributed but don't assume all share my perspective. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering what the consensus is on this ! Single guy here and have been surprised by the amount of single women who have said sorry I don't Split costs on a room for a meet ! "
Don't offer next time just let them pay  |
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I've never come across a lady who was unwilling to split the cost of a hotel.
My usual way of doing things is to offer to book the hotel myself. This, I do for a few reasons. Firstly I am aware there are lots of fake guys who never meet. I know ladies who have booked rooms after lots of chat only to find the guy doesn't show up and has gone UNLOS...and this is becoming far more common.
So I book, as a gesture to show that I'm real and I genuinely intend to be there at the appointed time. I'll happily send over confirmation of the booking. I am a member of a couple of hotel chains' reward programmes so can sometimes get discounts. A £110 room for £70 is not to be sniffed at, and most people don't mind £35.
I certainly don't consider the cost to be paying me or anyone for sex...nor do I feel it means expectations of sex - though with regulars clearly we know what we're likely to get up to. I've never had a lady run out on me, but if she felt she'd had a crap time with me I'd message her to say I didn't expect her to pay anything towards the cost of the room.
But really, I've never come across a lady who wasn't happy to split the costs. I don't do quickie meets anyway so any lady joining me in a hotel will be invited there overnight or for quite a few hours, using all the facilities (bed, shower, towels, tea/coffee). I've simply never come across anyone who felt splitting the cost was unfair.
Of course everyone has different budgets, different expectations. I'm happy to book a travelodge if it can be had cheaper than the chains I usually use. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never come across a lady who was unwilling to split the cost of a hotel.
My usual way of doing things is to offer to book the hotel myself. This, I do for a few reasons. Firstly I am aware there are lots of fake guys who never meet. I know ladies who have booked rooms after lots of chat only to find the guy doesn't show up and has gone UNLOS...and this is becoming far more common.
So I book, as a gesture to show that I'm real and I genuinely intend to be there at the appointed time. I'll happily send over confirmation of the booking. I am a member of a couple of hotel chains' reward programmes so can sometimes get discounts. A £110 room for £70 is not to be sniffed at, and most people don't mind £35.
I certainly don't consider the cost to be paying me or anyone for sex...nor do I feel it means expectations of sex - though with regulars clearly we know what we're likely to get up to. I've never had a lady run out on me, but if she felt she'd had a crap time with me I'd message her to say I didn't expect her to pay anything towards the cost of the room.
But really, I've never come across a lady who wasn't happy to split the costs. I don't do quickie meets anyway so any lady joining me in a hotel will be invited there overnight or for quite a few hours, using all the facilities (bed, shower, towels, tea/coffee). I've simply never come across anyone who felt splitting the cost was unfair.
Of course everyone has different budgets, different expectations. I'm happy to book a travelodge if it can be had cheaper than the chains I usually use. "
You can get an hour wi Tina, Gina, Lina or Mina for £30 in Glasgae fs and they come wi accommodation!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm arranging a hotel meet which was my suggestion so I'm covering the cost (I refused their offer of a contribution).
If at any time in the future that person asks me to meet them at a hotel then they can cover that cost. Or we will split it. Really no big deal |
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By *dy-ukTV/TS
over a year ago
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If you don't split costs, then one side is a time waster, could be expensive!
From a different site, and no names going to be mentioned, been talking on and off for a while but...
I've booked a nice room in centre of Stratford on Avon for last night and tonight, Monday booked off work too, planned fantastic schedule too, butterfly farm, Warwick castle, Mary Ardens house, boat trip (nothing cast in stone so could do anything else, play it by ear and see how time goes.
I paid for room in full and looks like it's off.
£170 lighter. Cest la vie!
I think splitting costs, means both parties have financially committed. If one backs out, you've only lost half and if too late to get refund or non refundable policy, can still use room if you fancy a night away on your lonesum! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think women should never have to pay for the room in my opinion. Yes are in modern times but let's revert back to when men where gentleman, caring and women felt adored. You pay the bill! It's the right thing to do. After all the women is allowing you to enter her love box lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think women should never have to pay for the room in my opinion. Yes are in modern times but let's revert back to when men where gentleman, caring and women felt adored. You pay the bill! It's the right thing to do. After all the women is allowing you to enter her love box lol"
It's only the right thing to do if that's how the woman sees it too, and lots of women on here have said it makes them feel obligated to take things further and they'd prefer to split costs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Marc and I always buy the hotel room - but that's because we plan on staying the night. Plus if I decide I don't want sex, I don't need to hear bitching about how much some guy paid for a room.
I've never had a hotel meet where I wasn't staying the night in the room so it's never really come up as an issue. I would think splitting was optimal, but I think a lot depends on who is actually using the room for the night."
No need for hotel I have a super king size bed to share with you lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think women should never have to pay for the room in my opinion. Yes are in modern times but let's revert back to when men where gentleman, caring and women felt adored. You pay the bill! It's the right thing to do. After all the women is allowing you to enter her love box lol
It's only the right thing to do if that's how the woman sees it too, and lots of women on here have said it makes them feel obligated to take things further and they'd prefer to split costs "
If I've agreed to meet someone in a hotel room it's because I want sex with him. I wouldn't say yes if I didn't already know that. Regardless of where anyone has sex, either party can change their minds, if they feel uncomfortable. This is why I spend a lot of time talking before getting into bed with someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think women should never have to pay for the room in my opinion. Yes are in modern times but let's revert back to when men where gentleman, caring and women felt adored. You pay the bill! It's the right thing to do. After all the women is allowing you to enter her love box lol
It's only the right thing to do if that's how the woman sees it too, and lots of women on here have said it makes them feel obligated to take things further and they'd prefer to split costs
If I've agreed to meet someone in a hotel room it's because I want sex with him. I wouldn't say yes if I didn't already know that. Regardless of where anyone has sex, either party can change their minds, if they feel uncomfortable. This is why I spend a lot of time talking before getting into bed with someone. "
Totally agree and I do the same, but that does seem to come up quite often that girls feel obligated so prefer to pay their way.
For me it's just cos I'm loaded |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think women should never have to pay for the room in my opinion. Yes are in modern times but let's revert back to when men where gentleman, caring and women felt adored. You pay the bill! It's the right thing to do. After all the women is allowing you to enter her love box lol
It's only the right thing to do if that's how the woman sees it too, and lots of women on here have said it makes them feel obligated to take things further and they'd prefer to split costs
If I've agreed to meet someone in a hotel room it's because I want sex with him. I wouldn't say yes if I didn't already know that. Regardless of where anyone has sex, either party can change their minds, if they feel uncomfortable. This is why I spend a lot of time talking before getting into bed with someone.
Totally agree and I do the same, but that does seem to come up quite often that girls feel obligated so prefer to pay their way.
For me it's just cos I'm loaded "
I'm poor and don't accommodate at home, so the man has to. If he doesn't he shouldn't be contacting me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always choose the hotel, book it in my name, pay for it and stay the night...that way I host the meet and decide when the guy leaves. Plus I like luxury rooms so don't compromise on price. My meets usually bring a bottle of something we can both share |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've said this before but I always want to split the costs of a meet - hotel, drinks, food, club entry etc. That way there's absolutely no doubt regarding any 'obligation' and I can relax as an equal. I'd hate to feel 'bought' in any way, it'd make me feel extremely uncomfortable and neither would I want a guy to feel I was doing him a 'favour' seeing him by expecting him to pay more than half. "
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"I think women should never have to pay for the room in my opinion. Yes are in modern times but let's revert back to when men where gentleman, caring and women felt adored. You pay the bill! It's the right thing to do. After all the women is allowing you to enter her love box lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
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If I'm doing the inviting then I offer to pick up the cost. If by some miracle a woman is chasing me to jump my bones at a hotel I'm happy to split..It's like travelling. I will travel a long distance to meet the right lady, and wouldn't expect her to split fuel money. |
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