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By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago
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OK, so one of the people in your fab hot list is unfortunate to have an accident on the road and a result of this is that they now have a facial disfugurement, would you still want to fuck them, or have them as a friend? |
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By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago
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"If they are already a friend or I've fucked them, then nothing like that will change my mind. "
Hey! you're obviously a sincere friend Laine, yet people with facial disfigurement are subjected to all kinds of prejudice merely for living with a face that is different. It may be a somewhat unfair thread to post by me as other than by touch I wouldn't see any difference or the change in their looks, but still I'm fascinated how I and other people would react to a friend or one of my hotties having experienced something like what happened to Katey Piper. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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gonna get slated for this but being honest, if it was so bad that i no longer found them attractive then id not continue with planning a meet
naturally it doesnt change who they are as a person, but i'm not wanting to fuck a personality. Id not be pressured into persuing the meet because then it would just be a sympathy shag and id not do that either.
Remain friends without a doubt though :D xx
ps.. i hope no one has any nasty accidents xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it is a hard topic to comment on and i would like to think that i wouldnt but you dont know untill your in that situation... Beauty isnt just skin deep and personality speaks volumes... |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I would support them thro friendship, if they wanted that..
when the time was ready for them, we would discuss it and if we both agreed .. we would have sex.
I wouldn't fuck them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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people who suffer such traumas can also undergo severe personality changes.
This would be the deciding factor for me.
When I befriend someone, it's for the long haul, but such life changing occurances can challenge the strongest wills  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"gonna get slated for this but being honest, if it was so bad that i no longer found them attractive then id not continue with planning a meet
naturally it doesnt change who they are as a person, but i'm not wanting to fuck a personality. Id not be pressured into persuing the meet because then it would just be a sympathy shag and id not do that either.
Remain friends without a doubt though :D xx
ps.. i hope no one has any nasty accidents xx"
I didn't see the question like that, I saw it as would you get rid of them as a friend.
If they were a friend and I'd already fucked them then they would remain a friend.
If they were hideously disfigured would I fuck them again? No!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I lost a breast through cancer.
It was then that I discovered who my real friends and playmates were, the ones who couldn't 'cope' with my illness shot themselves in the foot.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yer can`t see the essence o the liquid thru a bottle of coloured glass..
Its a twinkle in the eye, and that elusive erotism that piques my interest, that doesn`t nessasarily depend on looks...more a vibe..however I do eat with my eyes in honesty, but that isnt the defining factor wether I want to have fun...and some things like poor hygiene, I can never get past..ever..but a facial disfigurement wouldn`t ever seem enough fer me to be prejudiced..in the past it hasn`t presented a problem..I don`t notice the disfigurement...it kinda fades, if that makes sense..I learn`t a long time ago..all that glitters ain`t gold %"
My friendship isn`t based on looks...but the person and their values, attitudes etc, this is a completely different circumstance, to wether I find them attractive sexually.. |
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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago
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True friendship is taking the mental and emotional(personality) connection over the physical (looks) one, and very little should change that. So, for me, if they were already a friend then they would stay one.
As for fucking, couldn't say until I was actually in that particular situation.
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By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago
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"How severe is the facial disfigurement?
If it's like a lil scar on the cheek that's fine, but if it's like a piece of head missing I would have to cut them loose."
Hmmmmmm. lets use Katey Piper as an example then Funkey  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its hard to say without seeing the person. If i was already friends and i might see through the issue. But if it was a new meet it would be different. Its like saying how long is a bit of string. You don't know till its in frount of you. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"How severe is the facial disfigurement?
If it's like a lil scar on the cheek that's fine, but if it's like a piece of head missing I would have to cut them loose.
Hmmmmmm. lets use Katey Piper as an example then Funkey "
she is an incredible young girl... a true inspiration to a very lot of people.
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"How severe is the facial disfigurement?
If it's like a lil scar on the cheek that's fine, but if it's like a piece of head missing I would have to cut them loose.
Hmmmmmm. lets use Katey Piper as an example then Funkey
she is an incredible young girl... a true inspiration to a very lot of people.
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As View says she is an outstanding individual with balls of steel! and as it happens a cracking rack!
In all seriousness though why the fuck would anyone drop a friend because they looked different?
My flippancy was one born of incredulity at the question  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"OK, so one of the people in your fab hot list is unfortunate to have an accident on the road and a result of this is that they now have a facial disfugurement, would you still want to fuck them, or have them as a friend?"
It depends...our hotlist is used as a notlist plus a hotlist for sexy people...but some of them we havn't spoken to yet, so can't be classed as friends. Splitting hairs I know
But, if it was a friend before their disfigurement then I can't see there being a difference after.
The only way things would change is if they put a wall up while dealing with it themselves.
As for fucking them, if I didn't have them as friends, then we are back to straight NSA sex, where looks come into play, so it would still depend if I fancied them or not. |
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"OK, so one of the people in your fab hot list is unfortunate to have an accident on the road and a result of this is that they now have a facial disfugurement, would you still want to fuck them, or have them as a friend?"
So they are only on my hotlist? To me that means I haven't met them and I haven't yet formed any sort of rapport with them.... which means they would be none the wiser if I binned them off as a possible or not.
Would I bin off someone I didn't know because of the way they looked... yep. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OK my friends list is for people I have met and chat to regularly....not always played with them.....
My Hotlist is only for people I have either played with or wish to play with.
Therefore, If I had a person on my Hotlist that I had met and played with in the past........taking a Katy Piper example....then why the hell not......they were hot enough to fuck in the past, get over the scars.....
Yes I have friends that I have tried and failed with because I found I was not sexually attracted to them after chatting and flirting for donkeys, howeverk, if I had successfully met and played with someone on a regular basis and they had an accident that left them similar to Katy Piper...I would have no problem whatsoever in continuing my current relationship.
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I had a boyfriend a few years ago who had sever scarring on his face. He had had 54 stiches in his face some 25 years previously when they didnt do such a good job, some where lumpy and definetly not pretty. This was before i knew him so i was with him seeing them from the start. But after about 3 months i didnt think about them. We split up after 18 months but nothing to do with that |
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By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago
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Yeah! I realise that such a hypothetical question leaves many of the unknown factors missing as you have said Fruitylicious. Personally I think that my friendship would remain as strong as it ever was so long as anyother contributory factors remained the same, a huge shift in personality could make things difficult, but I'd like to think that I was strong enough to find a way that I could support them and remain a friend. As for continuing to have a sexual relationship with that person, I suppose my circumstances may make me luckier than most; that isn't to say that I don't value beauty or find looks hugely important. We all live in a very image conscious media driven world, the air brush and the photo that makes good copy are forever veing rammed down our throats, so I fear that unless whomever was misfortunate to be the unlucky person emulted Katey Pipers energy and enthusiasm to re-build their beauty it may cause me to back away sexually. |
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