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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
hertfordshire |
next week hubby is retiring from work hes 72 and should have retired years ago but its going to be so weird having him home all the time
suggestions on how not to get on each others nerves ?
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over a year ago
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Ah my parents had a similar dilemma a couple of years back. I think it's best that they spend some time together and doing things together in their newly found free time, but also find some time alone and doing their own things. If they're not used to spending every passing minute together then it's most likely they will start to get on each other's nerves!
It's also important he keeps active - the body can start to shut down if it's used to work and then all of a sudden that all stops!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ah my parents had a similar dilemma a couple of years back. I think it's best that they spend some time together and doing things together in their newly found free time, but also find some time alone and doing their own things. If they're not used to spending every passing minute together then it's most likely they will start to get on each other's nerves!
It's also important he keeps active - the body can start to shut down if it's used to work and then all of a sudden that all stops! "
When I say 'they' I mean you, of course! Kind of found myself talking about my parents!  |
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"Ah my parents had a similar dilemma a couple of years back. I think it's best that they spend some time together and doing things together in their newly found free time, but also find some time alone and doing their own things. If they're not used to spending every passing minute together then it's most likely they will start to get on each other's nerves!
It's also important he keeps active - the body can start to shut down if it's used to work and then all of a sudden that all stops! "
This is exactly right. My parents are in this situation. Taking up a new hobby or activity to replace work is important. Otherwise they will begin to step on each others toes |
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"next week hubby is retiring from work hes 72 and should have retired years ago but its going to be so weird having him home all the time
suggestions on how not to get on each others nerves ?
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We're retired although I do occasionally do some work. Separate interests and time apart is vital but conversely common interests and time together are too. Its about achieving a balance I suppose and biting your tongue big time  |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
We are both retired and love spending all our time together. This time of year we are doing lots of gardening, we go out for lunch some days and visit national trust properties. Also do lots of waliking. Hubby has a hobby, which keeps him happy  |
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We are both retired and love spending all our time together. This time of year we are doing lots of gardening, we go out for lunch some days and visit national trust properties. Also do lots of waliking. Hubby has a hobby, which keeps him happy "
You sound like us  .
We're off to a National Trust property tomorrow |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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We are both retired and love spending all our time together. This time of year we are doing lots of gardening, we go out for lunch some days and visit national trust properties. Also do lots of waliking. Hubby has a hobby, which keeps him happy
You sound like us .
We're off to a National Trust property tomorrow"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"next week hubby is retiring from work hes 72 and should have retired years ago but its going to be so weird having him home all the time
suggestions on how not to get on each others nerves ?
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Stop shagging that normally works. |
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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
hertfordshire |
"Get him a shed with light , and electricity ...
If hes good at DIY .... get all your diy jobs done .... then hire him out as a handy man ...."
he has a shed hes rubbish at DIY
if it goes wrong he loses his temper |
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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
hertfordshire |
"Ah my parents had a similar dilemma a couple of years back. I think it's best that they spend some time together and doing things together in their newly found free time, but also find some time alone and doing their own things. If they're not used to spending every passing minute together then it's most likely they will start to get on each other's nerves!
It's also important he keeps active - the body can start to shut down if it's used to work and then all of a sudden that all stops!
When I say 'they' I mean you, of course! Kind of found myself talking about my parents! "
thanxs for the advice |
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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
hertfordshire |
"Apparently men find it harder to adapt to retirement - less social than females and hardwired to act as provider, etc. You may need to plan a few activities to get him started on his leisure. 
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so true financially its worrying too |
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By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago
Near the River |
"Apparently men find it harder to adapt to retirement - less social than females and hardwired to act as provider, etc. You may need to plan a few activities to get him started on his leisure.
so true financially its worrying too "
Perhaps hubby can get a part time job...as long as you both have your own lives to lead... |
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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago
Dorset |
I was lucky to be able to retire at 50, never been so busy, but at least it's doing things I want to now, it makes me wonder how I ever found time to work, some days we are even too busy for sex, (but not many ..lol) |
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"next week hubby is retiring from work hes 72 and should have retired years ago but its going to be so weird having him home all the time
suggestions on how not to get on each others nerves ?
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My other half works from home a lot and I retired in November. We've found "me time" works for us. He has his photography I have my children's knitwear projects.
I also holiday once a year with friends without him.
Makes the time we spend together fun and rewarding.
Hope you find what works for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"next week hubby is retiring from work hes 72 and should have retired years ago but its going to be so weird having him home all the time
suggestions on how not to get on each others nerves ?
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Fuck all the time? |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"I don't think the onus is on the retiring person to fit in with the other person's life and routine. It's for the two people to renegotiate their terms of being together. "
Well said and so true! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"next week hubby is retiring from work hes 72 and should have retired years ago but its going to be so weird having him home all the time
suggestions on how not to get on each others nerves ?
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Don't hum the song..I know a song that will get on your nerves get on your nerves get on your nerves, I know a song that will get on your nerves |
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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
hertfordshire |
"next week hubby is retiring from work hes 72 and should have retired years ago but its going to be so weird having him home all the time
suggestions on how not to get on each others nerves ?
Fuck all the time?"
do you think hubby will mind? lol
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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago
Suffolk - East Anglia |
Retirement is great, but: after all the preparations and chat about finance, health, using time etc, it's absolutely vital to maintain that human contact with friends/ colleagues. We all need that human interaction and men particularly need that banter/piss take humour with old pals.
Make sure he gets it. |
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