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Question on anti asian on fab

By *r-girth OP Man over a year ago

edinburgh

This is my first post so please bear with me. Been a member for over a year and have been lucky and have had amazing meets who came long term fb's.

Now one thing that bothers me is the anti asian profiles and sentiments and i am sad to say it does exist on this site.

The women who have no asian on there profile i dont message but the ones who get to me, follow a certain pattern. We chat they say great profile and amazing verifications just what we are looking for. Then i usually ask do you see man of asian heritage. Then its either a block or some abuse i wont use the words but profound racism.

I am well aware that they are many keyboard warriors and its all about personal choice but manners class should be a given.

So to cut a long story short why the anti asian sentiment on fab?

I got used to it but still not nice.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I think it's to do with certain perceptions which unfortunately are borne out by a minority of asian men. I know they aren't representative but I'm not sure how you counter it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People will always have preferences.

These may be for racist reasons, or not.

Some people only seek BBC, some people only want gym fit, some people won't meet marrieds, some people won't meet younger people.

Their reasons will be personal - sometimes based on experiences, sometimes tastes, and yes, maybe prejudices too. But not necessarily always.

The thing is, it'll never work between you and them so it's no loss. You would never be compatible so the meeting would be crap anyway!

Focus on those who DO want to meet you, don't lose any sleep over those that don't. I've seen profiles that specifically seek Asians and I think on Fab there truly is something for everyone!

Good luck on the site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It boils down to Women/couples being weary of south Asian men due to the very pronounced and highly publicised unfortunate misogynistic dogmas of certain south Asian cultures..

Asia is a large continent with many differing cultures , for example although east Asians are technically Asian, they're completely different from south Asians culturally.

On one hand I can understand the reluctance of some to meet or chat with south Asian men considering, on the other i can understand it's unfair to tar all south Asian men with one brush.

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By *arvin35Man over a year ago

penrith

Do you mind if I ask do you bring up your Asian heritage or do they? If you bring it up does it not suggest you have an issue with it which might lead them to think? And that's not to be insulting in that, perhaps just don't mention it, I assume they would realise after a face pic ?

No insult intended in this remark just my thoughts

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By *litheroevoyeurMan over a year ago

Clitheroe

Isn't it just down to a preference of who you are prepared to have sex with. Deal with it and move on.

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By *r-girth OP Man over a year ago

edinburgh

Everyone has a personal preference and its free will thats not the issue at all.

As for the poster who said deal with it isn't that obvious one does.

Yes i do mention to them i am asian heritage and its at this point the abuse or block thats the point i was asking about. As we asians are singled out. Before this moment great chats. The reason i message it early is due to the bad history and abuse why waste my time and others. As fab should be about mutual respect and needs

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"This is my first post so please bear with me. Been a member for over a year and have been lucky and have had amazing meets who came long term fb's.

Now one thing that bothers me is the anti asian profiles and sentiments and i am sad to say it does exist on this site.

I am well aware that they are many keyboard warriors and its all about personal choice but manners class should be a given.

So to cut a long story short why the anti asian sentiment on fab?

I got used to it but still not nice."

It's all about choice, my friend. I wouldn't call it anti Asian, it's what people find attractive or not and their past experiences.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Everyone has a personal preference and its free will thats not the issue at all.

As for the poster who said deal with it isn't that obvious one does.

Well you shouldn't be receiving abuse and you need to report these people. Yes there should be mutual respect here, but sadly it is lacking

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

you're goint to hate what i am about to say then...

its a kop out.......

its easy to go out and blame the the things you can't control as it leaves you blamesless and makes it easy to point at other people and call them "nasty pasties".....

the bare pare is that not everyone for one reason or another is going to like you... just as you are not going to fancy every person out there...

so rather than concentrating on trying to change the minds of those who you are never going to.... spend that time making yourself to those people who will like you....

some people get it into their heads that so many people are no's that they forget to use their energy on those who will say yes.....

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By *inkyPixelMan over a year ago

Cranford

To me it definitely exists but it is almost always down to past experiences rather than anything racist.

I know plenty of women who I met face to face in clubs have never backed down once they found out I was Asian. If anything they said how different I was in a good way (refinement, class and manners).

If you want to compare reality to online then race is not the major issue

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Am Asian well kinda and I've never had any issues fs.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Am Asian well kinda and I've never had any issues fs. "

How are you 'kinda' Asian fs?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it me or had there been a multitude of these threads the last few days?

If you find someone who doesn't want to meet an Asian then block & move on.

I'm fat, there's plenty who don't want to meet me so I just block, to save my time later on, and move on.

It's a swingers site not a popularity contest!

PS I'm not ranting, just fed up with all the anti crap

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By *incolnmale100Man over a year ago

Wakefield

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial. "
personally i like having liasions with asian women and other races i do find it a bit off putting bit as they say each to their own x happy swinging xx

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By *r-girth OP Man over a year ago

edinburgh

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By *r-girth OP Man over a year ago

edinburgh

To me it definitely exists but it is almost always down to past experiences rather than anything racist.

I know plenty of women who I met face to face in clubs have never backed down once they found out I was Asian. If anything they said how different I was in a good way (refinement, class and manners).

If you want to compare reality to online then race is not the major issue

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Deff agree with you the perception against reality is huge.

I met many at a club and got on great as they see you for who.you are not a predifined view of ones ethnicity.

Its always confused me the abuse part thats all ah well each to there own.

I will be quiet now good night all.happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I find it offensive to be asked if I meet people of a certain race. I don't reply to anyone asking that kind of question because they are making assumptions about me and my race. Just because some judge doesn't mean I will.

People are people, ill chat and meet anyone who treats me with respect and approaches me as an individual.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am Asian well kinda and I've never had any issues fs.

How are you 'kinda' Asian fs?

Am half Indian fs

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Race, creed, colour, sexuality or accent has no bearing on who we decide to meet but we are shallow and base all our decisions on initial attraction from face and body pics, then by their message and profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll meet anyone provided they're no a soap dodger fs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally I find it offensive to be asked if I meet people of a certain race. I don't reply to anyone asking that kind of question because they are making assumptions about me and my race. Just because some judge doesn't mean I will.

People are people, ill chat and meet anyone who treats me with respect and approaches me as an individual.

And compliments yer shitter

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By *r-girth OP Man over a year ago

edinburgh

Sadly i hade to hide my profile as some fucker hurled racist abuse at my veris point proven. Blocked and reported.

Take care all i am out of this thread

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By *azkinsWoman over a year ago

leeds

M1cks does fs mean.full stop you put it at the end of every sentence.?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is my first post so please bear with me. Been a member for over a year and have been lucky and have had amazing meets who came long term fb's.

Now one thing that bothers me is the anti asian profiles and sentiments and i am sad to say it does exist on this site.

I am well aware that they are many keyboard warriors and its all about personal choice but manners class should be a given.

So to cut a long story short why the anti asian sentiment on fab?

I got used to it but still not nice."

Many people have overt negative experinces with asian men.

This colours thier view point on the whole group.

It sucks but theres so much choice that it's not even going to dent thier chances.

The other main reason is they just dont find the general asian phenotype attractive.

Which again is pretty common. Asian men tend not to fit the facial and body tyoe preferences of euopeans and arent really something were exposed to in the majority of our lives and so it doesnt become the "beauty standard".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"M1cks does fs mean.full stop you put it at the end of every sentence.?"

Thlught it meant "fucks sake"?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"M1cks does fs mean.full stop you put it at the end of every sentence.?"

Naw it means fab swingers fs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"M1cks does fs mean.full stop you put it at the end of every sentence.?

Naw it means fab swingers fs. "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op. Youve hidden your profile so i dont know what it says.

Do you not have pictures up. Surely they can see your asian. Or do you mention it anywhere in your profile.

I know asian guys on here that have no problem at all.

If your getting racist abuse or any kind of abuse report the profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"M1cks does fs mean.full stop you put it at the end of every sentence.?

Thlught it meant "fucks sake"?"

So did I fs.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"To me it definitely exists but it is almost always down to past experiences rather than anything racist.

I know plenty of women who I met face to face in clubs have never backed down once they found out I was Asian. If anything they said how different I was in a good way (refinement, class and manners).

If you want to compare reality to online then race is not the major issue

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Deff agree with you the perception against reality is huge.

I met many at a club and got on great as they see you for who.you are not a predifined view of ones ethnicity.

Its always confused me the abuse part thats all ah well each to there own.

I will be quiet now good night all.happy fabbing"
Op. What do you mean havent backed down face to face once they find out your asian? Do you look asian? If not why even mention it

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By *mcouple1Couple over a year ago

nr warrington

OP. We had the worst night at a club in our lives whilst the single men who thought they could grope and disrespect women enjoyed it

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By *mcouple1Couple over a year ago

nr warrington

There is no anti Asian on Fab

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial. "

Stating you won't and don't see a certain race makes you a racist, simple. 'Preference' is a weak and lame excuse. Just shush! If you receive a message from someone you don't fancy of any race, gender, whatever, then simply delete. Screaming it from your profile marks you as a bigot.

And breathe.

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By *mcouple1Couple over a year ago

nr warrington

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe. "
Absolute bollox. Tats angry alphas and beards. Come on down the price is right. Ginger sensitive caring lets cuddle. No race no creed just respect. Pakistani muslim men we have met in a club have Zero respect towards women

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe. "

I think it's a bit different on here. Generally the idea is to end up having sex or sexual encounters with the people you meet.

If the context was won't sit next to (enter race here) on the bus or acknowledge in the street as an example then yeah I'd agree with you.

But meeting for sex I think it is preference. There's loads of profiles with black only or I've seen profiles stating no black men.

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"This is my first post so please bear with me. Been a member for over a year and have been lucky and have had amazing meets who came long term fb's.

Now one thing that bothers me is the anti asian profiles and sentiments and i am sad to say it does exist on this site.

I am well aware that they are many keyboard warriors and its all about personal choice but manners class should be a given.

So to cut a long story short why the anti asian sentiment on fab?

I got used to it but still not nice."

This shit needs to stop. Like yesterday. Someone doesn't want to meet you? Move on. Learn how the block button works. Use it. Or...

Maybe you could persuade them that they will like you if they just close their eyes and pretend that you're really a whit guy!

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe. Absolute bollox. Tats angry alphas and beards. Come on down the price is right. Ginger sensitive caring lets cuddle. No race no creed just respect. Pakistani muslim men we have met in a club have Zero respect towards women "

So you're disregarding a whole continent of people on a few bad experiences. Groovy

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe.

I think it's a bit different on here. Generally the idea is to end up having sex or sexual encounters with the people you meet.

If the context was won't sit next to (enter race here) on the bus or acknowledge in the street as an example then yeah I'd agree with you.

But meeting for sex I think it is preference. There's loads of profiles with black only or I've seen profiles stating no black men. "

I understand the preferences thing when used in a positive 'we seek xyz' context but not when in the negative then use 'preference' as a disclaimer.

It works has a great filter though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If someone hurls abuse at you here OP, then block and report them

I have preferences of who I find attractive and would therefore want to meet. I avoid being exclusionary by not stating who I don't wish to meet. And yes, these are preferences and not racism or heightism or weighism; people who state that preferences are some kind of 'ism' are talking absolute nonsense

There will always be people who do not wish to meet us and there will always be people we are not compatible with; that is life. We concentrate our efforts on those who want to meet us and the rest are just background noise

So be positive, OP. There are people who do want to meet you

Why people don't want to meet Asians? Well, several other posters have hinted on the reasons but as an individual, there isn't much you can do about changing the group's behaviour

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is my first post so please bear with me. Been a member for over a year and have been lucky and have had amazing meets who came long term fb's.

Now one thing that bothers me is the anti asian profiles and sentiments and i am sad to say it does exist on this site.

I am well aware that they are many keyboard warriors and its all about personal choice but manners class should be a given.

So to cut a long story short why the anti asian sentiment on fab?

I got used to it but still not nice."

I'm assuming that by the usual standards of fabs, you've exchanged photos, mutual interest, messages back & forth, then as a conversation piece, you throw in the "Asian heritage" bit?

Why ?

If they're interested in you, by this stage, what's the relevance?

You've already stated, that you wouldn't contact anyone, who specifically declares "no asians" so, if someone's shown interest in you, why bring it up?

You've also stated that you have some successful meets, and (big presumption approaching...) I'm guessing you know & understand the "swinging thing" so again, why, if they've seen your image, checked your veri's & are messaging, who cares about Asian heritage?

I'd suggest the issue of heritage, remains with you?

People make their choices, on lots of things.

Using a claim of "racism" might be valid, then again it might simply be over sensitive?

If you've copped abuse, from this thread, via pm, then block & delete.

I once

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people are "racist", deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial. "

Exactly our thoughts.

Expressing a preference is one thing: it doesn't mean exclusion.

Blanket bans based on race aren't nice.

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman over a year ago

London

"To me it definitely exists but it is almost always down to past experiences rather than anything racist.

I know plenty of women who I met face to face in clubs have never backed down once they found out I was Asian. If anything they said how different I was in a good way (refinement, class and manners).

If you want to compare reality to online then race is not the major issue

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Deff agree with you the perception against reality is huge.

I met many at a club and got on great as they see you for who.you are not a predifined view of ones ethnicity.

Its always confused me the abuse part thats all ah well each to there own.

I will be quiet now good night all.happy fabbing"

From what you're saying, it seems that you have more success from clubs. Not everyone has success equally from clubs and on Fab. It tends to be either one or the other.

I think you've found your own formula. Keep going to clubs where people see you for what you are, and take Fab with a pinch of salt. Do your approaching IRL, it's more 3 dimensional than online. You can always network with those you met at clubs on Fab and you can get meets that way. Lots of people use Fab to chat,not to approach others for initial meets.

Where there is a brick wall a door is always nearby. Stop banging your head against the wall and walk through the door! It's less painful!

As for those people sending messages that do make feel uncomfortable and break any Fab rules, report them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is my first post so please bear with me. Been a member for over a year and have been lucky and have had amazing meets who came long term fb's.

Now one thing that bothers me is the anti asian profiles and sentiments and i am sad to say it does exist on this site.

I am well aware that they are many keyboard warriors and its all about personal choice but manners class should be a given.

So to cut a long story short why the anti asian sentiment on fab?

I got used to it but still not nice."

I honestly think it's the law of attraction, what you think about, you bring about. You are expecting the abuse, therefore the abuse happens (which by the way you should definitely report, NOT acceptable!)

Why make heritage an issue if they have said they like your profile and you're getting along? Show them your picture, they will find you attractive or they wont. If you get blocked, they haven't found you attractive, if you get abuse, you wouldn't find them attractive anyway and it's like the trash taking itself out. Simple!

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

If someone's not attracted to you suck it up move on. That's there prerogative and you can't change that.

However if people aim Racist abuse at you then you know they are not worth the time of day anyway. Racists should be removed from the site.

report block and move on mate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

These threads often read to me as, fuck (insert race) to prove you're not racist even if you're not attracted to said person otherwise you're racist

The other part that bugs me is you're a racist if you put on profile "no (insert race)" yet uf you don't and stop talking to someone who is of said race then you're a racist.

People with preferences sometimes are in a no win situation.

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"These threads often read to me as, fuck (insert race) to prove you're not racist even if you're not attracted to said person otherwise you're racist

The other part that bugs me is you're a racist if you put on profile "no (insert race)" yet uf you don't and stop talking to someone who is of said race then you're a racist.

People with preferences sometimes are in a no win situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"These threads often read to me as, fuck (insert race) to prove you're not racist even if you're not attracted to said person otherwise you're racist

The other part that bugs me is you're a racist if you put on profile "no (insert race)" yet uf you don't and stop talking to someone who is of said race then you're a racist.

People with preferences sometimes are in a no win situation.

It is not just ethnicity which gets people on their high-horse. If a woman has a preference for men taller than herself then she is just shallow because she cannot get past the heightism and meet a shorter man with loads of personality to compensate

Looks like any kind of preference to people who do not meet that requirement, is bad

- Mrs. J -

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By *rwolfMan over a year ago

bristol

You can please most if the people most of the time

You can please some of the people some of the time

But

You cant please everyone all of the time

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People have their likes, dislikes and nothing will change that...win some, loose some.

However i do not understand why people feel they have the right to launch abuse at someone for simply saying hello.. Skin colour is irrelevant and there is only one race, the human race! Which we are all a part of.

Treat others as you would like to be treated, if someone isnt for you rather than spending 10 mins typing an abusive message 10 seconds a polite no thanks... It does boggle my mind as to why someone will put so much effort into an insulting message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe. "

What a load of rubbish, your saying because I won't meet bbc and its stated on my profile im racist. I find that offensive its my personal choice who i meet. I did have a meet a couple of years ago with a bbc and because of that experience I made a informed choice not to put myself in that situation again, weather you like it or not above anyone else on this site im going to think of myself first and my safety.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't see your profile but is the fact that you are Asian on there anywhere?

If it is then the people that do this to you are clearly to blame, however if you hide the fact and only bring it up once you feel confident a meet may take place that's deceptive on your part and they are right to block you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looks like any kind of preference to people who do not meet that requirement, is bad

- Mrs. J -"

Exactly my point damned if you do damned if you don't

Trouble is even if you follow the faq and don't respond you're often labelled as a racist for not responding (as pointed out in other threads like this)

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Am Asian well kinda and I've never had any issues fs.

How are you 'kinda' Asian fs?

Am half Indian fs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe.

You realise that black men are people right!? They're not just big black cocks...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I used past experiences as an excuse to not meet certain races/nationalities I'd never fuck a white British man again, as they have been the least respectful and satisfying sexually of all. Not to mention the racist/bigoted views they spout.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a friend who is blanked after women find out he's Asian. He's very attractive, polite and has a lovely personality. They are interested until the word Asian is used.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If thats the way they get on your better off not meeting them anyway.

This place is an amazing place to be a woman .

Turns a minority of them into egomaniacs with a huge sense of entitlement tho.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe.

You realise that black men are people right!? They're not just big black cocks... "

Yes course I do! I was quoting from my profile.

You have a man pin you down and try forcing his cock down your throat and tell me it wouldn't put you off?.

I have dozens of friends from different cultures I couldn't care less is someone is purple with pink spots I would happily meet if there was a spark. But sadly due to 1 guy and his actions its made me petrified of being in a sexual situation with other black guys.

So because of that I'm racist?.

Before you spark up not all guys are the same I know that, but if i should be in that situation and fear took over its not fair on the guy I would be with so I choose to avoid which is my choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe.

You realise that black men are people right!? They're not just big black cocks...

Yes course I do! I was quoting from my profile.

You have a man pin you down and try forcing his cock down your throat and tell me it wouldn't put you off?.

So because of that I'm racist?.

Before you spark up not all guys are the same I know that, but if i should be in that situation and fear took over its not fair on the guy I would be with so I choose to avoid which is my choice. "

It wouldn't put me off the race of guy, no. If I were to base my exclusions on terrible meets, I'd not be meeting any white men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We don't meet asians. We arent racist in anyway. We have a few reasons why we dont meet asians. Generally its down to our experiences of asians in the swinging world eg a lack of respect to me (nellie), continually touching me (nellie) while at clubs even when told no. This has happened at both clubs we go to. This has happened with every asian bar two that we have come across in the swinging world. A much bigger ration than that of white guys that have done similar. Also we arent attracted to asians although that could be due to their behaviour.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS over a year ago

London

I'm asian (oriental) but I didn't notice any anti movement towards me.

I'm anti-whiners.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe.

You realise that black men are people right!? They're not just big black cocks...

Yes course I do! I was quoting from my profile.

You have a man pin you down and try forcing his cock down your throat and tell me it wouldn't put you off?.

So because of that I'm racist?.

Before you spark up not all guys are the same I know that, but if i should be in that situation and fear took over its not fair on the guy I would be with so I choose to avoid which is my choice.

It wouldn't put me off the race of guy, no. If I were to base my exclusions on terrible meets, I'd not be meeting any white men. "

And thats YOUR choice which you are allowed the same as i can make my own choices.

Im petrified of being in a sexual situation with a black guy now I can't help that but it doesn't make me racist as your suggesting.

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple over a year ago

dukinfield

Surely there's arguments for both sides here. At the end of the day this is a site for people to meet for sex. Maybe these people don't find 'asian' people sexually attractive smart as some people dont like BBW, BBC or small penis'. I don't find aboriginal people sexually attractive. Personal preference can be used to explain this. It doesn't make someone racist just because they don't find 'asian' attractive.

Too many people are too quick to jump on a card as soon as possible.

Stop with the labels guys and enjoy the people that matter.

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple over a year ago

dukinfield

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial. "

My sentiments exactly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If thats the way they get on your better off not meeting them anyway.

This place is an amazing place to be a woman .

Turns a minority of them into egomaniacs with a huge sense of entitlement tho."

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who is blanked after women find out he's Asian. He's very attractive, polite and has a lovely personality. They are interested until the word Asian is used. "

This happens to me too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly. "

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe.

You realise that black men are people right!? They're not just big black cocks...

Yes course I do! I was quoting from my profile.

You have a man pin you down and try forcing his cock down your throat and tell me it wouldn't put you off?.

So because of that I'm racist?.

Before you spark up not all guys are the same I know that, but if i should be in that situation and fear took over its not fair on the guy I would be with so I choose to avoid which is my choice.

It wouldn't put me off the race of guy, no. If I were to base my exclusions on terrible meets, I'd not be meeting any white men.

And thats YOUR choice which you are allowed the same as i can make my own choices.

Im petrified of being in a sexual situation with a black guy now I can't help that but it doesn't make me racist as your suggesting.

I've not said anywhere that it's racist! I think it's prejudicial against one group of men to rule out a whole race because of a bad experience.

However, it's your profile and you can do with it what you like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -"

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do!

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

i know a black girl that prefers go with white guys.i also know a black guy that wont go with black girls ..are they racist !! ..surely if u dont fancy a particular type and prefer another type its allowed .

its a matter of choice

some people dont want sex with asian men ..just deal with it ..

surely theres enough asian women out there to play with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like them black girls, I like them white girls

I like them Asian girls, I like them mix-raced girls

I like them Spanish girls, I like them Italian girls

I like the French girls and I like Scandinavian girls

I like them tall girls, I like them short girls

I like them brown haired girls, I like them blond haired girls

I like them big girls, I like them skinny girls

I like them carrying a little-bitty weight girls

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do! "

Do you know the difference between prejudice and preference? Because I don't think you do

Let me explain it to you

Prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Preference: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do!

Do you know the difference between prejudice and preference? Because I don't think you do

Let me explain it to you

Prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Preference: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others

- Mrs. J -"

The thing is, most people will state 'No Asians' because of a preconceived experience. Therefore, it's a prejudice.

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By *inkyPixelMan over a year ago

Cranford

That's fine but I think the point is clear that a large section of men from the subcontinent have provided enough rotten experiences for people to put down "no Asians".

I'm Asian and I know exactly what they are referring to and it's a type of person not all. Sure some may be racist but I honestly don't believe the majority are.

I still have no problems when approaching in a club. Here I do but one goes with what works for them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do!

Do you know the difference between prejudice and preference? Because I don't think you do

Let me explain it to you

Prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Preference: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others

- Mrs. J -"

Also, I've just realised who this is and I've read your comments about race many times on this forum, including comments which were so awful, they got removed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do!

Do you know the difference between prejudice and preference? Because I don't think you do

Let me explain it to you

Prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Preference: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others

- Mrs. J -

The thing is, most people will state 'No Asians' because of a preconceived experience. Therefore, it's a prejudice.

But some/many say that they want to meet Caucasian men or Black men. That is a preference

And no, not wanting to meet an Asian person is not prejudicial if someone, like some people, has had a bad experience with them. "Preconceived opinion that is *not* based on reason or *actual experience*"; when it is based on an actual experience, then it is not prejudice; check the English, dictionary if you want to confirm

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do!

Do you know the difference between prejudice and preference? Because I don't think you do

Let me explain it to you

Prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Preference: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others

- Mrs. J -

Also, I've just realised who this is and I've read your comments about race many times on this forum, including comments which were so awful, they got removed.

I have not made any awful comments. I have simply stated what the difference between prejudice and preference is. We have no issues with people of any race and we say so on our profile that we welcome messges to meet with any woman or couple of any ethnicity, culture, nationality, background or sexual orientation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do!

Do you know the difference between prejudice and preference? Because I don't think you do

Let me explain it to you

Prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Preference: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others

- Mrs. J -

The thing is, most people will state 'No Asians' because of a preconceived experience. Therefore, it's a prejudice.

But some/many say that they want to meet Caucasian men or Black men. That is a preference

- Mrs. J -"

That's why I wrote "preconceived" in my answer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do!

Do you know the difference between prejudice and preference? Because I don't think you do

Let me explain it to you

Prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Preference: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others

- Mrs. J -

Also, I've just realised who this is and I've read your comments about race many times on this forum, including comments which were so awful, they got removed.

You have on your single profile.

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By *exmadscotMan over a year ago

alloa

"Am Asian well kinda and I've never had any issues fs. "

no your not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do!

Do you know the difference between prejudice and preference? Because I don't think you do

Let me explain it to you

Prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Preference: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others

- Mrs. J -

The thing is, most people will state 'No Asians' because of a preconceived experience. Therefore, it's a prejudice.

But some/many say that they want to meet Caucasian men or Black men. That is a preference

- Mrs. J -

That's why I wrote "preconceived" in my answer. "

I agree. Anyone who states, "no (whatever race)" on their profile without ever having had met someone of that race or has had no bad experiences, is prejudiced. But the couple of women on this thread have had bad experiences and it is only after those experiences that they decided not to; they are not prejudiced; unlike you or me, they have had bad experiences

Preference is when someone wants to meet someone of a certain age or race or height or whatever. They are not being exclusionary. It is just their preference over other alternatives available to them. However, it *could* be prejudicial if they state that preference in a negative way

I don't know why the OP is having ithese problems; only he or the people who did not want to meet, can tell

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Asian women are some of the hottest on the planet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do!

Do you know the difference between prejudice and preference? Because I don't think you do

Let me explain it to you

Prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Preference: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others

- Mrs. J -

The thing is, most people will state 'No Asians' because of a preconceived experience. Therefore, it's a prejudice.

But some/many say that they want to meet Caucasian men or Black men. That is a preference

- Mrs. J -

That's why I wrote "preconceived" in my answer.

I don't know why the OP is having ithese problems; only he or the people who did not want to meet, can tell

- Mrs. J -"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do!

Do you know the difference between prejudice and preference? Because I don't think you do

Let me explain it to you

Prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Preference: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others

- Mrs. J -

Also, I've just realised who this is and I've read your comments about race many times on this forum, including comments which were so awful, they got removed.

You have on your single profile. "

Ha!

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do!

Do you know the difference between prejudice and preference? Because I don't think you do

Let me explain it to you

Prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Preference: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others

- Mrs. J -

The thing is, most people will state 'No Asians' because of a preconceived experience. Therefore, it's a prejudice.

But some/many say that they want to meet Caucasian men or Black men. That is a preference

- Mrs. J -

That's why I wrote "preconceived" in my answer.

I don't know why the OP is having ithese problems; only he or the people who did not want to meet, can tell

- Mrs. J -"

This should pretty much end the debate.

For the next few days or so...

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By *airymagicWoman over a year ago

goblin city

If it helps I'm not against anyone, but I'm now wary of Asians

The most upsetting sexually aggressive message that was racist to boot was from 2 asian blokes who lived in the same area as me. Hence I now live in goblin city.

Might I add they are the only Asian guys to message for a meet, and coinsidence or not I nearly left fab as it scared the shit out of me

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By *airymagicWoman over a year ago

goblin city

The thing is I'm not racists, the more I think about this I'm struggling to word it.

I've got plenty of Asian friends, socially. I've dated an Indian man. But as a swinger's link they put me off meeting Asians and 2 men at once just cos they verbalised my worst nightmare

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"The thing is I'm not racists, the more I think about this I'm struggling to word it.

I've got plenty of Asian friends, socially. I've dated an Indian man. But as a swinger's link they put me off meeting Asians and 2 men at once just cos they verbalised my worst nightmare"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe.

You realise that black men are people right!? They're not just big black cocks...

Yes course I do! I was quoting from my profile.

You have a man pin you down and try forcing his cock down your throat and tell me it wouldn't put you off?.

So because of that I'm racist?.

Before you spark up not all guys are the same I know that, but if i should be in that situation and fear took over its not fair on the guy I would be with so I choose to avoid which is my choice.

It wouldn't put me off the race of guy, no. If I were to base my exclusions on terrible meets, I'd not be meeting any white men.

And thats YOUR choice which you are allowed the same as i can make my own choices.

Im petrified of being in a sexual situation with a black guy now I can't help that but it doesn't make me racist as your suggesting.

His colour has nothing to do with his behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe.

You realise that black men are people right!? They're not just big black cocks...

Yes course I do! I was quoting from my profile.

You have a man pin you down and try forcing his cock down your throat and tell me it wouldn't put you off?.

So because of that I'm racist?.

Before you spark up not all guys are the same I know that, but if i should be in that situation and fear took over its not fair on the guy I would be with so I choose to avoid which is my choice.

It wouldn't put me off the race of guy, no. If I were to base my exclusions on terrible meets, I'd not be meeting any white men.

And thats YOUR choice which you are allowed the same as i can make my own choices.

Im petrified of being in a sexual situation with a black guy now I can't help that but it doesn't make me racist as your suggesting.

His colour has nothing to do with his behaviour. "

Nope your quite right there and I agree however due to my experience if i was in a sexual situation with a black guy and a specific movement etc triggered what had previously happened to me and I ended up freezing or in tears its not fair on the guy I'm playing with when he might be a gentleman.

That's why I choose not to put myself or 'him' in that position.

To me it's only the same as me meeting a guy for the first time, its in a very public place and only a social.

That way I can control my own safety Previously to this guy I wasn't bothered I would play on a first meet he changed a lot of things on here for me, and I'm sure many other women would protect themselfs in the same way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I might as well "pull the pin" on the loaded grenade & lob it in the room....

Some female profiles specify:

Black guys only.

Perhaps some ladies can answer,

if they've seen male profiles specify:

White women only?

Does that make either sex,

a racist for their specific choices?

Or just the profile that specified "white women only"?

The inherent fear, is to be labelled a racist, simply because it's the easiest card to play, and demonstrably difficult to defend, because it's fashionable, and easy, to point fingers.

For non Blacks, non Asian's, or non Whites, it's a minefield.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it is people's own choiceto pick who they meet

It's like putting age body size accomadate or travel and THEIR profile it is their profile and account so its up to them who they want to meet

It's just a way of blameing something when not getting meets

Now you have blocked your profile

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By *irceWoman over a year ago

Gloucester

"This is my first post so please bear with me. Been a member for over a year and have been lucky and have had amazing meets who came long term fb's.

Now one thing that bothers me is the anti asian profiles and sentiments and i am sad to say it does exist on this site.

I am well aware that they are many keyboard warriors and its all about personal choice but manners class should be a given.

So to cut a long story short why the anti asian sentiment on fab?

I got used to it but still not nice."

Soooo whats the issue,your told a persons preference....move on!

Frikin race card is soooo old..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

And breathe. "

Is it sexist to say you wont meet a certain gender?

Ageist if have age requirements?

Sizieist if you wont meet thick or thin people?

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"you're goint to hate what i am about to say then...

its a kop out.......

its easy to go out and blame the the things you can't control as it leaves you blamesless and makes it easy to point at other people and call them "nasty pasties".....

the bare pare is that not everyone for one reason or another is going to like you... just as you are not going to fancy every person out there...

so rather than concentrating on trying to change the minds of those who you are never going to.... spend that time making yourself to those people who will like you....

some people get it into their heads that so many people are no's that they forget to use their energy on those who will say yes....."

Couldn't have put it better myself!

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Is it me or had there been a multitude of these threads the last few days?

If you find someone who doesn't want to meet an Asian then block & move on.

I'm fat, there's plenty who don't want to meet me so I just block, to save my time later on, and move on.

It's a swingers site not a popularity contest!

PS I'm not ranting, just fed up with all the anti crap

No not just you, you've written what I've been thinking!

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By *rinking-in-laCouple over a year ago

Bristol

"Is it me or had there been a multitude of these threads the last few days?

If you find someone who doesn't want to meet an Asian then block & move on.

I'm fat, there's plenty who don't want to meet me so I just block, to save my time later on, and move on.

It's a swingers site not a popularity contest!

PS I'm not ranting, just fed up with all the anti crap

Your point is a good one but no one moans about threads questioning anti female sentiment or whatever so anti race sentiment needs similar credence.

Abusing someone for their heritage is never acceptable and should be called out and the perpetrator vilified and embarassed. That's how feminists work so why should it e different for those instances where it is race not sex which is being discriminated?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally, I find any profile off-putting which states that they don't want to meet a certain race. Some will put it down to preference, but I think it's actually massively prejudicial.

My sentiments exactly.

Would you have sex with another man? Because if you don't, then by your own 'sentiments', that would make you prejudicial and therefore, homophobic. You are not homophobic, are you?

Now please don't tell me that this preference is different to any other preference, because it is not

- Mrs. J -

Do you know the difference between sexual orientation and being prejudiced!? Because I don't think you do!

Do you know the difference between prejudice and preference? Because I don't think you do

Let me explain it to you

Prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Preference: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others

- Mrs. J -

The thing is, most people will state 'No Asians' because of a preconceived experience. Therefore, it's a prejudice.

But some/many say that they want to meet Caucasian men or Black men. That is a preference

- Mrs. J -

That's why I wrote "preconceived" in my answer. "

Sorry to interrupt but you cannot have a preconceived experience unless you're attempting to express that an experience matched the preconception of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it's based on race, it's racism. Racism isn't just blatant rude racist epithets being uttered. It can be far more subtle...excusing it as a "preference" is sweeping it under the carpet here...

As children, we don't see "race". It's parents, the friends you keep as you grow that condition you to carry such sentiments. Quite tragic really. And saying ALL "Asians" are bad in some shape or form is ridiculous. One bad experience doesn't mean we are ALL bad...

What is interesting is that it's the men of fab who are more open minded toward someone of a different race as opposed to the women on here...

Saying all that I'm sure this post will be ridiculed with the usual sort of responses. The old adage you can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink comes to mind...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's based on race, it's racism. Racism isn't just blatant rude racist epithets being uttered. It can be far more subtle...excusing it as a "preference" is sweeping it under the carpet here...

What is interesting is that it's the men of fab who are more open minded toward someone of a different race as opposed to the women on here...

Saying all that I'm sure this post will be ridiculed with the usual sort of responses. The old adage you can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink comes to mind...

So because i won't meet asian guys i'm racist ?

I won't meet guys under or over certain ages so does that make me agiest ?

I also wont meet women so what does that make me ?

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple over a year ago

st helens

People are people, ill chat and meet anyone who treats me with respect and approaches me as an individual.

Like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's based on race, it's racism. Racism isn't just blatant rude racist epithets being uttered. It can be far more subtle...excusing it as a "preference" is sweeping it under the carpet here...

What is interesting is that it's the men of fab who are more open minded toward someone of a different race as opposed to the women on here...

Saying all that I'm sure this post will be ridiculed with the usual sort of responses. The old adage you can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink comes to mind...

So because i won't meet asian guys i'm racist ?

I won't meet guys under or over certain ages so does that make me agiest ?

I also wont meet women so what does that make me ?"

No, ofcourse it is not racist

Racist is when a certain race is being disadvantaged. Just like sexist is when a certain sex is being disadvantaged

Not wanting sex with a certain race is about as racist as a man is sexist for not wanting sex with another man

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's based on race, it's racism. Racism isn't just blatant rude racist epithets being uttered. It can be far more subtle...excusing it as a "preference" is sweeping it under the carpet here...

What is interesting is that it's the men of fab who are more open minded toward someone of a different race as opposed to the women on here...

Saying all that I'm sure this post will be ridiculed with the usual sort of responses. The old adage you can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink comes to mind...

So because i won't meet asian guys i'm racist ?

I won't meet guys under or over certain ages so does that make me agiest ?

I also wont meet women so what does that make me ?

No, ofcourse it is not racist

Racist is when a certain race is being disadvantaged. Just like sexist is when a certain sex is being disadvantaged

Not wanting sex with a certain race is about as racist as a man is sexist for not wanting sex with another man

- Mrs. J -"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I thought there'd be replies like that...

A sexual preference is an act. Not the race or sex of an individual...

Dress it up however you like. Please do...but it's racism pure and simple.

Gender doesn't come into a "sexual preference" either...thats hard wired into you by your nature, people are born gay, bi or straight...so it's a preference based on nature, not race...

Racists will say anything to excuse themselves...its rather laughable. Tarring and feathering one particular race and colour over others, is ridiculous. But who am I trying to change the mindset of... :-

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont worry about the people who don't want to meet me OP.

I'm mixed race and loads of people put no blacks on their profiles.

It's a good thing - then I know who to avoid!

Just cincentrate on the people that do want to meet you.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I thought there'd be replies like that...

A sexual preference is an act. Not the race or sex of an individual...

Dress it up however you like. Please do...but it's racism pure and simple.

Gender doesn't come into a "sexual preference" either...thats hard wired into you by your nature, people are born gay, bi or straight...so it's a preference based on nature, not race...

So did you have your little holiday and came straight back to this thread when it was over per chance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I thought there'd be replies like that...

A sexual preference is an act. Not the race or sex of an individual...

Dress it up however you like. Please do...but it's racism pure and simple.

Gender doesn't come into a "sexual preference" either...thats hard wired into you by your nature, people are born gay, bi or straight...so it's a preference based on nature, not race...

Well i cant alter what you think, so feel free to think that g and i are racist. To be honest it doesnt matter to us what you think, we know we arent racist.

It seems to me that you are trying to convince yourself rather than others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I thought there'd be replies like that...

A sexual preference is an act. Not the race or sex of an individual...

Dress it up however you like. Please do...but it's racism pure and simple.

Gender doesn't come into a "sexual preference" either...thats hard wired into you by your nature, people are born gay, bi or straight...so it's a preference based on nature, not race...

So did you have your little holiday and came straight back to this thread when it was over per chance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At least their honest I guess, and it shouldn't bother you... Its the same with Black's and whites, matter of preference but also quite ignorant , but u can't change attitudes

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By *nsert user name hereMan over a year ago

Manchester

If they don't want to meet you block and move on so easy to blame what you can't change for your failures

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I thought there'd be replies like that...

A sexual preference is an act. Not the race or sex of an individual...

Dress it up however you like. Please do...but it's racism pure and simple.

Gender doesn't come into a "sexual preference" either...thats hard wired into you by your nature, people are born gay, bi or straight...so it's a preference based on nature, not race...

So did you have your little holiday and came straight back to this thread when it was over per chance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is this thing called freedom

I have views a lot of people will disagree with or find down right abborant.

A lot of people have views I hate.

Man up and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I thought there'd be replies like that...

A sexual preference is an act. Not the race or sex of an individual...

Dress it up however you like. Please do...but it's racism pure and simple.

Gender doesn't come into a "sexual preference" either...thats hard wired into you by your nature, people are born gay, bi or straight...so it's a preference based on nature, not race...

So did you have your little holiday and came straight back to this thread when it was over per chance

I can comment when and how I like on any thread...if you don't like anyone pissing YOU off don't try pissing others off...perchance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I thought there'd be replies like that...

A sexual preference is an act. Not the race or sex of an individual...

Dress it up however you like. Please do...but it's racism pure and simple.

Gender doesn't come into a "sexual preference" either...thats hard wired into you by your nature, people are born gay, bi or straight...so it's a preference based on nature, not race...

Well i cant alter what you think, so feel free to think that g and i are racist. To be honest it doesnt matter to us what you think, we know we arent racist.

It seems to me that you are trying to convince yourself rather than others

Why would I try to convince myself that there are ignorant racist idiots on fab? There are. And the silly responses I've received to my comments reiterate that clearly! QED from some of the above...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is my first post so please bear with me. Been a member for over a year and have been lucky and have had amazing meets who came long term fb's.

Now one thing that bothers me is the anti asian profiles and sentiments and i am sad to say it does exist on this site.

I am well aware that they are many keyboard warriors and its all about personal choice but manners class should be a given.

So to cut a long story short why the anti asian sentiment on fab?

I got used to it but still not nice."
unfortunately people generalise I take people as they come myself and do get your point about the inclusion of them words on a profile but still its a choice and whether you like it or not theirs so rather than see it as racist which I imagine its not intended to be just see that person as someone you dont have to message ,a lot of the women and couples who include it are just trying to save time they get many messages ,manners go out the window with high message quotas

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

It looks from your profile, that you don't state if you are Asian. I'd definitely consider putting this in to stop wasting time chatting to people who don't want to meet Asians. It's why we state Sir is black in ours, for same reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say if you haven't put your ethnicity on there, and you are finding people don't want to talk to you because of your ethnicity ... you are being misleading.

Also if the worst form of racism you have come across, is some one not wanting sex with you you're doing quite well.

Also playing that there race card over nothing makes everyone who genuinely faces a bit of real prejudice less likely to be bothered with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I thought there'd be replies like that...

A sexual preference is an act. Not the race or sex of an individual...

Dress it up however you like. Please do...but it's racism pure and simple.

Gender doesn't come into a "sexual preference" either...thats hard wired into you by your nature, people are born gay, bi or straight...so it's a preference based on nature, not race...

Well i cant alter what you think, so feel free to think that g and i are racist. To be honest it doesnt matter to us what you think, we know we arent racist.

It seems to me that you are trying to convince yourself rather than others

Why would I try to convince myself that there are ignorant racist idiots on fab? There are. And the silly responses I've received to my comments reiterate that clearly! QED from some of the above...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Asia is a big place accounting for 60% of the worlds population so when people say Asian which part do they mean? All or just some?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Asia is a big place accounting for 60% of the worlds population so when people say Asian which part do they mean? All or just some?

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well one would have to assume all or maybe just the ugly ones !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Asia is a big place accounting for 60% of the worlds population so when people say Asian which part do they mean? All or just some?

well one would have to assume all or maybe just the ugly ones !!!!!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hey that gave me an idea at the end of my profile write up I will put 'no ugly people please' its not racist or offensive or is it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would say if you haven't put your ethnicity on there, and you are finding people don't want to talk to you because of your ethnicity ... you are being misleading.

Also if the worst form of racism you have come across, is some one not wanting sex with you you're doing quite well.

Also playing that there race card over nothing makes everyone who genuinely faces a bit of real prejudice less likely to be bothered with.

Best comment so far.

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By *andwellcoupleCouple over a year ago

Warley

This is a subject we find a number of times a month

We actively seek young Asian males

And as a result we get a few single guys each month that are abusive due to our preferences

So it works both ways

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is a subject we find a number of times a month

We actively seek young Asian males

And as a result we get a few single guys each month that are abusive due to our preferences

So it works both ways

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yes because the fact that its even mentioned in whatever context can be construed by some to be selective racism

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is anti white as well my friend.alot ov bitches say only black or bbc.i mean if i put only slim women id be bombarded by insults,no probs dude,its a messed up world ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also i think its a trendy thing plus they are often huge birds who need a salami to feel anything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are people whose preference is xxx race

There are people who state, "no asians" or "no blacks"

If anyone thinks that this is racist then they can use the report button on the profile, message or forum post and if the moderators think that such preferences are racist, then said profile or forum post will be removed and maybe the user account closed too

Our profile clearly states that her preference, when it comes to single men, is Caucasian. We are not changing that preference, no matter what Asian or Black men here think of us

- Mrs. J -

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"There is anti white as well my friend.alot ov bitches say only black or bbc.i mean if i put only slim women id be bombarded by insults,no probs dude,its a messed up world ??"

Such a way with words!

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Thems choices - whatever the reason behind their decision when it comes to sex only the person themselves can decide who to have send with.

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By *asters-slutWoman over a year ago

nottingham

I find this quite amusing

As I had many conversations with the OP and he actually brought up the racial issue

I told him I didn't really go for Asian gentleman but was happy to chat and if our paths crossed at a club then it would be nice to have a drink and chat in person

We then got onto other things and he was a completely patronising arse!

Maybe it's his attitude and his own identity issues that are the problem. Not those of others

The fact that he has started this thread, doesn't like the comments and has left.....kind of speaks for itself

I personally don't have issues with any race, I only have my preferences. I will still be polite unless spoken to otherwise.

Maybe one should look in the mirror before judging others.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dont worry about the people who don't want to meet me OP.

I'm mixed race and loads of people put no blacks on their profiles.

It's a good thing - then I know who to avoid!

Just cincentrate on the people that do want to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The worst thing is that it's one way for Asian men, but completely different for Asian women.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't think I've seen a lady Asian swinger on here. Or rather one that actually said they were, rather.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The worst thing is that it's one way for Asian men, but completely different for Asian women."

Where? fs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think I've seen a lady Asian swinger on here. Or rather one that actually said they were, rather. "

Well I'm part Japanese...

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I don't think I've seen a lady Asian swinger on here. Or rather one that actually said they were, rather.

Well I'm part Japanese..."

I wouldn't have known had you not said so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To me its always important to handle rejection with dignity rather than critic the right of others site members to exercise their preferences...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think I've seen a lady Asian swinger on here. Or rather one that actually said they were, rather.

Well I'm part Japanese..."

Which part?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To me its always important to handle rejection with dignity rather than critic the right of others site members to exercise their preferences...

Aye, but we're used tae handling rejection ain't we Soxy, we're veterans at it fs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not anti asian, it is just rare I find asian (Indian/Pakistani) men attractive, plus I have found, through personal experience, that, on here and in normal life asian men are way too pushy and entitled. Only one from here, out of the ones I have spoken to, hasn't been and we are looking to meet up again soon

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To me its always important to handle rejection with dignity rather than critic the right of others site members to exercise their preferences...

Aye, but we're used tae handling rejection ain't we Soxy, we're veterans at it fs.

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

As this is a contentious thread I might as well throw my perspective out. You meet people you like - you meet people that interest you. The most beautiful person can be ugly if their personality is conceited.

There is a slight but important difference between Racism and Prejudice.

Are you racist if you don't do a skydive, step onto a busy motorway or even wear something that someone else would? Prejudice's allow us safety nets, they allow us definitions and rules in life to allow normality/safety. This isn't racism - we all have them.

Racism is keeping or enacting derogatory views of another race, creed or culture to keep them subservient to oneself.

Not having sex is hardly racism - see stated beautiful person example

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can't say sexual preference is racism.We all have different tastes it's that simple.

Who ever your sexually attracted too that's your personal preference.Its not a insult it's just the way your brain is wired.

The race card gets thrown around way to easy nowadays and it's a bit pethetic.I will never be on that idiotic one sided p.c world box but at the same time I will never be racist I'm what you call a realist I see things for what they are regardless of race religion or what ever you are.

Big small ginger blonde black hairy smooth Asian the list can go on as were all different and that means there's someone out there for everyone.

I'm not attracted to hairy muffs but you don't see the bush bunch badgering me over it calling me bushist.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will bear the OP in mind the next time..

A Asian taxi driver asks me if I want to pay with a blow job after picking me up from a gay club.

I'm approached and touched without expecting it, let alone giving permission in a sauna by some pushy Asian guy whose then dead suprised and acts like I'm wrong for telling him to do one.

I get approached by a group of Asian men acting like predatory fucking dog fish in a sauna, now I'm defiantly not a wall flower, but I've got friends who've been genuinely intimidated by this kind of behaviour.

Or better still a group of Asian youths out queer bashing. Yeh I've had the pleasure of this, in my own home towns town centre. So, OP, cry elsewhere.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I'd rather men didn't want to meet me because they thought I was overweight or not pretty enough or to old or not old enough or that I had a shit personality or because of my Stretchmarks and cellulite or that I was to short or not tall enough but not to meet me just because of the colour of my skin is not cool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

General life experience has shown us that people of different ethnic backgrounds often behave differently and have different values.

Based on this, neither of us would play with anyone of middle eastern or Pakistani descent.

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By *kin BohnerMan over a year ago

derby

"This is my first post so please bear with me. Been a member for over a year and have been lucky and have had amazing meets who came long term fb's.

Now one thing that bothers me is the anti asian profiles and sentiments and i am sad to say it does exist on this site.

I am well aware that they are many keyboard warriors and its all about personal choice but manners class should be a given.

So to cut a long story short why the anti asian sentiment on fab?

I got used to it but still not nice."
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Take out the word 'asian' and replace it with anything you want including 'over 50'.

As you say it's personal preference though I do think some set boundaries without thinking too hard about it. I've said it before there is a lot of limited thinking an a site that is, I thought, for the open minded.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If people can't see it's a site full of weird and wonderful people then they need to take there heads for a wobble.

Everyone has there own opinion and there all different.

This may really shock you all but even I have had a no sorry your not for us.ME YES ME.

But did I cry NOOOOOOOOO

My flying fucks flew off ages ago and the only fucks you should be giving is to those your compatable with.

It's that simple.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

All this personal preference so guys who like big boobs they've never gone with someone with small boobs right

Or people who prefer blondes they have never been with a brunette no they stay well clear no matter how hot they were.

Or guys who only like size 10 fuck would they go with a size 12 hell no.

How many of us have played or met or made friends with people we thought wasn't our preference because they turn out to be nice/great people.

Having a preference is vital we should all have standards but saying someone doesn't fit those standards because of the colour of their skin or where they come from instead of because you don't like them or fancy them or because of their personality.

People are shits all over the whole regardless of their skin colour and some people are great and amazing regardless of their skin colour.

People are who they are it has nothing to do with skin colour.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The people I choose to sleep with I am initially attracted to because their facial features appeal to me... unfortunately some ethnicities have facial features I rarely find attractive...as this is due to their race (not skin colour) is it racist of me? No of course not...plus there are always exceptions to the rules...I prefer younger guys...does this make me ageist? No because I do still find some older guys attractive. That is just preference...that is why a guy that likes a woman with big boobs will still play with a smaller busted woman etc...I understand when people make judgements on others due to the behaviour of others of the same colour/ race/ religion/ political beliefs etc... it is unfair but common with everyone...when was the last time you heard a mate say...bloody men/women! They are all the same!? Is just how it goes..all you can do is be you, accept it and move on. If you are a decent person people that deserve to be in your life, for whatever reason, will be! I may need a lay down now... that is far too deep for a Friday!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The people I choose to sleep with I am initially attracted to because their facial features appeal to me... unfortunately some ethnicities have facial features I rarely find attractive...as this is due to their race (not skin colour) is it racist of me? No of course not...plus there are always exceptions to the rules...I prefer younger guys...does this make me ageist? No because I do still find some older guys attractive. That is just preference...that is why a guy that likes a woman with big boobs will still play with a smaller busted woman etc...I understand when people make judgements on others due to the behaviour of others of the same colour/ race/ religion/ political beliefs etc... it is unfair but common with everyone...when was the last time you heard a mate say...bloody men/women! They are all the same!? Is just how it goes..all you can do is be you, accept it and move on. If you are a decent person people that deserve to be in your life, for whatever reason, will be! I may need a lay down now... that is far too deep for a Friday!

Too deep even for a Saturday, but spot on

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is my first post so please bear with me. Been a member for over a year and have been lucky and have had amazing meets who came long term fb's.

Now one thing that bothers me is the anti asian profiles and sentiments and i am sad to say it does exist on this site.

I am well aware that they are many keyboard warriors and its all about personal choice but manners class should be a given.

So to cut a long story short why the anti asian sentiment on fab?

I got used to it but still not nice."

no offence pal but ya talking shite

am no fan of mint chocolate myself like just the way it is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So what if it's "not nice", you're not that sensitive surely?

It's personal preference what people do and don't find attractive and who they would like to spend their time with.

Sending abuse is just pathetic really and should be laughed at then delete and block them, job done.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"General life experience has shown us that people of different ethnic backgrounds often behave differently and have different values.

Based on this, neither of us would play with anyone of middle eastern or Pakistani descent. "

Oh my God! How dreadfully "racist".....not......at all.

Races and cultures/backgrounds are different. Regardless of what we keep having forced down our throats.

There are plenty folk out there that would happily meet you buddy, and plenty that don't want to for their own personal and private reasons. Exactly the same as yourself.

Don't take it personally and don't just presume it's to do with your race or bloody skin colour.

Just delete and block those that are rude or aren't your type and move on.

You will find others that would love to be in your company buddy, just be neutral.

All the best.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The worst thing is that it's one way for Asian men, but completely different for Asian women."

In the vast majority of cases yes it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sadly i hade to hide my profile as some fucker hurled racist abuse at my veris point proven. Blocked and reported.

Take care all i am out of this thread"

Stop playing the victim mate.

Grow a pair.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately I'd say that behind closed doors.. our little island is full of white racists. We seem to think this little blob in the sea is our birthright and resent many who are invited by our government to move here and work.

In open society they play the "Everyone is equal" Card.. Which is pretty far from their personal beliefs.. They're just scared of being pulled up on it.

A well known reason many of these BBC hunters hunt the Big Black Cock is a form of racism in itself.. the stigma and history behind it.. degradation and if people only knew.. adds to the naughtiness for them.. they feel like a total slut after because they've been a black man's bitch.. not necessarily true.. but it's a theory I've read.

I've been lucky enough to grow up on all the continent's bar the Artic and Antartic. I've befriended people of many races, colours, creeds and cultures. I can safely say.. most of us are only after our own little spot in the sunshine and most people are very similar deep down.

I've been attacked verbally and physically for simply being British.. at the time i didnt understand why someone would do such a thing. Now I'm more aware of our past and current politics.. I accept why they were angry.. even though it was nothing to do with me.

Unfortunately islamaphobia has run rampant, spread by people who couldn't point out the differences between Hinduism, Islam, Pakistan, India, Bangladesh, Afghanistan, Syria etc.

As someone has mentioned before.. try to let it blow over, it's not a reflection on you, it's a reflection of their ignorance and base stupidity.. If it's indeed your skin colour or race they have an issue with... when all else was fine beforehand.

Wear your body with pride my friend, with your head held high. I'd include it on my profile like a badge of honour for all to see. Helps the chaff itself out for you.

As you can imagine.. I've no race issue.. if shag a woman of any culture or race if I was attracted and she liked me. After all we're all pink on the inside

One planet, one people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unfortunately I'd say that behind closed doors.. our little island is full of white racists. We seem to think this little blob in the sea is our birthright and resent many who are invited by our government to move here and work.

In open society they play the "Everyone is equal" Card.. Which is pretty far from their personal beliefs.. They're just scared of being pulled up on it.

Unfortunately islamaphobia has run rampant, spread by people who couldn't point out the differences between Hinduism, Islam, Pakistan, India, Bangladesh, Afghanistan, Syria etc.

Wear your body with pride my friend, with your head held high. I'd include it on my profile like a badge of honour for all to see. Helps the chaff itself out for you.

As you can imagine.. I've no race issue.. if shag a woman of any culture or race if I was attracted and she liked me. After all we're all pink on the inside

One planet, one people. "

I base my views on the little white racists on personal experience.. I see it EVERYDAY in my job.. so don't argue with me.. I know I'm right.

You may not want to meet an Asian man.. that doesn't necessarily make you racist.. I agree.. but the truth is.. many of you probably are. If you're not.. no need to get uppity as I'm not arguing about it.. just saying what I see every day.. fact.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hilarious!

Little white racist indeed, pmsl!

And what's with "islamaphobia"? That's the stupidest wee buzzword ever surely?

A phobia is an irrational fear of something that poses not threat or harm to yourself.

Anyone that's read the Quran and isn't stupid or a hand wringing bleeding heart of liberal absolutely should be very scared by Islam!!!

Or are we going to see the usual "it's only some Muslims"? As if that even mattered or carried any weight whatsoever.

It only took a few to bring America to its knees, it only took a few to bring London to its knees, it only took one to run non Muslims over or two to behead a British soldier in the street in broad daylight. So don't tell anyone that they have a healthy fear of Islam that they are phobic on any way.

And please don't insult us all with your cries of white racists when it works both ways.

Honestly, the bloody race card and SJW's.

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

Last comment from the OP was over a week ago. I love threads threads that are stepped back from on such a contentious issue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hilarious!

Little white racist indeed, pmsl!

And what's with "islamaphobia"? That's the stupidest wee buzzword ever surely?

A phobia is an irrational fear of something that poses not threat or harm to yourself.

Anyone that's read the Quran and isn't stupid or a hand wringing bleeding heart of liberal absolutely should be very scared by Islam!!!

Or are we going to see the usual "it's only some Muslims"? As if that even mattered or carried any weight whatsoever.

And please don't insult us all with your cries of white racists when it works both ways.

Honestly, the bloody race card and SJW's. "

Couldn't have prayed for a better response..

You're wrong.

Speaking as someone who grew up in the Middle East his entire childhood - Qatar and Dubai. At a school with over 100 nationalities.. I can tell you for a fact.. theres nothing to fear from the majority of Muslims.

As a former soldier who served in Iraq 2003, I can also tell you.. it was us at fault in Iraq and we were fighting the Iraqi army in civilian clothes for the most part.. not Muslims. Most of the people just wanted food and water.

Yes it took a few.. but it's a few extremists.. don't base an entire nation or religion on the actions of a few. Our nation is a "Democracy".. so all you morons who keep voting in self serving prats.. open us all up to attack from anyone our nation shits on.. and believe me we have shat on a lot.. and are still doing it. You can't blame the people in a dictatorship if they don't have the power to overthrow the dictator. We're liable.. did it justify the attacks? Let history be the judge.

May I ask what life experience you have? To hold such prejudice against an entire religion? Our own national religion hasn't exactly been exemplary has it now.. still trying to convert people through subterfuge. Horrid sentances akin to the Koran's limited jihad phrases have been removed.. Nobody in Islam has the authority to remove the verses.. it's down to the Imams to interpret as they see fit.. Most will claim a jihad is justified if the religion itself is under broad attack and in existential danger... in this case.. you may kill an 'Infadel' But only then. Has mainstream Islam declared a jihad yet? No it hasn't.. even though you could argue it is under heavy fire from us pre-11/11.

As for the little white racists.. I'm a hard, working class man.. my friends, work colleagues, customers and bosses are at it all the time.. talking to Asian colleagues as normal.. the minute their back is turned "Fookin pakis". If I disowned them all, if have no friends.. I keep with them though and try to educate them on their ridiculous views.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There we go again !!!!!!

Yet ppl aren't racist, 'they are just stating facts'!

You want some fucking facts ?

Open History books about slavery and colonialism... and see what the white men did...

Yet most ppl who state 'facts' about others (non white ppl) don't like being put in the same bag that the ones who slaved black ppl during 400 years and almost killed all Native American... or violently colonialised almost off the world!!

Go figure it out !

Forgot to mentioned that white men also dropped two atomic bombs on Japaneses and use chemical weapons in Vietnam!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Didn't think this thread was about what white men did a few hundred years ago

Thought this was about women or couples not wanting to meet the OP because he is Asian and their preference is to met people from xyz race. And it appears to me that the OP thinks that this is unjustified as these people *should* meet with him

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By *hathotcoupleCouple over a year ago

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Each to there own. That's just somebody's preference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Didn't think this thread was about what white men did a few hundred years ago

Unfortunately the two are linked in most cases.. whether people choose to admit or not.

If facial features are something you go by.. Asians and Arab people are almost identical to white people.. it's only the colour of skin that's different in most cases. This is because we all share the same history and gene pool.. because of all the past conflicts, conquests, crusades and colonisation by all sides.. from ancient times.. all the way through to modern. It could be argued we'll all look a little caramel and Asian looking in a few millennia when we interbreed enough.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My reason for not wanting to meet asian guys is nothing to do with wars etc.

Its simply because when i have met asians during my swinging life the encounters havnt been fun except with 2 guys. 2 asian guys iv met were great and respectful and fun. However all other asian guys iv met or who have been at a club when iv been there have been disrespectful. Touching me without asking me, on my boobs and between my legs. I told them no, shook my head, moved away but they carried on. They didnt even make eye contact. Thats happened many times. I wont get into a hot tub with an asian guy in it now cus that happened with every asian guy i encountered in a hot tub or jacuzzi. A couple of white guys have done that to but stopped when i said no. In a club just before Christmas an asian guy walked past me as i was getting dressed to go home. Hubby was just around the corner of the lockers. The guy stroked my naked bum as he walked past me. I moved away, shook my head and said no. He walked away but did a circuit and came up behind me again and did it again. I hadnt been able to see him. He did it several more times but i moved away and asked hubby to come and protect me. Hubby hadnt known what was happening cus he was around the corner. The guy wasnt able to do it again then. I didnt want to report the guy to staff cus he seemed to have special needs. Next time he was at the club when we were he was behaving oddly. He would get himself stood where only i could see him and he then did obscene (cant spell it) gestures to me. I told hubby and we made sure the guy wasnt near me. Thats just a few examples. Yes other guys have done some things but the percentage of asian guys is almost 100% of asian guys iv encountered while swinging.

Im not racist. I just dont want to meet them because my experiences with asian guys has mostly been awful !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you're goint to hate what i am about to say then...

its a kop out.......

its easy to go out and blame the the things you can't control as it leaves you blamesless and makes it easy to point at other people and call them "nasty pasties".....

the bare pare is that not everyone for one reason or another is going to like you... just as you are not going to fancy every person out there...

so rather than concentrating on trying to change the minds of those who you are never going to.... spend that time making yourself to those people who will like you....

some people get it into their heads that so many people are no's that they forget to use their energy on those who will say yes....."
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Everybody wants to change the world but dont seem willing to do it themselves!

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