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.... with this site.
I did actually think there was something for everyone on here. Not me it would seem.
I'm looking to meet one person. Not fuck everyone that crosses my path. I don't do it in real life so why would I compromise online? For me, attraction and connection make for the best sex. Looking to meet someone and build on that and maybe look to experiment if there is a reciprocated respect and trust.
I don't think I belong here. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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".... with this site.
I did actually think there was something for everyone on here. Not me it would seem.
I'm looking to meet one person. Not fuck everyone that crosses my path. I don't do it in real life so why would I compromise online? For me, attraction and connection make for the best sex. Looking to meet someone and build on that and maybe look to experiment if there is a reciprocated respect and trust.
I don't think I belong here. "
chin up these sites are a mine field but there are people on here looking for something similar to yourself its just a matter of time before the right person for you comes along .
may I suggest going through male profiles and then message the buys who's words in their profile gel with your own . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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".... with this site.
I did actually think there was something for everyone on here. Not me it would seem.
I'm looking to meet one person. Not fuck everyone that crosses my path. I don't do it in real life so why would I compromise online? For me, attraction and connection make for the best sex. Looking to meet someone and build on that and maybe look to experiment if there is a reciprocated respect and trust.
I don't think I belong here. "
Yes I understand and feel the same way.
Finding someone with similar kinks and then experimenting together is my ideal.
Im tired of men messaging me to remind me it's a sex site. Dohhhh thanks for that mate.
So yes I could have typed that myself.
Dating sites are full of vanilla men, seems I don't belong in either places.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well its a swingers site so people want to enjoy the companies of others and you are coming across very negatively. Maybe a dating site may work better for an exclusive friend |
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No offence but given the ratio of men to women on here, if you can't find what you are looking for then you either aren't being very proactive or your search criteria is unrealistic.
Perhaps club nights would be a better option for you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its hard sometimes to make a connection with someone. Chat doesn't always flow easily by text.
Maybe a club would be better for getting a feel for someone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No offence but you have stated in your profile you are looking for a student there not known as the most reliable bunch of people more d*unk and lots of fun kind of people. So chances of finding a student that wants more than just to sleep with an older woman a few times are slim especially on a swinging site |
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"No offence but you have stated in your profile you are looking for a student there not known as the most reliable bunch of people more d*unk and lots of fun kind of people. So chances of finding a student that wants more than just to sleep with an older woman a few times are slim especially on a swinging site "
Jesus, it's not literal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No offence but you have stated in your profile you are looking for a student there not known as the most reliable bunch of people more d*unk and lots of fun kind of people. So chances of finding a student that wants more than just to sleep with an older woman a few times are slim especially on a swinging site
Jesus, it's not literal. "
Oh I read it as your opening line that you seek sexy, young student maybe this is what's putting genuine lads off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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".... with this site.
I did actually think there was something for everyone on here. Not me it would seem.
I'm looking to meet one person. Not fuck everyone that crosses my path. I don't do it in real life so why would I compromise online? For me, attraction and connection make for the best sex. Looking to meet someone and build on that and maybe look to experiment if there is a reciprocated respect and trust.
I don't think I belong here.
Yes I understand and feel the same way.
Finding someone with similar kinks and then experimenting together is my ideal.
Im tired of men messaging me to remind me it's a sex site. Dohhhh thanks for that mate.
So yes I could have typed that myself.
Dating sites are full of vanilla men, seems I don't belong in either places. "
Same. |
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"No offence but you have stated in your profile you are looking for a student there not known as the most reliable bunch of people more d*unk and lots of fun kind of people. So chances of finding a student that wants more than just to sleep with an older woman a few times are slim especially on a swinging site
Jesus, it's not literal. "
Just out of interest, on a scale of Eric Pickles (1) to Gerard Butler (10), how attractive does the guy need to be? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A friend of mine deleted herself 2 days ago.
She's from Liverpool.
She told me she was completely fucked off with the site, although she doesn't use the forums at all.
We get on really well and if she was closer I'd have deleted myself from here aswell..but the distance makes it hard.
The best ones always live fucking miles away and it's hard to meet each other as much as you want to.
I know what you're saying.
That being said, I don't do exclusive on here and you might have a hard time finding a guy who does. (on fab).
Exclusive to my mind is someone I'm dating and I won't find that here, because what I look for in a Girlfriend is COMPLETELY different to what I'd look for in "fab world".
It's a different world entirely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Really?  "
Yes cos everyone is too busy working as its expensive to live here I reckon. |
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"A friend of mine deleted herself 2 days ago.
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She DELETED herself? That's extreme!!
You should never give up hope
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She's from Liverpool.
She told me she was completely fucked off with the site, although she doesn't use the forums at all.
We get on really well and if she was closer I'd have deleted myself from here aswell..but the distance makes it hard.
The best ones always live fucking miles away and it's hard to meet each other as much as you want to.
I know what you're saying.
That being said, I don't do exclusive on here and you might have a hard time finding a guy who does. (on fab).
Exclusive to my mind is someone I'm dating and I won't find that here, because what I look for in a Girlfriend is COMPLETELY different to what I'd look for in "fab world".
It's a different world entirely."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?  "
From manchester usually  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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".... with this site.
I did actually think there was something for everyone on here. Not me it would seem.
I'm looking to meet one person. Not fuck everyone that crosses my path. I don't do it in real life so why would I compromise online? For me, attraction and connection make for the best sex. Looking to meet someone and build on that and maybe look to experiment if there is a reciprocated respect and trust.
I don't think I belong here. "
If you are looking for one person and intend to build a relationship with then surely you'd be better served on a dating site?
There are many different interpretations of what swinging is but pretty much all of them feature non-monogamy which unless I've read it wrong is the wone thing you aren't looking for? |
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England? "
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south |
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over a year ago
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south"
There you go shag  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Can't see why you are disillusioned. You've joined a swingers site knowing people willing swap partners, yet expect one guy (a very specific guy), to drop his outlook on life and hook up with you.
It seems you are being more unrealistic in your expectations, rather enjoying what swinging might have to offer. |
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"No offence but you have stated in your profile you are looking for a student there not known as the most reliable bunch of people more d*unk and lots of fun kind of people. So chances of finding a student that wants more than just to sleep with an older woman a few times are slim especially on a swinging site
Jesus, it's not literal.
Just out of interest, on a scale of Eric Pickles (1) to Gerard Butler (10), how attractive does the guy need to be? "
BrokenBrilliance attractiveness scale is err.. brilliant!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south
There you go shag "
Yes, near the coast lol. |
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south
There you go shag "
I do love it when you go to somewhere like newcastle and they call people in manchester southerners - makes me giggle |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south
There you go shag
I do love it when you go to somewhere like newcastle and they call people in manchester southerners - makes me giggle"
I see, didnt know the south meant manchester there, good one too lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suspect you're looking in the wrong place. The men on here looking for anything exclusive tend to be looking for a swinging partner of some sort, like a fwb or girlfriend to meet couples & go to clubs with. No idea where you should be looking sorry, but I'm afraid I don't think fab's it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south
There you go shag
I do love it when you go to somewhere like newcastle and they call people in manchester southerners - makes me giggle"
Naw northwest.....Whitby's down south though |
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south
There you go shag
I do love it when you go to somewhere like newcastle and they call people in manchester southerners - makes me giggle
Naw northwest.....Whitby's down south though "
Whitby is basically in scotland |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Truth is on here sometimes the ones that are great with a keypad aren't so great face to face ..and only when you actually meet do you truly discover the person that lays beneath ...
Don't give up but maybe look at things in a different perspective....
Sometimes the harder we look ..the further away our desired |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south
There you go shag
I do love it when you go to somewhere like newcastle and they call people in manchester southerners - makes me giggle
Naw northwest.....Whitby's down south though
Whitby is basically in scotland "
I'm fucked then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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".... with this site.
I did actually think there was something for everyone on here. Not me it would seem.
I'm looking to meet one person. Not fuck everyone that crosses my path. I don't do it in real life so why would I compromise online? For me, attraction and connection make for the best sex. Looking to meet someone and build on that and maybe look to experiment if there is a reciprocated respect and trust.
I don't think I belong here. "
Chin up Men like me who love deeply connecting soulful sex are out here... or at least I am lol. What you've described is my ideal too xx  |
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south
There you go shag
I do love it when you go to somewhere like newcastle and they call people in manchester southerners - makes me giggle
Naw northwest.....Whitby's down south though
Whitby is basically in scotland
I'm fucked then "
You can tell where you are in the UK by what sports people like, when it's rugby you are in the south, as it changes to football that's the north and finally golf once you hit scotland. No need for maps anymore really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually like the idea of being exclusive to one person for a while... for a while. It means you can explore more erotic depths imo. If you're expecting that exclusivity to be a long-term thing though then you are on the wrong site and should really be thinking about dating |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south
There you go shag
I do love it when you go to somewhere like newcastle and they call people in manchester southerners - makes me giggle
Naw northwest.....Whitby's down south though
Whitby is basically in scotland
I'm fucked then
You can tell where you are in the UK by what sports people like, when it's rugby you are in the south, as it changes to football that's the north and finally golf once you hit scotland. No need for maps anymore really. "
Don't tell that to all the arsenal and Chelsea fans |
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"No offence but you have stated in your profile you are looking for a student there not known as the most reliable bunch of people more d*unk and lots of fun kind of people. So chances of finding a student that wants more than just to sleep with an older woman a few times are slim especially on a swinging site
Jesus, it's not literal. "
Yeah, it seemed literal to be honest lol maybe add the words 'to teach / explore' or similar? Things written metaphorically, unless it's veeery obvious or explicitly explained can be easily misinterpreted.
As others has said, perhaps a site predicated on casual sex with one or more partners non exclusively is not the best place to search for a partner? That's not to say it couldn't happen, but the chances are reduced on a site like this...either way, good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I joined this site with the same intentions, but seeing as I'm already in a relationship I'm clearly not happy to settle with just one person. The truth is I don't really know what I want, I just enjoy browsing the forums and chatting to the brace few that want to chat. If a friendship happens then great but I'm not getting my hopes up.
Maybe a dating site would be better for you, not everyone on them is looking for a serious relationship |
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England? From manchester usually
Haha, it all happens in Manchester!"
Yep, it's always the sunny South!  |
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south
There you go shag
I do love it when you go to somewhere like newcastle and they call people in manchester southerners - makes me giggle
Naw northwest.....Whitby's down south though
Whitby is basically in scotland
I'm fucked then
You can tell where you are in the UK by what sports people like, when it's rugby you are in the south, as it changes to football that's the north and finally golf once you hit scotland. No need for maps anymore really. "
An activity which involves a ball is not a sport; it's just a game...... |
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south
There you go shag
I do love it when you go to somewhere like newcastle and they call people in manchester southerners - makes me giggle
Naw northwest.....Whitby's down south though
Whitby is basically in scotland
I'm fucked then
You can tell where you are in the UK by what sports people like, when it's rugby you are in the south, as it changes to football that's the north and finally golf once you hit scotland. No need for maps anymore really.
An activity which involves a ball is not a sport; it's just a game...... "
Wrong there fella....it's here that's the game |
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Where is this mythical north of England?
Anything above Birmingham in my book but then I'm from the south, the deep south
There you go shag
I do love it when you go to somewhere like newcastle and they call people in manchester southerners - makes me giggle
Naw northwest.....Whitby's down south though
Whitby is basically in scotland
I'm fucked then
You can tell where you are in the UK by what sports people like, when it's rugby you are in the south, as it changes to football that's the north and finally golf once you hit scotland. No need for maps anymore really.
An activity which involves a ball is not a sport; it's just a game......
Wrong there fella....it's here that's the game"
Possibly true; so many players and people getting played in here these days...............and we're back to 'Square 1' and the OP's disillusionment! |
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"This site isn't for everyone. Good luck op  "
The site is for every woman the problem is bad decisions and too much choice. Men are like a buffet to women I don't like is nose, I love is thigh, oh his cock don't do beard blah blah blah. lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Really? Yes cos everyone is too busy working as its expensive to live here I reckon. "
Haha what!? I find there's much more happening down here than when I go back up North! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it's realistic to find exclusivity on swingers site. But it doesn't mean there aren't some super guys, if exclusivity weren't important.
Mrs |
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Really? Yes cos everyone is too busy working as its expensive to live here I reckon.
Haha what!? I find there's much more happening down here than when I go back up North! "
I reckon each person find it differently, depending where they live. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is like me complaining that I can't find a reliable, attractive 19 year old to meet.. of course I cant.. they're young, they're far from reliable.
If younger people are your thing then it's fair to expect plenty of immaturity |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is like me complaining that I can't find a reliable, attractive 19 year old to meet.. of course I cant.. they're young, they're far from reliable.
If younger people are your thing then it's fair to expect plenty of immaturity"
You're very handsome in a wolverine kinda way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is like me complaining that I can't find a reliable, attractive 19 year old to meet.. of course I cant.. they're young, they're far from reliable.
If younger people are your thing then it's fair to expect plenty of immaturity
You're very handsome in a wolverine kinda way. "
Why thank you.. |
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"It is ll about demographics, not much is happening in london, most are in north england.
Really? Yes cos everyone is too busy working as its expensive to live here I reckon.
Haha what!? I find there's much more happening down here than when I go back up North! "
I would expect more opportunities in and around London, than the wild, barren wilderness of the frozen North too |
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I think your chances of finding a young man who wants to be exclusive to one older woman are fairly slim on a swingers site, and your chances of finding one you click with sexually without actually sleeping with anyone are virtually zero! |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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".... with this site.
I did actually think there was something for everyone on here. Not me it would seem.
I'm looking to meet one person. Not fuck everyone that crosses my path. I don't do it in real life so why would I compromise online? For me, attraction and connection make for the best sex. Looking to meet someone and build on that and maybe look to experiment if there is a reciprocated respect and trust.
I don't think I belong here. "
Have you tried the social meet which may lead to more approach?
It works for a number of women on here. |
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