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Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials? |
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over a year ago
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Gut instinct usually and that's just at the messaging stage. Ignored it a couple of times and had two not great socials. Now the gut feeling is always listened too. |
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I chat them to death first so we know what we all like. Especially important if trying to sort a threesome.
Always do a social first with the pre cursor either one can say nope this isn't happening.
Setting the scene or a scenario depending how you're playing.
It's all worked for me recently. I haven't been disappointed and I hope they haven't either.
Sarah |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials? "
Take along cake 
Can improve lots of situations  |
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"You make it sound like a mathematic algorithm you've got, do they apply the same approach to you do you think?"
Not at all, it really is quite simple and if they followed the same steps as I, then we would both be guaranteed an exceptional social/meet |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations "
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I'm never disappointed and I think that's because I never rush into a meet. I don't meet for socials so I make sure I'm completely comfortable with a person before agreeing to meet. That clearly doesn't suit everyone and if I did have time for socials then I might do things differently. If I have any doubt whatsoever then I won't meet. ..regardless of how long we've been chatting. |
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I've come to learn that if I'm not absolutely 'giddy-excited' about meeting someone, its usually a good indication not to bother. Even if its someone whom I used to be giddy about at one point. Communication beforehand is vital too in order to build up the anticipation, subtly explore each others likes and dislikes, develop/maintain a rapport... and if someone isn't stimulating me in that way I won't meet them or will stop meeting them. |
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"Gut instinct usually and that's just at the messaging stage. Ignored it a couple of times and had two not great socials. Now the gut feeling is always listened too. "
Thank the lord for gut instinct it's served me well |
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"I chat them to death first so we know what we all like. Especially important if trying to sort a threesome.
Always do a social first with the pre cursor either one can say nope this isn't happening.
Setting the scene or a scenario depending how you're playing.
It's all worked for me recently. I haven't been disappointed and I hope they haven't either.
Sarah "
First rule in my opinion, chat them to death |
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"Gut instinct usually and that's just at the messaging stage. Ignored it a couple of times and had two not great socials. Now the gut feeling is always listened too. "
Ditto |
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"I'm never disappointed and I think that's because I never rush into a meet. I don't meet for socials so I make sure I'm completely comfortable with a person before agreeing to meet. That clearly doesn't suit everyone and if I did have time for socials then I might do things differently. If I have any doubt whatsoever then I won't meet. ..regardless of how long we've been chatting. "
Never be rushed or rush into a meet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I take time to get to know people before meeting. Usually by the time we meet, we both know exactly what to expect, and what we like and dislike. I've not had a bad meet from this site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a meet that was disappointing but only in the fact the guy was a bit over excited and cum too quick. Was a bit weird as he then walked out and left us to carry on with his partner. But other than that haven't had a bad meet x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends of how you see it, if the goal is the hole than its a good one 
Shag really that'll cost you some Haribos "
Yes it would. I would give you some cola bottles too lol |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
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Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited 
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine |
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"I've come to learn that if I'm not absolutely 'giddy-excited' about meeting someone, its usually a good indication not to bother. Even if its someone whom I used to be giddy about at one point. Communication beforehand is vital too in order to build up the anticipation, subtly explore each others likes and dislikes, develop/maintain a rapport... and if someone isn't stimulating me in that way I won't meet them or will stop meeting them. "
Same |
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By *Devil77Man
over a year ago
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I've never had a bad meet.
I just chat to a woman and if we meet then it feels like we've known each other ages anyway.
I don't mind being told what to do either...we all have our different styles after all.
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"I've come to learn that if I'm not absolutely 'giddy-excited' about meeting someone, its usually a good indication not to bother. Even if its someone whom I used to be giddy about at one point. Communication beforehand is vital too in order to build up the anticipation, subtly explore each others likes and dislikes, develop/maintain a rapport... and if someone isn't stimulating me in that way I won't meet them or will stop meeting them. "
The "connection" |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I've come to learn that if I'm not absolutely 'giddy-excited' about meeting someone, its usually a good indication not to bother. "
I've only had one bad meet in five years of doing this. If I lose the excited feeling, it tends to be gone for good and I can't be bothered to keep up the pretence. |
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"I've never had a bad meet.
I just chat to a woman and if we meet then it feels like we've known each other ages anyway.
I don't mind being told what to do either...we all have our different styles after all.
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I wouldn't expect you to have a bad meet, going off your messaging |
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"I never rush into a meet. (...) I make sure I'm completely comfortable with a person before agreeing to meet. (...) If I have any doubt whatsoever then I won't meet. ..regardless of how long we've been chatting. "
I also hate to be pressured into a meet. I clearly state in my profile that it is more than likely I'll never meet most of those I chat to due to several circumstances in my life. Despite of this being made clear, sometimes I will be asked again and again to meet by someone which just makes me feel uncomfortable which leads to me not wanting to meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive found never trust verifications, either the person leaving it has had some terrible sex in their life if that constitutes as good or I have really really really high standards haha |
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By *BWarksCouple
over a year ago
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine "
Haha with friends we have met before we sometimes take eggs - we have chickens and they lay loads sometimes lol |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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It's all in the groundwork for me. The chatting, the ease of the conversations, the attraction, the interest, the feeling I get when we talk. It's something I take my time over, so no rushing. I reap the rewards because I've haven't gone wrong yet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've had one disastrous meet and one that was a but meh, that's in 8 years of active meeting and the common factor in both was going against got instincts |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gut instinct usually and that's just at the messaging stage. Ignored it a couple of times and had two not great socials. Now the gut feeling is always listened too. "
Yes... this for me too! |
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"Gut instinct usually and that's just at the messaging stage. Ignored it a couple of times and had two not great socials. Now the gut feeling is always listened too.
Yes... this for me too! "
Pretty much this. Also if a conversation dies or doesn't go past what are you looking for. I talk mine to death before meeting them lol |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
Haha with friends we have met before we sometimes take eggs - we have chickens and they lay loads sometimes lol "
Haha that's brilliant.
The only homemade thing I can give is chocolate chip cookies |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine "
I like chocolate  |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate "
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs 
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs* |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*"
Which ones did you have?  |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*
Which ones did you have? "
Ummm, KitKat, Toffee Crisp, and Yorkie to get the mug that came with them, and a fancy Thornton's one. |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*
Which ones did you have?
Ummm, KitKat, Toffee Crisp, and Yorkie to get the mug that came with them, and a fancy Thornton's one. "
Oh a Thorntons one yummy |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*
Which ones did you have?
Ummm, KitKat, Toffee Crisp, and Yorkie to get the mug that came with them, and a fancy Thornton's one.
Oh a Thorntons one yummy "
It was. And I was willing to share |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*
Which ones did you have?
Ummm, KitKat, Toffee Crisp, and Yorkie to get the mug that came with them, and a fancy Thornton's one.
Oh a Thorntons one yummy
It was. And I was willing to share "
Too late telling me now but I'll remember for next year. Do you get selection boxes at Xmas? |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*
Which ones did you have?
Ummm, KitKat, Toffee Crisp, and Yorkie to get the mug that came with them, and a fancy Thornton's one.
Oh a Thorntons one yummy
It was. And I was willing to share
Too late telling me now but I'll remember for next year. Do you get selection boxes at Xmas? "
I'm sorry 
I may do, however my old student behaviour is ingrained, so I buy it after the event only bought my eggs at the start of the week for like £8 in total  |
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"I'm never disappointed and I think that's because I never rush into a meet. I don't meet for socials so I make sure I'm completely comfortable with a person before agreeing to meet. That clearly doesn't suit everyone and if I did have time for socials then I might do things differently. If I have any doubt whatsoever then I won't meet. ..regardless of how long we've been chatting. "
I agree with this...although I do arrange socials. One wrong word said in a message can put me off meeting, so only guys I'm 100% sure of and comfortable with get to the face-to-face stage. I've never had a bad or disappointing meet, but regardless I always have a back up plan in case I'm let down |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I always have a social first whatever, I like to chat a lot prior. I can usually pick up that good vibe thing. It's when he starts asking what I'll be wearing or tells me he has a forcey fantasy that makes me have second thoughts.....quickly. Touch wood I've not had any bad sex meets but I've had a fair few dodgy socials |
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over a year ago
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I always make sure I chat for a bit on FAB.
I'll happily pass out my phone number if the said lady / couple want it and would like to confirm I'm genuine etc.
I've had a couple of socials which still didn't go to plan so it's never foolproof but generally the people I've met from the site have all been wonderful |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*
Which ones did you have?
Ummm, KitKat, Toffee Crisp, and Yorkie to get the mug that came with them, and a fancy Thornton's one.
Oh a Thorntons one yummy
It was. And I was willing to share
Too late telling me now but I'll remember for next year. Do you get selection boxes at Xmas?
I'm sorry
I may do, however my old student behaviour is ingrained, so I buy it after the event only bought my eggs at the start of the week for like £8 in total "
Ok this may not be what you were aiming for, but you're adorable |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*
Which ones did you have?
Ummm, KitKat, Toffee Crisp, and Yorkie to get the mug that came with them, and a fancy Thornton's one.
Oh a Thorntons one yummy
It was. And I was willing to share
Too late telling me now but I'll remember for next year. Do you get selection boxes at Xmas?
I'm sorry
I may do, however my old student behaviour is ingrained, so I buy it after the event only bought my eggs at the start of the week for like £8 in total
Ok this may not be what you were aiming for, but you're adorable "
Haha, thats me |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*
Which ones did you have?
Ummm, KitKat, Toffee Crisp, and Yorkie to get the mug that came with them, and a fancy Thornton's one.
Oh a Thorntons one yummy
It was. And I was willing to share
Too late telling me now but I'll remember for next year. Do you get selection boxes at Xmas?
I'm sorry
I may do, however my old student behaviour is ingrained, so I buy it after the event only bought my eggs at the start of the week for like £8 in total
Ok this may not be what you were aiming for, but you're adorable
Haha, thats me "
Phew I didn't upset you |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*
Which ones did you have?
Ummm, KitKat, Toffee Crisp, and Yorkie to get the mug that came with them, and a fancy Thornton's one.
Oh a Thorntons one yummy
It was. And I was willing to share
Too late telling me now but I'll remember for next year. Do you get selection boxes at Xmas?
I'm sorry
I may do, however my old student behaviour is ingrained, so I buy it after the event only bought my eggs at the start of the week for like £8 in total
Ok this may not be what you were aiming for, but you're adorable
Haha, thats me
Phew I didn't upset you "
I decided to take it as a complement |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*
Which ones did you have?
Ummm, KitKat, Toffee Crisp, and Yorkie to get the mug that came with them, and a fancy Thornton's one.
Oh a Thorntons one yummy
It was. And I was willing to share
Too late telling me now but I'll remember for next year. Do you get selection boxes at Xmas?
I'm sorry
I may do, however my old student behaviour is ingrained, so I buy it after the event only bought my eggs at the start of the week for like £8 in total
Ok this may not be what you were aiming for, but you're adorable
Haha, thats me
Phew I didn't upset you
I decided to take it as a complement "
It was meant to be one |
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*
Which ones did you have?
Ummm, KitKat, Toffee Crisp, and Yorkie to get the mug that came with them, and a fancy Thornton's one.
Oh a Thorntons one yummy
It was. And I was willing to share
Too late telling me now but I'll remember for next year. Do you get selection boxes at Xmas?
I'm sorry
I may do, however my old student behaviour is ingrained, so I buy it after the event only bought my eggs at the start of the week for like £8 in total
Ok this may not be what you were aiming for, but you're adorable
Haha, thats me
Phew I didn't upset you
I decided to take it as a complement
It was meant to be one "
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"Disappointing meets for a multitude of reasons seem to be a recurring theme on the forum. I strongly believe for the most part the majority are avoidable, controversial I know. I have my own way of preventing such occurrences and only when I've deviated from that path have I been surprised by events. But I learnt from that and moved on with only myself to blame for not following my own protocol. I would like to know what things you all do to prevent disappointing meets/socials?
Take along cake
Can improve lots of situations
Out of the things I can offer cake gets you most excited
It's a shame, I mean I could bring doughnuts...or wine
I like chocolate
If I had known that I would have offered to share my Easter eggs
*Brushes away chocolate crumbs*
Which ones did you have?
Ummm, KitKat, Toffee Crisp, and Yorkie to get the mug that came with them, and a fancy Thornton's one.
Oh a Thorntons one yummy
It was. And I was willing to share
Too late telling me now but I'll remember for next year. Do you get selection boxes at Xmas?
I'm sorry
I may do, however my old student behaviour is ingrained, so I buy it after the event only bought my eggs at the start of the week for like £8 in total
Ok this may not be what you were aiming for, but you're adorable
Haha, thats me
Phew I didn't upset you
I decided to take it as a complement
It was meant to be one
Good, I mean why would you want to insult me, that's like shouting at a puppy "
Exactly I'm not a monster |
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I don't decide if I want someone then chat. I chat then decide if I want them.
Chatting to someone just for a bit soon tells me if I'm going to enjoy their company or not. |
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Like you op, if I've strayed from my rules then those may be the times when the meet isn't as good as the rest.
Tolerating someone else's pressure is a big no. I need to move at my pace and a prospective meet won't know my life commitments to understand that. So I remain firm.
I try not to be led by emotions but by thinking something through systematically.
I have major likely obstacles covered first, to prevent me wasting my own time or theirs.
And chatting is important away from text messaging. Prior to the meet there's an agreed communication protocol. |
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"Like you op, if I've strayed from my rules then those may be the times when the meet isn't as good as the rest.
Tolerating someone else's pressure is a big no. I need to move at my pace and a prospective meet won't know my life commitments to understand that. So I remain firm.
I try not to be led by emotions but by thinking something through systematically.
I have major likely obstacles covered first, to prevent me wasting my own time or theirs.
And chatting is important away from text messaging. Prior to the meet there's an agreed communication protocol. "
You've got it all sewn up |
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"You can do all the preparation you want before hand,but until you've actually met that person face to face you never know if it's going to be a good meet or not!
Really?
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Why the face?! Obviously,for one people can be different from their online persona some better some worse some the same than they are face to face and a photo only tell's you so much. |
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"You can do all the preparation you want before hand,but until you've actually met that person face to face you never know if it's going to be a good meet or not!
Really?
Why the face?! Obviously,for one people can be different from their online persona some better some worse some the same than they are face to face and a photo only tell's you so much. "
But you don't just look at a photo then meet? I'm not trying to be obnoxious it's just I KNOW beforehand if I've done my due diligence. So I'm interested how others don't know. |
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"You can do all the preparation you want before hand,but until you've actually met that person face to face you never know if it's going to be a good meet or not!
Really?
Why the face?! Obviously,for one people can be different from their online persona some better some worse some the same than they are face to face and a photo only tell's you so much. "
Very true , and then there's personality , cleanliness , attitude and all manner of other traits which may not be appealing . |
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"You can do all the preparation you want before hand,but until you've actually met that person face to face you never know if it's going to be a good meet or not!
Really?
Why the face?! Obviously,for one people can be different from their online persona some better some worse some the same than they are face to face and a photo only tell's you so much.
Very true , and then there's personality , cleanliness , attitude and all manner of other traits which may not be appealing ."
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"You can do all the preparation you want before hand,but until you've actually met that person face to face you never know if it's going to be a good meet or not!
Really?
Why the face?! Obviously,for one people can be different from their online persona some better some worse some the same than they are face to face and a photo only tell's you so much.
Very true , and then there's personality , cleanliness , attitude and all manner of other traits which may not be appealing ."
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"You can do all the preparation you want before hand,but until you've actually met that person face to face you never know if it's going to be a good meet or not!
Really?
Why the face?! Obviously,for one people can be different from their online persona some better some worse some the same than they are face to face and a photo only tell's you so much.
But you don't just look at a photo then meet? I'm not trying to be obnoxious it's just I KNOW beforehand if I've done my due diligence. So I'm interested how others don't know. "
because they could be your ideal meet online, but people don't always turn out like they paint themselves.
A while ago I had a social meet with a guy. Seemed nice, we got on when messaging, good pic. When he turned up the meet started well, but I had told him in advance there would be no play that night (think it was time of the month). He started pestering me to go home with him that night, and in the end I told him if he wasn't going to respect me saying no to that, I couldn't imagine him respecting other decisions of mine.
I did all the prep I could for that meet, but it still turned out to be disappointing. |
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"You can do all the preparation you want before hand,but until you've actually met that person face to face you never know if it's going to be a good meet or not!
Really?
Why the face?! Obviously,for one people can be different from their online persona some better some worse some the same than they are face to face and a photo only tell's you so much.
But you don't just look at a photo then meet? I'm not trying to be obnoxious it's just I KNOW beforehand if I've done my due diligence. So I'm interested how others don't know.
because they could be your ideal meet online, but people don't always turn out like they paint themselves.
A while ago I had a social meet with a guy. Seemed nice, we got on when messaging, good pic. When he turned up the meet started well, but I had told him in advance there would be no play that night (think it was time of the month). He started pestering me to go home with him that night, and in the end I told him if he wasn't going to respect me saying no to that, I couldn't imagine him respecting other decisions of mine.
I did all the prep I could for that meet, but it still turned out to be disappointing."
Omg that's really not good I'd be mortified if that happened after I'd been so sure he was ok |
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You can tell from chatting if you it's likely to work, inconsistent answers always a give away. It's more difficult for women but guys can make mistakes...a good chat and a laugh (you'd need a gsoh to meet me lol) is a good start |
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"I make sure they're mature enough for me, they have feelings and are not just fucking everything they see.
You make it sound so simple "
It's not though is it. We only find out afterwards if you were right. More often than not I'm right. |
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I dont think you can prevent being disappointed as no matter how well you talk to someone. Your not going to know what they are like sexually till you try it. |
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"I make sure they're mature enough for me, they have feelings and are not just fucking everything they see.
You make it sound so simple
It's not though is it. We only find out afterwards if you were right. More often than not I'm right. "
How you get to the social/meet invariably isn't but the actual event should be if you followed the system you use to get to that point. I made an exception once it taught me a valuable lesson  |
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I have rarely been let down with new meets.. but its the fb friends who have let me down. I know not to agree to meet anymore and have no dealings with them but I cant help it if some guys are not as genuine and decent as myself. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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My problem is the reverse - a few potential meets have told me I haven't asked them to play so they haven't played with. We have chatted for a while and got onnwell, just I haven't had bollox to ask to go for a play |
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It all sounds a bit too clinical for my liking to be honest.. I talk for long enough to decide they're not completely nuts then meet for coffee or something with no expectations.
Theres no disappointment in meeting someone new even if nothing comes of it. |
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"I don't meet any more. Can't be stood up or disappointed if you're not meeting.
Can't be fucked either, though."
I'd much rather have no sex at all than bad sex. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I don't meet any more. Can't be stood up or disappointed if you're not meeting.
Can't be fucked either, though.
I'd much rather have no sex at all than bad sex. "
totally agree and that even goes for average sex to in my world |
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"I don't meet any more. Can't be stood up or disappointed if you're not meeting.
Can't be fucked either, though.
I'd much rather have no sex at all than bad sex.
totally agree and that even goes for average sex to in my world "
That was the whole point of the thread, avoiding disappointment |
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"I don't meet any more. Can't be stood up or disappointed if you're not meeting.
Can't be fucked either, though.
I'd much rather have no sex at all than bad sex.
totally agree and that even goes for average sex to in my world
That was the whole point of the thread, avoiding disappointment "
My reply: don't meet.  |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I don't meet any more. Can't be stood up or disappointed if you're not meeting.
Can't be fucked either, though.
I'd much rather have no sex at all than bad sex.
totally agree and that even goes for average sex to in my world
That was the whole point of the thread, avoiding disappointment "
that's easy only play with those who have a naughty twinkle in there eyes trust me it works no one with a twinkle in there eyes is ether a disappointment |
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By *wentMan
over a year ago
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"I don't meet any more. Can't be stood up or disappointed if you're not meeting.
Can't be fucked either, though.
I'd much rather have no sex at all than bad sex.
totally agree and that even goes for average sex to in my world
That was the whole point of the thread, avoiding disappointment
My reply: don't meet. "
Never disappointed with my only meet so far, nice bit of carrot cake  |
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I can usually get a "feeling" in the messages exchanged.
I've had one terrible meet,I didn't even cum,because I helped a couple out with their fantasy forgetting that it wasn't mine,so it did nothing for me... |
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"I don't meet any more. Can't be stood up or disappointed if you're not meeting.
Can't be fucked either, though.
I'd much rather have no sex at all than bad sex.
totally agree and that even goes for average sex to in my world
That was the whole point of the thread, avoiding disappointment
My reply: don't meet. "
That's disappointing |
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