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How long do you think a meet should last?
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By *edzy OP Woman
over a year ago
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I see people list they can accommodate, but it turns out their idea of accommodating is the couple of hours whilst their flat mate is out. My idea of accommodating is overnight- or at least the evening.
I am not criticising this - different strokes for different folks and all that - I'm just curious to know what others think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind meeting for a couple of hours. It's rare I'll stay overnight in someone's home, but I have done it. I've stayed overnight twice in a hotel, I think.
There's a lot you can do in a couple of hours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see people list they can accommodate, but it turns out their idea of accommodating is the couple of hours whilst their flat mate is out. My idea of accommodating is overnight- or at least the evening.
I am not criticising this - different strokes for different folks and all that - I'm just curious to know what others think?"
Personally this us something we would agree before the meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had meets last 30 mins, and meets last all night. It depends on what was discussed and arranged. I prefer somewhere in the middle; 2 or 3 hours."
Same here.
I couldn't do overnight now as i have to get back for my pooch and i have young children. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a host I feel entitled to stipulate how long I'm prepared to extend my hospitality....... But during the process of arranging the meet it becomes apparent my stipulation is unacceptable to the potential guest the meet does not go ahead.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wish I could do quickie meets, my body just ain't up for them.
Most meets at the moment last until we run out of time and have to get back to the real world, I never look at how long they've lasted, but lots of time always seems to have passed between looking at the time.
What is it they say, time flies when you're having fun, well it bloody rockets when you're enjoying another's body and mind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't meet for a quickie I want at least the evening so about 3-4 hours!
What would you talk about for 3 hours and 50 mins? "
I talk a lot, I'm sure I could find something to talk about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see people list they can accommodate, but it turns out their idea of accommodating is the couple of hours whilst their flat mate is out. My idea of accommodating is overnight- or at least the evening.
I am not criticising this - different strokes for different folks and all that - I'm just curious to know what others think?"
Overnight is always good, but perhaps maybe not on a first meet...it's nice to get the 'measure' of your play-partner first I feel. Though I wouldn't rule out overnight either at hers or mine on a first meet if we were getting along really really well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see people list they can accommodate, but it turns out their idea of accommodating is the couple of hours whilst their flat mate is out. My idea of accommodating is overnight- or at least the evening.
I am not criticising this - different strokes for different folks and all that - I'm just curious to know what others think?
Overnight is always good, but perhaps maybe not on a first meet...it's nice to get the 'measure' of your play-partner first I feel. Though I wouldn't rule out overnight either at hers or mine on a first meet if we were getting along really really well "
It really does depend on what works for both...sometimes an hour or two may be good for both parties. Go with the flow, me... |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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"I see people list they can accommodate, but it turns out their idea of accommodating is the couple of hours whilst their flat mate is out. My idea of accommodating is overnight- or at least the evening.
I am not criticising this - different strokes for different folks and all that - I'm just curious to know what others think?"
We expect accomodate means for the length of the meet whether it is a couple of hours or all night.
We would expect any meet that was going to last longer than two or three hours would be arranged previously.
The accomodation is for the play not for a free bed for the night |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would have classed accomodate as they can have us at their house for a meet and not necessarily stay over. Our meets at other people's houses have lasted until the early hours of the morning and we went home after.
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I don't expect an almost unknown person to come round for an extended stay vacation of a meet, when something like airbnb could have met their needs. I don't clear all events from my calendar just because I've a meet - real life carries on.
If I want you for longer, I'll swallow the door keys.
First meet upto around 3 hours and as close to an hour minimum should work for my satisfaction. If it's pre-arranged as overnight that's fine but generally not for an unknown meet |
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Sometimes a drink or two in a local pub , with flirting etc.... then move somewhere quieter to have fun , so a couple of hours .
We may attend a party or have a couple meet at their place which may extend to three hours .
But equally we may just like a suck or fuck and go which may be ten minutes .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Until you all orgasms at least twice,the bed breaks or neigbours complain of your loud sex noises "
I am with you on this one....
Overnight....
Or 5 hours during daytime  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been to meets that only lasted an hour. I've had similar length meets at mine.
I've had many that have been overnight (both ways and at hotels).
I've had weekend meets...Friday eve to Sunday noon (ok they were mostly with a regular...in her caravan lol)
I had one meet on a Thursday that resulted in me ringing in "sick" on the Friday and her going home on the Monday morning.
It takes all sorts is the simple answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Until you all orgasms at least twice,the bed breaks or neigbours complain of your loud sex noises
I am with you on this one....
Overnight....
Or 5 hours during daytime "
This  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely as long as feels right? And should be pre discussed OP?
I would be upset if someone rocked up with a weekend bag and I thought it was a 'quickie' meet, and same for opposites |
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I wouldn't stay the night at someone's gaff after setting up a meet on here.
On a first date, if we go back, then yes maybe sleep over, but that's a date, not a meet. I wouldn't stay over on a meet. |
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By *ineMan
over a year ago
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"Until you all orgasms at least twice,the bed breaks or neigbours complain of your loud sex noises
I am with you on this one....
Overnight....
Or 5 hours during daytime "
Only twice |
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Depends entirely on the situation. Most couples we play with are in hotel scenarios - so it lasts a few hours from dinner and drinks to playing so average I would say... 7pm-3am? However we've had apartments with some people and then woke up and played the next morning...
However we're actually away in two weeks time with another couple on Fab for a dirty log cabin weekend in the Lake District because we all get on so well it's nice that this for us has turned into more... so I mean it all depends on the people too.
But for a random average meet I would say as soon as we're done.. we want bed!! And make it known. We all have a lie down and rest and chat for a bit afterwards but within the next hour they're gone and we're snoring again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't actually time my meets 
Saying that I rarely do overnights, it's not something I'm entirely comfortable with."
I'm not having much luck with your posts tonight!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't actually time my meets
Saying that I rarely do overnights, it's not something I'm entirely comfortable with."
This!
I think it's quite a personal thing having someone stay the night. Plus, I have a fear of sleep-farting! |
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"I don't actually time my meets
Saying that I rarely do overnights, it's not something I'm entirely comfortable with.
This!
I think it's quite a personal thing having someone stay the night. Plus, I have a fear of sleep-farting! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't actually time my meets
Saying that I rarely do overnights, it's not something I'm entirely comfortable with.
I'm not having much luck with your posts tonight! "
You really need to try harder. .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Until you all orgasms at least twice,the bed breaks or neigbours complain of your loud sex noises
I am with you on this one....
Overnight....
Or 5 hours during daytime
This "
Drinks all round |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"532 mins or 547 mins depending if the subject require a hot drink prior to coitus, anywhere inside that time frame...i'm flexible that way "
Hahaha obviously you have to have a hot beverage otherwise Sheldon would not be happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It all depends on the person(s) you're meeting. Women often like an overnight, couples may like extended, but ultimately prefer just themselves sleeping together and men cum and go |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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2 or 3 hours,  long enough to have a good fuck. I am not trying to form a relationship with them or pretend there is one.
Spending the whole night with someone and waking up in the morning with them is playing with emotions, which is dangerous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"2 or 3 hours, long enough to have a good fuck. I am not trying to form a relationship with them or pretend there is one.
Spending the whole night with someone and waking up in the morning with them is playing with emotions, which is dangerous. "
I enjoy overnight stays. It doesn't mean I want to marry them. |
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"2 or 3 hours, long enough to have a good fuck. I am not trying to form a relationship with them or pretend there is one.
Spending the whole night with someone and waking up in the morning with them is playing with emotions, which is dangerous.
I enjoy overnight stays. It doesn't mean I want to marry them."
Oh I would expect a marriage proposal after an overnight!! Lol ha ha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see people list they can accommodate, but it turns out their idea of accommodating is the couple of hours whilst their flat mate is out. My idea of accommodating is overnight- or at least the evening.
I am not criticising this - different strokes for different folks and all that - I'm just curious to know what others think?"
100% agree with you. An entire evening or overnight is the least they can accommodate. Which is one of the reasons why I don't meet guys who house share. I also don't find it much fun waking up to his mum giving me the eyes of shame look and his dad the sly smiles and a wink! Safety is my main reason though.
If the sex was awful, I'd leave early. Hate all that awkwardness feeling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"2 or 3 hours, long enough to have a good fuck. I am not trying to form a relationship with them or pretend there is one.
Spending the whole night with someone and waking up in the morning with them is playing with emotions, which is dangerous.
I enjoy overnight stays. It doesn't mean I want to marry them."
Exactly lol. Overnight is more fun. We both get to be fulfilled instead of just him. Plus have multiple sessions throughout the night. Often once is never enough.
Believe me after spending the entire night, I don't want a relationship with him. Silly anyone who assumes that idea lol. Sexy sleepovers are best and that's all they are!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As long as it takes until all of us are sated. After that, a kiss, a cuddle and then a kiss goodbye. "
They wouldn't even need to take their coat off half the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All my meets vary. I've done a few overnight and some very long nights at a club. A couple of hours is great but I'm not going to be getting ready for someone who wants to meet, fuck and go.....those days are gone. I prefer the scenic route. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"2 or 3 hours, long enough to have a good fuck. I am not trying to form a relationship with them or pretend there is one.
Spending the whole night with someone and waking up in the morning with them is playing with emotions, which is dangerous.
I enjoy overnight stays. It doesn't mean I want to marry them."
I enjoy overnight stays means you get morning fun as well. |
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Not read all the other answers - but I'd say it's obvious that the 'ideal' meet lasts for as long as both parties are in agreement.
I've had meets lasting anything from an hour (pre work play with someone I know well!) to a full weekend!
Both can be great as long as both parties want the same! |
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By *ineMan
over a year ago
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"Until you all orgasms at least twice,the bed breaks or neigbours complain of your loud sex noises
I am with you on this one....
Overnight....
Or 5 hours during daytime "
Until carried out on stretchers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see people list they can accommodate, but it turns out their idea of accommodating is the couple of hours whilst their flat mate is out. My idea of accommodating is overnight- or at least the evening.
I am not criticising this - different strokes for different folks and all that - I'm just curious to know what others think?"
our meets have tended to be an hour or two with couples.. 15mins ish with guys |
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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago
cheshire |
I would consider a good meet. Would be. Meet up about half seven ish. Go for a few drinks. Chat n laugh. Probs go two or three different places. Let the guy n mrs have a good flirt ( thats what we into ). Then head of to hatel or one of our places. Then carry on with the non hurried fun. Probs till about three ish in morning. If not over night. Depending where we are.having a repeat performer would be good to lol Thats just what i think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends . Sometimes wee ask for fb too call spitroast me or just oral . Then times we've ended up in bed Mmf and also mmff for over a day if moist and hard cocks keep going |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see people list they can accommodate, but it turns out their idea of accommodating is the couple of hours whilst their flat mate is out. My idea of accommodating is overnight- or at least the evening.
I am not criticising this - different strokes for different folks and all that - I'm just curious to know what others think?"
Depends on what we want ... usually couple of hours ... prefer over night though... oh where is the summer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like sleepover meets, so to meet the guy about half 6 ish, have a cuppa tea, watch emmerdale and have some bacon rolls, more tea and biscuits and a chat, then go up to bed to 'watch a dvd' and have a cwtch! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When i was single i did stay overnight with a guy i knew well and had met many times however most meets were anything from 30 mins to a few hours.
Nowadays as a couple they are generally an hour up to several hours for g and i and they are at a club. We have a chat and a drink, use the hot tub, go in a private room for sex. We dont want to stay overnight. G and i then want to go home, have sex, cuddle and sleep |
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By *annooWoman
over a year ago
Hastings |
For me
the phrase on here for accom
is being able to have someone round for sex-no matter the time
I dont accom
and if someone says they can accom, i assume it is for long enough for sex, no matter if 30 mins to all night (even though i cannot do all nighters)
i think its each to their own and i like to discuss these things prior to meets anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see people list they can accommodate, but it turns out their idea of accommodating is the couple of hours whilst their flat mate is out. My idea of accommodating is overnight- or at least the evening.
I am not criticising this - different strokes for different folks and all that - I'm just curious to know what others think?"
Accommodating is either of those to be honest! We have people over for food, drinks and naughtiness before they head home... and have had people travel and stay a full weekend with us. When we're free for a few hours through the day time we'd happily have people to ours even with a time limit.
I guess the main thing is to clarify with the person you're discussing what length of a meet you are both looking for!
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OP, most people would assume 'accommodate' means just using their place to play, not actually accomodating overnight.
It might happen sometimes, and might be pre-arranged if traveling etc, but I think the assumption would be that the people coming to the others house were going to leave after the fun. |
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"I see people list they can accommodate, but it turns out their idea of accommodating is the couple of hours whilst their flat mate is out.
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Yes I've had that a couple of times, but I do NOT like to be hurried so at the least I want a whole evening, and a whole weekend if we get on well enough! |
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Just a word of caution on sleep-over accommodating.
We once went to a couples house out in the sticks, agreed beforehand to stay over. We all had a few drinks, wine, prosecco etc.
As the night progressed, it all started to turn a bit weird. We would have made our excuses and left. But, we had had more to drink than legally drive. So were stuck... We didn't let play start, but being stuck there was 'Awkwarrrd...'  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Just a word of caution on sleep-over accommodating.
We once went to a couples house out in the sticks, agreed beforehand to stay over. We all had a few drinks, wine, prosecco etc.
As the night progressed, it all started to turn a bit weird. We would have made our excuses and left. But, we had had more to drink than legally drive. So were stuck... We didn't let play start, but being stuck there was 'Awkwarrrd...' "
I stopped accommodating for similar reasons.
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