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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Many people seem to think that swingers are free prostitutes.
Porn sites don't help because they just show mad orgies with everyone just joining in and fucking each other so when men go to clubs they think it's a free for all.
Then they come on here, see Trip Advisor 'reviews' (verifications) on the 'sex menus' (profiles) and can't wait to get their cock wet. So they mail and ask for sex in crude disrespectful ways....
How do we fix this? |
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Funny how it used to be a lot better when not only were verifications not needed, they were actually banned- it was all word of mouth, flirting and gut instinct....it was also decidedly more friendly in the various site forums then too  |
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I was saying to someone i remember when this was a "swingers" site. More people are joining as a hook up site and think its easy access to sex. These same people will come and go when they realise its not that. But as fab has got more well known over the years the more people join for that reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We can't. Next. "
Pretty much this. 
It's takes effort to find the right people, but they are out there. I think the only way to really understand each person's motives and viewpoint is to talk with them and get to know them a bit.
I read a profile today that deals with exactly what your OP discusses. I was actually sad to have read it, but then I realized that none of the men I have met have treated me that way, and that it proves that the way to find the right partners is to look for them individually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i don't think it's endemic to this site,it's maybe just more obvious...i think it's a symptom of the way an awful lot of men view women in general..and,no, i'm certainly no man hater at all,just aware of a growing attitude in our society which is really sad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We can't. Next.
Pretty much this.
It's takes effort to find the right people, but they are out there. I think the only way to really understand each person's motives and viewpoint is to talk with them and get to know them a bit.
I read a profile today that deals with exactly what your OP discusses. I was actually sad to have read it, but then I realized that none of the men I have met have treated me that way, and that it proves that the way to find the right partners is to look for them individually."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many people seem to think that swingers are free prostitutes.
Porn sites don't help because they just show mad orgies with everyone just joining in and fucking each other so when men go to clubs they think it's a free for all.
Then they come on here, see Trip Advisor 'reviews' (verifications) on the 'sex menus' (profiles) and can't wait to get their cock wet. So they mail and ask for sex in crude disrespectful ways....
How do we fix this? "
All ladies should have a menu...
That menu should state the sex act and what is required in terms of ground work to achieve it.
Example:
A kiss: look at her a certain way... male pouting is apparently in. Tell her what a total Viking you are.
Anal: not a first date thing (negotiable) a steak with all the trimmings including as much bitter or mild as the lady wants or the gentlmans birthday. Advise her of the time your friends all agreed you were a 'ledge' and of course that time you scored the winner in a long forgotten but critically important Sunday league game.
Seems a solid and balanced platform to move forward with.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But fab isn't broken. The tools are all on fab to use as you please and it works brilliantly from my POV. If fab doesn't work for others then maybe they need to change the tools or the way they use the tools  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many people seem to think that swingers are free prostitutes.
Porn sites don't help because they just show mad orgies with everyone just joining in and fucking each other so when men go to clubs they think it's a free for all.
Then they come on here, see Trip Advisor 'reviews' (verifications) on the 'sex menus' (profiles) and can't wait to get their cock wet. So they mail and ask for sex in crude disrespectful ways....
How do we fix this? "
Ask erectjim to fix it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Many people seem to think that swingers are free prostitutes.
Porn sites don't help because they just show mad orgies with everyone just joining in and fucking each other so when men go to clubs they think it's a free for all.
Then they come on here, see Trip Advisor 'reviews' (verifications) on the 'sex menus' (profiles) and can't wait to get their cock wet. So they mail and ask for sex in crude disrespectful ways....
How do we fix this?
All ladies should have a menu...
That menu should state the sex act and what is required in terms of ground work to achieve it.
Example:
A kiss: look at her a certain way... male pouting is apparently in. Tell her what a total Viking you are.
Anal: not a first date thing (negotiable) a steak with all the trimmings including as much bitter or mild as the lady wants or the gentlmans birthday. Advise her of the time your friends all agreed you were a 'ledge' and of course that time you scored the winner in a long forgotten but critically important Sunday league game.
Seems a solid and balanced platform to move forward with.
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I quite like that plan.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i don't think it's endemic to this site,it's maybe just more obvious...i think it's a symptom of the way an awful lot of men view women in general..and,no, i'm certainly no man hater at all,just aware of a growing attitude in our society which is really sad."
Thanks - I did mean in general, I should have been more clear in the OP. I didn't just mean on here.
I agree with the attitude in society. Maybe the internet has made people more expendable. Similar issues on dating sites- people constantly looking for someone better. In the olden days maybe they would've been pleased to get a reply from their 'penpal' and stuck at it more.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But fab isn't broken. The tools are all on fab to use as you please and it works brilliantly from my POV. If fab doesn't work for others then maybe they need to change the tools or the way they use the tools "
I was just going to say exactly this but less eloquently 
Fab is just a tool - it's like everything else - you have to learn how to use it
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think we can. All we can do I suppose is conduct ourselves according to how we see swinging and try and shut out the rest.
I don't thing the "competitive" swingers help though."
Very true Mrs N. |
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"Many people seem to think that swingers are free prostitutes.
Porn sites don't help because they just show mad orgies with everyone just joining in and fucking each other so when men go to clubs they think it's a free for all.
Then they come on here, see Trip Advisor 'reviews' (verifications) on the 'sex menus' (profiles) and can't wait to get their cock wet. So they mail and ask for sex in crude disrespectful ways....
How do we fix this? "
Block single males and be the ones to send the disrespectful messages.
If you are doing the looking then you have more chance of seeing what you want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But fab isn't broken. The tools are all on fab to use as you please and it works brilliantly from my POV. If fab doesn't work for others then maybe they need to change the tools or the way they use the tools "
There's a hole in its toolset. There are "meet today" and "meet on this specific date" tools but there aren't any "I'm free next week" type tools. This means the site naturally favours NSA singles over swinging couples who need to plan ahead. Lacking such tools also means it doesn't differentiate between members who are seeking meets and those who are either having a break or are just looking. This flaw in the site is what's really responsible for what people call "timewasters". We started a thread on this in the suggestions section. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does it need fixing? Those type of guys are great filters of their own "
i completely agree..they out themselves both here and in 'real' life pretty damn quickly...still grates on me though that so many of them are around.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But fab isn't broken. The tools are all on fab to use as you please and it works brilliantly from my POV. If fab doesn't work for others then maybe they need to change the tools or the way they use the tools
There's a hole in its toolset. There are "meet today" and "meet on this specific date" tools but there aren't any "I'm free next week" type tools. This means the site naturally favours NSA singles over swinging couples who need to plan ahead. Lacking such tools also means it doesn't differentiate between members who are seeking meets and those who are either having a break or are just looking. This flaw in the site is what's really responsible for what people call "timewasters". We started a thread on this in the suggestions section. "
The "I'm free next week tool" is surely the message that you send out to those you've already been chatting to and have put them in the "to do" pile or those that you would like to meet again? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't think we can. All we can do I suppose is conduct ourselves according to how we see swinging and try and shut out the rest.
I don't thing the "competitive" swingers help though."
What are competitive swingers? |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"Does it need fixing? Those type of guys are great filters of their own "
they're also a nice/nasty reminder that a lot of guys have these thoughts but hide them in general and you're taking a risk every time you meet someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does it need fixing? Those type of guys are great filters of their own
they're also a nice/nasty reminder that a lot of guys have these thoughts but hide them in general and you're taking a risk every time you meet someone."
sad but true! which is why i can take forever to meet anyone..which so far has worked for me..i've been lucky enough to meet some very lovely, intelligent men on here..and if it takes weeks,if not months of talking first,then so be it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many people seem to think that swingers are free prostitutes.
Porn sites don't help because they just show mad orgies with everyone just joining in and fucking each other so when men go to clubs they think it's a free for all.
Then they come on here, see Trip Advisor 'reviews' (verifications) on the 'sex menus' (profiles) and can't wait to get their cock wet. So they mail and ask for sex in crude disrespectful ways....
How do we fix this? "
Charge 'em |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"Does it need fixing? Those type of guys are great filters of their own
they're also a nice/nasty reminder that a lot of guys have these thoughts but hide them in general and you're taking a risk every time you meet someone.
sad but true! which is why i can take forever to meet anyone..which so far has worked for me..i've been lucky enough to meet some very lovely, intelligent men on here..and if it takes weeks,if not months of talking first,then so be it."
i've pretty much lost interest in meeting men instead. |
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"I don't think we can. All we can do I suppose is conduct ourselves according to how we see swinging and try and shut out the rest.
I don't thing the "competitive" swingers help though.
What are competitive swingers?"
The ones who try to outdo each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The "I'm free next week tool" is surely the message that you send out to those you've already been chatting to and have put them in the "to do" pile or those that you would like to meet again? "
It's just another flexible tool that Fab is inexplicably missing, alongside things like being able to search for keywords on people's profiles. It can be used to let friends know you're free and available to play, to let strangers know you're keen to have a social in that window of time, or just to let anyone browsing know you're actively swinging and meeting at this point. It's literally just the same as the "meet today" tool but aimed at swingers who need more flexibility and time to plan, as the vast majority do.
We've bumped the thread in the site feedback forum for anyone interested in reading up more about the idea |
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"i don't think it's endemic to this site,it's maybe just more obvious...i think it's a symptom of the way an awful lot of men view women in general..and,no, i'm certainly no man hater at all,just aware of a growing attitude in our society which is really sad.
Thanks - I did mean in general, I should have been more clear in the OP. I didn't just mean on here.
I agree with the attitude in society. Maybe the internet has made people more expendable. Similar issues on dating sites- people constantly looking for someone better. In the olden days maybe they would've been pleased to get a reply from their 'penpal' and stuck at it more. "
Internet seams to offer an endless wealth of people to chose from. Put the ability to hide behind anonymity of our electronic devices detached from the conciquences of our interactions. I agree people talk, think that's ok and then they get distracted Hythe prospect of someone new on the scene. They never take to time to discover someone. Hence why ghosting happens a lot. Sometimes weeks of talk and then they just drop off the face of the earth. It is the way on things these days but often results in very few things reaching a satisfactory conclusion. I suppose tinda typifies this disposable type of approch to meeting people. |
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Behaviour gets reinforced when it's rewarded, getting stronger the more it's repeated.
Don't reward inappropriate behaviour. People either vary what they do or give up.
Or warning signs could flash up on the viewers screen when they click to message you. You could write your own warning for example. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Before I answer, what is your deinition of crude?"
I meant like when their very first mail says "they want to ram their hard cock in your wet pussy".
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Trust people not everybody is a arsehole.some of us aren't that bad "
I know. x
My OP was more about the perception of swingers in general. Not specifically about this site. |
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"Does it need fixing? Those type of guys are great filters of their own
they're also a nice/nasty reminder that a lot of guys have these thoughts but hide them in general and you're taking a risk every time you meet someone."
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I don't think it is something we should bother about as a group, it should be handled individually . In terms of swingers being competitive , that is normal because of the environment, girls can come for your guy if he is available and these are the rules ,so naturally they want to look hotter than you |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Before I answer, what is your deinition of crude?
I meant like when their very first mail says "they want to ram their hard cock in your wet pussy".
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You see they don't bother me, I just use it as a filter if I don't want my pussy rammed that day.
Why I asked was because before now some people have complained on the forum that people ask for sex altogether so I wasn't sure which camp you were in.
Now if the person mailed us asking us for a meet because they are after us all having sex thats fine. |
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"Before I answer, what is your deinition of crude?
I meant like when their very first mail says "they want to ram their hard cock in your wet pussy".
You see they don't bother me, I just use it as a filter if I don't want my pussy rammed that day.
Why I asked was because before now some people have complained on the forum that people ask for sex altogether so I wasn't sure which camp you were in.
Now if the person mailed us asking us for a meet because they are after us all having sex thats fine. "
So if we are looking for a guy to ram his hard cock in my wife's wet pussy , this isn't the right place to find it ?
This works perfectly well for us thank you and although it may cause shock and horror amongst the ' proper swingers ' out there , sometimes it's exactly what we are looking for .
If you look at the active couples on here , it works well for them too .
There is nothing wrong with the straight to the point approach , and if this upsets anyone that's tough . We and people like us are the reason these approaches are made , and long may they continue .
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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There is nothing wrong with the straight to the point approach
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Agreed, I hate pussy footing around so when we are looking for someone we ask people to get straight to the point. Asking for sex is fine by me and if I am in a particular mood even what people deem as crude mails would work for me
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many people seem to think that swingers are free prostitutes.
Porn sites don't help because they just show mad orgies with everyone just joining in and fucking each other so when men go to clubs they think it's a free for all.
Then they come on here, see Trip Advisor 'reviews' (verifications) on the 'sex menus' (profiles) and can't wait to get their cock wet. So they mail and ask for sex in crude disrespectful ways....
How do we fix this? "
You can't and won't as long as women display themselves as available. This site does that very well in a number of ways. Only way not to be seen in that light is not to promote loose/ free sex. That's not to say all men see them as such. Also not all women on here hold that view either. Maybe it's more about a personal perceptionand personal values which ccause us to think that way about how others view us too.
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By (user no longer on site)
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With risk of opening a can of worms here. As a man, every time I read one of these threads, it leaves it open for women to state their opinions (which they're well in there rights to have), and it just puts the guys here back at square one. We're guilty before we ever get given a chance here. And don't say I'm wrong. How many have blocked all single males. I can't even talk to you to say hello.
We have to pay for what others have done.
It's not my fault.
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By (user no longer on site)
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A dear friend, who I always assumed was fairly vanilla, has recently come out as a sex hungry woman to me and we've been discussing fab and it's merits and detractions.
She is concerned about the bombardment of male egos all wanting her to just jump on their cocks and to be grateful for the pleasure, or that she may become a notch on someone's belt.
She is looking to be educated in the ways of this type of casual sex fun. She wants to swing, not to just hook up.
Unfortunately as with all sites that have a sexual meet agenda, there will always be those that see them as easy access to sex rather than what they may have been intended for.
What I like about Fab is that it caters for all needs, if you want to use it as a hook up site, you can, if you want to make more of the community/swinger side, you can.
What I find so miserable about this site and others is people's inability to let others enjoy it how they wish. So what if someone just wants a quick hookup, if you don't, be polite and say no, if they want to form an ongoing friendship that involves sex and you don't, say so and move on.
We all know why we, the individual, joined Fab, so use it for what you want and let others use it for what they want. It's a big place and there's room for everyone.
There are traditional swingers here and there are the hook up merchants, live and let live in my opinion. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Ban men "
Not quite, just ban them from messaging people unless they are contacted first. After a while all the no face, cock pic only, two line profiles will disappear as no one will message them. I could also envisage quite a few women both real & fake leaving too.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ban men
Not quite, just ban them from messaging people unless they are contacted first. After a while all the no face, cock pic only, two line profiles will disappear as no one will message them. I could also envisage quite a few women both real & fake leaving too.
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See my point above. |
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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago
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As a man, what I find odd about many of the female profiles I browse is that they seem quite keen to say they're "up for it" when newly created, then obviously they get overwhelmed and start declaring restrictions and putting hoops for men to jump through...
Yet surprisingly few of them just say upfront "we must meet in a pub for a drink and a chat first, and see how we get on". Call me old-fashioned if you like, but even in the age of Internet dating, isn't that still normal?
Straightaway that would rule out anyone looking for an immediate fuck.
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Ban men
Not quite, just ban them from messaging people unless they are contacted first. After a while all the no face, cock pic only, two line profiles will disappear as no one will message them. I could also envisage quite a few women both real & fake leaving too.
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See my point above. "
I did, however for the first month or so of being here we didn't block anyone but for every nice message from a guy we probably got ten shit ones. We've never had a bad message from a single fem or a couple since we've been here.
I know not all are bad but for many many the cap fits..they need to be got rid of same as the fakes but the site won't do it as its a numbers game run for profit.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ban men
Not quite, just ban them from messaging people unless they are contacted first. After a while all the no face, cock pic only, two line profiles will disappear as no one will message them. I could also envisage quite a few women both real & fake leaving too.
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See my point above.
I did, however for the first month or so of being here we didn't block anyone but for every nice message from a guy we probably got ten shit ones. We've never had a bad message from a single fem or a couple since we've been here.
I know not all are bad but for many many the cap fits..they need to be got rid of same as the fakes but the site won't do it as its a numbers game run for profit.
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Fair point. I guess I'll check my hat size.  . After all. I'm a single male who'd be banned from messaging if we go with your idea for a fix. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"With risk of opening a can of worms here. As a man, every time I read one of these threads, it leaves it open for women to state their opinions (which they're well in there rights to have), and it just puts the guys here back at square one. We're guilty before we ever get given a chance here. And don't say I'm wrong. How many have blocked all single males. I can't even talk to you to say hello.
We have to pay for what others have done.
It's not my fault.
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Some merit in what you say but as in life some spoil it for others who get tarred with the same brush. For women and many TV/Ts's, sifting through shed loads of messages is time consuming and tedious. That said I don't think we miss many of the diamonds. |
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"With risk of opening a can of worms here. As a man, every time I read one of these threads, it leaves it open for women to state their opinions (which they're well in there rights to have), and it just puts the guys here back at square one. We're guilty before we ever get given a chance here. And don't say I'm wrong. How many have blocked all single males. I can't even talk to you to say hello.
We have to pay for what others have done.
It's not my fault.
Some merit in what you say but as in life some spoil it for others who get tarred with the same brush. For women and many TV/Ts's, sifting through shed loads of messages is time consuming and tedious. That said I don't think we miss many of the diamonds. "
I blocked everyone not just single men That way I choose who I want to talk to by initiating the conversation
As a single woman on here even if you have no pics or profile text you get inundated with mail in minutes! It's no fun wading through loads of messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Can we throw entitled couples and women in to this mix?
Actually, forget that. Let's stay focused on the men again. They don't get enough threads devoted to their debased ways and how they drag fab through the mire.
So, if you peruse the profiles of many ladies and couples, you will find as much crudeness. Just clicking on who's near throws up "fat cock wanted" or "Cock hungry bbw needs stretching". This does not exactly scream for the most discerning gentleman to apply through a thoughtfully crafted, bespoke, respectful introduction to himself.
I think I'll forgive the vastly outnumbering Fab folk that are not on the forums that send their crudely thoughtless mail. I'll ignore them. But I'll let them off all the same. |
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I think some sort of enlightening FAQ would be useful, but I doubt they'd read them anyway. I get a lot less messages when I block the under 40's but my goodness some of the messages from men in their 50's are bad too, they should know better by then! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just block everyone
I know someone who did that and they just contacted those who they like..job done "
But what if we all did that. No-one can contact anyone. |
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over a year ago
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"Before I answer, what is your deinition of crude?
I meant like when their very first mail says "they want to ram their hard cock in your wet pussy".
You see they don't bother me, I just use it as a filter if I don't want my pussy rammed that day.
Why I asked was because before now some people have complained on the forum that people ask for sex altogether so I wasn't sure which camp you were in.
Now if the person mailed us asking us for a meet because they are after us all having sex thats fine. "
I agree with you- I don't mind if someone asks in that way, it's just a filter. It's more the attitude that I don't like. The assumption that I'm ready and waiting to be used.
I know other people love that approach though so I'm certainly not trying to say my way is the right way.
I suppose I just wish those people assuming we're all 'pieces of meat available for a fucking' would realise that actually we aren't all like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Most guys realise from experience and daily forum posts on the matter that they might get 1 or 2 replies from 50 sent messages no matter how they are scripted and they most likely will be a polite no thanks. That's probably the main reason women get flooded with lottery style roulette messages....resulting with many women having a feeling of not being respected. A catch 22 imo where it's something that's not personalised is being taken personal so many feel shit when they shouldn't. Does that make any sense? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just block everyone
I know someone who did that and they just contacted those who they like..job done
But what if we all did that. No-one can contact anyone. "
I've a lot blocked who have single men blocked. Got tired of running searches and clicking on one catching my eye only to find out they not looking for single men. So I just block when i see that and saves clogging up my searches. Plenty still there looking for single men. I see it as another filter now. |
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For some of us it's just sex .
The same as feeling hungry so you have something to eat .
Not every time , but when we get an unexpected opportunity to get out , like a sitter offering to sit last minute , we are happy to receive a fancy a fuck message from a guy who looks and seems our type .
We don't want complications , have no desire to become best friends , and certainly don't want a life story . |
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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago
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"Just block everyone
I know someone who did that and they just contacted those who they like..job done
J
But what if we all did that. No-one can contact anyone.
I've a lot blocked who have single men blocked. Got tired of running searches and clicking on one catching my eye only to find out they not looking for single men. So I just block when i see that and saves clogging up my searches. Plenty still there looking for single men. I see it as another filter now."
I filter out those who "won't see single men" from my searches. Even though I'm not single, I make the assumption that a woman who won't see a single man won't see a man in a sexless marriage either.
I could be wrong about that. Sometimes a woman admits to "cheating on her husband", and I suppose she might regard a married man as being more discreet?
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I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult. |
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult. "
So you're suggesting I spend ages every day just deleting messages from people? Sorry this site is supposed to be fun not a chore
And no I don't think I'm anything special and no I don't just block single men I block everyone so I choose who mails me and use this site the way I want to
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"Many people seem to think that swingers are free prostitutes.
Porn sites don't help because they just show mad orgies with everyone just joining in and fucking each other so when men go to clubs they think it's a free for all.
Then they come on here, see Trip Advisor 'reviews' (verifications) on the 'sex menus' (profiles) and can't wait to get their cock wet. So they mail and ask for sex in crude disrespectful ways....
How do we fix this? "
Block all men from messaging you, and search the men who you want to meet.....simple |
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult. "
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult.
So you're suggesting I spend ages every day just deleting messages from people? Sorry this site is supposed to be fun not a chore
And no I don't think I'm anything special and no I don't just block single men I block everyone so I choose who mails me and use this site the way I want to
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I'm not suggesting you do anything
Use it how you want
Don't moan about things you aren't willing to change |
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over a year ago
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult.
So you're suggesting I spend ages every day just deleting messages from people? Sorry this site is supposed to be fun not a chore
And no I don't think I'm anything special and no I don't just block single men I block everyone so I choose who mails me and use this site the way I want to"
She also suggested the use of filters, which you avail of, so I don't really see the issue here. |
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult.
So you're suggesting I spend ages every day just deleting messages from people? Sorry this site is supposed to be fun not a chore
And no I don't think I'm anything special and no I don't just block single men I block everyone so I choose who mails me and use this site the way I want to
She also suggested the use of filters, which you avail of, so I don't really see the issue here."
Of course I aimed the post at one person in particular
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over a year ago
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult.
So you're suggesting I spend ages every day just deleting messages from people? Sorry this site is supposed to be fun not a chore
And no I don't think I'm anything special and no I don't just block single men I block everyone so I choose who mails me and use this site the way I want to
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Even with filters, you can end up with an admin nightmare, and you would, looking like you do |
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult.
So you're suggesting I spend ages every day just deleting messages from people? Sorry this site is supposed to be fun not a chore
And no I don't think I'm anything special and no I don't just block single men I block everyone so I choose who mails me and use this site the way I want to
Even with filters, you can end up with an admin nightmare, and you would, looking like you do "
But it is easy enough to scan through and find messages from people you want to talk to.
I get plenty of messages, I can assure you it isn't difficult |
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult.
So you're suggesting I spend ages every day just deleting messages from people? Sorry this site is supposed to be fun not a chore
And no I don't think I'm anything special and no I don't just block single men I block everyone so I choose who mails me and use this site the way I want to
Even with filters, you can end up with an admin nightmare, and you would, looking like you do
But it is easy enough to scan through and find messages from people you want to talk to.
I get plenty of messages, I can assure you it isn't difficult "
I don't have that sort of spare time. |
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult.
So you're suggesting I spend ages every day just deleting messages from people? Sorry this site is supposed to be fun not a chore
And no I don't think I'm anything special and no I don't just block single men I block everyone so I choose who mails me and use this site the way I want to
Even with filters, you can end up with an admin nightmare, and you would, looking like you do
But it is easy enough to scan through and find messages from people you want to talk to.
I get plenty of messages, I can assure you it isn't difficult
I don't have that sort of spare time. "
To scan read? It is a skill I have perfected over the years. Helps me filter out the shit |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not just the men who assume this "
If you use the 'reply + quote' button people will know who you're replying to. Otherwise it just looks like you're moaning about yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For some of us it's just sex .
The same as feeling hungry so you have something to eat .
Not every time , but when we get an unexpected opportunity to get out , like a sitter offering to sit last minute , we are happy to receive a fancy a fuck message from a guy who looks and seems our type .
We don't want complications , have no desire to become best friends , and certainly don't want a life story ."
But you acknowledge and appreciate that other people are looking for different things to you- you don't assume that everyone is the same? |
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over a year ago
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult.
So you're suggesting I spend ages every day just deleting messages from people? Sorry this site is supposed to be fun not a chore
And no I don't think I'm anything special and no I don't just block single men I block everyone so I choose who mails me and use this site the way I want to
Even with filters, you can end up with an admin nightmare, and you would, looking like you do
But it is easy enough to scan through and find messages from people you want to talk to.
I get plenty of messages, I can assure you it isn't difficult
I don't have that sort of spare time. "
Ha! Who's laughing at us fuglies now hey? It has its advantages...I haven't checked my messages for the last 2 days. I have 5. |
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"It's not just the men who assume this
If you use the 'reply + quote' button people will know who you're replying to. Otherwise it just looks like you're moaning about yourself. "
No I was making a comment.
Everyone is running men down for their behaviour when women are just as bad |
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"It's not just the men who assume this
If you use the 'reply + quote' button people will know who you're replying to. Otherwise it just looks like you're moaning about yourself. "
However I appreciate your effort to educate me.
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult.
So you're suggesting I spend ages every day just deleting messages from people? Sorry this site is supposed to be fun not a chore
And no I don't think I'm anything special and no I don't just block single men I block everyone so I choose who mails me and use this site the way I want to
Even with filters, you can end up with an admin nightmare, and you would, looking like you do
But it is easy enough to scan through and find messages from people you want to talk to.
I get plenty of messages, I can assure you it isn't difficult
I don't have that sort of spare time.
Ha! Who's laughing at us fuglies now hey? It has its advantages...I haven't checked my messages for the last 2 days. I have 5. "
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"It's not just the men who assume this
If you use the 'reply + quote' button people will know who you're replying to. Otherwise it just looks like you're moaning about yourself.
No I was making a comment.
Everyone is running men down for their behaviour when women are just as bad "
I said people. - That means men and women and couples and tv's etc etc. |
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult.
So you're suggesting I spend ages every day just deleting messages from people? Sorry this site is supposed to be fun not a chore
And no I don't think I'm anything special and no I don't just block single men I block everyone so I choose who mails me and use this site the way I want to
Even with filters, you can end up with an admin nightmare, and you would, looking like you do
But it is easy enough to scan through and find messages from people you want to talk to.
I get plenty of messages, I can assure you it isn't difficult
I don't have that sort of spare time.
Ha! Who's laughing at us fuglies now hey? It has its advantages...I haven't checked my messages for the last 2 days. I have 5.
My sarcasm was obviously lost. "
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"I'm sorry but with the amount of men on here some women really do think they are something special and the men should feel privileged to have even got a message from them
When the male has turned down the woman she had then got snipey.
Couples get just as arsey when they are turned down too
I understand that some messages are crap and really won't warrant a reply but let's not tar them all with the same brush.
Women are just as much sex pests as the guys, you only need to look at the forum threads and the reactions they get to realise this.
Use your filters or delete, it really isn't that difficult.
So you're suggesting I spend ages every day just deleting messages from people? Sorry this site is supposed to be fun not a chore
And no I don't think I'm anything special and no I don't just block single men I block everyone so I choose who mails me and use this site the way I want to
Even with filters, you can end up with an admin nightmare, and you would, looking like you do
But it is easy enough to scan through and find messages from people you want to talk to.
I get plenty of messages, I can assure you it isn't difficult
I don't have that sort of spare time.
Ha! Who's laughing at us fuglies now hey? It has its advantages...I haven't checked my messages for the last 2 days. I have 5.
My sarcasm was obviously lost.
You didn't add the sarcasm emoji! "
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"It's not just the men who assume this
If you use the 'reply + quote' button people will know who you're replying to. Otherwise it just looks like you're moaning about yourself.
No I was making a comment.
Everyone is running men down for their behaviour when women are just as bad
I said people. - That means men and women and couples and tv's etc etc. "
Only men have cocks to ram into a pussy though. Your answers on the thread seem to lean towards men |
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"It's not just the men who assume this
If you use the 'reply + quote' button people will know who you're replying to. Otherwise it just looks like you're moaning about yourself.
No I was making a comment.
Everyone is running men down for their behaviour when women are just as bad
I said people. - That means men and women and couples and tv's etc etc.
Only men have cocks to ram into a pussy though. Your answers on the thread seem to lean towards men"
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"It's not just the men who assume this
If you use the 'reply + quote' button people will know who you're replying to. Otherwise it just looks like you're moaning about yourself.
No I was making a comment.
Everyone is running men down for their behaviour when women are just as bad
I said people. - That means men and women and couples and tv's etc etc.
Only men have cocks to ram into a pussy though. Your answers on the thread seem to lean towards men"
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over a year ago
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"i don't think it's endemic to this site,it's maybe just more obvious...i think it's a symptom of the way an awful lot of men view women in general..and,no, i'm certainly no man hater at all,just aware of a growing attitude in our society which is really sad."
I think you are right but it cuts both ways. These days women are just as mercenary as men..
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"For some of us it's just sex .
The same as feeling hungry so you have something to eat .
Not every time , but when we get an unexpected opportunity to get out , like a sitter offering to sit last minute , we are happy to receive a fancy a fuck message from a guy who looks and seems our type .
We don't want complications , have no desire to become best friends , and certainly don't want a life story .
But you acknowledge and appreciate that other people are looking for different things to you- you don't assume that everyone is the same?"
No of course we don't assume everyone is the same .
But the fact that we and plenty of others appreciate the direct approach , it would seem there is nothing to fix when it's working perfectly well .
Even those who don't like this approach use it as a filter . |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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i googled 'why are men shit' today, found some interesting stuff. 
in fact, interesting experiment here if anyone wants to play? google both these terms and see the difference in results:
why are men shit
why are women shit |
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"Many people seem to think that swingers are free prostitutes.
Porn sites don't help because they just show mad orgies with everyone just joining in and fucking each other so when men go to clubs they think it's a free for all.
Then they come on here, see Trip Advisor 'reviews' (verifications) on the 'sex menus' (profiles) and can't wait to get their cock wet. So they mail and ask for sex in crude disrespectful ways....
How do we fix this? "
Those types of message are typical of a certain class of guy who you probably want to avoid meeting anyway.
So just block and move on.
Better to find their true character early on rather than later on a meet. |
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"i googled 'why are men shit' today, found some interesting stuff.
in fact, interesting experiment here if anyone wants to play? google both these terms and see the difference in results:
why are men shit
why are women shit"
I wish I were gay. |
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"i googled 'why are men shit' today, found some interesting stuff.
in fact, interesting experiment here if anyone wants to play? google both these terms and see the difference in results:
why are men shit
why are women shit"
Apparently they both do....according to Google. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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did you now notice though that if you google 'why are men shit' you do get a lot of helpful pages saying stuff about how to avoid these kinds of men, as well as funny stuff.
but if you google 'why are women shit' you get pages telling men how to treat women like shit. |
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"did you now notice though that if you google 'why are men shit' you do get a lot of helpful pages saying stuff about how to avoid these kinds of men, as well as funny stuff.
but if you google 'why are women shit' you get pages telling men how to treat women like shit."
Exactly. Hence wishing I didn't want a man. |
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"did you now notice though that if you google 'why are men shit' you do get a lot of helpful pages saying stuff about how to avoid these kinds of men, as well as funny stuff.
but if you google 'why are women shit' you get pages telling men how to treat women like shit.
Exactly. Hence wishing I didn't want a man. "
glad i wasn't the only one who noticed.
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