do you actually put into finding meets ?
Did you just set up your profile post a few pics then sit back and wait for them to find/come to you ? Chat on the forums and try and get your personality across or do you put a bit more effort in and do the searching yourself ?
My vanilla/fab lifestyle is basically the same,
As I don't really make a good first visual impression I just leave it to,
If you like what you see talk to me or send me a message, |
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By *emptd2Man
over a year ago
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I suppose I'm quite lazy when I come to think about it. I post every now and then on the forums but for the most part I wouldn't say I'm that active messaging other people or posting meets. |
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"No offence intended but that sounds incredibly lazy of you."
I'm not being lazy and am not offended by what you say, I have been around for a few years now and just stick to chatting on the forums and the chat rooms, I don't send messsges out anymore, I know/talk to the type of Woman I would like to get to up close and personal with and if they like me that's even better, I've never been the type of person who try's his look with every nice looking woman he sets his on
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Once I've identified my prey, I put in a lot of effort. Ain't that the truth, Jim?  "
he's cowering behind the sofa....want me to get the pokey stick again? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Once I've identified my prey, I put in a lot of effort. Ain't that the truth, Jim?
he's cowering behind the sofa....want me to get the pokey stick again?"
Oh would you? There's a love  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Once I've identified my prey, I put in a lot of effort. Ain't that the truth, Jim?
he's cowering behind the sofa....want me to get the pokey stick again?
Oh would you? There's a love "
had it sharpened especially just this morning mi lady |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've got lazier, can be bothered with too much chat before arranging to meet, don't mind some chat once arranged though, we've put the effort in with the profile and pics so that helps, we do contact a few people but if it doesn't go anywhere quickly or they play games we give up, unlike when we were first here. X |
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"No offence intended but that sounds incredibly lazy of you.
profile looks anything but lazy compared to most on here.."
My comment was specifically about the part of sitting back and waiting for people to contact you. I agree that Op's profile is indeed much more detailed than most people's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't need to put any effort into finding a meet. We get lots of mail everyday from guys asking to meet us. Plus we have a group of various friends we meet occasionally.
The effort starts during the first exchanges of messeges but we are very specific in what we look for so that helps us. |
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"No offence intended but that sounds incredibly lazy of you.
I'm not being lazy and am not offended by what you say, I have been around for a few years now and just stick to chatting on the forums and the chat rooms, I don't send messsges out anymore, I know/talk to the type of Woman I would like to get to up close and personal with and if they like me that's even better, I've never been the type of person who try's his look with every nice looking woman he sets his on
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I guess we all have our preferences. Personally I find sending messages works best for me.
I don't always have much time to use the forums (tonight is a rare exception for me), and I really don't like the chat rooms.
I think that's what i like about this site, they try to cater for everyone. |
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over a year ago
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I try and let my profile speak for me somewhat...least people can build up a picture and there's still that negative fear but if I reeaaaallllyyy fancy someone then yeah...I'll work my ass off lol
One day  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I try and let my profile speak for me somewhat...least people can build up a picture and there's still that negative fear but if I reeaaaallllyyy fancy someone then yeah...I'll work my ass off
One day "
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"I try and let my profile speak for me somewhat...least people can build up a picture and there's still that negative fear but if I reeaaaallllyyy fancy someone then yeah...I'll work my ass off
One day
**waves**"
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By (user no longer on site)
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We don't particularly use Fab to meet people. Yet we've put a lot of effort into our profile.
And we still put that effort in, knowing our profile is likely to put most people off, yet hoping those it doesn't put off and actually read it, are likely to be the kind of people we'd like to meet.
If that makes any sense? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wrote a mediocre profile and took some bland pics.
When I want to meet someone new I make myself searchable and open my filters.
Once the messages come flooding in I spend a lot of time reading and replying. It's quite tiring if I let my messages build up. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"do you actually put into finding meets ?
Did you just set up your profile post a few pics then sit back and wait for them to find/come to you ? Chat on the forums and try and get your personality across or do you put a bit more effort in and do the searching yourself ?
My vanilla/fab lifestyle is basically the same,
As I don't really make a good first visual impression I just leave it to,
If you like what you see talk to me or send me a message, "
I'm an underachiever and proud of it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I put in a good amoynt of effort. I am pro-active, searching for potential meets, I am polite in my messaging and I review my profile fairly regularly (to make sure it is easy to read, not to long or too short and that it is informative without waffling on).
It can be quite dis-heartening when all this effort seems to go to waste, but I remain positive (never post a whingey 'feel sorry for me' status).
Always re-evaluating my approach |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I put 0 effort in.
It's a waste of time. Go to a club, mingle...easier more cost and time effective.
Use this for whatever banter occurs - it's ebbing to be fair.
If you treat this site your key to meets your gonna be disappointed chap.
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Frankly I don't use this site for meets, I cannot get with a woman I cannot talk to physically cause I want to check if the woman is good enough for me. You should think like this , it will force you to improve on your social skills and how you conduct yourself around women and help you learn.
I use this site to chat with friends I have already met . |
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