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over a year ago
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You send an ex a happy birthday text or not? Granted they're an ex and you want to forget them however how can you just forget all the memories and ignore your emotions or is that the best thing to do?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the relationship with your ex. I di my ex's laundry, bought his clothes, sorted his bills, did his tax returns for 7 years post split. Yes, we sent cards.
Now he has a new lady, we have cut ties, as it is not appropriate now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ignored - it just opens old wounds for him or you. Im just breaking up with mine. He's young and very needy. Ive gone back with him so many times that Im actually making the split even more painful. My heart is hard this time.
Cruel to be kind ! ..... ( bloody hell Im now singing that song in my head  ) xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Completely depends on how it is now, either your reaching out as a way of forging another relationship?
If your still in speaking terms yes, if you haven't spoken since you last saw each other and it was a screaming match- probably a no |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's hard, we've both got new partners now and haven't spoken, texted or social media'd in months, yet I feel the urge to wish her a happy birthday cause for some fucked up reason I woke up remembering it
Even strangers on fb get a happy birthday wish from me yet am finding it difficult to send a wish to the woman I had some of my happiest times with, life is weird fs.
On one hand I think what harm can it do? its no like I want to get back together, I don't, it just feels like the right thing to do, I know if she sent me one I wouldn't mind but on the other hand I don't want to confuse her or open up any old wounds. It's a toughie fs.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hard, we've both got new partners now and haven't spoken, texted or social media'd in months, yet I feel the urge to wish her a happy birthday cause for some fucked up reason I woke up remembering it
Even strangers on fb get a happy birthday wish from me yet am finding it difficult to send a wish to the woman I had some of my happiest times with, life is weird fs.
On one hand I think what harm can it do? its no like I want to get back together, I don't, it just feels like the right thing to do, I know if she sent me one I wouldn't mind but on the other hand I don't want to confuse her or open up any old wounds. It's a toughie fs.
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You should put your feelings to one side and do what's best for her. It's her birthday after all,.
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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i wouldn't do that no. i have a lot of exes and it would cost me a lot of money for a start, haha.
seriously though, no i don't contact exes unless we are still friends. i'm only friends with one of them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's hard, we've both got new partners now and haven't spoken, texted or social media'd in months, yet I feel the urge to wish her a happy birthday cause for some fucked up reason I woke up remembering it
Even strangers on fb get a happy birthday wish from me yet am finding it difficult to send a wish to the woman I had some of my happiest times with, life is weird fs.
On one hand I think what harm can it do? its no like I want to get back together, I don't, it just feels like the right thing to do, I know if she sent me one I wouldn't mind but on the other hand I don't want to confuse her or open up any old wounds. It's a toughie fs.
You should put your feelings to one side and do what's best for her. It's her birthday after all,.
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Aye that's what am thinking I don't want her crying or being sad on her birthday or ever for that matter fs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you still have feelings for her...leave it...or you will be fretting about if/when she will get nack to you....you will be tempted to try and carry on a conversation...."disaster darling" if no feelings and its been a while then just send a happy birthday no kisses etc no harm done
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you still have feelings for her...leave it...or you will be fretting about if/when she will get nack to you....you will be tempted to try and carry on a conversation...."disaster darling" if no feelings and its been a while then just send a happy birthday no kisses etc no harm done
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You send an ex a happy birthday text or not? Granted they're an ex and you want to forget them however how can you just forget all the memories and ignore your emotions or is that the best thing to do? "
If you want to forget them, don't send. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You send an ex a happy birthday text or not? Granted they're an ex and you want to forget them however how can you just forget all the memories and ignore your emotions or is that the best thing to do?
If you want to forget them, don't send."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You send an ex a happy birthday text or not? Granted they're an ex and you want to forget them however how can you just forget all the memories and ignore your emotions or is that the best thing to do? "
It'd be difficult she doesn't know where she is most times. But that suits mini me and me  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You send an ex a happy birthday text or not? Granted they're an ex and you want to forget them however how can you just forget all the memories and ignore your emotions or is that the best thing to do?
It'd be difficult she doesn't know where she is most times. But that suits mini me and me "
Mental health problems? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You send an ex a happy birthday text or not? Granted they're an ex and you want to forget them however how can you just forget all the memories and ignore your emotions or is that the best thing to do?
It'd be difficult she doesn't know where she is most times. But that suits mini me and me
Mental health problems?"
Oh loads of problems but I suspect self inflicted. I'm not twat though. She can see him if she actually wanted to. There's a good girl in there somewhere |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You send an ex a happy birthday text or not? Granted they're an ex and you want to forget them however how can you just forget all the memories and ignore your emotions or is that the best thing to do?
It'd be difficult she doesn't know where she is most times. But that suits mini me and me
Mental health problems?
Oh loads of problems but I suspect self inflicted. I'm not twat though. She can see him if she actually wanted to. There's a good girl in there somewhere"
You have a child together? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fs just send a message you clearly can't ignore your emotions so just do what you want to do. You won't feel better not sending it so do it x"
Aye but what if I ruin her day fs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You send an ex a happy birthday text or not? Granted they're an ex and you want to forget them however how can you just forget all the memories and ignore your emotions or is that the best thing to do?
It'd be difficult she doesn't know where she is most times. But that suits mini me and me
Mental health problems?
Oh loads of problems but I suspect self inflicted. I'm not twat though. She can see him if she actually wanted to. There's a good girl in there somewhere
You have a child together?"
Yeah. But anyway. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You send an ex a happy birthday text or not? Granted they're an ex and you want to forget them however how can you just forget all the memories and ignore your emotions or is that the best thing to do?
It'd be difficult she doesn't know where she is most times. But that suits mini me and me
Mental health problems?
Oh loads of problems but I suspect self inflicted. I'm not twat though. She can see him if she actually wanted to. There's a good girl in there somewhere
You have a child together?
Yeah. But anyway. Lol"
Your doing the right thing not restricting access, some people male and female just aren't ready to be a parent but that can change one day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fs just send a message you clearly can't ignore your emotions so just do what you want to do. You won't feel better not sending it so do it x
Aye but what if I ruin her day fs."
You just answered your own question there, so don't send her one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fs just send a message you clearly can't ignore your emotions so just do what you want to do. You won't feel better not sending it so do it x
Aye but what if I ruin her day fs.
You just answered your own question there, so don't send her one."
Aye but what if that does the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You send an ex a happy birthday text or not? Granted they're an ex and you want to forget them however how can you just forget all the memories and ignore your emotions or is that the best thing to do?
It'd be difficult she doesn't know where she is most times. But that suits mini me and me
Mental health problems?
Oh loads of problems but I suspect self inflicted. I'm not twat though. She can see him if she actually wanted to. There's a good girl in there somewhere
You have a child together?
Yeah. But anyway. Lol
Your doing the right thing not restricting access, some people male and female just aren't ready to be a parent but that can change one day "
Yeah she isn't/wasn't. Positive it made me a better person |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You said you're both in new relationships so apart from how you feel or how she might feel...how could sending her a card affect both of your new partners and those new relationships? "
Card? Do people still send those things? Lol, I'm talking about sending a text fs, don't know about her new man but my chick doesn't mind what I do that's why am with her I guess, she's heartless |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fs just send a message you clearly can't ignore your emotions so just do what you want to do. You won't feel better not sending it so do it x
Aye but what if I ruin her day fs.
You just answered your own question there, so don't send her one.
Aye but what if that does the same "
But as you've said yous have both moved on. so you not sending her a birthday wish shouldn't effect her. |
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"Fs just send a message you clearly can't ignore your emotions so just do what you want to do. You won't feel better not sending it so do it x
Aye but what if I ruin her day fs.
You just answered your own question there, so don't send her one.
Aye but what if that does the same "
Good lord man just send the damn message |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fs just send a message you clearly can't ignore your emotions so just do what you want to do. You won't feel better not sending it so do it x
Aye but what if I ruin her day fs.
You just answered your own question there, so don't send her one.
Aye but what if that does the same
But as you've said yous have both moved on. so you not sending her a birthday wish shouldn't effect her."
It would have effected the her I knew but I don't know if it will or won't effect the new her. |
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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago
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"You said you're both in new relationships so apart from how you feel or how she might feel...how could sending her a card affect both of your new partners and those new relationships?
Card? Do people still send those things? Lol, I'm talking about sending a text fs, don't know about her new man but my chick doesn't mind what I do that's why am with her I guess, she's heartless "
There are plenty of card shops on the high street and card sites online so I'm guessing I'm not the only one who still does...lol. My mistake though for not reading your opening message correctly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hard, we've both got new partners now and haven't spoken, texted or social media'd in months, yet I feel the urge to wish her a happy birthday cause for some fucked up reason I woke up remembering it
Even strangers on fb get a happy birthday wish from me yet am finding it difficult to send a wish to the woman I had some of my happiest times with, life is weird fs.
On one hand I think what harm can it do? its no like I want to get back together, I don't, it just feels like the right thing to do, I know if she sent me one I wouldn't mind but on the other hand I don't want to confuse her or open up any old wounds. It's a toughie fs.
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If you are both on farce buk, then perhaps a chirpy 'Happy Birthday' dropped in amongst all the others might be ok. If you are in two minds however, personally I would err on the side of caution and let it go un acknowledged. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fs just send a message you clearly can't ignore your emotions so just do what you want to do. You won't feel better not sending it so do it x
Aye but what if I ruin her day fs.
You just answered your own question there, so don't send her one.
Aye but what if that does the same
Good lord man just send the damn message "
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