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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i had councelling after 2nd breakdowns - took a long time for me to stop thinking i was who he had me believe i was - crossed that bridge and i moved on - took many years but it only takes one or two little things to take me straight back to that position i was before-only i recognise it and deal with it - dont think i will ever be free from the effect of him - |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Almost 2 years down the line and I'm still dealing with the damage he did to me. Had counselling but a lot of its deep rooted and will get better with time. Luckily I have a very understanding new man who has made me realise that I am worthy .
Definitely have days still where I'm right back in that dark place x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Almost 2 years down the line and I'm still dealing with the damage he did to me. Had counselling but a lot of its deep rooted and will get better with time. Luckily I have a very understanding new man who has made me realise that I am worthy .
Definitely have days still where I'm right back in that dark place x "
yup 12 years later here - ggrr  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Almost 2 years down the line and I'm still dealing with the damage he did to me. Had counselling but a lot of its deep rooted and will get better with time. Luckily I have a very understanding new man who has made me realise that I am worthy .
Definitely have days still where I'm right back in that dark place x
yup 12 years later here - ggrr "
Unfortunately some damage takes a long time to get over and I don't think we ever truly put all of it completely in the past. Talking it over is a big step to doing some of it. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Almost 2 years down the line and I'm still dealing with the damage he did to me. Had counselling but a lot of its deep rooted and will get better with time. Luckily I have a very understanding new man who has made me realise that I am worthy .
Definitely have days still where I'm right back in that dark place x
yup 12 years later here - ggrr
Unfortunately some damage takes a long time to get over and I don't think we ever truly put all of it completely in the past. Talking it over is a big step to doing some of it. X "
yes - i got over him and then my next partner passed away - 2 very different issues to deal with - im very matter of fact about things now |
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"Almost 2 years down the line and I'm still dealing with the damage he did to me. Had counselling but a lot of its deep rooted and will get better with time. Luckily I have a very understanding new man who has made me realise that I am worthy .
Definitely have days still where I'm right back in that dark place x
yup 12 years later here - ggrr
Unfortunately some damage takes a long time to get over and I don't think we ever truly put all of it completely in the past. Talking it over is a big step to doing some of it. X
yes - i got over him and then my next partner passed away - 2 very different issues to deal with - im very matter of fact about things now "
Oh I'm sorry about that. Grief is hard to get over. Definitely get yourself some counselling. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same sort of thing my ex wife. I still think about her every day for its Around 7 year's.
Still love her miss her and still can't work out what happened. One week very happy in love.
Week later sleeping on brothers chair .
Still have photos on phone etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Almost 2 years down the line and I'm still dealing with the damage he did to me. Had counselling but a lot of its deep rooted and will get better with time. Luckily I have a very understanding new man who has made me realise that I am worthy .
Definitely have days still where I'm right back in that dark place x
yup 12 years later here - ggrr
Unfortunately some damage takes a long time to get over and I don't think we ever truly put all of it completely in the past. Talking it over is a big step to doing some of it. X
yes - i got over him and then my next partner passed away - 2 very different issues to deal with - im very matter of fact about things now
Oh I'm sorry about that. Grief is hard to get over. Definitely get yourself some counselling. X "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure what is wrong with me ATM... Surely to god I'm over him, has anyone ever had councilling? Would it help me"
I think it's healthy to seek help if you're struggling to move on.
Time does a lot, but if you're stuck in unhelpful patterns, so.etimes we just need a shove to get out of them! |
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By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago
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Thanks ladies, for sharing and being open.
I'm 18 months down the line, this is best for our daughter, me and him.
But really- it's hard. Sometimes. We'd been friends since we were 8, he was the love of my life and then when we were trying for a baby he had a freak head injury and i never sar my husband again just a mean man who hated me
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks ladies, for sharing and being open.
I'm 18 months down the line, this is best for our daughter, me and him.
But really- it's hard. Sometimes. We'd been friends since we were 8, he was the love of my life and then when we were trying for a baby he had a freak head injury and i never sar my husband again just a mean man who hated me
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i work with brain injury and dementia and see families and friends struggle to see the illness not the person they were - you have to think of yourself and kids first sometimes - guilt pain will be there if youre with him or not - just youve added free to the mix xxx |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"Not sure what is wrong with me ATM... Surely to god I'm over him, has anyone ever had councilling? Would it help me
I think it's healthy to seek help if you're struggling to move on.
Time does a lot, but if you're stuck in unhelpful patterns, so.etimes we just need a shove to get out of them!"
agree with this. 
someone should be able to work out why you keep thinking about him, maybe you're a little OCD or something else is bothering you and it's making you think about him, or whatever, but they'll help you work out why and hopefully help you to change your thoughts. |
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By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Not sure what is wrong with me ATM... Surely to god I'm over him, has anyone ever had councilling? Would it help me
I think it's healthy to seek help if you're struggling to move on.
Time does a lot, but if you're stuck in unhelpful patterns, so.etimes we just need a shove to get out of them!
agree with this.
someone should be able to work out why you keep thinking about him, maybe you're a little OCD or something else is bothering you and it's making you think about him, or whatever, but they'll help you work out why and hopefully help you to change your thoughts."
I think it's probably a few things recently, he was depressed and rang me daily. Now he's feeling better and not ringing, which is good! But i miss it
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I painted the fence he built when we moved in, i can still remember the stupid agreement his work was done with construction, maintenance was my job
Lol |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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"Not sure what is wrong with me ATM... Surely to god I'm over him, has anyone ever had councilling? Would it help me
I think it's healthy to seek help if you're struggling to move on.
Time does a lot, but if you're stuck in unhelpful patterns, so.etimes we just need a shove to get out of them!
agree with this.
someone should be able to work out why you keep thinking about him, maybe you're a little OCD or something else is bothering you and it's making you think about him, or whatever, but they'll help you work out why and hopefully help you to change your thoughts.
I think it's probably a few things recently, he was depressed and rang me daily. Now he's feeling better and not ringing, which is good! But i miss it
And
I painted the fence he built when we moved in, i can still remember the stupid agreement his work was done with construction, maintenance was my job
Lol"
maybe you are over him? sounds pretty normal to miss people and think about them if they filled a part of our day every day, especially because that means you'd be in the habit of thinking about them (but not notice as they are 'there', on the end of the phone or whatever) and not really think of that as thinking about them...hope that made sense?  |
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By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Not sure what is wrong with me ATM... Surely to god I'm over him, has anyone ever had councilling? Would it help me
I think it's healthy to seek help if you're struggling to move on.
Time does a lot, but if you're stuck in unhelpful patterns, so.etimes we just need a shove to get out of them!
agree with this.
someone should be able to work out why you keep thinking about him, maybe you're a little OCD or something else is bothering you and it's making you think about him, or whatever, but they'll help you work out why and hopefully help you to change your thoughts.
I think it's probably a few things recently, he was depressed and rang me daily. Now he's feeling better and not ringing, which is good! But i miss it
And
I painted the fence he built when we moved in, i can still remember the stupid agreement his work was done with construction, maintenance was my job
Lol
maybe you are over him? sounds pretty normal to miss people and think about them if they filled a part of our day every day, especially because that means you'd be in the habit of thinking about them (but not notice as they are 'there', on the end of the phone or whatever) and not really think of that as thinking about them...hope that made sense? "
I made sence of that, it's logic. Thanks x |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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it was the wording i thought was bad but i knew what i meant.
counseling can help anyone if the counselor is good and compatible with you, that's all i'll add. i don't know if you need it or not but if you feel you do then try it and see how it goes.
gonna head off to bed now all my kids are asleep at last. night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My husband of 20 years left me three years ago for someone 10 years younger (grrrr). I think I'm over him but still miss him. He was my best friend and we had a lot if fun in that 20 years |
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