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By *ed wine OP Man over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP - as you posed the question. What are your thoughts about it?

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

We are prejudiced daily with that stupid 'bbw' label so yes I have been subjected to it and I'm fed up of it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't hold any prejudice against overweight people, it's their body after all.

And yes I've met some overweight and underweight people before and they've all been amazing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm very body confident and my pics show that. Tbh I've never experienced prejudice on here but if I did I'd just ignore it. Best not to let it effect you.

PTU XXX

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Define overweight.

We carry a few extra pounds so can't be too judgemental but no we wouldn't meet somebody who was morbidly obese.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

At 52 I couldn't care less if other people don't like my body. I do worry about my fitness levels and, am now walking twice a day 1hr am and 1hr evenings with the dog. I have not experienced any prejudice or I haven't noticed it.

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

Happy with average type boddies....not keen on thin nor keen on very overweight bodies, but also attractiveness in my eyes and personality matter as much.

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By *ugga81Man over a year ago

West Malling

I didn't think I did, but then stuck on a 12 hour flight the other day I really started to resent being barged into by people too fat to move effectively between the aisles while I was trying to sleep.......

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I'm very body confident and my pics show that. Tbh I've never experienced prejudice on here but if I did I'd just ignore it. Best not to let it effect you.

PTU XXX "

This is me also

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I haven't suffered any prejudice on here because of my size.

I respect that everyone has preferences and some are not attracted to overweight people.

That's absolutely fine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have not experienced any weightism yet as i tell them i am plump.... The gym body seekers go elsewhere i assume??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i have a few things about people that stop me from meeting them - wouldnt say i was prejudiced - just dislikes that make me not want to have sex with them - way up at the top is lack of respect for others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I lost around 5 stone a couple of years ago and started getting into something closer to 'shape' and how differently that the world treats you purely based on size is absolutely rediculous..

Every aspect changed and it was like more doors just magically opened.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

When I've been fatter or thinner than I am now I've always been attracted to the same type of person. For men the dad bod types and women ones around size 14-20, so people that I would describe as average looking

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By *ed wine OP Man over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

"OP - as you posed the question. What are your thoughts about it? "

Research demonstrates that there is a general tendency to think that overweighted people could avoid that problem but they don't want to, so it makes them lazy and with a low self-control. Result: they deserve it.

However, people usually are not aware about the suffering and efforts that obesity conveys. Most of the times, loosing weight goes beyond the person's will.

I personally, don't care to much about ample or thin bodies. There are other features in people that really attract my attention.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Define overweight.

We carry a few extra pounds so can't be too judgemental but no we wouldn't meet somebody who was morbidly obese."

If I was to try and define overweight, it certainly wouldnt you

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Mine is a preference not a prejudice, but no I am not attracted to overweight men x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is being overweight a disorder though?

I'm an emotional eater and associate food with happiness so there are issues around that aspect but the extra weight I'm carrying is not a disorder.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and no I wouldn't meet or be attracted to someone that was overweight. Not arsed about 6 packs or visible definition but wouldn't be attracted to very fat.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

I feel the same towards heavy people as i do towards heavy smokers, and heavy drinkers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I meet/have met all sorts of body type.

I like a person not their BMI

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Two women in here are responding and yet... AND YET have prejudicial views either on profile or by conversation with me...

It's frankly appalling that people are rude about anyone's individual appearance?, style or body shape

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think it's prejudice to not meet overweight people , I'm overweight and if people aren't attracted to me that's absolutely fine and I have no problem with it . The only people who annoy me are those on the forums who go out of their way to be rude about it

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never had anything negative said to me about my size, I am who I am and only interested in those who are interested in me, not physical attributes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I lost around 5 stone a couple of years ago and started getting into something closer to 'shape' and how differently that the world treats you purely based on size is absolutely rediculous..

Every aspect changed and it was like more doors just magically opened."

I notice this all the time! My wright yo-yos a lot and every time I lose a couple of stone I notice how differently people treat me.

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By *RH and HRNCouple over a year ago

Carmarthen

We have had some experiences. . Usually when we send pictures of ourselves. . I have been told by some men I was "larger" than they expected and couldn't meet me after having been really interested initially . . Guess for some mind over matter really is an issue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well having lost over 8 st the way people treat me is very different. Have had a few negative comments but for the most part have been treated very fairly. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea.

As for my preference, I'm a fan of the dad bod, I like looking at the nice fit bodies but for most of them they don't want a middle aged big woman. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x"

Wait, we have a bbq chat thread dedicated to the over weight that is now on something like thread 256 with no comparable thread for normal/fit people.

Surely on here at least the prejudice is in the overwight's favour?

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By *ed wine OP Man over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

"Define overweight.

We carry a few extra pounds so can't be too judgemental but no we wouldn't meet somebody who was morbidly obese."

I use the word "overweight" deliberately to avoid the connotative significance of the word "obese".

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I'm not sure it's a prejudice as such but I have found that there's a marked difference to how I am treated now compared to how I was when I was almost ten stones heavier. I'm still fat but it seems to be a more acceptable level of fat (rightly or wrongly).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being fat is a disorder ????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've lost loads of weight in the past and I can't say I noticed being treated any differently.

My friends and ex husband treated me exactly the same.

Things weren't suddenly miraculously better because I was slim.

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

Just because I'm not as fat as I used to be doesn't mean I don't have everyday experience of what it's like, or maybe I am still attuned to see it even on here after years of being thought of as 'lesser' because I was a porker. I still see regularly see status updates about how fat and ugly women on here are, posts about how women on here are bigger than they should be, comments about how seeing people eat in public disgusts the watcher, profiles asking for fit people without just stating a preference but going into full details about why others are unattractive. Conversely, the opposite is also true where people on here fetishise others because of their size and it becomes the main selling point on which they are attracted. I can't be doing with either group.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont give a shite what anyone thinks of me (mr). I am overweight, married to a beautiful bbw lady whom i love with all my heart. If people dont like us for being fatty fat fat thats up to them. Everyone has a preference, but to shame people for body size, shape, colour, disability is tantamount to bullying.

Whilst this thread isnt a shaming thread, give it time. Such is the way of life really, people need to feel superior to others to feel better about themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's someone for everyone. Who cares what other people think. It's about what you fancy surely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have been swinging since 2005 and as far as i can remember i have only had 2 negative comments. One was over 10 years ago and i can't remeber exactly what was said but i do remember that he contacted me regarding meeting. The other time was yesterday and a guy contacted me, he was way to young for us to be interested in plus straight and i politely pointed that out. He responded by saying he doesn't like big people anyway. Odd that he contacted me first though lol

It doesn't bother me anyway

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I've lost loads of weight in the past and I can't say I noticed being treated any differently.

My friends and ex husband treated me exactly the same.

Things weren't suddenly miraculously better because I was slim. "

Can't say I've noticed any difference based on size

I'm guessing (so therefore could be wrong) it's more of their personal attitude towards themselves was more positive, (at least on a subconscious level) so the attitude they sense from others is more positive, more often that not it's a 'state of mind' thing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP - as you posed the question. What are your thoughts about it?

However, people usually are not aware about the suffering and efforts that obesity conveys. Most of the times, loosing weight goes beyond the person's will.

I personally, don't care to much about ample or thin bodies. There are other features in people that really attract my attention."

Yes I've had some not so good experiences here. From being called a fat slag, to when I asked for tips for racing as a status, someone who I had never interacted with before felt the need to tell me to go to weight watchers. They then blocked me. Obviously gave them some kind of thrill!

Also had a social when whilst sat having coffee he blurted out that I was bigger than he expected. It was so out of the blue that it upset me, I walked out the coffee shop and deleted my profile here.

Luckily I've since met both men and women who see beyond size and some even love those with too much flesh. It's made me feel more confident in myself.

I'm always trying to lose weight and am winning at the moment. I go to the gym and am doing lots of walking.

Sarah

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By *ed wine OP Man over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

"Being fat is a disorder ???? "

Yes, it can be...

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

As opposed to the made up facts?

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow... This is deep for a Sunday morning. I think on here there are lots of prejudice people. You see many women's profiles indicating they are only interested in the gym body bronzed adonis types.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ???? "

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Having lost 12 and half stone i cant begin to tell you how society treats you differentlym i would say i hadnt suffered predujice until after. I thought i was imagining it at first

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"Wow... This is deep for a Sunday morning. I think on here there are lots of prejudice people. You see many women's profiles indicating they are only interested in the gym body bronzed adonis types. "

Probably because they can. I only go for slimmer men. Its a preference in real life and on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously."

You going to gas them whilst they're there. Jeez I've heard everything now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously."

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ???? "

Yeah, I thought the same thing.

Some people may have disorders that lead to being overweight, but being overweight is not really a disorder in itself.

Anyway, I don't really care about other peoples' weight. It's their bodies, not mine. However, I am very careful with my own weight because I have a family history of diabetes (a mother who had a leg amputated and who is on dialysis, and a brother who got diabetes when he was 26). I don't like body shaming or anything similar but at the same time I don't think we, as a society, should sacrifice health for positive body image. There is a happy medium and I don't think society has reached it, yet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x

Wait, we have a bbq chat thread dedicated to the over weight that is now on something like thread 256 with no comparable thread for normal/fit people.

Surely on here at least the prejudice is in the overwight's favour?"

Best typo ever

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?"

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases"

Wow

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Being fat is a disorder ?????"

No, but it can be a SYMPTOM of many.

Personally, I think that many people don't know what the difference is between prejudice and personal taste. I can't imagine that any court in the world would convict someone of a "hate crime" for not wanting to have sex with someone because they're not attracted to Fat, Black, white, Asian, Skinny Ugly or any other way of categorising of people.

On the other hand, people who are abusive towards others because of their weight, ethnicity, religion etc... these ARE the prejudice ones. But then again, I believe the folk who cry prejudice when people express their preferences are also prejudice.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases"

What has this got to do with the original post ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I feel the same towards heavy people as i do towards heavy smokers, and heavy drinkers. "

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Told you it wouldnt take long

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?"

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks."

It's not the OP who wrote it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oops, sorry OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im overweight but if someone actually took the time to get to know me they would know i have a severe injury that limits what I can do and causes me extreme pain daily, due to the nerve damage i have aswell i am on meds that have side affects that include weight gain.

I know myself that the only way i lose weight is either through complete starvation or extreme exercise, i can no longer do the exercise and starvation would damage my organs even more.

The plus side i do have is that i cannot potatoes or anything similar that is high in starch levels and sugars have a horrible effect on my bowels so chocolate etc makes me feel awful..

Weirdly my fave snacks are carrot sticks, banana's and red delicious apples (though limit them to seasonal only) or wholemeal pitta bread with lemon hummous

So im not gorging on chocolate cake and burgers yet still the size I am and I have to accept that until I have the surgery to replace my hips and my knee though they wont be able to get rid of the osteoarthritis i have.

But because of the way my body looks i am abused for it, almost daily if I reject someone but i know that is their issues not mine!

I have no problems with men of any size.. however last time i tried to have sex with a bigger guy it was like two beach balls bouncing off each other and physically it wasnt enjoyable as we couldnt achieve the positions i like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases"

No in concentration camps they were starved to the point their bodies ate all fat and muscle reserves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im overweight but if someone actually took the time to get to know me they would know i have a severe injury that limits what I can do and causes me extreme pain daily, due to the nerve damage i have aswell i am on meds that have side affects that include weight gain.

I know myself that the only way i lose weight is either through complete starvation or extreme exercise, i can no longer do the exercise and starvation would damage my organs even more.

The plus side i do have is that i cannot potatoes or anything similar that is high in starch levels and sugars have a horrible effect on my bowels so chocolate etc makes me feel awful..

Weirdly my fave snacks are carrot sticks, banana's and red delicious apples (though limit them to seasonal only) or wholemeal pitta bread with lemon hummous

But because of the way my body looks i am abused for it, almost daily if I reject someone but i know that is their issues not mine!

Good luck with the hip and knee surgery x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it "

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bigger people... Or i should say bigger women are celebrated onhere mostly. That's why fab attracts so many

Its the big guys i feel bad for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've felt it a little bit. Get chatting to someone and they ask for a body pic, I send it then dont hear from them agin or get blocked. Yeah its a little disappointing but I'd rather meet someone who likes/doesn't mind my body instead of meeting someone then they end up not liking me and makes the whole meet awkward

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast."

You haven't hit a nerve . I'm fat because I eat more calories than I burn off and I love cheese . enjoy your run , I'm gonna eat some more and have a wank

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For the 1st time in my life I feel sexy and that's down to this site.

Having men and women "fab" my photos and the messages I've received makes me feel like never before! Now just need to be brave enough to have my 1st meet! X

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

I've been a slim and fit young woman, a very fat adult and now a normal size adult and I have never experienced discrimination. I used to get huge amounts of attention from men (IRL) when I was fat but none now but that may be because I'm over 50 with dreadlocks.

The only nasty comment I ever received was from a rude and awful niece.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I certainly don't have any prejudice,but I like men to be in fairly good shape for me to want to undress for them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast."

Enjoy your run

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By *ed wine OP Man over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

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Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously."

It is easy to imagine you and that GP as guards on that camp...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well having lost over 8 st the way people treat me is very different. Have had a few negative comments but for the most part have been treated very fairly. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea.

As for my preference, I'm a fan of the dad bod, I like looking at the nice fit bodies but for most of them they don't want a middle aged big woman. X "

Oh some definitely do!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've felt it a little bit. Get chatting to someone and they ask for a body pic, I send it then dont hear from them agin or get blocked. Yeah its a little disappointing but I'd rather meet someone who likes/doesn't mind my body instead of meeting someone then they end up not liking me and makes the whole meet awkward "

That's still not a prejudice but a preference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really think the use of the word prejudice on this thread is belittling the real meaning of the word.

To not want to meet and have sex with someone because of their size is not a prejudice

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"I really think the use of the word prejudice on this thread is belittling the real meaning of the word.

To not want to meet and have sex with someone because of their size is not a prejudice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know myself that the only way i lose weight is either through complete starvation or extreme exercise, i can no longer do the exercise and starvation would damage my organs even more.

The plus side i do have is that i cannot potatoes or anything similar that is high in starch levels and sugars have a horrible effect on my bowels so chocolate etc makes me feel awful..

Weirdly my fave snacks are carrot sticks, banana's and red delicious apples (though limit them to seasonal only) or wholemeal pitta bread with lemon hummous

But because of the way my body looks i am abused for it, almost daily if I reject someone but i know that is their issues not mine!

Good luck with the hip and knee surgery x"

Thank you! Xx

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I really think the use of the word prejudice on this thread is belittling the real meaning of the word.

To not want to meet and have sex with someone because of their size is not a prejudice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being a size 22 I'm certainly overweight.

I did think when I left my ex that no man would ever look at me again, in fact I can say I was very happy to find many men love a larger lady.

Never has anyone been nasty and if they were then oh well that their issue not mine.

My weight is caused by vast amounts of steroids for brittle asthma but I do get so fed up of the media portraying anyone overweight as lazy people who just eat too much.

Ballsacks to the lot of them I say

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By *ovely CummingsWoman over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

I notice people treat me differently depending on the colour of my hair more than what size i am...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really think the use of the word prejudice on this thread is belittling the real meaning of the word.

To not want to meet and have sex with someone because of their size is not a prejudice

i agree, it's very overused...personally i've noticed no difference in the way i've been treated depending upon my size,which over the last 20 years has changed..the only abuse i've ever had due to my size has been on here, from men who have been turned down..who seemingly hadn't noticed my age or size when they messaged in the first place, so not opinions that really matter to me anyway..and just for the record, i don't think being over weight is a disorder,but can be a symptom of some..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast."

Watch you don't slip down a drain

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

I'm fat. I've always been fat but it hasn't prevented me from marrying, having children, gaining two degrees, working, earning enough to put three kids through university, one to PhD, and retire at 56.

I met my current partner on here three years ago. He looks like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis, 6ft 1 of loveliness.

The job I did, my air of confidence/arrogance

meant I've never seen myself being treated differently. That said, I used to find some men surprised when I turned them down. Never the hotties but fat men (don't find them attractive) who assumed because I was fat I'd fuck them.

That said, spending time with my grandsons really knackered me this week and they're only eighteen months...they'll get faster, so I'm back on the healthy eating and exercising. I've put on 12kg since I retired in November...not good, but hey ho, not getting any younger!

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By *ed wine OP Man over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

"I really think the use of the word prejudice on this thread is belittling the real meaning of the word.

To not want to meet and have sex with someone because of their size is not a prejudice

Of course they are different concepts. Prejudice conceives presuming other negative -and usually unreal- traits, just from the consideration of one factor, in this case overweight.

But in this thread, some users have related situations of this prejudice, no just rejections because of physical preferenced, but being insulted because of their appearance.

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By *horehouseprincessWoman over a year ago

small town near Munich

There will be predjudice no matter what you do. People do it all the time, its human I guess.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"There will be predjudice no matter what you do. People do it all the time, its human I guess.

Unfortunately this is too true x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast."

Nice to rub that in, id love to go for a run but funnily enough doing a physical sport is what disabled me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been thin. I've been fat, yadda yadda.

Two years ago I lost a shed load of weight by just walking & a little running.

But then I got injured. The wife wanted to separate. I had to tell my kid, prepare the house for sale. Sell the house whilst living with the ex. And watch everything I'd built over 20 yrs disappear. Now I know it's all excuses. But my attitude was. The world didn't give a damn about me & I didn't care. I ate crap & screw the excersise.

Now life's very different. Ive found my mojo & I'm back in training so I'm presantly a single mature chunky monkey with a great sense of humour looking for a lovely lady or couple for a laugh & maybe more.

Available Bank holidays & Bar mitzvahs. Ample free parking!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x

Wait, we have a bbq chat thread dedicated to the over weight that is now on something like thread 256 with no comparable thread for normal/fit people.

Surely on here at least the prejudice is in the overwight's favour?"

Fair point. Seems to be many more pitchforks out when anyone dares to ask for slim people than when they ask for larger people.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x

Wait, we have a bbq chat thread dedicated to the over weight that is now on something like thread 256 with no comparable thread for normal/fit people.

Surely on here at least the prejudice is in the overwight's favour?

Fair point. Seems to be many more pitchforks out when anyone dares to ask for slim people than when they ask for larger people.

^^^ Ain't that the truth!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x

Wait, we have a bbq chat thread dedicated to the over weight that is now on something like thread 256 with no comparable thread for normal/fit people.

Surely on here at least the prejudice is in the overwight's favour?

Fair point. Seems to be many more pitchforks out when anyone dares to ask for slim people than when they ask for larger people.

I think its because people who do it like to insult larger people when they ask for slim people whereas when a people ask for larger they tend not to slag off slim people (you'll get the occasional guy saying he doesnt want bones but they will get told to behave)

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

I know too many guys who go "moose hunting" bbw seen as easy prey. Bang out of order as sometimes these people are emotionally vulnerable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know too many guys who go "moose hunting" bbw seen as easy prey. Bang out of order as sometimes these people are emotionally vulnerable.

Stop m-unting me then, you f*cker!!

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Merton

"I know too many guys who go "moose hunting" bbw seen as easy prey. Bang out of order as sometimes these people are emotionally vulnerable.

A lion hunt the weakest prey just thought I'll throw that out

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By *cotGirlWoman over a year ago

Manchester

Body shaming is wrong but having a preference isn't. Having a preference for slim or larger is no different to having a preference for blondes or brunettes (or red heads

Society's attitude to weight and body image needs to be massively overhauled, instead of touting "the perfect body" there should be more emphasis on being healthy and active.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've only been criticised once on here about my weight, I think it was just because I didn't wanna meet him so he was trying to make me feel bad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x

Wait, we have a bbq chat thread dedicated to the over weight that is now on something like thread 256 with no comparable thread for normal/fit people.

Surely on here at least the prejudice is in the overwight's favour?

Fair point. Seems to be many more pitchforks out when anyone dares to ask for slim people than when they ask for larger people.

I've seen insults go both ways.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x

Wait, we have a bbq chat thread dedicated to the over weight that is now on something like thread 256 with no comparable thread for normal/fit people.

Surely on here at least the prejudice is in the overwight's favour?

Fair point. Seems to be many more pitchforks out when anyone dares to ask for slim people than when they ask for larger people.

Oh you get women saying just as many derogatory comment towards slim/thin women too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have lost 4 stone since last august and feel really good about myself. Yes I was fat and in some peoples eyes probably still am. I lost my weight for me and not for them. Yes I get a little narked at being labeled but it is life. Some get labeled for hair colour, skin colour, height, accent etc.

I am a larger, shaven headed, short Geordie and proud haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know too many guys who go "moose hunting" bbw seen as easy prey. Bang out of order as sometimes these people are emotionally vulnerable.

*tips hat*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x

Wait, we have a bbq chat thread dedicated to the over weight that is now on something like thread 256 with no comparable thread for normal/fit people.

Surely on here at least the prejudice is in the overwight's favour?

Fair point. Seems to be many more pitchforks out when anyone dares to ask for slim people than when they ask for larger people.

I've seen insults go both ways. "

Yes they do but seems some are lot more vitrol like we are diseased in some way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x

Wait, we have a bbq chat thread dedicated to the over weight that is now on something like thread 256 with no comparable thread for normal/fit people.

Surely on here at least the prejudice is in the overwight's favour?

Fair point. Seems to be many more pitchforks out when anyone dares to ask for slim people than when they ask for larger people.

Oh you get women saying just as many derogatory comment towards slim/thin women too. "

Oh i know.. my fave ladies on here are slim and not only would I love to do lots of naughty things with they have the bodies I would aspire to once I have had my surgery! Dont get why we cant just all appreciate peoples bodies are different and lovely in their own ways even if we dont want to shag them!

I love bodies though all are amazing to draw

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

female here, ive had few people in chat room on here put some nasty comments while I was on cam, but the others that were enjoying what they were watching more than made up for it.... I definitely think our weight has an overall effect on the meets we get..

just because we are larger than average doesn't mean we don't enjoy sex any less....

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

"I lost around 5 stone a couple of years ago and started getting into something closer to 'shape' and how differently that the world treats you purely based on size is absolutely rediculous..

Every aspect changed and it was like more doors just magically opened."

You can open my door any time sexy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im fat and I won't meet bigger guys, I specify on my profile I only like slim men because that's what I'm attracted too and it's what I've always been attracted too. Preference not prejudice

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By *ucy. AlCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Yes we have had weigthist comments, my wife is a larger lady, but this is the result of 3 traumatic c sec births leaving scarring and nerve damage, the way she carried also perm damaged her back and so losing the weight is not easily achieved, its not laziness that stops yet.its pain from attempting to. As it happens she has gained confidence from being on here realising that there is a body type for everyone, having guys interested in her that shed never think would be interested in her.

On the other hand im quite slim (not athletic) slim! And it has given me a knock on my confidence im proud of my body i am who i am but it has made me doubt myself a bit.

As for being weightist ourselves we don't mind what weight or size a person is we go for personality more than body type. But there has to be an attraction. After all that is a basic primeval instinct - alpha male, most fertile female survival of the fittest etc (really want a better.phrase sorry)

There's no need to put people down about ANYTHING though. Sorry rambled a bit there but is a subject that yes does affect us in both positive and negative ways on here and in society

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I lost around 5 stone a couple of years ago and started getting into something closer to 'shape' and how differently that the world treats you purely based on size is absolutely rediculous..

Every aspect changed and it was like more doors just magically opened."

Think you should start boot camp, I'll be there at your door

I need to loose my 4 stone baby weight 3 years on haha

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By *orkie321bWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

I've never experienced weightism on fab. My photos and profile are pretty clear that i am a larger lady. At no point has anyone on here abused me for my size. On here i feel accepted and desired.

Out in the real world it is entirely different. Over the years i have had all manner of abuse shouted at me in the street. I have had food thrown at me along with comments like "here, have another burger love. Looks like you're hungry". I have also been assaulted in the street just because i'm fat.

Prejudice against fat people most certainly exists.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Watching the documentary on the BBC the other day made for an interesting view point as a lot of NHS workers seeing being obese as 'self inflicted' and cant sympathise with it so struggle to hand over funding for bariatric surgery.

As a morbidly obese person myself i do feel constant judgement from others. Im shifting it slowly. Just wish others who have no idea what it is like to be this size would stop with the 'eat less, move more' mentality.. its not a one size fits all mentallity.

The NHS in some areas offer a tier 3 weight management service which educates people in food, emotional well being and the surgical options potentially available. Its part of the criteria before given the 'OK' for surgery.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good post.I seen it too.

I appreciate there's not a one size fits all mentality. But there is most certainly an easy option mentality.

Surgery imo should be an absolute last resort in the majority of cases.

The nhs position seems based on the fact being overweight causes so many other complications and places people at greater risk of other life threatening conditions. All costing more and more money to treat.

So in effect they would look to remedy it as it potentially saves billions.

In terms of how its dealt with... look at how smoking is aggressivemy dealt with in legislation. Will the causes of obesity ever be tackled in the same manner?

Am thinking of the... these of the contents of a smokers lungs advert... as that one repulsed me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm rather open about my weight I'm not fat I just have abit of a belly, so I'd be in no position to judge anyone else

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple over a year ago

Bedworth

For those of us who are fat there is a way we can change, we can diet and exercise to lose weight.

For those who are ugly inside, mean spirited, hurl nasty insults and make vile comments about others for their appearance, how easy is it for those people to change?

I'd rather be fat than be ugly inside

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Body shaming against any size isnt cool. If you arent attracted to them then dont message/meet them.

Im the biggest i have been ( and happy with) after kids. Whilst i am trying to lose weight(for me) i am also trying to be positive with what i have got.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those of us who are fat there is a way we can change, we can diet and exercise to lose weight.

For those who are ugly inside, mean spirited, hurl nasty insults and make vile comments about others for their appearance, how easy is it for those people to change?

I'd rather be fat than be ugly inside"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those of us who are fat there is a way we can change, we can diet and exercise to lose weight.

For those who are ugly inside, mean spirited, hurl nasty insults and make vile comments about others for their appearance, how easy is it for those people to change?

I'd rather be fat than be ugly inside

Well said

This!

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Good post.I seen it too.

I appreciate there's not a one size fits all mentality. But there is most certainly an easy option mentality.

Surgery imo should be an absolute last resort in the majority of cases.

So in effect they would look to remedy it as it potentially saves billions.

In terms of how its dealt with... look at how smoking is aggressivemy dealt with in legislation. Will the causes of obesity ever be tackled in the same manner?

Am thinking of the... these of the contents of a smokers lungs advert... as that one repulsed me.

Obesity is generally treated in the same regard just not quite as publicly smoking is, not sure if you've ever been obese but if you were you'd now how much pressure the NHS puts on you

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman over a year ago

your imagination

The only time anyone's ever made an issue of my body on here was the occasional 'now that I look at your pics again you're too fat (also can substitute old/ugly) for me anyway' response to me turning down random hotel/car meet requests from guys I've never spoken to before....

must have gone to specsavers while I was composing my polite refusal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Preference and prejudice are the same thing

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Preference and prejudice are the same thing"

No there not

Unless your happy to fuck anything with a pulse

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By *est Wales WifeCouple over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

"Preference and prejudice are the same thing"

No they are not.

Prejudice is a “preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience.” Preference is a “greater liking for one alternative over another or others.”

A preference is decided by one who has evaluated evidence and compared alternatives. A prejudice is decided towards or against something or someone that has not yet been evaluated.

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By *evilsAdvocate72Woman over a year ago

East

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast.

Nice to rub that in, id love to go for a run but funnily enough doing a physical sport is what disabled me "

Well said.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Body shaming against any size isnt cool. If you arent attracted to them then dont message/meet them.

Im the biggest i have been ( and happy with) after kids. Whilst i am trying to lose weight(for me) i am also trying to be positive with what i have got."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just wish people would see that not everything is so black and white. Yes, most of the time, people gain weight due to eating more calories than they burn, but a lot of the time there are reasons behind the eating.

I know someone who gained a lot of weight after they were sexually assaulted. I'm not allowed to use the 'R' word in here. They didn't leave the house for a long time and turned to food for comfort.

Reading comments dismissing the wide range of varied reasons that people gain and struggle with their weight Can really wind me up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Preference and prejudice are the same thing

No they are not.

Prejudice is a “preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience.” Preference is a “greater liking for one alternative over another or others.”

A preference is decided by one who has evaluated evidence and compared alternatives. A prejudice is decided towards or against something or someone that has not yet been evaluated. "

Yeah thanks for mansplainimg that. My point is puerile use: "oh it's a preference" to explain away any prejudice away, so while urea the technical definition is different, the actual real life usual means the two are synonyms

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Preference and prejudice are the same thing

No they are not.

Prejudice is a “preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience.” Preference is a “greater liking for one alternative over another or others.”

A preference is decided by one who has evaluated evidence and compared alternatives. A prejudice is decided towards or against something or someone that has not yet been evaluated.

Dude mansplaining doesnt happen against a man #womansplaining :p

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x"

Attraction is attraction. Personally doesn't bother me, if the convo flows then I'm game.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is preference and prejudice the one with Mr Darcy in?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How overweight Op?

I'm underweight for my height.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would never be preadjudice against someone heavier.

I have been in great shape and over weight.

And I have been called names on here for being overweight at it is nasty.

If you don't like someone simple just don't talk to them if someone keeps pestering or insulting del

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is preference and prejudice the one with Mr Darcy in?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dude mansplaining doesnt happen against a man #womansplaining :p"

Dude is as bad as babe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Then i wont call you dude.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I adore plus sized/ stocky gents, all those gorgeously soft round contours to explore and enjoy.. yum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not their fault they like pies - poor little fat bastards!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Then i wont call you dude. "

Much obliged, and in return I'll use the word pedantry instead of mansplaining

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Then i wont call you dude.

Much obliged, and in return I'll use the word pedantry instead of mansplaining "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Prejudice in all forms is existent in modern society.

Some of it is sadly deemed more acceptable than others, very often due to what's the latest trends!

Why is it almost acceptable to laugh at a bald man,but heinous to do so to a bald woman ? The list goes on.

Just be a nice person...if you can.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How overweight Op?

I'm underweight for my height.

I'm underheight for my age...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast.

Watch you don't slip down a drain"

See this comment is a good example of the lie of the land on fab in regards to favouritism towards larger folks and no one batting an eyelid when derogatory comments are aimed at slim people.

The results would be much different if it was reversed n somebody commented about a larger person going for a run.....keep away from the harbour in case you get harpooned!

I'm sure I'll be picked up for even pointing this out.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

To be honest too old to worry who will date meet, meet me because of my weight but what I do detest is body shaming whether you are fat or slim or whatever you don't know people's battles in life so just leave them the fuck alone

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast.

Watch you don't slip down a drain

See this comment is a good example of the lie of the land on fab in regards to favouritism towards larger folks and no one batting an eyelid when derogatory comments are aimed at slim people.

The results would be much different if it was reversed n somebody commented about a larger person going for a run.....keep away from the harbour in case you get harpooned!

I'm sure I'll be picked up for even pointing this out.

I used to be overweight, but I made the realisation and did something about it - I've seen a lot more casual prejudice aimed at people who work out, because apparently we must all be vain etc...

The thing is though, being overweight for most people is something that they can easily remedy if they wish, and although I wouldn't dream of making derogatory comments about them, I was glad when my own weight was brought to my attention (by my doctor) and I promptly did something about it.

If you don't like being overweight, do something about it. If you are comfortable with your weight, you won't care what people say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be honest too old to worry who will date meet, meet me because of my weight but what I do detest is body shaming whether you are fat or slim or whatever you don't know people's battles in life so just leave them the fuck alone "

Yep,if it's not to your liking then don't contact them...simple enough!

Though there does seem to be a problem with a percentage of arseholes that don't like being rejected so then change their tune.....from gorgeous to a monster in the time it takes to read a rejection message.

No need for that,just shows them up as the nasty n insecure idiots they are!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast.

Watch you don't slip down a drain

See this comment is a good example of the lie of the land on fab in regards to favouritism towards larger folks and no one batting an eyelid when derogatory comments are aimed at slim people.

The results would be much different if it was reversed n somebody commented about a larger person going for a run.....keep away from the harbour in case you get harpooned!

I'm sure I'll be picked up for even pointing this out.

I used to be overweight, but I made the realisation and did something about it - I've seen a lot more casual prejudice aimed at people who work out, because apparently we must all be vain etc...

If you don't like being overweight, do something about it. If you are comfortable with your weight, you won't care what people say. "

Aye,I agree with most of what you say.....ya vain bastard!

Though I have no experience in having to lose weight I don't think it's an easy task.

I reckon it takes a lot of perseverance n hard work n most of all a shit ton of willpower to stick at it n see results.....so I take my hat off to all those who have done this themselves n stuck at it

If I was bigger I'd probably stay that way....I'm quite lazy n like sweeties n cakes n biscuits n chocolates too much!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not their fault they like pies - poor little fat bastards! "

I don't like pies actually

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By *ed wine OP Man over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

If you don't like being overweight, do something about it. If you are comfortable with your weight, you won't care what people say. "

The reality is that just a little proportion of people can lose and maintain weight.

If you could do it, you demonstrated a strong will and a great effort. However, you shouldn't presume that ALL obese persons are in your situation and can "easily" lose weight if they want.

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast.

Watch you don't slip down a drain

See this comment is a good example of the lie of the land on fab in regards to favouritism towards larger folks and no one batting an eyelid when derogatory comments are aimed at slim people.

The results would be much different if it was reversed n somebody commented about a larger person going for a run.....keep away from the harbour in case you get harpooned!

I'm sure I'll be picked up for even pointing this out.

I used to be overweight, but I made the realisation and did something about it - I've seen a lot more casual prejudice aimed at people who work out, because apparently we must all be vain etc...

If you don't like being overweight, do something about it. If you are comfortable with your weight, you won't care what people say.

Aye,I agree with most of what you say.....ya vain bastard!

Though I have no experience in having to lose weight I don't think it's an easy task.

If I was bigger I'd probably stay that way....I'm quite lazy n like sweeties n cakes n biscuits n chocolates too much!"

It's actually not that hard - I think that both the diet and the fitness industries have a vested interest in making it much harder than it is; the diet industry want you to succeed for a limited time and then fail, thats how they get repeat custom. The fitness industry like to sell the notion of "hard work" to make people who buy into it feel good about themselves, but it also has the effect of putting people off, because they think it's too hard.

I started out by cutting out a bag of crisps and a chocolate bar that I had each day with lunch amd then adapted/tweaked my diet as I went along and learned more about calories in food etc. .

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

If you don't like being overweight, do something about it. If you are comfortable with your weight, you won't care what people say.

The reality is that just a little proportion of people can lose and maintain weight.

If you could do it, you demonstrated a strong will and a great effort. However, you shouldn't presume that ALL obese persons are in your situation and can "easily" lose weight if they want. "

It's actually the other way round - people who have thyroid problems and certain other medical conditions (and who are very small) generally have a much harder time losing weight. If you are none of these things, then it shouldn't be a problem.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"It's not their fault they like pies - poor little fat bastards!

I don't like pies actually"

Oh can I have yours then?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Women's weight especially fluctuates to a degree hormonally as well which is something men really don't have issue with also

Even more so like he when you gave PCOS

I also have an underactive thyroid that effects my weight and severe asthma ask I'm on mass amounts of steroids to treat that

My weights coming off but it's been a very slow hard going process

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you don't like being overweight, do something about it. If you are comfortable with your weight, you won't care what people say.

The reality is that just a little proportion of people can lose and maintain weight.

If you could do it, you demonstrated a strong will and a great effort. However, you shouldn't presume that ALL obese persons are in your situation and can "easily" lose weight if they want.

But weight loss isn't just a physical thing. You're disregarding the mental side which is where most have issues.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not their fault they like pies - poor little fat bastards!

I don't like pies actually

Oh can I have yours then?

Help yourself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast.

Watch you don't slip down a drain

See this comment is a good example of the lie of the land on fab in regards to favouritism towards larger folks and no one batting an eyelid when derogatory comments are aimed at slim people.

The results would be much different if it was reversed n somebody commented about a larger person going for a run.....keep away from the harbour in case you get harpooned!

I'm sure I'll be picked up for even pointing this out.

We get the derogatory remarks most days of our lives from people who think they're 'better' than the fat person. I don't know why people just can't live and let live. In a perfect world I wouldn't get messages from random unknown people telling me how fat I am and how people who meet me must have a learning disability (yes I did!). We (or at least me) are generally on the defensive for any comment that's made because that's what hat we're used to. Yes I'm fat, yes other people are slim....there's no need to be twats about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast.

Watch you don't slip down a drain

See this comment is a good example of the lie of the land on fab in regards to favouritism towards larger folks and no one batting an eyelid when derogatory comments are aimed at slim people.

The results would be much different if it was reversed n somebody commented about a larger person going for a run.....keep away from the harbour in case you get harpooned!

I'm sure I'll be picked up for even pointing this out.

My sisters used to take the piss out of me when I was a kid about going down the plughole, when I took the bath plug out, because I was very thin. It didn't bother me then, it doesn't bother me now, if someone says anything about me now being fat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast.

Watch you don't slip down a drain

See this comment is a good example of the lie of the land on fab in regards to favouritism towards larger folks and no one batting an eyelid when derogatory comments are aimed at slim people.

The results would be much different if it was reversed n somebody commented about a larger person going for a run.....keep away from the harbour in case you get harpooned!

I'm sure I'll be picked up for even pointing this out.

I don't agree with that either . My sister is naturally very slim and has had comments like 'you need to eat some lunch or you'll snap' . Not sure why anyone feels they have the right to be derogatory about other people's appearances

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

'Difficult to kid nap' is the best way I saw someone with cuddly proportions describe herself.

Funny, self-deprecating and just nice!

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Prejudice against overweighted persons is constantly present on our society. It is an actual fact.

In this site, if you suffer such disorder, have you felt that prejudice on you?

Or if you are fit, would you meet an overweighted person?

With all my respects x"

Preferences aren't prejudices

I could winge and moan that I can't get a meet because people have a height prejudice but in reality I know it's because I'm to old, to young, to far away, not there type, they've had a better offer etc etc etc

Some people really look after there body with gym visits and if they only want gym fit playmates that's there choice

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"'Difficult to kid nap' is the best way I saw someone with cuddly proportions describe herself.

Funny, self-deprecating and just nice!

Lol that's brilliant I might pinch it

lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you don't like being overweight, do something about it. If you are comfortable with your weight, you won't care what people say. "

I clicked on this post by mistake. Because this community just gathers to repeatedly give their opinion...

... but that last line...

..you can be aware of it, doing something about, and people will still try and tear you down. If someone is making comments about someone's weight, it's never, ever for the benefit of the person they're saying it to.

That works on both sides. You don't know what they looked like 6 months ago. Just because they still have 4 stone to shift doesn't been they haven't already lost 2. Just because they're slim doesn't mean they haven't struggled with countless other things! Maybe even trying to (gasp) put weight on.

No-one in this chat, forum, world is perfect. Wearing your flaw as a visible 'failing' is a hard one. Perhaps anyone forcing their opinion on anyone else should be grateful their flaws are only obvious when they open their ugly mouth.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast.

Watch you don't slip down a drain

See this comment is a good example of the lie of the land on fab in regards to favouritism towards larger folks and no one batting an eyelid when derogatory comments are aimed at slim people.

The results would be much different if it was reversed n somebody commented about a larger person going for a run.....keep away from the harbour in case you get harpooned!

I'm sure I'll be picked up for even pointing this out.

Good stuff,there's bigger things in life to be bothered about!

There's too many professionals on here....professionally offended by others preferences!

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

i'm only small and wouldn't meet any big guys for that reason. been nearly crushed by one last year. was open to it until that happened though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those of us who are fat there is a way we can change, we can diet and exercise to lose weight.

For those who are ugly inside, mean spirited, hurl nasty insults and make vile comments about others for their appearance, how easy is it for those people to change?

I'd rather be fat than be ugly inside"

Sorry to burst your bubble...

Guys have you not seen A Christmas Carol. Usually on roughly around December...

Takes 3 ghosts and then your sorted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive been very fat and now Im slimmer. I didnt find overt prejudice when fat but I did find I was somewhat invisible. The fat friend who never gets chatted up etc.

I do put straightforward pics on my profile of what I look like. No fancy angles of bits of body or cameras in the air etc. People can then make an informed choice as to whether to meet me or not. Ive still had abuse from men Ive rejected on here - the keyboard warriors will attack anyone tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ive been very fat and now Im slimmer. I didnt find overt prejudice when fat but I did find I was somewhat invisible. The fat friend who never gets chatted up etc.

Well done on the weight loss, I lost 5st over two years, I had a heart attack at the age of 32, so that was my motivation to sort my life out. I never felt I was mocked about my size, it was only when people had noticed the weight loss they started highlighting it, if I showed you a pic of how I looked you'd think it was someone completely different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women's weight especially fluctuates to a degree hormonally as well which is something men really don't have issue with also

Even more so like he when you gave PCOS

I also have an underactive thyroid that effects my weight and severe asthma ask I'm on mass amounts of steroids to treat that

My weights coming off but it's been a very slow hard going process "

Yawn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast.

Watch you don't slip down a drain

See this comment is a good example of the lie of the land on fab in regards to favouritism towards larger folks and no one batting an eyelid when derogatory comments are aimed at slim people.

The results would be much different if it was reversed n somebody commented about a larger person going for a run.....keep away from the harbour in case you get harpooned!

I'm sure I'll be picked up for even pointing this out.

Great point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, depending on your medical condition the treatment can cause weight gain as on incontrolable side effect, not cause they constantly eat the wrong types of food.

Why don't you get fat people on concentration camps? A GP said that to me when outside of work obviously.

Cause they're malnourished and not getting any medical treatment?

Cause they're not given enough calories, so if you lower your calories what happens?? You loose weight - stop making excuses.

If someone is fat then good luck to them cause it's their life and their choice in 98% of cases

What has this got to do with the original post ?

I think the OP is showing that he has a problem with fat people, true colours now showing me thinks.

It's not the OP who wrote it

Hahaha it wasn't the OP it was me.

If this has hit a nerve then change your lifestyle, don't get cross cause of what I've said

I'm going out for run now anyway - burn off my breakfast.

Watch you don't slip down a drain

See this comment is a good example of the lie of the land on fab in regards to favouritism towards larger folks and no one batting an eyelid when derogatory comments are aimed at slim people.

The results would be much different if it was reversed n somebody commented about a larger person going for a run.....keep away from the harbour in case you get harpooned!

I'm sure I'll be picked up for even pointing this out.

Great point."

The comment about me falling down a drain did actually make me laugh to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Try being fat AND disabled.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try being fat AND disabled."

I am.

Although becoming less disabled now after numerous operations.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Ive been very fat and now Im slimmer. I didnt find overt prejudice when fat but I did find I was somewhat invisible. The fat friend who never gets chatted up etc.

I look a lot different know to what I used to as I've lost over 15st in the last 5yrs even on fab you can see some progression in my weightloss from me joining, it's took a lot of hard work and determination and I'm getting there.

There was a time even if I lost weight if someone said something bad like "your making excuses for your health" etc because I was still fat id turn straight to food for comfort, emotional eating as been the biggest thing I've id to overcome in regards to loosing weight. So its nice to see people being encouraging of people that have lost or are trying to loose weight as it's easier to do for some than others, do wish more would follow suit in that regard

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know my father is for a fact, considering he said to me last week (in front of my step daughter': I'm not surprised nothing fits (trying to find something for a wedding in my mum and sisters wardrobes) I asked 'why' he laughed and said 'your massive'. Yeah thanks dad I didn't know I was a fucking heffer.

He does the same to my mum too.

G x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I know my father is for a fact, considering he said to me last week (in front of my step daughter': I'm not surprised nothing fits (trying to find something for a wedding in my mum and sisters wardrobes) I asked 'why' he laughed and said 'your massive'. Yeah thanks dad I didn't know I was a fucking heffer.

He does the same to my mum too.

G x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try being fat AND disabled."

I am!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Yep,if it's not to your liking then don't contact them...simple enough!

No need for that,just shows them up as the nasty n insecure idiots they are!"

To be honest in the last how many years I think I've been called fat once...I've had the odd rejection email about my weight but we all have preferences, I just don't like the whole belittling thing because One comment could destroy someone...like I said previously no one knows everyone battles and it doesn't take an awful lot not to be a cunt to someone...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

He does the same to my mum too.

G x"

Tell him to go and fuck himself lol

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By *layfulCouple86Couple over a year ago

Lancashire

"Being fat is a disorder ????

Yes, it can be..."

No it can't being overweight is a physical state, but you can be overweight due to a disorder. I assume that's what you meant though.

I (Mr) lost 5 stone at one point and I got treat remarkably differently but my confidence also went through the roof. As you can see I've let it slip in the last year but I am determined to get it right again

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