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What is good for one isn't good for another.
In life we all enjoy differ things, we think differently to other people. What we think is cool somebody might think it isn't.
It's same with sex, isn't it?
Oral sex for example, is it the same from different people?
And other ways we have sex, do you do it differently with different people or do you just hope they like the way you like it? |
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Oh wow so many questions, but no sex is different with meets than it is with mr. I can let go and enjoy the connection we have, knowing I don't have to tell or show him what I like. And I also know what he likes. The passion is so good and oral just wow.
With a meet the sex is good but doesn't quite hit the same spot. Oral has been good but again not exactly the same. Though I have had a recent meet that hit the right spot. I suppose i do change how I do sex with different partners. You can only react to what you're getting and if it's not making you want to give your best then your not going to. X |
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People get off on different things, take oral sex, on my mrs I know exactly the method and rhythm with my tongue to make her come pretty quickly, same method used on other women, doesn't work. So as you say, people do and have different needs, which is why I understand I'm not for everyone, just a select few  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is good for one isn't good for another.
In life we all enjoy differ things, we think differently to other people. What we think is cool somebody might think it isn't.
It's same with sex, isn't it?
Oral sex for example, is it the same from different people?
And other ways we have sex, do you do it differently with different people or do you just hope they like the way you like it? "
I find out what the other person likes by either reading the signs or just asking if it's good for them. I don't mean like restaurant staff, stoppping intermittently to ask if everything's okay with the sex (though sometimes that helps), but watching and listening for the subtle clues.
It'd be a bit unpleasant for them if you were banging away at it hammer and tongs, when they wanted slow and gentle.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I find out what the other person likes by either reading the signs or just asking if it's good for them. I don't mean like restaurant staff, stoppping intermittently to ask if everything's okay with the sex (though sometimes that helps), but watching and listening for the subtle clues.
It'd be a bit unpleasant for them if you were banging away at it hammer and tongs, when they wanted slow and gentle. "
This is what I was thinking about, sex can feel selfish sometimes but when your watching someone enjoy what your doing with them, it mustn't be.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Agree, sex is different with each partner. Certainly keeps things interesting!"
Is this why swinging appeals to Many here? The variety of different sex? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"People get off on different things, take oral sex, on my mrs I know exactly the method and rhythm with my tongue to make her come pretty quickly, same method used on other women, doesn't work. So as you say, people do and have different needs, which is why I understand I'm not for everyone, just a select few "
So your looking for people who fit you, more than trying to learn what they like and then trying to give them what they want? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oh wow so many questions, but no sex is different with meets than it is with mr. I can let go and enjoy the connection we have, knowing I don't have to tell or show him what I like. And I also know what he likes. The passion is so good and oral just wow.
With a meet the sex is good but doesn't quite hit the same spot. Oral has been good but again not exactly the same. Though I have had a recent meet that hit the right spot. I suppose i do change how I do sex with different partners. You can only react to what you're getting and if it's not making you want to give your best then your not going to. X "
It is great when you know someone inside and out and your able to have that passionate sex we all need sometimes. |
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Ive had different sex with different people and although the basics are the same the way it feels and the level of stimulation is definitely dependent on who Im with and their attitude and approach to sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh wow so many questions, but no sex is different with meets than it is with mr. I can let go and enjoy the connection we have, knowing I don't have to tell or show him what I like. And I also know what he likes. The passion is so good and oral just wow.
With a meet the sex is good but doesn't quite hit the same spot. Oral has been good but again not exactly the same. Though I have had a recent meet that hit the right spot. I suppose i do change how I do sex with different partners. You can only react to what you're getting and if it's not making you want to give your best then your not going to. X
It is great when you know someone inside and out and your able to have that passionate sex we all need sometimes. "
It is, has taken me a lot of years to find it. But definitely worth waiting for x |
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"Ive had different sex with different people and although the basics are the same the way it feels and the level of stimulation is definitely dependent on who Im with and their attitude and approach to sex."
So it's their attitude more than your that depends what you get out of it? Is that what you mean? |
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Yes can be very different. I like to be submissive mostly, but sometimes I'll play Domme. Othertimes we just play neutral. It's very much down to the person/people I'm with at the time. |
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I'd say being different is part of the fun. The more people you meet, the more you learn. About pleasing them but also about yourself.
You might meet someone who does something different and you discover a new thing that you'd never considered before and like (or don't). |
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"Ive had different sex with different people and although the basics are the same the way it feels and the level of stimulation is definitely dependent on who Im with and their attitude and approach to sex.
So it's their attitude more than your that depends what you get out of it? Is that what you mean? "
No I wouldn't say that but my attitude and approach does differ depending on theirs. The more connected I feel with someone the more relaxed and confident I feel. |
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"Agree, sex is different with each partner. Certainly keeps things interesting!
Is this why swinging appeals to Many here? The variety of different sex? "
I would guess so, after all variety is the spice. Also you can explore more and discover new things about yourself with different partners |
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"Yes can be very different. I like to be submissive mostly, but sometimes I'll play Domme. Othertimes we just play neutral. It's very much down to the person/people I'm with at the time. "
when you try different things, are you getting as much out of it than the partner that your with?
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"Agree, sex is different with each partner. Certainly keeps things interesting!
Is this why swinging appeals to Many here? The variety of different sex?
I would guess so, after all variety is the spice. Also you can explore more and discover new things about yourself with different partners"
I agree. The only way you find out what you like is when we explore and try new things. |
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"Ive had different sex with different people and although the basics are the same the way it feels and the level of stimulation is definitely dependent on who Im with and their attitude and approach to sex.
So it's their attitude more than your that depends what you get out of it? Is that what you mean?
No I wouldn't say that but my attitude and approach does differ depending on theirs. The more connected I feel with someone the more relaxed and confident I feel. "
A connection? Sex is always best this way for me. |
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"I'd say being different is part of the fun. The more people you meet, the more you learn. About pleasing them but also about yourself.
You might meet someone who does something different and you discover a new thing that you'd never considered before and like (or don't)."
thats right. And I think this is what appeals to lots that swing.
When you finc exactly what you like. Do you then start to look for those that suit you, or do you still try the things what you didn't like with those that do.
E.g. You didn't like oral, but they do, would you still do it? |
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"Ive had different sex with different people and although the basics are the same the way it feels and the level of stimulation is definitely dependent on who Im with and their attitude and approach to sex.
So it's their attitude more than your that depends what you get out of it? Is that what you mean?
No I wouldn't say that but my attitude and approach does differ depending on theirs. The more connected I feel with someone the more relaxed and confident I feel.
A connection? Sex is always best this way for me. "
Definitely. If there's no connection Id rather just have a wank! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ive had different sex with different people and although the basics are the same the way it feels and the level of stimulation is definitely dependent on who Im with and their attitude and approach to sex.
So it's their attitude more than your that depends what you get out of it? Is that what you mean?
No I wouldn't say that but my attitude and approach does differ depending on theirs. The more connected I feel with someone the more relaxed and confident I feel.
A connection? Sex is always best this way for me.
Definitely. If there's no connection Id rather just have a wank!"
Fair enough.............
......can I at least watch you? 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive had different sex with different people and although the basics are the same the way it feels and the level of stimulation is definitely dependent on who Im with and their attitude and approach to sex.
So it's their attitude more than your that depends what you get out of it? Is that what you mean?
No I wouldn't say that but my attitude and approach does differ depending on theirs. The more connected I feel with someone the more relaxed and confident I feel.
A connection? Sex is always best this way for me.
Definitely. If there's no connection Id rather just have a wank!"
Same.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is good for one isn't good for another.
In life we all enjoy differ things, we think differently to other people. What we think is cool somebody might think it isn't.
It's same with sex, isn't it?
Oral sex for example, is it the same from different people?
And other ways we have sex, do you do it differently with different people or do you just hope they like the way you like it? "
Different sex each time with different people, but that's what make it fun isn't it? The exploration, the new experience. Just because one person doesn't suit someone that doesn't mean they won't be a sexual match for the next.
If you are sensitive enough to responsives, you will quickly find out what gives the sensations you are trying to achieve.
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"What is good for one isn't good for another.
In life we all enjoy differ things, we think differently to other people. What we think is cool somebody might think it isn't.
It's same with sex, isn't it?
Oral sex for example, is it the same from different people?
And other ways we have sex, do you do it differently with different people or do you just hope they like the way you like it? "
I believe we are different with everyone, always the same person, but a different version.
Sex is no different, and for me, discovering what you both like, it's part of the experience.
And just like kissing is never the same with different people, oral sex isn't.
People can have very different techniques and very different responses
I think that's a huge part of the attraction of swinging |
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"What is good for one isn't good for another.
In life we all enjoy differ things, we think differently to other people. What we think is cool somebody might think it isn't.
It's same with sex, isn't it?
Oral sex for example, is it the same from different people?
And other ways we have sex, do you do it differently with different people or do you just hope they like the way you like it?
Different sex each time with different people, but that's what make it fun isn't it? The exploration, the new experience. Just because one person doesn't suit someone that doesn't mean they won't be a sexual match for the next.
If you are sensitive enough to responsives, you will quickly find out what gives the sensations you are trying to achieve.
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Let's explore each other.  |
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I'm your flexible friend 
By that I mean I have sex with the person I'm with, and not someone else, and try and respond to their body and emotions
Just because I've had great sex with someone, what made it great with them will not necessarily make it great with someone else |
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"Yes can be very different. I like to be submissive mostly, but sometimes I'll play Domme. Othertimes we just play neutral. It's very much down to the person/people I'm with at the time.
when you try different things, are you getting as much out of it than the partner that your with?
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It's good to try different things, otherwise you'll never know if you enjoy it or they do. I enjoy trying new things as sometimes both you and the person you're with hit the jackpot. It's all about communication.
I enjoy giving pleasure so yes I do get as much out of it. |
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Yes very different with different people. I've had boring sex and amazingly wonderful sex that hits the spot. I think some people just aren't sexually compatible and there's not much you can do to change that. My most boring unemployable sex was with a man who thought it was amazing, or at least that's what he said  and I couldn't get him to change his technique which I'm sure he uses on every woman thinking it works for all.
I am different with different men. for me, enjoyable sex is when I see the man enjoying what I'm doing so I judge what he likes by his reaction and change my technique to suit because watching him moan with pleasure turns me on massively!! And I enjoy it when he does the same and finds out what works for me, which is why repeat meets are more satisfying. Although saying that I do also enjoy the first time with a guy working out what hits the spot for him. |
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I have different kinds of sex with different people, it's nice to find out their likes and things. Some of the kinks that I'm into doesn't suit everyone therefore I change the way I play |
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"I'm your flexible friend
By that I mean I have sex with the person I'm with, and not someone else, and try and respond to their body and emotions
Just because I've had great sex with someone, what made it great with them will not necessarily make it great with someone else "
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"Great thread MrB. I love how everyone is different, it's one of the things I love about fab. It's exciting finding out how you are going to react to someone's touch and them to yours "
I could tell you exactly how I'd respond to your touch. Looking you in the eyes as I'm speaking.
It is exciting, especially when you find that button, and you get to press it.
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I'm quite chameleon like in my approach to sex with someone different. If they are more sensual then I adapt to that. If they like it more rough then I adapt to that too etc. All within my boundaries and as long as I'm enjoying it. For one off's I find it easier and it's quite automatic as I don't really do sex chat before a meet.
However, when I find someone I have that elusive spark with I quite easily drop all that along with my knickers. |
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"I'm your flexible friend
By that I mean I have sex with the person I'm with, and not someone else, and try and respond to their body and emotions
Just because I've had great sex with someone, what made it great with them will not necessarily make it great with someone else "
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"I'm quite chameleon like in my approach to sex with someone different. If they are more sensual then I adapt to that. If they like it more rough then I adapt to that too etc. All within my boundaries and as long as I'm enjoying it. For one off's I find it easier and it's quite automatic as I don't really do sex chat before a meet.
However, when I find someone I have that elusive spark with I quite easily drop all that along with my knickers. "
Perfect words Mac |
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"I'm quite chameleon like in my approach to sex with someone different. If they are more sensual then I adapt to that. If they like it more rough then I adapt to that too etc. All within my boundaries and as long as I'm enjoying it. For one off's I find it easier and it's quite automatic as I don't really do sex chat before a meet.
However, when I find someone I have that elusive spark with I quite easily drop all that along with my knickers. "
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Everything in life is different, including sex..
It would be very boring if everyone liked the same thing but I suppose it would make people a lot more compatible and a lot less fussy  |
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"What is good for one isn't good for another.
In life we all enjoy differ things, we think differently to other people. What we think is cool somebody might think it isn't.
It's same with sex, isn't it?
Oral sex for example, is it the same from different people?
And other ways we have sex, do you do it differently with different people or do you just hope they like the way you like it?
Different sex each time with different people, but that's what make it fun isn't it? The exploration, the new experience. Just because one person doesn't suit someone that doesn't mean they won't be a sexual match for the next.
If you are sensitive enough to responsives, you will quickly find out what gives the sensations you are trying to achieve.
Let's explore each other. "
All you need is a map and compass unless of course your just going to head south?! |
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"Ive had different sex with different people and although the basics are the same the way it feels and the level of stimulation is definitely dependent on who Im with and their attitude and approach to sex.
So it's their attitude more than your that depends what you get out of it? Is that what you mean?
No I wouldn't say that but my attitude and approach does differ depending on theirs. The more connected I feel with someone the more relaxed and confident I feel.
A connection? Sex is always best this way for me.
Definitely. If there's no connection Id rather just have a wank!"
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