FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Guys why dont you get meets

Guys why dont you get meets

Jump to: Newest in thread

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

If your unlucky on this site why do you think that is.

Lots of guys do seem to get meets and there not all brad pitt so what is it do you think

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm Brad Pitt

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I'm Brad Pitt

"
Brad ArmPitt, that is....

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Um inadequate to other choices, not great at messaging or age ?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ribsaMan over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

My little kink is not to all women's taste plus I am also married all be it in sexless marrage which seems to put alot of women off well that's what I think it is.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This will sound unintentionally arrogant but the only reason I don;t get meets id because I don't look for them. I've never struggled on this or other similar sites and while I;m okay looking I'm also tall, skinny and with no fashion sense whatsoever so very much an acquired taste.

But I know how to communicate, know how to write a decent profile and as mucg as I hate the word, I'm genuine. So I can accommodate, I;m flexxible and potential meets aren;t limited to tiny wondows of opportunity. I think those are significant reasons why I used to do well

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just use this site for the forum. I am on another site for meets

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't really tried properly. Basically not made time or gone to a club. Too busy with other things.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh and I've always been honest and fairly specific in what I was looking for. Eliminating the majoriyty of people works because those that match tend to be far more inyterested

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple over a year ago

dukinfield

"If your unlucky on this site why do you think that is.

Lots of guys do seem to get meets and there not all brad pitt so what is it do you think"

Co's I'm big, not great looking, slightly balding, and my Sub is a shit load better looking than me so any girls that want her don't want me. #holdingherbackalittle.

BUT I'm working on it. #operationhotbod

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I just use this site for the forum. I am on another site for meets

Do the women on there know you use their pics on here?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

If you're not getting meets then the most likely problem is that your profile is bland to crap.

It is not because of other men, too many men or the size of your cock

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just use this site for the forum. I am on another site for meets

Do the women on there know you use their pics on here?"
Yes they do

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I just use this site for the forum. I am on another site for meets

Do the women on there know you use their pics on here?Yes they do

I recognise her!!!!!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just use this site for the forum. I am on another site for meets

Do the women on there know you use their pics on here?Yes they do

I recognise her!!!!!

"
lol good one.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If your unlucky on this site why do you think that is.

Lots of guys do seem to get meets and there not all brad pitt so what is it do you think"

I'm not really looking so I'm indifferent

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I just use this site for the forum. I am on another site for meets

Do the women on there know you use their pics on here?Yes they do

I recognise her!!!!!

lol good one."
always good for a laugh

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just use this site for the forum. I am on another site for meets

Do the women on there know you use their pics on here?Yes they do

I recognise her!!!!!

lol good one. always good for a laugh

"
That is right, it is well lol

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rNaughtyNickMan over a year ago

Birmingham

Quite simple - the single male to female ratio is ridiculous.

500:1 last time I checked

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Quite simple - the single male to female ratio is ridiculous.

500:1 last time I checked

So what? How can other men stop you from meeting?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Quite simple - the single male to female ratio is ridiculous.

500:1 last time I checked

"
so why is there a lot of guys on here who are successful then and as i said they dont all look like brad pitt

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *uzzy NavelWoman over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"I'm Brad Pitt

Brad ArmPitt, that is...."

Ha ha like that!!

You've a sense of humour and can chat, which is very attractive to all sexes!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"This will sound unintentionally arrogant but the only reason I don;t get meets id because I don't look for them. I've never struggled on this or other similar sites and while I;m okay looking I'm also tall, skinny and with no fashion sense whatsoever so very much an acquired taste.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rNaughtyNickMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"Quite simple - the single male to female ratio is ridiculous.

500:1 last time I checked

So what? How can other men stop you from meeting? "

Single female inboxes are constantly over flooded with messagesalong with some couples (who dont block single males)

So the odds on them actually reading your message is very slim let alone getting a reply due to the ratios.

Even worse when you do get a reply and strike up a conversation. Your messages can get lost since and therefore potentially your conversation gets lost.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There has to be a connection the banter the laughs and jokes and nothing seedy it's not going to happen in one or two messages

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There has to be a connection the banter the laughs and jokes and nothing seedy it's not going to happen in one or two messages "

Three message rule

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because when it boils down to it. Meeting people on fab is quite low on the list of things that I have to do

When I do get free time it's usually last minute and a lot of women can't do last minute because they also have more important things to do

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There has to be a connection the banter the laughs and jokes and nothing seedy it's not going to happen in one or two messages

Three message rule

Might even be four

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its all about attitude.

That's what it all boils down to.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Quite simple - the single male to female ratio is ridiculous.

500:1 last time I checked

So what? How can other men stop you from meeting?

Single female inboxes are constantly over flooded with messagesalong with some couples (who dont block single males)

So the odds on them actually reading your message is very slim let alone getting a reply due to the ratios.

Even worse when you do get a reply and strike up a conversation. Your messages can get lost since and therefore potentially your conversation gets lost. "

Sorry, I don't agree. People will respond to an interesting and well written message if they are interested in you. If a message is unimaginative and lacks a sense of social skill then it would be quite rightly ignored. Peoples time is valuable so ones message needs to be better than the "competition". Except, of course, no one is competing with anyone. It's too easy to blame things one has no control over, like other men for example, rather than change things to make the site work for oneself.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rNaughtyNickMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"There has to be a connection the banter the laughs and jokes and nothing seedy it's not going to happen in one or two messages "

Totally correct people who think their gonna get a meet after two messages are deluded.

You have to strike some sort of connection and chemistry but as I said when your inbox is constantly flooded trying to keep on topnof messages can be a nightmare.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There has to be a connection the banter the laughs and jokes and nothing seedy it's not going to happen in one or two messages

Three message rule

Platinum members only

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *educerMan over a year ago

Brentwood

As in most things in life, the more you put into something the more you will get out of it.....

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There has to be a connection the banter the laughs and jokes and nothing seedy it's not going to happen in one or two messages

Totally correct people who think their gonna get a meet after two messages are deluded.

You have to strike some sort of connection and chemistry but as I said when your inbox is constantly flooded trying to keep on topnof messages can be a nightmare. "

You have to stand out in the crowd be different

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Quite simple - the single male to female ratio is ridiculous.

500:1 last time I checked

So what? How can other men stop you from meeting?

Single female inboxes are constantly over flooded with messagesalong with some couples (who dont block single males)

So the odds on them actually reading your message is very slim let alone getting a reply due to the ratios.

Even worse when you do get a reply and strike up a conversation. Your messages can get lost since and therefore potentially your conversation gets lost.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rNaughtyNickMan over a year ago

Birmingham

The amount of unread messages that get left unread and deleted without being opened is absurd.

You read the forums and status with regards to the amount of unread messages and flooded inboxes is quite common.

Even on meets I have been told by women "oh ive got 100+ unread messages and dont have time to read them so im gonna just delete my inbox"

So how does the "interesting and well written message" get read ??

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If my interest in someone isn't reciprocated then it's probably because of a combination of the recipient not being into me, poor timing, and/or me acting like a bit of a bell end.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

The amount of unread messages that get left unread and deleted without being opened is absurd.

You read the forums and status with regards to the amount of unread messages and flooded inboxes is quite common.

Even on meets I have been told by women "oh ive got 100+ unread messages and dont have time to read them so im gonna just delete my inbox"

So how does the "interesting and well written message" get read ??

I think people forget there is a life outside of the forum, around half a million mails a day are sent , a lot of them from people who don't use the forum so I am sure lots of peoples mails will be overlooked, no matter how interesting it may be.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quite simple - the single male to female ratio is ridiculous.

500:1 last time I checked

So what? How can other men stop you from meeting?

Single female inboxes are constantly over flooded with messagesalong with some couples (who dont block single males)

So the odds on them actually reading your message is very slim let alone getting a reply due to the ratios.

Even worse when you do get a reply and strike up a conversation. Your messages can get lost since and therefore potentially your conversation gets lost. "

I have to disagree somewhat. I look at all my messages and respond to anyone I like the look of.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because I don't message

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most likely because I don't drive and can't really host either . . . Sometimes being a student sucks

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The amount of unread messages that get left unread and deleted without being opened is absurd.

You read the forums and status with regards to the amount of unread messages and flooded inboxes is quite common.

Even on meets I have been told by women "oh ive got 100+ unread messages and dont have time to read them so im gonna just delete my inbox"

So how does the "interesting and well written message" get read ??

I think from a single males point of view the messaging system is basically broken and almost a waste of time when it comes to making initial contact. I do ok on here but not usually by messaging Women, I find it's better to use other parts of the site to get noticed and let those who are interested contact me.

One thing I think stops guys getting meets is coming over desperate. Desperation isn't attractive and you can tell the guys who are using the site when they're horny and thinking with their cock.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do okay for meets. I don't have a specific tactic but do message anyone who fabs a pic of mine and try to be original(-ish) when messaging. Not being grumpy and not taking it all too seriously goes a long way.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

It's really not hard to get meets off here if you want them, without lowering your standards or any of that bullshit.

I honestly don't know why blokes struggle.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm too good looking, ladies are intimated

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan over a year ago

Simple really,

The ones I would like to meet wouldn't meet me, Well 99% of them

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Simple really,

The ones I would like to meet wouldn't meet me, Well 99% of them

Welcome to the too good looking club

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I post joke threads about having STI's

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

It's mainly geography that works against me

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because I deliberately try to repel others now

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Because I deliberately try to repel others now"

What a lovely avatar you have....

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good question.. Let me just wipe my tears before answering...

To be honest, I think most of it is down to luck. As somebody mentioned inbox messages from guys must be ridiculous so most must get brushed over.. That's what I tell my ego anyway

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's always blokes that can "charm the birds from the trees" so I suppose this place is full of them as well, b*****ds!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because I deliberately try to repel others now

What a lovely avatar you have....

My arse

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Because I deliberately try to repel others now

What a lovely avatar you have....

My arse

Looks nice and clear.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to do well on this site on my last acc.

Was never really big inyo sex talk starus updates was alwas a good first message cause the woman are like telling you what they want your message to be about.

The knockbacks and rejection really did get me down tho you didnt even think of the good it was all just bad.

Was changing me even after coming back on this site i wqs still passive aggressive but a month ago i just admitted it im not cut out for this game.

Im in a really good place atm like a weight off my shoulders.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Im not Shor .......

It's ever no one is interested

Im just to far away.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I suspect it's a combination if looks, attitude and personality.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suspect it's a combination if looks, attitude and personality."

I agree. I have to rely that someone might actually like me.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If your unlucky on this site why do you think that is.

Lots of guys do seem to get meets and there not all brad pitt so what is it do you think"

1. I'm 46. An awful lot of people have 45 as a cut-off point, it seems.

2. I'm bi

3. I'm married (albeit divorcing)

4. I'm not playing as a couple

5. I'm overweight

6. I tend to look over profiles and decide that I wouldn't be what they're looking for, so don't end up approaching anyone much.

7. And most importantly, I think, I have no verifications. I've met people on here, but they've either been women who prefer not to leave them and have asked me not to, or men who like playing with other men, but prefer to appear to be straight. I have verifications on fabguys, but that takes us back to point 2.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *evonshireboyMan over a year ago

North Devon

Because I gave up messaging people.

I got fed up of spending ages writing a message and then it never even getting read.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Too impatient?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Too impatient?"

Too ugly

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lt's all about what you are willing to accept as a man. You need to be willing to be treated like trash by some. Paying quadruple what and women and couples pay, demanding you meet right now etc. Making YOU jump though the hoops when everyone is equal. Doing what you are told essentially l the ''The non-pushy guy'' archetype.

As a result l am very very rarely looking for a meet. And only with girls that don't have this attitude.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suspect it's a combination if looks, attitude and personality."

Thats me f**ked

, and not in a good way

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are always going to be men on Fab who miss out, because of the sheer numbers. I've said this many times before, but it is mathematically impractical/impossible for all men to get a sexual meet via Fab. Unless the men are expecting us women to be servicing the men 24/7! Now there's an idea - join an orderly queue guys and someone will get to you eventually if you are patient

. Seriously, it is true that some guys seem to hold the monopoly on meets, so they must have something that most don't have.

Mrs

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *duk70Man over a year ago

langley

1. I'm 46. An awful lot of people have 45 as a cut-off point, it seems.

2. I can't accommodate

3. I'm married albeit playing discreetly with her knowledge. Long story.

4. I'm not playing as a couple

5. I'm slightly overweight

6. I tend to look over profiles and decide that I wouldn't be what they're looking for, so don't end up approaching anyone much.

7. And most importantly, I think, I have no verifications. I was here before but left to have a break and decide not to just hide my profile so veris went.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lt's all about what you are willing to accept as a man. You need to be willing to be treated like trash by some. Paying quadruple what and women and couples pay, demanding you meet right now etc. Making YOU jump though the hoops when everyone is equal. Doing what you are told essentially l the ''The non-pushy guy'' archetype.

As a result l am very very rarely looking for a meet. And only with girls that don't have this attitude.

I won't bow to reduculous demands from anyone, they can do their own bloody dishes

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im not Shor .......

It's ever no one is interested

Im just to far away."

I,m interested, you're too far away, if I lived in your area I would love to meet you XXX

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If your unlucky on this site why do you think that is.

Lots of guys do seem to get meets and there not all brad pitt so what is it do you think"

I think most people have touched on the main reasons but it also depends on what you mean by 'unkucky'. Fab offers me few meets... Why? Because I don't approach people on here, they'll find me. That's not unlucky is it,thats just being available and open to the possibility of meeting some great people.

For the guys who are unlucky, well I feel for them. Taking ages to write messages that are just deleted, expected to jump through hoops, expected to lower standards (regardless of what you think someone's standards should be), expected to pay hotel costs or expenses.. The list goes on.

And I think that those that do get lots of meets are the ones that got lucky a couple of times. Once you are in the click and get a couple of veris then your profile naturally grows in stature... You then start to inevitably leave to other profiles behind in your area.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I notice that a lot of men on this thread have stated that a lot of their messages go unread. You are probably wrong in that assumption as you know we can read the first few lines without opening the message and 'good morning, how are you' does get really tedious, plus I always look at a profile first.......it's not my fault that most men seem to think a one liner will suffice and will have the women flocking to them with their knickers round their ankles

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

I'm a cross between Rick Waller and the elephant man.

But I'm beating them off with a shitty stick

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I notice that a lot of men on this thread have stated that a lot of their messages go unread. You are probably wrong in that assumption as you know we can read the first few lines without opening the message and 'good morning, how are you' does get really tedious, plus I always look at a profile first.......it's not my fault that most men seem to think a one liner will suffice and will have the women flocking to them with their knickers round their ankles

Can see where I've being going wrong now

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

1. I'm 46. An awful lot of people have 45 as a cut-off point, it seems.

2. I can't accommodate

3. I'm married albeit playing discreetly with her knowledge. Long story.

4. I'm not playing as a couple

5. I'm slightly overweight

6. I tend to look over profiles and decide that I wouldn't be what they're looking for, so don't end up approaching anyone much.

7. And most importantly, I think, I have no verifications. I was here before but left to have a break and decide not to just hide my profile so veris went.

Oi!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do the guys who do get many meets feel they're treading water in the deep end though?

I was surprised anyone actually agreed to meet me at all, and my astonishment stems from posts from other people in the forums.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do the guys who do get many meets feel they're treading water in the deep end though?

I was surprised anyone actually agreed to meet me at all, and my astonishment stems from posts from other people in the forums.

Well, when you hold a gun to their head you're not really giving them a lot of options

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do the guys who do get many meets feel they're treading water in the deep end though?

I was surprised anyone actually agreed to meet me at all, and my astonishment stems from posts from other people in the forums.

Well, when you hold a gun to their head you're not really giving them a lot of options

I hold my weapon in their mouth

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you send out enough invites to the party in your pants, someone is bound to RSVP.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you send out enough invites to the party in your pants, someone is bound to RSVP."

How many more do I need to send to you? Help me out?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do the guys who do get many meets feel they're treading water in the deep end though?

I was surprised anyone actually agreed to meet me at all, and my astonishment stems from posts from other people in the forums.

I'd meet you

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do the guys who do get many meets feel they're treading water in the deep end though?

I was surprised anyone actually agreed to meet me at all, and my astonishment stems from posts from other people in the forums.

I'd meet you

Yes!

*fist pump.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had male friends tell me in the past when they stopped actively looking for meets & started interacting more in the forums / chat rooms / uploading pics they did an awful lot better as a result.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had male friends tell me in the past when they stopped actively looking for meets & started interacting more in the forums / chat rooms / uploading pics they did an awful lot better as a result.

I've always been active in the forum, but I think perhaps that's the problem.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've always been active in the forum, but I think perhaps that's the problem.

I've thought this too. It's all complicated isn't it.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Massive dick

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I'm Brad Pitt

I would

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Veris. I was on here previously with local meets and veris from people no longer on here. Now I am back with no veris its harder to get meets.

Although the opportunity is there if I get off my lazy arse and onto a motorway but I wont drive hours either. Catch 22.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Massive dick"

I'm sure you're not that bad

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

not really trying.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can't please everyone anyway, when I first joined a year ago getting the first veri was a nightmare and nobody would meet me without one. 11 months later and now my verifications are approaching 20 there are women who won't meet me because I have too many!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's really not hard to get meets off here if you want them, without lowering your standards or any of that bullshit.

I honestly don't know why blokes struggle."

Because most blokes have an almost complete inability to hold a reasonable conversation.

I've seen with my own eyes some of the messages that get sent.

My first message is usually something light and slightly witty and that will do "ok" for a single guy on here.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Genuinely wish I knew, send polite messages and when rejected never send vile response, just say "okay, thank you for the time to message me".

Although that said I've got a feeling that must women go for the "cigarette smoking leather clad motor biker rebel, shag " em and leave 'em types" rather than the honest caring blokes, namely yours truly.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"I suspect it's a combination if looks, attitude and personality."

Geography also helps

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I've been relatively successful because I dont try too hard... its only sex after all!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"You can't please everyone anyway, when I first joined a year ago getting the first veri was a nightmare and nobody would meet me without one. 11 months later and now my verifications are approaching 20 there are women who won't meet me because I have too many!"

I agree with you here; "Sorry you're too active for me" I've received a few times

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ed wineMan over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

I do not think that get meets, as a general basis, is a question of luck.

Not at all...

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

I've always been active in the forum, but I think perhaps that's the problem.

I've thought this too. It's all complicated isn't it. "

Guys; the girls read these posts so for God's sake don't mention the 'C' word or the wrath of the Sisterhood will be upon you

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just use this site for the forum. I am on another site for meets

"
what's this other site called i think it time to try something else

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've recently joined so I believe once I get settled all will be well

Stay positive guys!!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Genuinely wish I knew, send polite messages and when rejected never send vile response, just say "okay, thank you for the time to message me".

Are we in the 1950's?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

"Genuinely wish I knew, send polite messages and when rejected never send vile response, just say "okay, thank you for the time to message me".

Are we in the 1950's? "

Just beat me to it, priceless

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Genuinely wish I knew, send polite messages and when rejected never send vile response, just say "okay, thank you for the time to message me".

Are we in the 1950's?

Just beat me to it, priceless

By 2hrs 53 minutes!

priceless

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The site is what you make it

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The site is what you make it

Exactly... we're not all useless at getting meets

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I've recently joined so I believe once I get settled all will be well

Stay positive guys!!"

Oh my!

Yes I don't think you will have any problem getting meets

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My biggest reason for not getting meets is the fact I'm married, second to that is where I'm based, as it's at least an hour away from any real civilisation!

It's a lot better here in the summer though

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This site it unpredictable, one week I will have plenty of options another day (today for example) is as dry as a bone.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This site it unpredictable, one week I will have plenty of options another day (today for example) is as dry as a bone."

I love having options.

I also love it dry as a bone.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oul BrothaMan over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

Because I'm hideously ugly and single men are ten a penny.

Probably more the former than the latter lol.

I've had some good feedback and meets in clubs. On the site, no luck.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been lucky, so most ladies on here just like a bit banter having a laugh with them, listen to what they like or what they would like out of the meet that's why I find socials or good

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

My problem is that I cant accommodate as I live with parents

So it's either clubs or hotels and that puts people off

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *he Original TTMan over a year ago

Brackley, Northants

[Removed by poster at 22/04/17 12:50:54]

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *he Original TTMan over a year ago

Brackley, Northants

"1. I'm 47. As others have said, people have 45 as a cut-off point, but others don't. Many others.

2. I can accommodate - this is a big plus. Many potential meets will not meet someone that can't as it can indicate 'playing away from home' (which I actually have no issue with, in spite of finding my ex-wife doing exactly that. It's how I discovered FAB!!)

3. I'm slightly overweight - big deal. Some women like 'em cuddly!

4. I had a mindset for a while that I wouldn't be up to par for some women/couples, so I didn't bother to contact them. Big mistake to make, and I have gone back to my original theory on here - if you don't even try, you will never know.

5. I have plenty of good veris - admittedly not all recent, and many are from socials. But it does show I am a real person, and willing to meet.

6. Pics. No public stick waving (in underwear though, yes - it's a good tease!). Face pics - mine are public, others may want theirs private, but at least have *one* that you can send in a message guys!! Variety - Mine are definitely varied! Full length body, clothed and not, torso, face, nether regions, bum (cheeky!) all there and all add to create a more rounded view of me.

7. I am just a 'Mr Average' on here - not a VWE, an Adonis, or an oil painting (well, maybe a Picasso!). Normal, average length with a bit of girth in the trouser department, balding, yes, but close cropped so no so obvious (besides, isn't it supposed to be a sign of virility?), a little excess fat (or love handles)

But you know what - none of that matters. Someone out there is looking for exactly that.

8. A sense of humour (well, allegedly) and that seems to help tremendously!

8. Decorum and decency - I am not about to write a message to someone that says "Fancy a shag luv?"... No, I take a more considered approach, think carefully what I am going to write, perhaps based around something on the recipient's profile, and carefully worded with grammar and spelling carefully checked (I know it shouldn't matter, and I never judge others on it, but many will)

It is surprising how many guys will still scatter bomb the site with cut-and-paste messages! Doesn't help your cause, especially if you later go back to re-message one of those poor people that endured that....!

TL;DR version - be polite, and try!!

I should also add that I *DO* get meets, this is more of an assist post...!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"
see this is also interesting. Although they stopped messaging they became proactive elsewhere

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

This thread has been very interesting. Thanks for your responses AND it stayed on topic.

Heres my twopence worth.

First lines of messages can be read without opening a message.

We can scroll down and see which ones catch our eye.

Be proactive use all the site has to offer not just message system.

Theres a meet and parties section, always socials going off for that elusive verification.

Dont try to hard. Be fun, chatty.

If your a decent person without being ott it opens doors.

If people are just going to sit back and expect it to come to them it wont happen.

It also takes effort for a woman as well.

Its a huge site. Not everyone spends there time in hot pictures or is 25.

Im an average looking 52 year old woman so i guess im probably way down the line.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This thread has been very interesting. Thanks for your responses AND it stayed on topic.

Heres my twopence worth.

First lines of messages can be read without opening a message.

We can scroll down and see which ones catch our eye.

Be proactive use all the site has to offer not just message system.

Theres a meet and parties section, always socials going off for that elusive verification.

Dont try to hard. Be fun, chatty.

If your a decent person without being ott it opens doors.

If people are just going to sit back and expect it to come to them it wont happen.

It also takes effort for a woman as well.

Its a huge site. Not everyone spends there time in hot pictures or is 25.

Im an average looking 52 year old woman so i guess im probably way down the line.

Not as far down the line as you'd think!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In black and white I think I come across as slightly awkward but in the flesh I'm a lot more emotional and confident.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just too damn lazy.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *he Original TTMan over a year ago

Brackley, Northants

[Removed by poster at 22/04/17 14:16:06]

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure why I've not had any meets, the amount of men compared to women doesn't help as the women basically have far to much to choose from lol I've been here 4 years and rewritten my profile loads of times thinking it might help but still had no luck lol still hopefull though other wise I wouldn't still be here

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rNaughtyNickMan over a year ago

Birmingham

Lots of food for thought with this thread

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Lots of food for thought with this thread

"
do you think you will look at doing things differently?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *londieddWoman over a year ago

fife

"Quite simple - the single male to female ratio is ridiculous.

500:1 last time I checked

So what? How can other men stop you from meeting?

Single female inboxes are constantly over flooded with messagesalong with some couples (who dont block single males)

So the odds on them actually reading your message is very slim let alone getting a reply due to the ratios.

Even worse when you do get a reply and strike up a conversation. Your messages can get lost since and therefore potentially your conversation gets lost.

one? are you Prince Charles?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Quite simple - the single male to female ratio is ridiculous.

500:1 last time I checked

So what? How can other men stop you from meeting?

Single female inboxes are constantly over flooded with messagesalong with some couples (who dont block single males)

So the odds on them actually reading your message is very slim let alone getting a reply due to the ratios.

Even worse when you do get a reply and strike up a conversation. Your messages can get lost since and therefore potentially your conversation gets lost.

one? are you Prince Charles?"

He torks proper dun he? Let's get im!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In black and white I think I come across as slightly awkward but in the flesh I'm a lot more emotional and confident.

I'm with you on that one messaging I'm no good, I'm better in person.

I do try be funny my opening joke.

"The elephant says to the naked man it's cute but can it pick up peanuts"

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't really try. The last message I sent was 4 weeks ago. Which is 4 years in sex time.

I think there's not many options in my area tbh

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Im not Shor .......

It's ever no one is interested

Im just to far away.

I,m interested, you're too far away, if I lived in your area I would love to meet you XXX"

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think its a case of persistence and being in the right place at the right time.

Especially when you're up against 1000+ messages

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rNaughtyNickMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"Think its a case of persistence and being in the right place at the right time."

Persistence is another word for pest and in that case you could see yourself being blocked quite often too.

As mentioned before there is no fail safe answer in getting meets. Just put yourself out there and hope for the best.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I also think guys need a good selection of decent pictures

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Quite simple - the single male to female ratio is ridiculous.

500:1 last time I checked

So what? How can other men stop you from meeting?

Single female inboxes are constantly over flooded with messagesalong with some couples (who dont block single males)

So the odds on them actually reading your message is very slim let alone getting a reply due to the ratios.

Even worse when you do get a reply and strike up a conversation. Your messages can get lost since and therefore potentially your conversation gets lost.

one? are you Prince Charles?

He torks proper dun he? Let's get im!

*sigh*

. If you scroll carefully through a forum post on the Scotland forum a lot of weeks ago, you'll see that I wrote it on Scottish dialect and I got comments on that too. I thought it would make it easier to read. I can't help the way I talk but I guess I can change the way I type stuff - ere' ya go, mucker, gerrin there

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv never had a msg haha

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have standards

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

"It's really not hard to get meets off here if you want them, without lowering your standards or any of that bullshit.

I honestly don't know why blokes struggle.

Because most blokes have an almost complete inability to hold a reasonable conversation.

I've seen with my own eyes some of the messages that get sent.

My first message is usually something light and slightly witty and that will do "ok" for a single guy on here.

I've dated a woman from here and I saw her inbox.... I've never seen so many talking penises....

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oluptuousWetOneWoman over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"Quite simple - the single male to female ratio is ridiculous.

500:1 last time I checked

so why is there a lot of guys on here who are successful then and as i said they dont all look like brad pitt"

Exactly to easy putting it down to ratio

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If your unlucky on this site why do you think that is.

Lots of guys do seem to get meets and there not all brad pitt so what is it do you think"

It's all the non genuine guys ruining it for the genuine ones

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rNaughtyNickMan over a year ago

Birmingham

It's all the non genuine guys ruining it for the genuine ones

This is too true with the time wasters, no shows and fakes etc.. Just makes it more difficult for the genuine guys.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"My biggest reason for not getting meets is the fact I'm married, second to that is where I'm based, as it's at least an hour away from any real civilisation!

It's a lot better here in the summer though "

I feel your pain mate! The times I read "Oh you're so lucky to live where you do! It's beautiful there! But too far from me. Good luck hon! xx"

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Crawley

"If your unlucky on this site why do you think that is.

Lots of guys do seem to get meets and there not all brad pitt so what is it do you think"

I'm sure my profile needs some work, I take a crap photo and don't come across particularly well online. I'm really just here to stay in touch with folks I meet in clubs. Club scene works great for me.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

Geography besides, the definitive points against success in here;

1 Unable to accommodate

2 Unable to meet last minute

3 Over the age of 45

4 Under 6ft tall

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *arrasicMan over a year ago

birmingham

I think men on here are way upmarket for most women on here and don't really get what thay looking for.but lots of men make the women seem like godeses wow your gorgeous way your so buitifull wow wow wow .No thay no better than the men just act like it

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *eady and Willing 9Man over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Lack of patience

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you seen me? Is there any wonder I don't get meets

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Geography besides, the definitive points against success in here;

1 Unable to accommodate

2 Unable to meet last minute

3 Over the age of 45

4 Under 6ft tall

With you on the height one. Think that's my biggest failure, if that can be considered a failing.

I still get a fair amount of meets but think I would get quite a lot more if a bit taller

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you seen me? Is there any wonder I don't get meets "

You look like a nice guy.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm only available to meet on a full moon.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rNaughtyNickMan over a year ago

Birmingham

You'd think that with the following attributes

Being under 40

6ft

Full set of hair

Slim & Gym fit

Able to accommodate

I'd tick a lot of boxes for most ladies and couples for meets but apparently this is not the case.

But hey everyone has their preference x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *imonP23Man over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

I find that most of the messages I send never get read, and most of those that DO get read are then immediately deleted. That only leaves a small number that get read and not deleted, but I never get replies (yes, I am polite: no, I don't send dick pics). The best luck I've ever had from FabSwingers was when a woman in my area took the initiative and contacted me: we met for a coffee and a chat, and she gave me the impression that she'd like to take it further, but nothing more came of it.

The main reason seems to be that I am a married man (with kids) trapped in a sexless marriage, my wife lost all interest in sex years ago. We seem to be even further down the pecking order than single guys. From the few replies I've gained from other sites, even women who claim to be polyamorous and into "open relationships" won't go anywhere near us, for reasons that are still unclear to me. Some say they don't want to be responsible for "breaking up a marriage", even though my ability to get sex elsewhere is what's allowing my marriage to continue! But it means that I have to pay for sex (which isn't exactly helping the family finances).

In addition to prejudice against married "cheaters", there is a time/distance constraint. While my wife told me to look elsewhere for sex, she also made it quite clear that she didn't want to know what I was up to, so I have to do this in secret. I typically book an afternoon off work when I see an escort, but ideally I want a fuckbuddy I can see after work on a typical weekday, and then not get home too late afterwards. I'm in rural Somerset, about halfway between Bath and Yeovil, and could just about manage either of those, but central Bristol is just too far... and that seems to be where all the action is around here. For the same reason, I generally can't attend social events, which tend to be at weekends or too late in the evening.

And, yes, I also have to admit that I am too picky for my own good. I prefer young, slim women: the handful of reasonably local ladies tend to be too old or too large for my preferences. I'd be prepared to compromise somewhat (the lady I had coffee with was well into middle-age, but slim and fit), but I still have Adultwork's escorts to fall back on: while my budget is sadly limited, at least I can occasionally afford a choice of escorts who meet any requirements I have. Groucho Marx once said that he'd never consider joining any club that would accept him as a member: I have a similar curse, the only women I like are out of my league. I did briefly succeed in finding a girlfriend (a slim, attractive 22-year old black girl on the southern edge of Bristol), but then she met someone probably closer to her own age, and lost interest in me.

I've come to see this as rather like playing the lottery, except that it's free: I no longer have any realistic expectation of meeting anyone, but I might as well try, you just never know. Constant rejection does get draining after awhile, but then I just take a break from this and maybe see an extra escort instead. And that would be my advice to anyone else in this situation: don't become too hopeful of success, but accept that you can "cheat" by paying for sex if failure is getting you down. It IS essentially like playing the lottery, as the main benefit would be financial: no longer having to pay out money that I can't really afford. If I ever do succeed, I hope she'd want to carry on seeing me regularly!

But there are some things that I just don't get to do. I'd like to get into bondage (giving or receiving), but few escorts are equipped to deliver that in a hotel room, and it can be time-consuming: I find it hard to relax and enjoy it when I know it's costing me around £2 per minute! And even fewer escorts will trust a client enough to allow herself to be tied up (I have done this with a regular who trusts me, but the only props we had were a hotel bed and a couple of ropes, it was a bit awkward). I quite like the idea of being naked, tied up, and "sexually abused" at a hen party or similar all-female gathering, but hiring a dozen escorts for that would blow my budget for a year! Women have a huge advantage there: if you're female and your fantasy involves men, finding keen volunteers is generally not difficult, and you won't have to pay them...

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" ........But I know how to communicate, know how to write a decent profile and as mucg as I hate the word, I'm genuine. So I can accommodate, I;m flexxible and potential meets aren;t limited to tiny wondows of opportunity. I think those are significant reasons why I used to do well"

...and there it is, especially the first bit... Communicate.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's all the non genuine guys ruining it for the genuine ones

This is too true with the time wasters, no shows and fakes etc.. Just makes it more difficult for the genuine guys."

No it doesn't. It makes 'genuine' guys more easily available.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find that most of the messages I send never get read, and most of those that DO get read are then immediately deleted. That only leaves a small number that get read and not deleted, but I never get replies (yes, I am polite: no, I don't send dick pics). The best luck I've ever had from FabSwingers was when a woman in my area took the initiative and contacted me: we met for a coffee and a chat, and she gave me the impression that she'd like to take it further, but nothing more came of it.

What the absolute fuck ??!!!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If your unlucky on this site why do you think that is.

Lots of guys do seem to get meets and there not all brad pitt so what is it do you think"

I'd say my reasons for lack of success are the fact my job prevents me from being able to plan anything as I never know where I will be from one day to the next and short-notice/same-day meets seem to be rather unpopular,I can only meet in the evening due to work,I don't meet on Friday nights or weekends as it's the only time I see my children and I'm not cutting short my time with them for anybody,and I'm a munter

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Too awesome tbh.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oul BrothaMan over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

"Too awesome tbh."

I feel your pain brother

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have posted several meets in last 18 months and got little response let alone a guy to turn up other than holding a party doubt we will be posting for guys in future

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Too awesome tbh.

I feel your pain brother"

Cuts deep.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think women are too afraid of me, they think they'll fall in straight in love me and that scares them. Sometimes my sexual prowess is more of a curse than a gift

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

TBH I very rarely message new people the people I message is people I have met in clubs

I should message more people

I have decent veris

Mixtures of pictures

More than one line profile

I am just crap at asking people to have sex pmsl

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good question op

For me my pics are not the greatest ,being honest I've never liked having my pic taken

I'm 47

I'm not gym fit

I've a dad bod ,

but I don't moan ,I understand how many men are on here so instead of being an inbox pest I've got patience and I'm sure if I interest any lady she'll nudge me a wink or let me know

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What the absolute fuck ??!!!

Urmmm...what??!!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Funny how the thread changed from 'why don't you get meets' to guys boasting about how many meets they get.

Why don't you get meets?

I've read that some people don't read messages past the little preview that comes up. You could be missing a gem there, and do you also delete it if they've got a pic attached?

Geography plays a part - some places are quieter than others. Some places are weirder - London couples seems to have very similar tastes which gets boring when you look through them.

It's not difficult for women to meet on here, so we can be (and are) picky.

Some are unnecessarily mean to guys and others play the 'I've still got it', taking the compliments because they're feeling down or whatever.

Guys, come across as nice, read the profile, send more than a few words and a picture also helps.

When it comes to geography, you'll just have to sat you'll travel.

Good luck!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *imonP23Man over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Um, yes, not sure what to make of that reaction!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Very honest, but also why marrieds are undesirable on here, time constraints, can only meet when your able to sneak away, clock watching etc and I could go on, so your right rather than complaining about the women on fab, do what suits your time and pocket and if that means paying for it then do so

Rather than trying to make the females of fab act or feel like free prostitutes, do the best you can with both profiles and message but also be honest. A free site does not implicate easy sex and the more men that understand this the better and may even cut down on the follow up abusive messages when women do say a 'thanks but no thanks'

This is why I now just ignore people I am not interested in as I have been accused of being up my own arse......and this is from men I have never even spoke to never mind rejected

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Quite simple - the single male to female ratio is ridiculous.

500:1 last time I checked

So what? How can other men stop you from meeting?

Single female inboxes are constantly over flooded with messagesalong with some couples (who dont block single males)

So the odds on them actually reading your message is very slim let alone getting a reply due to the ratios.

Even worse when you do get a reply and strike up a conversation. Your messages can get lost since and therefore potentially your conversation gets lost. "

See my comment above

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"Funny how the thread changed from 'why don't you get meets' to guys boasting about how many meets they get.

Why don't you get meets?

I've read that some people don't read messages past the little preview that comes up. You could be missing a gem there, and do you also delete it if they've got a pic attached?

Geography plays a part - some places are quieter than others. Some places are weirder - London couples seems to have very similar tastes which gets boring when you look through them.

It's not difficult for women to meet on here, so we can be (and are) picky.

Some are unnecessarily mean to guys and others play the 'I've still got it', taking the compliments because they're feeling down or whatever.

Guys, come across as nice, read the profile, send more than a few words and a picture also helps.

When it comes to geography, you'll just have to say you'll travel.

Good luck!"

Geography bites it's true; I do feel that I live in a quiet area, and although I am prepared to travel, few people have the patience to wait for me to arrive. Thanks for your positive comments though

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

This is why I now just ignore people I am not interested in as I have been accused of being up my own arse......and this is from men I have never even spoke to never mind rejected

Well you're in luck, as there's a ship full of guys with time to kill in your harbour right now! Have a wander down and chance your arm lol

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

This is why I now just ignore people I am not interested in as I have been accused of being up my own arse......and this is from men I have never even spoke to never mind rejected

Well you're in luck, as there's a ship full of guys with time to kill in your harbour right now! Have a wander down and chance your arm lol

I'll have to get my price list in order before I head down there! Will have to increase the average price as we have had snow today, so they will have to pay extra for my bravery for bracing the cold, as this is not my home town

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably coz there's a ratio of around 20 guys to 1 woman!!!! You have the power ladies lol

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Probably coz there's a ratio of around 20 guys to 1 woman!!!! You have the power ladies lol

And why men should up their game! #just saying

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

This is why I now just ignore people I am not interested in as I have been accused of being up my own arse......and this is from men I have never even spoke to never mind rejected

Well you're in luck, as there's a ship full of guys with time to kill in your harbour right now! Have a wander down and chance your arm lol

They haven't been paid for months lol, I wouldn't raise your prices too much

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

But I know how to communicate, know how to write a decent profile and as much as I hate the word, I'm genuine. So I can accommodate, I;m flexible and potential meets aren't;t limited to tiny windows of opportunity. I think those are significant reasons why I used to do well"

I love your skirt and paddle (

)Dont think what is underneath is that bad either

if my memory serves me right.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"Probably coz there's a ratio of around 20 guys to 1 woman!!!! You have the power ladies lol

And why men should up their game! #just saying "

I think the best tip was the opening line of your message, which can be viewed without opening the mail, those first four or five words make all the difference apparently......

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I ask myself that question every single time I am on this site! XD

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Probably coz there's a ratio of around 20 guys to 1 woman!!!! You have the power ladies lol

And why men should up their game! #just saying

I think the best tip was the opening line of your message, which can be viewed without opening the mail, those first four or five words make all the difference apparently......

We read a profile before reading a message, we think a lot of people do that.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Well there we go.......read and take note: good profile, good photos, good messages means a good time. Be patient, be respectful, be your normal self. If you're not getting any sex just enjoy the rest of the site and swinging community - go to a social and get to know people in the flesh if you're crap at messaging. If I can do it the. So can you. Happy Swinging!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Huh!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"Probably coz there's a ratio of around 20 guys to 1 woman!!!! You have the power ladies lol

And why men should up their game! #just saying

I think the best tip was the opening line of your message, which can be viewed without opening the mail, those first four or five words make all the difference apparently......

We read a profile before reading a message, we think a lot of people do that. "

Not everyone does; the amount of times I've struck up a great dialogue with someone, over a period of days, to receive the "You're married? I don't meet marrieds!"

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)