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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I see this in messages a lot. I never know how to reply.. 'Actually no sorry, I like to tell everyone I know who I've met and show them the photographic evidence' 
What daft questions do you get asked on here or elsewhere? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More often I read this more as an intention to ascertain if I am conduicive to interacting with someone who may be partnered where there partner is unaware, rather than an actual query as to how blatantly public I am with my dalliances. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"More often I read this more as an intention to ascertain if I am conduicive to interacting with someone who may be partnered where there partner is unaware, rather than an actual query as to how blatantly public I am with my dalliances. "
Ohhh.. Then they should just say 'look, I'm cheating on my partner, yay or nay?'  |
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"More often I read this more as an intention to ascertain if I am conduicive to interacting with someone who may be partnered where there partner is unaware, rather than an actual query as to how blatantly public I am with my dalliances. "
Absolutely , we see it the same way .
We often get messages which say ' can we be discreet as I like to keep my private life separate ' , which is straight after we suggest meeting at a pub . It certainly s out the attached people when a public place is mentioned as a possible meeting place .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see this in messages a lot. I never know how to reply.. 'Actually no sorry, I like to tell everyone I know who I've met and show them the photographic evidence'
What daft questions do you get asked on here or elsewhere?"
Haha I've literally just had this and answered with the same  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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'How's fab treating you?'
Well seeing as you asked, it's terrible...I've been beaten, insulted, stood up, ignored, deleted and shagged senseless. Although not all at once.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you got a message from someone who could spell discreet properly?? wow! i've never had one of those....
.but i agree with some of the above, mention of discretion,along with 'honesty',seems to point to cheats more often than not.. |
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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago
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The funniest is when someone supposedly living in a house share asks me that, then refuses to accommodate because he has flatmates. When did UK house sharers stop having sex?? Where are the statistics on this?
Who announces "Oi, people in the house, and the neighbours next door, let it be known I am about to have sex with XYZ and I met him on a swinger site. Now where's the condoms.."
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"I see this in messages a lot. I never know how to reply.. 'Actually no sorry, I like to tell everyone I know who I've met and show them the photographic evidence'
What daft questions do you get asked on here or elsewhere?"
"where in Wexford are you?" -
Yes hello random stranger, let me give you my home address, I'm sure you're perfectly trustworthy and sane just because you said hi in a mail.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The funniest is when someone supposedly living in a house share asks me that, then refuses to accommodate because he has flatmates. When did UK house sharers stop having sex?? Where are the statistics on this?
Who announces "Oi, people in the house, and the neighbours next door, let it be known I am about to have sex with XYZ and I met him on a swinger site. Now where's the condoms.."
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I've never understood this. Sometimes I guess people share with a landlord and there are rules about bringing people home. But mostly people are "I share with my mates so we can't go there". Do your mates not know you enjoy sex? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'll be passing by at 6am if you're up for some fun.
Really? Passing by Yorkshire? All of it? Yes hang on, I'll set my alarm "
I get this but with Wales. I have a meeting in Wales tomorrow want to meet up? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get "free now?" a lot when I am once again sleepless in the wee small hours.
No. I am in bed trying to switch my brain off so I can sleep!!"
So what were you doing on Fab then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll be passing by at 6am if you're up for some fun.
Really? Passing by Yorkshire? All of it? Yes hang on, I'll set my alarm
I get this but with Wales. I have a meeting in Wales tomorrow want to meet up? "
Anybody would think they were on a swingers web site! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the context in my view and all is not black and white. Many with gender dysphoria use this in their profiles. I think most people are discreet but some are not. Do we trust everyone to be discreet? - just a thought but I just reply yes to answer your question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is that really you in your pictures?"
Yes I put pictures of random guys on my profile
Or "Would you play with my husband as well?"
Um...no my profile says straight, because I'm straight! |
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"The funniest is when someone supposedly living in a house share asks me that, then refuses to accommodate because he has flatmates. When did UK house sharers stop having sex?? Where are the statistics on this?
Who announces "Oi, people in the house, and the neighbours next door, let it be known I am about to have sex with XYZ and I met him on a swinger site. Now where's the condoms.."
I've never understood this. Sometimes I guess people share with a landlord and there are rules about bringing people home. But mostly people are "I share with my mates so we can't go there". Do your mates not know you enjoy sex?"
I have a lodger when I'm in London, who works for the same employer. I travel a lot for work so it's handy to have someone trustworthy to keep an eye on the place, when I'm away. However, the relationship does require me showing discretion with my play, especially if it involves meeting a couple. Life isn't always simple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see this in messages a lot. I never know how to reply.. 'Actually no sorry, I like to tell everyone I know who I've met and show them the photographic evidence'
What daft questions do you get asked on here or elsewhere?"
Yes you can...but may you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or "Would you play with my husband as well?"
Um...no my profile says straight, because I'm straight!
They actually ask you that?! "
It has been asked yeah |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
"'How's fab treating you?'
Well seeing as you asked, it's terrible...I've been beaten, insulted, stood up, ignored, deleted and shagged senseless. Although not all at once. "
I get this question a lot, too.
Please guys, mind your own business  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The funniest is when someone supposedly living in a house share asks me that, then refuses to accommodate because he has flatmates. When did UK house sharers stop having sex?? Where are the statistics on this?
Who announces "Oi, people in the house, and the neighbours next door, let it be known I am about to have sex with XYZ and I met him on a swinger site. Now where's the condoms.."
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I assume they don't want their mates or housemates knowing they fuck fat middle aged women, they met on the internet.
I have met men who share a house and said hello to the housemates. |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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I'm used to getting the messages at 4am on a weekend night which start out with "what you doing up so late" and progress to the male half of a couple saying "I'm trying to sort out a bird for MMF. Wanna pop over?"
Or I get "I'm on the c**e. You got any mate?" |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"More often I read this more as an intention to ascertain if I am conduicive to interacting with someone who may be partnered where there partner is unaware, rather than an actual query as to how blatantly public I am with my dalliances.
Absolutely , we see it the same way .
We often get messages which say ' can we be discreet as I like to keep my private life separate ' , which is straight after we suggest meeting at a pub . It certainly s out the attached people when a public place is mentioned as a possible meeting place .
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Socials in public are always good for that  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I'll be passing by at 6am if you're up for some fun.
Really? Passing by Yorkshire? All of it? Yes hang on, I'll set my alarm
I get this but with Wales. I have a meeting in Wales tomorrow want to meet up?
Anybody would think they were on a swingers web site! "
"Passing through Cornwall could pop over on my way through" ERM NO!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll be passing by at 6am if you're up for some fun.
Really? Passing by Yorkshire? All of it? Yes hang on, I'll set my alarm
I get this but with Wales. I have a meeting in Wales tomorrow want to meet up?
Anybody would think they were on a swingers web site!
"Passing through Cornwall could pop over on my way through" ERM NO!!! "
See that's a funny one, some of my favourite meets over the years are ones that I set up with someone when I was visiting the area on business |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"More often I read this more as an intention to ascertain if I am conduicive to interacting with someone who may be partnered where there partner is unaware, rather than an actual query as to how blatantly public I am with my dalliances.
Ohhh.. Then they should just say 'look, I'm cheating on my partner, yay or nay?' "
True story. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm used to getting the messages at 4am on a weekend night which start out with "what you doing up so late" and progress to the male half of a couple saying "I'm trying to sort out a bird for MMF. Wanna pop over?"
Or I get "I'm on the c**e. You got any mate?""
yeah I get what am I doing on here so early in the morning. Err if you wasn't also on here this early then you wouldn't know I am. So why are you also on here lol. Stupid question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'Can I ask you a question?'
No you just bloody did!  "
My stock reply to this is "my Rule is only question per correspondent a year; you've just used your quota". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or "Would you play with my husband as well?"
Um...no my profile says straight, because I'm straight!
They actually ask you that?! "
Yes....many do... Possibly the most common question I'm asked by couples. ..and I don't meet couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see this in messages a lot. I never know how to reply.. 'Actually no sorry, I like to tell everyone I know who I've met and show them the photographic evidence'
What daft questions do you get asked on here or elsewhere?
"where in Wexford are you?" -
Yes hello random stranger, let me give you my home address, I'm sure you're perfectly trustworthy and sane just because you said hi in a mail.... "
Haha i asked which bit only because i have a load of family in wexford |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Or "Would you play with my husband as well?"
Um...no my profile says straight, because I'm straight!
They actually ask you that?!
Yes....many do... Possibly the most common question I'm asked by couples. ..and I don't meet couples."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'How's fab treating you?'
Well seeing as you asked, it's terrible...I've been beaten, insulted, stood up, ignored, deleted and shagged senseless. Although not all at once. "
Exactly this!! I can't even bring myself to answer it anymore.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or "Would you play with my husband as well?"
Um...no my profile says straight, because I'm straight!
They actually ask you that?!
Yes....many do... Possibly the most common question I'm asked by couples. ..and I don't meet couples.
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yep...awkward. . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or "Would you play with my husband as well?"
Um...no my profile says straight, because I'm straight!
They actually ask you that?!
Yes....many do... Possibly the most common question I'm asked by couples. ..and I don't meet couples.
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I've had 3 winks just this morning off couples where the guy is bi. I don't even meet straight couples! |
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"I'm round your way this week, fancy meeting up?"
No mate you are not, because I'm not around 'my way'
"Your veris are great, how do I leave one like that?"
Once again...You don't
"I'd love to fill your holes"
Ideal, are you a builder? Can you do my loft conversion too? |
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I wish I could colour code my profile to show that I'm nodding off to a good night's sleep as, like many others, I get the late night/early morning shag demands
'Wanna suck me off and get fucked in 5 minutes?' Etc |
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I'm in no doubt that many have had the age old question of "what are you here for?" Well I figured I'd do my weekly shop and look at the interest rates on a ISA failing that I'll get baking shall I |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know your straight but......
Yes. This.
Ditto lol"
.....would you like to destroy my ass? (Not exactly this but, Something along those lines). That's an odd question to ask someone you don't know I think. |
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"I've had one offering £50 for me to bum him and cum on his face. I'm positive my profile says straight "
As I keep getting told by bi and gay guys.."I've fucked loads if straight men..you're no different". I bloody am.because I'm straight and those who you have fucked and sucked clearly aren't then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know your straight but......
Yes. This.
Ditto lol
.....would you like to destroy my ass? (Not exactly this but, Something along those lines). That's an odd question to ask someone you don't know I think. "
Would you though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see this in messages a lot. I never know how to reply.. 'Actually no sorry, I like to tell everyone I know who I've met and show them the photographic evidence'
What daft questions do you get asked on here or elsewhere?"
I just say don't worry i won't tell your husband |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get "free now?" a lot when I am once again sleepless in the wee small hours.
No. I am in bed trying to switch my brain off so I can sleep!!
So what were you doing on Fab then?"
Trying to bore myself to sleep |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'Wanna earn some cash?'- Insert winky face
Nobody as ever said that to me that's it I'm leaving the site"
Wanna earn some cash? I need a carpet fitted in my bedroom  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know your straight but......
Yes. This.
Ditto lol
.....would you like to destroy my ass? (Not exactly this but, Something along those lines). That's an odd question to ask someone you don't know I think.
Would you though?"
He didn't say what with......soooooo |
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"'How's fab treating you?'
Well seeing as you asked, it's terrible...I've been beaten, insulted, stood up, ignored, deleted and shagged senseless. Although not all at once.
Exactly this!! I can't even bring myself to answer it anymore. "
Actually I occasionally use this for an ice breaker, especially if someone's new. If you've been here a while I assume the answer's "pretty good actually", or else you wouldn't have stuck around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'How's fab treating you?'
Well seeing as you asked, it's terrible...I've been beaten, insulted, stood up, ignored, deleted and shagged senseless. Although not all at once. "
I usually reply to this with...im a single female on a swingers site...how do you think I'm getting on? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see this in messages a lot. I never know how to reply.. 'Actually no sorry, I like to tell everyone I know who I've met and show them the photographic evidence'
What daft questions do you get asked on here or elsewhere?"
I got asked by my clerk of works to dig a road up and be discreet about please.
Yeah sure, I won't make any noise or cause traffic congestion, of course I can be discreet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Threesome?
No thanks.
But your profile says you're curious about it, so are you?
There's plenty more than that in my profile. Don't ignore the rest of it. |
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"I see this in messages a lot. I never know how to reply.. 'Actually no sorry, I like to tell everyone I know who I've met and show them the photographic evidence'
What daft questions do you get asked on here or elsewhere?"
I get asked 'where are you?' on occasion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'Wanna earn some cash?'- Insert winky face
Nobody as ever said that to me that's it I'm leaving the site
Wanna earn some cash? I need a carpet fitted in my bedroom "
I will have to measure up your bedroom first is tomorrow any good |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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'Can I wank over your pictures?'
To which I reply knock yourself out.
The reply? 'Great heres my number, add me on Skype'
Nah mate.. I don't want to watch
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see this in messages a lot. I never know how to reply.. 'Actually no sorry, I like to tell everyone I know who I've met and show them the photographic evidence'
What daft questions do you get asked on here or elsewhere?"
lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'Can I wank over your pictures?'
To which I reply knock yourself out.
The reply? 'Great heres my number, add me on Skype'
Nah mate.. I don't want to watch
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Spoil sport!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'Can I wank over your pictures?'
To which I reply knock yourself out.
The reply? 'Great heres my number, add me on Skype'
Nah mate.. I don't want to watch
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I say no and block em just so they cant see them.. purely to be mean |
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"The funniest is when someone supposedly living in a house share asks me that, then refuses to accommodate because he has flatmates. When did UK house sharers stop having sex?? Where are the statistics on this?
Who announces "Oi, people in the house, and the neighbours next door, let it be known I am about to have sex with XYZ and I met him on a swinger site. Now where's the condoms.."
I've never understood this. Sometimes I guess people share with a landlord and there are rules about bringing people home. But mostly people are "I share with my mates so we can't go there". Do your mates not know you enjoy sex?"
Maybe it is a jealousy thing, they don't get it as often. |
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