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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you have any "hoops" on your profile that people must jump through in order to meet you?
And what "hoops" are people willing to jump through and which are definite no no's.
My only two hoops are that I need to see a face pic and I need a social meet first of all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah I'm not special enough to ask people to jump through hoops just to talk to me.
I wouldn't say asking for a face pic is a hoop though, you need to know if you're attracted to them or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With the amount of hoop's I usually have to jump through if I started setting too many hoop's for potential meets to also jump through it would turn into such a big hoopy mess I don't know how my winkie would ever make it anywhere near her foofoo.
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We like to see a face pic, have to be able to write a half decent message with out resorting to one or two worders and a fem to fem phone call just to prove we aren't some weirdo timewaster types.....that seems a lot of hoops actually lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only that we're compatible, can meet at convenient times. And share the same sense of humour. Either people want to meet us or not, don't see the merit in making people jump through hoops, doesn't make the meet better. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is haveing a social 1st a hoop ?
If not then no I have no hoops in my profile
And as this is not the army im not going to jump just cos sumone I've not met sed jump "
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A social before any naughties is my only requirement and a facepic swap before the social.
No pre-requisites before we have conversation other than one of us has to initiate it. I personally tend to be a little bit put off by people say 'type "XYZ" in the subject so I know you've read my profile' |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?"
I remember one couple profile saying they were looking for single men and that the single man had to pay for the hotel room and once they were done, he had to leave so they could have there own space. I don't think they was on here long |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?"
Oooh I saw that on a profile the other day! "I won't be paying for the Hotel" or words to that effect |
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?"
I insist on good coffee. Is that a hoop? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have any rules on my profile. But filters are on for newbies, non site supporters and anyone who isn't verified. I wish there was an option to block users that are only photo verified. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?"
I don't know if that's a hoop particularly but it's a recurring theme with my meets it seems and it's starting to piss me off.
It's not even all about the money but to not even offer to split bills is just rude in my opinion.
I tend to book nice hotels if meeting someone as I like a nice environment to relaxe in and taking it for granted that I will fit the whole bill particularly if there has been a meal + drinks involved is taking the piss a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?"
I'm not joining the marines or developing a six pack for anyone. Seems to be a common thing around here |
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"I don't have any rules on my profile. But filters are on for newbies, non site supporters and anyone who isn't verified. I wish there was an option to block users that are only photo verified."
Or looks from faceless wonders |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?"
No I always offer to pay halves. To me that seems fair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?
I remember one couple profile saying they were looking for single men and that the single man had to pay for the hotel room and once they were done, he had to leave so they could have there own space. I don't think they was on here long"
I remember that post, a real WTF moment but if someone is prepared to do that...... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?
I don't know if that's a hoop particularly but it's a recurring theme with my meets it seems and it's starting to piss me off.
It's not even all about the money but to not even offer to split bills is just rude in my opinion.
I tend to book nice hotels if meeting someone as I like a nice environment to relaxe in and taking it for granted that I will fit the whole bill particularly if there has been a meal + drinks involved is taking the piss a bit."
I was really talking about these demands being on profiles in the first place.
Do you not say anything about splitting the cost of the meal and hotel room? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?"
I'd never insist someone pays for everything! I just find it really, really demanding of anyone who does... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?
I remember one couple profile saying they were looking for single men and that the single man had to pay for the hotel room and once they were done, he had to leave so they could have there own space. I don't think they was on here long
I remember that post, a real WTF moment but if someone is prepared to do that......"
I remember a thread by a woman who was moaning about the men in Ireland being mean because they didn't bring her gifts when they met her.
She got slated on that thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?"
When I think of 'Demanding hoops' it conjures up a list of must do's / dont's / must haves on a profile, usually listed in capitals.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't have any rules on my profile. But filters are on for newbies, non site supporters and anyone who isn't verified. I wish there was an option to block users that are only photo verified.
Or looks from faceless wonders "
Yes this too.. I have people that don't have public photos filtered. Surely anyone that can't get past the filters, should be blocked from viewing our profiles too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a few things on our profile, don't see them has hoops though, we see them has helpful guides, "
Exactly
there's no.point in messaging someone that clearly wouldn't be interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't consider any of my requests to be hoops. I have my preferred types of men and what I want to do. If someone doesn't fit or do what I want I expect him to not contact me. Not dance like a monkey to my tune, for his reward. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?
I remember one couple profile saying they were looking for single men and that the single man had to pay for the hotel room and once they were done, he had to leave so they could have there own space. I don't think they was on here long
I remember that post, a real WTF moment but if someone is prepared to do that......
I remember a thread by a woman who was moaning about the men in Ireland being mean because they didn't bring her gifts when they met her.
She got slated on that thread "
lol. She wasn't a hook up, she was just a hooker. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No hard and fast hoops to jump through, if you pardon me mixing idioms, just: beautiful; auburn tousled hair; young; preferably financial independent; intelligent; sexually liberated; into mff threesomes; cordon blue cook; doesn't object if I'm late for a meet when I decide I want one.......but you know what women can be like on Fab because of the large female to male ratio, too choosy, seriously thinking of join a different site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do think i have hoops on my profile. I do have some prefrences and hope it doesnt come across too demanding. I do have some hoops/ goalposts in my head though that i like a guy to meet before i meet them x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?
I don't know if that's a hoop particularly but it's a recurring theme with my meets it seems and it's starting to piss me off.
It's not even all about the money but to not even offer to split bills is just rude in my opinion.
I tend to book nice hotels if meeting someone as I like a nice environment to relaxe in and taking it for granted that I will fit the whole bill particularly if there has been a meal + drinks involved is taking the piss a bit.
I was really talking about these demands being on profiles in the first place.
Do you not say anything about splitting the cost of the meal and hotel room? "
I'm a bit old fashioned I guess so don't feel comfortable asking a lady, it would just be nice if they offered. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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God Yes.
I am choosy and unapologetic!
I want them male, tall and attractive to me in both personality and looks!
Perhaps this is one reason why I meet rarely! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have our preferences stated because after many years of swinging we know exactly what we want
We wouldnt want guys to alter their preferences to suit us, we happily wait until the right guy appears |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't class them as hoops but God yes...
Black
Public pics on profile
Taller than me (I'm 5ft 8)
Sent a face pic and we find each other attractive
Meet in a club first for a social (club close to me does a free social night once a week from 7:30pm to 10pm which is perfect)
My 'hoops' Have somewhat changed over the years... I didn't usually mind a social meet in any public place first but some creep ruined that for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?
I don't know if that's a hoop particularly but it's a recurring theme with my meets it seems and it's starting to piss me off.
It's not even all about the money but to not even offer to split bills is just rude in my opinion.
I tend to book nice hotels if meeting someone as I like a nice environment to relaxe in and taking it for granted that I will fit the whole bill particularly if there has been a meal + drinks involved is taking the piss a bit."
It annoys me that people (regardless of gender) expect the other to pay for it all. Its a mutual agreement to meet up. So the cost should be spent equally.
I couldn't imagine turning up expecting the hotel, drinks and meal to all be paid for by the other person. Its disgusting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?
I remember one couple profile saying they were looking for single men and that the single man had to pay for the hotel room and once they were done, he had to leave so they could have there own space. I don't think they was on here long"
I remember that too! xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?
I insist on good coffee. Is that a hoop?"
Good coffee here Miss Honey. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"God Yes.
I am choosy and unapologetic!
I want them male, tall and attractive to me in both personality and looks!
Perhaps this is one reason why I meet rarely!"
That's not having hoops to jump through in my opinion though.
If you insisted that they had to wear a certain item of clothing or they must bring your favourite perfume in order to meet you, that would be hoops they have to jump through. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have any "hoops" on your profile that people must jump through in order to meet you?
And what "hoops" are people willing to jump through and which are definite no no's.
My only two hoops are that I need to see a face pic and I need a social meet first of all. "
does that mean i've jumped two of your hoops? am i allowed into the third sector now? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The only hoops I have are hula hoops
KP Hula Hoops or Aldi Snackrite ones because apparently they are the same
KP only the best for me "
You know it's only the packaging that's different. The product inside is exactly the same
Just one is more expensive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"God Yes.
I am choosy and unapologetic!
I want them male, tall and attractive to me in both personality and looks!
Perhaps this is one reason why I meet rarely!
That's not having hoops to jump through in my opinion though.
If you insisted that they had to wear a certain item of clothing or they must bring your favourite perfume in order to meet you, that would be hoops they have to jump through."
Oh but I do.
They absolutely must wear a condom and a smile. They must not wear BO. And must be tall enough to breach my threshold! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you have any "hoops" on your profile that people must jump through in order to meet you?
And what "hoops" are people willing to jump through and which are definite no no's.
My only two hoops are that I need to see a face pic and I need a social meet first of all.
does that mean i've jumped two of your hoops? am i allowed into the third sector now? "
You have indeed.
My third hoop is I insist that you wear a giraffe style onesie when you meet me. The hotel room must be full of black orchids and there should be bowls of smarties with the orange ones removed.
Deal? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?
I don't know if that's a hoop particularly but it's a recurring theme with my meets it seems and it's starting to piss me off.
It's not even all about the money but to not even offer to split bills is just rude in my opinion.
I tend to book nice hotels if meeting someone as I like a nice environment to relaxe in and taking it for granted that I will fit the whole bill particularly if there has been a meal + drinks involved is taking the piss a bit.
It annoys me that people (regardless of gender) expect the other to pay for it all. Its a mutual agreement to meet up. So the cost should be spent equally.
I couldn't imagine turning up expecting the hotel, drinks and meal to all be paid for by the other person. Its disgusting! "
Get your arse over here for the night and I'll happily pay for your hotel |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you have any "hoops" on your profile that people must jump through in order to meet you?
And what "hoops" are people willing to jump through and which are definite no no's.
My only two hoops are that I need to see a face pic and I need a social meet first of all.
does that mean i've jumped two of your hoops? am i allowed into the third sector now?
You have indeed.
My third hoop is I insist that you wear a giraffe style onesie when you meet me. The hotel room must be full of black orchids and there should be bowls of smarties with the orange ones removed.
Deal? "
I'm washing my that day, whatever day it is! Damn |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you have any "hoops" on your profile that people must jump through in order to meet you?
And what "hoops" are people willing to jump through and which are definite no no's.
My only two hoops are that I need to see a face pic and I need a social meet first of all.
does that mean i've jumped two of your hoops? am i allowed into the third sector now?
You have indeed.
My third hoop is I insist that you wear a giraffe style onesie when you meet me. The hotel room must be full of black orchids and there should be bowls of smarties with the orange ones removed.
Deal?
I'm washing my that day, whatever day it is! Damn "
Bloody timewaster |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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My only profile stipulation is that I have to like someone and have them like me enough to want to meet each other. The rest is negotiable from that point on. I don't think counts as a hoop, more just common sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"God Yes.
I am choosy and unapologetic!
I want them male, tall and attractive to me in both personality and looks!
Perhaps this is one reason why I meet rarely!
That's not having hoops to jump through in my opinion though.
If you insisted that they had to wear a certain item of clothing or they must bring your favourite perfume in order to meet you, that would be hoops they have to jump through.
Oh but I do.
They absolutely must wear a condom and a smile. They must not wear BO. And must be tall enough to breach my threshold! "
Fnar 'breach your threshold' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think some men read a profile, realise they don't have a hope in hell and moan that women have too many hoops to jump through.
If a man asked more of me than I could provide, I wouldn't complain that he had too many hoops; I'd just think we weren't compatible.
Hoops would be unreasonable demands. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"God Yes.
I am choosy and unapologetic!
I want them male, tall and attractive to me in both personality and looks!
Perhaps this is one reason why I meet rarely!
That's not having hoops to jump through in my opinion though.
If you insisted that they had to wear a certain item of clothing or they must bring your favourite perfume in order to meet you, that would be hoops they have to jump through.
Oh but I do.
They absolutely must wear a condom and a smile. They must not wear BO. And must be tall enough to breach my threshold!
Fnar 'breach your threshold' "
That can be very painful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The only hoops I have are hula hoops
Keeper rite here girls!
Hang on did I mention sharing at all?!
Sorry girls false alarm. x"
Only joking I've got a muti pack |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to think im pretty easy going and don't expect anyone to jump through hoops. An interesting first message, bit of conversation, exchanging of face pics and then a mutual agreement to meet rather than asking if im free right now just because i am online! |
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By *cotGirlWoman
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?
I don't know if that's a hoop particularly but it's a recurring theme with my meets it seems and it's starting to piss me off.
It's not even all about the money but to not even offer to split bills is just rude in my opinion.
I tend to book nice hotels if meeting someone as I like a nice environment to relaxe in and taking it for granted that I will fit the whole bill particularly if there has been a meal + drinks involved is taking the piss a bit.
I was really talking about these demands being on profiles in the first place.
Do you not say anything about splitting the cost of the meal and hotel room?
I'm a bit old fashioned I guess so don't feel comfortable asking a lady, it would just be nice if they offered."
Frankly you shouldn't have to ask! |
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over a year ago
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"Yes! I will only meet those that have won a fight with Chuck Norris!
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https://youtu.be/JLO1YIWQuXE
Tbf he knocked me on my ass a couple of times at the start.....no shame in that though as he is Chuck Norris after all!
I did quickly recover n turn the tables,but what really done him in was the sneaky Chinese burn I inflicted that you can't see in this clip......you need to buy the special edition DVD with deleted scenes |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"Do you have any "hoops" on your profile that people must jump through in order to meet you?
And what "hoops" are people willing to jump through and which are definite no no's.
My only two hoops are that I need to see a face pic and I need a social meet first of all. "
What about Ipswich fans
For me it's about being female and a sense of humour they go a long way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So none of us has any demanding hoops for people to jump through it seems.
We are a lovely lot
What would you class as a too demanding hoop?
A woman insisting the man pays for the hotel for example?
I don't know if that's a hoop particularly but it's a recurring theme with my meets it seems and it's starting to piss me off.
It's not even all about the money but to not even offer to split bills is just rude in my opinion.
I tend to book nice hotels if meeting someone as I like a nice environment to relaxe in and taking it for granted that I will fit the whole bill particularly if there has been a meal + drinks involved is taking the piss a bit."
You need to be upfront about it in that case and say you only go Dutch.
I think is terribly rude when a woman or couple insist that you pick up the bill. If we're all enjoying the fun, we can all cover the costs in my opinion. But money can make things all a bit awkward.
I steer well clear of selfish sounding profiles too, those with a hoop list longer than my arm and those that come across as shouty and bossy. It casual sex for fucks sake, and it's meant to be fun. I do wonder if those aggy profile owners get much from this site.
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"Do you have any "hoops" on your profile that people must jump through in order to meet you?
And what "hoops" are people willing to jump through and which are definite no no's.
My only two hoops are that I need to see a face pic and I need a social meet first of all. "
same as us x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I suppose one unwritten hoop is if we've chatted for 2 weeks regularly and haven't arranged a meet then it'll never happened and that'll be it, or if tried to arrange a few times but there's always some reason why they can't then I start to see a pattern develop and usually let it fizzle out. If they then really want to, they'll be in touch and make it happen. |
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