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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Need some advice as I don't know where I'm going wrong on here just wanna meet like minded people
What advice are you after, you're meet verified. "
I don't even get to a meet this is the problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Need some advice as I don't know where I'm going wrong on here just wanna meet like minded people
What advice are you after, you're meet verified. I don't even get to a meet this is the problem "
What do you mean? What's your current process? |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Need some advice as I don't know where I'm going wrong on here just wanna meet like minded people
What advice are you after, you're meet verified. I don't even get to a meet this is the problem
What do you mean? What's your current process?"
we would talk for a lil while then we arranged when to meet and it never actually happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure what you mean. Are you saying you don't like messages containing a cock pic and the sentence 'fancy a fuck?' ?"
Fuck me!!! Is this an apparition?   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Need some advice as I don't know where I'm going wrong on here just wanna meet like minded people
What advice are you after, you're meet verified. I don't even get to a meet this is the problem
What do you mean? What's your current process? we would talk for a lil while then we arranged when to meet and it never actually happens "
Do you mean you get stood up? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need to state on your profile what sort of person you're looking for.
Then those people can contact you.
If you've not met anyone, are your verifications by webcam then? |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Need some advice as I don't know where I'm going wrong on here just wanna meet like minded people
What advice are you after, you're meet verified. I don't even get to a meet this is the problem
What do you mean? What's your current process? we would talk for a lil while then we arranged when to meet and it never actually happens
Do you mean you get stood up?"
It's kinda like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Going by your profile text it's very angry sounding. Is that what your after?
Having just read it, I agree, sounds very angry.how can you sound angry on a text "
Aggressive then. I wasn't criticising just making an observation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Angry sounding profile with no punctuation.. i ran out of breath reading it in my head.
You said you wanted to meet like minded people.. your profile doesn't tell me enough about you to know if we'd have owt in common.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Need some advice as I don't know where I'm going wrong on here just wanna meet like minded people
This?
Written by a woman?
*passes out with shock*
what you mean "
I mean, this is a post rarely written by a woman on here.
However three or four of these threads are written daily by single men. |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Need some advice as I don't know where I'm going wrong on here just wanna meet like minded people
This?
Written by a woman?
*passes out with shock*
what you mean
I mean, this is a post rarely written by a woman on here.
However three or four of these threads are just written daily by single men."
guess I'm a weird one that don't become on here |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Angry sounding profile with no punctuation.. i ran out of breath reading it in my head.
You said you wanted to meet like minded people.. your profile doesn't tell me enough about you to know if we'd have owt in common.
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that's why you message them to find out if you do |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Going by your profile text it's very angry sounding. Is that what your after?
Having just read it, I agree, sounds very angry.how can you sound angry on a text
Aggressive then. I wasn't criticising just making an observation"
thanks for telling me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Angry sounding profile with no punctuation.. i ran out of breath reading it in my head.
You said you wanted to meet like minded people.. your profile doesn't tell me enough about you to know if we'd have owt in common.
that's why you message them to find out if you do"
Not for me, i message someone if there's something relevant that I can make conversation about, or if we have something that sounds like we may have stuff in common.
If someone simply tells me what they don't want then I'll move on tbh |
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Your profile text does come across as aggressive unfortunately. Also, I would suggest breaking it up into sentences/paragraphs. It will make it easier to read. Say what you like and ideally what you're looking for. Your pictures are great and speak for themselves. Translate that into text and I have no doubt you'll be inundated with messages. Hope this helps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Going by your profile text it's very angry sounding. Is that what your after?
Having just read it, I agree, sounds very angry.how can you sound angry on a text
Aggressive then. I wasn't criticising just making an observation thanks for telling me "
Well your profile text is what introduces yourself to the fab world. Would you be interested in a profile like that. It's the only thing you've currently got available to find a "like-minded" individual |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Angry sounding profile with no punctuation.. i ran out of breath reading it in my head.
You said you wanted to meet like minded people.. your profile doesn't tell me enough about you to know if we'd have owt in common.
that's why you message them to find out if you do
Not for me, i message someone if there's something relevant that I can make conversation about, or if we have something that sounds like we may have stuff in common.
If someone simply tells me what they don't want then I'll move on tbh "
fair enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Angry sounding profile with no punctuation.. i ran out of breath reading it in my head.
You said you wanted to meet like minded people.. your profile doesn't tell me enough about you to know if we'd have owt in common.
that's why you message them to find out if you do"
I'll give you the same advice I would a bloke, why would people spend time trying to find out when there are lots of profiles that contain information about what they're looking for? People don't want to make a lot of effort to find out you're looking for very different things. And yes, you do come across as quite aggressive which may also deter people from getting in touch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Need some advice as I don't know where I'm going wrong on here just wanna meet like minded people
What advice are you after, you're meet verified. I don't even get to a meet this is the problem
What do you mean? What's your current process? we would talk for a lil while then we arranged when to meet and it never actually happens "
You have 3 veris 2 of which are meet in person ones so how are you saying that no one meets you |
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OP there are lots of posts on the forums from people asking what they are doing wrong. These posts are normally put up by men but the advice you are given is the same.
Basically you need to make your profile the best you can. Tell people what you are looking for in a meet and what you have to offer. Your profile is your "shop window" and you have to use it to sell yourself.
As for meets not turning up. If this happens often then maybe the method you use to choose them isn't working. I'm very selective who i talk to on here and even more selective when it comes to actually deciding to meet. Nobody has ever let me down so far. |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"OP there are lots of posts on the forums from people asking what they are doing wrong. These posts are normally put up by men but the advice you are given is the same.
Basically you need to make your profile the best you can. Tell people what you are looking for in a meet and what you have to offer. Your profile is your "shop window" and you have to use it to sell yourself.
As for meets not turning up. If this happens often then maybe the method you use to choose them isn't working. I'm very selective who i talk to on here and even more selective when it comes to actually deciding to meet. Nobody has ever let me down so far."
thank you and I have changed my profile and I do agree with most of you lot that my profile did come as angry it ain't any more |
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Filtering guys out who aren't seriously interested in meeting, possibly just getting off on the chat and pics etc, is key. Some of this comes with experience and intuition.
Look for the past patterns that the failures have shown - type of guy, time of day, how they speak with you etc
Don't meet very new guys for example or just meet guys who have a few verifications from actually meeting others recently. Married guys cheating may find actual meets harder or impossible when it's convenient for you - early availability checks could help to further filter out those who are unsuitable for you.
Or consider posting a meet to a swingers club nearby, where several guys could attend and you get to evaluate them better. |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Filtering guys out who aren't seriously interested in meeting, possibly just getting off on the chat and pics etc, is key. Some of this comes with experience and intuition.
Look for the past patterns that the failures have shown - type of guy, time of day, how they speak with you etc
Don't meet very new guys for example or just meet guys who have a few verifications from actually meeting others recently. Married guys cheating may find actual meets harder or impossible when it's convenient for you - early availability checks could help to further filter out those who are unsuitable for you.
Or consider posting a meet to a swingers club nearby, where several guys could attend and you get to evaluate them better. "
thank you so much for the advice |
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I'd adjust your profile text and exclude anything that says you don't know what you are doing - that is probably an invitation to mess you around.
Instead, if you sound confident and sure of yourself, you'd deter more wankers in my opinion.
As others say, emphasise things about you. Point to the type of people you will play with and possibly typical times that you meet. |
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"Filtering guys out who aren't seriously interested in meeting, possibly just getting off on the chat and pics etc, is key. Some of this comes with experience and intuition.
Look for the past patterns that the failures have shown - type of guy, time of day, how they speak with you etc
Don't meet very new guys for example or just meet guys who have a few verifications from actually meeting others recently. Married guys cheating may find actual meets harder or impossible when it's convenient for you - early availability checks could help to further filter out those who are unsuitable for you.
Or consider posting a meet to a swingers club nearby, where several guys could attend and you get to evaluate them better. thank you so much for the advice "
Thank you too. You'll make a success of this  |
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