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This is not a look at me thread,more an attempt to consider why it is deemed ok to be rude if you are not being PC.Why do people want to upset and offend people?
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"well to me its ur opinion and ur entitled to it of course, fortunately or unfortunately there is too many differing types of people here, i actually have had fall outs, formed certain opinions about ppl i havent even met its wrong i know,on the PC front theres certain things Ive read that ive not liked...comments about people saying one group of people are stupid because they type the way they choose(or the only way they know how),Rgardless of what is beliveved to be a "filthy" mouth, or an uncouth unsavoury character...its hardly reflective to what that person may be like in person.Some people including myself like to get their point accross in a discussion...but if i was out at a party with the lot of u and we started discussing forum shite, i'd walk away and join another group of people, really just trying to say: maybe actually when u meet people our opinions wont matter as much as we should really be having fun and doing possibly some other things we like. there is no way we can reflect eachothers _iews here is there, maybe just avoiding any forums that make the blood boil might help...of course on the other hand just carry on doing what u do...if u fall out with some, so be it.I had a nice mail yesterday from someone, basically havin their last word during a closed thread..I'd give them a smile if i met them on the street etc/....migt even ask for a session." well said it can be hard on here some times but take the rough with the smooth and dont let the gits grind you down us good guys always win in the end  | |||
"well to me its ur opinion and ur entitled to it of course, fortunately or unfortunately there is too many differing types of people here, i actually have had fall outs, formed certain opinions about ppl i havent even met its wrong i know,on the PC front theres certain things Ive read that ive not liked...comments about people saying one group of people are stupid because they type the way they choose(or the only way they know how),Rgardless of what is beliveved to be a "filthy" mouth, or an uncouth unsavoury character...its hardly reflective to what that person may be like in person.Some people including myself like to get their point accross in a discussion...but if i was out at a party with the lot of u and we started discussing forum shite, i'd walk away and join another group of people, really just trying to say: maybe actually when u meet people our opinions wont matter as much as we should really be having fun and doing possibly some other things we like. there is no way we can reflect eachothers _iews here is there, maybe just avoiding any forums that make the blood boil might help...of course on the other hand just carry on doing what u do...if u fall out with some, so be it.I had a nice mail yesterday from someone, basically havin their last word during a closed thread..I'd give them a smile if i met them on the street etc/....migt even ask for a session. well said it can be hard on here some times but take the rough with the smooth and dont let the gits grind you down us good guys always win in the end "Always up for a hard grind and as a guy its always good to be on top  | |||
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Also in chat, a little power makes little people feel powerful!...but again you can't fight it.......... next lol
I have often noticed in the forums, that some people do deliberately go out of there way to cause, lets say not offence but more controversy. I am sure we all have our own opinions as to why they do this..... | |||
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I am passionate about some things. For example I struggle with dominate men being violent to women. I disliked the brutal blowjob thread with mention of slapping round faces and stopping people breathing. For me to say that I struggle with the concept of men being violent to women even if they want it. I think that if a guy can physically hurt a woman and get enjoyment out of it, what does that say about him? Now what I've just said could be deemed offensive to the whole BDSM community. Or I could just say each to their own. There are things I enjoy that similarly others will find offensive and they have a right to express that.
There are things I don't understand - experience in the world has formed that _iew for me. Others will have had different positive experiences.
I wouldn't want to see you leave the forum Jem, stay, put your _iews forward and have a discussion with those that oppose your _iews. Words cant hurt you if you don't allow them too.
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"So, i'm close to leaving the forums cos it seems any attempt to explain why some people may be offended by certain terms is just defined as PC crap. Now i have never seen the problem with political correctness..it to me means not using words that might hurt someone else because who wants to cause pain to another human being? i don't swear in front of my gran,i dont use words that others might consider offensive,to me that is just good manners. Can any one give me one good reason to stay amongst ppl who will not consider the feelings of others
This is not a look at me thread,more an attempt to consider why it is deemed ok to be rude if you are not being PC.Why do people want to upset and offend people?
"its the power of the written word chick I probably know you better than most on here just because I have had cuppa's with ya and gassed on about everything and anything in clubs and sometimes people only see the words and not the intent behind what is written.... I try to be a lot more careful now, it hasn't changed my style I hope, but I think twice about what I write before hitting that send button just in case ... and if someone doesn't get what I write I can always go back and clarify it..... Stay around... the place does need stong opinions and it would not be the same without you... | |||
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"PC has been taken to stupid levels in this country " Totally agree  | |||
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"often not what you say... it's the way you say it." I feel a song coming on
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"So, i'm close to leaving the forums cos it seems any attempt to explain why some people may be offended by certain terms is just defined as PC crap. Now i have never seen the problem with political correctness..it to me means not using words that might hurt someone else because who wants to cause pain to another human being? i don't swear in front of my gran,i dont use words that others might consider offensive,to me that is just good manners. Can any one give me one good reason to stay amongst ppl who will not consider the feelings of others
This is not a look at me thread,more an attempt to consider why it is deemed ok to be rude if you are not being PC.Why do people want to upset and offend people?
"cos I like ya and I would miss ya. x | |||
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" Good post Rumour. Having read the MILF thread, the following point was interesting : "Why do you think women might be offended by being defined only by the fact they have bourne children". Isn't that the very definition of Mother, that a woman has bourne children? Very few if any women are only defined by being a Mother. A few i know are Mrs, Ms, darling even ( unPC to some i know) all at the same time as being Mother's. Prehaps those few Mother's who are offended should offer their _iew on it? " Are they all called Jason?  | |||
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"This is not personal, but this is my _iew......All of us offend people without being aware of it. By all means we should all challenge anything that offends us or we feel passionately about it, but just accept that other people have their differing _iews too. "Excellent post Iconic | |||
"This is not personal, but this is my _iew. I like and respect the OP very much and I enjoy her posts, this is not meant to offend her. I also find it surprising that the word MILF would be found insulting to mothers and a strike against feminism, yet a woman who calls a man her "Master", to me that kicks feminism in the teeth far more than the word MILF does. Yes MILF is playgroundish but its not meant to be offensive term. I find the fact that someone would even contemplate writing a "rape" fantasy obscure because to me there is no such thing. I get quite angry at the thought that someone could belittle those victims of crime in that way. In the same way I wouldnt be interested in "torturing animals" fantasies or "serial killer" fantasies. And Ive always questioned the psyche of the men who enjoy this too. But I accept that in your eyes I am wrong, and if you truly are happy, what I say is just words in cyber land thats all. Noone is wrong or right, we are just built differently. We do have the right to oppose or agree with _iews. All of us offend people without being aware of it. By all means we should all challenge anything that offends us or we feel passionately about it, but just accept that other people have their differing _iews too. "Top post Iconic.....particularly the part about feminists who are sexually submissive to their Masters.... | |||
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Combat i can deal with.What i am tired of is the fact that trying to explain something is simply ignored cos "i'm being PC" It seems to be the internet equivalent of sticking fingers in your ears and saying i'm not listening.Annoying in a child,the killer of debate on the internet.
A number of women posted why they disliked the term,more have posted today.Someone asked why they were offended...i tried to answer.It does seem personal when none of the other posters were hauled up for their opinions,
And afterall that is all i was offering,an opinion,one anyone was free to disagree with,instead i was simply accused of spouting beliefs i did not hold.
i'm not going to go into the PC debate here except to say everyone i know is well mannered,they dont say cunt in fron of their grandmother and dont use other words likely to cause offence.Does it matter how many peoplle might be offended,one of the glories of the English language is its richness and diversity.There are plenty of words to choose from.Why offend if u dont need to?
BDSM and feminism,how long u got
Firstly as i said elsewhere,i call myself a slut...reclaiming the word perhaps in the manner of the sslut walks...however the real difference is that i choose to call myself it.Seriously am i the only one who gets that?Think gay men calling themselves poofs or the use of the n word in the black community.Words used against ppl are different to words ppl use themselves.And yes if a woman wants to call herself milf,go for it.i simply tried to explain why labels are often disliked.
Iconic,yup, its on the surface odd kneeling to a man and calling him Sir,and calling myself a feminist,so 2 breif points,cos there are entire books on this.
1.To me the point of feminism is to say a woman can make whatever choices she wants.To sleep around,or be celibate,to be a high powered career woman or stay at home mum.The fight was not against men,but against sterotypes that constrain opportunity.
So i choose submission, as vallid in my eyes as any other sexual choice anyone male or female makes.What matters is that the choices are not imposed on them.
2.Perhaps the fact it goes against what is accepted makes it hotter 
Rape fantasies...read nancy friday or google A Secret garden,not coping out,but admin dont like discussion of the subject and i respect their wishes.
View...as always wise words...when i feel the fun come back, you will probably see me reposting | |||
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