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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok so that got your attention...
Obviously it's the most sensitive part of the female body, having the most nerve endings...
But mine seems extremely sensitive, to the point where I struggle with prolonged oral,especially when a guy is fixated it that area and just focuses on the clit... I naturally assume it's a problem I have, and it's nothing to do with him.
I know I probably tense up when I see him heading that way which doesn't help...
So my question to you lovely and understanding lot is...
How do I overcome this, is there anything I can use to de-sensitve it, other than a bottle of wine of course 
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"Ok so that got your attention...
Obviously it's the most sensitive part of the female body, having the most nerve endings...
But mine seems extremely sensitive, to the point where I struggle with prolonged oral,especially when a guy is fixated it that area and just focuses on the clit... I naturally assume it's a problem I have, and it's nothing to do with him.
I know I probably tense up when I see him heading that way which doesn't help...
So my question to you lovely and understanding lot is...
How do I overcome this, is there anything I can use to de-sensitve it, other than a bottle of wine of course
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No don't do that teach your men how you like to be pleased |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok so that got your attention...
Obviously it's the most sensitive part of the female body, having the most nerve endings...
But mine seems extremely sensitive, to the point where I struggle with prolonged oral,especially when a guy is fixated it that area and just focuses on the clit... I naturally assume it's a problem I have, and it's nothing to do with him.
I know I probably tense up when I see him heading that way which doesn't help...
So my question to you lovely and understanding lot is...
How do I overcome this, is there anything I can use to de-sensitve it, other than a bottle of wine of course
No don't do that teach your men how you like to be pleased "
I'm married to someone that hates giving oral... So I go without, hence when I do meet someone from here... I'm nervous because I'm not use to it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think there is anything you can do. Mine also gets very sensitive, especially when mr is paying it a lot of attention and nibbles it. I must admit it's painful but get past that and the resulting orgasm is mind blowing. Might just be my thing but perhaps shorter oral time might help x |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I agree with the above, speak to your sexual partner about exactly what to do and what not to do, men should know that not every woman is the same.
I'm the opposite, I find it difficult to cum through oral if I am not 100% alcohol free, if I have a glass of wine then there is no chance of it happening unfortunately x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got the same problem extremely sensitive head to witch I can't have a bj because it's too sensitive very annoying too but it hasn't stopped me enjoying women so I'd not worry about it |
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"Ok so that got your attention...
Obviously it's the most sensitive part of the female body, having the most nerve endings...
But mine seems extremely sensitive, to the point where I struggle with prolonged oral,especially when a guy is fixated it that area and just focuses on the clit... I naturally assume it's a problem I have, and it's nothing to do with him.
I know I probably tense up when I see him heading that way which doesn't help...
So my question to you lovely and understanding lot is...
How do I overcome this, is there anything I can use to de-sensitve it, other than a bottle of wine of course
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If there's a problem during sex it's down to both people really. Can you explain to your partner/s that prolonged oral is off the cards? Or discuss a strategies?
I'm not an advocate of de-sensitising any part of your body unless it's for medical reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine gets over sensitive sometimes. I'll tell my play partner to leave it for a bit. I can't think of anything worse than feeling physically uncomfortable and not saying anything. I'd just ask them to concentrate on another part of your body for a while. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take charge of the foreplay a bit,mix it up a bit, find some guys who like to mix it up too. Experiment and find what really works for you and causes you to climb the walls and writhe and moan with ecstasy. Sex should be mutual fun not something that requires enduring discomfort. Good luck  |
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"Thank you for all replying.... Comforting to know it's not me... And a common thing..
Maybe it's about time this bitch got more demanding!!
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You don't necessarily have to be demanding, just don't endure something that you find uncomfortable. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you for all replying.... Comforting to know it's not me... And a common thing..
Maybe it's about time this bitch got more demanding!!
You don't necessarily have to be demanding, just don't endure something that you find uncomfortable."
It was said tongue in cheek...
Or should that be.. Tongue on clit?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you for all replying.... Comforting to know it's not me... And a common thing..
Maybe it's about time this bitch got more demanding!!
You don't necessarily have to be demanding, just don't endure something that you find uncomfortable.
It was said tongue in cheek...
Or should that be.. Tongue on clit?? "
Sit above the person... you ride his mouth and tongue and you chose the tempo and pace  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you for all replying.... Comforting to know it's not me... And a common thing..
Maybe it's about time this bitch got more demanding!!
You don't necessarily have to be demanding, just don't endure something that you find uncomfortable.
It was said tongue in cheek...
Or should that be.. Tongue on clit??
Sit above the person... you ride his mouth and tongue and you chose the tempo and pace "
Thank you for that advice, seems obvious but I should try it as like feeling in control... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For guys who do oral on a sensitive clit here's my two penies worth.....
Firstly one of the signs shes extra sensitive is that her nerves will jump in her thighs. Its NOT a sign to go harder. Your technique needs to change.....
Use your mouth to lubricate the area well. Yes. That's right. Spit but do it subtly.
Use the flat of your tongue rather than the tip. Make your tongue soft.
Do not lick the clitoris directly rather begin licking her in the opening of her vagina and end your strokes at the area just below her clitoris. As she becomes more aroused the ends of those strokes can just slightly touch the clitoris lightly.
If her clitoris retreats completely is a sign you have not been patient enough and you've been too firm.
I hope this hopes someone.... |
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By *ilberryMan
over a year ago
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"For guys who do oral on a sensitive clit here's my two penies worth.....
Firstly one of the signs shes extra sensitive is that her nerves will jump in her thighs. Its NOT a sign to go harder. Your technique needs to change.....
Use your mouth to lubricate the area well. Yes. That's right. Spit but do it subtly.
Use the flat of your tongue rather than the tip. Make your tongue soft.
Do not lick the clitoris directly rather begin licking her in the opening of her vagina and end your strokes at the area just below her clitoris. As she becomes more aroused the ends of those strokes can just slightly touch the clitoris lightly.
If her clitoris retreats completely is a sign you have not been patient enough and you've been too firm.
I hope this hopes someone.... "
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By *ilberryMan
over a year ago
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"For guys who do oral on a sensitive clit here's my two penies worth.....
Firstly one of the signs shes extra sensitive is that her nerves will jump in her thighs. Its NOT a sign to go harder. Your technique needs to change.....
Use your mouth to lubricate the area well. Yes. That's right. Spit but do it subtly.
Use the flat of your tongue rather than the tip. Make your tongue soft.
Do not lick the clitoris directly rather begin licking her in the opening of her vagina and end your strokes at the area just below her clitoris. As she becomes more aroused the ends of those strokes can just slightly touch the clitoris lightly.
If her clitoris retreats completely is a sign you have not been patient enough and you've been too firm.
I hope this hopes someone.... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For guys who do oral on a sensitive clit here's my two penies worth.....
Firstly one of the signs shes extra sensitive is that her nerves will jump in her thighs. Its NOT a sign to go harder. Your technique needs to change.....
I wish there was an applause emoji
Use your mouth to lubricate the area well. Yes. That's right. Spit but do it subtly.
Use the flat of your tongue rather than the tip. Make your tongue soft.
Do not lick the clitoris directly rather begin licking her in the opening of her vagina and end your strokes at the area just below her clitoris. As she becomes more aroused the ends of those strokes can just slightly touch the clitoris lightly.
If her clitoris retreats completely is a sign you have not been patient enough and you've been too firm.
I hope this hopes someone.... "
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If a guy is doing something you don't like then train him to do it how you like.
Your body works how it does and guys who think we're all the same could always do with learning the lesson that we're not |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
I have this problem too. Played with a Dom and he got the numb cream that is used by tattooists and nurses to numb the skin. I also found that asking guys to go just a bit lower on my clit was less sensitive too. Keep well lubricated too. |
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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago
The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales |
"Ok so that got your attention...
Obviously it's the most sensitive part of the female body, having the most nerve endings...
But mine seems extremely sensitive, to the point where I struggle with prolonged oral,especially when a guy is fixated it that area and just focuses on the clit... I naturally assume it's a problem I have, and it's nothing to do with him.
I know I probably tense up when I see him heading that way which doesn't help...
So my question to you lovely and understanding lot is...
How do I overcome this, is there anything I can use to de-sensitve it, other than a bottle of wine of course
"
I hate to disagree with you but surely your brain is the most sensitive part/organ of anyone's body... Without it, you wouldn't know or feel anything. The male banjo is very sensitive, just like a female clitoris but I (we, you) could tickle someone's fancy forever but if you don't know how, listen to your partner and read their body language, it will never happen.
Sex is a wonderful pass time, good sex is a period of time that two people share, understand and know instinctively how and where to touch you, feel you. A tender kiss on the neck, a quick nibble of an ear, an innocent bit of footsie?
Two ships colliding... in perfect harmony....
That's sensitive.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so that got your attention...
Obviously it's the most sensitive part of the female body, having the most nerve endings...
But mine seems extremely sensitive, to the point where I struggle with prolonged oral,especially when a guy is fixated it that area and just focuses on the clit... I naturally assume it's a problem I have, and it's nothing to do with him.
I know I probably tense up when I see him heading that way which doesn't help...
So my question to you lovely and understanding lot is...
How do I overcome this, is there anything I can use to de-sensitve it, other than a bottle of wine of course
"
I used to have this problem, but I started using vibrating sex toys more. Focusing them on the clit alone is extremely intense to begin with, but with time it eases and becomes less sensitive and almost scary, to being extremely orgasmic. Now I can happily have guys play around |
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