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"When you initiate a breakup because although the sex is out of this world the relationship can't go anywhere, then you start missing the person, more so because they've got into another relationship with someone else. It's a horrible feeling, can't explain it, wonder if she feels it too? I know deep down I could have her back at the click of a finger, but that's not fair, I can't be that selfish, normally I don't have feelings I hate feelings fs. " It's jealousy. Leave her alone. | |||
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"Feelings suck xx" what are "feelings"?  | |||
"When you initiate a breakup because although the sex is out of this world the relationship can't go anywhere, then you start missing the person, more so because they've got into another relationship with someone else. It's a horrible feeling, can't explain it, wonder if she feels it too? I know deep down I could have her back at the click of a finger, but that's not fair, I can't be that selfish, normally I don't have feelings I hate feelings fs. " Exactly... Don't be so selfish and get on with it | |||
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"Feelings suck xx" Aye they dae that fs.  | |||
"Let her go...but yep those feelings aren't pleasant. A mixture of sadness at the loss of the relationship, regret that you couldn't feel differently about her at the time, jealousy at her new relationship and a bit of self loathing for being unwilling to commit to anything more than a casual fuck. Throw on top a little bit of arrogance that I could click my fingers and she'd come back covering up a deep held belief I'm unlovable really. I remember the feelings well " | |||
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"Let her go...but yep those feelings aren't pleasant. A mixture of sadness at the loss of the relationship, regret that you couldn't feel differently about her at the time, jealousy at her new relationship and a bit of self loathing for being unwilling to commit to anything more than a casual fuck. Throw on top a little bit of arrogance that I could click my fingers and she'd come back covering up a deep held belief I'm unlovable really. I remember the feelings well
This. Or feeling the same and not having the balls to do anything about it.
Feeling like you don't deserve happiness and all that jazz. Settling is safe and easy.
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"I just have to sacrifice my happiness and love for her and let her move on and find it with another who can offer her more, a real relationship without ducking and diving, only i feel a sensation that she's missing me too! Gotta be strong I guess and let time do its thing. Sigh* "I don't like it when you're sad and serious
Chin up fella. | |||
"Let her go...but yep those feelings aren't pleasant. A mixture of sadness at the loss of the relationship, regret that you couldn't feel differently about her at the time, jealousy at her new relationship and a bit of self loathing for being unwilling to commit to anything more than a casual fuck. Throw on top a little bit of arrogance that I could click my fingers and she'd come back covering up a deep held belief I'm unlovable really. I remember the feelings well
This. Or feeling the same and not having the balls to do anything about it.
Feeling like you don't deserve happiness and all that jazz. Settling is safe and easy.
Auto carrot "Yep that too ???? | |||
"I just have to sacrifice my happiness and love for her and let her move on and find it with another who can offer her more, a real relationship without ducking and diving, only i feel a sensation that she's missing me too! Gotta be strong I guess and let time do its thing. Sigh* "If the sex was that good , then of course you will think she will be missing you too . And it will make things worse for you if you don't think that the new fella in her life may be as good as you in the sack , so you are clinging to the good times you both had . Fact is this .... if he gives her what you couldn't in the sense of a relationship , she will be happy , as the sex is only a small part of what makes people happy . And he may well be better than you were , but you won't want to think that , until you're ready to let her go . | |||
"Let her go...but yep those feelings aren't pleasant. A mixture of sadness at the loss of the relationship, regret that you couldn't feel differently about her at the time, jealousy at her new relationship and a bit of self loathing for being unwilling to commit to anything more than a casual fuck. Throw on top a little bit of arrogance that I could click my fingers and she'd come back covering up a deep held belief I'm unlovable really. I remember the feelings well
This. Or feeling the same and not having the balls to do anything about it.
Feeling like you don't deserve happiness and all that jazz. Settling is safe and easy.
Auto carrot "I've got the balls no question there, I don't have the heart to ruin others life's in the pursuit of what may or may not be my own happiness. | |||
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"I just have to sacrifice my happiness and love for her and let her move on and find it with another who can offer her more, a real relationship without ducking and diving, only i feel a sensation that she's missing me too! Gotta be strong I guess and let time do its thing. Sigh*
If the sex was that good , then of course you will think she will be missing you too . And it will make things worse for you if you don't think that the new fella in her life may be as good as you in the sack , so you are clinging to the good times you both had . Fact is this .... if he gives her what you couldn't in the sense of a relationship , she will be happy , as the sex is only a small part of what makes people happy . And he may well be better than you were , but you won't want to think that , until you're ready to let her go ." | |||
feelings totally suck... | |||
"I had an emotion once" Your only young, wait until love comes around it really does knock you the fuck down fs. | |||
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"Let her go...but yep those feelings aren't pleasant. A mixture of sadness at the loss of the relationship, regret that you couldn't feel differently about her at the time, jealousy at her new relationship and a bit of self loathing for being unwilling to commit to anything more than a casual fuck. Throw on top a little bit of arrogance that I could click my fingers and she'd come back covering up a deep held belief I'm unlovable really. I remember the feelings well
This. Or feeling the same and not having the balls to do anything about it.
Feeling like you don't deserve happiness and all that jazz. Settling is safe and easy.
Auto carrot
I've got the balls no question there, I don't have the heart to ruin others life's in the pursuit of what may or may not be my own happiness. "There is that, but then why shouldn't you be happy too? Sometimes you need to be selfish, if they want it too then how can they be truly happy where they are? | |||
"I just have to sacrifice my happiness and love for her and let her move on and find it with another who can offer her more, a real relationship without ducking and diving, only i feel a sensation that she's missing me too! Gotta be strong I guess and let time do its thing. Sigh*
I don't like it when you're sad and serious
Chin up fella."Cheers, trust me I don't like it when am sad and serious either but sometimes it happens tae the best of us fs, this place is a good outlet, lots of experience and generally good advice to be had on how to deal with shit.
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"Let her go...but yep those feelings aren't pleasant. A mixture of sadness at the loss of the relationship, regret that you couldn't feel differently about her at the time, jealousy at her new relationship and a bit of self loathing for being unwilling to commit to anything more than a casual fuck. Throw on top a little bit of arrogance that I could click my fingers and she'd come back covering up a deep held belief I'm unlovable really. I remember the feelings well
This. Or feeling the same and not having the balls to do anything about it.
Feeling like you don't deserve happiness and all that jazz. Settling is safe and easy.
Auto carrot
I've got the balls no question there, I don't have the heart to ruin others life's in the pursuit of what may or may not be my own happiness.
There is that, but then why shouldn't you be happy too? Sometimes you need to be selfish, if they want it too then how can they be truly happy where they are? "I don't think am ment or made to be emotionally happy, life is suffering and sin, don't get me wrong, it's good too, however this heartache pish is really getting oan my tits fs. | |||
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"I'm the last person on the planet to give relationship advice, women run out of patience with me lol, but let her go. It's ran it's course. It's done. "Aye, I've been saying that at some point, every year for the past seven, somehow we always end up back at square one. | |||
"The worst is I can't fucking control it it's like someone else has the remote "FTFY *hands back remote, pulling you into group hug* | |||
"I had an emotion once" Probably wind. | |||
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"The worst is I can't fucking control it it's like someone else has the remote
FTFY
*hands back remote, pulling you into group hug* "The hug can keep I need some mindless, heartless, rough, random and dirty sex, thank fuck it's Friday fs  | |||
"I had an emotion once Probably wind." Lol, you always cheer me up Tiff, blows a kiss* | |||
"The worst is I can't fucking control it it's like someone else has the remote
FTFY
*hands back remote, pulling you into group hug*
The hug can keep I need some mindless, heartless, rough, random and dirty sex, thank fuck it's Friday fs "Think you had a willing volunteer on hug thread | |||
"Grass always seems greener doesn't it." Sometimes the grass is greener  | |||
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"Can I borrow your boat ? I'll crashed it on a rock to make you angry so you'd not think abt her anymore " Not thinking about her, is like not breathing, not possible fs. Chucks FAB the keys* | |||
"Here's the fucked up thing, real men are no ment to have feelings or get emotionally attached. Feelings and commitment is more a chick thing fs! I man should be able to just detach himself at will. " That's total bullshit !!! Your view of 'real' men are socially constructed and is far away from what a 'real' man is...as opposed to a fake one | |||
"Here's the fucked up thing, real men are no ment to have feelings or get emotionally attached. Feelings and commitment is more a chick thing fs! I man should be able to just detach himself at will. That's total bullshit !!! Your view of 'real' men are socially constructed and is far away from what a 'real' man is...as opposed to a fake one " Agree | |||
"Grass always seems greener doesn't it. Sometimes the grass is greener "I like the green grass; my garden is full of s | |||
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"I don't understand ...if you are seeing someone...you get on well...the sex is great etc etc.... why it has to go anywhere! Where is it meant to go? Even if you love someone, you don't have to live with them or get married n all that other crap...if you are happy!!! Is why we end up in shitty relationships with people that have no clue who we are...and often don't care....love is important....ending up in a marriage is not...sorry... done now "Don't be sorry !!! Very well put | |||
"When you initiate a breakup because although the sex is out of this world the relationship can't go anywhere, then you start missing the person, more so because they've got into another relationship with someone else. It's a horrible feeling, can't explain it, wonder if she feels it too? I know deep down I could have her back at the click of a finger, but that's not fair, I can't be that selfish, normally I don't have feelings I hate feelings fs. " Sounds like you need a boobie hug x x It will get better in time x | |||
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"Here's the fucked up thing, real men are no ment to have feelings or get emotionally attached. Feelings and commitment is more a chick thing fs! I man should be able to just detach himself at will. That's total bullshit !!! Your view of 'real' men are socially constructed and is far away from what a 'real' man is...as opposed to a fake one " And that's from a REAL man! *swoons* | |||
"Here's the fucked up thing, real men are no ment to have feelings or get emotionally attached. Feelings and commitment is more a chick thing fs! I man should be able to just detach himself at will. That's total bullshit !!! Your view of 'real' men are socially constructed and is far away from what a 'real' man is...as opposed to a fake one " Hear hear!! | |||
(On a serious note, hope you're okay) | |||
"M1cks, you have to let me go. Truth is erectjim does make me happy and I'm moving on.
(On a serious note, hope you're okay)"Lol gutted fs I'll just hae tae survive  | |||
"Grass always seems greener doesn't it. Sometimes the grass is greener
I like the green grass; my garden is full of s "Call me Mr Weed Whacker | |||
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"hate to say this but if she's fucking someone else then she's not thinking about you. been there myself. and although sometimes i was sad about my ex and did miss him, filling up my time with other stuff really helped me not to." Aye the thing is she always gets in touch with me, knows what buttons to push and I always give in fs. My friend showed me an article titled: Why everyone has that one person they'll always go back to. I read through it and a lot of it made sense. Not in a logistical way but in an emotional one because I am an emotional thinker. But I still didn’t understand what made me want to give this old relationship yet another shot. However, when I read this section everything clicked: “they'll hurt you time and time again, but the pain seems worth it You wouldn’t go back and put your hand on the stove again, or take another freezing cold shower — but you’ll go back to that love pain fs. You’ll inflict it on yourself time and time again. You tell yourself it’s worth it, that this is what it feels like to be in love. But when you finally do fall in love with the right person, you’ll realise that love is the antidote to your pain. Only real love with the right person will heal the wounds this person left. ” Going back sometimes is inevitable, you feel like that person was your one true love, like there was no one else that could make you feel the way they did, and you’re right. There will never be another person that makes you feel that same way, there will be one that makes you feel better — Like you can accomplish anything and overcome any obstacle. But if you keep going back to the person that let you down, you will never be able to find the one that will build you up. Remember that the next time you see “i miss you” pop up on your screen. I should heed this advice but I won't | |||
"hate to say this but if she's fucking someone else then she's not thinking about you. been there myself. and although sometimes i was sad about my ex and did miss him, filling up my time with other stuff really helped me not to. Aye the thing is she always gets in touch with me, knows what buttons to push and I always give in fs. My friend showed me an article titled: Why everyone has that one person they'll always go back to. I read through it and a lot of it made sense. Not in a logistical way but in an emotional one because I am an emotional thinker. But I still didn’t understand what made me want to give this old relationship yet another shot. However, when I read this section everything clicked: “they'll hurt you time and time again, but the pain seems worth it You wouldn’t go back and put your hand on the stove again, or take another freezing cold shower — but you’ll go back to that love pain fs. You’ll inflict it on yourself time and time again. You tell yourself it’s worth it, that this is what it feels like to be in love. But when you finally do fall in love with the right person, you’ll realise that love is the antidote to your pain. Only real love with the right person will heal the wounds this person left. ” Going back sometimes is inevitable, you feel like that person was your one true love, like there was no one else that could make you feel the way they did, and you’re right. There will never be another person that makes you feel that same way, there will be one that makes you feel better — Like you can accomplish anything and overcome any obstacle. But if you keep going back to the person that let you down, you will never be able to find the one that will build you up. Remember that the next time you see “i miss you” pop up on your screen. I should heed this advice but I won't "one day it will matter more that you stop hurting yourself, and she maybe does love you but not in a way that isn't toxic to you. the one who will build you up is you. that'll be the first person anyway, than after that you can easily tell who is building you up and who is knocking you down and act accordingly. my ex, who very much broke me and i spent 10 months grieving, came back to me last month. and i fucked him off, just like that, without a 2nd thought (i lie, i spent about 2 days thinking about it), but i knew i didn't want him in my life fucking with my head. i fuck people off easily, not coz i don't care about them but because i care about me. it's easy enough to do and do this without seeking a replacement. i got my standards for how i will be treated and i stick to them, maybe if i really like someone and think they made a mistake in how they treated me i will listen to them and give them one more chance but if i'm ever certain they only give a shit about themselves and not me then i am gone. i might not even tell them but usually i do tell them so that i'm clear on where we stand. | |||
"hate to say this but if she's fucking someone else then she's not thinking about you. been there myself. and although sometimes i was sad about my ex and did miss him, filling up my time with other stuff really helped me not to. Aye the thing is she always gets in touch with me, knows what buttons to push and I always give in fs. My friend showed me an article titled: Why everyone has that one person they'll always go back to. I read through it and a lot of it made sense. Not in a logistical way but in an emotional one because I am an emotional thinker. But I still didn’t understand what made me want to give this old relationship yet another shot. However, when I read this section everything clicked: “they'll hurt you time and time again, but the pain seems worth it You wouldn’t go back and put your hand on the stove again, or take another freezing cold shower — but you’ll go back to that love pain fs. You’ll inflict it on yourself time and time again. You tell yourself it’s worth it, that this is what it feels like to be in love. But when you finally do fall in love with the right person, you’ll realise that love is the antidote to your pain. Only real love with the right person will heal the wounds this person left. ” Going back sometimes is inevitable, you feel like that person was your one true love, like there was no one else that could make you feel the way they did, and you’re right. There will never be another person that makes you feel that same way, there will be one that makes you feel better — Like you can accomplish anything and overcome any obstacle. But if you keep going back to the person that let you down, you will never be able to find the one that will build you up. Remember that the next time you see “i miss you” pop up on your screen. I should heed this advice but I won't
one day it will matter more that you stop hurting yourself, and she maybe does love you but not in a way that isn't toxic to you.
the one who will build you up is you. that'll be the first person anyway, than after that you can easily tell who is building you up and who is knocking you down and act accordingly.
my ex, who very much broke me and i spent 10 months grieving, came back to me last month. and i fucked him off, just like that, without a 2nd thought (i lie, i spent about 2 days thinking about it), but i knew i didn't want him in my life fucking with my head.
i fuck people off easily, not coz i don't care about them but because i care about me. it's easy enough to do and do this without seeking a replacement.
i got my standards for how i will be treated and i stick to them, maybe if i really like someone and think they made a mistake in how they treated me i will listen to them and give them one more chance but if i'm ever certain they only give a shit about themselves and not me then i am gone. i might not even tell them but usually i do tell them so that i'm clear on where we stand."Aye I know what you mean and likewise I have no issue with shutting people off just not her am like putty in her hands, wrapped around her wee finger, I've got a real soft spot for her and she knows it fs, I feel she has the same for me that's why I believe we are soulmates but not always good for each other. Very hard to explain have you seen Hancock? It's kinda like that. | |||
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"Sometimes the person who makes you feel like their everything can also make you feel like you mean nothing. It's shit." That's very true. | |||
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" We're you having an affair?" Let's just say it was 'complicated' | |||
"Sometimes the person who makes you feel like their everything can also make you feel like you mean nothing. It's shit. That's very true. " Very much so | |||
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"The heart wants, what the heart want." Exactly | |||
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"Here's the fucked up thing, real men are no ment to have feelings or get emotionally attached. Feelings and commitment is more a chick thing fs! I man should be able to just detach himself at will. " Feelings and emotions are not just for women. If more men actually admitted how they felt this world wouldn't be in the mess that it is. I've been hurt in the past. Devastated when my marriage broke up. Wasn't much I could do about it but what hurt more was the way he moved on and it felt like 20 years of a relationship was just tossed aside and forgotten. You'll get over it. Takes time but if you set someone free it was your choice if you couldn't give them what they wanted. Tough decision to make but you have to move on. | |||
"OP...nothing anyone can or will say, will cheer you up. These are your feelings. Don't suppress them, talk and express them with someone close to you. It'll help. If possible, try going for socials and get to know other ladies. It might help you. " Truth is I don't even want other ladies not that I don't get opportunity on the contrary however it just doesn't feel the same! Weird I know fs. | |||
"When you initiate a breakup because although the sex is out of this world the relationship can't go anywhere, then you start missing the person, more so because they've got into another relationship with someone else. It's a horrible feeling, can't explain it, wonder if she feels it too? I know deep down I could have her back at the click of a finger, but that's not fair, I can't be that selfish, normally I don't have feelings I hate feelings fs. " I'm suffering the same, it's really tough, listen to Saved by Khalid such a beautiful break up song lol Erm try to fill your time and concentrate on yourself perhaps a new hobbie, that's what I'm doing, oh and plenty of sex helps
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" We're you having an affair? Let's just say it was 'complicated' " The probably more awkward as discussing it won't be as easy as a normal situation, plus not everyone will be sympathetic. Feeling are feelings but each day brings small events that distract and help you slowly move on. Constantly reliving it just brings pointless thoughts and assumptions...assuming you can't make a bold step. There are a trillion trillion stories in history like yours. Many find their true love after the suffering. | |||
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