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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I get my colouring out to help my mind drift off, bulk watch a favourite show - currently mid-season five of Buffy - and go out to buy something nice to eat, which also serves the purpose of making sure I leave the house.
What do you do?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends how dark the day is. If I can manage it I'll force myself to work or do some chores. The sense of achievement lifts my mood. If not then I tend to stay in bed and eat sweets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Walk my dog, stroke the cats, talk to friends. Cuddle my daughter, try and get good nutrition (although sometimes I just want junk).
Steer clear of alcohol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get my colouring out to help my mind drift off, bulk watch a favourite show - currently mid-season five of Buffy - and go out to buy something nice to eat, which also serves the purpose of making sure I leave the house.
What do you do? "
Wallow around doing nothing at all and making myself feel worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to listen to sad songs and have a good old cry. Then have a mega hot bath with bubbles and read a magazine like Cosmo or something. Then an early night.
These days i just walk the dog and resist the urge to walk off a cliff |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Crying is great.  Need that sometimes.
Sometimes I just wallow in it. I don't beat myself up feeling bad for feeling bad. I know it will lift.
Great thread OP. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Something quite boring really, I go to work, not only to better myself and family but also to be a net contributor to the country, but I do find that it does the trick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had one of those days today...
so I spent it watching day time TV 
finished off with Ghostbusters...
I feel marginally better than I did this morning, but not much...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Abuse my body in the gym, it's a kind of self loathing exercise.
Read
Think about my mum and sister battling breast cancer and how hard they are trying to live makes life seem precious
Most of all a nice message off someone beautiful seems to draw the veil away and life seems awesome again!
# aren't we a happy bunch on here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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go out some place if it's nice, or as i've recently discovered i seem to like gardening. i like fixing stuff, lawnmowers, small contraptions that smoke when they heat up, making stuff too, i can sit in my shed and build stuff for hours, i was up at two a.m the other day building a big fancy ferret hutch from old scrap wood, or part of one anyhow. i find i like to create or mend, give stuff new life. i have an old lawnmower in the shed as we speak waiting for a rainy day so i can sit and tinker with it  reading too sometimes but i really have to love what i'm reading so that comes and goes, it's more a winter thing too.
my ferrets too, love sitting watching them do their thing, we let em in the shed some nights and they play in here, well, the two little ones do, the old boy will find something soft to sleep on after about ten mins
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Luckily I hardly ever have the time to wallow in lowest darkest moments. On the rare occasions I do I go and chew the fat with some of my oldest closes freinds. Normally finding perspective and the way forward. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Luckily I hardly ever have the time to wallow in lowest darkest moments. On the rare occasions I do I go and chew the fat with some of my oldest closes freinds. Normally finding perspective and the way forward."
For a lot of people it isn't a case of having the time to 'wallow' or not. A dark day for some means debilitating anguish or despair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For a very long time I didn't know anything about self care. I rode the emotional roller coaster and punished myself for whatever misdeed had set off the spiral.
I'm only at the point where I am identifying the spiral and dealing with the over thinking.
Usually when I am at my lowest I retreat and it's hugs and cuddles that brings me out of it
Mr A |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"I just don't interact. I know it's not helpful as such but it means I have to make zero effort which helps me"
I do this too, the closer you are to me, the less likely you are to hear from me, otherwise I'm good at smiling for everybody else |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Luckily I hardly ever have the time to wallow in lowest darkest moments. On the rare occasions I do I go and chew the fat with some of my oldest closes freinds. Normally finding perspective and the way forward.
For a lot of people it isn't a case of having the time to 'wallow' or not. A dark day for some means debilitating anguish or despair."
Yes. This. A 'dark day' is one where I can barely make myself sit upright on the sofa. I simply don't have the option to keep myself busy or see friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Luckily I hardly ever have the time to wallow in lowest darkest moments. On the rare occasions I do I go and chew the fat with some of my oldest closes freinds. Normally finding perspective and the way forward.
For a lot of people it isn't a case of having the time to 'wallow' or not. A dark day for some means debilitating anguish or despair.
Yes. This. A 'dark day' is one where I can barely make myself sit upright on the sofa. I simply don't have the option to keep myself busy or see friends."
Unfortunately it's the same for me. My average day features many instances of intrusive thoughts triggered by all manner of unremarkable and pedestrian things. As long as I can still function, at work, as a parent, I'm ok with that as it's my 'normal'. A dark day is truly terrible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Walk my dog
Aromatherapy bath
Read/Listen to music
Sit in my massage chair and with my feet on a foot massager....soothes away the stress
Chat to my naughty friends on kik
Sit in the hot tub
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"Luckily I hardly ever have the time to wallow in lowest darkest moments. On the rare occasions I do I go and chew the fat with some of my oldest closes freinds. Normally finding perspective and the way forward.
For a lot of people it isn't a case of having the time to 'wallow' or not. A dark day for some means debilitating anguish or despair.
Yes. This. A 'dark day' is one where I can barely make myself sit upright on the sofa. I simply don't have the option to keep myself busy or see friends."
I know I have been there and come through the other side. Hopefully never again. Especially when you haven't got the time and too many people are relying on you. I have been so low and my world riped apart. It's fucking honking and wipes you out. But when you got two young kids relying on you all you can and must do plough on through it. You need to find that strength for them. Experience has taught me chewing it over with great mates really helps me to get it off my shoulders and work through it. I am lucky to have the great friends that I do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to exercise but as that's a regular part of my self care it's not necessarily going to work on bad days. So sometimes I shut myself away, hide under the quilt and eat shit. Goes against all advice but it's so rare I do it these days and for years it was happening all the tome it's almost like a treat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I slumped a couple of hours ago. I've tried messaging a couple of friends to no avail so here I am and here's this post.
Its nice to not feel so alone. "
There's a lot of people on here who understand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Luckily I hardly ever have the time to wallow in lowest darkest moments. On the rare occasions I do I go and chew the fat with some of my oldest closes freinds. Normally finding perspective and the way forward.
For a lot of people it isn't a case of having the time to 'wallow' or not. A dark day for some means debilitating anguish or despair.
Yes. This. A 'dark day' is one where I can barely make myself sit upright on the sofa. I simply don't have the option to keep myself busy or see friends.
I know I have been there and come through the other side. Hopefully never again. Especially when you haven't got the time and too many people are relying on you. I have been so low and my world riped apart. It's fucking honking and wipes you out. But when you got two young kids relying on you all you can and must do plough on through it. You need to find that strength for them. Experience has taught me chewing it over with great mates really helps me to get it off my shoulders and work through it. I am lucky to have the great friends that I do. "
You are very lucky. I cannot just 'plough on through' nor get out of the house to meet friends when it's dark. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'm alone, I'll put certain music on.I've got a few 'dark day' CDs which would probably depress people more, but they help me to clear my head.
If I've got company i.e. family and I can't stand anymore, I'll have a 3 hour bath |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I slumped a couple of hours ago. I've tried messaging a couple of friends to no avail so here I am and here's this post.
Its nice to not feel so alone.
There's a lot of people on here who understand."
Thank you. Feeling really low at the moment and away from my usual support network. Bath and bed will hopefully help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have darks days in ways of mood.
But when the fatigue from Crohn's disease hits me it knocks me for six, pisses me right off that all I can do is sleep to very little relief unfortunately.
Mrs being there helps and lot and sausage dog snuggles while I pass out for hours are what makes me smile. |
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