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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have noticed a few straight guys on here who have comments on their profile along the lines of 'guys stop trying to contact / add me'
I can't understand why, if a guys profile says 'straight', you would want to chance your arm with him.
OK, we all know some of the guys on here who say they are straight on their profile occasionally like a bit of man on man fun.
But surely if that is the case, we should let them come to us ?
OK, if his profile says straight but he has veri's from other guys about how good at suckin cock he is etc then fair game, but the majority don't.
I must see 10/15 guys a day on here that raise my body temperature but if their profile sais straight and I had no reason to believe otherwise, I would just leave um well alone.
I think it is kind of predatory behaviour and gives us all a bad rep / tarnishes us with the same brush when the good lookin lads get it from all angles.
I'll put my tin hat on and wait for the response now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do people feel the need to add things like "putting tin hat on?"
Bi men hitting on straight men, married men hitting on women that say "no married men", single men hitting on couples with "no single men", black men hitting on women that say "no black men"...nowt as queer as folk! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its fair to say this isnt restricted to straight guys, all profiles run the risk of unwanted messages from people outwith their preferences no matter how much they protest on their profiles.
If it upsets an individual maybe they should think about their reaction to those messages and learn to live with them.
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"Just filter out single guys in the message preferences settings.
I had to in the end. It was a pain in the ass keep saying no to guys who wanted to give me a pain in the ass."
well you shouldnt have such a nice arse then 
(dont take it away  ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"well you shouldnt have such a nice arse then
(dont take it away )
No plans to remove my botty quite yet darling x"
i'll leave ur bum alone as long as i can stroke ur furry belly
(contradicting my own thread entirely, there lol) |
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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago
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"well you shouldnt have such a nice arse then
(dont take it away )
No plans to remove my botty quite yet darling x
i'll leave ur bum alone as long as i can stroke ur furry belly
(contradicting my own thread entirely, there lol)"
 hehehehehehe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I piss about on the fhck me threads with guys I know can take a joke
But I never mail guys fa sex mind you I dunna mail anyone fa sex unless I've met em before lol
(I use the site to keep in contact with peeps I've met at socials and I know through the forums )
I actually rarely bring my bi side into swinging preferring male only clubs for that
I myself have it on my profile that I don't meet just guys on fab and yet still get mail
I'm seriously against the idea of any bi/ gay man mailing straight guys for sex it's not right and it's not fair xx  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" I'm seriously against the idea of any bi/ gay man mailing straight guys for sex it's not right and it's not fair xx "
I'm with you on that 1 Soapster ! |
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"well you shouldnt have such a nice arse then
(dont take it away )
No plans to remove my botty quite yet darling x
i'll leave ur bum alone as long as i can stroke ur furry belly
(contradicting my own thread entirely, there lol)
hehehehehehe"
You shut it Puss!!!
isosuckfun is this just platonic manly furry belly stroking? If so theoretically I have no problem with it although on of my hind legs always kicks out in motion with the stroke for some reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I'm seriously against the idea of any bi/ gay man mailing straight guys for sex it's not right and it's not fair xx
I'm with you on that 1 Soapster !"
Mail me then big boy xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"well you shouldnt have such a nice arse then
(dont take it away )
No plans to remove my botty quite yet darling x
i'll leave ur bum alone as long as i can stroke ur furry belly
(contradicting my own thread entirely, there lol)
hehehehehehe
You shut it Puss!!!
isosuckfun is this just platonic manly furry belly stroking? If so theoretically I have no problem with it although on of my hind legs always kicks out in motion with the stroke for some reason."
purely platonic of course
and you kick away - i'm very nimble on my feet for a big lad
we could even have a game of 'chase me'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well i think its just there is so many men who would maintain being straight and accept a bj of a guy but all in secret lol-I on the other hand am happy to sit and wank (with) someone(female) on cam(when i can be arsed camming these days)
best invite ever still has to be a wankathon over some guys "wife" pics on the floor.......nothing gay...
*I'm yet to attend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We haven`t had any mail from bi guys...wouldn`t particulary bother me.
We met a couple..it transpired the guy was bi...never mentioned it previously, including a social meet..his profile states he`s straight, which is why I never raised it (oxymoron)...he tried it on with me whilst we were all playing with his ladyfriend....I got erm..assertive...he got a limp dick rather quickly....I thought it was appaling...how I never lamped him I dunno....but that I suspect is a very rare occurence...intiguing how his mindset thought he was gona convert me...rather deluded lol.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh and i can thanks but no thanx a bi-male request to meet...if its friendly enough, but not repeated messages lol-of course it always helps if they have a wife/partner and can play straight lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We haven`t had any mail from bi guys...wouldn`t particulary bother me.
We met a couple..it transpired the guy was bi...never mentioned it previously, including a social meet..his profile states he`s straight, which is why I never raised it (oxymoron)...he tried it on with me whilst we were all playing with his ladyfriend....I got erm..assertive...he got a limp dick rather quickly....I thought it was
appaling...how I never lamped him I dunno....but that I suspect is a very rare occurence...intiguing how his mindset thought he was gona convert me...rather deluded lol.."
That thank goodness is rare and sooo bloody wrong even I would have lamped him xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh and i can thanks but no thanx a bi-male request to meet...if its friendly enough, but not repeated messages lol-of course it always helps if they have a wife/partner and can play straight lol"
Ooooh go on paddy ya knows ya wants me really xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We haven`t had any mail from bi guys...wouldn`t particulary bother me.
We met a couple..it transpired the guy was bi...never mentioned it previously, including a social meet..his profile states he`s straight, which is why I never raised it (oxymoron)...he tried it on with me whilst we were all playing with his ladyfriend....I got erm..assertive...he got a limp dick rather quickly....I thought it was
appaling...how I never lamped him I dunno....but that I suspect is a very rare occurence...intiguing how his mindset thought he was gona convert me...rather deluded lol..
That thank goodness is rare and sooo bloody wrong even I would have lamped him xx "
Blooming dangerous really...I could of hurt him...and spent time doing bird eh!!
I always ask now....safe then sorry.. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"I have noticed a few straight guys on here who have comments on their profile along the lines of 'guys stop trying to contact / add me'
I can't understand why, if a guys profile says 'straight', you would want to chance your arm with him.
OK, we all know some of the guys on here who say they are straight on their profile occasionally like a bit of man on man fun.
But surely if that is the case, we should let them come to us ?
OK, if his profile says straight but he has veri's from other guys about how good at suckin cock he is etc then fair game, but the majority don't.
I must see 10/15 guys a day on here that raise my body temperature but if their profile sais straight and I had no reason to believe otherwise, I would just leave um well alone.
I think it is kind of predatory behaviour and gives us all a bad rep / tarnishes us with the same brush when the good lookin lads get it from all angles.
I'll put my tin hat on and wait for the response now "
Cuz everyone dont read profiles |
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some guys mite be bi curious or lke the ocaisionel bi fun with either a guy or maybe mmf but basicly he will be (strait) in that case just as you have satted if were to put bi on his pro he could lose out on meeting strait cples or women by reason of some people giving him a wide berth by reason of him stating bi or some time bi or bi curious and as for the myth that only good lookin young guys get aproached its just not true its more the mature couples that often have discreet bi males or want to meeet other mature bi males i find in my experience you dont have to sate bi or bi curious as it often comes to the fore any way thru chat or with a meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This did drive me nuts intill i blocked all males from contacting me its very simple "
Come on its not that bad i seriously doubt it drove you nuts. Men hit on women all the time and they don't block all men. Shrug it of its no big thing.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" if were to put bi on his pro he could lose out on meeting strait cples or women by reason of some people giving him a wide berth by reason of him stating bi "
So what? Surely it's better to be honest and miss out on meets than lie and get found out? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"whos mention any thing about lying non disclosure isnt lying
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non disclosure isn't exactly giving people all the facts to make a valued and reasonable decision though is it either...
for me.. what you see is what you get.. i don't have anything to hide..
if you are married, and try to pass yourself off as single... or you are bi and say you are straight... that is lying... or at least deception by omission.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This did drive me nuts intill i blocked all males from contacting me its very simple "
bit hard to get a hold of males for gangbangs when they have males blocked cov lol...
well thats just an example but gets me thinking how many mails do u get a day?-simple if its a sexual request then hit delete- it could be something innocently friendly like "i really liked ur post covlad the other day...had me in stitches"- I have a network of straight pals and bi-male pals (non are for MY sexual pleasure), but i like to communicate with all...especially if its about a party type of thing lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"whos mention any thing about lying non disclosure isnt lying
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there are plenty on here who don't show their true colours.
that is their personal choice.
what the thread was about is bi or gay men chancing their arm with a straight guy when there is nothing in the profile to suggest that they might be up for a bit of cock.
that said, again i'm with soapy - better to be up front
i would love to spend some time with a lot of the ladies on here but that contravenes the agreement i have with my partner - so i point out that it isn't up for negotiation.
i still get messages from ladies but they are non sexual
i'd like to think that's because women (in most cases anyway), dip their toe in the water rather than diving in head first without reading the signs. (could be just cos i'm a munter tho lol)
i think the opposite is true of a lot of men - not all by any means, but a lot.
i'm not a sexual predator - i pick my 'victims' well |
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This all hypocrsy (maybe spelling Wrong )how many guys on here have been asked if they have done bare back from say a lady who wouldnt wish to meet any guy that had done so and have truly replied saying thay had done bare back ,when knowing in stating this they would have blown the chance of a sexual encounter i say very little would be honest with their replies |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This all hypocrsy (maybe spelling Wrong )how many guys on here have been asked if they have done bare back from say a lady who wouldnt wish to meet any guy that had done so and have truly replied saying thay had done bare back ,when knowing in stating this they would have blown the chance of a sexual encounter i say very little would be honest with their replies "
Lol I'm no hypocrite read my profile last paragraph then come back |
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whats the big deal if a guy replies to a profile to ask if he would be up for bi fun as we have just seen many dont disclose details on their pro and all u have to do is reply yes or know or block or decline |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This all hypocrsy (maybe spelling Wrong )how many guys on here have been asked if they have done bare back from say a lady who wouldnt wish to meet any guy that had done so and have truly replied saying thay had done bare back ,when knowing in stating this they would have blown the chance of a sexual encounter i say very little would be honest with their replies "
there again i would say i had
i never use a condom for sex with my partner as i'm sure many people on here don't either
with a meet - for penetrative sex i would,for oral sex, i wouldn't
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"whats the big deal if a guy replies to a profile to ask if he would be up for bi fun as we have just seen many dont disclose details on their pro and all u have to do is reply yes or know or block or decline "
the deal is that many single bi guys are here by default. we are part of the scene, but very much in the minority.
i think it's disrespectful to approach a guy who has chosen to declare himself as straight and ask him if he's up for some cock
u wouldn't do it on a night out, cos the likelyhood is you'd get chinned
so why should it change on here ?
just because we can (if we choose to) hide behind a veil of anonymity does not make it right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"whats the big deal if a guy replies to a profile to ask if he would be up for bi fun as we have just seen many dont disclose details on their pro and all u have to do is reply yes or know or block or decline "
Because that's what profiles do
It's up ta him if he wants ta he's straight
However if he does that does NOT give anyone the right just to "see" in my opinion |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"This all hypocrsy (maybe spelling Wrong )how many guys on here have been asked if they have done bare back from say a lady who wouldnt wish to meet any guy that had done so and have truly replied saying thay had done bare back ,when knowing in stating this they would have blown the chance of a sexual encounter i say very little would be honest with their replies "
maybe that is you....
well then if you take that view that says a lot about what you think people will say and do just to get their legover...
I have turned down meets if someone says bareback...
I have been honest enough when someone says they like skinny guys that I am larger...
I am not going to change who I am... if i am not good enough or what someone wants.. such is life...
It isn't hypocrisy... if people are doing what you said in your quote then that in calculated!!
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i been with a few cples mmf and have had the fem put panties on me an dher sucking my cock thru them and the hubby or whatever he was to her franticly wanking him self off at the sight she was likely latent bi as likely he was althouh he never aproached to play with my cock lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"mmmm they all say that
I must admit thought happens that often that I can now dance in six inch heels pmsl xx "
pleeeeeeease say that there is be a youtube clip somewhere of that ! |
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well if u are larger then u would never get away with saying that u were skinny i think u would get caught out with that one lol but ommiting to say your bi because u are meeting a strait couple is different as long as dont intend to try and gobble his cock if imto be meeting any one i always have the boundries explained so ther is no surprises |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i been with a few cples mmf and have had the fem put panties on me an dher sucking my cock thru them and the hubby or whatever he was to her franticly wanking him self off at the sight she was likely latent bi as likely he was althouh he never aproached to play with my cock lol "
If ya bi then state it if ya ain't then don't
Mate I've been bi forever and have never hidden it
When I first joined fab bi was actually frowned on (ask any old uns)
I held my head up high and said like me or not I'm bi
I have found that the respect earned by that changed a few opinions
And actually got me a lot if straight meets
I could actually put straight because I rarely bring my bi side into swinging it's happen a handful of times in the nearly thirty years I've been on the scene and actually it was my bi side that got me into swinging at 17)
But I have clubs for that so I'm happy
I find it easier too tell the whole truth on my profile I'm bi and I prefer bareback (again note prefer)
At least I never feel uncomfortable knowing I'm holding nothing back from a meet
I also do the same at clubs ie tell em before any fun begins
I have had very few rejections over the years xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"mmmm they all say that
I must admit thought happens that often that I can now dance in six inch heels pmsl xx
pleeeeeeease say that there is be a youtube clip somewhere of that !"
Knowing some of the buggers at socials and parties it would NOT suprise me if there was xx
(as far as I'm aware there is only the singing ones out there lol and they are bad enough) xx |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Couples and females chance their arm with us...single men who don't match our profile chance their arm with us...why would bi/gay or men be any different?
It happens, some people think it is worth a try...even if it annoys the hell out of others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Couples and females chance their arm with us...single men who don't match our profile chance their arm with us...why would bi/gay or men be any different?
It happens, some people think it is worth a try...even if it annoys the hell out of others."
Arr so that's why ya never answer me mail xx |
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"This did drive me nuts intill i blocked all males from contacting me its very simple
bit hard to get a hold of males for gangbangs when they have males blocked cov lol...
well thats just an example but gets me thinking how many mails do u get a day?-simple if its a sexual request then hit delete- it could be something innocently friendly like "i really liked ur post covlad the other day...had me in stitches"- I have a network of straight pals and bi-male pals (non are for MY sexual pleasure), but i like to communicate with all...especially if its about a party type of thing lol"
Yes but in the end you just fed up of getting the same mail like the fems and its not just one a day it can be five or six messages and im glad for the tv/ts block now they can be some of the worst offenders so the block stays on yes i had one gay guy who wanted me to be his boyfriend ,and i know its do with my cockshots it comes with the territory |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had plenty of guys message me on here & I don't really see it as a problem to be honest. It's not exactly the end of the world now, is it! I've swapped messages & had some good banter with guys, with whom I have no interest in |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes but in the end you just fed up of getting the same mail like the fems and its not just one a day it can be five or six messages and im glad for the tv/ts block now they can be some of the worst offenders so the block stays on yes i had one gay guy who wanted me to be his boyfriend ,and i know its do with my cockshots it comes with the territory "
I must be doing something right then! heheheheheehehhee-or my cocks simply not good enough lol |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"i been with a few cples mmf and have had the fem put panties on me an dher sucking my cock thru them and the hubby or whatever he was to her franticly wanking him self off at the sight she was likely latent bi as likely he was althouh he never aproached to play with my cock lol "
She made you wear panties and that makes her bi?
And he was wanking whilst watching his wife with another guy and that makes him bi?
OMG Im as bi as a bi-thing and didnt know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This did drive me nuts intill i blocked all males from contacting me its very simple
bit hard to get a hold of males for gangbangs when they have males blocked cov lol...
well thats just an example but gets me thinking how many mails do u get a day?-simple if its a sexual request then hit delete- it could be something innocently friendly like "i really liked ur
post covlad the other day...had me in stitches"- I have a network of straight pals and bi-male pals (non are for MY sexual pleasure), but i like to communicate with all...especially if its about a party type of thing lol
Yes but in the end you just fed up of getting the same mail like the fems and its not just one
a day it can be five or six messages and im glad for the tv/ts block now they can be some of the worst offenders so the block stays on yes i had one gay guy who wanted me to be his boyfriend ,and i know its do with my cockshots it comes with the territory "
Well dunna worry cause I likes em bigger xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i been with a few cples mmf and have had the fem put panties on me an dher sucking my cock thru them and the hubby or whatever he was to her franticly wanking him self off at the sight she was likely latent bi as likely he was althouh he never aproached to play with my cock lol
She made you wear panties and that makes her bi?
And he was wanking whilst watching his wife with another guy and that makes him bi?
OMG Im as bi as a bi-thing and didnt know "
I used to be Bi.... now I'm just confused. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"mmmm they all say that
I must admit thought happens that often that I can now dance in six inch heels pmsl xx "
Oh.... So that's when you stand 5 foot 3 inches tall xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To turn it around, why do straight guys hit on a bimale couple who state quite clearly that single men have to be bisexual? We get them, all the time.
That's when I know it's a copy and paste message as I usually direct them to read our profile and see what it says. That's when they reply with, "oops - sorry, no thanks." |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"mmmm they all say that
I must admit thought happens that often that I can now dance in six inch heels pmsl xx
Oh.... So that's when you stand 5 foot 3 inches tall xx"
Shuttit shortass ya taller than ya bloody think that's why ya taller than me
Im five foot bloody three like it or lump it and i don't care what yours or the Scottish bints bloody tape measure says so there xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"mmmm they all say that
I must admit thought happens that often that I can now dance in six inch heels pmsl xx
Oh.... So that's when you stand 5 foot 3 inches tall xx
Shuttit shortass ya taller than ya bloody think that's why ya taller than me
Im five foot bloody three like it or lump it and i don't care what yours or the Scottish bints bloody tape measure says so there xx "
Scottish tape measures count in cm up until it reaches 160cm then it just says, "you're tall enough to get served at the bar now!" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"mmmm they all say that
I must admit thought happens that often that I can now dance in six inch heels pmsl xx
Oh.... So that's when you stand 5 foot 3 inches tall xx
Shuttit shortass ya taller than ya bloody think that's why ya taller than me
Im five foot bloody three like it or lump it and i don't care what yours or the Scottish bints bloody tape measure says so there xx
Scottish tape measures count in cm up until it reaches 160cm then it just says, "you're tall enough to get served at the bar now!" "
Cant fookin reach Scottish bars the bint has ta go xxx |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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we got a couple of message's from a bi guy,he was totally complimentary.although i'm not bi,i took it as a compliment.
i'm never deleting,those messages.
they get right on mrs saucy's tits.cause he didn't even mention her.
on a more serious note.is everybody else's message delete facility,really hard to use.
with ours you just click on the message,click on delete,click on confirm,and that's the message gone.
maybe if everybody else's,was this easy to use.there wouldnt be as much whinging,about messages from people outwith your profile preferences.
maybe admin should give this some thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Scottish tape measures count in cm up until it reaches 160cm then it just says, "you're tall enough to get served at the bar now!"
Cant fookin reach Scottish bars the bint has ta go xxx "
I'd expect no less. Part of ordering a drink in Scotlandish is slugging it out with the barman over who keeps the change! Her field of expertise I think. |
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"I think its fair to say this isnt restricted to straight guys, all profiles run the risk of unwanted messages from people outwith their preferences no matter how much they protest on their profiles.
If it upsets an individual maybe they should think about their reaction to those messages and learn to live with them.
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Graeat comment...i just wanted to ask about outwith.
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By *waymanMan
over a year ago
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"whos mention any thing about lying non disclosure isnt lying
non disclosure isn't exactly giving people all the facts to make a valued and reasonable decision though is it either...
for me.. what you see is what you get.. i don't have anything to hide..
if you are married, and try to pass yourself off as single... or you are bi and say you are straight... that is lying... or at least deception by omission...."
Trouble is the categories are so fuzzy.
So you sucked a guy off thirty years ago and weren't traumatized by it. Does that make you bi? Or maybe you once admired the body on a CD or a TG lass who still had outdoor plumbing and thought 'phwoarrr...' Does that make you bi?
People keep treating these categories as if they're binary YES/NO options, rather than points on a spectrum.
And there'll always be guys who think they're so special they can overcome stated preferences. it's just part of the everyday friction of communications, and it's a much more general problem than just on a swingers site. I remember recruiting to a project team a few years ago, where the ad stated that the IT bod had to have previous experience of a particular piece of kit to give us immediate expertise; over half the applicants didn't have the experience required. |
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By *waymanMan
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"I think its fair to say this isnt restricted to straight guys, all profiles run the risk of unwanted messages from people outwith their preferences no matter how much they protest on their profiles.
If it upsets an individual maybe they should think about their reaction to those messages and learn to live with them.
Graeat comment...i just wanted to ask about outwith.
Where has it come from?Before i started reading the forum i had never seen it !"
It's a Lallans word I believe - archaic Anglo Saxon - but don't tell the Lallans speakers that their language is really archaic Anglo Saxon or they'll get all Braveheart on you before you can say 'that Robert the Bruce's family were from Hartlepool you know...' |
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"I think its fair to say this isnt restricted to straight guys, all profiles run the risk of unwanted messages from people outwith their preferences no matter how much they protest on their profiles.
If it upsets an individual maybe they should think about their reaction to those messages and learn to live with them.
Graeat comment...i just wanted to ask about outwith.
Where has it come from?Before i started reading the forum i had never seen it !
It's a Lallans word I believe - archaic Anglo Saxon - but don't tell the Lallans speakers that their language is really archaic Anglo Saxon or they'll get all Braveheart on you before you can say 'that Robert the Bruce's family were from Hartlepool you know...'"
Ty...everyday a learning experience! |
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